2a SCC these days has an encouraging outlook for success of treatment, the Castle Hill team will plan to blast it into remission and keep it there so get ready for really gruelling treatment Mandy but you’ll bring a positive attitude to this and I promise, if you keep your chin up, you will do much better coping with this. Don’t let arrogant medical staff get to you, I’m not making excuses for him it’s just that as a nurse myself, I tend to find the more blasé the consult, the less worried the medic is, if that’s any help. Not an excuse, just an insight! Hand over any worry to your caseworker and shelve the anxiety in between appointments, and you and John get planning the days out, the treats, big and small, and find a mindfulness course to train your mind to keep itself healthy through this. You can do this 💖 Try not to worry about John, give him practical jobs he can do for you 🙂

@katewilliams4876

2 ай бұрын

Wonderful advice. Yes, she is strong and positive!!

@lisashannon4233

2 ай бұрын

Ahh!! Such a brilliant comment and great advice xx

@motorhomers-r-us

2 ай бұрын

Mandy’s worry’s will be for John not herself X

John will be your rock. I sat along side my wife through every Chemo and radiotherapy. My wife had a very tough regime of radiotherapy and Cisplatin chemo. Cisplatin is very tough so you need to treat it like a marathon and focus 100% on just getting through. Maggies provided great support. As a warning, if you get too tired, they will have to pause treatment, that is bad. My wife had a very similar cancer and she made it through, but others tried to carry on with their lives and they had to pause treatment as their bloods showed they couldn’t carry on and had to have a break. 2A is great news. All things considered. As the carer for my wife, we met a lot of amazing people. And every day of treatment we thought she was a day closer to ringing the end of treatment bell that was very emotional. Love from Cumbria

I think your experience at the hospital should be shown to medical trainees to remind them that it may be just a job to them but to you it is a devastating meeting.Good luck with your treatment plan lovely lady.🌹

@Peace2All123

Ай бұрын

❤❤🎉🎉😂😊xx

Hey Mandy I’ve a few things to say. First of all well done on being so open. Talking about it really helps. I’ve been here with my wife, especially the kind of straight to the point, no emotion announcement of the diagnosis. Now my wife has been a nurse specialist for 26 yrs. she said they have to do it that way. Straight to the point without sugar coating it. Forums helped her immensely, chatting with people in similar situations. The waiting is the worst part. Once the treatment starts it all happens very fast, Infact bloody amazingly fast. You will get detailed info in time but at the moment a lot of work is going on behind the scenes. MDT meetings etc. There are lots of different medical specialists to involve. Oncology, radiology, surgeons and maybe even dieticians. Very complex meetings with very clever people. Its feels like your left in the dark but they are truly working on your treatment and recovery plan to give you the very best outcome. They are truly amazing people. Keep yourself busy, talk to likeminded people and before you know it will be a distant memory. Obviously the worry never goes away completely and it never will. Take care ❤

@thelmalewis7870

2 ай бұрын

Brilliant write up

My wife got a breast cancer diagnosis in Nov 2015 and I totally understand the emotions both you and John are going through. Her consultant/surgeon had no bedside manner whatsoever and totally ignored me when I asked questions. However, he was a brilliant surgeon and that what really mattered. My wife was convinced that the comming christmas would be her last - that's what this diagnosis does. It makes you feel like the rabbit in the headlights, what can I do , where do I go, what is going to happen to me plus a multitude of other unanswered questions. I know what John is goig through - I've been there. You want want to protect your better half and want to support her but your not sure how to because there are no words or actions that can make it better. John's time will come when he can give you support and encouragment when you are going through your treatment and help you on the road to recovery. Both you and John are very positive and determined people and that strength will get you through this difficult time. Love to you both from us in West Wales.

My wife also got free prescriptions (for 3 years I think?), free parking at the hospital for a year (saves worrying about how many hours parking you need if treatment is delayed etc) and what I jokingly called the "Disney fast pass / access all areas" triage phone number. We had to call at 3am a couple of weeks into chemo (heart palpitations) and we were given priority one for paramedics. Another time she went neutropenic (5% of the average white blood cell count !!!) and had covid at the same time. We called triage and they said come to the hospital. It was 15 minutes away, by the time we arrived there was a single bed room isolation ward ready for her. Lots of folk will ask you (Mandy) how you are, very few will ask John how he is doing. From one engineer to another, go talk to someone who has knowledge of what you are going through (John). I took counselling, worth every moment.

Many, first off I can see from your body language you have risen out of the depths of where you were - brilliant! And rightly so because the diagnosis sounds as good as any bad news can be so good on you girl 😎 But the way it sounds you were treated is diabolical. When my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer the consultation was so different. It was just us, the consultant and the Macmillan nurse. Things were explained and SHE was the focus of the meeting. It sounds like your crowd had a total empathy bypass. So as I said, good on you both for dealing with it. Now concentrate on getting all the tests done, treatment started and most importantly heading out of the darkness and into the light of the rest of your life. ❤

John has to look after himself. He is no good to you if he gets sick. Hugs,hugs hugs!!!!

The circumstances and manner which you were treated was totally incorrect, irrespective of the fact NHS are under pressure there are ways things should and shouldn't be done. Some of these people reach a certain status and they become oblivious to rudness and the fundementals of caring, don't accept it consider the next person in your situation. Sorry but such a meeting whilst others were present is totally wrong, and the conduct during the meeting was also wrong. Bless you thinking of you ❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙❤💙

My consultant told me all the horrible things that might happen with side effects, but the thing I reacted to most was, I had to stay out of the sunshine for the full 6 months of Chemo, all through Summer and Autumn…when I said ‘oh no, I was looking forward to being outside all through Summer’ he just stared at me like I’d lost the plot… funny how you do react to things..enjoy your Saturday fun day..x

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, after a month of tests and stuff, the treatment started with half a year of taking hormone pills. Then I'd have my operation. That operation was first scheduled during the camper holiday in France. We told my doctor, and she said: your holiday comes first. You'be booked it, you're looking forward to it, and mental health is so important in this treatment. A happy patient will get better easier, so you go for it and we'll schedule the operation after that (I also had a slow growing tumor). So we had that camper holiday, really enjoyed it, and the day after we got back, preparations started for the surgery, and I had that 3 days later. So yes, do tell your oncologist/consultant/doctor about the holiday, and ask if you can have the treatment after it. It's better to start treatment well rested and in good spirits. Go for it 🙂

Talk to your case worker. When my Mum had pancreatic cancer every time we didn’t understand something we spoke to the caseworker and they took their time to explain. They took their time and would ring back a day later to see if we were ok with the information once it had taken it all in. They didn’t mind repeating any information. They couldn’t be more helpful ❤

And we love you too , i am going to book my smear tomorrow as i had the letter 2 months ago 🙈 You are such a strong lady and I really hope you have the best news for your next scan . Sending all my love and hugs to you and John xxxxx

Wishing you a successful treatment, Mandy.

God bless you, Mandy. I am really sorry that how the doctors handled your one on one meeting. It's good to know that it's Stage 2A and treatable. I've been through treatment for breast cancer - at the end it was Stage 1A. I went through surgery, chemo, and radiation. I wouldn't worry just yet about weight loss until you start chemo - it depends on the drugs they use. Also, they usually do the radiation last. My biggest advice based on lessons learned: REST REST REST and drink lots of water. I believe our body needs rest, which should be your priority. We're lucky we live at a time that treatment for cancer has advanced so far. It's not fun, it's grueling, but you can do it. Good luck!!

@unadventurousmandy

Ай бұрын

Ah I’m sorry you had to go through all that for your breast cancer but glad you’re still here to tell the tale. Chemoradiation is concurrent so I’ll have chemo and radiotherapy on the first day then 4 days of just radiation and that will last 5 weeks so my weight does need to stay the same. Resting won’t be so easy for me but I’ll be trying my best so I can kick this thing 💪🏻❤️

@LillianHenegar

Ай бұрын

Wow! Chemo and radiation at the same time! Yikes. Re rest, remember your body is with you the rest of your life! Prioritize you! That said I know some find being able to work while going through treatment helped their sanity. ❤️❤️

So great to see you, Mandy ❤. Will be with you and John all the way, sending healing and wellbeing vibes every day. Stay strong both. Just know that anyone that follows you and John will be sending love and prayers (that includes hubby and me) ❤❤❤🙏🙏

I had cervical cancer, I was 32 years old, I was devastated to bet told the news, my mum died a few weeks before so was already in a state of grief, she had cancer and was only in her fifties, I did think why is all this happening to me, I was so sad and then angry, kept all my thoughts n feelings bottled up. I had all the treatment you will be having,, 6 weeks every week day, and then the internal treatment, I was OK for the first 2 weeks of treatment but then the diarea started, I realised not to eat anything green, the extreme tiredness started so I slept a lot, when the treatment ended the radiation still keeps working so you will be tired for a while. It was gruelling, I know every emotion you are going through and sending you the biggest hug, I have watched all your vlogs from when you sold your house and moved into motorhome, so that's quite a while ago. I think you are such a lovely honest, kind person, sending you much love 😘xx

Hi Mandy thanks for being so frank and honest about what’s going on with your treatment. I can’t believe the consultant treated you that way! No excuse tbh! 🙄 Keep your chin up as much as you can ❤ but I’m sure you will have your down days and that’s ok, it’s ok to cry and not bottle things up. 😊 Sending you and John lots of love 🥰 Debs and Mark 😘 xxx

I'm totally in awe of you and John... even now you're thinking of others with your positive 'get yourself checked out' message... sending you love and positive vibes ❤

Wishing the well wishes Mandy. Cancer seems to attach the best people. You will be fine after treatment.

I agree it’s not acceptable the way the news was delivered. I’m not surprised you feel the way you do! My heart goes out to you xx

Stay positive Mandy. You have many well wishers rooting for you. Sending love and hugs💕

Hi Mandy. You are an absolute inspiration. There's no question that you are helping others by sharing this. Good luck with everything.

Challenge them. That is appalling in this day and age. It will make them pull up short. Unless people do that they will carry on being like that. Don’t make excuses for the Mandy. You can be too understanding xx I am saying this as a retired Nurse !

I have wanted to write a message since hearing your news but I just didn't know what to say, and have probably rewritten messages over a dozen times, but I wanted to write something and to say what an inspiration you are. I'm not sure I would deal with it so well. You are so brave and have such a positive attitude. I admire you so much. I am going to book my smear test tomorrow as I am overdue. I had put it off because of many reasons but the main one being my 80 year old mum had a hysterectomy recently as she had cancer of the womb (she has been given the all clear😄), and it has worried me sick. But as you say, it's best to get these things checked out. But hearing you talk has given me the courage to face my fear and do it anyway. Bless you Mandy. I wish you all the very best with your treatment and recovery. ❤xx

@lesleypyke8554

2 ай бұрын

Well done Debie ❤ you stay strong too xx

@debieastman

2 ай бұрын

@@lesleypyke8554 ❤

Stay strong mandy, take each day as it comes to you once treatment starts...sending you hugs xx

Your the one thats amazing, your bravery and strength are amazing, your in my prays, both you John and your family. Keep positive, hugs to you all. ❤

I think the word is "Champion"! He a good man and loves you dearly and you do him. Sending love and prayers! Claudie/Texas

Hi Mandy, it’s Craig the kitchen fitter I’m not sure if John told you but after I got him some hinges I took time out due to the fact I was diagnosed with bowel cancer I did make it quite public to my work colleagues at work and unbelievably two of them have come to being confident with issues that might point towards cancer so yeah making it public is important for yourself and other people. Good news is for me I’ve had an operation and it looks like it’s going to be successful. Keep your chin up and tell John to look after yourself because I know when I’ve got my diagnosis I think my wife struggled more with it than I did. Hope to see the show, if not look after yourself

@unadventurousmandy

2 ай бұрын

Ah Craig!! I’m so happy that your op will be successful ❤️ it is really important to not hide these things - say it loud and say it clear so others might not have to suffer the same. I can see John is struggling and I’ve bounced back a bit but he’s got some good support ❤️❤️

@craigberesford726

2 ай бұрын

@@unadventurousmandy hi Mandy it was great seeing you and John today would it be possible to ask you another accounting question as I’m uncertain about things we discussed would it be possible to email me I think John has my email address thanks sorry to bother you again regards craig

@unadventurousmandy

2 ай бұрын

It was lovely to talk to you today too, glad you are on the mend. If you pop an email to mandy@howaccounts.co.uk I’ll get back to you as soon as I can ❤️

I worked for the NHS for many years and the appointment you had does not sound up to a standard I would expect. All the best for the future.

Hello Mandy, watching your vlogs has urged me to look something up. Just over thirty years ago I had a hysterectomy, my uterus and cervix where removed. This wasn't due to cancer but another reason. In the past thirty years I have never been called in to have my vagina/cavity checked. I looked it up and there is a test that can and should be done so I'll be making an appointment with my GP asap. If there are any other women watching and reading the comments that this may apply to who also didn't know I suggest you seek advise from your GP too. Continuing to send positive thoughts and prayers 🙏🙏🙏.

It's good to see you being so positive with the news that you have been given. Hopefully the PET scan will provide you with reassurance in the lead up to the start of treatment. I've recently had a bowel cancer scare and was on the 2 week pathway. Thankfully the colonoscopy showed no cancer but other problems that I can deal with. Stay strong. Our thoughts are with you both. Sid and Nicola, Rugby

The Consultants I worked with were lovely and totally different to your experience, so sad that they made you feel like that. We use to let people record their visits so they could listen back as you always miss something. Once treatment starts you will find out how your body reacts, but you are a strong amazing lady so I know you will cope with this, understand that you are having low periods but enjoy your plans, they are as important. Tell John to make sure he gets the support he needs and doesn’t get forgotten as the family are just as important to. Take care of yourself and big hugs to you both💚xx

Big hugs Mandy . You are such a brave lady .

All the best mandy you're on the right track now. I'm sure you'll be well looked after xxx

In Australia we have take home smear tests now which is wonderful. As a mum of a daughter who had breast cancer at 21, I had the same experience with her consultant but my mumma bear came out and shut all the chatter down, you will quickly learn to raise your voice and say please expain better i dont understand you have to advocte for you.

Omg mandy a send all my love. Get up to Scotland better treatment. That was so unproffesional in that room xx

Mandy, I admire your attitude in the way you are handling your cancer. I am appalled at the chattering background people who were in your consultation, and I certainly would have taken them to task. Don't underestimate how long the road to full recovery will be after your treatment. I, together with this community, am right there with you and John xxx

Mandy, you’ve got this, keep your chin up xx

I've no doubt your videos are helping other people good on you both sending very best wishes and positive thoughts

Hi Mandy, It's me Suzi. You don't need to reply. I'm just here to support you. A nurse clued us in on a tastier drink for keeping weight up. The bottled stuff was horrible. She said to get Carnation Instant Breakfast. My husband liked it so much he still drinks it. You just need tasy stuff with lots of calories or carbs...if it tastes good, indulge yourself! Also, chemo can change how things taste. Don't worry about it...keep trying other foods and drinks and stick with what tastes good. My only other comment might sound a bit strange: You get to set the rules of engagement in your consultations. I don't know what a caseworker is, but she/he seems to be perfectly placed to implement your requirements. For example, those other people in the room who no one introduced to you...I would have asked who they were and if they had no reason to be there, I would have asked them to leave...they were unforgiveable distractions...your caseworker could possibly do that for you. I would politely ask (or caseworker can) the consultant to please refrain from dictating until the meeting is finished (simply because this is your time). I alwys hand in a list of my questions in writing, I sit there with a pad and pencil taking notes. (I admit that I'm an assertive person, a retired senior manager and I don't like "slushy" meetings of any kind.) Sending you blessings. I have the utmost faith in you Mandy. As for John...my 50 years married to the same man I've learned that they need to feel useful, to do things, fix thngs, be the help mate extraordinaire....Be that John!!! Make Mandy 1,000 cups of tea! Love to you both.

We love you John ❤

We love you back.❤

Oh Mandy, you are so incredibly brave to share this with us all. You are in my thoughts... wishing you much positivity, love and best wishes xx❤❤

Such an inspiration Mandy ❤

Thank you for the update Mandy, its reassuring to listen to you explaining your thoughts and feelings, and to see your determination to get through this whilst thinking of everyone else is humbling and heartwarming. Enjoy the coming weekend and take care. 👋

Well done Mandy, stay strong x

Sending hugs Mandy and stay strong ❤️💐

Sending much love Mandy ❤❤❤

Your so brave ❤❤❤❤

Sending love to you both.❤❤

Keep strong Mandy.

Good luck Mandy 🥰

Audiobooks helped me so much in hospital, when I had eye surgery, and I have never gone back to print. It could become a friend if you ever get tired and get bored.

@unadventurousmandy

2 ай бұрын

I’m looking at more of those now, I just have a thing about the narrators voice - I can be very picky 😂

@AfterTheRains

2 ай бұрын

@@unadventurousmandy Agreed. Narrators can make or break a book. I generally find reviewers comment on good or bad reviews and, if I haven’t listened to them before, I listen to the sample. A tip for Audible…if you have a membership plus kindle unlimited, you can often get the free kindle version and a reduced price on the audible version. Audible also have many free books included in your membership.

@dianne9146

2 ай бұрын

I started using audio books as a way of calming down the constant overthinking at night. I set the timer to stop the book after 45 mins and just re-start it if I’m still awake. I now listen when I do gardening, housework etc or any time my inner over thinker goes in to overdrive. I always listen to a sample before I buy, to check out the narrator’s voice. The Diana Gabaldon Outlander books are excellent and have got me through many a rough time.

@AfterTheRains

2 ай бұрын

@@dianne9146 I enjoy a good mystery and it’s a great distraction when cleaning. 😃

@suedentley5114

2 ай бұрын

Me too! There's nothing that would put me off more than the wrong voice @@unadventurousmandy

We’re with you all the way Mandy 💖

😊🙏 praying treatment goes well ❤

Give yourself permission to be with the 'ups'.. and with the 'downs' Mandy. I feel that talking to us about it all is the right thing to do. Not every woman could do it.. but you have aways been an ambassador for women! Be gentle with yourself and know that you have the sisterhood at your back! ❤

You’ve got this !! Your may little hero sending hugs ❤

Still with you 🙏❤️

Big hug Mandy xx

Oh my goodness what cruel rudeness. Saying that as a retired nurse I always found that the more arrogant they are, they usually are brilliant at what they do. You are strong, amazing and you are positive. Food is important, it is medicine, try and do as much research as you possibly can on healing foods. I am sending you both the biggest of hugs.

Stay strong and keep fighting against everything

💕 so brave, take it easy, a day at a time x

Stay strong and keep smiling, we’re all with you ❤xx

Love how positive you are inspite of everything. ❤x

Stay positive and live your life! ☕️

All the best Mandy thinking of you ❤ x

Take care x

Just finished a year long battle with stage 4b endometrial cancer. It’s a magical mystery tour so 😂enjoy the ride (if you can). Love and hugs❤️❤️

Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish you all the best for a speedy recovery. Take care Gill

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be following your progress, thinking of you, and hoping that you make a full recovery. Sending love, light, and hugs XXX

Still sending peace and healing prayers x

You are an inspiration Mandy to everyone. I am glad you are willing to share both the ups and downs of this journey. That will be a help for others going thru the same or similar things. Stay strong and positive as best as you are able. We are supporting you and John in this life event.

Take care Mandy. Both of you are doing an amazing job of keeping everyone updated during a time that is extremely difficult for you. Keep strong xxx

Hi Mandy it was lovely meeting you and John today at Harrogate. Stay positive. When met and Ray had it we was each other's rock. Take care ❤

Rooting for you Mandy - amazing you have found the strength to talk to us xxx

Hope everything will go well for you ❤ big hugs

Thinking of you a good holiday is needed in the sun big hugs for you and John xxxxxx

You got this girl!! MANDY POWER ALL THE WAY XX

❤❤❤ You got the right way of thinking to totally get through this. Proud of you❤❤❤❤

Thinking of you Mandy, I have booked my smear appointment x

Keep up the positivity Mandy - it’s so good to see you so strong it’s inspirational. It’s a shame your appointment wasn’t as you’d hoped but great they’re on it like they are … sending positive love and healing x

Love you Mandy. Keep your chin up. All will be good in the end. ❤❤❤

Sending positive vibes, love and best wishes your way Mandy ❤

Fantastic were all here cuddles over the Internet xx

Mandy, sending my love to both you and John. You have got this. Xx

Lovely to see that big smile - you’re doing such good work sharing this present situation you find yourself in lassie. Hugs and much love xx

Deep breathes, nice and easy, one little step at a time ❤

Darling Mandy sending positive vibes and love ❤️❤️ xx 😘

So glad the results were at the better end of the scale and brilliant to see your positivity. I'm sure the treatment will be challenging Mandy but you are so strong and with John and the rest of your family and friends you'll get through this. Thanks for trying to do good from a rotten situation hopefully it will encourage others to get checked out. Wishing you all the best for the road ahead. ❤

You're in good hands Mandy, there will be a whole team of experts working on your treatment and they really are amazing. Look after yourself ❤

Bless you Mandy my heart goes out to you Your words are so heartfelt, kind, considerate and exactly as you say , get checked out, I’ve told my daughter who’s 49 and has had a lot of irregular bleeding and periods, get checked. We will be with you on your journey, love and hugs xx

Sending ❤️ from Turkey Mandy. In my thoughts xx

You are such an inspiration Mandy so strong you will beat this your in my thoughts sending you both love and hugs ❤

Stay strong Mandy you are a positive, lovely lady we are with you all the way ❤️

Sending you both much love & positive thoughts. You will get through this taking one day at a time, the trip will be very rough at times, you already know that, but you will get through, you are stronger than you think. I cared for my husband through his Pancreatic cancer whilst I had breast cancer & very often didn't think I could do it but with the support of others I got through. KZread videos as a distraction were a saviour for us. Take care of yourselves & only do what you can, the rest can wait. Bronwyn ❤

I hope its good news xxxx❤❤❤❤

Love to you Mandy ❤❤❤❤

@unadventurousmandy

2 ай бұрын

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thats the goodest of bad news, Mandy so on a scale 1-10 of bad a 3 is better than a 10 so thats good news. When the consultant was dictating, you absolutely had the right to interrupt. This is YOUR life! You have a right for due consideration and to be able to ask what may affect your life. Its not good!!! Anyhoo, main thing is, you are in the right place at the right time for treatment with a positive outcome. I think you're really brave and inspirational . I'm now only going to think of you as "Inspirational Mandy" and not "Unadventurious Mandy" I think you're brilliant. I'm glad you have a good and loving man in John by your side and you will prevail. My love to you both❤ - Kenny

Mandy I’m so proud of you even if I don’t know you! You and your John are champions ….hugs 🤗