Sometimes you need to feel lonely. After that, you begin to look at the people around you in a new way, you begin to appreciate good people whom you previously underestimated

@laylaabdul3329

2 жыл бұрын

I love the way you said that

@snehapradhan5591

2 жыл бұрын

That's so true because I've noticed that the times I'm most grateful to have the amazing friends I have is when I feel lonely and go on to realise that I actually have a whole support system already with me and that's such a wholesome feeling ✨

@sunehraafreen7151

2 жыл бұрын

This rings so true! I might have to make this my new mantra to remind myself when I'm feeling stuck in the '"depths of despair" of how loneliness can be a good thing too, from time to time, to realise other people's intentions a bit better

@aparajitaprabhu1947

2 жыл бұрын

@@snehapradhan5591 oh my god so ture

@aparajitaprabhu1947

2 жыл бұрын

So true*

I really like that you said 'craving human attention' since wanting attention is always seen as something negative but we humans are such social creatures that we simply NEED attention to survive

@sorchasam3252

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! That's why I hate the phrase "they're only looking for attention", especially in relation to people who are depressed or suicidal. Eh yeah, of course they are, that is their basic human need that isn't being fulfilled right now

@aparajitaprabhu1947

2 жыл бұрын

@@sorchasam3252 👏👏👏👏wow that’s so true

reminder that you can feel lonely but not necessarily be alone!! + being “lonely” does not make you a loser, it’s a natural emotional state that everyone experiences

@UnJadedJade

2 жыл бұрын

big yes!! ✨ around 7:20 I talk about why it's normal (& even evolutionarily beneficial!) to experience loneliness. Thank you for the reminders

@michaelmoore5570

2 жыл бұрын

How's college abroad going? Love the videos jade

I felt this episode so deeply especially the part about being around people yet still feeling lonely, this feeling is one of the things I hate the most in life, at some point it made me feel worthless, unloved, and that I don’t deserve love. Thank you for making an episode about this because it took me so long to get out of this mindset that feeling lonely means all of those lies, and I hope no one has to go through this. To anyone reading this just know I love you so much💛

@m_s007

2 жыл бұрын

Love you too

@TheBoss-mo4nu

2 жыл бұрын

Love you all too♥️

@11_princess_11

2 жыл бұрын

Love you all 💕💕💕

That was a good video. This is something we all go through when we leave school and go to uni. Suddenly your daily connections with classmates and friends just drop and you have 1 person or 2-5 or however many ppl in your uni life. At first it feels like it's just you going through this. But trust me as a 3rd-year and a student mentee, this is something EVERY one of us go through. On the surface, you see ppl in groups going to clubs and out with friends, but you don't know how lonely those ppl feel being in the group (like jade said the depth and connection is just not there). And then you have people who don't have big groups to hang out with and seeing those ppl makes them even more alone and feel worse about themselves. I would say you just need 1 really close person, someone to walk to uni with, go out to have fun, study and have deep conversations with (ofcourse that develops with time). That's what happened to me and afterwards, my loneliness started to subside with the presence of 1 very close friend and that was enough. Later on you begin to form more connections but you always return to your base: your family, close friends. Sorry for the ramble but this is for anyone feeling lonely at uni, school or whatever stage you are in life. The expectation of having many friends and making friends quickly is unreal and no one really tells you that. You don't need to pressure yourself to meet that expectation.

@katepavlyk8786

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you) it's exactly what I needed to hear

@ekaitzekourtzi

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this words 😫💖 im about to start second year at uni and feel so lonely because i don’t felt the connection i think i had with the people back in my hometown. Im going back next week and i hope this gets better when i meet with my classmates back at uni :,,)

@mariannestrgzr9374

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve seated college for two years now and I still don’t feel like I’ve met people like me. The friends I had in high-school grew naturally away from me (and me from them) so I’m kinda left alone now, with the expectation of making hundreds of friends while I’m still studying, because it’ll be harder after. I feel like I’m failing at that

@drithidiwakar614

2 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this so much. Thank you🥺💛

@shubhidoobydoo

2 жыл бұрын

this provides me w such needed comfort!

this is one of the biggest feelings i face right now, especially being a teen in my last years of school. all throughout never felt i truly clicked with whatever group i was in at the time, hence feelings of lonliness and isolation started to appear. i still sometimes struggle and being introverted might also push it further. i think the biggest things is wanting to avoid rejection which causes me to be cold to others at first. thank you so much, you validiated my thoughts entierly. all love to ur book release! just started reading it 🥰🌞

@leustudor9961

2 жыл бұрын

i feel exactly the same, i fear having no friends, especially at school. Thank you for your comment- you made me feel less alone

@jessicawolfe7564

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. The worst was when lunch rolled around and I “had” to find someone to sit with or when the anxiety got bad, I’d skip it and stay in the library

@Tina-mi2ud

2 жыл бұрын

I can really relate to this and it does make me feel better seeing that I'm bit the only one feeling that way!! So thank you for sharing that 💗

@jaslavie

2 жыл бұрын

@@leustudor9961 that was the same thing that happened to me in my freshman year of high school, always feeling the need to stick with a group of “people” just to not look alone and have someone come up to me and tease me for it (which used to happen in middle school). I’d like to say I don’t really care about it anymore, but it’s just because I’ve been home for over a year and a half. I’m afraid when I go back, the same thoughts will comes back to me. Anyway, thanks for sharing.

@_Byeol27

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly me.

I always feel loneliness because of my anxiety. I tend to decline every invite to date with people. I have a group of friends but my heart says “c’mon, be with other people, don’t be scary to meet someone else” but my mind says “oh no, no no”. So I decided to visit a friend of mine in Manchester for a few months because I’m Italian and live in Italy, bur I’m doing it to change my life a little bit. I hope to be more open! THANK YOU JADE for this video, right time! ✨

@megalegsx

2 жыл бұрын

I totally get how you feel, sometimes I would force myself out by trying to ignore my anxiety and I would have a good night. But if my worries are too strong, then I end up just staying in bed instead. Taking yourself out of your comfort zone, but also staying with a friend sounds like a great plan.

Journaling helped me understand my feelings better, and address the triggers. I recommend you try it - remember that there is no right or wrong way, to do it. You can literally just use a notes app and brain dump everything you feel, at the moment

@UnJadedJade

2 жыл бұрын

I love this!! Thank you for sharing 💛

@aparajitaprabhu1947

2 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@carol-gz6nc

2 жыл бұрын

yes ,I have tried it,it helps a lot!:)

This one struck a chord with me 💛 I'm in the process of applying for a year's leave of absence mid-degree due to my mental health, and I have already been suffering from intense feelings of isolation, even though my leave hasn't started yet. Because it's summer, it's so difficult seeing everyone else meeting up and having fun, whilst I'm home alone. If friends do reach out, its almost impossible to find a date that works because everyone's schedules are so busy. I was never the social butterfly in school, but it's scary how I've kind of just fallen off of the social radar, and it's difficult to figure out how to make friends again. I want to make meaningful relationships but I feel like I never have the opportunity anymore.

@mariannestrgzr9374

2 жыл бұрын

I’m feeling the exact same. I’m also taking a gap year for mental health issues (among others) and I’m afraid it’ll only isolate me further… Still I do believe in myself, and even if the process is long and painful I’m sure I’ll come across people like me someday

Hi. I feel the most lonely in summer actually, during university time im always busy so i dont have much time to think about it but still sometimes i feel lonely ( in my uni there are many groups already setup so you dont really have the option to know more people...and still i feel like no one there has the same interests as me...), but in summer i just feel like everyone is enjoying summer with their friends and here i am at home laying in bed watching séries and movies..... And even some people that i know at uni or back in my hometown , the friendship has no depth....they dont really know me or what i like...and i dont really know them...but since they have other friends they dont put any effort in trying to know me...even if i try... I have my twin sister to be with me and share a lot of things and no one knows her better than me....sometimes we dont even have to talk to understand each other 😅...but still i feel like i can't find that outside my home....and it makes me feel like i can't form a relationship from scratch... Love you all!!!❤️

@annat8371

2 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to tell you that I really relate. As I read your comment I just thought to myself "wow, that's me, that's exactly how I feel". Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences!!!! I sometimes feel really lonely even though I have friends, I just don't really feel super connected to them. However I think that's something a lot of is feeling, social media and social situations in general is really often so much about appearance. We want to appear as if we have lots of friends, and we want it too look as if we are very close to everyone. Like we're special, and liked so that other people will like us too and be impressed by us. But in reality most people are just hiding behind that will to appear a certain way. I think that's important to remember whenever you're in a social situation. You're probably appearing as much more comfortable and cool than you really feel, and so is everyone else. We all just want connection to other people. ❤

@salma-amlas

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you so much! I also have a twin sister (attending at my uni) and I feel almost as if I can never form relationships no matter how hard I try. I feel like I am missing something, like maybe everyone is chatting and having a better time if I'm not there. It's so irrational, because why would it be specifically me? But that's just how I feel. I also feel that I am missing something, some fad or common interest they share that I don't have. You know what I realised recently? I tried to talk to one of my friends from freshman year about how I felt lonelier every time after exams end, and she said she felt the same, but didnt even know how to talk about it. So when I heard her say the exact same thing I've been thinking, it kind of burst my bubble and I realized that people who are lonely dont say they are lonely. It's an invisible feeling, which is what makes it so hard to live with. So, my message to you and anyone reading this, is to validate yourself! Make sure you understand this, so you can stop feeling ashamed and stop hiding it. If you accept it, you won't mind it showing, because youve learned how to live with it. Sorry for the rambling there, just know that this comment touched me deeply, and I hear you. Love you 💛

@mariagoncalves5413

2 жыл бұрын

@@salma-amlas ❤️😘

@el6689

2 жыл бұрын

Wow I relate too, I also have a twin sister we have a very close relationship and I have felt similar to you in the fact that when people already have a 'group' of friends they dont make the effort to make any more friends outside that group. This is what is happening at sixth form where at the start we were all new, but as I'm pretty introverted everyone made friend groups before me so once again I'm alone and lonely. The only thing is my twin sister, I hope u can relate that we r so lucky to have someone all the time to talk to about anything xx

Gosh, I wish my 14 year old self could have watched this. I'm just glad that the 14 year olds (or whoever) of the future can watch this instead. Thank you Jade ❤❤

Jaaaade I'm so happy I'm early bc you might actually see this comment. I just wanted to say thank you so much for spreading so much positivity! You inspired me to start documenting my daily "casual magic" and it honestly changed my perception of the world. I'm also on a gap year, which I have you to thank for because I discovered your channel in 2019 through your gap year videos. Sending you lots of love from Australia, and I hope you have a gorgeous day

@UnJadedJade

2 жыл бұрын

Freda 🥺💌 wow, this message means so much. I'm so glad the concept resonated with you. Sending love right back to you in Australia!!

Think of this summer as self fulfilment. Hope everyone reaches that level of inner peace we are all capable of! if anyone wants to drop me a message if they feel they need to talk, always here for a chat :)

I have felt so lonely since I left the Amish- this series is really making me think, as I have no contact with my family anymore, so thank you for showing that it’s ok to feel lonely ❤️🥺

letting yourself process and heal in times of loneliness is so important for growth. While no one wants to feel isolated, it is a human experience that teaches us lessons of grit and resilience. thank you for sharing your experience.

Feeling lonely is my constant struggle, I basically have never had a friend in my life so find that hard to enjoy spending time with myself since that’s all I do. Small talk is all I can achive with people really, no idea how to go deeper. So sad about it. Thanks for that video, I love your mindset 💛

@shes_so_chic

2 жыл бұрын

I struggled with this for a large chunk of my life as someone who used to struggle with crippling social anxiety. It gets better, so much better. Just give it time. I found pushing myself outside of my comfort zone made it easier for me to put myself out there and make some new friends. Wishing you all the best!

Feeling lonely can happen on an everyday basis and it’s valid and ok. You are not ‘alone’ as there are others who feel this way. There is love and light just around the corner. Xx 💛✨🤟🌼

@UnJadedJade

2 жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful message Catherine 🥺💛✨

i feel like when i feel lonely, i go into this emotion vomit mode. i like hit up my close friends i havent talked to in a while and write paragraphs of texts dumping out all my emotions, sometimes even stretching them to be more dramastic, wanting them to respond in a meaningful way to have some of the emotional depth we used to have. and it works for the most time but then i feel rly bad because it’s like i guilt tripped them into giving me the attention and emotional vulnerability i wanted. but at least its better than shutting off, right?

@salma-amlas

2 жыл бұрын

Haha don't be so hard on yourself, I do this, too! But lately I've been telling myself to always ask them and check up on them some other time in exchange for the time they gave me to talk. So I try to give them my time and space in exchange, and to assure them that I'm there.

definitely felt this when i studied abroad, there were people i spoke to a lot but didn't have any deep connections like i wanted, especially in the first few months💛

@GittaSprouse1

2 жыл бұрын

I’m hopefully (COVID wise) going to be doing my internship in France next year and a very good friend should come with me but rn I’m just thinking what if she can’t come with me. I’m not very social when it comes to meeting new people so I’m just scared that I’ll be alone there. Do you have any tips on how to deal with that especially when going abroad?

@bex2847

2 жыл бұрын

@@GittaSprouse1 hopefully you get to go because working abroad is an amazing experience! i am usually quite content being alone but when i was there, i realised i didn't want to spend my whole time abroad alone! socialising can be nerve-wracking and scary for me too, but i just had to put myself out there as much as possible. i joined a soroity in the US and joined a church group on campus (even though i'm not that religious). both of those things then allowed me to make more connections with people. so even though you may feel super anxious at first like i did, my best advice is to speak to as many people as you can! do some research to see what kind of clubs/community groups are near to where your intership is and join them! ✨

Cannot thank you enough for this Jade. Feel like loneliness in young people is something not really talked about and this makes you feel more lonely because you feel you’re the only one going through it. This video was so helpful and reassuring❤️

Being by yourself is such a good thing, you learn how to be more independent and not rely on others because in the end you can only fully rely on yourself so it’s important to establish a better relationship with yourself

This video is a perfect explanation of how I have been feeling this past year. I don't think it can be explained any better. I feel less alone and validated from watching this video. Jade is seriously gifted with explaining things.

@jueedhar1545

2 жыл бұрын

So true !

This really needed to be said and there’s no one better to say it🥰

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve changed my mindset to appreciate the two or three close friends I have rather than wishing I had tonnes more friends - it’s definitely changed my life and I’m channeling more positivity into those closer friends & appreciating the time I spend with them more! 🥰 thanks for making this video, it’s helped me a lot - also congrats on becoming an author! ✨

Last year I moved from my country to France, for first year of university. Imagine what the situation was during COVID-19. We had a week of normal classes in the university building and then everything went online. The whole uni year I spent alone in my dorm room watching my Zoom classes (thank God the teachers were amazing), not knowing literally anyone in France. This is 9 months (except Christmas vacation). Although the whole time I knew that in my life I needed to spend such time of complete loneliness (to just stay present with myself, to develop all that I've been wanting to develop all my life), I was somewhat trying to rebel so it didn't go well. What I want to say is that instead of focusing on self-work and putting my attention on reading, etc. (using this free time only for me to educate myself on all possible matters), I was doing pretty destructive stuff (generally binging all the time). Instead of accepting the situation and doing the best that I could, I was in a state of desperation and I didn't want to do a thing to help myself. After the year I experienced, I learned so many things that I had not learned in the course of my life. I became more independent, I learned to appreciate many things and people in life that I was taking for granted until then. An important thing to say, I think, is that I do not blame myself for not studying when this was obviously the best thing to do in the situation. Well yes, but a young person, unexpectedly ended up alone, until then have lived with their mother.. I believe that it is completely normal to get this depressed (being prone to depressive states). I learned and am still learning to accept that I may fail and that I still can't do things perfectly because this simply needs practice, period. At the end, I magically did well on my exams. By the way, Jade, there's something that I didn't comment on a very previous video of yours. It's about when you had just arrived in Seoul for your quarantine and you had to eat food that was delivered to you. I liked it so much when you were ready to eat the meal with the eventual egg in it and you didn't even justified yourself about it. It was impressive to me and brave.

I got covid a month and a half ago, and I had to isolate myself from my parents and my brother. My mom and my brother had to live at our old home for the entire period because they weren't fully vaccinated yet. Those 14 days, were the days where my mental health was the worst that it ever got. I used to wake up, eat, take meds, sleep, wake up, eat, take meds and repeat. I felt like no one really understood, no one really made an effort to check up on me, no one went far than a "goodmorning" or "i hope you get well soon" texts, somewhere I understood that it's not their fault, but I just couldn't process anything back then. All I learned from that experience was, it's so important to not give in to our loneliness and get our situations worse for ourselves, it's so important to SAY it out loud to at least a certain someone, because asking for help is so underrated, we forget that the option actually EXISTS and it doesn't make us less of a person if not more.💛💛💛💛

For 9 years, I've felt lonely, I haven't felt truly excited to something or looking forward to anything because my dad's part of the family lives on the other side of the world which means we're alone in another country and friends come and go, which means I've never rly felt special or valued. When I'm alone, I'm craving any source of excitement or anything to keep me going but it has been so hard and I need help 😭😭

The timing of this is insane. I followed the first episode and maybe for the past month I’ve been feeling a little lonely but I have no real reason as to why. Also this week, I wrote an essay on a short film about loneliness and is it elevated by social media? - for my English class. Timing on point 💅🏼.

☀☄Journal Progress☄☀ 1. I remember feeling super lonely around classmates when I was younger, but after the pandemic started, I've been in the online company of people I love. I do feel lonely here and there, but it's manageable. 2. I used to let social media affect me so much and it would be a lie to say I'm completely unaffected now. One way I combat this is by taking small breaks off of it. Actually, I am on a one month detox bc im prepping for a huge exam. 3. As I mentioned above, I'm completely alone so I can focus on my prep. I do journal a ton. This video came at a perfect time Jade, you've helped me so much over the last three years.

@iiitsnoor

2 жыл бұрын

Going to try the social media detox too ! I just start comparing myself to these people who are outside and having fun while I’m in my room all the time so a social media detox will do me some good

Jade, I would love if you did a video on how you built deeper connections with your friends and how you communicate your needs. this video was exactly what I needed to hear today thank you 💛

i feel a different type of lonliness, after moving to a college with such smart people around me i often feel inferior, left out, and i associate my identity with my grades. I've come to realize now that that has to stop, because my perception of myself equals everybody else's perception of me. I have my strengths, yes, language, literature, psychology, public speaking I'm good at all that but when i get grades of my science subjects i cant help but watch my confidence falling down from the top of a mountain having a landslide. everytime i get a bad grade i distance myself, to focus that is, but in that process it gets really lonely. i lack love, I'm really really deficient of love and i dont talk to my crush because i have to focus right? but even after all this sacrifice i feel like i have nothing. what have i even sacrificed for i cant see it. i dont date, and i made that decision back when i was 12 and I'm almost 17 now and haven't broken it, its because of a couple reasons, but more that i think of it more i believe ive been conditioned to think that love is for the people who'd choose beauty over brains and that id never do that; but then why does it feel like i have neither? i have this urge to drop everything and wear my heart on my sleeve in exchange for the lost 5 years but then i didn't start because i would give up, i have a dream, i want to be a high achiever i want that A+ i want that 95% but often times in this war i forget, because of... lonliness

this is just perfect, you've explained exactly how I feel at the moment. thank you so much jade

Jade, I love u for taking the time to talk about these issues. I started uni this past fall and because of covid I couldn´t really meet any people and make friends and so I was just stuck in this room, away from my family and everything I have ever called home and it really just sucked. Something that helped me was that I started doing things on my own, like going on hikes on the weekends but also meditation and gratitude. And so if anyone is feeling lonely I see you, I know it sucks but I hope you find something that makes you feel loved!

Sending a warm hug to anyone who needs it ! This series is so wholesome, I realize my 'introspection' was never quite introspective

Jade thank you so much for this, you have such a comforting aura! I just bought your book, and I can’t wait to read it, you will always have my support! You have really fuelled my motivation (also getting by me through my mocks.), thank you for that! ❤️ Sending you a virtual hug

Thank you for this video Jade. You cannot even imagine how much I needed it. I have been feeling awful for the past week. It is not great when you have barely any friends and you are not good at connecting with others either. Both my anxiety and depression are playing tricks on me this week and it is not nice. So, once again, thank you so much for this.

You're videos are life-changing jade, honestly thank you for your kindness 💖✨

I actually started feeling pretty lonely today, so thank you Jade🥺 this came for me at the right time! Sending love and hugs to everyone who is struggling as well with loneliness ❤🌠

Can I just say I really love your vlogs in general, your outlook and mindset is just... chef's kiss. Thank you for being a light, and being the older sister we all need. ❤💯 congrats on your book, hoping it reaches the Philippines.

@UnJadedJade

2 жыл бұрын

Isabella! This is so kind, thank you for the love 💌

💛 I love this!! I always loved just sitting by myself in the playground and staring at the trees, and other kids would constantly come up to me and ask what I was doing or if I was okay, as if the mere act of sitting alone implied I was feeling lonely or depressed. But more recently I have definitely understood being alone vs being lonely. I don't really have friends at the moment, as I either lost contact with them after we all got sent home in March last year, or they just stopped messaging back. I'm naturally a very affectionate, bubbly person, and I've been craving deep friendship and human connection for a long time, so seeing this video makes me feel a lot better. I was actually hesitant to post this comment, as I don't usually get so personal online, but this little corner of the internet makes me feel like I can be open and won't be judged. Also, to anyone reading this, you are valid, you are wonderful and you are deserving of love and happiness. 😊✨

Jade you’re a true inspiration! Thankyou for showing your vulnerable side🥺💖

Wow 💛 this video really speaks to me. I finished yr12 recently and these holidays and lockdowns have made me feel so alone. Since I started college I felt like there was no time to look after my mental health. Now, I don't know what to do to get myself out of the rut of always feeling down and unworthy. These holidays I have been trying to fill up my time with online work experience or binge watching utube, but it's only made me feel more isolated, seeing my friends out and about. Thank you so much Jade for all ur helpful videos and much love ❤️

Jade, this was outstanding. I lived myself for a week or two while in my last year of secondary school and related a lot to the things you were saying. Well done! :)

💛💛💛these series are amazing. I might even come back to journaling after this☀️.

💛 thank you jade. I am just about to start my gap year and during the last few weeks i always felt like i didnt have enough friends (partly bc everyone was posting about their fun holidays with like twenty people) and so lost and lonely bc i dont really know what to do with my free year yet. But its so so helpful to hear about your experiences! 💛

appreciate your honesty and openness so much, it’s so healthy and needed at the moment ❤️

I’m in a state where i feel lonely rn, but it’s not having no one nor having lots around. its the loneliness where you get a stream of thoughts or something happened and you disparately want to share but u think twice about each one and u realize no one is really that close.

I've really struggled the past few weeks and social media only made me feel more alone so this video was just perfect timing. Thank you for this video!

When I felt I was the only one with these feelings, Jade makes this video and makes me feel not so lonely. Thank you! ❤️

I really want to thank you for what you do, because honestly, even though it’s easy to be aware of the rationalisation for loneliness, it is hard to feel the validation and to be compassionate to ourselves and work on fixing those thought processes. I’ve been feeling very lonely and anxious lately in ways that I have never been before. It honestly started ever since I went on an exchange year, which although it was amazing, really opened up a lot of insecurities that I now find difficult to address and are honestly really stifling. My family has also been going through some tough times, and just coming home again has been challenging. Of course I expected this, but one is never well prepared enough for the depth of their own emotions. Right now, everything feels overwhelming, and there is no point in being ashamed of that. You’ve helped me accept that, and for that I am so grateful. I hope you continue to show this kindness to yourself and never stop realising how meaningful your voice is! Much love 💓

your comment on how we're expected to be ok with doing everything by ourselves for the sake of independence and capability is so important! I felt pushed to be like this from a young age - and wanted to be, not realising how tough it actually is. Since moving to uni and doing a year abroad in a pandemic I'm starting to understand how important it is to surround yourself with people at every stage in life, and how much of a huge difference that can make to your wellbeing, resilience and experiences in general.

I love this video ❤️ I feel like my entire life at the moment is full of Jade - just read her new book, listening to podcasts with her, listening to her playlists and watching these videos 🌼

man the stuff about pretending to not be lonely hit home

I feel this sometimes and I absolutely feel this. For me being lonely and feeling loneness is huge for me as I’m autistic and I feel it twenty four seven. Thank you for talking about this topic as it’s so important and people need to normalise it. You are an inspirational.

You have no idea how much I appreciate you. With not having an older sister or a good bond with my mum I'm litterally blessed to be able to grow up with Ur like older sista guidance

Jade you deserve an award for being such an authentic person and pouring your heart out . it takes a lot of courage and i am so amazed by you

💛I don't normally comment but felt I should on this one. I started uni last year, of course it was all online. I spent the entire year, alone in my room studying. I lost a lot of friends throughout the year, and didn't meet anyone at uni since it was all online. Over the year, I got really lonely, just hours and hours of me being alone. But I decided to enjoy it, I started sitting on my windowsill at sunset, watching people walk past, taking myself on cycles in the rain. I started to love being with myself. So however lonely this year was, I learnt so much from it. Jade, I love watching your videos and hearing you speak about mental health so candidly. This one was definitely a good one. Loneliness is a killer, and however much we might romanticise being alone and loving yourself, it doesn't take away from the fact that human beings need human beings. I love being alone, but I love being with people. Sharing a drink, sharing a laugh, a hug, a moment of quiet. I needed this video today, to remind me that it's good to love myself, but it's ok to need people too xx

Thank you so much for talking about this!! I've had spells of feeling lonely since moving back home from uni and in my final year i'm living completely alone for the first time and I feel like I'm anticipating the loneliness before it's even happened. I love the sense of community on KZread though and am hoping to be able to create more of my own content when I have my own space! 💛

I absolutely love your channel, from the a level tips to talking about things that people hardly ever talk about like loneliness. Thank you so much for taking time out, putting so much work in, and bringing us these amazing videos! They have helped me out a lot 🥰❤️

I AM SOO GRATEFUL FOR THIS SERIES, THANK YOU JADEE💛💛💛💛💛💛

Thank you so much for being so open and vulnerable about your experiences of loneliness! I feel like this will help so many people 🥰

i really appreciate your honesty and authenticity. thank you for talking about it, helped me a lot!

Thanks for covering this topic. I deeply related to everything you talked about in this episode.. and the fact that it also came out on my birthday (which is a day that often brings up feelings of loneliness), makes me me feel like I was meant to watch this video. Good being reminded that I'm not the only one experiencing these emotions. 💛

Thank you Jade for posting this right when I needed to hear this. It's such a valid thing to feel, but talking about it feels so hard. It's so relieving to share it in the end though. That's what I found out during my last therapy at a group. We need to address this more in society

I've never clicked so fast 😅😭. Honestly you made me feel inspired to go out even if I couldn't meet my friends 🙏🏻

I love all of your advice, your reality and having no shame of being alone is incredible. You always bring a smile to my face and please never stop xxx

so needed this💫 I always forget that being alone doesn't always means I am lonely. Over lockdown I have learnt to love being in my own company and I am proud of that.

Ah, Jade we’re so lucky to have you🥺 I’m currently struggling so much with loneliness, but meeting people during a pandemic is so hard!! Thanks for validating my feelings❤️❤️ love you

i just needed to hear this right now. thank you jade, you made me realise lots of things🤍

I’m coming to the end of my covid-induced gap year, and I’m not sure I’ll ever feel as lonely as this again. I was with my family, but most of them still had lives and things to do (either key workers or at school) , whereas I was stuck in a lockdown with a job I couldn’t work, and my friends all enjoying their new friends at uni and still having fun. In the first lockdown, everyone I cared about was going through the same experience as me- but then all my friends went to university and this incredibly difficult year became so much more difficult. I’m so grateful for these videos that validate how I feel, and make me know I’m not alone.

I love this series so much! Thank you ❤

I love these summer of self videos so much Jade. Thank you for talking about such important and interesting topics. Can’t wait for the next one xx

hey jade, what you said about cultivating depth really stuck with me especially with what i find during my supermarket shifts. it’s really awesome getting to interact with customers but sometimes it’s difficult to always say ‘i’m good thanks, how are you?’ when it’s just to put on a good customer service appearance and not reflective of how i’m truly feeling at that time. i feel like there is not much of a solution but you’re so right about small talk being ungratifying, thankyou for putting it into words 💛

I enjoy your videos so much! They help me when I am lost and when I feel scared of something. Thank you so much for this, you are very sweet!!

Hey! Thank you so much for this series. I have a morning routine where I watch videos that inspire me or make me question things about myself. Your videos have helped me a lot. 🧡 Greetings from Argentina

I've had a bad past month. I used to sit and stare the ceiling and question so many things around me. I've dealt with so much loneliness in the past few days, and this vid came at the perfect time!! Thankyou so much Jade. You're a real gem!! Also, Congratulations for your book! Ordered it online! So excited to read ❤️❤️🥺🥺 our gal has grown so much as a human. Also, please consider doing the third round of reset challenge!!

feeling so lonely right now so this was much appreciated, thank you ❤️

Hi Jade, thank you for uploading everyday ! You are my inspiration and you are so kind-minded but sometimes I feel like I don’t deserve it because I am so introverted and stubborn and good people don’t deserve to talk to me and inspire me , I am so sorry you have to encounter a person like me 😭😭😭😭

Hi Jade, thank you so much for 💞 I feel like these videos come into my feed at the perfect time, when I need it most. I am really looking forward to the topic about cultivating depth in conversation, keep up the wonderful work 🧡

Thank you so much Jade for this video! ❤️ I really related to what you said about being in London and feeling lonely, I feel like I had the same experience during my gap year in Paris trying to be a full time photographer and KZreadr. I think the pandemic really didn't help at all lol but I had this thing where I felt lonely but also felt guilty for not going out and meeting people in such a cool and big city that Paris is. Loneliness is such a weird feeling and even when I tried my best to see people and go out, I still felt this void in me. Anyways by reading the comments I'm glad to see I'm not the only one experiencing it and I hope we'll be able to talk more freely about loneliness and stop being so shallow on social media

I can relate to this! Thank you for sharing! 💛 I also felt lonely during a 2 week trip I took to Edinburgh. It's been one of the best experiences of my life but before I became comfortable with the city and the people around me, I felt so sad and alone. I've also felt super lonely when my friends start dating because I'm single and I feel like they always prioritize their relationship over me.

Thank you for your wise words Jade, I’m really enjoying this series so far! 3/4 years ago I often felt lonely, even though in school I had quite a lot of friends. I just didn’t really feel connected to them, and I often wasn’t myself around them. The last two years I’ve been really working on loving myself and accepting myself te way I am. Because I now feel more comfortable to be my true self around other people, I also am able to conncect more and feel less lonely :) 💛

I’m glad you were able to touch on this particular topic! it’s okay to feel lonely, it’s not embarrassing and it doesn’t make you feel you have less people around you. Being lonely can be a good way of realising and appreciating who you are, where you are, what you’re grateful for and people around you that you underestimate.

I've been trying to use this time alone to reflect and practice gratitude for what I do have. Trying to fill my days with little bits of joy where I can 💗

Hey Jade, thank you so much for starting this series!!! I am 17, now on a gap year, and since I finished school a few weeks ago, I have experienced to suddenly having much more time. This is something I adore, but which also makes me feel very lonely, especially coming from a boarding school… But watching your videos helps me a lot in times of loneliness, and with the “summer of self“ series, you‘re addressing exactly the topics I am concerned with at the moment. Therefore - thank you, Jade, thank you for creating this corner of the internet, thank you for being there 💛 - Jules from Germany (and member of M26 ;) )

Omg Jade you always seem to upload videos when I need them the most !! Thank you so much for sharing this, it's made me realise that I'm not alone in my feelings of loneliness :)

This episode was amazing thank you for making this, i feel lonely right now and hearing that was helpful

I love how you explain your ideas, it's very interesting ❤️❤️❤️I agree that sometimes we want to be alone and we have to feel lonely sometimes, I think that give us the chance to know ourselves again and repeat the connection with ourselves ❤️❤️💟 great video

Needed to see this so much!! The universe really shows you what you need to see all the time.💛 I’ve just started uni in the UK as an international student, and I’ve been finding it so hard to make friends- it’s so important to remember that looking inside sometimes can really help! This motivates me so much to get my life back on track! Thank you Jade💛💛

Thank you Thank you!!!!🥺😭 just what I needed and maybe many of us too.

This video is so relatable. It doesn't help that social media tend to only portray the good side of one's self. I'm not one to post anything online very often so it does make me feel like I'm not part of the 'sociable group' and sometimes it really gets to me. Sending you and everyone reading this so much love and know that you're not alone 💛

I was feeling lonely, hopped onto yt and this popped up. I've not watched your vids in a while so its magic that this cropped up when I most needed it! Much love x

I feel like u just talked straight out of what I’m hiding in my heart

This video was so needed. I am currently isolating after my parents tested positive for covid (both me and my mum are clinically vulnerable) and i am staying in my room to try to keep myself safe, but it is honestly so lonely. I have great friends who i can facetime and text, but its not the same as hugging someone in person, so i am grateful for the sense of comfort that this video brought to me during these rough times - thank you Jade! 💛

This was beautiful, Jade & CONGRATS AGAIN YOU PUBLISHED AUTHOR!!! I think when I'm lonely I get even more anxious about facetiming and calling people or maybe it's just the asking to call part (like exactly what you said about the thinking you're annoying by asking!!!) And i'm also in a studio so I think I totally understand you. Sending so much love xxxx

💛💛 loneliness is something I've always grappled with. I crave forming those deeper connections with friends & over time I've found that sharing my feelings with those I care about (esp. loneliness) has only led to closer bonds with the right people. I love the message you spread about mental health and vulnerability, keep it up !!

This whole video just related to me. What hit me though was the part about being so lonely or not connecting with others enough that when people actually do reach out and try to talk to you, you kind of brush them off or avoid talking with them. Like I do this all the time.

I've always wanted to be in a friendship group of some kind. My definition of "friend" changes every year. I'm not a loner, I'm that person who is the background friend of every friendship group. I'm at good terms with everyone (i hope), but i never found one true best friend. I always wanted just one close friend, but they're so hard to find. When i started growing closer with a couple of people, I realised i pushed everyone else away. I didn't like that. I'm so used to being lonely whilst being surrounded with friends, that i started liking it. The pandemic definitely made me realise that. I hope if someone relates to this, knows that they're not alone

i have to say you're doing so great with this series!

i like how u literally read my mind. when i am feeling lonely when i am physically alone,even though people are inviting me to events,hangovers,sleepovers i be like: No, i'm busy. it is just frustating that i cant even valid my feelings and accept me with my feelings and thoughts and then change them..💛