Love this, it resonates with me. If you are upset by this Tedx talk, it is because she held up a mirror and you don’t like the reflection.

@voyance4elle

4 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙌

@umbersheikh3047

3 жыл бұрын

@@voyance4elle ojio

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Crack the mirror yourself with your own reflection. If we don't like it, it's none of your business, got it?

A woman carries the history of mothers, grandmothers, sisters who have been raped, who have been forced, who have been surpressed, who have been touched without permission, who have been harassed, who have been silenced, who have been threatened. I can say this because I have a mother, a grandmother and many women in my life who have been the victims of men in this way. I myself have been a victim.

I do not have to imagine. I KNOW how all that feels. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW ALL THAT FEELS!!!

"Women being made responsible for men's bad behavior" True... And they expect you to "save" him. But what happens to a girl who does that? She's a human being, not a life jacket. She's a human being, not a sacrificial lamb.

This is cleverly presented and amazing. And actually enraging in demonstrating the male 'privilege' mindset that women are objects first. Does anyone think the man would have done this to a man he encountered at the PO? This guy gets the award for having missed all understanding of respect for women and his behavior is just another showcasing of here in 2018 we still have a way to go before men get it... Way to go Tracee for such a well done, insightful talk.

If your a dude n u think this is trash, then u really don't understand it🤷🏾‍♀️

She is a LEGEND in my eyes. Absolutely remarkable Talk.

I appreciate her sharing this truth experienced by many daily. I'm sad that she will receive backlash more than support, but her courage inspires. Love God. Love yourself. Love others. Lord, help us to stand up for righteousness.

@lovesings2us

3 жыл бұрын

Rev. Robin Kay Monk Self - Thank you so much for your words and you prayer asking God to help us stand for righteousness! I spent quite a while this morning looking on KZread for healing prayer which uses inclusive language and honors the equality of women and people of color. I found that here is no such prayer on the internet, as far as i can tell. Thank God I found your comment which sheds the beautiful Light I was hoping to find on KZread, not only for myself but for so many women who strive to love God and to build a world where our equality, and all people's equality, is respected.

"Women aren't supposed to get angry"..... damn makes me angry just thinking about that. True in society at large unfortunately.....

He did violate her. He had no right to put his hands on her!

@LaVidaFelicia

4 жыл бұрын

That’s what I said!

@orphanedhanyou

3 жыл бұрын

so a community of humans must live in a completely touchless society? that isnt how humans are built. ive touched or tapped plenty of people (male & female) on the shoulder, had to squeeze past them, all without 'consent' to 'violate' their body. this isn't a 'spectrum' causing rape and actual violation.

@thefairychild

3 жыл бұрын

@@orphanedhanyou If he had tapped her to get her attention, or even brushed past her, that would've been fine. But he didn't. He touched her and did what he wanted with her. That is assault.

@kaylacoleman9879

3 жыл бұрын

@@orphanedhanyou tapping someone is completely different from physically moving someone as if they are an object. One is okay. The other is not. Its degrading a sapient person down to an inanimate object. Essentially, the woman they.moved without their consent doesn't matter. Think about that. Would you like it?

@tytell77

5 ай бұрын

Yes personal space is personal space

as a rape victim fighting a case due to me defendind myself……this felt like it needed to be said and you explained it beautifully. thank you,you only spoke facts.

@TaurusGoddess.7

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing well now 💓 I hope you won

@Novocainero

2 жыл бұрын

@@TaurusGoddess.7 hes in jail wont the fight that matter, thank you love

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Glad he is but make damn sure you don't do anything to encourage it or walk in risky places or entertain risky friends. Use your brains if you have any.

This is beautifully written, spoken and message delivered. Thank you, truly!

I’m so grateful that she said “NO.” I needed to hear that; it was like she was speaking directly to me. The first time I heard this talk I didn’t get it. I’m female, but it just didn’t resonate with me. It’s taken a couple of years and a huge learning curve, but now I get it. I AM furious, and the fury is not just for me. It’s for everyone and everything and it is POWERFUL.

This is the best talk I have heard on this subject. Thank you so so much. Time is indeed up. Best way to start my morning

I was really happy that I finally see a speaker on here with cards. I love public speaking but struggle with memorising my speeches and I always use cards as a support.

@tmurray0306

5 жыл бұрын

SweetasSugar42 wonderful idea

@voyance4elle

4 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with that!!! 😌 Also it's comforting because your hands can hold onto the cards 🙏

Oh man I cried. I’m a survivor of sexual abuse and it is sad how we rationalize and it’s just normalized. I used to not even believe in women empowerment cause I didn’t want to scare men away. Why do we do these things to ourselves to attract men instead of standing up for ourselves!

So true... but the silence of the audience made me uncomfortable. They seldom laughed, so when finally, a few minutes before the end, they erupted into applause, I was happy. The applause at the end was thunderous. I was relieved.

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

We are so relieved that you are relieved. Now, relieve us by relieving yourself of these stupid comments.

What can you not do... She is everything. great speech👏👏👏👏

Mutual respect is all we need

YES YES YES YES YES! This isn’t a new topic for sure and it’s been an issue for years and years and years yet we STILL have to spell it out for them. We still feel like we have no right to talk back. We still feel like we shouldn’t be angry for these ‘silly’ little things. Thank you for talking about this ❤️

Wahoo ! This woman is so smart, and so intelligent, and then so beautiful, inside first and outside sure. From France

It has been several yrs since I stumbled across this video. I had a recent incident with a man that brought this video fully back. In 2023. This video has withstood the test of time and is still relevant. Of course I wish we'd had more progress.

This gave me chills. Watching it, I thought back to every creepy male manager who ever commented on « how nice my outfit looked on me » or the uninvited back caresses or touching my hair or telling me « smile, sweetheart, you’re so pretty when you smile *for me* » . If you’ve never experienced this kind of objectification, then you really are not an authority to comment on why women shouldn’t feel angered by this. Telling people to do things they don’t want to do or touching them uninvited should make anyone angry. The problem is that it happens disproportionately to women and girls. If you haven’t lived it, you don’t *get* it, so you don’t have the right to say it’s not a big deal.

@StigHelmer

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's difficult for men to relate to behavior they never experience but the same can be said about women, right? Imagine we collect a number of anecdotes about mean women, would that be helpful for anyone? Check out Norah Vincent, this is a news interview about her experiment living as a man: kzread.info/dash/bejne/e6RrzbKYlMecfLg.html

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Yea and stupid women sometimes do that to men but the double standard doesn't apply to them too. Wake up.

Love this woman. Wish I can express myself like her! ❤️

Jahnes love. Thanks. Great talk by one of my favorite celebrities. Tracee Ellis Ross is soo smart, beautiful and stylish. So wish that she was my friend. I am furious that I am not yet in a position to reach out to her and get a reply. I will find safe and positive ways to work my way up the ladder though. Blessed love.

Thank you for this Tracee👏🏽It’s so important to acknowledge that as a society we still have a long way to go to combat patriarchy and ethnic supremacy that is still very dominant throughout the world. Although progression for equality continues to get better, it’s still difficult for women to stand up for ourselves, particularly women of color when we are the singular minority in our work environment.

Amazing speech! Thank you!

This crowd is butt.

@TheNicoliyah

6 жыл бұрын

Mista Moshi hurt!😉

Well now that's a role model I want to follow. Amazing speech.

I love the fact that you did this ‼️I hope it continues to Spread. I wish I would’ve seen it sooner

Salute to Tallie Ellis Ross! Fabulous speech! Oh, what wonderful expressive words! Beautiful, Heartfelt, Electrifying, Thundering & Stunning English!

It does seem sometimes that even when you try to “ play by the rules” you still lose. You still suffer people (women and men) who help themselves then blame you. It was what you were wearing, or you should have known better etc

Look at all the trolls who didn’t even watch but still have an opinion. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Look at all the judgmental fools that do have an opinion that doesn't count, like yours.

Tracee Ellis, you're remarkable! We need more talks like this, and explanations added to pop culture and scripts.

Very good job on explaining "the fury" of a woman being "man handled". Thank you Tracee Ellis Ross.

My idea. Use manners and treat everyone right.

good job!!! all this controversy means there is still a lot of work to do ! :)

As a man I must say, that this was very elequant (sp), and put words to feelings I have often heard friends of the opposite gender, try to express. I see myself as a feminist in many ways, and I still found new thoughts in this - thank you!

@treeforged9097

6 жыл бұрын

If you cared more about statistics and logical arguments then you do about elegance of speech and feelings you would be less likely to be fooled by con artist weather of the used car salesman or the dictator verity.

Absolutely Love Tracee Ellis Ross and everything she stands for 💞

😍😍😍❤️🙌🏾 This is why I love her.

@goawayleavemealone2880

6 жыл бұрын

For being insufferable and whining about a non-event. Well each to their own.

@echakamonjok

6 жыл бұрын

GoAway LeaveMeAlone Yes to each its own... 😒 your comment was unnecessary though.

@goawayleavemealone2880

6 жыл бұрын

So was your comment. Didn't stop you from making it though. If you are going to use the lack of necessity as an argument against other people then don't do unnecessary things yourself.

@echakamonjok

6 жыл бұрын

GoAway LeaveMeAlone ??? Yeah You commented on my post. If you don’t agree you could keep scrolling. There’s no need for negative, just saying.

@goawayleavemealone2880

6 жыл бұрын

Echaka Monjok - yes no should ever disagree ever. But especially with you, I'm sorry - I'll never question the aristocracy again.

I was moved by this. ... And now I feel fury at this woman for moving me.

@jmccaffery1

6 жыл бұрын

The Fuzz hasn't it already started? There are a lot of single good looking women out there crying because they can't find a man to put up with them (except for white knights, male feminists or feminizers... Are these soyboys even men? )... It's typical to hear of a woman complain about these things when their actions and victimhood/empowerment narrative is literally the thing hurting their prospects for a bright happy future with marriage, children and family, to those women who so desire the fulfillment of nature's course. If only men's rights activists/advocates were seen as defenders of womanhood... because by combating the ideological scourge of Feminism, they are.

@hediyehb9082

6 жыл бұрын

One question, What are men's rights that need advocation. I mean besides the general human rights for men and women, what is specific to men?

@jmccaffery1

6 жыл бұрын

Hediyeh B How about for starters, the application of the general right of due process instead of instant belief of dubious claims made toward the character and alleged conduct of males by women? This TED talk is a perfect example. Women moved to utter fury and desire to physically assault someone. Physically being moved without consent could possibly be ruled as battery, but aggravated assault is hardly a logical response. I wonder what the person moderating this channel, male or female, seeks to attain by highlighting my response? One can only wonder *eye roll

@hediyehb9082

6 жыл бұрын

first of all, fury is a feeling, not an act. It can happen because the bus leaves a minute too early and you miss it. It is important to channel it into something positive and talk about it and resolve it. As long as you don't break a window because you missed your bus everything is in healthy order. There was no aggravated assault!!! stop exaggerating. Let's not talk about all women accusing all men with no proof. You like "How about" , don't you? then how about stay on topic!

@hediyehb9082

6 жыл бұрын

first of all, fury is a feeling, not an act. It can happen because the bus leaves a minute too early and you miss it. It is important to channel it into something positive and talk about it and resolve it. As long as you don't break a window because you missed your bus everything is in healthy order. There was no aggravated assault!!! stop exaggerating. Let's not talk about all women accusing all men with no proof. You like "How about", don't you? then how about stay on topic!

Thank you so much for this talk ❤️

Not only am I watching this video, but I'm watching the war in the comment section... 😂

Late to the party but glad I made it. A very important message indeed!

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

No damn party here. Just a bunch of whiny bitches.

Tracee ellie Ross I always love being compassionate to women 🚺 and respectful.

Bravo!!! 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽

This needs to go viral

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

It does sound like a virus.

This is a big channel, I am so happy to join with you.

amen

Comment section is totally proving her point. Chapeau Tracee!!!!

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Yes, that she's as creepy as she whines.

Perfect timing. Spot on. 👏

Love Tracee. Extremely well spoken and passionate. Got super engaged from the start!

Yes and we hear you're the only one that feels that way.

Thank you thank you thank you.

I will watch this in full later

Being told I'm " too much" IS!, infuriating because I'm only being myself, giving you the real me and letting you in on what my brain is trying to convey.

Thank you 💜 Thank you 💜 Thank you 💜 Namaste

I feel inspired to LISTEN!❤❤❤❤❤

Tracee is a highly intelligent woman. She communicates very well.

How can we be loud enough on this matter🤦

“The innocuous makes space for the horrific.” I think even the most well-meaning among us need to really get this.

One of the best iv heard. I often experience RAGE due to all this.

Tracee!!

Love you for your great speech :)

This Lady is Amazing!!

this talk was phenemonal. consent is a very important issue. women dont get to choose how they feel. same thing how what they do to their bodies. Ex: serena williams and how people called her manlooking in a insulting way because of her athletic build. As well as her reaction to the referee at the tennis match.

As A woman I can relate, not bashing all men but women are the most disregarded and disrespected and if you speak up , you are rendered as the bad one, We must do better, I noticed too many men wasn't clapping after her speech, 🤔💯💖

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Good reason. She didn't deserve many claps, neither do you.

The post office story to phone parallel is completely absurd. The post office guy was definitely in the wrong, but that is different from someone grabbing your phone daily, with thinly veiled taunts. As well, women are far more able to express emotion, anger included.

Respect all women!

I love this.

Wow. Amazing.

Anyone get that "Get Out" reference at 6.43?

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Tracee Ellis Ross! May divine and human love clothe you with unbreakable and everlasting protection. May all of us who are inspired by your also be steadfastly and eternally protected by the steadfast power of mighty and tender Love. May we never give up on building a world where women are naturally respected and all men respect women, the earth and every life form on the earth.

Well expressed!

Or they try to tell us to calm down when we are only speaking rationally.

This is useful information for interior designers. Don’t put leaflet displays behind the desks where people are supposed to spend time filling in forms.

Marvellous!

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Interesting observation...

God Almighty Bless all men in our Societies or mankind that they are taught well to be dignified enough and remain free from ever inducing, inviting, igniting consciously or unconsciously or happen to face any sign or forms of “fury” from womankind! May all the Blessed women be truly made to feel proud of being “woman” that mutually men and women compliment each other in pride towards parting help or assistance by being respectful, honouring be dutiful towards women, to meet the expectation and purpose set by our Creator, God Almighty, in Gratefulness! Amen!

I think the example she used was well chosen. I highly doubt a man would move over another man the way the man moved her friend at the post office. It was a gentle, soft yet significant example in the difference of how men's and women's bodies are treated and respected in general (not every case). I don't understand why people are being so harsh in their comments. It makes no sense to me. In fact, what is truly confusing is how misconstrued her comments and opinions are in other people's comments.

A MAZE ING

She made it look so simple.

Every woman and every man should watch and reflect on this now

I can't help thinking that there is more to the scenario preceding the man's physically moving that woman, ... at any rate he should not have taken it upon his-self to resort to physically moving her out of his way.

The terrible comments on this video highlight as to why the world needs many more such Ted Talks.

@StigHelmer

6 жыл бұрын

The terrible comments are criticizing the talk for being sexist. Maybe you should read them and engage people if you think they are wrong.

@beletristabennett6910

5 жыл бұрын

And 19 I agree with you! 😊👌✌👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💛💛💛💛💛🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟you are not alone!

@Floridacoastwriter

2 ай бұрын

Your terrible comment speaks volumes.

A year ago 25.11. a co-worker of mine startled me brutally ar lunch, while I was enjoying my meal with a friend. That was one of the many sneaking up and startling of 2019. I finally reported this to HR and to the management. Bully guy had to apologize eventually of course it was in this manner: sorry if kinda way. The worst thing is that this bully is still in the company. No one should tolerate harassers. Especially American companies.

YASSS QUEEN SLAY!!!!

6:50 NO (insert bugs bunny "no" meme)

Was what she said about the phone a genuine experience or an analogy

@tmurray0306

5 жыл бұрын

thou ist not really sure but I do know that a lot of dudes were getting knocked in the head for I-phones when they first came out.

So powerful!

lovee

Is "Excuse me please" no longer an option for people? No need to touch someone you don't know. Period.

Men that takes my phone, will be the last time

thank god we have beautiful rich celebrities to set us right!

She sure paints with a broad brush.

*our* gentlemen reveals exactly how much equality she actually plans on looking for...

She presents Such obvious things like a declaration of war.

There you go...

Great talk!