Literally the best mum in the world.

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

FACT!

@sophiee9329

10 жыл бұрын

AND she's got the hottest sons. :)

@KatieLouise

10 жыл бұрын

very brave!

@marksaid6587

10 жыл бұрын

You really have someone to be proud of! Made me well up.

@tiff1761

10 жыл бұрын

What a brave, strong woman!

Love you Judy xx

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

Hey TB, didn't mum do well! She didn't sleep the night before we filmed this.

@pobstrel

10 жыл бұрын

pixiwoo She did brilliantly. A hard story to tell but an important well. She spoke very eloquently without sounding bitter. Well done to her x

@MissAmyBaybie

10 жыл бұрын

pixiwoo Your mum is so inspiring

Bless the whole family. You're all angels.

@Nicola.Chapman

8 жыл бұрын

+Leah Brynne Thank you.x

Hi Sam and Nic, and Mum! Thank you for this video. I felt it deeply as a Mum myself. You may not see this comment but I wanted to tell you that I became disabled in April 2008 from a medical mistake done in A&E (ER where I am in Canada). I discovered your Pixiwoo channel several years ago and it became a godsend to me. I cannot do anything, I lie flat everyday in the dark with ice all over my head for 6-8 hours. I can't read anymore or do activities with my children, even eating and sleeping are difficult. I've lost my friends because of it. (I wrote you a long letter about this in 2012 but I don't know if you ever read it). Anyway, once I found your videos, I had something to look forward to and something to do rather than just lie and stare at wall. I have watched as your success has taken off exponentially and I have seen how talented your whole family is. Watching you with your Mum is always a pleasure and in this video, your bond with her comes shining through. I like to think that though my story is different from your Mums, that I am still creating that bind with my children despite being knocked down in the prime of my life. Health is precious and not realized enough until it's gone I guess. A big thank you for sharing this personal story. It really touched me in so many ways. ((Hugs))

@lovespin4854

10 жыл бұрын

while my situation is different from yours and your Mums, that I am still creating that same bond with my children despite being knocked down in the prime of my life. I was 35 when this happened to me, 42 now. Watching you with your Mum is always a pleasure and this one was extra special. Thank you for sharing your personal story, it touched me in many ways. Your whole family is inspiring and became that way in the face of adversity. I can only hope that my family can continue to persevere as well and come out the other side as close as you all are. ((Hugs))

@MadsDiamond

9 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about your disability, you're right, this family have SO much talent! I hope all of these youtubers give you positivity! x

@aussangel11

9 жыл бұрын

I hope that you find more things that you enjoy like this channel good luck for the future! 😊

@NareHovakimyan

7 жыл бұрын

Sending you lots of love and strength (which it sounds like you already have :))

@AnotherMisfitToy

7 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your disability, I hope this channel is still bringing you joy and that things are getting better for you

Thank you so much for all your comments. We have read every one of them. xx

@OhLovelyBeauty

10 жыл бұрын

great video! and a great way of showing people there is a way out of domestic violence!! you can just tell that your mum is a strong lady who has raised four amazing children xxxx

@leandrajuliana3260

10 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, what a woman! much love for all of you. you've got a really, really beautiful family♥️!

@Spacecow17

10 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. It's really hard for some people to open up to others, especially with tough major sensitive topics as this one. Your mother is one strong woman.

@fillupthesky

10 жыл бұрын

such an important story to tell. I'm sure this has reached someone in an abusive relationship and given them courage and hope. your mom is so wonderful. as a survivor of domestic violence myself, she's given me a new sense of understanding of my own struggle. thank you for putting this out there.

@Foofie2005

10 жыл бұрын

Your Mom is so Lovely And Very Brave !! She obviously did an amazing job raising you guys. Just knowing you from watching you and your brothers videos, you all seem so nice ! The type of people I would be Very Happy to have as friends :-) !! I'm sure that this segment will be helpful and inspiring to someone in a similar situation. Thank you for sharing something so personal with all of us. Hugs,Stacy

This was such an amazing video, your mum is so strong for doing this, it needs to be talked about so much more than it has been in the past, its shocking how many people it happens to, much love to you all!

@berglindk1076

10 жыл бұрын

Just watched your video yesterday Sammi, it almost made me cry. So glad to hear people sharing their stories, it can't be easy

@KangInSoon808

10 жыл бұрын

I sooooo thought of you watching this. I was gonna try to "send" it to you. Both stories are stories of courage and bravery to leave a bad situation.

@LilMissSunshinexoxo1

10 жыл бұрын

I agree with Sammi, it's so brave of your mum to speak so openly about this topic. Both women and men need to be aware, this can happen to anyone xx

@hippyh24

10 жыл бұрын

Xxx

@Amatullah_1

10 жыл бұрын

I thought of you too throughout this whole video and just saw your comment now. People that have been commenting on your video saying you're lying should watch this. Im sure its not easy to up and leave. This lady lived with it for years. I'm glad you didn't waste any more of your precious years living with that crazy guy.

I've came here from the documentary about KZreadrs and I just want to say that I am so so sorry you all had to go through that! Massive respect and hugs to you all xxx

@roisindunne729

8 жыл бұрын

Same !!the docomentary that Jim was hosting 😂

@ellanewhall7765

8 жыл бұрын

Same

@JTMBHD

8 жыл бұрын

Same!

@mollyfox1005

8 жыл бұрын

Same

@Jenzzyuk

8 жыл бұрын

+Aimee-leigh x I'm doing the same thing

When Nic was talking about how she just never knew your family was different I just burst into tears. I was exactly the same! I thought everyone lived the way we did. My father was never, that I know of, physically abusive. However he was extremely emotionally abusive to my mother, brother and I. I can see so much of my mum in your beautiful mother, she gave us the choice to see him and be around him and never spoke a bad word of him. When you were referring to the 'atmosphere' and the tension that you felt being near him it just took me back to so many times my father would walk into the room and we'd all stiffen up a bit and feel sick in the stomach. Please hug your mum for me and thank her for sharing her story. Domestic violence comes in so many forms and only now as an adult I have realised just how it has shaped me as a person. I hope anyone out there who is going through this knows that they are not alone and that there is help for you

@Nicola.Chapman

9 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your comment Bec it was a hard thing my my mum to share but I think it will hopefully help slot of people. I will give her a extra hug from you. Nic x

Over six years ago I fleed an abusive marriage that was forced upon me when I was 17 and recently I started doubting my decision wondering whether I made the right choice. After watching this video it has reassured me that I did do the right thing. Thank you

@sunnyshine2435

10 жыл бұрын

You definitely did the right thing. Sending you love and peace. You're amazing, don't ever forget that. xo

@Sara-kb9lo

7 жыл бұрын

thamina25 You did the right thing. You are so brave.

Thank you so much for all your lovely comments, I said to my girls I thought I would be going out wearing a disguise, but thanks to all your kind and positive comments........Im walking with my head held high. Thanks

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

ModernandMature Well done mum, we are very very proud of you. I told you it would be fine and I hope that you feel positive now that it's over. Love you so much. xxxx

@tazzy191

10 жыл бұрын

You're an amazing woman, so strong and so beautiful. I feel horrible that you had to go through all of that because you're such a kind individual. Whenever you would make an appearance on Sam or Nic's videos, I'd get so excited! I truly admire you and your grace. :)

@lapauvresse9790

10 жыл бұрын

You can walk with your head high! You're so brave, and your girls (i'm sure your boys too) love you tremendously and really look up to you, I can tell. I don't know you and I look up to you. I have nothing to tell you but "right on!!!"

@arielfeasts

10 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Judy, have been following your whole family here on youtube from the start and your love for one another truly translates on screen. Your story sharing is a gift and will no doubt help others out there right now. Love you to all!

@sacredsiren

10 жыл бұрын

Keep your head held high! There is no shame in sharing a story like this, it can only help people! Watching Nic and Sam and Jim here on youtube, and seeing what a beautiful family you have, I never would have imagined that this was a part of their story. You are an amazingly strong woman for having the courage to leave that situation, and your children are a testament to the wonderful job you did raising them. Hopefully hearing your story might speak to women in DV situations, and will show them there is light at the end of the tunnel if they decide to leave. Thank you for having the courage to make this video!

Your Mom is absolutely stunning, and truly inspirational. Thanks for sharing something very personal. You're a true inspiration.

@smckinsey2001

9 жыл бұрын

How brave of you girls for wanting to speak about it. It hurt my heart to hear and see the pain that it brought to you. I sat here in tears right with you. Sending you all great big hugs of support!

Your mum is the strongest woman I have ever heard of. God bless her.

@charlottecowley8270

8 жыл бұрын

i know right

@HeidiRoberts

10 жыл бұрын

Well done Judy, its good to tell your story. Xxx

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

Heidi Roberts Thanks Heidi. Bless her, she really didn't want to do this. x

@TawnyC

10 жыл бұрын

As a child of domestic violence, I thank you for sharing your story. You have such a strong, classy mother, and I admire her strength to leave. Y'all are going God's work with this video. God Bless you all.

@TerrieJohnson731

10 жыл бұрын

I am a DV survivor. Thank you for your story.

@MissSarahAshleigh

10 жыл бұрын

That was lovely. Your Mom is incredible. You are very lucky.

I just watched this because I saw it come up in Jim's BBC doco. Your Mum is amazing. To come out the other side of that so strong and to have such a close knit loving family is truly fantastic. Mummy Judy, you are an inspiration. Such a difficult thing to talk about but you handled it so well. What a beautiful lady you are. Your children are testament to what a fantastic mother you are. LOVE all the Chapmans and extended family. Well done Sam and Nic xox Love to you all

Came here from Jim's documentary. . . didn't realise how much you'd been through. . . This topic needs more awareness and support. . . Good job ladies! x

@cerysffionhughes1981

8 жыл бұрын

Same

pixiwoo After watching the video yesterday and sleeping on it, I feel that I would like to add this… From the perspective of the ‘person’ who is the best friend of a victim, who day after day has to watch the abuse unfold, (frustrating and agonizing).... I knew that there was a strong person in Judy trying to escape but for all the reasons she stated, that person couldn’t get out because of all the years of brainwashing. I am a very feisty person and all I wanted to do was punch ‘him’ one, but I soon learn't that anything I said to him ended up with him taking out his hate for me on Judy. I had to tread very carefully indeed. I hated him but I never made it too obvious to him. He hated me too, but also didn't make it obvious. It was like a head on battle of strategy! I started with trying to build Judy’s confidence to counter act his dominance over her. Over a period of time, (about a year), she then began to see for herself that his behavior was totally unacceptable. Once her confidence grew, it reached a point where SHE said ‘stop’. It had to come from her, not me. That’s when I jumped in with her and we made a ‘wall’ and we stood our ground. This was when it became a war and got really nasty because he realized he was loosing control over her, which is what it is all about. It is not a quick process, so if you do have a friend who is suffering abuse, be patient and supportive and build on their confidence and wait until THEY are ready. Only then can you let the abuser ‘have it’. ‘Sometimes things have to get worse to get better’. Believe this…you Will be ok if you leave, it will be tough, but however tough it is, it is better than staying. Thank goodness things are easier now, there is help out there. Love xx

@khushsolanki

10 жыл бұрын

That is a great thing you said...Its true.

@beklee6910

10 жыл бұрын

Bless you, Heidi. Thank you Sam and Nic for uploading this video and to Judy for your bravery. Judy, Sam, Nic, John and Jim are a credit to you, your love and strength. I, too am a child of an abusive home, however my parents are still together (after 48 years - God only knows why). Thank you all for posting this video. Domestic violence, despite changes in recent years, is still treated like a dirty secret. In my experience, the shame of abuse taints the victims rather than the perpetrator. It is only through the bravery of people that will openly discuss domestic abuse, that the shame and stigma associated with it will begin to wane. Thank you all again xo

@barronsbooksnbaubles

10 жыл бұрын

You are a wonderful friend. XOXO.

@leslieanngallagher3894

10 жыл бұрын

God will bless you in ways you can't imagine in Heaven, Heidi. You are a blessed woman. Thank you. Like I said in my earlier comment....just ONE person can make the world of difference in abuse. I love ALL of you! I'm crying right now.....even years later from my experience. Thank God for those around us!

@pinkhornet8737

10 жыл бұрын

Thankyou Heidi. You are obviously a great friend. I have just been through supporting someone until they were ready to leave and making sure I was there when they did. It has been difficult because I had no control and yet cared deeply about those involved. The waiting, biting my tongue, was hard. Fortunately the process of leaving is begun.

Your mum is amazing, strong & brave! This video will definitely help so many others! Xx

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jordan.x

People don't realize the emotional abuse that accompanies physical abuse, she was so right when she said she had been brainwashed. Abusers are sneaky and start off slowly and get worse, it is so hard to realize when you are in the situation. It annoys me when it is portrayed in the media as being a normal happy relationship then suddenly someone hits you, it is rarely like that. I appreciate your mum & both of you choosing to open up about this subject. There needs to be more awareness and discussion about such topics.

girls i came from a family where domestic violence was a daily thing. it fucked up my life until I had children. My mother never left, but I have to say I begged her from the ages of 6 to leave and she never did. They are still together and even though the violence has stopped because they are old now I still think if he was able to he would still do it. Your mother is amazing and putting videos out there allows women to see the other side. Thank you for sharing this.

@whateveraeve

9 жыл бұрын

P.S I cried for this whole video

Opening up, bringing awareness and showing that it is not shameful is the beauty in this video.

@jenny12dog

10 жыл бұрын

Very well put, I agree.

As a family lawyer, I have so much respect for your mother for choosing not to denigrate your father to you (even though he deserved it). It is obvious to me that she truly loved you and your brothers and had your best interests at heart. She is a strong, beautiful, courageous woman. Thank you for sharing with us.

Message to the Mum: Just to clarify You did not leave the house with nothing, you left the house with you and your children alive and mostly intact. Seeing you on their channel with them brightens my day, especially for one reason -they (at least the pixiwoo's) have all inherited the way your personality turns into a star and a smile and comes from your eyes. It was an honor to hear your story, and thankyou for telling it.

Thank you for this very open and candid talk, it has helped me to understand my mother and her abusive relationship with my father. She is such a smart and strong woman, yet dealt with abuse thinking she deserved it and now sees herself stronger and more confident. This has helped me to understand her pain, her scars and her journey!

Awww your mum is so brave for being so open and honest. Tell her not to be embarrassed, there is no shame in protecting her family. It is the abuser who should be ashamed.

Your mum is a really wonderful person. My mum was in an abusive relationship as well. Before I was born with my brothers' dad, and with my father. She is the strongest person I know, never spoke ill of him because I was 3 when they seperated and she wanted me to have a father because her boys didn't have one. I never liked my father and never want to see him, he mentally abused me as well, but it always baffled me that my mum was so selfless. She didn't know I was being mentally abused, and when she first heard about it, she never made me go again unless I wanted to. Mothers (like yours and mine) are the strongest, most selfless and loving people that exist. I am so grateful for mine and I can imagine how grateful you are for yours. Maybe you can make a Tuesday Chat about fathers like ours and how it affected you two. I would find it very interesting. Thanks for this video. Best of luck to you and your wonderful mother and always make sure that she knows how proud you are of her, because the scars (especially mentally) remain. Thanks again.

@BrennaByrdx

10 жыл бұрын

Oh, I forgot. Thanks to my mum, I had the guts to get out of a bad relationship as well. I never told anyone about the abuse, but when my mum saw how he beat me up (and she gave him a taste of his own medicine), I knew I wasn't alone and that I could be strong as well since I have an awesome role model. It's funny and sad at the same time how history repeats itself. Thanks to her, I had the power to break the cycle.

Your father must feel like a right idiot, missing out on seeing his beautiful children flourish into amazing adults who all have hundred of thousands, going on millions of viewers all across the globe. you guys have such a strong, amazing family bonds x

who are the 49 persons who didn't liked this video? i don't understand why they didn't like a video about an amazing woman who carried her family no matter what and who was brave enought to get over an hard situation like this. I am not concerned about domestic abuse, but i hope that it will be the beginning of a light at the end of the tunnel for anyone who is suffering and think that no one is here for them. you are not alone, be strong.

Your mum is absolutely gorgeous. She is such a strong woman!

@lovetherain227

10 жыл бұрын

Both of you are incredibly strong as well!

So close to home ladies. Absolutely amazing video :) and Judy is so brave for telling her story. Thanks for this :) raising awareness is so important. AMAZING!

You darling girls and your beautiful mom. I'm in my early 50's now and my mother was in an abusive marriage for about 15 years. When you spoke of the tension running through your household, your journey through that time in your lives, it could have been my childhood you were describing. I want to thank your mom so much for giving some insight to what it was like as the adult in the abusive relationship. My mother passed away before she and I really talked about it. Who knew that you girls, a generation younger than me, your mom, a generation younger than mine, would live such similar lives. This topic is always close to my heart. Thank you, for sharing this part of your lives. It gives people knowledge and that, at the very least is what we should be doing.

I am just in awe of how your mother managed to endure what she did with such grace. Reminds me of the quote, "Strong women: may we know them, may we raise them, may we be them."

Clearly a wonderful woman with a beautiful family. Much love to you all.

it's amazing how you never know whats going in someones life and judge them by their looks. I would never be able to tell that. Its such and eye opener that we should not judge by look, you never know what they are dealing with in life and how patient and strong they are. You all are amazing people and i am so glad she finally talked about it and came to terms with it. Because they say you are not over with something until you are not able to talk about it. You all are strong strong women :)

@ZunairaSulman

10 жыл бұрын

wow i love you guys wayyyyy mooore now. Sam and Nic world needs more women like you

BIG THANKS AND MY HAT OFF TO YOUR MUM FOR SHARING HER STORY WITH ALL OF US!!! And you guys too!

@Nicola.Chapman

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks Karina.x

First of all Mom looks beautiful....and she is very bave to tell that story! I lived in that time where there was no knowledge of abuse or anywhere to go for help! Domestic violence was no acknowledged and considered your own problem! Bravo to you all! And hugs too! Xoxo CAROL

I am a man, I am a man, I am a man, I don't cry. *Grabbing box of tissues* oh bugger That was really inspirational which made me for the first ever time to leave a comment on your videos. You have an amazing mother like I do. My mother raised 5 of us and we have all graduated from University. My mum now lives abroad and seeing your mother and her story reminded me of my beautiful mother. Please give your mum the biggest of hugs from me and all of us watching the video xo

The only one ashamed of this should be your father. Keep your head high Mrs Chapman. A true inspiration to women allover! I've often wondered what the deal with your father was since you never spoke of him, but didn't want to ask as i sensed it wasn't something you wanted to talk about. See these fantastic kind and successful 4 children he's missing out on, not to speak of the wonderful grandchildren. I hope he's regretting his actions big time. Thank you for sharing this very private subject with us

@emmyedavis

10 жыл бұрын

Well said!

Hold your mother tight. Shower her with love. Be patient, be gentle, and always be kind. A mothers selflessness and strength to love and protect her children is limitless. Thank goodness she rid herself from such a monster. Heart breaking to watch her have to re visit her past. Love is patient, love is kind, love is not forceful, or boastful. Let's ingrain that to our children 🙏

Intellectual integrity: Defined as recognition of the need to be true to one's own thinking and to hold oneself to the same standards one expects others to meet. And after watching that video for the first time it is clear to see your mum is someone with incredible Intellectual integrity. Cheers to your brave brave Mum.

What an incredible family. Lots of love to you all x

Your mother is such a beautiful person and a much stronger woman because of what she went thru. What a lovely woman. Big hugs to her

Your mum is SO SO brave for coming on here and talking about it, even if it so many years after and all you beautiful children have grown up, it would still sting to talk about something like this. I personally admire her and your family for bringing this difficult topic up to the forefront, it should be talked about more often because this would NEVER be ok. xx

Ladies, you really do not know how much this video is appreciated...You will help more people than you know....Thank you...

This was such a brave thing to talk about Judy. Lots of love xx

Beauty Crush recently spoke about domestic violence in a last relationship and the comments on her video disgusted me. Mainly women telling her she should have kept it private, it's such a taboo subject that everyone wants to suppress. Victims should never have to keep quiet! I was also disheartened by how, publicly at least, no other KZreadrs supported or commended her. I think if people talk about illness people feel comfortable to remark how brave they are but when someone reveals they've been a victim of abuse people are almost too uncomfortable to acknowledge it. Everyone's attitudes need to change, it's a horrible thing victims must have to go through x

Your mom is one hell of a strong woman putting up with all she had to . Y'all have turned out to be such a tighter nit family.

What an amazingly strong family xx

@Nicola.Chapman

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you.x

It made me chuckle a little when Nic was describing the atmosphere and how it was strange going to someone elses house where people got on. I suppose it just reassured me that I'm not the only one. Thank you for filming this! Unfortunately I'm still in the situation but your story helped me cope

@tissue522

10 жыл бұрын

I really hope you find a way out of it soon. I do not know your story and it woud be rude to tell someone what do to with their life. But i know this sort of thing is unacceptable under amy circumstances. I will pray for you every night. Wish you all the best celine. Pls find the courage to seek for help.

@venus.the.hermit

10 жыл бұрын

I hope you find your way out very soon. Stay strong x

@barbarybcia

10 жыл бұрын

Celine760, I hope your situation will change soon. Be strong!

@_JoyceArt

10 жыл бұрын

Dear, take this story to strengthen you to change your circumstances. No matter what, nobody deserves to live with fear and/or being unhappy.

Your mum is so beautiful!

Such a brave & strong woman.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I was in DV relationship and I now work as a DV victim support worker. I have been asked to appear on BBC spotlight next week to share my story in support of '1 billion rising on the 14th feb' and I have been questioning whether or not I should do it. You've shown me that I have to share my story, that talking about our experiences is the only way we can help other women and show them that you can be emotionally, financially and physically broken but you can transform your lives :) and you girls are a credit to your mother, you have achieved so much! xxxx

Your mum seems like a very selfless, kind and genuine person. you are very lucky to have her. Lovely lady xxx

TEARS OF JOY AND APPLAUSE!!!! Please let your very sweet and inside beautiful and outside stunning mommy know how much I am in awe of her bravery, her resilience, her dignity and her strength. Thank you Thank you so very much. I have had a very similar situation. Having nothing is so hard, but the best thing about having nothing is everything else is a blessing from ground zero. I feel blessed to have seen you three. I LOVE that you 3 women shared this and are so amazingly inspirational because of your trials and hardships. I believe that "we" have to realize that it is okay not to love someone that is your parent. You are an inspiration and a comfort.

Wow. I've just had a moment to watch the video and Judy immediately reminded me of my own mother's story. My mother was married for 19 years to my father and likewise... on the first instance believing she did something to anger him. Staying out of fear... not having a support system but a final incidence almost left her paralysed and a doctor explained that she must leave and leave now. That was it ...mum had a bit of money she had managed to hide which he hadn't found this time around and we flew across the country to our grandmother... all staying in the one bedroom. These women are amazing. Judy, my own and many out there are simply amazing.

Your mum is so strong to tell this story

Judy is so strong it must take guts to talk about a topic as serious as this. Well done Judy xx

I am so PROUD of you three women. Your mother, especially, for being so strong and selfless to share her (& your) story on such a public platform. I went through the same for nearly 15 years, and found the strength to leave with my 3 children. It CAN be done. Thank you all, a million times over, for giving so many so much to look forward to....

I truly do have the utmost respect for both of you and particularly your amazing mother. What a strong and beautiful lady she is 🙌🏼💜

@Nicola.Chapman

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much.Xx

From makeup to this. Thank you girls! Everyone should have this conversation. You did a fine job- all of you. What a terrific thing to do with the platform that you have created with so many followers. Well done! As we sit at our mirrors doing up our face each day, we should all be reminded of the "brave face" many have to put on each day that foundation and concealer will just never cover adequately. Speaking truth in comfort and support is the best makeup remover ever to melt down that mask of shame and fear that domestic violence creates. Family, friendship and community support returns us to that bare face of confidence to begin again another day, but hopefully without the burden and stigma. You are all blessed to have each other and I hope your chat inspired your followers to "be there" for each other and reach out when they need help. Thank you.

How the hell could you dislike this?! So heartfelt and raw, and speaking out about it-- that exhibits so much strength. Her resilience is so inspiring. Thank you for such a lovely video!

I went through my share of domestic violence & I'm so glad I made it through that. I make videos on KZread & can't wait to cover up the scars on my face. After washing my makeup off, I look at them and always remind myself to never let anyone scar me again. It's a process to accept the fact that you were ever involved in something like that, but when you do, life gets so much better because knowing you made it and knowing you realized are stronger than you think, it's the most gratifying feeling ever! I'm so glad you posted this video, I would not have ever guessed you all went through that. Ps - your mother is a beautiful woman! Holy moly.

@mmcjrc2000

10 жыл бұрын

if you would read my comment and make suggestions, i would be very grateful. we are trying to help a young woman; i am not sure she is totally ready to leave either.

@lisasanzphotography

10 жыл бұрын

melissa cook +melissa cook in my experience, if you try to make someone leave, it will be more of a challenge to the person to try & fix the problem. I remember my best friend crying and telling me to leave, but I wasn't ready because I was denial, I was blind by 'love' ((when really, it wasn't love at all, just to fear of being alone)), we wanted to be the person to change that person, etc. So many reasons why she might not be ready to leave. You just have to keep reminding her that things will only get worse, but you can't change her mind, only she can. When she's ready, she will leave in a heartbeat. I wish we had the ability to snap our fingers & make them change their mind. Some sooner than others. Some hold on to the good memories because they don't want they go of that. But you just have to stand by your friend. In the end, they will find their strength. :j

@mmcjrc2000

10 жыл бұрын

i am so proud of her, she is getting her own place this month; getting help and working so hard. she needs so much encouraging at this point. thank you for your words of wisdom. :)

your mum is a fighter! I truly admire her! Best wishes, love form Mexico xx

This was so touching and what an amazing mom you have! She is beautiful! Thank you for sharing such a personal thing!

@Nicola.Chapman

8 жыл бұрын

+Connie H Thanks so much.xx

This had me in absolute tears, it's so sad that children are going through this everyday! Your mum and many women/men out there suffering abuse are so brave and like your mum will find their way out in the end, I suffered abuse from an ex partner when I was 17 (I'm 30 now) he was mentally and physically abusive to the point where he pushed me down the stairs and caused me to miscarry our baby (blessing in disguise) I knew from that moment that it couldn't carry on so I spoke out and the more people that knew the more I found the strength to tell him to piss off out of my life! I have never seen him since and don't ever wish too, it's all still quite fresh in my mind and I'm not sure anyone can get over it but it definitely makes us stronger, sorry if some of this makes no sense, I'm tapping away on my phone through teary eyes xx love you girls xx

@terryberry4669

10 жыл бұрын

Good for you, sweety. It takes such courage.

This video took me by surprise. Your honesty and bravery is remarkable, and I'm sure there's someone watching you out there who will see this and maybe take the first step (or another in a long way) towards running away, or healing from past wounds.

I just came from Jim's documentary and I want to say you guys and your mum are all so brave to talk about this. Lots of hugs and respect to you all!! xxx

Coming from someone who came from a broken home...this video is so important. You should NEVER ask someone why they don't just leave. It's so not as easy as that, and when you ask that you're partly shifting the blame onto them. BLAME THE ABUSER, NOT THE SURVIVOR. All of you are such beautiful people and I'm so happy you got away from your abuser. xx

@InAMockeryofLife

9 жыл бұрын

Your mum is such an inspiration and she was, and still is just by telling us her story, so incredibly brave.

My love goes out to the Chapman family your so strong and connected.

Holy SHIT. Powerful video. Probably one of the most important ones you've ever made. Massive kudos to your mom, this is the kind of thing that has a genuinely positive impact on viewers and for that you should all be proud. I have to be honest, since watching you guys (and Jim) for the last few years I've always wondered about your Dad, mainly because he was never mentioned. Regardless of the youtube creator/viewer curiosity, I always thought it was completely none of my business and therefore got a bit annoyed when I saw other commenters asking about him because of how inappropriate I thought it was. Saying that, the curiosity remained though I think it was mainly stemming from the questions that naturally arise when vloggers let people into specific sections of their lives.This was a great was to articulate the reasons for his absence and never have to explain it again. Inspirational story. Here mum, have a hug xx

My dad was both physically and mentally abusive towards my mum, thankfully he is out of our life's now. Its so bizarre how much your mum reminds me of my own. Its not easy for a single parent to take complete control, risk financial insecurity and to raise a family alone especially when you have young children that dont always understand the sacrifices you have to make. I love my mum, shes my ultimate idol and i can only hope that when i raise a family i can do it with the same strength, love and guidance she has given me and my brother. thank you for posting the video!

I'm amazed that such a loving and beautiful family could have come out of such darkness. Every one of you is a credit to your mother and an obvious testament to her warmth and affection. My admiration for you all has increased tenfold.

So very proud of your Mum - both for surviving DV but more foe the courage to tell her story. Without a doubt at least one person will be helped by this.

I'm baffled.. how can idiot unlike this video? Idiots. LOVE YOU JUDY. YOU ARE AMAZING. :)

What an amazing woman. And what amazing children she has raised on her own!

Just watching this reminded me of a situation my aunt and her kids went through. I remember how during the summer my mom would take my younger brother and me over by our aunt's during the daytime when her ex-husband was at work, and she'd unload to my mom about her situation. My mom would tell her that whenever she would ready, she'd help her leave him. Her offer was said for years, so yes, it's so true that it takes a while to be ready to move on. It's been about 11 years for her now, which is a bit crazy to think. It really seems just like yesterday that my mom picked me up from school in a car loaded with my aunt's belongings. And also, with how you guys mentioned there being told there was an atmosphere. That is so true. I definitely noticed a difference when he wasn't around. I always felt a little uneasy around him.

Your Mum is very brave for doing this video , kudos to her , it really hit home with me . I grew up in a home with domestic violence so I imagine a lot of the childhood memories I would rather not have would be similar to yours Sam & Nic . It's so hard , the feeling of helplessness , of not being able to stop what is going on , sometimes I would not only feel hatred towards my father but towards my Mum for not getting us out of it but as you say it was a different generation and a social stigma attached to anything like this . I do remember the day I stood up to him , he was having one of his usual meltdowns , I just had enough , I was ready to take whatever came at me , I wasn't afraid anymore because I just wanted it to stop so I stood up to the bully and he was so shocked he just backed off , didn't talk to me for 3 days but things started to change after that , he finally knew his children weren't going to be pushed about anymore . I was 17 and that was the first time I felt brave , proud and from then on I knew I would never allow anyone to treat me like that . I am now happily married to a wonderful kind man , 15 years this year & have a son and daughter and I'm so glad I had the deep rooted belief that no one should accept being treated like you are not loved or important . Thanks for the video I think it will help other women out there who need to find the courage to walk away .

Your mum is very brave to talk about this, lots of respect for her and your family x

I've just seen this video for the first time. It's hit home on so many different levels. I live in the house your describing, always an atmosphere can never fully relax because you don't know what mood my dad is going to be in. My mum is very much 'in it for the kids' even though me and my sister have both had our lives greatly impacted by my dad and my brother is starting to see him for the man he really is. Your mum is so right it has to be there choice you can never talk them into it. I hope one day my mum will find the strength yours has.

Sounds just like my life even having four kids. my life has also turned around. I love my kids and all my grandchildren. Don't ever be afraid to go into a refuge. They help you so much and really look after the kids with activities and trips out! !

You are both beautiful, inspirational women and I am happy that you could share your story with us. My mum, my older sister and I went through a similar situation with our father. Strange enough he to this day is still in touch with our step brother (they must have favoured boys in the 80’s!), whom he once put in our house and set alight along with our step mum. Since then, my mum has been married to my step dad for 20+ years who is the kindest, funniest man ever and they are a great team. I hope to find what they have one day x

Much love to your family, especially your mom. It takes a lot of courage to be able to have a voice after experiencing such hardships, but I'm sure that just by speaking, she has touched so many lives.

I watched this Video today because Jim told "me" too. I have no clue this happened in your life, your childhood robbed because of this horrible man. I cried watching this, you're all so brave. Your mum, Judy I think, is brave and not to say a bad word about him to you guys is just amazing. I can't believe your family went through that and you still smile and act like nothing happened which I absolutely adore.

I don't know exactly how old their mom is, but she looks SO amazing for her age.

You're mum is an absolute legend and so strong! X

So incredibly brave of your mum to do this. I am really gratefull for hearing her/your story! Lots of love!

I grew up in a home like that, so I know exactly how it feels. I'm so proud of your Mom for leaving and making a safe place for her babies. Give her a hug from me. ;)

So strong, she has brought up 4 brilliant, successful children. She should be so proud x

I was already a massive fan of your Mum, bringing up 4 incredible humans. Now we know what she went through AND brought you all up on her own. What a proper, proper hero. Truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story ladies, I hope it helps some people see the light. :)

This must have been a hard video to make for your Mum but you as a family as well. My deepest respect for letting us into your heart and sharing something so private. I know your message will reach many hearts who went through it or are still fighting. After all these years on KZread I feel like you are family and it hurts to see you all emotional. Big hugs xxxx Merel

What an absolutely amazing woman. It was so brave of her to talk so openly about something so personal. So sorry you and your family had to go through those terrible times. But so happy you have all come out the other end and are happy and in a better place now. Much love xxx

It was magnanimous of your mother to share her story.So many women suffer the same way around the world and draw strength from hearing from others.And what lovely children she raised,your sibling revelry is such a joy to watch.Love,from India.

Dear Judy and lovely daughters, thank you for putting such a painful part of your story out in such a dignified way in order to help others. I applaud all three of you as this must not have been an easy video to make. I would like to say that for those who had negative comments about this video, please understand its not your story nor was it your soul up there being bared in order to help others, therefore if you think you can do better and have something positive to say to help other ppl, then do so and perhaps you will understand how difficult it must have been for these three lovely women. Well done Judy well done pixiwoo. God bless xxxxx love you

Would it be alright if I share this video on the facebook page of my NPO which supports domestic violence shelters internationally? I'm a survivor myself and respect your mum so much for braving this topic and speaking out.

@Nicola.Chapman

10 жыл бұрын

Yes of course

@misspennygolightly

10 жыл бұрын

pixiwoo Thank you :)

Intellectual integrity - basically, you practice what you preach, and hold yourself to the standard that you hold others to. The judge clearly recognised your honesty and decency :) "Intellectual Integrity: Recognition of the need to be true to one's own thinking; to be consistent in the intellectual standards one applies; to hold one's self to the same rigorous standards of evidence and proof to which one holds one's antagonists; to practice what one advocates for others; and to honestly admit discrepancies and inconsistencies in one's own thought and action."

I really really loved how when Nic was getting emotional and saying how she hated her dad, that Sam stepped in casually yet lovingly to change her mood and redirect the convo. Such subtle finesse in loving someone.

Your family has a tremendous amount of fortitude and determination. Your mother has a lot to be proud of and I applaud her or anyone who has removed themselves from such a horrible situation. I have always wondered why you never mentioned your father since your family is so present, but this certainly explains why. I never would have guessed that you've all been through such trials. You all seem so confident and self-assured which is a credit to your mother's strength of character. I've dealt with things like this (not on that scale) and I still feel the effects. I also think there's a level of embarrassment involved which prevents people from talking about it. I totally related to Nic realizing that other families are not like yours. I'm sure he wants something to do with you girls now though!

I'm a young woman at the age of 17, and I did not get told about this in school, I was never ever warned about abuse or domestic violence or any violence for that matter. Now I'm going off to university next year and it still amazes me how very little we are educated about serious topics such as these. I would like to thank you all for speaking out and enabling us to understand what domestic violence is and what the effects can be and that you can overcome this. I would also like to thank your mum for teaching us that no matter how hard it gets there is a way out, even when it feels impossible. You educate and inspire many younger people like me. keep it up guys

That's precisely the kind of Mum I aspire to be. It's an amazing example of the fact that children only need unconditional love, the materialistic things are not relevant. High praise to your Mother, she's super strong and incredibly unbreakable.

14yrs I lived with domestic abuse inflicted on my stepdad by my mum. As me & my sister got to our teens she began to turn on us & other female relatives, accusing us of affairs with my stepdad. Until 1day he snapped & in self defence pushed her & put his hands around her neck. I got scared and called the police. He moved out & never came back. my mum blamed me for their break up!! I Totally agree with every word. What a brave lady your mum is xxx

You're Mom is all kinds of amazing and brave! Please thank her for sharing her story.