Thank you, Don. Your transparency and authenticity (in addition to insight and knowledge) is much appreciated. I feel fortunate to have found your channel!

@doncarveth

10 ай бұрын

Thanks so much

This was probably the most empathetic video on erotic transference I have come across. It is true - it is very painful and addictive, and allowing it to just go on and on, doesn't seem to solve my problems in real life as a client. Thank you for being helpful.

"I'm just a guy that has some knowledge." amazing

Thank you Don. You offer a good explanation of why most Lacanians behave like fanatical cult members.

Brilliant Don! Really enjoyed the distinction between the two types of transference. key point about how the analysts unresolved issues can greatly influence the length and nature of transference. Instead of interpreting the transference and being robust therapists can easily succumb and get drawn into a maternal ‘Garden of Eden’ where both therapist and patient are defending themselves against the harsh reality of the the ‘original fall’. A prolonged and overly dependent relationship can develop where ultimately the patient or a part of them never grows up. I look forward to watching your next video. Best regards

@doncarveth

4 жыл бұрын

Shayne, thanks.

I feel that obscurantism, or an embrace of it, tends to give people a false feeling of secret knowledge, as though they've been inducted into a gnostic cult.

@doncarveth

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

Loved this video. Thank you.

@doncarveth

4 жыл бұрын

Great, thank you.

Very interesting and thought provoking. Where the analyst remains mainly silent and still faced, and perhaps even luxuriating in the idealisation of him/her, I wonder now if it maintains and idea that the analyst is somehow 'greater' than the patient - above, on a different plane, better in all ways. Someone to endlessly 'seek'. Where there is more of an interaction closer to source of the emerging transference neurosis, I think this perhaps helps the patient feel that the analyst too is a human being, and that two people here in the room are working together to help the one of them who has come for help. Ie more like two equals. After all, while the analyst has knowledge and experience which is of use to the patient here in this context, in all sorts of other ways, the patient has had experiences and has knowledge the analyst may never have, in other areas. And at the end of the day, we're all tiny insignificant 'ants' in this vast Universe of ours. It seems we need to work together as equals - I'll help you with what I know here in this context, but when my drains block I'll call a plumber as I know nothing about that (except the internal psychic kind of course). It makes me wonder whether some ten year analyses could be reduced to five, and the job be done just as well.

@doncarveth

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly.

Thank you Don. Fantastic! I'm getting my training from ISAP (International society of applied psychoanalysis) and we differ a lot from IPA in the same way as you mentioned about your own practice. I was wondering if you could do a more in deepth lecture on envy and grattitude and how they relate to self esteem. I'm interested in hearing your synthesis on the matter. Best regards, Mattias Ottosson

@doncarveth

4 жыл бұрын

Gestalthälsa Hypnotherapy Thank you. Yes, that’s a very good topic, I will gather my thoughts and try to do so before too long. All the best.

Valuable thoughts! But let me make to comments. First, I think that we should be aware of the right timing of the interpretation (we have to respect their defences) and careful with the deconstruction of narcissistic transference (Kohut). Second, in my opinion the analysts who have obsession with transference neurosis are those with rigid anal characters, who have great difficulty in expressing their true selves. In other words, I fully agree with you that mainstream psychoanalysis gains anal gratification from silence, enigmatic behaviour, (pseudo)neutrality etc.

@doncarveth

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Thanks

Great lecture as always. I think you're quite gental saying that analysts take pride in being unique in the lives of their patients. I think that alot of therapists, including myself, have narcissistic vulnerabilites and take joy in being loved and adored, hence unconsciously maintain erotic transferences (and in more pathological cases, do it consciously).

@doncarveth

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

Always with the Lacanian bashing! Time you had one on for a bit of a Q&A, particularly in light of Mari Ruti and Amy Allen's recent book attempting to bridge this divide.