I’ve always thought that “good vibes only” people are also the most fragile and hostile when faced with adversity 🤔

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

anyone who has little experience with managing difficult emotions will unlikely be prepared for life's challenges

@stefannikola

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, they are hostile.

@izzylandyt

3 жыл бұрын

big time

@DRay4eveZ

2 жыл бұрын

100%

@sheagaier7582

2 жыл бұрын

agree 100%

It is best to just keep all conversations to a minimum, because these people may not be aware that they have this condition and don’t even think about pointing it out to them. As soon as people disappear maybe they’ll discover what the problem is… It’s kind of like having fair weather friends that only want to be around you when the sun is shining, but avoid you when they know you’re suffering.

I suffered depression at the end of 2019/start 2020 and many people that told me to 'focus on the good stuff, don’t worry about the bad stuff'. Thats what I’d been doing for years, and it resulted in me nearly taking my life. You NEED to think about what it is that’s causing your feelings, even if it’s hard. If you ignore it then it eats you up inside. You need to be able to deal with the hard stuff and that’s a lesson I learned the hard way. Accepting that sometimes things are just shit is a positive thing, because trying to pretend everything is rosy leads to greater problems. There’s strength in acknowledging that something isn’t great, not sweeping it under the rug, and dealing with it head on. Yes, you can look for the bright side in things, but it’s fine to shrug and say something isn’t working out for you.

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

I am sorry you were struggling. I completely agree. If person is unable to embrace and ground themselves in uncomfortable emotions, that person is missing a lot of the guidance from self. Hope you are in a better place today! Dr. Lukin

@Keepit-nq3id

3 жыл бұрын

Me too , I experienced something similar , the only thing I'd gained by only focusing on positivity was numbing my feelings , I've got to point where I had to relearn how to feel a different range of emotions again , unfortunately we live in this new age thing where we can't express other than positive emotions , it's totally fine to feel mad , sad ...etc . Good luck 🤞 .

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

@@Keepit-nq3id It is phenomenon that I don't think is going away any time soon, but I hope we can shine a little bit more light on. Dr. Lukin

As I’m sitting on a street corner outside in the winter with no home, addicted to drugs, no possessions. Self help guru tells me “don’t look at your situation negatively, remember it could always be worse, you could be in a prisoner of war camp being tortured by the Vietcong! But hey at least your not in THAT position. So cheer up and be happy where ur at.”

I once had a friend yell at me and tell me that my feelings of fear and anxiety about something I was going through would make bad things happen to me. She had done it more than once. I decided it was best to distance myself. DBT has taught me that I am not my emotions and that letting myself feel them is healthy.

@Colourmebold

4 ай бұрын

What do you mean by DBT?

@JN-xh7do

3 ай бұрын

@@Colourmebold DBT is a type of therapy. It really helped.

I'll say it loud and proud. Nobody deserves not one window into my soul. My life. My business. Your life. Your business. Yeh I'll admit that I've been treated unfairly.*HUGE UNDERSTATEMENT* No, life is not unicorns and rainbows. I will feel my feelings in my own privacy and nobody is going to stop me. My feelings are not a youtube series or a circus act for ppl to watch and stare at like a car crash on the interstate 🖤

@Colourmebold

4 ай бұрын

I had a similar situation where a so called friend went to a deprogramming course which made her more positive in life. Good for her but I did feel like what is the point, such a person be a friend who has such wisdom, be mean instead of compassionate? I share what I face with her and instead of telling me what I can do, which she does, she also starts saying that I what I am facing is cause of my internal emotions. I have worked on it and I know I am getting better unfortunately the way she expected me to change is like as though I attended the course like she did,. She took me for a short preview of a different course by the same center which was for free hoping that I would sign up for the main one which she attended previously and I have a feeling is cause if I join, she is the referral person and she would get some money so this did not feel genuine to me.

They see the world in black and white

@DamyanTenev

19 күн бұрын

Its the new cage spiritual shit

Thank you for that. I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor in Texas, & I tell my clients essentially the same thing: emotions, in & of themselves, are pretty neutral. Meaning comes from how we interpret them. And what I’m big on is just being realistic. If someone engages in a lot of self-talk that’s harmful to them (or at least not helpful), I won’t encourage them to change their self-talk to something along the lines of “I’m the best, I deserve the best, it’s other people who don’t deserve me.” Let’s keep things in reality and say, “Maybe I could be better, but I’m certainly not the worst.”

If you strip away some of the flowery and /or spiritualized language in the New Age / Self Help it's platitudes. The melodrama can be funny, though.

This is so helpful. Your speaking contributes to absorption of information because you're clear, not coming across as a salesperson, and you're neither boring nor dulling the message with uh, um, you see, blah blah blah. I can use this so, thank you very much.

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Glad you liked!

Perfectly said

Yes!!!!

Very very true and mind blowing

These are the people that blow their brains out, when things hit the fan, because they’re left with what they been telling people, and I don’t care if their mother dies, they gonna feed them back their own food.

Such great insight 🙏🏼

Very common sense and very helpful... Thank you so much!

@lukincenter

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Dr. Lukin

The book Secret is the bane of human existence.

Rose colored glasses

Very well explained

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

Well said!!

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Dr. Lukin

Love this

@lukincenter

3 жыл бұрын

I am glad. Dr. Lukin