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@scr33np33k3r

3 жыл бұрын

please tell me what do i do if i live in a family that causes anxiety . money is not an abundant source. this video brought me to tears. so does everything but ya

@nic.g21

3 жыл бұрын

@@scr33np33k3r if other people are the cause of your anxiety, chances are, they're projecting their own anxiety and insecurities onto you. Maybe you should watch this video with them.

@mohammedpatel9698

3 жыл бұрын

Probably a dumb question, but how important is it that I am a gamer in order to make use of coaching? I’m new to these videos, and despite being a non-gamer I have found them quite insightful. A huge positive for me is that the coaching options, especially group coaching, are cheaper than the not-so-great psychotherapy I’ve received in the past, and if the coaches are anything like Dr K, I am optimistic that it could really help me. I see that in order to become a coach, a requisite is an interest in gaming, I was wondering if that meant the coaching itself is also heavily video-game orientated, if so i am unsure if this is for me. Thank you to whoever might take the time to address this :)

@nic.g21

3 жыл бұрын

@@mohammedpatel9698 I'm not sure if it's "required", but I'm sure there will be plenty of gaming analogies and whatnot. Maybe personal one on one coaching would be a better option for you? Either way, one session isn't very expensive, so I'm sure you could try it out and see for yourself. But yes, Dr. K's community is very gaming oriented.

@stenharl1

3 жыл бұрын

Please do a collaboration with Jordan Peterson!

"The smarter you are, the more crippling your anxiety can be" - I must be einstein then

@Ok-wj2mt

3 жыл бұрын

We'd be smarter than einstein lmao

@inory5460

3 жыл бұрын

We would be 400IQ rocket scientists.

@vivvy_0

3 жыл бұрын

a little bit of validation xD

@piyushpandey5978

3 жыл бұрын

Read about Einstein, he had a lot of problems.

@jonasjasikevicius8780

3 жыл бұрын

😁

So: - Jump into the activity / be present / focus on the present. Fear of the act is generally far worse than the actual act itself - Face insecurities to gain experience and build confidence, otherwise, you never get good and get even more anxious Thank you very much.

@trellified

3 жыл бұрын

Nice recap :)

@SunniDae333

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks mate

@user-re5rk4uu4t

3 жыл бұрын

Ty

@sarang8207

3 жыл бұрын

Tenks

@blowerofcucks8130

3 жыл бұрын

All I can think of is the It is what it is meme

“The past makes you wanna die out of regret and the future makes you depressed out of anxiety. So by elimination, the present is likely the happiest time." - Hachiman Hikigaya.

@DaRoachDoggJrr

3 жыл бұрын

Never heard that one, that’s good

@Nekro715

3 жыл бұрын

Never thought I'd see an Oregairu quote in a Dr. K video

@ejej_shej7958

3 жыл бұрын

8man tho

@TheHardestCombatter

3 жыл бұрын

Love that!

@llewodcm20

3 жыл бұрын

For real. The past for me is all my shameful memories bundled up into a random recall. My brain doesn't want to remember good things

I honestly believe this should be part of the standard education, there's so many things we don't learn about how we work as humans

@branchy1186

3 жыл бұрын

because its not relevant at all to the average human

@a1r592

3 жыл бұрын

@@branchy1186 anxiety's a human emotion how isn't it?

@Niaxe111

3 жыл бұрын

Because school is just there to condition us to work and how to shut the hell up

@Yes-xn8du

3 жыл бұрын

@@branchy1186 the average human literally has been experiencing stuff like anxiety since existence. It’s primal

@Purplesquigglystripe

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of these things are hidden as lessons in fiction.

I gotten so good at avoiding everything that makes me anxious that the pandemic barely made an affect on my life

@Hyouseff

3 жыл бұрын

damn so true

@7kx_z506

3 жыл бұрын

TRUEE

@georgewithey1689

3 жыл бұрын

bro this hit deep

@thegodofmemes3351

3 жыл бұрын

gratz you then!

@mattwagnone3498

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I only leave my house to go to work

anxiety and procrastination are cousins

@manishprasad1298

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is so damn true

@newcoolvid27

3 жыл бұрын

Hey what a coincidence, I'm procrastinating right now Wait I'm procrastinating all the time help

@lilbuilderman2011

3 жыл бұрын

Generally I procrastinate while being held hostage by anxiety.

@randomisedrandomness

3 жыл бұрын

Dr K. made a video about procrastination, and indeed one of the 3 types is procrastination where you are anxious about a situation, so you put off dealing with it as much as possible, because focusing on the present by ignoring the situation is easier than confronting it.

@bw8696

3 жыл бұрын

Lol that profile pic. Why am I not surprised to see Satou in the comment section?

My anxiety predicts EVERY possible thing that can go wrong and when something does go wrong my anxiety goes "see, told you something bad would happen"

@forformgamer

3 жыл бұрын

But whenever something goes right, it never shows up to say: "Sorry G, I fucked up there... My bad!"

@MrGreendayzed

3 жыл бұрын

@@forformgamer no that's when the worst stuff happens because something good did.

@sharp7j

2 жыл бұрын

Thats anxiety is evil and hard to get rid of.

@franacha

2 жыл бұрын

@@forformgamer Whenever something goes right, it is life preparing to crush you even more, it's just life giving you some extra bit of hope so whatever bad thing will happen next will hurt extra

@brennam954

2 жыл бұрын

@@franacha lol this sounds so sarcastic when you put it like that, and yet anxiety really do be like that. On a subconscious level, I always do feel that when something goes unexpectedly well, that it was a one-off and not memorable because I have too much evidence/memory of "bad stuff" happening that I expect mostly bad stuff to come next. Becomes self-perpetuating and makes you unable to appreciate the good stuff, or even the normal everyday nonchaotic stuff.

Anxiety goes away when I distract myself. Problem is the most distracting things are often the least productive.

Excited to listen to this. Anxiety been off the roof recently.

@ejej_shej7958

3 жыл бұрын

Hey it's megamind!

@gooberreboog1755

3 жыл бұрын

Its cool to see you watch this

@themanhimself436

3 жыл бұрын

TriDance

@Smashologist

3 жыл бұрын

Oh shit Omni you fuck with Dr.K too? Nice!

@DareToShine

3 жыл бұрын

Same man. Gotta say this was on point.

One thing I noticed is that if you have self esteem issues, "facing your fears" won't work very well and might make things worse, speaking from personal experience I used to have (still do but its a bit better now) social anxiety and low self-esteem, which meant I avoided a lot of situations and in the rare instance where I couldn't or actually faced my fears and it didn't go very well, I beat myself up for it because of my low self esteem, which made things even worse for the future. So I think before being able to fix anxiety and face your fears to build confidence in unkown situations, you need to learn how to be nice to yourself and tell yourself that your doing the best you can in order to stop beating yourself up. Please comment and let me know what you think Im still learning a lot myself on how to deal with this.

@Kyrmana

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, one way to combat anxiety is by regaining your trust in yourself.

@ruhmankhalid6675

3 жыл бұрын

yea man, I trip over my own foot time and times again, and I started being ungrateful, cynical and felt as if I was the unluckiest of all.

@christosioannou2781

3 жыл бұрын

That's true and false in my experience. You would need an initial base of learning about yourself and coping with your feelings and emotions but I feel you can never become a master at that without some real life experiences. Real life experiences would put you in nasty situations where the coping mechanisms and self acceptance you've been learning gains a sense of meaning, and therefore is more strongly imprinted in your personality and transitions from a technique you saw online to a habit. Conversely the more you practice self acceptance and coping strategies the more you fuel your willingness to try out things and pursue your desires in spite of inhibitions. So I don't think it's one first then the other, I would start with a good foundation on self acceptance and coping, and start mixing in some action at your own pace. Best of luck

@andrewjastrom1885

3 жыл бұрын

As someone that experinces this in a very similar way, it all makes sense now.

@user-cp2vg7gn1h

3 жыл бұрын

I can't stress enough how right you are. This is exactly what worked for me

Anxiety can literally come from nothing which is the situation for me. I can get out of bed and instantly feel it. It comes and goes for me.

@HjbProductions

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, except its a near constant for me.

@RythmicWuna

3 жыл бұрын

I understand and struggle with it daily. But for me, its intensity depends whether i slept and woke up in time, been productive or not. Sometimes i am sure that the reason is because the fact that i oversleep is me being lazy and therefore it will impact my future.

@Iudicatio

3 жыл бұрын

It happens to me too. When Dr. K said study first thing in the morning when your mind is clear I thought "but what if your mind isn't clear first thing in the morning"

@alantorres8956

3 жыл бұрын

@@RythmicWuna : I also suffer from this as well man. Anxiety of also getting a good nights worth of sleep can lead to insomnia which means less energy. When I am not productive, it makes me feel like shit and worry.

@RythmicWuna

3 жыл бұрын

@@alantorres8956 Yeah it really heavily depends on whether your sleeping pattern is good or not sometimes

God, if I could go back and change my approach to life when I was a teenager, I would. I was the sort of person who shut myself off from the world because it was too stressful to deal with; a self-proclaimed 'loner'. Now, I'm 28 and any big life decision sends me spiralling out. Gotta undo like 15 years of negative thinking.

@GameHeadLanGuild

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in the same boat, it's one step at a time. Keeping a daily journal to track the little wins helped me a lot :)

@dostoyevskysdaughter3115

2 жыл бұрын

Are you me :(?

@brennam954

2 жыл бұрын

Same - I'm 29 and feel the same way and had a similar adolescence.

@AlissonWololo

2 жыл бұрын

Feel so hard change the way of thinking while thinking in a negative way (cultivated for years), its like a dog chasing his own tail. I hope one day i will catch it

@AtomizedMass

2 жыл бұрын

"undo 15 years of negative thinking" - I personally cannot "undo" it, but I stopped repeating the cylce. My attitude changed, and my perception of the past as well, and I feel like I'm starting to consciouly live my life. It's doable, never give up

In the end, a lot of those things boil down to "a fear of the unknown" with varying degrees of intensity

@jonasjasikevicius8780

3 жыл бұрын

Or you know what will happend, so you afraid

@hungrymusicwolf

3 жыл бұрын

Or inversely a lack of confidence in your ability of dealing with the consequence of the unknown danger.

@EggEnjoyer

3 жыл бұрын

@@jonasjasikevicius8780 *Think you know. Most of our anxiety is unfounded “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened” -Mark Twain

@MarieAvora

3 жыл бұрын

@@jonasjasikevicius8780 you know what might happen and you're not confident in your ability to deal with those circumstances - that's what the insecurity part is about!

@jonasjasikevicius8780

3 жыл бұрын

@@MarieAvora tai apie tai ir šneku

He is 100% right, I just got a job, and it’s not difficult but it’s very complicated And Everytime before I go to work, like 5 hours before, that whole time I’m SHAKING from anxiety, I’m so anxious I can’t sleep I can’t do shit, then I get to work, and I’m completely calm the entire 12 hour shift, it’s insane, it’s like once you get to that anxious point, your Brain thinks, “oh, shit naw we good” but then the next day again I’m extremely anxious and feel like I forgot everything and I’m gonna get fired The cold pool example is PERFECT, I freak the hell out and refuse to get into a cold pool, but then once I jump in, I’m good

It's hard to calm down the anxiety when all you can hear in your work is: "that isn't enough", "you're not enough"

@Anteaterman23

3 жыл бұрын

This goes back to the idea of insecurities. It might be beneficial for you to reach out and sign up for therapy (maybe even the HealthyGamer program) to try and work on your own confidence and sense of self-value. I can guarantee you that you are enough; it's just about trying to convince your brain to realize that too.

@kindasomeviews

2 жыл бұрын

when you hear folks like that, a way to go about it is saying "just because you say it doesnt mean it's true" or "easy to say, not as easy to prove" and i'd recommend the program too

that's so comforting when hearing you say "generally speaking, the smarter you are, the worse your anxiety is"

when i think about anxiety, I imagine being Dr Strange simulating all the possibilities. Except we don't have the cognitive capacity to process all the outcomes, and the emotions just take over

I wish we had a course in school where we learnt about emotions, their workings and how to deal with them. Understanding them is a huge step forward.

@raghavadoregowda2191

8 ай бұрын

I don't have any hope for this to happen in our society even though it's so important

i just realized that all this time i've been making my anxiety worse, this video really helped, thank you.

@joeswanson5520

3 жыл бұрын

Make sure to change your habits because you are your habits

I would love to learn more about how to build confidence.

@Xygif

3 жыл бұрын

Fake it 'till you make it

@4xzx4

3 жыл бұрын

@@Xygif Lol no. Building confidence is about overcoming hardships instead of avoiding them, like Dr. K told in the video. =^)

@arezpirveceani

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty much overcoming fear of something and having courage to do what you fear. To face uncertainty. Confidence isn't about being successful, it's failing and knowing you're okay. These points are from Dr.K's interview with QTcinderella which was about building confidence, so check that out if you want.

@Self-kn4ez

3 жыл бұрын

@@arezpirveceani yea, confidence is a skill.

@arezpirveceani

3 жыл бұрын

@@Self-kn4ez 100%. Takes a lot of time to build and there are absolutely gonna be setbacks. But as cliche as it sounds, don't give up.

It's so weird seeing him do an intro now.

As a newly-promoted chef I just had to fire my first person today. God damn my anxiety was off the charts

@yaboyradish3072

3 жыл бұрын

There's a first for everything, you'll get used to it eventually. I hope you're not feeling any guilt for it, u mostlikely had a good reason for firing the person.

@inferno7289

3 жыл бұрын

Good job on becoming a chef, dude!

- Jump into the activity / be present / focus on the present. Fear of the act is generally far worse than the actual act itself - Face insecurities to gain experience and build confidence, otherwise, you never get good and get even more anxious

This is something I have struggled with for years so please keep going with this one until the end I would really appreciate it!

This has helped a tremendous amount, you've made it so clear to me what anxiety really is on a basic level

Bloody hell! That has to be the single most brilliant video I've watched this year! Good job Doc!

You are amazing, I have to watch these a couple times to really make myself start practicing, but they really help.

Idk how you timed this so perfectly but I needed to hear this Dr.K, thank you!!!

I was just watching another video of yours. Thanks for helping us, it means a lot to so many of us 💓

So being present and overcoming the challenge in question WHILE feeling anxiety (it's part of the challenge, thus will build confidence). Makes a heck of a lot of sense honestly - and I'm saying this as someone with very high anxiety.

Thank you so much. I absolutely needed this I thought I was losing my mind. Understanding what anxiety is is SOOOO helpful. Thank you

Thank you so much for this, Dr. K! I’ve been struggling with anxiety my entire life, especially with trust issues since middle school. This video really helped me navigate my path towards defeating that anxiety. Looking forward to your future videos!!😄

When I was a teenager, I wrote something along these lines in my journal: "Intelligence hurts. Sufferings prompts thoughts." (What I didn't write down, but was meant implicitely: thinking makes one smarter, thus closing the positive feedback loop of my misery)

@al8-.W

11 ай бұрын

As I watch the rest of the video I'm having new ideas to share here. The best coping strategy I ever found for myself for dealing with anxiety is similar to your suggestion of living in the present. Actually, if I get a chance to isolate myself, or even better, if I'm at home, I'll just imagine that nothing in the workd exists beyond the borders of the room I'm currently in. I really make an effort to create a coherent world out of what lies around me. For this to work, I need to assume that needs such as eating, drinking, etc... no longer exist because otherwise it would imply that there needs to exist something in the room to sustain those needs. This exercice is very radical at killing every single worrying thoughts that I might have and I sometimes find myself using it while lying in bed when I can't sleep. I can go as far as imagining that nothing beyond the bed exists, which in the end is probably a classic meditation technique, just introduced in a different way.

@euthyphro8064

5 ай бұрын

I think proactively looking for ways to improve your well-being would be a good thing to do. I think you have already been doing this to some degree if you are meditating and watching videos on managing anxiety.

Time to time, I come here to listen to your anxiety episodes, they’ve been a major help and calm me immensely, though I had a quick comment, I know even exercise can be so beneficial to relieving stress and reduce anxiety and games (while they can be bad) help focus to the task at hand. I’ve been finding that playing Beat Saber being a mixture of virtual reality immersing and exercise has been super helpful. though all in all thank you for your video helps me understand anxiety and just hearing over and over that anxiety cannot exist if you are in the present is so reassuring.

I had some doubts and felt like I was overlooking something regarding my habit of overthinking so I never associated anxiety with myself but this gave me so much clarity. Thanks a lot!

Amazingly laid out and presented. Extremely enlightening. Thank you

This actually really explains why I feel some anxiety from trying to learn piano. I started playing it a week ago. One thing I feel anxiety about is the possibility of failing. I'm afraid of failure, or not being able to play as good as I want to. After watching this interview though, I think I learned something else that gives me anxiety about learning to play piano. The brain is automatically wired to make you think of any possible outcomes that could involve you making a mistake or feeling bad so you can avoid it. That explains why I'm afraid to learn piano because it's something new and my brain doesn't recognize it subconsciously as something I can perform well at yet so my brain tries to get me to avoid it. I've been trying to look at learning to play piano from a 3rd person perspective and see how it could benefit me to learn it in the future instead of just looking at possible fail futures, and how much more confidence I will gain from learning to play my first instrument efficiently. I've honestly been benefiting a lot from watching these interviews and short talks and have been applying the lessons to my mindset towards myself and life in general. I appreciate the positive information and motivation!

@Chizuru94

3 жыл бұрын

I have the same thing with guitar (and everything else I'm interested in), so I dream of being good with it, but never give myself the chance to do anything, even though that's a guaranteed failure D: It's super awful. But I also have a whole lot more on my plate in life (as everyone has, I know ;) ), so that doesn't help as well. Either way, I wish you a lot of success with the piano stuff and am confident you can get better. Persistence is the key. Since doing nothing will only result in not getting anywhere (Weird how I can give others advice like this, but never ever apply it to me D:)

The overcompensation and avoidance part resonated with me. I don't realize sometimes when I'm apologizing for no reason and sometimes I avoid difficult things. The ironic part is doing the difficult thing or refusing the urge to apologize is the best solution for building the confidence necessary to overcome anxiety. I also think a lot of us with anxiety don't realize it's a maladaptive coping mechanism and we tell ourselves "My anxiety got me to where I am today" it's almost like a drug because you know it's bad for you yet it grants you some success/happiness in life when you reach your goals.

Thank you! Great video from someone who suffers from anxiety and currently getting professional help with it. This covers a lot of what I have learned. It'll be nice to have a follow-up video on some of the common techniques to cope and manage anxiety.

What an incredible video , especially the second half. Overcoming struggle = building self-esteem, therefore buildng confidence n facing anxiety

it's astounishing how close this represents my experience. I am very thankful for the understanding you gave me and I will do my best to conquer my anxieties.Thanks Dr.K oh and hope y'all have success with yours!

Watching these videos as a person who does not suffer from anxiety, it makes me realise that I have experienced plenty of anxiety in the past (predominantly in my teenage years), and that I experienced it less and less as I gained confidence, and that I gained confidence by facing uncertain situations and seeing them through, just like Dr. K said. I just wonder how possible it is to gain confidence once you're over a certain age, I have friends who still suffer from anxiety and I feel like it's harder to gain confidence the longer you live with insecurities.

@justpiddlinalong621

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like the longer you live with something the more it’s cemented in your head “I can’t change, I am the way I am” anyone is able to change no matter what age. You just need to actually do it and believe that you will actually eventually come out the other side

My friend just shared this video with me and it is stellar. I appreciate how concise the message is and how clearly it was delivery. Fantastic teacher.

Legit one and only therapist that has said and explained things in a way that was helpful to me!!! Been in therapy for almost 8 years, too.

This is why I'm always on my phone. I have to watch stuff to distract myself...

@Shubham-vr5ye

3 жыл бұрын

Same but now I realize that its wrong way to deal with it.. Anxiety will not leave us until we overcome our insecurities and focus on present events..By distracting ourself we can only delay this feeling but never get rid of it

@nottoday3561

2 жыл бұрын

@@Shubham-vr5ye can't get rid of it anyways

After watching this video i felt really cool realizing that my thoughts on anxiety that i have been developing since i started getting it match with what a professional would say about it, made me feel reassured, thanks dr. k.

This is so helpful and clear! Please make more of this. Thank you!

This is fantastic. All of the videos I’ve seen from you actually help me unlike others on KZread that aren’t as specific and are so vague when talking about things like anxiety and such. They also don’t provide a solution just what causes it while you make it so easy to understand.

Him:"The smarter you're, the worse your anxiety is" Me: I see this as an absolute win!!

Even though I really enjoyed the mental health bootcamp series, I absolutely understand the need for this mini lecture series As always thank you for doing so much for our community dr k

Thank u so much Dr.K! This was very useful and i needed to hear this

I just started getting tension headaches that are a result of me not dealing with this issue for years. Thank you for the concise and clear explanation towards the end. This is more helpful than the few therapists I've tried to talk to.

I've always had anxiety but when COVID hit during my first year of law at college I have been a mess. Been doing ok recently, to see this in my feed was such a relief. Thanks for the help Dr. K.

@jujuwen6

3 жыл бұрын

COVID hit during my second year of law and I understand how hard it is with insecurities of balancing your academics and job apprehension in the legal sector :/

@EpicPrawn

3 жыл бұрын

You two are studying law, which is a noble and awesome thing to get into as an academic path. As a stranger who merely browses the lawyer side of KZread as a hobby, I want to applaud both of you for sticking to it.

You explain it and break it down so well. It feels nice to see a visual too.

"You don't get anxious in a competitive videogame". Oh Dr. K, I absolutely am. Nervous, anxious, hands shiver. If there's a player ship on the horizon in Sea of Thieves then panic breaks out. But this actually proves your point. I can't play PvP games for this reason, unless I developed a confidence in my skills. But since I avoid these games, I rarely develop the confidence. So exactly what you said. I almost never understand these comparisons with real life and videogames, but I think they were just poorly explained. But your explanation kinda speaks to me, I have to think about that.

I've been unemployed for two of the four years since graduation. When I work, or face the unknown in general, I struggle with a lot of anxiety and fear of failure. When I hide in my room, I struggle with the anxiety of people's judgement, so when I withdraw from interactions I drown in crippling depression. Pain seems to be inevitable for me, but I still prefer to hide for some reason.

yea this is a hard one. facing anxiety, especially in work-related scenarios is a big challenge for me. I think I'm overly kind when asking for something from someone else. Even if they agree to do something for me, I usually ask again if they are okay with it at some point. I guess I can try to take that first approval and roll with it. It will be uncomfortable, but it might help me develop some more confidence.

So helpful, thank you Dr K! I have been anxious almost all my life, and your approach has been the first really solid solution I have seen, that directly addresses the issue.

this was honestly the most mindblowing video on mental health i’ve ever seen! i love you man

This was helpful! I suffer from GAD, SAD, PD, Agoraphobia, and Depression so my confidence is low as im always anxious and sad. I'll try to be more confident n hopefully that'll help.

@shanekhalifa8781

3 жыл бұрын

Start on the easy stuff first

"never try never fail" I think I deal with anxiety by completely shutting down and staying in bed.

Thank you for helping with getting my anxiety. I know how to move forward and win in life now

Thank you, I needed this.

I hope that the very next chapter deals with confidence, cause it is the hardest step imo. I'm so afraid that I won't find a job or that I will do poorly at my job that I do not even try to find one and stay inert.

@kitcat2449

11 ай бұрын

Same here, it sucks :D I really like what I'm studying but I tend to be a perfectionist. It doesn’t help that the career I'm going after is male dominated so I'm worried that if I make a mistake I'm not only giving a bad example of myself but also of the minorities there. I feel like I'm responsibile for their reputation as well if that makes sense. In reality most people are probably understanding and we can always improve our skills but damn if it isn't hard to get that into our anxious brains.

My struggle with "develop confidence" is that I have a lot of examples from work where I've had great confidence in an ability and a manager will seem to go out of their way to point out some way in which I failed or was not as good as I thought I was. I'm not sure I've ever even had a manager compliment me explicitly for something I felt I was good at. Over the years it's just eroded my confidence in my abilities to where I question if I'm even good at the things I thought I was good at. My anxiety is basically the Thor 3 meme now. I'll be like "but I'm good at this thing" and here comes anxiety like "are you though?" It sucks. I know everyone always says you shouldn't rely on external validation, but it's also hard to break out of that place when you're perpetually starved for a bit of recognition. End of the day we're still social creatures who need a little connection from others on occasion.

@numanhussain6080

7 ай бұрын

Did you pass your probation? For many people this is the most validation you will get from your work place. If you passed then you are good enough, even if they identified many areas for improvement. Corporate America is very cold and will fire you if you weren't good enough

@LittleHobbit13

7 ай бұрын

@@numanhussain6080 I would appreciate you not trying to undermine the seriousness of my negative experiences at work by suggesting it's just some form of corporate tough love. And frankly, I disagree that "they didn't fire you" should be considered validation of ones efforts and abilities.

@euthyphro8064

5 ай бұрын

It sounds like you are saying you need some external validation and encouragement but are not getting it. I think that, in a general sense, feeling you need something that you do not have can be distressing. I am curious about whether external validation is a human need. I have tried out various things in my life, like changing the focus of my thoughts on what I want, trying meditative non-attachment, or seeing if there were different ways of thinking about it. I am not sure how successful or unsuccessful this has been. I think you are saying you are not treated fairly at your workplace. What I would think about if there are any steps you can take to improve your well-being

Thank you for helping me understand myself better. It was a really well put insight

Thanks so much for making these. It's like a bite sized stream with a lot of info to learn from.

What about anxiety without an apparent trigger? I have a generalised anxiety disorder and i usually get anxious for no apparent reason. When this happens, i get scared of the anxiety getting worse and turning into a panic attack, but the initial anxiety always comes out of nowhere.

@kitcat2449

11 ай бұрын

Not a doctor but when I have those types of anxiety attacks I just try to distract myself the best I can. I pet my cat, I talk to someone, I look at memes, I draw, play a game, listen to music, eat something good etc. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I later noticed that even places and smells can be triggers, probably something subconscious

I don't know if Dr, K will see this but, I've been dealing with crippling anxiety for my entire life, and while I have made a lot of progress before this video, watching this made me understand fully what is happening. I broke down in tears, I couldn't believe how much of the anxiety melted away just from understanding this. I have been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks 24/7 even when I'm alone (which I am most of the time) Seriously crippling anxiety. Thank you so much, I wish that I could do more to show how thankful I am.

@kitcat2449

11 ай бұрын

I'm so happy to hear his videos are helping people to understand themselves better ❤

@m3kbeatz

11 ай бұрын

I am the same. How u dealing with it?

I never really thought about it that way, trying to eliminate uncertainty and control the future. Often this leading us to suffering worse overall, not participating in things, not growing in confidence. This video was incredibly enlightening to me, thank you so much.

Dr K, watching your videos really make me feel so good about myself. Like A LOT. THANKS.

What I feel everytime I'm anxious about doing something and I actually do it, is that things aren't as bad as I thought they'd be. But everytime that I'm anxious I forget about that and everything's gonna go wrong and I'm terrified. Meditation and being present does help, if I can manage to stop identifying with anxious thoughts, but I get swept up with anxiety some time later. I will try facing my anxieties more and build confidence but I think it will be a long journey.

@zachmookes2615

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

wow man that's a really good and useful video, but its so hard to actually be confident

Great video! So helpful... I'm a survivor of trauma and my house was recently broken into by my neighbors and I'm going through rough times with my partner who plan to help me make the house more secure. Anxiety ho!!! And panic attacks and intrusive thoughts and constant ruminating that the house is certainly currently, right this second, getting broken into a second time. This video really help break it down. I think what I always got stuck on before was the "be present" but that anxiety part of my mind was like well if I'm present then I'm not planning for the possibilities of the future, which as you point out Dr K is the healthy purpose of anxiety. The way you explain it I think it made a lot more sense that it's not avoiding thinking about the future entirely, just not ruminating on it and developing the confidence to trust that I can handle any situation that arises even if it is unfavorable. Thanks

Thanks Dr. K, I always come back to your videos when I am dealing with mental struggles

I would love to hear more on the topic of health anxiety. Often times its hard to compare it to social circumstances.

@thektorMK1

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@tiddlypom2097

3 жыл бұрын

I have both. I think the fundamental points are the same though: - focus on the present - develop confidence in your ability to handle circumstances Also I don't know if you've seen Dr K's most recent stream (2021-05-11) but it somewhat covers fear of decay (including physical)

@marniehibotelho511

5 күн бұрын

I have had health anxiety for years and can't seem to get it under control, nor can any doctor. Every med they give me, I can't take. The med I'm on now doesn't work anymore so now what?

Anxiety used to cripple me a lot, now I keep the bastard in check with a wim hoff's breathing and meditation combo

@raderT90

3 жыл бұрын

wim hoff's breathing and meditation? I haven't heard of that before. Does it really help? How long before you can tell the difference?

@Ludovit110

3 жыл бұрын

@@raderT90 I've done the breathing exercise only twice, but I'd say (so far) instantly.

@RanOvaT

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you

This video should be watched by so many people. Thank you for sharing this awesome info Dr. K!

Thank you for everything you're doing. I really appreciate it. Hope you happiness.

I've had so much anxiety that I developed Derealization symptoms and sometimes I'm really not sure I will recover from all this. So I'm hoping this will help. Thank you for what you do!

@jon477

3 жыл бұрын

My confidence is often stable but sometimes especially recently it gets really low to a point, where I even avoid talking to people, because I know my low mood and decreased confidence will influence any interactions negatively. It's a bad loop.

@tracker9094

3 жыл бұрын

I recovered from it using a dpnomore guide

@Amanda-qi6ei

2 жыл бұрын

The same for me. :0/

im certain that you hear this on a daily basis, but I appreciate the work you are doing. you are the most kind person we have in our community. please do not ever stop what you are doing.

What I have always had was approach anxiety, which I have mistaken for social anxiety in the past. I have worked on overcoming my approach anxiety for about 10 years, and a lot of my motivation stemmed from the pick up chick videos right here on KZread. After a certain point, I made it a game in my mind by flipping the script allowing my goal to actually be getting rejected. For instance, if I get rejected, I win the bet in my mind, and if I get their number, I win by adding a new potential new date contact to my phone. I have converted anxiety into a competitive game for myself in which I get a 'high' every time I flirt with a chick.

When i played league of legends, i always played the normal game mode because, the ranked game mode gave me anxiety and i didn't want to lose my elo (even though it was silver), then i started overpreparing myself only playing normal modes till i thought i was good enough to play ranked lmao

This was very helpful to listen to as somebody who deals with paralyzing anxiety. Thanks Dr K.

I appreciate these quick videos, thank you

I just cracked a joke and when I was met by silence, I immediately apologised even though the joke wasn't probably offensive.

Sometime I wish I could just plug into the matrix, so that I don't have to deal with my realistic/probable future...Life is just exhausting often, having to keep up with school, jobs, family, personal stuff, etc.

Amazingly helpful video and insight to a problem that I just managed to identify. I always thought I was just lazy and like to procrastinate but this procrastination has been causing anxiety and this anxiety is making me procrastinate even more. So, before the whole thing explodes, I'm lucky to be able to identify this problem and work on solving it one by one) Thanks Dr K..

This was such an informative ,well- organized-video. Keep it up Dr.k, thank you so much for what you do.

Feels like I'm in a lecture hall listening to Dr.K delivering his lesson on this topic.

This man read me like a book

This is helping me through the last two weeks of my first semester at college. Much appreciated.

Even from the get go your definition of anxiety surprises me, i never saw it in that way. Really grateful for your videos dr. k

Im the President of a Computer Science student org, and dr k's content helped me get our of my depression. Every week I show this videos to all my members and we watch them together because I know this is good for my students. :)

‘The smarter you are the more you experience anxiety”. Not necessarily true. If someone is more attuned to negative emotion, this can account for increased symptoms of anxiety.

@gwayav9

3 жыл бұрын

It's the diff. between correltion and causation. Being smart doesn't make you anxious. Being anxious doesn't mean you're smart. What he says is that the smarter you are, the higher chances you have to be anxious. For example, imagine two people equally attuned to negative emotions, the smarter one will have higher chances to be more anxious.

This was incredibly helpful. Im now realizing most of the terrible decisions I've made in my life have been directly the result of overcompensating because of my anxiety.

This video was very helpful, thankyou. It really seems like you know what you are talking about or even experience anxiety too!

I was about to take a xanax because my anxiety and stress are through the roof. I watched this, and calmed down. Great work!

@DarkLordAli95

3 жыл бұрын

your doctor gives you xanax to take when you're just feeling anxious? lol lucky... doctors here would only prescribe benzos for people that get serious panic attacks.

I'm having a lot, A LOT of anxiety right now as I type this to the point where I feel helpless. I feel like there's no escape. So much so that what I initially thought I wanted I don't know if I want that anymore. How do I know what I actually want compared to the anxiety that tricks me? Especially when the situations I have to decide on are so ambiguous. I don't know what to do, I have to decide whether to stay home and do university or leave home and go to a different university with accommodation. But the main thing isn't even University I just think that going to another place may make me feel less lonely as I'll be forced to meet new people. I have people back home but I still feel lonely. I don't know what to do it ain't really about university it's more to do with the freedom of being able to socialise better. But I have no idea if moving will make my life better, worse or it won't be that much different to staying home. Time is running out and I keep on looking at my clock and I feel helpless. I often think of suicide cos the feeling is sooo much. I've just done my first year ALL online cos of covid and it was so boring and bad. I'm so alone. I did my first year at home cos I thought if by the end of the year things get better we'll actually have a normal first year and if I like it I can't stay home. But that didn't happen we just stayed online. No one can help me, and I feel helpless. I don't know what to do. If I feel like I make the wrong decision i.e. what choice has the best outcome? And choosing wrong will result in me being more depressed and lonely which I don't want. I'm breaking down and I'm lost.

@tiddlypom2097

3 жыл бұрын

Call a help line to talk with someone if you're having suicidal thoughts. I was really depressed when I was in my late teens and early 20s, and 20 years later I'm so glad I didn't kill myself back then. I'm not saying it's all sunshine and roses, but there's plenty of good stuff. Even for us introverted, socially anxious people. Honestly my fears have always been overblown, and watching Dr K's streams have really helped me see how to untangle that stuff.