Psychology should be a mandatory course in high school.

@hiddens2346

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly the application of theory from the School of Life is wayyy beyond and deeper than my Psychology literature from high school.

@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, emotional wellbeing rather

@ddavila3

Жыл бұрын

Our collective ship is constantly headed towards peril because humanity undervalues perspectives that make the individual feel like they are potentially another part of the problem. They look away. We are all the problem until we uplift objective psychological wisdom as a society to be commonplace thinking.

I'm not lying, this is one of the best channels. I can look for any interesting topic here and then be amazed by one of these spectacular videos. Excellent work guys!

If you have a horrifying parent (or two) what you have to do is the following: List on a paper their worst character traits and the greatest difficulties you had to face with, back then when you had to live with them.Then take the example of an ex-partner of yours just to see how much he and your experience with him had in common with the things you have on your list. The result is often really very scary. But you may learn something from it, for the next time... And here is definitely some hope: Psychologist William James said: "My experience is what I agree to attend to. Only those things which I notice shape my mind". So, the most " aware" you are of what's going on and the more things you notice about the hidden forces which seem to determine your life, the more you can change the way your mind works, and hopefully, but very slowly free the rest of your life from that curse. To some extent I mean. But it is a lifelong battle, and you should always remember not to be too harsh on yourself. Because you are fighting against something within yourself, which was there before you were born! It sounds a bit complicated, bu indeed it isn’t: Argentina's most beloved psychologist Gabriel Rolon explains it, saying that long before we were born, we have already existed in the mind of that mother, who already dreamt of us, who had a name for us, who imagined a world and a future for us. In Rolon's book Historias de Divan, there is a sentence by Alejandro Dolina, which I will never forget. It shows you how strong that force is, which constantly operates inside you and literally can ruin your life: "Steps that were born before my steps are carrying me towards my breakdown. " ( "Me llevan rumbo al fracaso pasos que nacieron antes que mis pasos" ) There is also a wonderful poem by Paul Celan, that describes this so beautifully. You must read it till the end though, to feel the connection: HOMECOMING ( Heimkehr ) Snowfall, denser and denser, dove-coloured as yesterday, snowfall, as if even now you were sleeping. White, stacked into distance. Above it, endless, the sleigh track of the lost. Below, hidden, presses up what so hurts the eyes, hill upon hill, invisible. On each, fetched home into its today, an I slipped away into dumbness: wooden, a post. There: a feeling, blown across by the ice wind attaching its dove- its snow- coloured cloth as a flag. This is all very melancholy stuff though... But when you feel like you need to lighten up a bit, you can always get back to Sam Cooke! Especially the song " A change is gonna come" is very helpful. That's where he says: "There been times that I thought I couldn't last for long But now I think I'm able to carry on It's been a long, a long time coming But I know a change gonna come, oh yes it will" ( Thank you very much for this very important reminder. I loved the animation and the music too:-)

@bolivar1789

8 жыл бұрын

+Jennifer Johnson Hello Jennifer! Thank you very much for reading! Have a nice weekend and a happy christmas! And all the best for 2016 too:-)

@n1k0-_-0k1n

8 жыл бұрын

Normally I hate reading comments on KZread but this is an excellent post with very poignant words. Thank you for sharing.

@bolivar1789

8 жыл бұрын

+Niko Hello Niko! Thank you very much for your time. Best wishes:-)

@bolivar1789

8 жыл бұрын

+Sive Dooley Hello there! Thanks a lot for reading. All the best!

@AndrewPotterton

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks! I wrote this music.

The music in the video is incredibly creepy o.O

@trunksfit9403

7 жыл бұрын

i was thinking the same thing. did nobody noticed?

@ZiomekPatrykC

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I don't understand why they made it so strange

@1991Tanuj

7 жыл бұрын

yeah! the theme is very eerie and creepy but I liked it!

@psibrunojusto

7 жыл бұрын

It is, but I liked it

@ltramaral

7 жыл бұрын

I liked this music a lot! I really wish I knew what it's called. Does anybody know it?

I blows me away how different people respond to some of the comments I’ve made on random videos. I usually don’t bother unless I have something funny to say, or , at least I think so. ( granted, my sense of humor isn’t for everyone). But the range of responses I’ve gotten is extremely broad. Some people will laugh at stuff others are very offended at. They cherry pick words and are oblivious to others, seeing only what they want. This video is an excellent explanation for this phenomenon

Jesus, all this self hate, I just want to hug you all. How can you possibly get through life without loving yourself?

@ratman1242

8 жыл бұрын

with great difficulty

@dustinwrye

8 жыл бұрын

+LarlemMagic Agree. Most of their videos about what people think about themselves is quite scary....and I'd assume that the writers as the School of Life share this "self hate" view. I like many of the videos but I can't identify in the slightest with the videos where they share their self reflective opinions/thoughts. I really hope that most people are not so insecure and have that low of self-esteem.

Very interesting music. I always enjoy these videos. I like how the animation style changes from one video to another.

@LinkEX

8 жыл бұрын

+Zaid Mansuri I agree with the diversity of the animation style, while most of them still keep a certain sober yet somewhat peculiar tmosphere that fits this channel. The music was fitting, too, albeit too loud and distracting imho.

@taisetsusuzuki

8 жыл бұрын

This is about my favorite animation so far for this channel. I'm frankly getting tired of the moving, talking classical artwork. And I second the kudos to the music!

@strauja84

8 жыл бұрын

What is the music, anybody knows?

@AndrewPotterton

8 жыл бұрын

I wrote this music. Thanks, Andrew Potterton @andrewpotterton

@AndrewPotterton

8 жыл бұрын

I wrote this music Zaid. Thanks

Yet another great video! I truely love this channel! This is a great example why early education and parentship is so darn important! It is a shame that some parents are allowed to "destroy" a childs early upbringing by misusing or abusing them. My mother always told me this old german saying: "The hand on the cradle rules the world".

@LinkEX

8 жыл бұрын

+Max Hillebrand That's an interesting saying. Alhough oddly enough, I have never even one heard of this before - despite being a German, having relatives that would commonly use such saying, _and_ being a friend of aphorisms.

@maxhillebrand96

8 жыл бұрын

In German it would be: "Die Hand an der Wiege regiert die Welt" I don't know if that is a common saying, but it stuck with me and this video actually confirms this thesis.

@LinkEX

8 жыл бұрын

Max Hillebrand Yeah, that's the translation I found as well, but that didn't ring a bell for me. As you said, there's definitely something to it in regards to this video, though.

@maxhillebrand96

8 жыл бұрын

***** Wow, you're right!! I didn't know that this quote was by Wallace! Thanks!

@quantumaxe6468

8 жыл бұрын

+Max Hillebrand that saying is true, unless people start looking for someone to blame.

Peace on earth could be achieved if the majority of the population understood transference and our unconscious minds. Not an easy task but videos like this and more debate can't hurt.

Both of my parents have personality disorders, and as a survival tactic I developed an enormous resilience and sense of responsibility, of which I am proud. My struggle earlier in life was accepting that being so resilient is exhausting. I begged for a break, often putting too much pressure on my partner to carry me while I finally relaxed. Therapy helped. I finally had to allow myself to, every now and then, be completely irresponsible and fragile. I’m in a phase right now that has lasted for months. It’s very therapeutic. Thankfully my partner understands.

You have no Idea how much I relate to this. In my case, I've known for a while but I'm not sure when It happens or what I can do about it. This helps. Thank you

Wow. You got me, on the picture that could be interpreted as an intimidating father-figure... Luckily I have reallized that most of the people trying to intimidate, have had very bad childhoods themselves, or maybe they are very insecure deep inside of themselves. It is very interesting to discover some of these unconcious reactions, that have deep roots in our childhood. Also, it is difficult to not end up having some of the same bad behavioural patterns as our caregivers may have had. Thanks Alain, and the rest of you magnificent people at The School of Life, for sharing these revelations with us aspiring thinkers. I think what you are doing is great. Sincerely I, myself, to all of you.

It's always funny when people say they are becoming like their parents, when in fact, they were always like their parents. They've only just now realised their transference. It actually is a beautiful thing, if you love who your parents are.

The diversity of animation this channel has is the most refreshing thing on youtube.

Wish more people understood this concept. The world would be a better place. Great Channel.

I've tried so many times to explain this to people with out even realising it was a thing. Yet again the school of life has giving me a title and directed me to what it is known... Transference... Thank you School of life.

Awesome Tsol!! I never did understand those images. I decided to study psychology because of you guys.. Thank you for helping me making my life better 🙂

The music in this video is very descriptive. There is an ostinato (a repetitive musical element) that illustrates the concept of transference very well. It may seem boring to some listeners ... But it is exactly the minimalist style of the soundtrack that adequately reflects the subject.

Sometimes 'Transference' helps us recognise problems with society or to think in original ways. To an extent 'Transference' can be useful and a good thing.

I cant believe how few views videos like this get compared to how many a guy screaming at video games can get......its a bit disturbing really.

@reiverdaemon

7 жыл бұрын

Jayme Capurso It's not disturbing; there are a staggering number of young people/children that watch him.

@jedics1

7 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure if you look around at other content makers you will discover that school of life falls well short of the 'staggering' label unfortunately, other channels get into the tens of millions of views.

@KnowledgeSeeker78491

7 жыл бұрын

Jayme Capurso Because the masses want to be entertain not learn

@Fendora

6 жыл бұрын

Jayme Capurso I know right?

The only thing I would argue here is that basis of transference is actually functional, without it you would be constantly overwhelmed by having to figure out how each new instance you encountered was going to go. With transference you already have a starting point and given that most humans are a lot more like each other than different it works amazingly well...much of the time.

The music, the animation and the narration is simply perfect.

Absolutely brilliant stuff for people who don't know much about this yet! Thanks for outlining this useful information in such an accessible way as always!

I appreciated the video, but that uncomfortable song played in the video has disturbed me in paying attention in the content

@quantumaxe6468

8 жыл бұрын

+RonaldoPS FIlho why do you have Stardusk a.k.a Thinking ape's profile pic? coincidence?

@MrBacete

8 жыл бұрын

+Quantum Axe someday I was surfing on internet and out of blue I had seen this image, I'd been liking and thought kinda intersting cause it represents to me what humans are actually to me (irrational beings in this case). Thus, it's coincidence But I'd really appreciate if you explained where this image came from for me

@quantumaxe6468

8 жыл бұрын

RonaldoPS FIlho it is a channel dedicated to similar thoughts and ideas as yours. i already mentioned the name. maybe you can check it out and see if you find it interesting.

@MrBacete

8 жыл бұрын

+Quantum Axe Thanks a lot man! I only hope it hasn't been a copyright infringement

@quantumaxe6468

8 жыл бұрын

RonaldoPS FIlho i doubt that.

This video is soo short but soo revealing. Thank you sooo much it is really an inner eye opener.

This video is a bit of a masterpiece. The music really gets you in the mood of searching your demons down. A bit like a transference test itself.

Great topic, I've never heard about this before. The animation and sound effects were strangely unsettling for some reason, especially the sound effect of the "past and present" line breaking. The video though is really well done, I love that these videos always teach me something new about human nature/history/ideas/etc! Well done :)

This is so well done I almost shed a tear at the end

I like the school of life so much I've learnt so much from this channel that school would never teach me

Thanks for the great video. Keep up the relentless pursuit of understanding...

@TheSchoolofLife Can you please make a video for anyone wanting to learn the benefits of therapeutic communication & validation? I'm a good listener but at times i'm too eager to inject what i think is the right solution to one's problems and sometimes the conversation stops short because of that. I feel like the best of communicators are able to facilitate insight within the other person without force

I feel like whenever I get over a childhood tendency, it creates a new adult tendency that I have to look for and correct.

This video taught me so much about myself... I didn't know I had a dominating father though

My transference has always been, and continues to be, to hold myself back for the sake of others. It makes me unhappy at times but I think about how isolated I might be if I don't and am petrified at the thought. I have always found it socially punishing to be at my best. Even when I live constantly with one hand tied behind my back I am often accused of trying to be better than everyone else and being a know it all and looking down my nose at people. It is absolutely exhausting but I don't know how to undo this habit and am very very afraid of the consequences.

Well done once again. Thank you!

Thankyou I have anxiety attacks found this very helpful x

Great information I get a better understanding now. The artwork kept me watching - twice!

This was an awesome topic, could we possibly get one one the psychological phenomena of "projection".

Hi, clinical psychologist here. This video describes object relations and projective identification. The word Transference (and counter transience) refers to a phenomenon known in the modern psychology world as occurring only in psychoanalysis really. Otherwise it's known as projection! Sorry to be that guy, but it's not indistinguishable from a Freudian, Klienian, Jungian perspective. Also it would be lovely if the psychology videos locate their theories in one of the schools of psychology as psychodynamic theory is pretty last week now - would be nice to acknowledge the range at the least or ideally see some narrative, systemic, liberation and social constructionist psychological theory!

3:08 made me lol. I thought of that exact depiction ten seconds before. I love my trauma being exposed😂😂

Very insightful.

Those rabbits were so creepy

@RingxWorld

8 жыл бұрын

+SilverFang Franks everywhere

@DidiFeuer

4 жыл бұрын

@Miss Poste *argw27 Omg THANK YOU I know these creepy rabbits reminded me of something!

@Nobody-Nowhere

3 жыл бұрын

You are transferring

love the animations, as always brilliant video

I like the music; I feel it makes the subject be of upmost importance.

Your videos have been on point recently. I especially liked the music in this one.

amazing animation! and music too. such a nice atmosphere.

Brilliant video, thanks

Very nice video! I absolutely love the animation, congratulations

i didnt know there was a term for this. very informative. liked it very much. thank you

I learned to not allow negativity to transfer into my life

Every video is just so good.

well done! Love the music.

Enlightening describes this the best

Another fantastic video!!

Great video. i like the music.

Do you guys have a video on Freud or Jung?

@DominickDecocko

8 жыл бұрын

+The School of Life Do some on Jung please.

@ThePeaceableKingdom

8 жыл бұрын

+The School of Life I would love to see a video on Jung, but I realize he's really hard to do. He was thinking in public; so when someone describes Jung's ideas, the Jung of the '20s is different from the Jung of the mid century versus the Jung of his later years. He was understood differently by different people; and it was in his nature to confirm rather than correct whatever understanding they proffered. Consequently, there are about as many 'Jungs' as there are Jungians... Personally, I was deeply influenced by Philip Wylie's understanding (or fruitful misunderstanding) of Jung's theories. He rooted the ideas in Darwin, Frazer, and Freud, and stripped away the 'woo' that frequently accretes to his ideas. You've done Freud, and I think you've done Darwin. Wylie is obscure, so I don't expect that. But Frazer, and The Golden Bough, etc., would make an very interesting video... at least for those who approach spiritual ideas with the rational mind. It's not the last word on the subject, of course, far from it; but it's a very interesting and important opening of the conversation...

@ThePeaceableKingdom

8 жыл бұрын

***** Do you doubt that Darwin's ideas are evidence based?

@ThePeaceableKingdom

8 жыл бұрын

***** Jung's theories are quite compatible with William James'. Jung's big idea was that we are animals and have instinct. James was quite content with that, too. Jung's brilliance was to realize that myth is the product of animal instinct; animal nature written in symbols both universal and, at times, idiosyncratically individual. James seems to consider consciousness epiphenominal, but found it necessary to redefine true and false, to engage in a bit of "what the meaning of 'is' is" to make the system work. Jung was able to preserve traditional concepts of true and false by giving consciousness a different purpose than epiphenomena - a meta purpose, that of intercepting instinct. This conception of instinct made consciousness not a quirky human attribute but a natural aspect of animal nature and implied extending similar awareness to similar physiologies. This continues to be borne out in studies of animal mental processes, giving his speculations wide and rigorous evidence-based support...

@ThePeaceableKingdom

8 жыл бұрын

***** Our conversation demonstrates why it would be difficult to thumbnail a video on Jung. It's difficult for people to even agree on what he said, much less what it meant! To you his work seems fantastic, fictional, religious... to me it seems empirical, material science about the nature and behavior of animals. An awful lot of silliness has been written and believed about Jung - now, and even in his own time. (That's consistent with his theory of the myth making machinery of the mind's search for meaning, BTW.) But the silliness shouldn't discredit the science. An awful lot of silliness has been written and believed about quantum mechanics, too, (i.e... QM proves the existence of god because who else was there to observe the big bang?..) and we (well, most of us...) don't discredit QM because of the way it's misunderstood by lesser minds. I'm not sure that just giving people up-to-date scientific consensus is the best method. If we approach truth rather than arrive at it - an attitude consistent with Jung - then it's important to cover the history of the approach. In math I don't want to just be given the formulae, I want to see the derivation. When we only give current consensus, our information is quickly dated, because the up-to-date consensus in science is ever changing.

Your videos are so wonderful!!

been waiting for this, Thankyou!!!

The video was excellent as always, very thought provoking and eloquently explained. I must know, however, what is name of the music? I feel as if I’ve heard it sometime ago.

Knowledge doesn't mean understanding. Only because you know the working mechanism behind your behavior / actions doesn't necessarily mean you can control them. You will always be biased by your experience.

Very well explained

Always the best subjects !!!

very well done video

Thank you!

2:47 everyone knows that is two bears high-fiving, except bethesda...

@kshitijraul

8 жыл бұрын

right on

Authority is Force Sexuality is War Uncertainty is Opportunity/Danger This is how I see the world. And I know millions also see it this way. Curiously, on the psychological test, my own responses were thus; on _"Deep down sex is..."_ my subconscious spit out just one word: _rape_. Not of myself, but my mind instantaneously threw a red flag as if I will be falsely accused of rape and it makes me immediately suspicious of anyone I'd be having sex with, if at all, with such a dangerous warning. On _"If people really knew me they would..."_ part, my very first instinctive response was: _freeze_; as in, paralyzed, like a deer in the headlights. In the last statement I couldn't think of anything instantaneously, my mind had to actually slow down and think about this one. _"When I hear someone described as very intellectual, I imagine they will...,"_ be very tenacious.

I love love this channel

Please consider dropping using the Rorschach material because it is empirically troubled and many professional associations recommend against its use in clinical and other settings.

Thank you

I always like ur vids.

Fantastic video. Great content music and animation.

@AndrewPotterton

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks Dania. I composed the music.

Excellent vid guys. Very informative and yes, that black shape did look ominous too me. Dammit.

I actually saw the big figure almost immediately, although i didn't think it was intimidating. Very interesting!

I do like your films and i did visit your shop. I love you so much SoL

Brilliant!

Oh sheeiiit man. The ink blot test with the one about the demeaning father was exactly what I saw but I feel like my dads been nothing but kind to me

The music was really haunting- apt for the video! :)

Great video as usual. Could you please do one on Voltaire?

I think there's one example of transference right here: I found this video along with this music quite scary and distressing. It may have to do with the fact that it's midnight and there's just one dim light in my room.

knowledge really is power. to be able to identify (not necessarily by name but that is even a bonus to it) a concept that it's workings have power over u, once u realize especially that others have identified this and even given it a name, not only do u know others know exactly where u r comming from, but also that they tries to help u simply by identifying this thing called transference, for example. once u r aware of that, it stops having power over u because u know the greatest minds have had ur back throughout time to tell u this. That's just how I feel, like the attempt to fix a problem by them identifying it works because u already know people have known what ur going through, and especially with something like transference, where it could be experience u have of people not understanding, well now u know that in fact they do and it was just ignorant fucking stupid assholes along the way that didnt. then u get to join the cool team and say fuck u asshole I know the problem now, the problem is u! knowledge is real world power. if u know ur the shit, u have the power to actually be the shit cause fuck it I AM, which is what almost every prominent philosopher and martyr throughout time were stressing their whole lives to get u to feel. I feel like the smart people throughout time loved me before they even knew me, and that's why I get so much out of their words, I allow myself to feel as though they were saying it directly to me because the whole point was to make me happy (and others obviously lol) all of their work goes in vain if u don't make use of it, so make knowledge ur power, because knowledge is even the power that MAKES knowledge power, once u realize all of these things I've said

@mitchiemasha

8 жыл бұрын

+Thomas Fisher "to be able to identify (not necessarily by name but that is even a bonus to it) a concept that it's workings have power over u, once u realize especially that others have identified this and even given it a name," I especially like the not necessarily by name as I myself was well aware of this concept but knew not it's name... However the stops having power over you.... I believe that transference has an even bigger power, one we can never beat, yes we may over come anxieties or things hindering our progression, change the negative into positive. Transference on a whole is what keeps us Human. With even the earliest interactions of conciousness having a direct impact on us right now. It flows through time like a force of it's own and only us as a collective can sway it's balance, some will feel it's extremes but most will quite luckily live in the middle.

@thomasfisher763

8 жыл бұрын

killbotone I totally agree with what Michelle said that sounds so true, and yeah big terminology makes you lack actual awareness of what's going on that's true

@thomasfisher763

8 жыл бұрын

mitchiemasha yeah I agree, I guess I did mean having power over you in a negative way, when you think they do it because they hate you rather than just out of habit, then u can begin to learn from it. I agree with what you said though I like that

great book on reducing the negative impact of transference in adult romantic relationships; Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

Amazing video

please make more videos on psychology!!!!

The problem of the Rorschachtest is not its principal intention. That one seems as strong as utmost fundamental. Make people reveal themselves, which means seeing what goes on. Great effort. The problem is the procacious assumption to be able to remotely adequately channel such a revelation. Pictures persist for their own sake. Interpreters do. It is a total mess. And that is so, because the human mind is like gum. It got texture, taste, color. But it will wrap at whatever you throw it, at least when already used. The solution is trust. Given sufficient trust, sufficient levels of comfort - everyone opens up. And then Rorschach may even become useful, in a modified less presumptuous way. You can not trick someone to circumvent trust. Never.

Hey, awesome video. I have a request, can you guys make a video on meditation? I've been trying it out for the past few weeks and it's had an immense effect on me. I feel more happy, focused, healthy and confident. There is also a ton of scientific evidence for this. It would be great if you guys made a video with it's history, significance and scientific evidence that supports it. Thanks

I've never head of this word before though it sounds like it's "combination of" or at least sharply linked to the empathy and projecting/-ion

I'm digging these animations. Very creepy and compelling.

absoultely stunning ..

I'm very happy about this video

another concept I noticed which is a bit similar to this one: other people change. but we forget this and think that they are the same as they used to be. if, for example, you make a new friend and he has some bad habit, let's say you notice that he is lying very much, then one year later we may still think that this person is probably lying when we listen to them, even though in the past months they changed and want to not lie that much anymore and we actually didn't catch them not telling the truth for quite a while. every once in a while we should try to objectively view the people around us, from the outside, with new eyes

The music and animation make me anxious

Hmmm... in this ink blot I see the tormented screams of a thousand tortured souls writhing in agony. What does that mean, doc?

Good god, the obsession with transference in the pysch biz has reached alarming proportions. However, I enjoy being hypnotized by Alain's hyper-enunciated and well-modulated speaking voice.

I would argue that transference in therapy is a highly dubious phenomenon, because it is based in part on the contrived persona of the therapist. Any projections the client directs toward the person of the therapist are possibly counterfeit, given that they arise in response to feigned caring and empathy that is dispensed in return for payment. In essence it is a fake relationship passed off as something authentic. That is potentially very damaging by the way.

Fantastic video as always. The team behind this must give themselves a good pat on the back :D

Love you.

nice to finally have a name for this

I spent about 7 years being hit by my dad and I'm worried that if I have children I'll do the same. It's not in me, I don't feel like I would, but people pass on things and I will not let any of other people's bad qualities pass through me.

@Ravenousyouth

8 жыл бұрын

+Captain Capellini That fact that you are concerned about it being a possibility means you are less likely too. But if you have issues with anger management and dealing with stress then anger management classes / counseling could be a worthwhile pursuit.

So, if recognised then transference can be avoided? What happens after. I always wonder about Freud and his theories - perhaps projection?

Does anyone have a link on any quizzesI can take about physcological transference like what was on the video?