Many men don't realize that having their wife at home, not working for anyone else, and being required to somehow pay 50% of the bills is more beneficial than having her work outside the home. I can attest to everything Yada said...my food tastes better, my wife is more in-tuned with our home, she's less tired, she's not stressed by outside influences, she's more affectionate, and she nutures our family and my vision for us. Going 100% has been the best move I've ever decided on. And no, I don't make a bunch of money. Some weeks are leaner than others. But, she has all the energy she needs to support me. While I'm up at work, she sleeps peacefully in our bed...just knowing she has the ability to do that motivates me to do more 💯 Hope younger men listen to this and hear me. Everything ain't always perfect, but there's peace in being the Man, provider and sustainer, of your household 🔥

@adiial-catantii

8 ай бұрын

Right on 🎯

@xojorgettexo3776

8 ай бұрын

She can RESIDE in her feminine which is her nature. Good for you for providing her the opportunity and happy you are appreciating and recognizing your reward

@kayannthegreat

8 ай бұрын

May God bless you and your family abundantly!

@airmann4673

8 ай бұрын

Stay at home mother are the the number one who divorced their husband

@dch1421

7 ай бұрын

No, It's the women in the 50/50 relationship who is #1 in divorcing their husbands due to the added stress of working, being a 50/50 provider, and having to keep the household in order. @@airmann4673

The ignorance and defensiveness is oozing out of this man. Thank you for trying to get him to see the bigger picture.

@jawoncromartie6613

9 ай бұрын

What’s the biggest picture so you don’t have to work like his wife ? That man works and takes care of his family that’s a fact . You just like his message because you don’t have to do anything but stay home

@naijamandy

9 ай бұрын

@@jawoncromartie6613 the beta man should be quiet. It’s crazy how offensive y’all get. Taking care of the house and the kids is a full-time job itself.

@dbalexan

9 ай бұрын

You can tell he was embarrassed to be making so little and not being able to take care of the family he created.

@Demarcussykeshwh

9 ай бұрын

@@naijamandywhat if the women you love has a career and wants to work? Am I still less of a man because I don’t make her not work? lol

@marcusbarrett6422

9 ай бұрын

Lol picture taking care of a whole grown person that is not a child.

I’m a 29 yr old Handsome young man from Johannesburg and I must say I needed this message today. When bro said “ are you willing to go to war for your family” and when he said “Family is not built to be enjoyed but to be guided and led” that hit home. Us modern men need to take a deep long look at ourselves in the mirror and ask ourselves if we’re honestly being the best we can be and if the answer is no then we shouldn’t be cuddling in bed with a woman instead we should be out getting it for the woman

@amandaquest105

23 сағат бұрын

Facts

This makes me appreciate my husband & all his hard work for our family, he’s not rich but he definitely does provide for us

@ImMaleImProud

8 ай бұрын

Remember the song use me up. That's what men made for

@DW-es2en

8 ай бұрын

Love this. That’s what people don’t realize. You don’t have to be rich to fully provide.

@essiethebestie1

8 ай бұрын

Girl same!💯

@dusanmladenovic3045

7 ай бұрын

Thats the guy on the right, he is not rich but he works what he can at the moment to provide, and his wife follows him. They go together in the future building, and thats how it should be. You see what modern time wants from us? To wait, and wait and wait until you rich then go on a date and get married. My parent got together at 23 and 21, where they started building up together and they are happy. But people today have too much from they parents so they used to it and they expect nothing less and expect everything on the table. My parents didnt even work when get got engaged, it was all about the love. They respected each other, but those times are long gone. They lived in hard times so they created good life for us.

@GamingCentralTV1

17 күн бұрын

​@@dusanmladenovic3045what building is he doing working 8 hours because he doesnt want to "overwork"? When I was making less than 60k with a child I didn't feel comfortable. Even now that my BM no longer has to work I still feel I'm capable of doing bigger and better things.

He had my boy so heated he said he didn’t like Chicken 😂😂

@marionbrown4507

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@largerthanlife8974

8 ай бұрын

Knowing good and well that he likes Chicken. 😂😂😂😂

@IamBecomingHer24

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@Dailydoseoff

8 ай бұрын

Hahahahahahahah

@websitelaunchcourse4061

8 ай бұрын

Damn!! 😂😅

He don’t want to be overworked but he over works his women 😢

@Femifromthechat

9 ай бұрын

How is he over working his woman?

@TheRealDasiaB

9 ай бұрын

@@Femifromthechatcooking, cleaning, working, taking care of the house him and kids and to work when he only works 8 hrs and comes home then say “i don’t make my women do anything” what??? he’s overworking her and don’t want to step up.

@Femifromthechat

9 ай бұрын

@@TheRealDasiaB yo that’s life. Single moms do it alll day. So how is that over worked. Did he say he doesn’t help cook and clean and take care of the kids? I didn’t hear him say that.

@TheRealDasiaB

9 ай бұрын

@@Femifromthechat He said if she said she didn’t want to cook he would say okay and be fine with it. So he doesn’t cook bc i’m guessing he would’ve def brought that up in his argument. and YES SINGLE moms not Mothers that have a Man in their presence to help them out. This topic is for relationships not single mothers 😂….

@sj-9212

9 ай бұрын

@@Femifromthechatsingle moms are burnt out and is not living her full potential bc she’s too tired to do anything else.

“If you truly love your woman… if you truly care for her - go hard for her.” Salute. That’s a man’s man mentality.

@smartass0124

8 ай бұрын

do you love your man

@essiethebestie1

8 ай бұрын

Facts💯

@jamespasely8118

8 ай бұрын

I’m working for Me, I Have no Kids 50/50 is Where both of us are Saving

@ladyzinada5341

8 ай бұрын

Correct.

@7sevyn7_

8 ай бұрын

And vice versa

Not even gonna lie. I cried watching this. I needed to hear everything this man said. I understand whole heartedly. He isn’t wrong. I need to do better for my family

@laticia_shahrai

9 ай бұрын

🖤🖤🖤🖤

@newaveride3396

9 ай бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

@AbundantOya14

9 ай бұрын

It's coming. You called it in. ✍️🏾💰

@JK-sz1xy

8 ай бұрын

U got it brother ❤

@KNM5683

8 ай бұрын

💙

A lot of us young men need this type of conversation. The world would be different if we were taught this

@Dhdbd554

9 ай бұрын

To be honest you young. You shouldn’t even be thinking about a bitch. Get your money up first and pick who you want. And don’t go after the ones you like. Go after the ones who like you. They’ll treat you better

@marcusblack8768

9 ай бұрын

So a man should provide for a woman that is not loyal ? And not a good role model ?

@patrickgoodman4576

9 ай бұрын

BRUH YES

@BryanC-kw1py

9 ай бұрын

I know too many men that completely provided everything for a woman and she cheated on him with a guy with nothing but time.

@codeforce5556

9 ай бұрын

Men actually believe that if they be beast of burden to women it a badge of honor 😅a real man 😂😂😂what do you going from it

He was too ashamed of himself to listen. The body language says it all

@tru3g3mini44

9 ай бұрын

Yes

@LatashaWashington-vt7xj

9 ай бұрын

Sure dose, so many young men like this, THEY DON'T WON'T TO LISTEN TO INSTRUCTION TO BETTER THEMSELVES OR THEIR FAMILIES

@1Goddess76

9 ай бұрын

That is EXACTLY what it was.

@jonjones7137

9 ай бұрын

Because his instruction is stupid. Every relationship is different. My parents started with nothing and raised 8 children. This is just stupid

@goldengoddess_love

9 ай бұрын

Yea, look at his hands .. tense the whole time!

I feel for his women, I been his woman and this is why I’m single. Wearing all those hats and still having to do all those things and have a man laying next to you doing less than her. Exhausted is actually a understatement.

@slyboyz37

7 ай бұрын

Lazy

@shashonah4154

7 ай бұрын

@@slyboyz37 explain

@slyboyz37

7 ай бұрын

@@shashonah4154 when you go to Asian, Mexican or white business, let’s say a restaurant, the wife is usually running the cashier. She might be the cook. She might be the janitor and she does all the exact same things at home. Black women are only ones complaining about working.

@Ilayshaa

7 ай бұрын

@@slyboyz37that’s not true. If she is cooking, cleaning, ANDDDDD working 16 hour days, how is that laziness? That Asian lady has her husband helping her while the black lady has a husband that just goes to work and comes home and want his food at the table, house clean, and kids in order. Yall hate for black women to be “strong” but then put them in situations where they do majority of the work and have to be.

@Ilayshaa

7 ай бұрын

@@slyboyz37you missed the part where she said “wearing all these hats” while he only wears one. Seems like to me, black men are the lazy ones. Hell, he sat up here and said he makes $14 an hour, why?? You’re more than able to make more but ofc, the pay reflects the work and I’m sure the work is minimal. The reality is my daddy worked hard to become the very rich man he is today and the excuses that yall are making, I have never heard my daddy make. It’s sad what black men have become

This video is exactly why I don’t counsel men. They need other men to speak to them not me as a woman. This conversation is a start on how we as black peoples can eventually become a real community again. All the “good black men.” Please stand up and start talking to and checking one another. We women can’t do this it’s not our job. I love this video.

@STARSENMT

8 ай бұрын

Don’t counsel men at all because a lot are just upset your in a position to counsel them. They want to be the one to counsel you instead. Ambition is either in you or it’s not.

@letgomyego

6 ай бұрын

We speak through our standards expectations boundaries and innate femininity. That alone filters out the 5050 bandits

@ChicagoBlackDelegation

6 ай бұрын

This truely makes me sick. Most men in America no matter the race don't make enough to support an entire household and never will. The only right answer is for the women to support the home financially as well. If you have a problem with going to work and doing the chores, tell him he needs to get involved with the house work also. It's not that complicated. Scammers like yada are incapable of publicly empathizing with underachieving and average men. Why are so many of you so prone to bad dating advice from wealthy men?? Your mom had to work, so do you

@PRINCESS2527

3 ай бұрын

A lot of psychologists who were women said this too …

@Theprincessinyellow

19 күн бұрын

So true!!! Especially men who have a victim mindset or are down on their luck would feel like they’re losing dignity somehow by receiving advice from a woman. It has to be healthy, healed and happy men talking to and uplifting other men! It is not our job as women to shoulder their responsibilities❤

Love how he spoke to him with respect and love ❤️

@msaverielle

9 ай бұрын

Same.❤

@MaryThiboudeax

9 ай бұрын

But he didn’t reciprocate it. Cussing at him was so disrespectful

@Femifromthechat

9 ай бұрын

This man is a clown. Y’all can’t see that. Y’all are easily mind controlled.

@justinj.6323

9 ай бұрын

Calling him weak because he doesn’t have the circumstances to pay 100% not really respectful. But ig that’s the respect you get when you can’t. 🤷🏿‍♂️

@arleneaugustahair8393

9 ай бұрын

@@justinj.6323unfortunately, the truth hurts. My husband doesn’t make 6 figures whatsoever. Yet when people come to our house they’re always amazed by where we live. It doesn’t take 6-figures to live where we live at all. I declined the large house in our neighborhood. I don’t know who they thought was going to clean 5 bedrooms and 3 1/2 bathrooms. My neighbor is frazzled because they have the bigger house. I’m not cleaning 3 1/2 bathrooms. I’m struggling with 2 1/2 bathrooms. Large houses are nice to look at until you literally have to clean them.

He looking for every excuse to not be held accountable. He literally said I've been in your shoes. But because he has no desire to fully provide. He's finding any reason to not hear how to do better.

@Ariell848

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

@janetatoyebi4569

9 ай бұрын

Period

@themotherofmany

9 ай бұрын

Right!

@terrencetroope

9 ай бұрын

Why should a man fully provide 100%? What is the woman, a child? What’s the point of her having an education then? How are y’all going to advance financially if only the man works? Women don’t even be having kids trying to be a stay at home girlfriend/wife. What was you doing before you met the guy? This thought process and way of thinking makes no sense.

@Jay-cs3jc

9 ай бұрын

​@@terrencetroopewell then a man shouldn't be looking for a woman to submit to him if he can't play his role. You can't be a man and provide, well then dont expect a woman to cook and clean and take care of the house for you. Since you want to go 50/50 then go 50/50 with cooking and taking care of the kids

I've never experienced so much high and low energy in one room, bouncing between an open and closed mindset was something! His patience was commendable. I'm sure there are men out there who'd be desperate to have a mentor laying out the blueprint, but he was in defensive mode and kept erasing anything he said.

@user-rg5en6bq4s

8 ай бұрын

Because the other was telling him not having internal value and not have self worth.

@jesssoreal

7 ай бұрын

Exactly

@Theprincessinyellow

19 күн бұрын

@@user-rg5en6bq4s is that truly all you heard from the provider man?

This man has me setting my standards becoming so high ❤

@whitneywilliams317

8 ай бұрын

A rich man? Good luck.

@bellajones6829

8 ай бұрын

No a real man has nothing to do with money but thanks ❤

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

God said wives should work in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. I'm glad you have high standard, and you should have them for yourself as well, and help your husband provide as God intended. A man's job isn't only to provide money, but spiritual guidece as well. How can he do that when he has no time to pray, meditate, study his bible etc.... becuse he's being over worked. Man cannot live on bread ( money) alone. We always think we know better than God, and this is why we always in trouble.

@elverbell3821

8 ай бұрын

@@bellajones6829 what are the standards for yourself to attract that into ur life?

@MB-xv7er

5 ай бұрын

@ adim00lah Quit twisting the words of the Bible. The Bible has never said that the bill should be split 50-50. In fact, the Bible is very for traditional gender roles. Stop trying to implement feminism into religion we don’t want that here.

DO PART 2 WITH HIS WOMAN PLEASE!! GET HER PERSPECTIVE

@DJRenee

9 ай бұрын

I don't think he should. Because if she is honest in public, this loser will probably start beating on her because of his short comings.

@Iamdianelouise

9 ай бұрын

Facts

@IvoryS2012

9 ай бұрын

Preach!!!!

@SunnyQueen976

9 ай бұрын

Perspective on what THEY OR SURVIVORS…HE AINT SAY HE GAVE UP

@Thelordismybanner

9 ай бұрын

@@SunnyQueen976 he seems to think he is a provide and she respects him and doesn't think she'll expect more foe herself because he thinks he's giving his best...guarantee her perspective is different. She's cooking cleaning and splitting the bills 50/50 with him .HER PERSPECTIVE OF WHAT SHE WANTS FROM HER MAN AND FAMILY WILL BE DIFFERENT FROM WHAT THIS MAN IS SAYING

He's too insecure to hear. They need to understand that relationships are a privilege of stable men, not a right for little boys. It's easier to make excuses and blameshift than it is to listen and be accountable...fear is a terrible thing

@kenyaonkoba9713

9 ай бұрын

right, like dont he want to be successful??? i know he got enough job experience to apply for better paying jobs, people swear they “stuck” at they job. he gon listen

@user-lp2he1md6i

9 ай бұрын

And that there problem. They believe having a wife and family is a right when from the beginning it was a privilege!

@tinyking11

9 ай бұрын

@@user-lp2he1md6i💯💯🔥

As a woman, I am grateful to have seen this.

@user-rg5en6bq4s

8 ай бұрын

Of course you are . But but being female doesn't make you a woman

@naturesown1807

8 ай бұрын

I hope you make a wise choice moving forward 😂

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

This is how the devil works. Everything always seems nice. The devil never comes with an ugly face, he always come looking pretty to lure people with lies. The bible clearly states in proverbs 31, epilogue of the noble wife women are suppose to work and earn money. Putting all this stress on one person, especially in this age when everything is so expensive, will harm the man in the long run. Over work is one of the 5 top causes of death. Most men do not have a job that pays well enough to take care of an entire household without working more than 1 job or working over time. If a man can do this without over work then that's more than okay. But we have to be honest, this is like the top 20% of men, most women will not get a man like this. It's not fair to tell 80% of men you can't have a family because you can't be a sole provider. This means 80% of women won't be getting married, so it effects women too.

@lanay5508

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂..same

This made me cry. It evoked something that i really wanted as a woman. Dear god. Yada cant teach the 50/50 defensive full of himself, victimizes himself. Men like that really dont deserve a lady

You cannot teach him his ears closed

@shar787

9 ай бұрын

Yada you are talking to a wall. “You cannot teach a man anything” by ~Galileo Galilei and Princella Clark for pointing this out.

@empressiveliving

9 ай бұрын

Ears closed…mind closed

@user-kp2gy5cc5l

9 ай бұрын

Not his ears are closed but more like 3rd eye blind

@coffeestudio888

9 ай бұрын

​@SongBenderThe same way its delusional to expect a woman to see you as a leader like it's the 1950s, cook and clean do majority of child care AND give you sex like it's the 1950s. Sir, what are you leading if I'm doing everything on a 50 discount. DELUSIONAL

@ItsConnieBabyy

9 ай бұрын

@SongBenderI think he knows what time period it is. We know times have changed which it’s why it’s called tradition man vs/ 50/50.what’s your point?

Your maturity is top notch. He tired so hard to trigger you. The way you patiently got through this conversation was refreshing to watch. This is the example of a man I want my sons to see

@user-rg5en6bq4s

8 ай бұрын

Why would anyone want be a man . What about their internal value. From all energy from testosterone from their y chromosome. What projecting voices warms center chest and palms healing palms

@Noblesavage31

8 ай бұрын

I will be Comm, too if I’m the one actually going the lecture, the other guy speaking from his heart and is in ability to make what the rich guy is making the rich guy has a high horse mentality so he believes it’s easy for every man to get to where he is Not knowing that there are limitations and one out of 20,000 men will make well over six figures, the other problem is that even if he made $30 an hour like I do, it’s still practically impossible to pay all the bills yourself the rich man can say that because he was able to become rich and give his wife what she desires and have a happier life but someone who is struggling, cannot give the same piece to his wife that he wants tothere is not enough room for everyone to be a millionaire

@slyboyz37

7 ай бұрын

Your sons are doomed if they become what you want

I love this dialect, men teaching men and holding them accountable is the only way things will change with our men.

@providenceartdesign

Ай бұрын

That's what it's supposed to be

I normally don't comment on videos but I wish there was more to this video. I personally feel that Yada was dropping major gems that went over this brother head or interrupted. The attempt to uplift was genuine. I feel like Yada led the horse to water but realized the horse wasn't parched enough to receive the information given.

@Yna-u3g

8 ай бұрын

The guy is used to being defiant and in a suspended state of growth...

@essiethebestie1

8 ай бұрын

He's stuck on Yada saying that he isn't a real man. But I'm glad some guys are getting the overall message ❤

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

Well, Yada isn't God. God said women should work and earn money, in proverbs 31, epilogue of a noble wife. There is a reason for this imo. Man isn't just a material provider, he is also a spiritual provider. When is a man suppose to find time for bible study, meditation, prayer etc... when he's working himself into an early grave like an animal? Yada seems like he focuses a lot on money, that's his idol. I aim to have a balance spiritual life, and I need a good wife to help me do that by helping me be a better provider by working and earning money. Yada doesn't know better than God. We need to stop listening to these people and listen to God.

@shamimn.3253

8 ай бұрын

⁠@@adim00lah you sound just like the 50/50 brother in the video. Making excuses and no desire for accountability. You found one scripture that says women can make money and ignored the thousands that say men should be men and provide for their women and offspring.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

​@@shamimn.3253 I am very familiar with the bible, which thousands of verses? None of them says a man should be the sole provider, that's cap. How am I dodging accountability when the bible says both of us should work and make money. Only 1 doging is you. Living is way more expensive than it use to be back in the day. A house use to cost 60k back then which would only be 240k in 2023. Now what house can you buy for 240k, a crack house? Average home cost 406k now. A mustange 50 years ago cost 3500 dollars, about 20k now accounting for inflation, a mustang cost 42k now. Everything cost almost twice as much, so a man has to make twice as much? You gonna work 1 man the death doing this. So I have to make twice the money of my grandfather? So I have to be twice the man or I'm not a man? So what exactly are you doing to be twice the woman of your grand mother? What about all the verse in the bible that say women should be virgins before marriage? Are any of you guys that anymore? Raising the bar for us, and lowering it for yourself, how nice. This right here is why most women aren't married, and are single mothers.

He can’t even control his own emotions

@autumnskai6383

9 ай бұрын

I bet he makes his woman's life miserable... That lady is definitely stressed. And if he ever got money he'll leave her with the quickness.

You’re 100% right that if you interviewed his girl, she would be crying. I know she watched this too and felt some type of way. Best of luck to her❤

@DeeM00LAH

9 ай бұрын

@@DemCom28 you’re absolutely delusional. Lol

@natashafawn3810

9 ай бұрын

@@DemCom28you’d think that. A lot of women talk amongst ourselves underneath men’s radar. Women of different races too! I mean…read the room sweetie pie😂 look through the comments and you’ll see😌 You might even see a comment from ya girl on here😂😂😂

@DeeM00LAH

9 ай бұрын

@@natashafawn3810 your comment is spot on. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 she trying to hold his ego together but if a real man approached her 🏃🏽‍♀️💨 .

She pays 50% of the bills, cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids and has relations with him. She’s miserable and needs help and constantly in her masculine.

@cashgogetter6737

8 ай бұрын

I just heard this rapper say, I give a thousand just to deal with me

@ChicagoBlackDelegation

6 ай бұрын

Why are ya'll not getting the men involved with the house chores and cooking? If you pay 50% of the bills, he does 50% of the chores. Are ya'll really that bad at negotiating??

@jkuhede

5 ай бұрын

​@@ChicagoBlackDelegation people be thinking hypothetical scenarios in their own head

@bumblebee4280

4 ай бұрын

​@@ChicagoBlackDelegation Negotiating with a man who lets you pay half his bills to be his wife is a fruitless job. This is a man of no shame or integrity. He will go back on his word. You will find everything you asked him to do undone. Bad men don't make good substitute women. He's bad at his providing role, he's also bad at homemaking. Just because you don't make enough money to support the family you're supposed to be heading, doesn't mean you now qualify for the homemaking role.

@ChicagoBlackDelegation

4 ай бұрын

@bumblebee4280 silly assumptions. Pick a man that was raised to keep a clean house. Not that complicated. If men can pay bills every month, men can do the laundry or toss dishes in the dishwasher. Stop trying to lie to everybody.

When he said “you telling me to overwork myself so I cannot enjoy my woman anymore” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

With his type of attitude, that woman needs to RUN! He doesn't want to overwork but his woman is tending to the household AND bills WTF?! He is NOT a man!

@itsjusttrease

9 ай бұрын

HELLO!!!!!! He is a 🤡 the message going over his head

@naijamandy

9 ай бұрын

right!! he doesn’t want to “overwork” himself but is okay with his woman overworking herself.. absolutely not

@terrencetroope

9 ай бұрын

Who said he ain’t helping around the house? A lot of man like to cook and grill. Cut grass, take trash out, car maintenance, etc. Also, a lot of women like to work. What’s the point of a women going to college if she plan on just being a house wife and not working?

@jawoncromartie6613

9 ай бұрын

@@naijamandywait show me where his he said his wife works more then him ? See that’s why woman mostly black woman don’t have a man y’all don’t want to help . And just make up stuff you just said she overwork herself just because she work just like him

@anonymousduplicity9447

9 ай бұрын

He is dummy !! It’s 50/50

My Lord, this was a word!! The Black community needs this!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I felt him when he said most men will die not being able to experience the true benefits and joy of being a real man with a wife. I love that my husband can come home from work and see the benefits of me being able to focus on his home and his children. And I love being able to focus on me and our home life. My husband makes sure that we have the tools we need at home and I take those tools to keep building the home up.

Great conversation, y'all. I'm 45 still living at home, I have been on one 10 years serious relationship, right out of college. I always thought it was normal to split with a woman because I was raised by my grandmother, mother, and sisters. I'm the only male of a family of six. I always heard my mother saying I am harder on you because you are the men. I always thought my Mom hated me the most until I reached the level of man and god thinking of maturity to comprehend. I moved back home with my Mom at 39. Now I'm 45, I have a juice company that I have launched during covid, working on my food truck, helping my Mom out with the bills, noted, she is not even asking for it. She is preparing to be able to provide a 💯 for my family. I remember my step Dad only let my Mom pay just the water bill. He was paying for everything else. As Black men, we are descendants of God. Therefore, we are gods by default. We just need to activate our superpowers. It is BS to think it is hard out here. It is not hard for a man with a plan and the discipline to execute. Pay 100% or stay home. Ladies no pussy for a man that cannot give a 100.

@firesign4297

8 ай бұрын

🙏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🔥💣🎤

@feelingthinking

8 ай бұрын

This the one.

@essiethebestie1

8 ай бұрын

🗣HELLO! Once BM WAKE UP! The Game is OVER💯

You don't need a woman until you can provide 💯 👌🏾

@reebee6329

9 ай бұрын

You have 14 dollars an hour and you want someone to struggle with you.

@imeldangadzania5212

9 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@ronaldrobinson4559

9 ай бұрын

Money is not the only thing men provide! we provide protection, guidance, knowledge, structure etc..

@kingfree3396

9 ай бұрын

Women got all kinda game , dont want to even be accountable for your own dame selves

@LilithTheAquarian369

9 ай бұрын

@@ronaldrobinson4559please only the money. 💀✋🏾

“A queen is not meant to be in the battlefield”…AMEN! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

@eliyahyisrael4189

9 ай бұрын

i agree, but in terms of SPIRITUAL WARFARE...a queen can BE THE BATTLEFIELD herself...to resist wickedness and evil from within...you see, even queens are not truly exempt from battle...

@bchappy5460

9 ай бұрын

Ya better go watch “Woman King”. 😂

@goooat8260

9 ай бұрын

What if the battle is right at our doorstep? Then what? So I’m just supposed to be a one man army or have one? And what if they fails and the women are left? Shiid you might as well get to fighting wit me

@MattRomPsalms

9 ай бұрын

@@eliyahyisrael4189And biblically speaking…what were the women doing and where were they??? Not on the battlefield.

@eliyahyisrael4189

9 ай бұрын

@@MattRomPsalms no...they were not on the battlefield...I never said they should be either...BUT, in judges 4th chapter, yael did kill sisera the canaanite in his sleep when he fled the battlefield after convincing him that she was going to hide him...the battle came to her doorstep...and she handled business... ...but I digress...I was simply stating that in SPIRITUAL WARFARE...YOU are the SOLDIER, AND THE BATTLEFIELD AT THE SAME TIME...and women are NOT exempt from this because they are women...evil & wickedness doesn't care about what sex you are...

The only issue I got with 50/50 because it’s never actually 50/50. They expect the woman to cook, clean, stay in the gym, pay bills, come home not tired enough to have sex, take care of the kids, etc which makes it 1000/50. All of it should be split but now men are so sassy and spoiled and women are becoming the man they’ve never had by treating themselves to all of the nice things they desire

He stood.up for the ladies and brought tears to my eyes. Finally a black man that gets it ! 🥲😭

@YASMINOGBU

8 ай бұрын

Successful too! 🙏🏼

He says He doesn’t want to over work but never once mentioned sharing the responsibilities of the household with his woman.

This is real sad. How many times did he have to say “I’ve been where you are” he is literally giving him the code to level up and his pride won’t let him accept the help. This interaction is a perfect example of how a lot of men in this generation are so unwilling to listen and learn. A man will never feel complete in himself if he cannot provide, it’s just the way it is.

@jenapowers7360

9 ай бұрын

and the type of generation that has thrown away american/foundational black women to buy a passport and find something "better" elsewhere.

@godsway8501

9 ай бұрын

Real shit. 💯✌🏾💙

@dreykuslowe6128

9 ай бұрын

Statically speaking only a minority of people are gonna be rich. Money don't make you a men

@jenapowers7360

9 ай бұрын

@@dreykuslowe6128 the message went over your head too 🤦🏻‍♀️

@DeadricSummoner

9 ай бұрын

He didn't give him the code to level up. You don't level up from working dead end jobs, you level up by learning a skill. I don't know how we open with "You're not a real man" and expect people to just take notes like they're in class or something.

His attitude told me everything I needed to about his relationship and why he is in the situation he’s in.

My sympathy to the woman and children in the home with this 50/50 male. Hopefully she will move on and prosper.

He said his woman cook for him every night but when Yada asked him what food he like he said nothing. This brother is super emotional

@THENEWKID1022

9 ай бұрын

I believe there is more to this conversation that we are not getting. Yes dude in shorts was emotional. But it seemed like this conversation is like 30 minutes in. I think there were several darts that were thrown to get his point across. Ultimately there is nothing wrong with a 50/50 lifestyle. Of course everyman would love to completely provide. However even the traditional man wasn't being fully honest The traditional man said he was where the 50/50 man was. He stated that he worked his way up from low pay to where he is now but stated that his wife didn't put in any work financially at all. Explain to me how. How can a family survive alone on just the 15/hr Marriage is a partnership. We work together to strive towards our goals. It is not only one way to accomplish that. It doesn't make a man any less of a man by working with his wife same it doesn't make a woman any more of a woman by staying home.

@ebbonyreynolds6502

9 ай бұрын

@@THENEWKID1022spoken like a true dusty 🙌🏾

@THENEWKID1022

9 ай бұрын

Dusty? @@ebbonyreynolds6502 You mean as a husband to an amazing wife and father to two beautiful children. Who are supported in a two parent household. Supported by two working parents. Who work together to balance time and finances. At the end of the day 2 incomes are better than one. Lastly 50/50 doesn't mean make my wife a slave and neither myself. 50/50 simply means equal support and treating each other like equals.

@shialovern475

9 ай бұрын

If you listen closely hes stating dont make a family until youre able to support your family,15/hr you say not gonna cut it then,go school for trade job,so you can get a better job,work two jobs until youre stable and then work one good job,all he saying is u hustle for your family,not just be okay with 15.00hr job complain that its not enough to support youre family,A man will make a way and get out and support his family and wife supports,if she has a job great but that shouldn't be necessary. Thats all he saying this new Generation coming into marriage with this new mindset of doing the bare minimum because my wife go work just as hard as me and take care of home,husband, and kids but want her to be this soft submissive wife. Chileee

@dandre3K

9 ай бұрын

@@THENEWKID1022Dusty == Black man with even a minor disagreement

Get someone on here that can have this conversation with out taking it personal or getting emotional

@ravenjonesmusic

9 ай бұрын

Nah we need the emotional boys so we can showcase how alot of these man child react and project their insecurities.

@tru3g3mini44

9 ай бұрын

@@ravenjonesmusicI agree

@cheergurl113

9 ай бұрын

@@ravenjonesmusicabsolutely

@tiffanywilliams4944

9 ай бұрын

Truth hurts though, eventually this young fella will receive and understand this message one day

@Charliemic215

9 ай бұрын

@@ravenjonesmusicagreed

This video touched my soul & has me reevaluating certain things❤. The interviewer is amazing & god sent. Stern while still being caring & compassionate

This was a great message that you tried to offer the very aggressive and combative young brother. You dropped so many jewels. This is a great example as to why information sometimes cannot be shared and passed on. He had so much contempt for the wisdom that you provided that he simply refused to take a breath and listen.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

I think this is acting. They depicted the 50/50 guy as being angry, and not being able to hole his frame. But truth be told, lots of men had wives that worked. My wife's grandfather was a construction worker, and his wife worked as a hotel maid. That doens't make him less of a man because his wife worked. Her grandpa is one of the most stoic cats I have ever seen, so it's not him working 50/50 that makes him like this. In the bible, God said women should work and earn money, it's in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. I respect what Yada said in this video, but his wisdom not higher than God's. We have to be careful how things are presented, I didn't like how they made the 50/50 guy look, that's not how my father was and my mom actually out earned my father.

This is a grown man speaking to a boy who has the emotions his mother gave him.

@cedrichines1012

8 ай бұрын

This is a rich man speaking to a working man they can't relate to each other it's easy to say I can do all this when your rich

@TK-el4sr

6 ай бұрын

​@@cedrichines1012You obviously wasn't listening just like the 50 50 man in the video. That "rich" man was a working man too before he became rich. And while he was a working man he was still providing for his family without going 50 50

@meenblack3404

5 ай бұрын

@@cedrichines1012He wasn’t always rich brother. I’m on the same path he’s talking right now and I’m not rich. I live in Los Angeles sub par neighborhood, but I had a mind shift after I became connected to God and the god He put in us. I see no more excuses. He can talk like that because he’s been there.

A man is a provider. You definitely have to come up with a plan. Don’t get into a relationship until you can PROVIDE.

@VeeKayGreenerGrass

9 ай бұрын

They have to be taught to be. This one wasn't taught.

@msaverielle

9 ай бұрын

@@VeeKayGreenerGrassPraise YAH, you can now do better.

@SuperLongly

9 ай бұрын

AMEN!!

@lifegemslostknowledge6230

9 ай бұрын

I bet most of you are single. Parents are providers for their offspring not just 1. Both cook & clean & provide no gender roles or It'll cause unbalanced relationship. Learn actual love & watch all fall into place. smh this gen is ass juice

@newnights

9 ай бұрын

More people love that word than can explain it. Be worthy of being provided for. Just being a woman ain't enough.

This was so deep. I need this conversation to be heard everywhere.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

In the bible, God said women should work and earn money, it's in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. I respect what Yada said in this video, but his wisdom not deeper than God's.

“Once made equal to man, woman becomes his superior.” ~ Socrates

@chiphi4833

Ай бұрын

Which Ultimately Means She IS Superior. Lol How Could You Be Superior To Someone Who Can Choose Whether Or Not To Even Birth You?

@RCCrosby

Ай бұрын

@@chiphi4833 By competing in the Olympics

@chiphi4833

Ай бұрын

@@RCCrosby Ah Yes! Because Women Don’t Compete In The Olympics… 😅😭

@RCCrosby

Ай бұрын

​@@chiphi4833 Not against Men, they have their own Special Olympics.

This!!!!! Is what men needs, another man to keep ‘em accountable and council them. I love this conversation 🙏

@blackout7743

9 ай бұрын

Do your part for the women.

@kingfree3396

9 ай бұрын

Yall women think we going back to the 50s while yall bussin it not gon happen .

@woyjl

9 ай бұрын

@@blackout7743 I do mentor and hold my sisters accountable & try my best to set an Godly example esp to the younger generation. These types of conversations definitely go both ways for both men and women ☺️ God Bless!

@woyjl

9 ай бұрын

@@kingfree3396Hi King, I definitely have not thought of that nor any of the women that I have in my life has ever thought that 😂😂 but hope you’re doing well and thriving in your purpose! God Bless

@altairolp1557

8 ай бұрын

So if a man is paying all of the bills and the woman still wants to work, what will her income be doing? Or is her income off limits for being questioned and held accountable on how it is being spent?

Look at how the 50/50 man is so aggressive and argumentative and the traditional man is so calm.

@1stunna91

9 ай бұрын

Because the other man is speaking complete nonsense.

@Cloutjonesdotcom

9 ай бұрын

hes argumentative because the premise of the conversation is a direct insult to his masculinity. Its easy to be calm when you are the one doing the insulting instead of the one being insulted and having your life scrutinized by someone who thinks hes of moral high ground because he earns more money.

@homevideosfromnini3975

9 ай бұрын

Its funny af because truth is, you dont need a big house that you have to have a second income.

@AJweathersby

9 ай бұрын

@@Cloutjonesdotcom As a high earner, and traditional married man myself, you hit it right on the head. I hate seeing videos like this where high earners condescend to middle class men about how they should handle relationships in terms of finances. The average American male who is making 50k a year absolutely should not be trying to imitate the spending habits of people who make 2-3x that, especially in long term relationships. I’d like to see him be forced to live on a middle class salary and try to apply these same views.

@jestoril75

9 ай бұрын

this is mere patriarchal propaganda cloaked as the appearance of wealth. what most fail to realise is that patriarchy folds neatly under the guise of white supremacy and we’ve sadly embraced it to our detriment. so why do we aspire to accumulate the “big house” and the appearance of wealth? to emulate those who once enslaved us? and what of compassion and giving grace to those that appear to be less fortunate? or is the appearance of wealth an apparatus to condescend those who don’t live to that standard? leadership is not gender specific but i digress.

The difference between a “I will do this/ handle this” man and a “I will do what I can” man

As a woman I needed to hear this, thank you for reminding us our REAL roles.

His body language tells me everything I need to know , Traditional Man Me Please !!!

@cristina-dk4vo

9 ай бұрын

Baby listen. That posture & I could tell he was having a hard time controlling himself. His insecurities and envious spirit was seeping out

I don’t like having conversations with people that simply ignore LOGIC🙄 it’s like beating a dead horse🤦🏽‍♀️ you can NEVER win with them! He’s literally intentionally NOT listening to him!

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

In the bible, God said women should work and earn money, in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. So is God not logical? Why we always feel we know better than God? The 1st time this happened, lead us to the fall from the garden of eden. If could just llisten to God and stop thinking we know better, honestly, life would be a lot better. Over working a man to death is not logical at all. A wife is suppose to be a man's helper, not another financial obligation. Over work is one of the top 5 causes of death. You realize, if only the men who can afford a stay at home wife get married, like 80% of women will never get married? God knows best.

The man brought healing. Everyone needs to say this.. This is dope. This is needed

Bless you Yama. Some people can’t and won’t learn. You gave him keys. He threw them back.

As a woman with a man that has no issue with providing my every need, protecting & uplifting me this man clearly needs a reality check. Yes, it is hard in today's society. Slaves had it harder, suck it tf up! Also, as a man why are you even seeking a relationship if your sh* is not all the way together? He needs to be seeking financial stability, therapy bc he is clearly speaking from emotion rather than a biological man point. Who is this man?

@retravienmccullough1949

9 ай бұрын

This whole conversation is worker vs owner. 9/10 most men don’t make enough to successfully provide for a family. But they are in place to make the world go around. So issue is most women have to work now because of it. So it’s teamwork. My issue is y’all both gotta grind. That’s just how it is these days. And I bet your husband in his mind would never tell you this but would love if you got a job to help the family out. You either in asset or a liability

@user-lp2he1md6i

9 ай бұрын

@@retravienmccullough1949taking care of the kids and working will always outweigh men like you and guy in the video. Proving yourselves to be liabilities to the world.

@jaydaj.4946

9 ай бұрын

⁠@@retravienmccullough1949If those 9/10 men stopped getting rewarded with children & wife duties until they were able to be providers, I bet that number would decrease significantly. Men need to work harder & women need to stop giving broke men babies 🤷🏽‍♀️

@mikemarion99

9 ай бұрын

​@@user-lp2he1md6iif he's doing 50/50 with the kids yall even

@tinyking11

9 ай бұрын

@@jaydaj.4946💯💯🔥 Broke men don’t deserve wives and kids. 🤷🏽‍♀️ It is what it is. That’s for financially stable men only.

Him: “it sounds like your saying to over work myself” Wife: 14 hours at work to come to be the mother, wife and housekeeper. The nerve of this kid

@Superservice-eb3im

8 ай бұрын

Haha, yoooo, u can't, y'all. I don't blame the men. I always blame those so-called, looser, wanna be women for opening their legs to these looser. In the Animal kingdom unless you can defeat the current male, no pussy for you and you eat last. Me I am currently not at the level where I can provide a 100% and guess what? I am still home in my mid-40s, preparing my plays. My time will come, but once I start flying, there will be no stopping.

@animezae

8 ай бұрын

16 hours even. The gall 😭😭

@jamespasely8118

8 ай бұрын

Cook and Cleaning is not a Job Bro, A Man can do that Himself

@areyourhandsbroke

8 ай бұрын

@@jamespasely8118 cooking and cleaning is a job bro where are you from

@jamespasely8118

8 ай бұрын

Stop The Cap

Much respect to this man.. his patience with the brother… the most high is speaking through him…

The man-child on the right was literally ready to fight because another man told him to step it up and be a real man. A better man. Unbelievable.

I would love the brother in the tracksuit to talk more. I aspire to have similar accomplishments, selflessness, his level of patience & calmness. As a young black male born and raised in Chicago, I've seen more men that I don't want to be like than I do. He was spot on when he said "men aren't used to receiving love from other men, especially black men (that kinda triggered me). Then he dropped the mic when he made the statement about our women being in the battlefield for so long, we think it's normal. Most these guys do be looking for mother figures in partners and don't even consider the load she carries in the relationship.

@DwainWilsonJr

9 ай бұрын

I CAN agree with that

@DW-es2en

8 ай бұрын

🎯🎯🎯

@essiethebestie1

8 ай бұрын

Well you're already on the right path. It's refreshing to see a young black man, seeking to be what the community & black families need.😊 I'm glad to see that you're able to recognize the patterns & behaviors that aren't good for our family structure. Cudos to you for that. You're head is on right. Be sure not to make those mistakes as they can be very alluding & easy. I would recommend looking up Tony Gaskins. He's religious but if you're not. I say eat the meat & spit out the bones. He has a very holistic approach to relationships. Good luck.

@chefbooga8241

8 ай бұрын

He is talking a whole lot of rara. There isnt a point he made that would help a man provide for his family.

@naturesown1807

8 ай бұрын

You act like him and you won't have much for very long, I guarantee. All it'll take is for the right person to come along and they gonna run right through your shit.

Wow! I would never be with a man with that mindset. My mom was with our dad and her husband and he was a HUGE burden to her. She always says how unhappy she was with him cause he bought nothing to the table and required so much from her that she gave!!! Some Men are selfish I know first hand. And this man is one of those types.

@tru3g3mini44

9 ай бұрын

I watch my mom live like that still to this day. My daddy is sorry asf!! But my mom still provides!! SAD BUT TRUE🤦🏾‍♀️

I really appreciated this video so much. The broke guy showed why he’s broke…. He was so in his ego and defensiveness that he refused to hear and learn how he can elevate, and the other guy was so nice and really sincerely wanting to elevate him so he can also have what he has. I really liked this other guy. I’m so glad there are awesome provider guys out there who don’t need to protect fragile ego by poor life decisions.

@user-rg5en6bq4s

8 ай бұрын

If he really meant get defensive he would gotten offensive. Asked how Traditional man knew his isn't cheating on him when he's not around. Call out traditional guy for making assertions with little information . Based his world view

@ashleysno

7 ай бұрын

That is the average male's attitude. Protect the ego at all cost. Look at this other comment. Perfect example.⬆️

This is the leadership we need in the black community❤

@TanyaOlivia

8 ай бұрын

Yes yes

@elzheffner5209

8 ай бұрын

This is an unrealistic perspective that is going to dismantle the black community. This dynamic is a luxury that only a few can provide. I'm an IVY league graduate, practicing anesthesiologist, and the only black hire in my department in the last 7 years. Not even white people can afford this dynamic on average. Here's a fun fact only 23% of households in America have female "home-makers," stay at home mothers. 50% of that data compromised of white households, meaning the highest earners on average cant regularly afford this dynamic. Despite these statistics being readily available and the state of our economy hanging on by a thread. We push these hollywood pipe-dreams and emasculate Black men who are historically the last participants in our current market. Just because "I CAN," I would never speak down to another black man and tell him he isn't a man because he can't provide a luxury only a few people in this world will ever be able to experience. The likelihood of him reaching this level of success is pretty damn difficult. FOR ANY RACE FOR THAT MATTER. Not all of us will be able to attain these dynamics and if you do you're extremely blessed.

@newaveride3396

8 ай бұрын

@@elzheffner5209 lol… I like all the excuses you gave. My father paid all the bills, my husband pays all the bills and my sons are being raised to pay all the bills. Stop working for the man if you so worried about hitting the glass ceiling. Simple.

@elzheffner5209

8 ай бұрын

@@newaveride3396 I'm not worried about a ceiling I have reached incredible heights by the grace of god and by most metrics I am rich or at least extremely comfortable. Less than 1.8% of taxpayers make my annual salary (400k). "Working for the man," isn't something that looms my mind. However, just because I have excelled in healthcare doesn't qualify me to speak down to black men who statistically will never achieve this? This isn't an argument of capability just a clear realization that there is a "FINITE AMOUNT OF RESOURCES." Meaning everyone can't be successful nor provide this form of stability. It's a ridiculous assumption to think so. Fortunately, my wife won't ever have to work a day in her life, but this isn't a replicable scenario for most Americans and its narcissistic to tell these black men that they're not men because of it.

@elzheffner5209

8 ай бұрын

What is glaring is that you didn't read my response thoroughly. You're confusing empathy with an excuse. This isn't advocation for my own predicament, I haven't had a financial worry in years. I probably could provide more "financial," comfort than your father and husband combined. My point is clear, success doesn't make any of us the gatekeepers of manhood! @@newaveride3396

I found a way to provide 100% as a single mother of 3, while I was making only $15 an hour & no help... I went out and got a certification and started a 6 figure business (Notary Public/ Loan Signing Agent) I don't understand why black "boys" can't do this for their families... They want to sit up and make excuses like this "boy" saying things like "It's hard out here" yea it is so that's why you need to grow up and go harder!

@whyisitneeded9012

8 ай бұрын

I don't think the conversation is about looking after children/family. The issue here is also looking after the women who are also grown adults ... That seemb to want to be taken of. Yet if it was the other way around the woman well you know the rest...

@Rainemiracles

8 ай бұрын

​@whyisitneeded9012 the poor guy literally admitted "I only make $14 an hour, how, how, its hard out here, its hard out here" asking the man how is he going to pay all the bills only making $14 an hour. He can't even afford bills for just himself... He needs help from a woman to take care of himself let alone a family... If I can figure out a way to take care of 3 human beings (my children) then why can't he figure out how to take care of a woman (he approached, and asked to be inserted in her life) and 2 kids??? Men like him love to make excuses.... I didn't go around pumping my fists at people yelling "It's hard, it's hard" I got up off my behind & made a way. I did it with no help, no family, no significant other, but this man has help from a woman and still can't figure out how to make more than $14 an hour... It's down right sad and pitiful...

@whyisitneeded9012

8 ай бұрын

@@Rainemiracles you just answered it. You were able to do it with 15 so I'm sure he can with 14. The gripe here is that the man must also take care of another grown person as if they are a child. Mentally financially and spiritually. Which no woman would do over a set amount of time. The difference here is one man pays for his respect and love, the other is loved because his partner wants to love him. To call a man pitiful based on his wage is why conversations like this exist. In other cultures, that short man would not be bringing home any food, but in this culture of talking and sickness he is top provider. In another setting that rich man would not be comparable to the less wealthy man.

@Rainemiracles

8 ай бұрын

@whyisitneeded9012 I'm not calling him "pitiful" because of his wage. I'm calling him pitiful because he is CONTENT with making $14 an hour... We all have to start somewhere, I've been homeless before, 2 weeks after my 18 birthday, was still in high school. I was sleeping on the street and eating out of the garbage. Making $6.00 when minimum wage was $5 an hour. I wasn't pitiful although I was homeless making only $6 an hour. You know why??? Because I didnt stay there long... Took me 8 months to get on my feet but I did it... I didn't sell drugs or prostitute, I worked my tail off and elevated... This man is literally pumping his fists yelling "how, how". Dude go figure out how lmaooo! The man in the track suit literally told him he needs a woman to help him pay his bills, where would he be without that woman??? HOMELESS that's where, because he can't afford the bills for himself let alone a family. I only date men with old traditional values. Men that know if they are walking up to me when I'm out in public while I'm minding my own business (I get hit on a lot, I can't go to the grocery store or gas station without hearing "Aye come here, can I get to know you, can I get your number") sooooo if a man is approaching me, I'm not approaching him, I'm not trying to insert myself into his life, he's trying to insert himself into my life. And if he is trying to insert himself in my life then yes he has to make sure I'm 100% taken care of before I start doing wifely duties.... I know where I'd be without a man. Living in a luxury gated community, driving a brand new Chevy, taking beach trips, making 6 figures... Where would this man be without a woman? Homeless or living with his mama and that is what's pitiful... I literally said in my second to last sentence, this man has help from a woman and he can't figure out how to make more than $14 an hour and that's what's pitiful. I never once said him making only $14 an hour is pitiful... But the fact that he has help to elevate BUT he rather go around pumping his fists yelling, being content making $14 an hour, THAT'S what's pitiful, he's embarrassing...

@whyisitneeded9012

8 ай бұрын

@@Rainemiracles if that to you is what makes a good life then that is fine. To others its love, understanding, bonding and seeing each other for who they are not who you want them to be and building culture. Luxury cars and beach sounds like the American dream which was literally marketed to women for the last 40 years.(watch show called mad men) to literally squander their money and separate from their males. Relationships is not based on what a person has and can give but it's based on who they are to you. Some relationships for decades exists just because a male put his life on the line to save a woman from a speeding car, which she now respects him till this day though he's not rich. Taking care of another grown person who has autonomy for the rest of our life in order to be called a man? Most men are growing up from that. Again if you made it work with 3 kids on 14 an hour what makes you think a single a male on he's own would make him homeless?? We aren't in traditional times where you can own land a house and car and not worry about anything else because we are set. Those same traditional marriages were not taking trips and driving luxury cars. You are merging traditional values with a modern aesthetic that suits women's fantasies to be taken care of. Again without money that guy in the track suit would not be able to stand next to the other guy. His respect is earned through paying for everything but one day money won't be enough. And on that day that same women would look for what she now deems a real man.

"We don't do what we can, we do what we want" Facts!!! I learned this a long time ago... a man does what he wants. He'll make time & sacrifice, for things he wants.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

But what is he sacrificing though? Over work is one of the top 5 causes of death. So a man has to sacrifice his life, just to keep you from working a part time job? Driving a man in to an early grave is not love. The bible in proverbs 31, epilogue of the noble wife, God says a wife should work and earn money. We always think we know better than God, Adam and Eve had that problem too, look how well that worked out for all of us. Your job is to help your husband, including financial help. A man is also suppose to be a spiritual provider, but how he suppose to do that, when he has no time to meditate, pray, study his bible etc... all everybody focused on when it comes to providing is money, money money. I do believe a man should earn the brunt of the money for the family, with the wife working part time to help supplement their income. Even if the man can cover all the bills, you should work just to stack money in savings. You can't ever save too much money.

@user-hg4hz1lx2h

7 ай бұрын

If all Men did want we wanted, the world would be full of Diddy’s, Adolph’s, Bidens, and even worse than that.

@user-hg4hz1lx2h

7 ай бұрын

Also to make the sacrifices this man in the video speaks of would strip a person from their family but also their humanity

@josearzate6380

5 ай бұрын

​@adim00lah 🤦🏽‍♂️

I fully respect this, I’m in a 50/50 marriage but im positioning myself by isolating myself so I can elevate my wife and take over and give her the life she deserves. This type of talk does hurt but at the end of the day it’s a must.

Peace and blessings Brother Yada, I just wanted to express my gratitude. I came across one of your recent videos where you were talking to a young man, and I was genuinely proud to see someone who shares my values when it comes to how we treat our women. Your content keeps popping up on my feed, and I appreciate the positive influence you're putting out there. Keep up the great work, and may you continue to spread this important message about the value of our queens. I remember a video you did about the concept of '50 and 50,' and I could relate to it. I'm a working man, and my wife stays at home with our kids. I firmly believe that a woman shouldn't be pressured to work unless she chooses to. If she wants to stay home and care for the children, there's nothing wrong with that, while the man provides a hundred percent support. It's our responsibility as men to protect, provide, and care for our women and children, and it's great to see that you and I resonate on this. I'm also a vegan, so I appreciate your holistic approach to life. I look forward to watching you continue to grow and share your wisdom. Thank you for the video and your positive impact." I hope this captures your sentiments well!

This man is clearly mad that he’s a man. He’s mad he has to live up to certain responsibilities to be respected as a man 🤷🏾‍♀️

@yesitsme5233

9 ай бұрын

EXACTLY! he wants to be the one that’s taken care of. That’s why he’s so triggered.

@are-kayrk7011

9 ай бұрын

Yeah he wants his feelings babied and pacified…put that aside and be a man

@anonymousduplicity9447

9 ай бұрын

You don’t know what a man is

@postalcode63

9 ай бұрын

@@anonymousduplicity9447She doesnt at all.

@user-lp2he1md6i

9 ай бұрын

@@anonymousduplicity9447A male is not a man. You already coming off like you & the male underneath you don’t have MAN qualities

That man was so emotionally stressed out he look like he just wanted to hit him for being better than him in all aspects of a man and brother wasn’t even saying nothing wrong to him he was more worried about his car house and clothes and shoes and not the message what a shame

@km-lw2uc

9 ай бұрын

Oh there was a reason he wasn't violent security perhaps 🤔

@ebonyjones6390

9 ай бұрын

@@km-lw2uc Well good for him I would too if your mentally unstable

@katrinajames779

9 ай бұрын

I caught that too the way he’s rubbing his hands. He really wanted to hit him. I might be wrong, but you can just tail.

@katrinajames779

9 ай бұрын

I swear I wish I knew who his girlfriend was I would tell her to leave

@latreshaneil7561

9 ай бұрын

He probably talks just like that to his woman…I’ve gone through this smh

The thing I thought was interesting was the REWARD the woman bestows upon her man because she HAS THE ENERGY to. We always WANT to, we just don't have the energy to. What women really want is the choice. What we all need are options. Sometimes to get to a place with options you have to do the hard push. Imagine pride coming from a place of accomplishment rather than struggle. Is it hard? Sure. But why can't we thrive? If someone else can do it, why can't we? I really loved that Yada's message was just that. "I came from similar circumstances as you and I did it. So can you. In order to get different results you have to change and it starts with your mind."

@drstone3418

8 ай бұрын

you it's male body that gives energy and material. . He energy vibrational energy chemical energy. All male just only reason any would to a man is they see gifts in being male

@clarkkent2005

8 ай бұрын

What is the reward from the woman?

The 50/50 guy did not hear a word he said. He was aggro from the very start and could only hear "you are not a man". His lack of self awareness is crazy.

@hugomitty5759

6 ай бұрын

I’m confused I get it in some sense but let’s say the man is the full provider still takes care of the kids cleans cooks but willingly and the wife just chills doesn’t pay shit basic necessities kids cleans lays on her back how does it make her a woman ? I though real woman were independent I don’t think a real woman would want to depend on a “man” for all these things.

@helium5912

6 ай бұрын

You are describing a worthless human. If I wanted a wife that did that I wouldnt be married and I would just pay for sex from someone. Cause a woman you described is ONLY good for sex. Thats it. @@hugomitty5759

This was so hard to watch🥹 very emotional. Because all I saw was yada doing was trying to pour into him to help him better his family structure. He was so triggered, he was highly emotional and that only led me to feel he does feel bad and he does know internally it’s not right or he would have never been that emotional about it. I wish them both the very best.

@shawntikajones128

9 ай бұрын

Facts

@are-kayrk7011

9 ай бұрын

Agreed.. he gotta get out of his feelings and recieve the knowledge.. he was so emotional about it because deep down he desires to be that kind of man.. he just feels it’s too hard but he gotta get some strength and rise to the occasion..

@dreykuslowe6128

9 ай бұрын

The guy was being very patronizing. You didn't notice because he was pandering to you

@Aisha.divine

9 ай бұрын

I can only imagine what his woman has to go thru tiptoeing around his ego and emotions. This was sooo triggering for me.

@cmjones223

9 ай бұрын

Yada's choice of words could of been better. The message gets lost when you start calling a man "weak" then tells him "you not a man, you a male " then insults him again by saying "I almost called you a woman." Clearly the young bull was upset by those slick words thrown in his direction and Yada did right by apologizing at the end.

I agree with Yada, I work 3 jobs

@natashapugh9336

9 ай бұрын

Respect to you.

@samuelmcdonald1884

9 ай бұрын

@@natashapugh9336 Thank you

@Seekyahusha

9 ай бұрын

Yah bless you

@Same_ol_jee

9 ай бұрын

3 jobs is crazy lol

@samuelmcdonald1884

9 ай бұрын

@@Same_ol_jee I’m sure it sounds crazy but I’m good, I even worked 6 months on crutches💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

I shared this Ave I’ve subscribed to your channel. Everything about this is golden. The mannerisms, the reactions, eye know what I’m looking at and now I can help others be able to discern the difference between the two based on this video. Thank you and God bless you and yours!

Thank you for this, brother. I go hard and have 3 businesses, but you remind me to go harder. Love and respect 🙏🏿

It’s apparent homie with the braids didn’t WANT to hear anything that was provided to him. His constant movements, dismissive comments, and body language told it all smh

@CineEquality

9 ай бұрын

Yeah, that ninja got time to get his hair braided but no time to find more income.

@laticia_shahrai

9 ай бұрын

Real sassy 🤮

the truth is, if we spent more time learning ourselves, healing our generational traumas, and becoming the overall highest version of ourselves before making unhealthy attachments, demanding that someone love us "as we are", or even worse, making children, families, and broken homes...we wouldnt need to have these remedial ass conversations. we can only receive love as deeply as we love ourselves. obligation, struggle, and survival limit our capacity to love. heal the root chakra first, baby. the rest will follow.

@I3love92

9 ай бұрын

Totally

@asdffdsa898

9 ай бұрын

To marginalize this conversation between these two black men as remedial is crazy.

@sercretunicorn

9 ай бұрын

Love this comment 🙏

@MsDieynaba

9 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@coreythomas3633

9 ай бұрын

​@@asdffdsa898DUSTY MINDSET GROW UP why ya need women to take care of ya. YA STILL NEED MAMAS. Smh

This video should actually be called, “An Example of Emotional Intelligence vs No Emotional Intelligence”. I want to hear the women talk about their relationships with these men. The man on the right said, “If my woman says she doesn’t want to cook today I say that’s fine.” If he truly believed in 50/50, he would have instead replied saying he would have cooked. He wants the benefits of a traditional woman without the financial responsibility. He won’t grow until he look inside himself. I’m still looking within myself so I can grow.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

Facts, if you want your wife cooking all the meals, or even most of the meals, you need to be paying all or most of the bills. If it's 50/50, they both should be cooking.

@brittnali

7 ай бұрын

YESS 💯

@I_Cannot_Go_I_am_Studying

7 ай бұрын

Don't forget she also cleans and takes care of the kids. That could easily be multiple bedrooms and bathrooms, plus the kitchen (maybe dining room) and living room that she is cleaning by herself, depending on the age of the children. PLUS she is taking care of said children, so once again depending on their ages bathing them, doing their laundry, helping with homework, doing their hair, picking them up and dropping them off at school... The list goes on and on. When do these women have time for themselves? This is truly sad😢

@adim00lah

7 ай бұрын

@@I_Cannot_Go_I_am_Studying I agree, that's unacceptable. If he doesn't have the money for a trad wife, I see no issues with that, it doesn't make him less of a man. What makes him less of a man is leaving all the housework to a wife that works full time.

I had to subscribe Yada. If I could have subscribed a million times, I would have. If 50% of men could be like you, the world would be a better place.

The problem with the people who disagree with this man is the fact that y’all aren’t LISTENING! He’s clearly saying, as a man you need to LEAD WITH A VISION. You lay that foundation & provide. Give your woman the game plan, time frame, etc… & allow her to nurture the home/business needs until your goal is reached. If she’s given the grace to do that, because YOU ARE PROVIDING, then all you truly have to do is work (which isn’t killing yourself). You’re working to level up… she’s in the household doin what she needs to do for you come home to peace & love. & the goals are getting met! Bring in the Cho! Bring forth the vision! Allow her to nurture that so y’all can grow! Workin ya ass off for 2-4 years to be successful is better than doin it for a lifetime.

@Prettycee__

9 ай бұрын

Beautifully said

@ambergiles4889

9 ай бұрын

This was the message! Very well said

This conversation makes me so much more appreciative of my husband.

@Mrfantastic-hp2en

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

I really did need to hear this ✍🏾 this conversation definitely made me understand more that I am striving to provide a better life. I might be on my own & have no responsibilities as far as a family or what not but I definitely see I’m on a path to where my future family can be set. Also I understand the emotional vs the logical mindset from this convo 🤯

This is the state of our brothers. It’s sad and it’s why our family structure continues to suffer

Dude is committed to being a 14 dollar an hour type dude.

@talklesslistenmore5578

8 ай бұрын

Lol But he okay with his woman working 16 hours 😂😂

@roxannesiwele

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@dollhouseq1530

8 ай бұрын

AND content with staying there lol

@shashonah4154

8 ай бұрын

Say that again!!!!!!

@robertgibson2326

6 ай бұрын

🎯🎯 Its a mentality diffrence

The boy literally referred to the menace to society movie to make a point we have a lot of work to do out here😢

He Literally Is Tryna Give Him The Cheat Code To Experience His Heaven On Earth ✨

OMG OMG I LOVE THIS! TY TY I LOVE THIS! Every minute and second of this I loved. Even with the ignorance of the 50% off dude wit an attitude. I’m still happy bc the 100% man stayed calm cool collected & focused on the message. 💯💯💯💯💯

When he said, “So what do you think about 70 30?” I lost it 😂😂😂😂😂

@CiaobellaAmour

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@areyourhandsbroke

8 ай бұрын

Chile I cackled so hard. How did he not feel shame to even say That?

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

Well, in the bible, God said women should work, it's in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. So you laughing at God now? We always think we know better than God. Adam and Eve though they knew better than God too, look how great that worked out. Over working a man to death to take care of a wife, is not what God intended. A woman is suppose to be a man's helper, not another mouth to feed. Over work is one of the top 5 causes of death. Any good wife will not want that for her man that she loves.

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

@@areyourhandsbroke How do you not feel shame expecting a man to support you like you're a child? The bible inthe bible, God said women should work, it's in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. You know that over work is the 5th leading cause of death? So a man literally working himself to death is something you cackling at?

@adim00lah

8 ай бұрын

@@CiaobellaAmour In the bible, God said women should work, it's in proverbs 31, Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character. So God wrong, God don't know what he talking about? So you would rather work a man into an early grave, rather than help him by working like part time or something? Over work is the 5th leading cause of death, this isn't a laughing matter. I don't know where the compassion in women's hearts has gone, it's like you guys really don't give a damn about us any more. We just a mule here to work to support you guys. Breaks my heart, I hope you guys turn back to God and realize the error of your ways.

His comebacks was sooo smooth! 😅

Mr. Yada I am proud of you and extremely glad that you are a black man that is teaching others how to be better men. Please black men this is not to offend you, it is only to educate you!

Even Kevin Samuels said 50/50 don't work. "It pays to be the boss"

And his wife definitely raising her voice and she ain't cooking either.

@Lulguul

9 ай бұрын

Same when he said he don’t like chicken or Chinese food, he was disagreeing to disagree.

I also would love for one point to be added here: if it’s so difficult to care for a woman and children, maybe you shouldn’t have a woman and children… MAYBE that means you should think about self work before you try to bring a woman into your life and bring her down with your emotional problem! Same thing for women, people shouldn’t look to be in a relationship to fix their issues, they must do that alone

@SpanishFly2014

9 ай бұрын

EXACTLY!!!!!! if you are not prepared to be the man or woman in the relationship, you should not be in one ever!

@Itsonlyvibes

9 ай бұрын

And women have to be more selective and guard their womb

@86msmason

9 ай бұрын

He wants a roommate and can have sex with

@milanC4659

9 ай бұрын

​@@ItsonlyvibesSame goes for men also minus the womb!!!

@shydewalters10

9 ай бұрын

Amen

I agree with brother Yada.I was disappointed the young brother was to triggered to receive those gems but we all learn at a different pace this motivated me to step it up though I soaked up wht I needed outta this yessir blessings.

You both are speaking truth from both side of the fence. I have truly been blessed by this. Thank you so much for speaking this truth. I be glad when God bless my king to come just like God ordained it to be a man go hard for me and be a true provider.

He's definitely living in feminine energy. Notice how he's going back and forth with attitude when he's asked to be held accountable. Pay attention ladies and stop giving your energy to men who are not providers.

I am honestly in awe of this man's (Yada) humility. You can tell the amount of work God and him has put in to get to this point. I pray God continues to help me get to this point someday.

@NoName-oe4gm

9 ай бұрын

Yea, And the devil don’t send his jealous, envious minions to dem this MAN (Yada) 💡

@monaeallen2246

9 ай бұрын

@kingdavidisfit Would you receive this message if a woman who loves you shared the video with you? I really want the men in my life to hear this, but I'm not sure of the best way to deliver it for them to receive the message wholeheartedly and out of love...

@NoName-oe4gm

9 ай бұрын

@@monaeallen2246 Don’t Do it! This message is worse coming from A Woman…. Speaking from experience! Believe Me… This is A Man to man conversation. Their too egotistical.. What does You’re gut say???

more of these. real talks. no blaming. teaching and learning. listening and understanding

you are so needed in this time a lot of men need to have the these talks especially in black community