Have you ever been influenced to buy something by ads on social media? by peer pressure?

@theerarestjewel

2 жыл бұрын

Influenced thinking that people who are beautiful have better lives and they deserve happiness. And their results would be better than mines.

@hannah-143ily

2 жыл бұрын

So many things... Like some things are really helpful or i have fun with a thing I found about social media, but there are more things i bought that i just have because other have them.

@sueduuuu3573

2 жыл бұрын

Unfluenced thinking im not pretty

@DeandraStubbs

2 жыл бұрын

Yes in my early 20's because I developed adult acne and my family kept referring to how I had such pretty brown skin; like all of a sudden my skin wasn't pretty anymore and that really messed with my self esteem.

@conversationsfromtheheart3696

2 жыл бұрын

absolutely!!

before social media I didn't have a problem with my appearance. walking around in real life, nobody looks like these IG models. social media is the problem.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I agree that a lot has to do with social media

I was always considered "ugly" based on societies expectation of beauty. It was very hard to live in a society that only sees beauty from the outside. I am almost 55 and don't care what people think about how I look. I take care of myself and allow my true beauty from within to shine. I choose to dress my eyes with kindness. Choose to dress my lips by speaking with compassion and dress my heart with love. Women are Goddesses deep down and it is time to put down the beauty products and share our divine essence. As always, great video. Thank you for being an inspiration

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

So much wisdom ❤ that's the kind of beautiful I want to be

@shellystrank6633

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife You are that which you desire. I am just reflecting back your beauty inside and out through my words :) Keep being an inspiration to others. Sending you many blessings and love

@lived4th1

2 жыл бұрын

This is so beautiful!

@skcvy8167

2 жыл бұрын

To quote Roald Dahl, "A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." Keep rocking on, sis!!

@frostmaiden85

2 жыл бұрын

"dress my eyes with kindness"...so beautifully stated. I wear contacts nearly all the time because I dislike my brown eyes for some reason despite having 20/20 vision. I try not to get too emotive and moralistic about body/appearance modification but sometimes I question myself. I mean, I'm not exactly worried about being "bangable" or anything because I have no interest in dating. But I have this image in my head of the kind of person I want to be, and appearance is just one component of that. The other components are only internally sourceable, which at the same time inspires both dread and fascination in me. I want to be a good Christian woman of grace, but at the same time I also cherish the more tangible aspects of life. I think our God has blessed both - we are not Gnostics. "...and He saw that it was good." Even after the fall of man, He redeemed it with the blood of Christ. But of course, since God is supreme and everything worth having, including tangible ones, comes from Him, we should prioritize what matters to Him. Too often we forget this.

I find your natural beauty more appealing. Nowadays it’s actually a flex to look naturally pretty. You look more authentic and more trustworthy. Just wholesome :)

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Haha that's really sweet. Thank you

I can relate when you say you didn’t know there was something “wrong” with you until someone else pointed it out.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

apparently there are a lot of things "wrong" with me 😅 but honestly, we must stop doing this to each other

@janicegreen534

2 жыл бұрын

Can totally relate to this too! Even on a personality level.. or with self expression - things like dancing. I never knew I was a horrible dancer until all my friends laughed at me in middle school... Which set me up for so much shame whenever I danced/did anything creative! I'm learning to love my dancing body again hehe 💕💕

@howtoadultschool

2 жыл бұрын

I felt that too. It never occurred to me to judge things about myself until other people pointed them out. I've come to realize over my 20's though that things are easily said that the speaker doesn't actually notice, a lot of the time it's empty comments to fill space, or things that we misinterpret that actually have more to do with the other person. It can definitely still leave lasting insecurities though.

@Ninniii45

2 жыл бұрын

@@janicegreen534 can relate 😪

Yes!!! As a girl with curly hair I’ve felt this. The curly hair community really paints this idea that you need to spend a lot of money on so many products and spend so much time on your hair. I got tired of it and I was going to go get a keratin treatment because I just thought that I had no other choice except to spend a bunch on different products. But then I realized how ridiculous that was. Now I spend hardly any time on it and I only use coconut oil to style. It’s crazy how social media, ads and influencers can really make you believe that you need these unnecessary things

@Lina_5_

2 жыл бұрын

Please embrace your curly hair! It's a dream for many people but you don't realize it and I understand it. Stay away from the pressure of social media, curly hair = adorable ❤️

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I think it's just a never-ending chase because there will always be a new product better than the last. I'm so glad you decided to keep your curls :)

@myhouse9147

2 жыл бұрын

So true! My hair looks it's best when left alone!

@janicegreen534

2 жыл бұрын

10000% agree with this as a curly haired girl!

@itwasnotyourworld

2 жыл бұрын

i'm curly haired too and i got you. for 1 or 2 years, i understand that we, as a curly haired people, don't need too much effort for our hair. just a basic self care routine fixes all or some problems of hair, like any shape of hair.

And aging is huge too. This whole hitting the wall Era , shouldn't I be happy to be able to live past 30? Let me finish enjoying my late 20s

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I don't understand this desire to be young forever. Isn't aging a privilege?

@Tatiana-cd1vu

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife exactly, aging is a privilege, I am in my mid 30's and sometimes I wish I wasn't so old already lol, but then I remember those people I knew who didn't make it to my age :(

@jeromestavros

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tatiana-cd1vu you and Sophie are right. It's because most of these people are beautiful and good looking so they associate ageing with losing their beauty. It's all due to the ego. As I have told one very attractive lady ""your beauty won't last forever and anything can take it away..don't count on it to further your career and whatnot. It is transient"

@CatEyeGem

2 жыл бұрын

@@jeromestavros beauty only furthers a handful of women's career and in many cases their bodies can be the trade off despite what they have to offer. Youth and beauty are not synonymous but most people see it to be so. Beauty gets women oogled and possibly more men want to utilize your body( notice I did not say love you) but if it made you rich, many more will be millionaires

@dijonvolner6024

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife Life itself is a privilege, regardless of the length of time each one of us has on this Earth 💖

"You are more profitable unhappy and discontent, than happy and fulfilled"

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes and yes! I'm done wasting my money to feel unhappy

@theerarestjewel

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife Thank you for this video. I hope many people find contentment with your discussion.

@lorenzoburton3974

2 жыл бұрын

That’s deep 🙏🏿

@-S.L.

2 жыл бұрын

It's like an abusive relationship, practically; being made to feel/think that we're not enough and there's always something wrong with us.

Wow this was so raw and honest, it must have been challenging to talk about all this! It definitely makes me feel less alone when I have my bad days and judge my appearance. Great video!

@cristelmariebuenafe

2 жыл бұрын

I follow you both! Haha!

"no one is Not born ugly... We are just Born in a very Judgemental Society" you are absolutely on point 👍

@thelmathomas8414

2 жыл бұрын

Ok, thats a lie their are ugly and pretty people this is facts

@tikusblue

2 жыл бұрын

@@thelmathomas8414 if you believe this, then it will be true. To some extent, your own beliefs create your own reality. If you choose to believe that nobody is ugly, and only societal standards deem it so, then that will be your reality.

@tikusblue

2 жыл бұрын

@@thelmathomas8414 besides, it's objectively not true. The fact is, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone or something may be ugly to more, or less people. But it will never be ugly to everyone or to no one. Therefore, everything is beautiful and everything is ugly at the same time.

I love how quiet your voice is- it’s calming and I can actually listen to the info / watch video without feeling stressed! These are really inspiring / well done. Thank you!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching :) so happy it's soothing

@simplejoys6052

2 жыл бұрын

I like also peoples, which such a calm voice :) Do you know the youtube channel of Jonna Jinton? If not, i can suggest you. It is also very good. Especially the first videos when she started Vlog 1 and some videos before vlog 1 was good. But as first video, i would suggest the main video of her to learn know about her. That is the video "From dream to Reality". That is a video, where you get an imprssion about her coutube channel and her life. I love that channel, as i love this youtube channel :)

@moniqueellen8908

2 жыл бұрын

@@simplejoys6052 yes I love her videos too

@yuwang6212

2 жыл бұрын

@@simplejoys6052 频道rc。ni

We have this same judgemental beauty standard here in the Caribbean, having a more curvaceous body or lighter in skin complexion, blemishes free skin. Im have acne scars and my mom is always pushing creams and soaps to clear my skin; but ive learned to be happier and kinder to myself. I remember the first time I've found your channel and thought to myself wow she's so tan for a Korean and I was instantly drawn & loved you, not because you're tan but because you weren't trying to live up to the beauty standards 😊💕

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Deandra ❤️ you're such a warm-hearted kind soul. Thank you for saying that. I know that beauty standards will never go away, but it's good to find people who will not judge you based on it :)

@DeandraStubbs

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife yes it's so good to know people who really see you as just a human being, purposely and wonderfully made just the way you are.

@DeandraStubbs

2 жыл бұрын

@Love Melanin maybe one day, but we can start by teaching those younger them us to appreciate themselves and break the generational toxicity that has been passed down.

@DeandraStubbs

2 жыл бұрын

@Love Melanin you're fearfully and wonderfully made my dear, God's plan.

@DeandraStubbs

2 жыл бұрын

@Love Melanin it's call mental slavery we have come out of physical slavery but a lot of us haven't left the mental side. And the trait was passed down through the generations this is why we have this light skin, dark skin, dont except our hair, tearing each other down just to excel themselves the list goes on. 😊💕 hope you have a great day

As a 19 year old who is facing skin issues it was so important to be reminded that every scar, pimple and patches are normal and temporary. I have been buying skin care products to get that glass clear skin. I have been trying all kinds of home remedies but nothing seems to work. I was so scared to even go out to meet people. I slowly am coming to the realization that no matter how my skin and body looks I still am a beautiful human being. For anyone feeling the way I do remember that you're the most beautiful human being to exist on earth!!❤

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

🥰

Your story can also apply to men. I've always been insecure about my wavy hair, that for a while I used Japanese straightening treatment. Media has always promoted that straight hair is more attractive. Eventually I got tired of maintaining that straight hair, plus my hair my heavily damaged from all that blow drying. So I decided to stop and let the curly hair reign once again. Sure I miss all the compliments, but I slowly learned to embrace what the creator has given me naturally and been happy with my hair ever since.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! I'm sure men have pressure too. Btw straight hair people want curly hair :) it's charming

@charkatslife

2 жыл бұрын

where are you from? I’m from the US and have never heard of straight hair being a beauty standard for men, here wavy/curly hair is kinda a trend rn

@Amber-yu2ph

10 ай бұрын

Never forget Moana and Merida had curly hair,you are not ugly

" Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God." 1-Peter 3:3,4

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤😍

@laFrancaise806

2 жыл бұрын

🤩

It’s such a common Asian trait - growing up in Singapore, the first thing uncles and aunties would say on seeing me is remark on my appearance… in the same night, someone would say “hey you’ve put on weight”…. And someone else would say “hey you’ve lost weight”… and of course I’d hold my tongue from replying “and hey you’ve lost your manners!” 😂 I treat it as a game now whenever I go back to visit and silently count each remark - at least have some fun with it! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

haha I LOVE that response Jaime :) it is so true though! I have to hold myself back every time. I think you have the right mindset to treat it as a game because I know it would be really hard to change people. I don't think people realize how toxic and hurtful those little side comments can be especially to young kids trying to figure out who they are.

@jaimetan

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife absolutely! I don’t think they say those things with any malicious intentions, but they don’t realise how hurtful it can be especially to more sensitive people. It’s taught me to grow a thick skin 😅

@cristinamnl6662

2 жыл бұрын

That is such a Filipino thing, too 😄 I guess it’s an Asian thing, really!

@Bia-lm8it

2 жыл бұрын

Families do this in Romania as well, and honestly it bothers me, I personally would never make a remark about someone's appearance because it might hurt them

@annabelle4757

2 жыл бұрын

same here..... they keep saying i gain/lost weight within short period of time

The world needs more people like you. Social media needs more influencers like you!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

🥰 you're too sweet. thank you Juliette

I constantly hear woman pitting themselves down with sarcastic self depreciating jokes, and it breaks my heart everytime I wish I could show them all how beautiful they are.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I see and hear it too. It hurts me

After going through some health challenges I feel grateful to be alive. I don’t care about all these beauty standards anymore. I actually haven’t for a while. I’ve embrace my grays. I don’t mind the fine wrinkles between my brows. I enjoy my tan. It’s proof I’ve been outdoors. My focus now is to stay healthy and enjoy my simple life with my wonderful husband and beautiful kids.

@wallacehowery6414

2 жыл бұрын

Notice how no likes after you mention grays, we have a ways to go, even in this group.

@tippytoe1250

2 жыл бұрын

@@wallacehowery6414 hahaha! Oh Wells, I’ve always been ahead of the trend.😉

Why is your monologue in the beginning so relatable? No matter where you come from the STANDARD is impossible. What is worse, I've noticed in recent years different ethnicities becoming in and out of style. LIKE WHHHYYYYY??? 😬😱🙃 When can we stop treating women's appearance like fashion.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I couldn't agree with you more. It's so silly and ridiculous, but sadly it's the world we live in. I'm just glad when I connect with people who understand where I'm coming from 🥰

@SFlaidlaw101

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife Yeah for sure!! and side note. How you ended the video with the comparison between demanding more diversity in ads should be replicated in Social Media was gold. I'm much larger than the ladies who film in my niche. So your words hit hard hehe. Hopefully, other girls will see that and think! Huh! maybe I can be a KZreadr too despite not being so tiny?

@howtoadultschool

2 жыл бұрын

I love that last line you wrote. I feel like it really sums up the problem that we're constantly expected to change and conform.

It’s crazy how our perceptions of ourselves is often so different from what others perceive about us. Like you are stunning to me, and I wouldn’t have guessed you had insecurities growing up. I’m glad you are more accepting of yourself now though.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

You're too kind. Thank you. I'm finding out that the voices in our heads are sometimes not really our own voices.

@howtoadultschool

2 жыл бұрын

It is absolutely wild to recognize how harshly we judge ourselves compared to those around us. When I think about the people I love and picture them, I see all the beautiful things I love about them, and none of the things they're insecure about and think that people notice.

@WateryFire

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, she’s stunning. I would have never thought she would think any differently about herself.

@isabeldiaz9717

2 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I was thinking!

I pretty much stopped wearing makeup (and also shaving my legs and armpits) when my daughters got old enough to ask me why I was doing it. I do NOT want them to think there is anything wrong with the way they are and exist naturally as a human.

I was always proud of my unassuming mostly grey and black clothes, until friends and family pointed out I should dress up.. more colors, more dresses. So I tried, but although some look ok on me, I just don't feel myself. And I noticed that the people I feel closest to, never try to push my fashion sense in a different direction. Its mostly people who are a little further away from me, and actually quite different from me. So I wondered, why do I let people influence me that are actually not really in tune with who I am? Its a little like that fight club quote "impressing people we don't really like or know well". Now I'm slowely back to my simple, basic clothing, and I feel much better. Sometimes I long for the time we didn't see sooo much influenced content around us. I really like what you said, it's time for us to reflect back to what we actually want to see.

Girl I feel you. I'm a 3rd culture kid, filipino parents living in dubai since birth, but I didn't grow up being told off about my physical appearance. but now that I'm married, married to a Chinese man and relocated here in China. here they are always constantly picking at your appearance. I don't actually have tan skin but became tanned especially when I came here (and still becoming tanner while I live here who knows why. haha) and I have a baby and they just constantly pick at her about her tanned skin, monolid eyes, curly hair and also feet size. FEET SIZE. Ridiculous. She's not even 2 yet calling her wide foot . Everyone's feet here is particularly smaller. But not mine, Not my daughter. It's harder to find shoes here too. I'm just sick of this honestly. Thank you for sharing, I feel the weight on my shoulders slightly fall away knowing there are others who don't prioritize trends. But reality is we have to keep facing these people, I can only pray for God to protect the identity of my daughter as she grows.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear that! I'm sure even tougher to fight for your daughter against societal standards. I really hope that people can see past the superficial beauty and focus on the person. P.S I love my big wide feet!!

I wish I've seen this video when I was 14, I struggled so many years with my appearance, feeling ugly and now in my 30s I finally started to love me and accept me the way I am, I hope your video reaches all the women who are struggling with low self esteem, thank you Sophie, blessings and love to you

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I went through the same thoughts growing up and also coming to just accept myself at 30 :) it's liberating. Thank you Cristina

As a first generation Filipino American growing up in Alabama, I never felt that I checked off any boxes for beauty standards. I really resonated with you when you commented how it was culturally common for family members to comment on physical appearance (for me it was being called thunder thighs since I’m taller/bigger for a classic Asian build - now 5’7” 130lb). Along with that, just growing up in the south led me to believe that I was brown and ‘dirty’ even scrubbing my skin harder in the shower and being teased all through grade school for having flat facial features (I remember boys would ask me if a truck ran over my face). Flash forward to today, it’s people like you that makes me appreciate my features and accept myself for who I am. I too think it’s important to appreciate our health and our happiness and feeling confident will fall afterwards. I really hope many young girls watch your video because you are a great role model!

@makizenin1840

Жыл бұрын

Literally! Especially the unhealthy obsession with having white skin. Most asians living in Asian countries are simply just "Narrow Minded" to accept people who doesn't fit their beauty standards lol You're absolutely gorgeous and have such a feminine appearance that I would die to have.

I used to feel bad when comparing myself online but then when I went out to the real world there’s rarely attractive people cuz they’re only on social media. If anything being around actual humans made me see how beautiful I am

Thank you for this! I've considered quitting wearing makeup because I dont want my young daughters to have the impression that they need to look a certain way or do certain things to look or feel beautiful. I'm overweight now but honestly, there are times when I have never felt more beautiful... to realize what my body has done for me, to be grateful for my health... I think growing older and raising my girls have helped me realize that it's more important to feel beautiful than to look like society's (often dysfuctional) standard of beauty. ❤

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I love your mindset and I love that you will pass on this mindset to your daughters 🥺

@DanDan-z7e

2 жыл бұрын

This is such a powerful insight 💕

@crueltyfreemakeupheaven6907

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly I feel like it depends on why YOU wear the makeup. Because I feel like wearing makeup does not mean you don't appreciate your beauty naturally, the same way you put on clothes on your body. Well, this is what makeup is for me. I have fun with it and it's like an acessory to me and even a hobby now. I even had and have bonding moments with my mom, playing with makeup together. I feel like you could wear some days and not wear makeup on others, but instill the idea that makeup is not a necessity to be beautiful and/or confident? Just my 2 cents 😊

She already fits the beauty standard and felt insecure shows that no one is ever good enough for media’s beauty standards

I never used anything to my skin. Nothing. No make up. No cream nothing. I am in my late 20. I really don’t care of others judging me. I hate creams make ups on my skin. I feel that my skin can’t breathe. I like myself. And that is most important.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I love it ❤😊😍

Yeah, I find all of this very disturbing, sad, really one has to ask oneself what are we doing to ourselves and our children, so damaging,.....

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! especially our children. I'm 30 and still dealing with my insecurities. I can only imagine a younger and more vulnerable mind.

I enjoy Korean music and drama .I am Japanese and born and raised .so many social media introduced a lot of makeups , I’m overwhelmed ! And so many beauty youtubers declutters 50 eyeshadows ! I’m not feeling well . For myself , I need a diet , I’m diabetes and I felt ugly sometimes but I realize I’m working on yoga, choose what to eat carefully . Be yourself , you are beautiful !

lol i'm Chinese and it's super common to get these comments growing up too. I didn't like one bit of it and sometimes i wonder why people in our family feel like they need to give unsolicited advice. Sometimes these are remarks about things one person can't change like facial features. But then again it's possible that the people giving out this advice and criticism that they themselves have bought into the beauty trends/standards you mentioned, and are the ones that lack self esteem. But when you're young, you don't know how to filter and discern whether their remarks should matter to you. At that age we are easy to mold and shape and trust what adults say without questioning whether it applies to us or if it's a projection of their own insecurities.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

It's so toxic to project our own insecurities onto others, thus making others insecure as well. Especially between family members and close relationships because we are more vulnerable. Thsnsk for your comment

@Danielle-Mah

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife agree! It's toxic for sure. Thanks for making such a thoughtful video! Cheers!

@guesswhoiam1875

2 жыл бұрын

Awww I feel you I have lived in China for a while lol I just insulted them back

@Danielle-Mah

2 жыл бұрын

@@guesswhoiam1875 oh dear! 🙈

Nice to hear that you are from Korea, I live in Seoul, Korea. From a few days ago, I have always heard your video clips every day. I will keep in touch with your channel. thank you a lot. Have a good day.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! It's always great to know I have supporters from Korea. I lived in Seoul for 6 years and miss family there 😊

namjoon's another quote/tweet "sometimes we should just be respected for staying alive" is something i think everyone should abide by before pointing out "flaws" on anyone >:( also, loved this video 💗

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

wow love that too

@prerza

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife love your video

Great video as usual! This is what I completely don't understand about society. Especially as a grown-up, I would NEVER negatively comment randomly on someone's appearance right in their face. WHY? Either you compliment someone to make their day, or you just shut your mouth! It is that simple. All my life I've been judged and commented by people without asking for their opinion. That's why I hated school and working in an office. I also got many compliments, but my mind developed the habit to focus on the negative. I wish society would just stop this behaviour, mind their own business and compliment each other. I also realized, whenever I'm too much on social media, I start to concentrate on my flaws instead of the things I love about myself. All of those fake perfect life accounts, filters and the overuse of facetune on social media trick our brains regarding fiction vs. reality. Weekly social media detox and surrounding yourself with the right people is key to me.

You’re so important Malama ✨thank you for this video

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching 🥰

It's funny how people point only the "disadvantages" they think we have and never say a good word! Giving compliments to people is so easy and the joy in their faces the best reward you get!! Your videos are so to the point each time!! Thank you for the inspiration!!🐱🌷🌷

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!! I always think about this too. kind words can make a difference in someone's life

You are radiantly beautiful - inside and out. Your husband is a lucky man.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

🥰

@fayetabora9706

2 жыл бұрын

May I ask if your husband is a Filipino? He looks like Filipino.

@shahee6579

2 жыл бұрын

@@fayetabora9706 he is polynesian I believe

I rebel from beauty standards by liking what I look like 💕

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! we all need to be rebels at this point :)

I wish there were more people like you Sophie! Using social media not just for their own profit and selling purposes but to make people realise they are perfect as they are. ❤

In my culture every women has thick dense hair...so born in this culture with thin and sparse hair always made me insecure....even today the first thing I notice about a person is their hair. But slowly I have learned to embrace every bit of my existence....❤️

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

It is difficult when you feel like the odd one out. Im glad you're embracing 🙌 nothing wrong with sparse hair

I really relate to this. My Taiwanese family would mildly criticize me when I visited. “You would be pretty if you didn’t have…” some version of that. Then growing up in the states, there weren’t many non-western looking models of beauty. I had to learn to let go of physical appearance as a measure of my worth at 35. But it’s still really hard!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

The mild criticisms are so hurtful, even if it's said with the best intentions. So difficult because we've been conditioned to think a certain way.

This was so refreshing & meaningful 🥰 Thank you for sharing this beautiful piece of content ♥️

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

😍❤ thank you

Social media is horrible. All the Instagram influencers use lots of filters and all celebrities/models use photoshop and have gotten a lot of work done on their face / body and don’t want to admit to it. Most models/ celebrities/ social media influencers know that there is no such thing as the perfect body and face . Even they don’t have the perfect face or body however they want to sell you their products that don’t even work! We need to stop judging people by the way they look and value people’s personality, their intelligence and how kind they are to others and to themselves. I always felt that people that live a standard of life that is unrealistic they must be so hard on themselves and if you continuously are hard on yourself then how are you kind to yourself. If aren’t kind to yourself then you can’t be kind to others because you will always judge others if they don’t meet your unrealistic standards.

If we keep on renewing our minds as much as we apply products on our skin, we'd be way happier and less bothered by the world...

Sophie, I don't know why you ever even worried about how you looked. From my point of view you're very stunning with a warm smile. As you stated makeup is cool, exercise is good to stay fit, etc. I don't know why you would ever fall into the thinking that you needed more to be beautiful.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

You're too kind. Thanks for the kind comment :) growing up, I was always told to look like something else. But I'm just not worried about it so much

I know exactly how other people will make you insecurities, the problem is that they love me and they wanted me to be perfect. I didn't want to be perfect before that point and I don't need to be perfect it's impossible to be. now I have my daughter to make sure this won't happen to them. Thank you for sharing this video ❤

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

such a valuable lesson to pass down 😍

I wish i had learned this earlier on my teen days. But still, i am happy i am finally overcoming this “fear” to fit in with the society’s “set beauty standards”--having pearl white skin color, straight hair, long nose, just to name a few it’s really depressing knowing I’m a total opposite of all these so-called “beauty standards”

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

just remember no one fits into these beauty standards. Not even the people who set these standards themselves

Thank you for this inspiring message. You’re a beautiful person both inside and out!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤️ thank you so much Lydia

Your videos have always resonated with me but the fact that you shared a quote from Kim Namjoon just made me love you more!!!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤😍 such a good quote!

Society pushes a standard of beauty that is unrealistic! I am so lucky to be surrounded by strong beautiful women that most times never wear a stitch of makeup or care to filter their image. Maybe that comes with living in rural Canada? Maybe it’s being in my early forties? Even still we are constantly shown in the media that we need to do more by spending on this or that product but as I grow older I’m growing wiser to this time old trick. I really empathize with girls growing up today with social media.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I also found that having strong, beautiful and supportive women in my life completely changed my idea of beauty ❤😊 thank you so much Heather

This is exactly why I don't wear makeup much at all. Society calls me a tomboy and I get labeled as not being so girly when I am in fact girly and feminine. It's sick when you think about it as if makeup makes you feminine 🙄.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah...I've been researching a lot into this topic and it's really baffling. Makeup is fun and creative, but it doesn't make me feminine

@goldenlioness868

2 жыл бұрын

@@MalamaLife hopefully one day these standards will change and natural beauty becomes the norm again. What's really baffling is that American "culture" is just an amalgamation of eastern culture's all the way down to the hair, nails and makeup that was used as a form of dress for special occasions. But that's "America" for you lol. At the end of the day if you love who you are and how you present yourself that is all that matters. I am learning this everyday. Thank you for your beautiful message.

Thank you for this!!! Growing up, I've always struggled with accepting myself for who I am and how I look. Only recently have I begun to appreciate myself and not compare myself to other girls!!

Kim Nam Joon was current in his words. We live in a very judgement world 🌎😕 Sophie another inspiring video. Wish you blessings 🙌 peace ✌and light 🙏✨ Have a wonderful week 🙏❤

I'm also Korean, and I had so many experiences where people would make comments about my appearance. one time I was taking a vocal lesson and my coach told me that I should lose weight. I was absolutely baffled at how someone could tell me what to do with my own body while I was completely happy with it and didn't feel the need to change its shape. what's funnier is that one day she would tell me that my hands were so pale and that she was jealous. she sounded like she was so desperate to have pale skin, yet her skin tone was nowhere near as dark. Even if it was, I don't see a single reason to try to lighten it. the main reason that I think this whole narrow beauty standard is so toxic is that if everybody fits the mold of what is considered beautiful, they would all look the same. we're not clones. we are beautiful individuals that have our own beauty in us.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

You are so right about everyone turning into a clone when trying to meet this specific definition of beauty. It feels like we have to let go of our individual features to achieve this look and it's not worth it. Also, Thanks for sharing your story. It's a relief to know that others have similar views on beauty.

Thank you Sophie! I was just talking about this with a friend last weekend on how much pressure beauty standards puts on women, always expecting us to look beautiful by purchasing their products. I gave up with putting on make up. I wasted so much money on products that didn't really work. I decided to accept and love myself the way I look, and my skin looks better! 🤗 Love your videos! 🙅🏽‍♀️💝Thank you for all the work and wisdom you put into them!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

The pandemic really helped me to slwo down on the makeup and I really like not wearing it. The pressure of beauty standards on women is so toxic and unhealthy... Hopefully we can all see this

You're the only person I can watch on KZread these days. Thank you for being so honest and genuine. Your videos help me cope with my sadness. xx

You're drop-dead gorgeous! You're right about everything, big companies through social media try to make women unhappy with their bodies to make them consume more! The thing is: why don't they try more to do the same to men?? Men also have unrealistic expectations and seem to feel entitled to "demand" many things, while women almost never put pressure on men's appearances.

this hits close to my heart. thank you for the video and kind words, Sophie!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤️ I'm so happy to hear that!

Wow, Sophie. You did it again. Thank you for this encouraging message. Love you.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤️ love you back!!

Your honesty and simplicity are beautiful. Your videos full of truths and down to earth advice help me a lot. Thank you sincerely for these moments of life experience sharing and serenity 😌

I just want to say thank you for uploading this. I hope we all can find peace within ourselves than conforming to the trends that society wants us to be.

LA is a house of culture code mirrors hosting everything but your own reflection. Fortunately found my way out during quarantine. Hollywood’s worst nightmare. We were never meant to see ourself. Good luck to all on this journey. Your true reflection only exists within.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I'm don't know LA culture very well, but I'm glad you escaped what you described

I'm 18..when I was younger people would compare me to my sister who "in their eyes" more more beautiful than me, I remember that everyone would ignore me in every family gather and talk to her gently, I grew up hating every single detail about myself, I remeber when I was only 7.. I was using creams to make my skin look flawless and to make myself beautiful for them!!.. Today I suffer from depression and find difficulty in going out with my sister..the world is tough

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes! I have a beautiful sister that I get compared to all the time. I hope you don't ruin your relationship with your sister because of this. It's not worth it

@mcchilde2903

2 жыл бұрын

My twin and I get compared all the time too!! We don't dislike each other for it but it still created so many insecurities in us

What's interesting about Asian beauty standards (in general) is that most of those "standards" are human made. Meaning, creams, excessive cover from the sun, etc. My wife is Chinese and I am very familiar with the issues you've discussed.

Just the fact that the comments you made to yourself during the intro are the exact words I have been repeating to myself for a very long time.. Thank you for making this video

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

:) thanks for watching

Every word you spoke was literally so true. I'm glad I watched this video.

Thank you for your honest sharing, that shows real inner strength. The world needs more real content and realness itself 🌞

I really appreciate your perspective on this. It can be so tough sometimes, especially with social media. But I am learning to accept my body, understand that aging is a natural process…we are part of nature. Aging is just living. And like you said, I am also just so grateful to be healthy and happy!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I wish we could all accept aging and celebrate it. It's beautiful

It's such a relief that there are people who feel the same. Thank you for this. We are thankful for you taking the time to be transparent and make a video that truly touches our hearts.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that! happy to share :)

First of all you are SO beautiful, in and out.. thank you for such an inspiring message. I love your channel, you are a great influencer talking about real things, and what really matters.. having a healthy and mindful life.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Patricia ❤

Dearest Sophie, this has got to be the most powerful video you have made (and that I’ve seen) yet, it brought tears to my eyes ❤️ Deeply insightful, so meaningful and so spiritually potent in leading your fellow women back to themSelves. We all need to be reminded to love and accept ourselves as we are, and this gentle nudge of a kind and loving video is a lot more powerful than any self-help book. Brava and God bless you 💐🥂😘

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind comment :) it's eye opening to read some of the comments about similar experiences and feelings others have on this topic. So happy this message resonates with you ❤

Thank you!! I love watching ur videos, you got a soothing voice and very thoughtful narrative. Thank you for changing so much in me. I became more satisfied and content with my actual life. I appreciate you so much !

Everything about you is so gorgeous. What a beautiful message ❤️

Hi Sophie - Loved the intro, very poetic and relatable to many. I agree wholeheartedly with a lot of what you shared. As women especially we are bombarded with ideas and standards that tell us we are not good enough, not worthy enough and not beautiful enough as we are naturally. This is affecting our mental health and leads to detrimental and destructive behaviours. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective on this very important topic. I hope that you are doing well x stay safe and well x :-)

Sophie I love your channel! You’re an inspiration! I have purged 5 times and recently, so now I am more aware of not wasting my money. Now I will concentrate on my food and eat even more healthier. Thankyou Sophie!❤️

Greetings from Greece sweetheart! I love your aesthetic,your opinions and your calmness!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Caroline 🥰 much love to you from Maui

Very powerful. The way you speak so softly and kindly is so precious ❤️ the sayings and quotes that were mentioned were powerful in themselves also. I have noticed what you’ve noticed lately too and now realise I don’t need much at all and it really is a “product”, the “beauty standards” themselves. Knowing that one thing is such an eye opener. You are stunning, soft spoken, with a beautifully shaped face, very woman like and soft spoken. I think you are very attractive and beautiful and it’s crazy how the beauty standards have is doubting ourselves, when you are so stunning! I’m glad you have come to the realisation you have. Our worth isn’t found in these things, but in being our true incredible selves. Thank you for your video, it needs to be seen by everyone ❤️

I love the uniqueness and authenticity of your channel. Really appreciate the message you send. I wish a lot more girls would follow channels like yours. Keep up doing real content!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Johanny 💕 so sweet of you to say that

Hi! I’ve been subscribed to your channel for awhile but have just started watching your videos more. I’m adopted from China and thoroughly relate to your general comments about unrealistic beauty standards, but specifically appreciated your discussion of Asian culture on our mindsets and self-perception, even if I have grown up in a mostly non-Asian community.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for supporting my channel Emma. Glad you can relate this message!

This video made me subscribe, thank you. I honestly think you are refreshing because you are NATURAL! Thank you for having the courage to just accept yourself which is our natural state anyway. Bless 💗

Thank you for this🌟 Your videos are based on things we do know but sooo deep down that they work as beautiful and comforting reminders🥺 remembering our worth and our authentic self under all this societal pressure is so important! Your videos always lift my mood and change my perspective, sooo comforting🥰🥰thank you for inspiring me so much! 😄😄☀️

This is a lovely video, thanks for sharing your story

I wish I could thumbs-up this a million times. Thank you for this. I had a similar experience. I didn't care about how I looked until people made comments about my looks. Then I began to judge myself how they talked about me. I'm working on it.

I appreciate you. Please continue to advocate and give awareness to our viewers the true important of beauty is not how you looks in the society. I hope people appreciate their own skin and imperfection.Life is not about how you look like but how you inspire people to trust them selves.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I really hope so too! I didn't realize this was also on a lot of people's minds

I LOVE you! I'm so grateful I found your channel, it has been the best thing in the past month!!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

You're so sweet! Thank you so much and much love back ❤❤❤

This is a really lovely video Sophie. It's a really poignant look at how even the most naturally beautiful people like yourself are pressured to conform to the ever changing beauty standards of the media. I'm a professional portrait photographer and I'm always blown away by the amount of insecurities that people share with me while in front of the camera. Everyone is taught to judge themselves so harshly, and all the things they're nervous about are things that I would never have noticed about them because instead I see their beautiful smiles, laughs, the way the move, and their energy. The quote you shared is so true 'no one is born ugly'. Thank you.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

🥰 Oh wow what a cool job! and a cool perspective on this topic behind the lens

I agree! And my mom was right… being beautiful on the inside makes you beautiful on the outside. The more kinder and good I am to others, the more my flaws are not even noticed. But if you talk to a mean beautiful person for a while, they are no longer beautiful.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. The older I get, I can see from the outside who is beautiful on the inside. It shows in the eyes and in their words

You are so kind and smart and you strongly radiate this positive energy and it makes you so beautiful. Thank you for sharing these learnings!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

that's so sweet of you 🥰 thank you!!

Oh, boy, can I relate to how family loves to point out flaws in others, specially weight related comments...for sure they don't mean to hurt you, but the impact is very much the same, so it doesn't much matter if they mean to hurt you or not. Thanks for this video. It's so relevant.

You made a very precious video, thank you! This is what our society needs, especially young girls. ❤ When I was a teenager, I felt very insecure about my tooth gap. It was horrible. Later I realized that it's a part of me and my body and that it makes my person unique. I'm happy that I don't care about it anymore.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

I really wish I knew to embrace my features growing up as well! Glad you are embracing your looks :)

THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!! I feel this type of videos are so helpful for the younger audience, since it's easier to manipulate younger minds..but when they will hear you..pause think about and YES!! they can relate.I recommend your channel to my younger neighbor and gave me such a JOY when she run over and told me isn't that the TRUTH I will embrace who Iam and not what other companies want me to be so they can make a PROFIT She laugh and said my beast friend COCONUT OIL.I use it for everything and LAUGH as I was saying Iam with you Kid..

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Haha aw that's so sweet of you to share my video with your neighbor. I really wish i knew this message when I was growing up because kids are more vulnerable. Thank you so much for watching ❤

@mcchilde2903

2 жыл бұрын

Yes so helpful, I'm 17 already worrying about all these things, my mum is very harsh on me sometimes, I cracked my knuckle and she said a guy wouldn't marry me if I didn't have pretty hands. She was probably just trying to scare me but I still became insecure about it

Social media paints this unrealistic picture and places pressure as well on how we should look. I’m glad you had the courage to share this video!

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening 😘❤

We need more people and videos like this one! 👍🏼

Thank you so much for doing videos like this and inspire us to be our authentic selves as well.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching ❤

Thank you for all your beautiful thoughts, I learn a lot with you to think different and feel good with myself.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

🥰❤️ thank you Maria

Firstly....you are absolutely stunning & your inner beauty also shines through. Secondly, your message is both powerful and truthful and needs to be seen by as many people as possible. 💕💯💕.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

❤️ that's incredibly sweet of you

thank u for reminding us through your vlog ,, your such a relief to me when i feel anxious and makes me appreciate myself more .thankyou thankyou so much❤❤❤

This video is like a big hug, i needed it.

@MalamaLife

2 жыл бұрын

Big virtual hugs to you from Maui ❤