Tom Confesses Oxford University Mental Health Struggles | First Dates Hotel

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Leaving from Juno for a late date is 6 foot 6 maths student Tom, who opens up about the mental health struggles he faced whilst dealing with the pressure of Oxford University.
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  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Жыл бұрын

    He's intelligent and handsome, and not aware how attractive he is - which makes him even more attractive!

  • @nadineflow
    @nadineflow Жыл бұрын

    What a lovely open, honest and mindful communication between these two beautiful humans . And how they listen to each other 🥰...."sigh"

  • @roxanne9651
    @roxanne9651 Жыл бұрын

    My wife has a PHD in computer science and mathematics and everyone loves her. After being together for 12 years I can understand why she loves math so much. Love my mathematician 💕💕🌈🌈

  • @kittengem4243
    @kittengem4243 Жыл бұрын

    Glad he had all the support he needed when times get tuff, so much easier to get through them, than alone.

  • @JamesCraigWhoop
    @JamesCraigWhoop Жыл бұрын

    Wow very sweet. She seemed very caring and compassionate. Cant wait to see the next episode.

  • @amys2650
    @amys2650 Жыл бұрын

    Someone that can openly talk about mental health and struggles that we all have and it’s still taboo to speak of is hard to find. He is a strong yet soft man to the woman that gets him congrats in advance

  • @jacobs3031

    @jacobs3031

    Жыл бұрын

    Sadly women don't appreciate soft men he will stay single for a long time.

  • @hd-xc2lz

    @hd-xc2lz

    Жыл бұрын

    True, but past mental health struggles aren't the best first date topic.

  • @jacobs3031

    @jacobs3031

    Жыл бұрын

    @@hd-xc2lz I wouldn't even tell a woman these issues. Iv had periods of vulnerability while talking to women for a while and they just cut you off. All women seek alphas.

  • @ralphlyda4545
    @ralphlyda4545 Жыл бұрын

    What lovely people! It’s so wonderful that they were put together!

  • @cbeautifulworld11
    @cbeautifulworld11 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful match of two intelligent, thoughtful people. He is a perfect man, brilliant, handsome, articulate, sensitive. He also has gorgeous hair, contrary to the stereotype of mathematicians, yet merely has a bad haircut. He would look stunning with a more flattering shape to his hair (just a trivial observation). I hope he knows not to worry about the overwhelming stress of Oxford. Many, many people share similar feelings.

  • @squeet6831
    @squeet6831 Жыл бұрын

    lol she has lipstick on her teeth. Endearing lol. They're both very good looking, intelligent, kinda nerdy, compassionate and understanding. I ship them.

  • @oliviamartini9700
    @oliviamartini9700 Жыл бұрын

    Once again - DATING IS NOT THERAPY.

  • @jacobs3031

    @jacobs3031

    Жыл бұрын

    Couldn't agree more, two different entity's. I find dating stressful I don't even like it.

  • @shaunbarnett2972
    @shaunbarnett2972 Жыл бұрын

    HIs social skills are perfect! Had nothing to worry about, mathematician or not. NIce work!

  • @Ou8y2k2
    @Ou8y2k2 Жыл бұрын

    This kid's gonna break some ladies' hearts as soon as he figures out the 'formula.'

  • @Londonergeek
    @Londonergeek Жыл бұрын

    I went to Oxford university. It can be very demanding. There’s quite a high dropout rate

  • @tmister007
    @tmister007 Жыл бұрын

    Such a brave soul

  • @Von_RX
    @Von_RX Жыл бұрын

    another great date!

  • @kittengem4243
    @kittengem4243 Жыл бұрын

    I 💜First Dates!

  • @Luboman411
    @Luboman411 Жыл бұрын

    Tom is 6 ft. 6 in, smart, Oxford grad, with an English accent, and very cute. I don't think he'll be having any problems landing a lady. Unless he's got the personality of a donkey or a paper clip. We shall soon see! :D

  • @georgielancaster1356

    @georgielancaster1356

    Жыл бұрын

    He must be sending out NOT AVAILABLE vibes. He should have a queue longer than the Queen's lying in state traffic jam.

  • @Luboman411

    @Luboman411

    Жыл бұрын

    @@georgielancaster1356 After seeing this snippet, he strikes me as a nerdy, shy guy. Before university he was probably in his own little world, doing the mathematics he loved. Which meant little to no dating with girls. Then at Oxford, he spiraled into some serious anxiety and depression about living up to the expectations imposed on Oxford math students. That was very relatable. He was vulnerable about this regrettable situation, which made him even cuter. I think he'll do fine if he puts some effort in dating.

  • @kabysummit5801

    @kabysummit5801

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Luboman411 well said. Some people just need time to get more comfortable with themselves. He's on his way

  • @stanbalo
    @stanbalo Жыл бұрын

    Good at math and very handsome!!!

  • @mariaetternavn5549
    @mariaetternavn5549 Жыл бұрын

    He's lovely. She as well.

  • @gillowens24
    @gillowens24 Жыл бұрын

    Both very nice

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia10017 Жыл бұрын

    Mathematics must either attract nervous personalities or the syllabus makes them over anxious. obviously, anybody who studies higher mathematics is some kind of genius so it is not that they are failing the classes. I once met a guy who was getting a PhD in mathematics at MIT and something went wrong and he transferred to another university because he was so unhappy.

  • @pdruiz2005

    @pdruiz2005

    Жыл бұрын

    It's the hyper-competitive nature of it that really gets people down, anxious and depressed. Once you're up at the MIT/Oxford level in math (or any science), you're dealing with world-class geniuses. And some of these people are COMPETITIVE, and will make sure they make that known to everyone. Some people can survive in that environment--a lot of people can't. Especially those who were just naturally attracted to math and loved it as a pursuit before it became this overly-stressful race to the top. I think that's what happened to this guy--his passion suddenly became his torture.

  • @jacobs3031

    @jacobs3031

    Жыл бұрын

    Correct there is some correlation, I know of someone done a master's degree in physics yet he suffers from mental health really bad and even been sectioned.

  • @TomNook.
    @TomNook. Жыл бұрын

    Yeah, that all unis for STEM subjects.

  • @josephhill2868

    @josephhill2868

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes mate my masters year in chemical engineering almost pushed me over the edge multiple times. Almost completely lost it.

  • @dougn2350
    @dougn2350 Жыл бұрын

    If a guy with all of his advantages suffers from depression then I don't know what

  • @viviennedunbar3374
    @viviennedunbar3374 Жыл бұрын

    Well that was interesting about him but we found virtually nothing out about his date!

  • @mjferroni
    @mjferroni Жыл бұрын

    I actually don’t think she was into him. She jumped into therapist mode.

  • @jacobs3031

    @jacobs3031

    Жыл бұрын

    Worst thing you can do is open up about your vulnerabilities to a woman iv done it before she didn't want to know and ghosted me. Women have more options than men they don't care.

  • @javed5415
    @javed5415 Жыл бұрын

    Girl was not really interested as I understood 😢

  • @SamStone1964

    @SamStone1964

    Жыл бұрын

    She needs a more confident and mature man.

  • @vinnybyrne09

    @vinnybyrne09

    Жыл бұрын

    You don't get girls by being self obsessed. Need to find out who she is.

  • @openeyes2086
    @openeyes2086 Жыл бұрын

    Tamara deberia ir a first dates

  • @Fatfrogsrock
    @Fatfrogsrock Жыл бұрын

    Poshies!

  • @georgielancaster1356

    @georgielancaster1356

    Жыл бұрын

    Lol. Under your comment, yt has an option to translate to English. Curious, I pressed it and got nothing.

  • @alfredbonnabel7022
    @alfredbonnabel7022 Жыл бұрын

    He is a brain and might need the challenge of another brain...or maybe someone the exact opposite.

  • @selvamani1973-p7b
    @selvamani1973-p7b Жыл бұрын

    went to oxford, posh and is a Marxist. the irony lol

  • @bigm317

    @bigm317

    Жыл бұрын

    Champagne socialist tbh there intelligence & privileged enough to get it

  • @allisoncampbell8263
    @allisoncampbell8263 Жыл бұрын

    Omg, a Marxist :o.

  • @hamzza8963
    @hamzza8963 Жыл бұрын

    I don’t belive that at 6”6 as a male you can be deppressed broski

  • @SamStone1964

    @SamStone1964

    Жыл бұрын

    Why not?

  • @jojobee42
    @jojobee42 Жыл бұрын

    He's intelligent and handsome, and not aware how attractive he is - which makes him even more attractive!

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