I can be sitting watching a movie with my wife and I’ll tell her “I wonder what would happen if they needed to use the restroom” my wife’s response is always “why does your mind always go to that?” I’ve given up jobs simply because I couldn’t use the restroom anytime I wanted. I got angry watching this video because of the frustration I’ve felt my entire life just dealing with this. Thanks

@ivyellis6062

2 ай бұрын

Good to know I'm not the only one who thinks that when watching a show of movie. Gives me anxiety. Struggling with tummy issues a lot of my life has given me toilet anxiety for sure.

@marycha6664

2 күн бұрын

Same 🥲

I didn't know other people had this and I'm glad other people have this because I felt so weird and embarrassed by it. When I'm at school most of my classmates get annoyed at me that I keep leaving the room almost every 5 minutes and my friends get annoyed that I can't go out anywhere with them because I'm scared of needing to use the toilet, do you know what I can do about that?

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Firstly, let go of the fear of judgement. What other people think about you is none of your business! I know that in itself is hard, but I found when I focused on how others were perceiving my 'issues', they only became more of an issue. Secondly, keep practicing stretching out the time in which you go. Provided there is not an underlying physical condition which means you legitimately need to go to the toilet constantly, you shouldn't need to go so frequently. When you feel the sensation come on, explore that. Explore how it feels in your body and see if you can practice holding out for another five minutes, then another ten minutes, and so on. Do you find that when you're at home, you can visit the toilet like once every three hours and not really think about it? is it only when you're at school or in the car that the urge to go comes on? If so, this just means that it's the fear sensations that are making you feel you need to go!

@Bee-fc4uy

4 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. thank you for the advice, I'll try holding on for 5 minutes then try 10 minutes.

@saints-goat6579

3 жыл бұрын

yeah really sucks when they say your skipping class too

@OLL13939

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I think I have it and I’m always scared to get locked in there or things come up the toilet

I have this after I completely shit my pants in public, that overwhelming fear😩 you should share accident stories nobody talks about them enough🙌🏻

@idontneednoname3304

2 жыл бұрын

I almost pissed my pants in school once and ever since it’s been there

Been experiencing this recently. Especially when covid hit and public bathrooms were closing down, I felt like I had nowhere to go, and I would eventually wet myself. It's been happening moreso when I travel, in the car with others especially. It's crazy to me, I can be driving with somebody, and need to pee so bad, and then when we pull up to the destination, it's suddenly like I don't have to go anymore. Im so glad I found this video, I already feel a lot more confident that I can overcome these feelings. Will be coming back to rewatch to hear these reaffirming words again. Thank you!!!

This is what I love about KZread…you know you are not alone! And people from all over the world go through the same thing. :) thank you. I have been dealing with anxiety and my triggers are ever-changing, I do not know what I will be fearing next - peeing, pooing, difficulty in breathing, fear of having a heart attack hahaha I am amazed I am still here battling it on! 😂I think one of the things that helped me was humor hahahaha just trying to laugh at the silliness of it all while going through it.

I feel relieved knowing im not the only one whos in this situation! This phobia really sucks!

I have had this for 8 years, I’ve had to quid my dream job flying as the coach transfers from the airport to the hotel and return could sometimes take up to an hour and a half. I had panic attacks in every country and spent every day in the hotel worrying about the coach journey back to the airport. Horrendous... now I never give my self the opportunity where Im to far from a toilet one is always within holding distance. I hate big crowds and limited toilets in public areas, also going to shared accommodation where my girlfriend lives as there’s only one toilet. One day I really hope I learn to forget this life crippling mindset and be able to live a normal life and do the jobs and things I have always wanted to do again. Stay strong people we can get through this

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds so hard, I'm sorry you've had such a tough time with this! Can you explore what the real fear is underneath all of this?

@connormartin1159

4 жыл бұрын

Tbh, I really don’t know where to start... I’m going to see if I can get some counselling sessions when the coronavirus has died down and hopefully explore why this has effected me so much. Thanks for the vids and getting back to me! Great to have others who have a great understanding of what I have been going through.

@shrijanaghimire521

3 жыл бұрын

AnxietyMamma I am suffering this from my 20’s . But before I set my mind like “3 days poop can’t bother you and like it is not the 4th day today ‘’ but this is not working now because my mind now has set to “ I can feel to poop any moment “ since 2 years I am scared of traveling. I am not able to enjoy my life even I have means to everything.

This video is helping me more than the 4 therapist I have already seen, thank you so much. Hopefully one day we all have a normal life and don't suffer anymore.

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I think sometimes it helps just to know we aren't alone in our anxieties!

I've been living with this for 9 years, 9 years of worrying about needing to go and not being able to. 9 years of not taking opportunities and not being my best. Not anymore. Thankyou for this video

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome! We've got this!

I’ve dealt with this problem for most of my life at this point. Recently I’ve started consuming a little bit of kimchi with every meal to help repopulate the micro bacteria in my gut biome and it seems to help. I used to feel a lot of anxiety every morning as I was leaving the house to get to work. Recently I’ve felt much more calm and I believe it is a direct result of the kimchi. Ive also found that focusing on your breathing and slowing it down helps when your feeling overly anxious. I know how difficult and drawn out it can be to change people’s mindset so i hope these two tips help in the meantime.

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing, Rabin!

I have had a minor case of agoraphobia since middle school but, after an awful stint in traffic when I needed the toilet last year, has led to a year of severe car/toilet anxiety. I have been watching tons of videos, reading a ton of books, joining several courses and more in an attempt to understand what this is and how to stop it. Out of all of those resources I have used, this might be the best and most helpful one. Granted, I am saying this confidently from the comfort of my own home rather than while sitting in traffic on the motorway, but still. You have explained everything so clearly. I feel validated and understood. You have given me hope. This week I am going to start putting this into practice and allowing what may come to actually come. This is going to be incredibly scary but I think it makes sense now and I believe I will find healing. Thank you so much for sharing this and for being vulnerable. I needed this so much.

The question is , why are some people like this ? I am 45 yrs old and struggling since i was 14. One thing i got from my life is that all these things happen to people who have OCD's earlier in life. It started with me as a small kid , i was a stubborn child. Later when i became a teenager i became extremely shy, then i developed an anxiety of embarrassment in the presence of people which later turned into social phobia and toilet anxiety especially when i am trapped somewhere, like interview, waiting for my turn, in public transport, exam and so on. This anxiety later turned into depression and IBS. I am now on anti depressants and anti anxiety medications for the last 30 yrs.

@mrbatdance

18 күн бұрын

We should be friends.

This is so important to be known! I watched your last video on this matter and it really made me feel better. I remember being in school, feeling this crippling fear of shitting myself in classroom. I couldn`t pay attention to the teacher, I was just thinking about this over and over again. Even now it happens in social situation, but at least now I know I am not alone and it`s gonna be better with time. Thank you so much for putting this out there!

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! You are most definitely not alone

thank you do much for your vulnerability and for sharing your story. I relate to this 1000%. I have IBS and anxiety. Early last year I had a flare up that caused me painful gas and I had to run to the restroom at the mall. For some reason this caused me so much fear that I had a panic attack. I was so afraid of being humiliated and shamed for being in the restroom for too long (as silly as that sounds). I then developed agoraphobia and didn't want to leave my house for close to a year. Therapy has helped along with exposure therapy but I still struggle with the "what if this happens again?" Your story gives me hope. I want my life back and I want to be free from this irrational fear so I can travel again!

I pray that everyone who’s going through this over comes this. I had this problem since last year during the middle of school, at first I would get the tension to use the bathroom every 5 mins or so, I would go to the bathroom and when I went I would let it all out and when I got back to class it would hit me again and I would have to use the restroom again and when I would go nothing would come out and I hated feeling like this. I would hate going to school cause of this reason. My hands would get all sweaty and would have the fear of pissing my pants during school. School just started again and I’m still feeling like this it’s kinda getting better but I’m still trying to fully recover cause I hate this feeling not being able to be normal.

Thank you so so so so much for making these videos. I've struggled for so long. Thank you x

My God...its like an eye opener for me..amazing words from you...thanks alot!!

Thank youuu so much for this!! It has ruined my life but ready to get my life back and this is so helpful

Wow thank you more people need to hear you do not need to be working at a place that denies bathroom visits !

I‘m suffering from toilet anxiety since almost 15 years now. It come and goes. And when it comes it is turning my life crazy. Thank you for sharing. I wouldn’t describe it better than you did. Especially the loop madness 😂 I totally understand what you mean.

Toilet anxiety just made me have to spend Christmas on my own I wish i was back where i was before

I have had axitity for 7 years but this video helped me cope and I am better now no dislikes good job

OMG! I have suffered with a fear of relieving myself in public pretty much all my life and I had no idea that there were other people out there like me going through this! I just thought I was the only one dealing with this and it has severely affected my life! God bless you for making this video and making it aware that it's a common problem! All of a sudden I don't feel like such a freak anymore! 🤗🤗

I'm really struggling with my toilet anxiety at the moment and it's really affecting my driving lessons. I'm going to try your techniques, it's my test in 6 weeks and I'm going to get a handle on it before then! Thank you 😊

Thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with toilet anxiety for almost a year now. I’m fine when I stay home but as soon as I know I’m gonna leave the house I feel like I can’t get off the toilet and show up late to everything. I’m going back to work soon and can’t have this happen. I’ll definitely be trying the tips in this video

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck Madison, I'll be thinking of you ❤

@madisonrussell8444

3 жыл бұрын

AnxietyMamma Thank you so much ❤️💕

@mousumi0891

2 жыл бұрын

Mee too the same problem 😭

@julywilson2650

2 ай бұрын

Same here... I also have cleaning ocd so whenever I go to the toilet it's guaranteed I'm gonna be late everywhere........

Brilliant ! Seriously brilliant !! I'm in my 70's and have 'suffered' this the most part of that time. I've tried to explain to people, doctors, friends family etc and I could never get across what it feels like to be in that moment. You just did it, in your video ! I can hear myself saying Yes ! That's it ! That's it exactly! I'm actually starting to feel like I 'could' manage this 'It's ok, it's ok, it's ok' I need a mantra that I can say to myself when the F&F (flight or fear) just starts. Something I can soothe myself with, that will tell me i'm going to be ok. This is where I need your help Lauren. Give me a mantra. Give me the words t say to myself when the fear appears. Please.

So so true everything you said. I would like to think I'm over this now and without the panic it's not even something I think about now 🤞

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

That's so wonderful to hear!!!!!

If I am home , I can even hold 3 days . Means I don’t call it but when I as soon as leave home , I start to have fear . Have Iost my confidence more since two years. Started to maximum skip travel putting this or that reason.

@miajewel7899

3 жыл бұрын

Yes same. I know it’s anxiety for me because I’m completely fine when I’m comfortable at my house but once I leave I start to freak out. I try to keep myself occupied and I try my hardest to not think about it but it’s still a struggle.

@shrijanaghimire521

3 жыл бұрын

@@miajewel7899 I am not able to enjoy my perfect life . I have no guts to travel whatever distance it is . 😔

@debjyotibanerjee2969

3 жыл бұрын

I am 21 years ofvage and have been suffering from this since the last four to five years .The fear is constantly on the rise and even skip small outings and spend most of the time at home unless its too necessary.I am not sure whether I will survive with this or not.Friends invite me for whole night and day trips and I cancel the plans each time giving some excuses but deep down its destroying my normal life.

@miajewel7899

3 жыл бұрын

@@debjyotibanerjee2969 yeah I know it’s so hard. I have the exact same problem. And this whole COVID thing with school is making it all worse. I constantly stay home with this fear. To be honest though, I know it’s really hard but I think you should try going out places. You know just start small. So far I’ve been to school two days where I was able to ignore it a little more. Usually I don’t feel good in school but I just tried distracting myself and even if I didn’t feel good I had to make sure I knew that it’s anxiety. It was really really hard but so far I’ve been through two days of school (even though because of COVID the days are only 4 hours long) but you get my point. You can do it, just don’t throw yourself into something really difficult first. I still struggle every morning before going somewhere, and when going to see friends. But eventually you’ll get over it.

@shrijanaghimire521

3 жыл бұрын

@@debjyotibanerjee2969 most of the person is facing same problem

Just discovered your videos today and it’s really refreshing to hear I’m not alone with this daily anxiety! It’s been a hard one to talk about with family and friends and it just seems so far fetched and they think I’m being a little dramatic when I’m panicking in the middle of the supermarket etc. My issue with toilets has got progressively worse over the last few years, always had a sensitive stomach and a nervous stomach for as long as I can remember, but things got bad a few years ago when I was on holiday and on a two hour coach journey and about fifteen minutes into the journey needed to poop! And there was nowhere to go. It was awful! Now every car journey (even ten minute ones) have me panicking and I have to sip water (not sure why this helps but it does) and I’m getting to a point now being in a busy supermarket with queues triggers my anxiety and I always feel like I need to go and can’t control it. I sweat and shake and it’s awful! To make things worse I did have a panic attack when out shopping a few weeks ago and I didn’t make it to the toilet in time. Feel it’s set me right back. I really want to get this under control before it takes over my life! Xx

@ec.clouds

3 жыл бұрын

same here! listening to music and taking deep breath’s everyday and night has helped me a lot too! Also I’m trying to change my mindset for example...if i was scared to go to a store bc of my anxiety, I would try and go and overcome it I tried this like 4 times and it was difficult ngl but I slowly have started doing this and im getting way better at it plus I learned if you’ve tried ur best and have an accident its okay! just go home clean up and start fresh no worries! I always felt the need for people to help me and like I couldn’t do it myself but the only way to get this fear over is by doing it ourselves and that our mind is stronger then our body! also what im started to find funny is that our mind is creating scenarios which is causing us to feel these things, so if our mind has the control to make us start feeling this anxiety well then it also has the control to get over it and stop! -hopefully that made sense :)

Not a single dislike and with good reason. This video is a godsend. Honestly, I've never felt so understood in my whole life and I have to thank you for making this!!! You are very brave to put this out on the internet and you have my highest respect. Thank you for making me feel a lot less crazy, this is by far the most helpful video I've ever seen in my life. :)

@LaurenRose.

2 жыл бұрын

Well this made me tear up!!! 😭🥰 thank you so much for such a kind and lovely comment. I’m so glad it resonated with you. Sending you all the love and support with your healing!

I’m having a trip tomorrow to Costa Rica and your video is heaven sent. It has seriously hit the nail of my fears and anxiety. Thank you so much for uploading this ❤ I will seriously put it into practice.

@LaurenRose.

Жыл бұрын

Aww Gabriela I'm so glad to hear that!! You'll do GREAT. Give yourself lots of freedom to feel all the emotions and to be a fully functioning human being (that means being someone who occasionally needs the loo!) And most of all I hope you enjoy every minute of your trip ❤❤

I have been dealing with this for a while and in the mornings and at school or wherever I am I always get scared I’m going to have to go to the bathroom and then that makes it worse and I actually have to go to the bathroom. Last night I tried doing meditation before bed. And then again this morning. I had a test today and I was really scared. But that was just an add on to my pre existing anxiety of school. I think because if COVID and not going to school for a while now I become very anxious at school. But it mostly is all in my head usually (besides my stomach issues) so today I kept trying to distract my mind on other things and when I got a bad feeling I pushed it away and focused on something else. I actually made it throughout the school day and then decided to go with my friends for a bit. Part of the thing that was pushing me on was the fact that I made it through the day. And I’m telling u I was super anxious throughout the whole day - but I made it

@numbbandit

3 жыл бұрын

Man I hope I make it through my exam that I have on May.

Truly cannot believe it’s not just me!! It brought me SO much HOPE!!! Thanks you so much. I smiled laughed cried through the whole thing

@LaurenRose.

Жыл бұрын

Aww you're the best!!

Thank you so much for this, it really helps to know that I am not alone. It makes meetings at work an absolute nightmare, I spend the whole time thinking I am going to wet myself, despite never having done so. I have started bringing a big glass of water in to the meetings with the plan that if I did wet myself I could just "accidentally" spill it over me so that people would not realise. Or I would need to go on a long train journey and have to take my jacket off and put it on the seat underneath me so that if I did wet myself at least I wouldn't get too much of it on the train seat which would be even more embarrassing . I know that doing these things doesn't help as it just confirms to my brain that there is something to worry about but it can be so hard to resist. Some days I just thing about giving in and wearing a pad for a weak bladder but I know if I do I will just find something else to worry about. Anxiety is so exhausting and a constant struggle to not let it get the better of you. Keep fighting everyone x

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Rachael I can so relate! I used to wear sweaters tied around my waist religiously, so that if the 'worst' did happen, I could at least cover it up somewhat. And yes, those safety behaviours can be really hard to resist, and you're right - they spiral quickly. I still have to work to remind myself that if the worst happened, it would be fine. Yesterday I was driving somewhere and because I'm stressed at the moment (like we all are, during this weird pandemic) I suddenly thought geez, what if I need to go while I'm driving?! It was only a second later that the other side of me kicked in and said, Lauren...if you have to go, you will either pull over and go, or if you have some kind of accident, it literally doesn't change ANYTHING. You will cope. Life will go on. It's so unlikely, but if it does happen, who fucking cares? And then I loudly remind myself that I am loved and supported 😅 My point is, it's a practice, and it's a constant learning curve, but it does help.

Just found both your videos on this tonight So good to know I’m not alone I’m going to try and beat this You have given me hope

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Gemma!

@dorisjking8937

3 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. Good morning. Can you make the link active to the original video please? Thank you kindly.

Helped me so much! Thank you! I get this anxiety when im in school and they might start soon. I'm already nervous thinking that I'll feel like needing to go to pee every 5 mins and ppl r going to judge me ! I hope I can overcome this ! Thank you so much !

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome. There are so many people out there thinking the same thing as you! We are all in this together 🤗

I've just recently moved to NYC which is one of only a handful of cities with transportation that I can get off of at almost any time to go find a bathroom. I feel lucky in this way! Also these videos of yours have been so helpful, thank you. Big tip - get an app that tracks open bathrooms where you live, it can really help knowing it will be easy to find a restroom if you need it.

@kajolsurani8235

2 ай бұрын

What app do you have

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

@LaurenRose.

Жыл бұрын

You are welcome!! Thank you for watching and for the lovely comment 🥰

I have been struggling with Agoraphobia for 3 years. I have daily panic attacks and keep a pee jar in my car. Thank you for making these videos, they are so helpful. It’s just so nice to know that I’m not alone. I will probably listen to these videos on my way to work because the mornings are the hardest.

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

You are most definitely not alone, Leah! ❤

Thank you so much for this video! I'm the same but I refuse to go because I am scared of using the bathroom unless it's my own (as long as I don't have anyone at my house) and that is what effects me so much, To the point say if I'm seeing my boyfriend for the day/weekend I won't eat for 3 days before hand and I will not go to the bathroom for the amount of time I see him because the thought of using public or my own bathroom with company makes me so anxious. I'm defiantly going to try handling my fear! I never thought of using KZread to search this stuff but I'm glad I did! :)

Thank you!

Thank you for helping me understand what i’m feeling! This definitely helped but I still feel anxious about it. I have a school trip coming up in just few days and I am debating on going because of this problem. Any tips?

Thank you so much. This video was so helpful and you made such good points and explained the fear so well. I commented on your previous video regarding this some time ago,basically nothing has changed regarding my fear of quiet places and not making it to the toilet on time,but i started therapy last week,and i am hopeful. Practicing this "it is going to be okay no matter what happens" could be really important.❤

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

You will get there Kat. Practice is the key word - its just like learning a new language. It takes time. But the beautiful nature of the brain and its plasticity means that just because you're in the habit of a certain set of thoughts and behaviours, it doesn't mean you can't change those thoughts and behaviours! ❤❤ keep me posted with how you go. Sending you so much love.

@wtfbeernow

3 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. thank you for the inspiring response. I have dealt with unwanted thoughts regarding stomach noises and toilet for over 6 years now,and it feels impossible to imagine my life without that,but i am hopeful. There is so much we can do with our bodies and mind,there must be a way to see and live life differently🙂

@dylanthecloser6084

3 жыл бұрын

@@wtfbeernow have you had any luck with the therapy?

@wtfbeernow

3 жыл бұрын

@@dylanthecloser6084 hey there! While in therapy,i realized that my stomach issues weas just a byproduct of many other self-esteem problems i didn't even see as problems before,because i was so focused on the most embarrasing one. I still have the same fear,but i have made many changes in my everyday life,the way i act and how i react to different situations,also-how i see myself. I honestly am so happy that i went to this therapist,even if my anxiety still exists. I believe that by practicing the things we talked about,one day my obsessive thoughts about stomach issues will not be a problem. It is a long process,but i feel that it is slowly but surely happening.🤍

Thank you ♥️ I'll definitely try to think this way.. I force myself to go out and to be social and fight with this sensation I tried too many things like I put my earphones on so that I distract my mind to stop overthinking bout that sensation this helped me I hope the one who sees this would try once but this is not always working for me I hope things get better 🙂❤️

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Best of luck, Bhakti! You've got this.

@bhaktichauhan4765

3 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. but m scared too 😭

thank you so much for this updated video. i cry watching them because it’s exactly what i’m going through. i’ve been dealing with this for 3 almost 4 years now and i don’t want to deal with it any longer. i’ve been seeing a therapist for a while now, and we’re going to start exposure therapy. i’m really scared but you’ve given me hope

@natka3024

4 жыл бұрын

Hey I just want you to know that I'm going through the same thing, my problem started in 2017. I really believe that you will deal with this and stop feeling trapped by it. Just keep going, even if it feels super overwhelming sometimes. Exposure therapy can be really effective

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Sending you love Janae!

@myyoutubechannel2503

3 жыл бұрын

I been dealing with this since 2016. You are not alone okay. Good luck!

@vee5315

3 жыл бұрын

How has exposure therapy helped ?

@janae119-1

3 жыл бұрын

@@vee5315 it has really worked for me! I'm doing so much better now. what really helped me was just changing my mindset and reminding myself that whatever happens, I'll be safe and okay :)

I've had this problem for years (pooping). One thing I've found that helps me is if I take immodium before I do the activity that will make me sick. It's not a good idea to do it multiple days in a row, but if I am going to a party for example I will take some a few hours before the event and typically I will be fine.

Thank you for this video! Did you ever have any burning or body pain along with this?

wow so much wisdom ♥ thank you

@LaurenRose.

6 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thank you for making this video, I hate this so much I’m just constantly thinking about bowel movements all day every day. I have health anxiety and I constantly think I have a physical health problem if my bowel movements are softer and more watery than usual. Hopefully I can get through this and stop thinking about it 24/7 :)

@taelorbrooks2639

Жыл бұрын

Omg you sound just like me! How are you currently doing? Has your anxiety gotten any better?

Also break down the fear of rejection

I‘m german and there aren‘t any german articles or videos about this anxiety. It‘s sad... Germans are like „it’s a tabu topic“... But I‘m so happy that I found you. This video helps me a bit. Tomorrow I‘ll be driving to a camp. It’s only 40 minutes but my toilet anxiety is still making me scared. But I learned, that IT IS OKAY

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Oh Lisa, I hope it all went okay. You've got this!

@lisanachname9202

3 жыл бұрын

AnxietyMamma thanks!!! I‘ve made it. Although I was very scared I even made it one day to Switzerland for a day trip. I am at home since yesterday an I still can‘t believe I made it. But I have to say, I made it with God‘s help. Without him I wouldn‘t be where I am now 🙌🏼✝️

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisanachname9202 That's fantastic, Lisa. I'm so happy for you ❤️

@kewarra_1982

3 жыл бұрын

Geht mir genauso...im Deutschen findet man leider gar nichts zu dem Thema :/ aber freut mich, dass du die Fahrt überstanden hast!

OMG . I should have googled this before.

Thank you for this video :)

Thanks a lot...I thought am the one who has this kinda weird tingle on stomach while going anywhere..

thank you for this video

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

thank you!

Thanks

I feel so bad for her when she could not get of the toilet

I’ve been dealing with this for seven years thank you for the upload and @ 6:03 😂😂😂

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome 😂❤️

I suffer from toilet anxiety every morning. I undergo up to 4 bowel movements before I set off to work. It's a 20 minute drive to work which doesn't seem long at all but once I start driving down the road, all I can think about it, I going to need the toilet. I get more and more stressed as I'm further away from home to point where the halfway mark is the no turning back point which worries me. Some mornings I would have 1 or 2 bowel movements and then be driving to work trying to hold in the rest. I started trying to ignore it by bringing a plastic bag and toilet roll in my car as a way of easing my worry but this did not go to plan. 10 minutes into my journey home, I suddenly felt the urge to go. I pulled into a carpark and couldn't help myself by relieve myself hiding behind my car at 7 in the morning... I felt so bad and so guilty by it all and it just stresses me out even more. Because of this issue, I have resorted to not eating anything anymore. I'm a pretty large person so fat storage isn't a problem, if not, it'll help me lose weight. If I don't have any stool in my gut, it brings me confidence that I can't physically poop so I can drive to work happy. Ever since I've been fasting, I've never felt better. I feel more confident, I'm losing fat and I can go anywhere with out needing to toilet. I'm aware of how bad it is on my microbiome but I am so worried and stressed about this that I feel like I have no choice. The anxiety alone is enough to physically stop me eating no matter how hungry I get. What's even worse is that I'm starting a new job in September which will be a 1 hour 40 minute commute every morning which for me is terrifying. I need help

Wow i needed that. How long did it take you to get to the stage when you no longer felt anxious when you needed the toilet? I feel like I’ve been trying to work through it for years and it’s taking ages to work through.

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

It takes time for sure, but it's also one of those things that happens slowly and then all of a sudden, if that makes sense. Keep going. Keep practicing. Keep allowing yourself the opportunity to lean into the discomfort. It does get easier! I would say when I first went back to work in 2018 I was still occasionally struggling with this, and by 2019 I was pretty much ok. All considered, it took me a few years of exposure therapy for me to stop letting it control me. This year it's been basically non-existent! Keep working at it. Sending you so much love.

Hi great video so right and especially how you describe it to a tee!! Can I ask did you have to take medication to help settle your stomach such as Imodium regularly or still do? So you could do any event or social situation etc that heightened your anxiety. Or did you go without and battle through and run to the toilet. Just I find I can do the things I’m more anxious with and battle through if I have taken medication to help but then get mad with myself as it seems a safety behaviour :S xx

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

I definitely have taken and still do take imodium! IBS for me means that I get diarrhoea often if I'm anxious or stressed, so imodium is definitely a regular feature in my medicine cabinet. I definitely used to use it as a crutch - as in, I could't go out unless I'd taken it 'just in case'. These days I take it if I have some kind of digestive upset, but I don't rely on it to get me by, if that makes sense. I think you know a safety behaviour by the level in which you feel able/unable to cope with or without it. I think using it to treat diarrhoea is great, using it as a preventative depending on the situation can be counterintuitive. Hope that helps!

@pollydavidson7337

4 жыл бұрын

AnxietyMamma yes it does help thank you I have IBS also was diagnosed with before (gad) anxiety so a vicious cycle of is it a flare up or more the anxiety. I don’t take it unless I know it’s a stressful situation which I tend to need to go as physical effects take over where I’m really pushing myself. Although I don’t take it to go to work etc 🤷‍♀️ I have deffo got some tips off your videos to try and do more exposure once lockdown is over thank you x

Hi 😢 I’m a teacher in Malaysia, and recently I’ve been feeling exactly as you have described in your video. It started around November 2023. At first, I didn’t know what it was.. after doing some research, I realised it’s called toilet anxiety. It’s more like “what if I need to go, is there a toilet nearby?” I’ve also been observing myself, often when I feel trapped like in someone else’s car or a taxi or bus (a situation where I can’t control), the feeling will seep in, my heart will beat faster and faster and at some point, I really feel like crying as I start thinking, what if I need to go to the toilet now? Recently, my hand start shaking, but I tried to hide it and distract myself by watching KZread so that my friend didn’t notice (we’re in a taxi). Once, it was in the middle of manicure pedicure session, the water was warm and there’s a fan blowing straight to my face, my body just didn’t feel good, I asked the staff to stop and rushed to the toilet, luckily the toilet is just next door. I also feel like I can no longer go anywhere without checking is there a toilet nearby, even when my friend uploaded her trip in Japan on Instagram, I would ask “Is it difficult to find public toilets there?” I am not like this before. I used to go camping, hiking and travelling. I even used to travel by bus long distance when I was a student. Now, I’m starting to hate myself… As a teacher, sometimes we need to travel by bus with the students, I always fear that day will come, and I feel stressed thinking about it. In my country (Malaysia), people have started to recognise mental health treatment, but normally it’s related to other causes like the loss of loved ones or depression from studying etc not something like toilet anxiety. I’m so afraid that people will ridicule me if I tell them how I feel. I’m really worried….

WHAT IS TOILET PHOBIA? AND THE REASON WHY I AM ASKING THIS QUESTION IS BECAUSE I HAVE TOILET PHOBIA, AND I HAD TOILET PHOBIA EVERY SINCE I WAS IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. WHEN I AM IN PUBLIC AND IF I HAVE TO GO TO THE RESTROOM, I WILL BE SCARED BECAUSE SOMETIMES IF A STALL IN THE RESTROOM SAYS OUT OF ORDER I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO USE THE RESTROOM BECAUSE IF I SEE A COMMODE THAT IS OUT OF ORDER AND IF THERE'S MILDEW IN IT, IT'LL FRIGHTEN THE YOU KNOW WHAT OUT OF ME ESPECIALLY THE RESTROOM AT A PUBLIC GAS STATION BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CLEAN AT ALL. SO WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO TO GET OVER THE FEAR OF TOILETS AND FEAR OF USING THE PUBLIC RESTROOM?

Hi, basically, what you have said, fits me perfectly. I've been diagnosed with OCD along with anxiety, although I keep thinking about other problems, like overactive bladder, however urine sample test showed nothing. Apart from practising to let go and be ok with it, have you made any lifestyle changes, like eating habits, taking supplements, maybe doing more exercising, like jogging, cutting down any stimulants, like caffeine? And talking about medicine, which ones you had if you had? Sorry, if it sounds too straightforward, just feeling miserable and hopeless, having this for nearly 3 years and being completely stuck in one place. Much appreciated if you're able to reply :)

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! In my original video I talked a bit more about changes I made. I ate a low fodmap diet for a long time to help with my IBS, I also cut out caffeine for years (I have reintroduced it now but I still only have maybe one coffee a day). I take vitamins for my overall health like vitamin b, magnesium, etc. I was already an avid exerciser but I started to introduce more yoga (yin yoga helped enormously) prob the only thing I didn’t do was take a medication! I am on a low dose antidepressant/OCD medication called Luvox, which I got prescribed during my pregnancy, but that wasn’t for toilet anxiety specifically and I’ll be honest, I don’t think it did a lot to help with that, I think what helped the most was being kinder to my body and then learning not to freak out about the bodily sensations. In saying that, I am still on the same low dose of Luvox (it’s been about 6 years now!) 😘 hope some of that helps!!!

@eglyza

4 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. 6 years, that's alot though...I'll check the original video and do some research, however thank you very much for sharing...love your video by the way, it's great! ;)

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Haha yes 6 years is a long time!!! Thank you for such a lovely comment. I hope you find some relief, it can be such a struggle and really affects your whole life. If i had to pick one part of the puzzle that helped the most, itd just be immersing yourself in anything that connects you with your body. When i was struggling i know i felt so disconnected from myself and almost like my body was the enemy. Sending you all the love!!!

@Revelation21-4-

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting. I already been diagnosed with high functioning autism and aniexty and have wondered if I have OCD too. I too suffer from toilet anxiety. Hi Im Tina. My problem is that I find it hard to go around people, even my own family. It has got so bad that I even have to ask my own dad to go back to his home so Im alone to go to the toilet. I feel bad about asking him to leave .I get anxious and stress constantly about my job incase I need the toilet and people come around me while im using the toilet. I have been in tears about it. I have overdosed on laxitives because of it. So now I have informed my doctors and shes going to ring back in a couple of days and chat to me about it

Is "over thinking about urinating" the same as "Toilet Anxiety"? once a year ago, smth drops from my bladder. So I become afraid and overthink about urination. I always think that I should go to the bath, so I began wearing a sanitary napkin but this makes this worse. ( I begin these days exercising and doing kegel exercise, but I afraid to throw away this sanitary napkin.)

Can you make more videos on dating stories and dating tips with toilet anxiety? Thank you

Here is the reason behind your problem and also, how to become normal again - Because of some reason, you are constantly thinking, focusing and getting anxious about bowel movement all the time. This leads to an imbalance in the secretion of amount of hormones that regulate the process of bowel movement. Whatever that goes in our mind is directly related to the hormones in our body. Hormones are furthur directly related to the feelings we have. Thus, an imbalance in hormones causes an imbalance in feelings and this is exactly why you are feeling to get fresh all the time. You can become normal again but you will need to fix your thought process at first! Follow these steps- 01. Start by practicing on relaxation techniques. Tell yourself to "calm down and relax and everything is alright" whenever you feel like getting fresh again and again. 02. The less you think the better it is. But whenever you think, try to think clearly and don't be confused...

Thanks. Is it cureable? Now, You are completely cured? What times a day you go to toilet?

Wow yesterday before sleep i watched some of your videos and i was like. Luckely im not alone and if you can heal i can too. With the tips in mind i finally slept like baby. Thankyou for you videos. Today is dentest day with my agoraphobia and pee feeling. U got this. Wish me luck😂

Love your channel !!! Just subbed. I developed fear of diarrhea in public in February. This is so new to me . I am trying to say "so what " but it is consuming my life . You are the only person who has a video on this topic . I am trying to not avoid things in my life but I have a strong urge to avoid and not go anywhere . I have a big business and i don't want this thing to make me bankrupt. Are you truly ok with poo in your pants now ? I am trying to get this point.

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

It was a journey for me to get to this point! For the most part, I am 'truly ok' with it. Some days it's easy for my mind to slip back into those old patterns of thinking, and I need to consciously reroute my thinking towards the new way. But I keep reminding myself that its only natural during times of stress for my brain to go to the default, unconscious setting (because that was how I thought for so many years!) but that I get to choose to have a different outlook. It is a choice, and it takes practice. But I just know that I wasn't willing to give up my life anymore for the possibility of 'what if it happens', because it just was nowhere near as dramatic and as 'end of the world' as I was making it seem in my head. We do that when we catastrophise - we take an outcome and we imagine it to be the most horrendous, awful thing in the world, when in reality, we would cope if it happened. We always do. Keep trying. Don't avoid. Push your own boundaries. It takes repetition and it will absolutely take a lot of discomfort, but thats the whole point. You need to get comfortable with the discomfort, and eventually its not as hard as it was the day before.

When i was picking my daughter up from school i was waiting on her coming out and started freaking out. I actually bit my lip till it was bleeding to take my mind off it. It is horrible and i am happy its not just me.

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

It's most certainly not just you! I hope you are doing okay. You can do this.

Thank you that helped alot I have a fear of fainting in public its never happened but I did end up getting Agrophobia from it. Do you currently take any medication?

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

Jen R i do! I’ve been taking Luvox for years now, since I was pregnant with my (now) five year old!

@Jensen68

4 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. oh yeah I have been on Paroxetine on and off for years it's been about 3 years off meds but I feel I'm getting worse and worse as to limiting where I am safe and where I am not. It's all bullshit I know it's not true and my mind tricking me haha stuiped brain!!!

Hi Im Tina. My problem is that I find it hard to go around people, even my own family. It has got so bad that I even have to ask my own dad to go back to his home so Im alone to go to the toilet. I feel bad about asking him to leave .I get anxious and stress constantly about my job incase I need the toilet and people come around me while im using the toilet. I have been in tears about it. I have overdosed on laxitives because of it. So now I have informed my doctors and shes going to ring back in a couple of days and chat to me about it

What if we all go on a long roadtrip in just one car? Do you think we would still feel panic attacks or feel nothing and relaxed knowing we are all in the same situation?🤔

@marvelculous8127

3 жыл бұрын

We’d probably all support each other and laugh about it as soon as one of us needs to use the restroom :)

@MsAnis2012

2 жыл бұрын

absolutely, we would happy. and we will support each other with positive thoughts.

One thing which help me is that i take a little time for me before work and make sure that i poop properly so that i am relieved 😌

About how long did it take for the it’s ok to take affect for you hun ?

@AnxietyMamma, I'm scared/worried about moving my bowel in the toilet(I'm only at home), and it's not mostly on the other people side but me as well..I don't want to see it/have anything come across my mind as of how stressful it is when I'm using it. I have OCD&Anxiety issues, so not sure if you can help. Its also hard to find things to super relate to.

I have been dealing with this situation for years,from 4th grade to now being in 9th grade i am still scared of going to the toilet by myself I really need advice of how to deal with it 😔

I use CBD oil to relax whenever I have toilet anxiety.

Hi I don’t know if you will read this cause you did post this a while ago and I just started having the thoughts again , I start school next week and that’s my biggest trigger I feel like I am going to be judged by others if I do need to go to the restroom and I’ve had this for a while but I sum what learned to control it but I haven’t had to go to school since COVID but they are opening the schools again so I’m going to have to face it and I just wanted to say thanks your videos made me feel safe and hope that I am going to be able to have 1 good school day whit Out me freaking out I guess what I’m going to have to do is just go and if they judge they judge but I really just hope they don’t and I will try to calm myself again thanks for the video and I am proud of you that you were able to surpass this ❣️

@tugceerten3556

3 жыл бұрын

hi i'm starting school tomo + i have the issue where i constantly feel the need to piss. i've slowly gotten out of the thing where i have to go before going downstairs or going upstairs or whatever. but like i feel like i need to go a second before leaving the house or a few times before leaving the house + i can't stand at home after going or i'll have to go again. i find it hard to participate in my running club because of this issue bc it's all i can think abt + that's why i've gotten slower. tomo, i'm scared it'll look weird if i go toilets before school because in a separate building so i'm going to be looking for public toilets before. i'm scared i won't be able to go in break + that i'll look weird.

@alberto_.5926

3 жыл бұрын

Tugce Erten i don’t know if this is useful for you but for me I carry crystals and I believe they can relax me sometimes or I listen to music I like or even annoying sounds but like she said it’s something a person has to solve in themselves but don’t feel hopeless I believe you can overcome this 💖

@tugceerten3556

3 жыл бұрын

@@alberto_.5926 i guess thankyou. it's just tough because there's a lot of worries + i struggle to tell anyone about this one because it is really really awkward. i'm really anxious abt tomorrow for many reasons + i guess i should allow myself to accept that it is ok if tomorrow goes badly yk? idk idk. it's rlly stressful + tomo i'm hoping to find a toilet somewhere or i'm gonna get so scared + angry at myself + i'm rlly scared of being late to school too. idrk. my options are to either go early by car + wait at dads friends cafe for 45 mins but means i need to leave v early but cafe defo has toilets or go by bus (allowing me to leave later + get more closer to the time there)+ find toilets near by + idrk what to do. it takes over my life

@alberto_.5926

3 жыл бұрын

Tugce Erten yes I totally get it’s not as easy as it sounds I think maybe just do breathing exercises or try and go to the restroom really early that’s what I also would to every morning in my school and if you are nervous to see anyone in the restroom go to a far one even tho it might take long to get back just to things that make it work I am going through the same thing so don’t worry I understand

@tugceerten3556

3 жыл бұрын

@@alberto_.5926 okay thankyou. im not sure because it then also causes the problem of the fact that i have to get up way earlier + have to get ready quicker so will be stressed but also that i have to eat breakfast earlier which poses the problem of what if i get hungry? which also is problematic for me which is why i always seem to eat but i dont want my family to think i'm weird + they tell me off for it etc so idrk.

I didn’t realize other people had this i thought it was only me bc i felt embarrassed stupid

How to solve this serious problem please give some suggestion!!! Coz I have toilet anxiety only in school !! And i always become distracted in the school becoz of toilet anxiety!!

Thank you so so much for this video I have talked to two therapists and they didn’t manage to help or reassure me that it’s something many people struggle with and I kept feeling like there is no way out of it and it’s just my life. I figured the sympathetic nervous system part of it and it help me understand that it’s legit my nervous system rather than my body parts being the issue but I still struggled. I cannot believe it never occurred to me to accept the „worst case Szenario“ to happen. It was always trying to convince myself that it may or may not happen or that it won’t happen and I’m gonna be okay but never that even if, it’s gonna be okay… got an exam tomorrow and been stressing about it so much which is why I watched this video and I am more calm now and will try the technique! Thanks so much! I can also recommend breath work and meditation to calm down the sympathetic response before actually going to the bathroom… Sending lots of love 🤍

@LaurenRose.

2 жыл бұрын

Great tips!!! Thank you Emilia. I hope your exam went well ❤️

Hi I have this and I always wear dark clothes and long t shirts when I go out I’ve never actually peed myself or anything but I always feel like I’m going to. It’s awful I don’t know how to stop it I miss school constantly because of this I miss opportunity’s in life please tell me some ways to stop this.

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Hi JJ, I'm sorry you're going through a hard time with this, I know how difficult it can be. The tips are all in the video, and there is another one on my channel called Let's Talk Toilet Anxiety that has some helpful tips, too.

I am scared of germs and especially even more terrified especially during the pandemic.. i’ve recently gotten a job offer (i was unemployed during the start of pandemic) that i went for the interview more than a year ago. I really wanted it when i went for the interview but now I’m absolutely terrified but i feel so disappointed since i wont be able to work if i can’t use the toilet or if i have to go outside/ outstation. I can’t hold pee too much since i am prone to UTI.. will i be able to work if i panic and also am a germphobia :(

Hey, I've been having this type of problems since 2017. I have a question for you. This whole method consists of telling yourself that it's okay even if you pee yourself and accepting this scenario. But what if I'm not scared of peeing myself but rather I'm scared that this feeling will never stop? Sometimes it just hurts really bad and I feel it constantly, even if I have access to the toilet. Do you think this could be dealt with anyway? What should I do? I would be very grateful for any sort of tips, I really admire you for being so brave. Thank you for making this video

@LaurenRose.

4 жыл бұрын

I get what you're saying, and honestly, I think they are one in the same thing. Because the more you resist it, the more intense the feeling gets. When you can allow it and accept it as 'well, if it happens, it happens' type of thing, then the thoughts tend to go away after a while. The more you push against the feelings, the worse they will be. When you stop pushing, the feelings lessen. But also, if you haven't yet done so, please go see a doctor about it. I only say that because you mention that it hurts - so it will be worthwhile to rule out anything underlying!

@natka3024

4 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. You're right. Thank you for responding. I'm really grateful for the fact that someone understands what I'm going through. Wishing you all the best :)

19 y/o male here with GAD and health anxiety. could what seems to be urinary incontinence just be my anxiety exaggerating into this form of toilet anxiety? Just looking for answers i feel the constant urge to pee all day without relief when I go. It just started one day after holding it really long (because I was too anxious to go and I was out with friends I held it for hours to the point it hurt. I just want to know whats wrong with me but I dont have health care right now to see a specialist I’m trying to do what I can.

I am 21 year old boy and I have been suffering from this poop anxiety since the last five six years .Its increasing day by day and now I am not able to even go out of my house.I don't know whether I will survive or not.

@dylanthecloser6084

3 жыл бұрын

You will survive, keep your head up and keep looking for a solution. We are all in this together.

Whenever I am giving an exam I always have this pooping sensation and this really affects my marks. I can't score despite knowing almost everything in the paper.

I think almost everyone has this problem , some expresses and some not . That’s it .

Im scared of the look of the toilet and like sitting on the toilet and i really hate it please help me about it

I have this problem

As soon as I have panic attacks I have to use the restroom ! I get really bad cramps and I can’t run away from it! I read somewhere that it is because our guts got used to the pattern of when we have panic attacks we have to pee or defecate !

I have a simple problem of thinking about peeing constantly, due to which I have to pee after every 1-1.5 hrs. What should I do?

Hi i have urine stress and urgency incontinence i have to do pelvic floor exercises sometimes i forget recently had to start again especially now having bowel incontinence leaks just so depressed about plus i have severe ibs and piles i just dont want to leave the house its got so bad irs made my mental health problems worse.Im finding it hard to accept.I was also told by nurse that when i had episitomy with first child that weakened my pelvic floor muscles as theyhad cut into my muscles which i didnt know. Ive got pads which nurse saud i can use but said dont get use to it as it can make my toilet phobia worse.

@LaurenRose.

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Honey. You're not alone. I know many women who have had similar issues after birth!! Sending you so much love, I know it can be a really difficult thing to deal with. Just remember - You. Are. Not. Alone

I currently have stomach problems I when I need to go I just try to ignore it because I feel like people are watching me... And I end up just feeling bad for myself

Have you tried hypnotherapy? In this Video you said "its not something you can hypnotise yourself out of". I considered doing it but now is there a point?

@LaurenRose.

2 жыл бұрын

I have tried one session of hypnotherapy. I didn't continue as it was considerably expensive, BUT I would absolutely recommend trying it, and indeed - anything you feel called to try to help with anxiety! What I meant was, in the same way you can't hypnotise yourself out of knowing how to ride a bike (once you know how to ride one), you can't hypnotise yourself out of a learned behaviour/thought pattern. I'm sure it could help to a small to large degree, depending on your susceptibility, but I think you ultimately need to learn a new way of thinking - that is, "it's OKAY if this happens", rather than "oh my god, what if this happens, I can't let it happen, it will be unbearable.." and so on. In saying that, my words probably could've been chosen better (my videos are unscripted so sometimes I'm perhaps a bit too casual with my wording) and so I hope I didn't dissuade you from trying a therapy that may indeed be helpful to you :)

@RefUser

2 жыл бұрын

@@LaurenRose. Thanks for your reply. Changing a way of thougt looks like a really hard thing to do on your own. You cant simply say "oh, this thought is wrong, dont think like that anymore" . I was considering hypnotherapy as a way of Changing a thought process,rather than Changing a skill one acquire over the years(such as riding a bike).

I have been experiencing this lately and it’s like I just hate going to the toilet I’m scared of it I don’t know exactly if I do have it though does anyone have any tips to feel better about going to the toilet?

By the grace of Allah Almighty, i completely recovered from this

@usmanali-tz9jj

Ай бұрын

How?

Okay so I’ve had this for years but recently I get an urge to pee after I’ve just went but this time it feels like a sting and like if my pee is literally going to come out I literally can’t hold it so I have to run to the toilet