Daniel, it's ironic that as you have stopped practicing as a psychotherapist and focused on your own healing, you would now be such an effective psychotherapist in the modality of your choosing. You are amazing. Thanks for helping viewers by articulating your own insights and courageously sharing them. - From an Australian nurse.

@dmackler58

Жыл бұрын

Thanks :)

@user-hc4ls5of3g

Жыл бұрын

No because this style of therapy in america doesn't work anymore because of the years of stigma and damage the pharmaceutical industry did. To get a patient to let go of a label as a crutch could literally take years. The system went to far, no going back.

@paulacollins6629

9 ай бұрын

@@dmackler58 open yourself to healing and you become one with it. open yourself to the world and you become one with it. daniel, you are one with the way, so we may see the way in you. thank you for posting.

100% agree. To me, all these compulsions stem from a need to control something to overcompensate for a time where big issues were out of our control

@olenick9590

Жыл бұрын

Its protective in some sh*tty environments.....

@olenick9590

Жыл бұрын

Its like hemochromatosis is the response to famines the genes have gone thru twice

I suffered severe ocd for decades, and i did have a traumatic childhood, i feel like my ocd rituals gave me a sense of certainty in an uncertain environment, and gave me a strong distraction from having to process painful experiences on a daily basis… it really seems to be a coping mechanism for me, but like with any coping mechanism they turn into a curse very quickly

@olenick9590

Жыл бұрын

Hope u got to break the spell

@ralphjay1816

3 ай бұрын

All form of so called disorders are coping mechanisms as a means for survival.

What a wonderful gift to humanity you are. Thank you

@mikeexits

Жыл бұрын

(1/4) (This comment has been auto-deleted 2 times so far, so I'm splitting it into parts to figure out exactly which part is triggering the algorithm)

@mikeexits

Жыл бұрын

(3/4) He takes a very similar approach but he goes more into the metaphysical side of it.

@mikeexits

Жыл бұрын

(4/4) I learned most of what I'm hearing Daniel say from Ryan first, he's definitely worth checking out.

@mikeexits

Жыл бұрын

Oh boy, so YT has been on a censorship streak with my comments for a while and it's always the channel names I recommend that get the comment deleted. This site is really going down the tubes if I can't share a self help channel that could actually help a lot of people who haven't heard of it yet. Anyway, I'll stop ranting, it just feels so futile sometimes trying to help others this way when my comments are blackballed. I need to use riddles and similar obfuscation techniques to get names past the filter. So the 1st name is in 4/4, just take the word "copper" and add an "R" after the "C" and you have his last name.

@rumdo5617

Жыл бұрын

@@mikeexits OK - got it. I’ll check him out - thanks 🙏

I had OCD as a child. I was told early on that it was a brain disorder and I would always have it. When I was 16 our family dog was also diagnosed with OCD (apparently that's a thing!) I remember smugly pointing this fact out to my mom. No one wanted to hear it. Interestingly I never had any rituals outside of the house. It seemed to be very contextual to the ongoing trauma of my childhood, but no one every looked deeply, or bothered to ask me what was going on at home.

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

Yeah! And that bullshit about being a brain disorder, based in what? I bet your psychiatric diagnosis was not made following medical tests, as most people's cases. So how could they know that there is something wrong with your brain? It's total bullshit. It's just a false belief and pseudomedical.

@appleitree

8 ай бұрын

Your dog had OCD?

Thank you for this, Daniel. I was diagnosed with OCD at 30 after many years of hell and it wasn't until a couple of years ago that I finally found out about how trauma really works and the importance of the subconscious mind, that I realised where this endless suffering came from. A traumatic birth followed by a very traumatic hospital intervention 2 years later. The many years of neglect and gaslighting that came afterwards just made everything worse and left me, as you said, endlessly trying to solve a problem I couldn't identify and blaming myself for the anxiety, the compulsions and all the other symptoms that came with it. Thank you, thank you, thank you for speaking these truths that are so hard to hear for so many people.

@arkhivesmoth

Жыл бұрын

Well done for courage to open up. I was wondering can you tell me please where can i found out how to heal from childhood trauma and all that stuff how it works. Or maybe can you suggest me a book. Thank you...

@estudiocostaoeste

Жыл бұрын

@filip svetec Hi Filip! I started my healing through the Personal Development School. They have a monthly membership and you can find their videos here on KZread. I found out about the subconscious mind through them and I'll forever be grateful for that. The body keeps the score is a great book although a tough read. There's another one called CPTSD something else (sorry I don't remember the full name) and that one was very helpful as it came with specific exercises to calm the nervous system down when triggered. I also used meditation and journalling everyday. It almost became a full time job, no joke. Basically I learned how to reconnect with my own body because I had become so scared of it because of the anxiety and panic attacks. I would recommend to just start with something (Personal development school videos or one of the books I mentioned) and then just follow your instinct with what resonates with you. Wish you the best of luck, if you have any other question please just ask me and if I can help you I will

@Lalallalu

Жыл бұрын

Hi, thanks for sharing your experience and for supporting the other KZread questioner. You mentioned a book of which you did not remember the title in full. Is this the book you were recommending? ⬇️ 'Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving' by Pete Walker 🙏

@estudiocostaoeste

Жыл бұрын

@@Lalallalu thank you! No, the one I meant is The complex PTSD workbook

I have observed that OCD is simply the emotion of anxiety, stuck in the psyche because of unresolved trauma. It seems that all trauma causes a permanent misalignment of the emotional state, and in some cases it is hightened anxiety. People who feel this anxiety will try to find an explaination for it in their surroundings, which is the (unlocked) door, or the (unclean) hands. It's really as simple as that, and the amazing part is that western culture is entirely unable to understand (or admit) this simple mechanism. Of course the door and hands can also be metaphors, but anxiety is the root cause for the bahavior.

@parus_1671

Жыл бұрын

Do non-western cultures understand this concept? Do you have examples? I’m genuinely interested

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

I think that anxiety comes from deeper overwhelming traumatic emotions/feelings, result of trauma, such as guilt of shame. But you're not enterily wrong.

Bravo man, bravo. I’ve gone through a decades long hell after being diagnosed with “pure” ocd in my teens. Only now do I see how screwed up my family was and still is, thanks to channels like this one. At no point in my life did a mental health “professional” or anyone else ever mention trauma or family problems. I was just medicated, stigmatized, and turned into the family scapegoat.

@andr3s306

8 ай бұрын

Dang, sorry you had to go through that. Just wanted to say beware of using them as a reason that you can't do something right now all because of their abuse. You got this!

I was raised by 2 cruel narcissist, they were drug dealers, addicted to amphetamine and weed, constantly taking out their drug fueled rage on me and much more. Eventually they divorced when I was in elementary school and I stayed with my mother. She brought home new guys every couple of werks, went to techno parties for days on end leaving me and my sister alone to party, take drugs and fuck random man. When she was home she was either asleep when I came out of school or was still awake coming down from the amphetamine she took the night before and kicking in my door(which wasnt even locked) to throw a tantrum. Eventually I developed cleanliness related OCD and it became so bad that I literally had to take a shower everytime I left my room out of fear of "contaminating" it. And mind you I was showering 3 hours at a time which eventually led me to only eating one meal a day at 5 am, taking a shower and not coming out of my room until the next day 5 am just so I can avoid my mother. I was living like this for months but last tuesday I said enough is enough and became homeless. Funnily my OCD became much less severe away from my mother so I think it is 100% stress and trauma related.

@hannahrose8839

Жыл бұрын

this is how i was, i left my mother but then she got evicted and had to live with me (at my grandmothers) and all the memories came back and it got bad again.

@daviddeveloper44

4 ай бұрын

Hannah and Cry, i hope both of you ladies heal and find joy in peace

@arcadiansounds2850

4 күн бұрын

Sounds like your room was your only safe place and cleaning yourself when you were unsafe in your room was the other way you could feel some of that safety

Interesting! Many thanks for sharing.❤

Daniel, you are one of the few genuine psychotherapists who really tries to help others solve their problems! .. instead of pimping them out to big Pharma to make money off them

Thank you Daniel! You're a gift! At least I don't know anyone else who gives this kind of fantastically clear and sensible insight into human problems! 5 years ago, you saved my life from a deep hell of traumatic life. I'm thankful of you forever.

@celinestgeorge

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful.

Trauma and abuse is so common in the world we live in, to the point where individuals are unaware of it. I think I want to "spread awarness" of this and "rock the boat..."

I have always wondered about your thoughts on OCD. I have had OCD symptoms since I was a child, which have continued to wax and wane throughout my life. Currently, my OCD symptoms are still fairly severe, even though I have been working on processing my childhood for a number of years now. Still, I am sure that there is more content to be sifted through that has maybe not yet been meaningfully integrated into the self that I am trying to heal. It is so painful to live with OCD. I have always been so afraid of everything for my entire life, and OCD mirrors my inner state of turmoil with such a shockingly blunt clarity. I think many with OCD grapple heavily with not only fear but guilt, shame, and an overall sense of powerlessness, feeling they hold virtually no agency over themselves or the direction their life takes. For years I felt I had no agency over myself, that I was merely a secondary character of my own life. I felt like a puppet while the various authority figures throughout my upbringing held the strings, contorting my being into what they projected onto me. I also feel like many who struggle with OCD are likely more sensitive to their environment than the vast majority, and may have dealt with emotional neglect in some way or another during their childhood. I have found that many people with OCD are bright, creative, thoughtful, deeply observant and perceptive… I am inclined to believe that it isn’t uncommon for a person with this kind of disposition to have experienced a fair degree of emotional misattunement as a child, of having their needs inadequately recognized and responded to by their caregivers in childhood. Editing to add that I think there are quite a number of facets to OCD, so I know I am probably forgetting other key components here, but another one I wanted to mention is that I think OCD feeds off of an immense amount of self-doubt, as well as a fundamental lack of self-trust and/or just a lack of trust in general. In my conceptualization of OCD, OCD plays a huge role in rendering a person fragmented, and perpetuating that fragmentation so that it can continue to proliferate. One way it manages to keep the status quo of “unresolvable” fragmentation is by persuading the individual in question (via a constant, unending inundation of self-doubt) that they should not and ultimately, “cannot” trust themselves. Of course, this, at its core, is little more than a cruel lie, but for someone in an incredibly vulnerable, fragmented state, the damage such a continuous lie does is extremely damaging. Or on second thought, regarding the nature of OCD’s intersection with fragmentation, it may be is more accurate to say that it is trauma which *first* fragments a person, and then OCD takes that as an opportunity to hijack the fragmented person, ensuring that they will remain in a fragmented state so that their dysfunctional ways of being persist indefinitely.

@Amber24426

Жыл бұрын

Also, just finished the video- “What problem is my mind actually trying to solve?” is a nicely succinct way of framing it in more concrete terms.

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

Impressive. How did you learnt all that? Many thanks, very insightful.

@Amber24426

Жыл бұрын

@@Gonzo-GT Thank you for the kind comment. It’s taken me a long time and I’m sure I still have more to learn, but it was very helpful for me to research OCD as well as trauma, and to try and understand these psychological states/concepts as well as I could. With something as vast and multifaceted as OCD or trauma, it can often help to break them down into smaller categories, such as “What emotions drive OCD?”, “What kind of thoughts are behind OCD?”, “What is OCD, at its core- what is its purpose?”, “What is trauma at its core?”, “Where do trauma and OCD overlap?”, and so on. When investigating these concepts and how they might apply to you, it is so important to try and be as curious, open-minded, compassionate and nonjudgmental towards yourself as you can be. For so many years my efforts to self-reflect went nowhere, because while I was curious about my state of mind, I held virtually no compassion for myself for why I was the ways that I was. Eventually, I realized that one’s personal truths will never be fully accessible to oneself if one does not approach these truths with a gentle and respectful sense of self-compassion. Among other things, writing has helped me, questioning my upbringing has helped me, allowing myself space for all of my many conflicting thoughts and emotions has helped me, giving myself distance from the painful environment I was raised in has helped me… We each are so complex. There is so much information that our body and mind are constantly relaying to us, if only we are open and receptive enough to hear what it is actually trying to convey. The truths are there, though… we just have to learn how to tune into them after a lifetime of having instead turned away from them. I wish you the best of luck in continuing to heal.

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

@@Amber24426 Yeah, I think you're right... I tried to do what you said the last two and half years, I did some progress but still don't feel good with myself. I'm diagnosed with OCD but the psychiatric label is confusing, we just should focus in the information that our mind and body tell us as you said. Two and half years ago I had a very very bad breakup, I felt so bad, since then my OC behaviors went crazy but in fact was all trauma, I also had bad trauma before that relationship, it's trauma after trauma, even if sometimes I don't recognize it and I self-gaslighting. I'm just tyred. I think I lost myself and this"OCD", the OC behaviors, are just a trauma loop in my head, that I can't overcome, not yet at least. So tyred. Anyway, thanks for your comment again. Best wishes.

@BlackCatedialogue

Жыл бұрын

How do i build self trust again?

I used to have very bad OCD after a traumatic loss. I showed subtle signs of it when I was young but it really got bad after my dad died I realize now that getting to my heart and dealing with the roots of the trauma things have improved dramatically. I once had a boyfriend tell me that I needed to connect the 18 in between my head and my heart. It was the most punching that got truth I ever heard. He also told me that I would never become the woman I meant to be unless I get away from my mom. He was right leaving my traumatizer of who my mother was one was a big part of healing.

You're right. I knew someone who did everything to avoid confronting his family problems in adulthood, when younger was diagnosed with OCD. He was afraid of dirt & disorder due to his mother. But he was caught in a trap because confronting them meant losing them. Later on he found other ways on top of that to avoid confronting his family problems, he went to ridiculous lengths.

@BlackCatedialogue

Жыл бұрын

Are you talking about me ?😅😢

Daniel , you're the ONLY THERAPIST ON KZread WHO ACTUALLY THINKS CRITICALLY AND DIGS DEEP INTO YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS.....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ LOVE YOU AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR INSIGHTS.

i have ocd and this is what i thought as well. Had a lot of things to be anxious about when i was little and it seems the only way me and my brain could distract myself from all the chaos happening in my childhood was to create and imaginary problem to solve haha. I think you are spot on in this video.

@ajlasmarin

2 ай бұрын

Perfectly stated, and I feel the same.

When someone says OCD is biological or genetic, they are out of their mind or they have an agenda. OCD is a result of traumas. I can say with my own life experiences.

@shawnleong3605

9 ай бұрын

I was bullied, ridiculed and ostracised a year before my OCD actually developed and escalated.

@persevere6326

Ай бұрын

Same here Took me decades to see the connections

@aicerg

9 күн бұрын

That's the reason I clicked on this video so fast. I have a brother who has strong and sometimes detrimental compulsions. He sure as hell had it rough since he was a baby as my mother left him for work at 2 weeks old. And his teenage years were also torture, he was bullied, ridiculed and ostracized just like you say. And after that everything went downhill for him, to the point where now we sometimes fear him. ​@@shawnleong3605

I think it all comes down to reestablishing a feeling of safety. If we go through life with a chronic underlying feeling of danger due to some old trauma that's still in our system, it makes sense that the mind in all its infinite creativity can develop paranoia about things like germs, gas leaks etc. It's an adaptive response. Unfortunately doing compulsions to help our anxiety just creates a vicious circle where the anxiety gets worse. I think that Exposure Response Prevention can really empower people to break the vicious circle associated with a particular obsession, even solving that particular obsession, but it seems that OCD will simply re-emerge later in the form of some new obsession-compulsion loop that must then be identified and dealt with again. I think the only way to escape the core feeling of fear that generates the OCD to begin with is to work through one's traumas and return to a felt sense of safety so that the need to be hypervigilant, paranoid and ultimately, obsessive-compulsive, no longer exists.

@hannahrose8839

Жыл бұрын

do you have tips on feeling safe again

@maxmusterman5134

Жыл бұрын

​​@@hannahrose8839 Hi, I made huge strides by vagus nerve stimulation, which triggers the safety feeling within the nervous system. One way to bring this feeling (consciously!!) is very simply holding you're eyes as far left as possible for 30 seconds with eyes closed, then holding eyes as far right as possible with eyes closed for 30 seconds. Play with the times and whether you sit stand or lie down. Notice any physical or mental relaxing taking place. Stick with it as it can be an extraordinary tool to override ingrained reactions to memories or triggers!!! Good luck!!!!

@estudiocostaoeste

Жыл бұрын

@Max Musterman wow, I just tried it and it works wonders!!! Thank you. Do you do it every day as a routine os just when you're feeling triggered?

@maxmusterman5134

Жыл бұрын

@@estudiocostaoeste I am so happy to hear that! I use it when I get triggered/PTSD response as well as a daily 'check in' just to reset safety response. It seems like there will be stiffness/soreness in the eyes ability to move freely, and if I feel that then I run the procedure. Interestingly Ive found that my response time from upset to eye movement process gets smaller and smaller as time goes on. If its a doozy of trigger, Ill be wrapped up in the old way of trying to think/feel my way out of it but suddenly remember Im holding the off switch. Amazing that the living universe would provide such a simple answer to an aspect of our human suffering! Good luck. Study up and pass it on.

@estudiocostaoeste

Жыл бұрын

@Max Musterman When I did it, at first I felt so uncomfortable it almost hurt and my eyes wanted to go back to the original position but after a while I let out a big sigh and felt more relaxed. Our bodies are fascinating. Again, thank you for sharing!

Thanks for the presentation. I had Ocd ( or was classified as) as a young person and was treated with Ssri meds for years. At the end of a long process I weaned myself off the Ssri meds and found myself in a curious state where I realized the meds only made me numb not well. On the surface I worked .Was Successful socially and people envied me and my achievements but inside I was as only a vacuum. When I woke up ,eventually ,I found allot of time went by and there was allot of loss. What I can say for myself is that I have been honest and did a good job at self awareness and retrospective self assessment. Unfortunately I was medicated for a intergenerational problem of my parents and their family. I'm lucky to have survived the entire mess.

There is a lot of literature relating OCD to trauma with Stanley Rachman being the pioneer in that observation. Carol Matthews has written a paper on showing connection and trauma occur in at least 50 percent of the cases. There is some thinking that OCD is related to strep infections, but my reading on that is limited. From personal experience, the people I know with OCD also had a lot of trauma from their childhood caregivers.

I’ve been using your videos and other trauma info sources to figure out my ocd. I realized that ERP the gold standard ocd therapy actually makes your ocd constantly worse. The more ruthless it is (such as in a residential program) the more quickly and horribly does it make the ocd worse. I realized that of all the people in my program, everyone badly relapsed after the program except for the one person who didn’t really do much of the erp. And the person who I think did it above and beyond, they relapsed maybe the worst. But I actually figured it out based on the trauma progression. When you do erp, it suppresses the ocd down so you’re more functional but you’ve gone backwards to dissociation. And by suppressing the ocd, you make it come back stronger. Just like psychosis that is suppressed, comes back worse. And so after 10 years of doing this ridiculous non therapy, you are so much worse than how you started. The other problem is the therapist. They are usually narcissists and their tactics exacerbate the ocd. They deny your reality and gaslight, which serves to fuel the ocd doubts about everything and even perceptions. They have impossible expectations that you constantly fail because they’re impossible and that fuels perfectionism. They claim that you shouldnt reassure but actually reassurance works if given by an empathetic person. Any interaction with a narcissist adds to the ocd trauma. Any narcisstist. Therapist, psych, neighbour, friend, ex, parents, doctors. Ocd is actually magical because provided you do trauma work and figure out where your trauma comes from, it will make you feel the horrible feelings all by itself. The insane compulsions build up and up and stress you out horribly but this makes the trauma come up and maybe even flashbacks. The ocd is making life debilitating but it helps you process and feel all the horrors. So actually, you should never suppress it, do everything it says that you can and you will get to the end. It’s a short term massive suffering for long term wellness and health. Once all the trauma is burnt through and resolved, it will stop and go away. And, it wouldn’t have to be that bad if people weren’t forced to do erp in the first place. Of course there are times when the ocd demands are more than your body can handle in which case you would skip things or reduce them but it would be only when absolutely necessary and never forced by any narcissist. It is brutal but I would say that ERP is more brutal. And Erp never lead me anywhere good. I’ve noticed that my obsessions relate back to my trauma in that they are about things that are similar to the feelings of the trauma. Like gaslighting your reality lead to doubting your perceptions. Checking if you saw something, heard something, touched something, over and over. Starting to think health anxiety and ocd are related to doctor and medical trauma. False memory ocd might relate to having parents claim something you remember happening didn’t happen. Many of the triggers contain clues too. If one thing bothers you but another doesn’t of the same kind, you need to figure out why. There’s a reason. There’s so much but this the best summary I could do. Thank you Daniel Mackler for the foundation knowledge. It helped me figure it all out. Edit: Hey commenter Ive tried a million times to reply but it wont work for some reason. So hoping you might see this and get your answer. Personally, I started with learning about trauma theory and narcissism. I watched a lot of Daniel Mackler’s content and Patrick Teahans’s which helped me see that my family was not as good as I thought. Start light and slow. This work is very overwhelming and painful and tiring. You can read trauma books (like The Body Keeps the Score) and you can check out Pinterest because theres a rabbit hole of trauma and narcissism content and random quotes and lines from actual trauma therapists. What kind of contamination do you have?

@Acujeremy

2 ай бұрын

Wow what you wrote here is so interesting! I have contamination OCD but how do I go about finding the trauma and getting rid of it?

@Acujeremy

2 ай бұрын

@@moonmillghost5435 Could you answer my questions since what you wrote seems very important?

Daniel, thank you greatly for this video. I've been dealing with "OCD" for years now and have been waiting for someone to explain it simply to me. I relate to "washing hands until they're red raw Washing away an invisible disease." I'm medication free and am simply learning to combat the obsessive thoughts by positively affirming to myself that, "I don't have OCD. I am not my past. It is safe to be 'me'. I am overcoming whatever this is. My mind is strong and healthy. The thoughts are just thoughts and not facts. There is no problem with me that needs to be solved. I am enough just as I am." Endless gratitude for you and your profound insights. Thank you endlessly.

@Gonzo-GT

10 ай бұрын

I learnt that OC behaviors are an unhealthy coping mechanism against traumatic feelings, specially traumatic/toxic shame and guilt, that's what people with OC behaviors such as hand washing compulsions try to "wash away".

You are a godsend. The stuff that happened to me in middle school is too horrible to talk about, but it's tied directly to my intrusive thoughts. I've tortured myself in the same manner as what I was put through in middle school.

You offer a fresh perspective on many issues. Personally, I only take advice from people who understand trauma because they have experienced it themselves.

@dmackler58

Жыл бұрын

Interesting. I'd only add this: I think everyone has experienced trauma, but most people haven't figured it out yet or grossly underestimate how traumatized they are.

I also think there are trauma triggers that cause the OCD rituals because once the original trauma is forgotten from your mind, multiple trauma triggers messes with your thoughts and now that becomes your trauma. and you tend to avoid multiple triggers So treating the trauma trigger that becomes your new traumas is in my opinion is the way to heal the OCD. All you need to do is write in a safe way of all the things you avoid and makes you do rituals. Start from small triggers to the biggest. Do it in a safe way that won't trigger you either do it with someone next to you by using words that won't trigger you. After that go and do trauma healing therapies with a physiologist targeting one by one.

I'm new to your channel, and I really like your videos! My mom has severe and repeated traumas/violations when she was younger and is diagnosed with schizophrenia - it does all seem connected to her traumatic childhood though, it's really sad. For me it wasn't her psychosis that hurt me the most, it was the fact that she didn't love me once I wasn't acting as her caretaker/security blanket anymore. 💔 Anyways, thanks for your videos. ❤

So interesting! Makes sense. And just a few weeks ago I was "chatting" w a woman online who mentioned that EMDR had helped her OCD symptoms tremendously. EMDR helps the brain process trauma, so it makes so much sense to me. I'm really looking forward to finding a therapist to work with. (Other forms of trauma-specific therapy would probably help as well as EMDR. The woman I was chatting w was also doing hypnotherapy for trauma; and somatic therapy - per Peter Levine - might also be useful) Love & support for everyone else here on a healing journey)

Some time compulsions are connected. Checking doors, became a way, making myself secure. People came into our house, cult dragged us out. There are links with your inner self

I experienced life changing trauma at 4 years old. I hit the back of my head on the corner of a dresser and I'm sure it caused a concussion. When I told my Mom about it, she told me I deserved it. It was at that moment she made me the family scapegoat and 61 years later my family still treats me as the fall guy. I've suffered much cognitive dissociation (or trauma induced amnesia). When going through the healing process, I was very challenged with trying to figure out...is this really me or who I've become?. I wasn't able to remember the details of life in my mind, however my emotional self remembered and that's all I had to go by in the healing process. When the mind suffers emotional trauma and the skull suffers physical trauma, its a complicated set of difficulties. Thanks for all you do Daniel. You bring clarity to relief to the challenges of life.

This along with some personal breakthroughs has made me realize that compulsions and obsessions truly are metaphors. The things that I fear, I don’t really fear. I fear a lack of safety that comes from nothing to obsess over. I feel unsafe. I feel like if my obsession happens then I will lose everything. It will impact more than it realistically does. Metaphors. This realization has helped me hugely, and I feel like I can effectively address this now. Thank you for your kindness and your help.

Thank you,Daniel. You have been so helpful to me. It's wonderful to hear a calm explanation where I don't feel like I am being baffled with bullshit intentionally.

Thanks for this video Daniel

Such a great insight

I've been dealing with OCD since last year when I discovered I cant even remember much from my childhood. I think you're onto something here. How can we better grasp memories that aren't really there?? I'm having such a hard time even getting to a theme of what happened

@moonmillghost5435

2 ай бұрын

Do you have parents you can spend time with? Might bring up some memories. Stuff from childhood? Can you do a family of origin map of your family?

I am mostly recovered from OCD no medications only symptoms now are some thought compulsions but no behavioral ones. I’ve had it from about 6/7 years to 30 now. The worst was about when I was 22. It was really bad then and thankfully for most of my life it was just small annoyances like all of a sudden and obsession with light, cleanliness, or order and mostly thought patterns and the thought patters is where I really suffered. Your car analogy is perfect. I healed because I started to work on my inner stress and heal my chronic feelings which a lot of time involved childhood trauma. All the time of course it led back to childhood trauma but sometimes I didn’t connect it with my childhood all I knew was I had to be honest with my emotions. The cornerstone to that healing for me was being honest with my feelings. I had learned that I needed to lower my mental and emotional resistance from a spiritual leader. I also have been really engaged in learning about psychology and spirituality since I was about 18 and was doing meditation too about 1-2 hours a day. That was also key in my healing, meditation. It’s gotten to the point where I can easily avoid the “itch” and even if I satisfy it it’s so easy to not “loop” my behavior. By the way I lived with my parents the whole time because exactly like you said I had so many problems and the biggest was an eating disorder so I couldn’t work because I couldn’t eat, was too weak and I was so skinny. So it definitely made it extra hard but I was able to do it by doing my best to have boundaries and especially mental and emotional boundaries and a lot of fighting. I also had the benefit I had parents who were also interested in healing their inner child so a lot of times, not all, they could validate my feelings. Anyways thought I would share this. OCD can be hell. I know it was so bad for me that at my peak I’d wake up straight into looping behavior and end the night with it. Couldn’t do anything else with my time but suffer with it. Because even though I was always meditating, which is amazing and still highly recommend, I wasn’t being real with myself. It’s like I had a mask on. It was unto I really dived into my feelings and dealt with the past and present was when those behaviors gradually stopped popping up and before I knew it I had literally conditioned myself to whenever an OCD behavioral compulsion came up I would immediately ask myself how do I really feel. And that was enough to stop the compulsion of course I always answered the question whether I did the behavior or not but in general the more I healed the more it was enough to answer that question. And to this day my OCD mostly shows up in thought forms and it easier to solve that but I don’t have any behavioral problems and if I did I know I would have compassion and sit down and evaluate how I have been lying to myself about how I truly feel and go down that path whether it took me to my child hood or not because like I said we don’t always remember but your feelings do. Hope this helped someone! Lots of love ❤

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! Your experiences and comment are very helpful. I have diagnosed OCD but I think the psychiatric label confused me, because it is an attribution bias. My OC behaviors never were the cause of my suffering but a response to it, to the adverse circumstances I experienced. I just see OC behaviors as a childhood legacy dysfunctional coping mechanism from a time when I were defenseless, trapped and powerless. But still, not the main problem. The main problem is the overwhelming "bad feelings" (such as guilt, shame) that come from traumas. Too much focus in trying to fix the OC behaviors is losing the perspective and missing the point, which is overcoming the trauma and overwhelming traumatic legacy bad feelings.

@SongofBeauty

Жыл бұрын

@@Gonzo-GT thank you for sharing your experience too. It did add more stress for me to focus on the behaviors. I felt so ashamed that I behaved that way that for almost 3 years I barely left the house. A book that really helped me was Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw. Releasing the shame around the behaviors and desire to control the behaviors was really important for me to even begin looking at my inner world. I forgot to add that to my above comment. I wish you the best. ❤

@Gonzo-GT

Жыл бұрын

@@SongofBeauty You're right. Thanks. Best wishes.

@BlackCatedialogue

Жыл бұрын

So you're saying whenever you had ocd thought you would ask your past self what actually is hurting rather than seeing it merely as present obsession

This is brilliant

As always, keenly insightful and very much appreciated. Thank you, Daniel.

Daniel your a help to people across the Globe keep up the great work brotha and good luck on your own personal healing aswell

Thank you so much for your work and words..❤

I was asking myself this question so it is a coincidence that you just released this video

l am so glad to have found your channel Daniel.

Thanks for this, D. As with many (or most) of your videos, this branches out into so many issues, and I got a lot from it.

I missed your videos. Thank you, this is greatly informative. ❤️🙏

Thank you for your work Daniel. I really appreciate you. Warmest from australia

Daniel i have been binge watching your videos for the last few days. Every one of them resonates with me and makes me feel so grateful that there is someone else in the world with the same insights that i have. I am so happy you exist and so happy to have met you albeit not personally. I admire your courage for the difficult path you have chosen by expressing the truth on topics that most people shun and I wish you all the best in your life and hope you find someone like- minded to share it with. Much love 💕

I am so glad your channel came into my feed. Your channel is true gem. I can relate so much to your traumas you have suffered.. Keep on going .. you are a true gift to childhood trauma survivors ❤

Very interesting perspective...thanks for the video

Your videos are a goldmine, truly. Thank you for sharing all this stuff with us :) Wishing you all the best!

Just came across your channel recently and I just want to say thank you. You have helped me understand some different things in my life and it’s much appreciated. Keep up the good work my friend! 👍

I just wanna say that your videos are very good

Yeah Daniel ty for your work and content. Your approach and honesty is the best way I've heard these subjects discussed. Very good work. Thanks again 👍

Hey, Daniel, I would like to thank you for the videos you've been sharing with us. Ytb recently recommended one of your videos to me and I was glad when I found that you are still sending new ones. Wish you all the best! Thank you once again.

The best description of OCD I have ever heard. Thank you Daniel ! 💞

This is so good about the disease to be cleaned! Great content Daniel, you are needed!. You rock ❤😊

So glad I found you can't believe your actually still active to I really feel like we are on the same wave length everything you talk about just resonates with me so much

I made peace with an early childhood trauma and named what happened to me. Immediately after i got better with two of my weird compulsions. You are really good at this please never stop.

Wow I didn't realize you gained so many subs over the past 1-2 years. That's amazing!

You make it all make sense ❤❤❤ Thank you Daniel 👊🏻🎯☀️🤩

Do you know about Kai the hitchiker his message was Before I say anything else, I wanna say, no matter what you've done, you deserve respect. Even if you make mistakes, you're lovable, and it doesn't matter your looks, skills, or age, size, or anything, you're worthwhile.

This was amazing.. Thank you so much for sharing this video-It was confirmation that I needed to hear that what I am working to do-will help heal. Keep the videos coming you have no idea how much this helps-I know I am not the only one seeking guidance. May God Bless you.

I bought your pdf for the twelve steps and thank you so much for creating this system to help direct my self healing. So grateful Daniel

Thank you for this. I haven't heard this explanation before but it really seems to resonate with me.

You make so much sense

Great to hear some insight into this. I'd love to hear more as it's so poorly understood. Long term sufferer here

I have never heard a more clear and direct answer for what has tormented me my whole life. Thank you, Daniel, for your wisdom and efforts in bringing light to the mysteries that ail us. I will try to do the work of unraveling my own, personal trauma and solve it once and for all. All the best.

I’m so glad I found this channel. I’m young and very interested in psychology but don’t know anyone who’s as obsessed. I love your unconventional approach and story, it’s very relatable. Truly a gem on KZread

You are brilliant!!!

Thats exactly right and its crazy that people cant see this. Its like rationality means nothing anymore, or else its just inconvenient because it gets in the way of making money

Hi Daniel I'm new to the channel and love it! I'm 30y old male and have struggled from the age of 18 to build myself conditions to heal. And now I have them, in a physical and a financial manner. And slowly I am starting to open myself up and heal and that is how I found your channel. Thank you very much, you have helped me a lot to formulate some thoughts and feelings that I have started to recognize. Keep up the good work and thanks again. Cheers from Croatia

Any time a child has psychological problems or any other social dysfunctions, the parents need to be investigated and where appropriate, prosecuted for child abuse. Then the child needs to undergo therapy so they understand what happened to them and go on to live happy, productive lives where they don't pass their pain onto their own children. They cycle of dysfunction has to stop.

@beasmarty

10 ай бұрын

Though it's less common, sometimes it's not the parents or home that caused the trauma (whether its known or unknown, repressed ect), but a school, daycare, or some other situation outside the home that may have even occurredtoo early in age for the kids to ever be able to properly understand what happened to them, let alone tell someone This is pretty likely when a kid is comfortable with their parents, but extremely shy or afraid when with other adults

@joaogabrielanutosilva205

Ай бұрын

But what if the parents were abused too? Did they choose to abuse their children? I think forgivenes is a better way than revenge

Daniel’s channel is growing fast

@idan4989

Жыл бұрын

had to be years before

I can feel the truth in his words and I’m grateful to hear him say what many already know 🙏🏽healthcare is a business.❤

I've watched your old videos and had a little bit of confusion, because although you had seemed to know the soul very well, you still seemed like you clung onto your suffering, but as of now I think that you're finally beginning to let go of that pain, although there is still a little bit of that. I wish you well and to heal further, because you have many accurate criticisms of modern insanity of society.

Daniel I really hope you get this , you are such an unique amazing man your life stories I’ve lived everyday and I’m foster care since 5 til adulthood now 37 and healing everyday from my past trauma for the last three years it’s not easy but it’s providing so much clarity I’m new to your channel and man these last two days have really changed some thoughts you are a game changer keep being amazing and being you a true gift for us that hide due to not knowing what we have and are experiencing thanks for being a connection we can put together our thoughts …..

@dmackler58

Жыл бұрын

Wishing you the best, Melissa. Daniel

Your spot on

Dr. Daniel please make a video on incels

@dualshock3

Жыл бұрын

^this.. I would love to hear his opinion on the blackpill aswell

@bladebeats7375

Жыл бұрын

@@dualshock3 true man I'm consuming a lot of blackpill content as well

@dualshock3

Жыл бұрын

@@bladebeats7375 Thats good bro, lets hope he discovers Dbdr first. He's the real deal, unlike most youtubers who claim to help but completely ignore the horrid situations some men live in..

@bladebeats7375

Жыл бұрын

@@dualshock3 facts how you got into blackpill?

@misfireswithabuhajaar9470

Жыл бұрын

@@bladebeats7375 go outside and look at couples, the average woman looks better than their boyfriend, the whole blackpill is a lie, i wasted 1.5+ years on it, also these communities think tyler maher is better looking than cillian murphy, lucky blue smith and some of them also consider him better looking than lachowski, they are utterly clueless

In the field of Commercial Driver Training there is a saying: " 'Accidents' are caused by *people.* " Trauma is caused by people. In the former, you do it to yourself. But in the latter, others do unto you as they were done unto them. I'm happy being a 'clean freak.' I figure if that's the worst I got broken, I can deal with it - especially when *death* has been an option. And I have ways I can partition it so I don't drive myself crazy. In my life I can see I've endured four major events of trauma. And guess what they were *caused* by ? I've also had great grief and loss, emotional and economic, and eventually a years-long introspection into multiple spheres of understanding. As a biological introvert, who turned socialized-extrovert to function in the world, out of all of this I came full circle. I'm happy now to be the archetypal 'lone rider', and continue my inner journey in neo-stoic and DGAF philosophies. What they've done to me, and what their 'civilization' has done to me, continuing to be rationalized by *their problems* and their money and their pill solutions, are reason enough. I really like myself, in fact am even more intrigued by myself, every day. To maintain that wholeness, I stay TF away from people, and I don't give AF what they think. You can really see them for what they truly are out here on the road every day. Irredeemable - and I want no part of that. My needs are now simple enough that I don't want them - in any way, shape, or form. I tried their 'program', for much of my life, and now I am just ... *strong.* You seem like a really sweet person, who also went thru a lot. But you give 'humanity' way too much credit. Btw: People are basically filthy too.

Thank you very much for this video. It's very interesting to hear your thoughts about OCD, and the video made me feel very acknowledged ❤ I have been thinking a lot about the nature and nurture part of OCD. I have an identical twin sister and we both have it (since we were around 6/7), from stories it seems very clear that my grandmother had OCD, my mom seems to have ocd-like tendencies, and my half-brother who is related to me via my mother's side of the family, seems to have it as well. It would be easy to attribute it completely to genetics but it might very well be the case that unresolved problems and difficulty dealing with and expressing emotions has left its marks on all of us. My grandmother had a difficult youth, marked by an alcoholic parent. She became an alcoholic herself and was abusive to my mother and her brother. My mom broke the cycle in many ways, which I am incredibly thankful for. She nevertheless was very hurt, and always had to hide her emotions when she was younger. Even though I have felt very loved, the manner of communicating and dealing with emotion wasn't ideal and even unhealthy at times. For me the OCD is very much tied to an elusive feeling of having control, and related to a fear of losing it, of not being able anymore to be in charge of my thoughts and actions. Losing my sense of self and losing traits that are important to me, like empathy, is one of my main obsessions and fears. I don't know if it's interesting, but for me the OCD pattern of thought was at the root of, and I always see it as the blueprint of, an eating disorder I had when I was 14. I felt like a lot of things were changing, as if I had to make choices that I wasn't ready to make and I wanted to freeze time in a way, to take control of it. I wanted myself to remain the same, to not change in ways I couldn't oversee. The compulsion to deal with this was to withhold myself from doing something. I started restricting my food intake. It luckily only lasted for about half a year and it's been about 11 years now.

Yes. Thank you.

Muchas gracias por el video 🌟🙏🌹

I wish you would come out of retirement and be my therapist. But I have definitely connected with your teachings, for which I am thankful.

This is what i see: there is trauma and neglect in the family, the human family and most human families, and each kid deal with the harm/situation with the resources that they have. Some are good at creating order and structure. So they tend to more OCDy solutions. Others are different and use other tools, like disappearing, escaping into their heads, or use substances, fighting, being self reliant, adapting and being obediant, follow leaders… Trauma does not cause a disorder, nor a level of empathy, nor a personality style. We use the tools we have. That is why therapy can be so helpful. We learn to value what we are and let go of defenses and behaviors that do not serve us. Can take a very strong motivation, though. If our mechanisms still feel like a sweet pill.

if you live on earth you get trauma. the reason we hang onto it so much is because of the tv. it confuses us that life isn't how we think its supposed to be but it was never supposed to be that way. if a deer gets bit by a coyote it doesn't develop ocd. it just keeps trying to live. this is how people should be. were too idealistic. now imagine some scientists were watching from the outside. "that deer needs help". they start forcing help and it affects the deers ability to survive.. every single day for the rest of its life until it complies. help that they are not qualified to give and by their logic, they need themselves.

Healing better, than medication

Brilliant

I can't believe you there I thought you were from years ago and there is four days ago that's a good thing thank you for your support and living it's wonderful to know that when you can pick up the phone and there you go it's your problem is going on somebody has some answers for you

I've been watching your videos lately I wish I had a therapist like yourself.

Thank you

Insightful that you gave the example of drinking as a means quieting the mind from stress and anxiety. Obsessive thoughts might be the root cause of alcohol abuse and dependence. I think asking for one's earliest memory in life can be revealing.

YOU THE MAN...I always highly recommend your videos to anyone who I feel can benefit from your experience in life, Jordan Peterson doesn't come close to helping HUMANS the way you do, yea? You've definitely reached the highest stage a HUMAN can go in life and that is the E.T. STAGE,(EXCELLENT TEACHER), yea? The universe is watching... "EVERY WISH FULFILLED" E.T.

Two years ago I was experiencing panic and anxiety attacks. So I decided to go to a psychological therapy again. I had a traumatic experience when I was seven years old, and another difficult experiences later on. So I've depression since I was 14 years old. I've had therapy previously. It helped some ways but not so much. When I come back to therapy, at my 30's, I learned some things that opened my eyes. I was fighting some kind of OCD. I suggest to people to search help of a psychotherapist. One special thing that helps me to learn about myself was Zen Buddhism. It helped me to pay attention to myself, reconnect with my soul. Know myself let me know better to other people so I have better relationships. I've been able to separate thoughts I've learned, things that are not true. I'm still learning. I'm trying to have better habits. But my life' quality has increased considerably in the last weeks. More than two years has taken me to this point. I wish I could help to people passing through experiences like mine. Best wishes.

Living in this world is objectively traumatic, as the way we live is so far removed from and antithetical to the way we have evolved to live(as hunter-gatherers). I had an objectively happy childhood, from all I can remember, and developed pretty intense OCD around age 4. Most children are born into families where both parents are detached from objective reality, and that causes the child to never become attached to reality. They must remain detached from reality in order to maintain an attachment to their detached parents. This means that, while the child may have all sorts of stuff going on inside of them, it is buried so deep that it doesn’t cause outward problems or issues. They are not allowed to have their own feelings, let alone express them. Because my nervous system wasn’t suppressed as a result of being raised by totally detached parents, I was very sensitive to everything I observed. I do remember being bothered by the fact that my parents didn’t seem to really love each other(though they didn’t fight or yell), and I had an older sister who I believe was very jealous of me, and who probably made it pretty clear. I noticed differences in the way my peers, their parents, and my teachers acted, in comparison to my family. I was very sensitive. I believe OCD is caused by a sense of lack of control, which can be caused by many things. Primarily though, I think it is caused by a conscious sense of unsafety in the world. Children who are raised in emotionally unsafe homes do feel unsafe, all the time. But they are not conscious of that feeling, because they need to remain unconscious in order to maintain parental attachment. They repress and repress, often for decades, and unless and until they can form an attachment to someone who does allow them to feel safe, they never can become truly conscious. My husband and his siblings were raised in an objectively unsafe home environment, with a very detached mother and an overtly abusive father. None of them have ever been diagnosed with any sort of mental health disorders, but all are very detached from reality. Well, except for my husband, though he certainly was detached when we met, and for a long time after. My OCD began to diminish as I got older, and developed a strong attachment to myself. The attachment to self, for a female, is necessary for her to feel truly safe in the world. Because I had good parents, both of whom were pretty well attached to reality, I was eventually able to form that bond with myself. For women who were not raised in such a family, they probably never can form a bond with themselves. Therefore, they can never feel truly safe. An adult who develops OCD has possibly become less detached from reality, as a result of becoming less dependent upon their parents, and specifically, on their mothers. When mental health improves with age, I think that is a sign you had a relatively healthy childhood. When it gets worse, it’s probably because your childhood was so bad that you had to repress reality in order to stay attached to your parents. The less attached you are as an adult, the more reality will start creeping in. And if you have no practice in dealing with reality, it can quite literally drive you insane once you make contact with it. I know I am unusual, because again, most children are born to very screwed up parents. I do need to be mindful still, at 39, when it comes to managing stress, because if I’m not managing it well, my OCD can creep back in. It’s ridiculous to assert that it is only our parents who can negatively impact our mental health. Having great parents spoils you in a way, and also allows you to be more conscious and aware of how absolutely screwed up our “society” is. I do think you will be better prepared to deal with life, especially as a female, but as the saying goes “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”. I put “society” in quotes, because a true society can only exist when all of its members share the same beliefs and morals. This is why it’s so harmful for us to live in the enormous, divided groups we live in today.

@loredanamassini9484

Жыл бұрын

The more reality creeps in... Can u describe your quote?

Such a gift for a 16yo That's actually what i was kinda suspicious of as well that it's genetic because both my parents don't have OCD.

@shawnleong3605

9 ай бұрын

Mine don’t have it too. The genetic argument actually created a rift between me and my parents. And the psychiatric drugs actually contributed to my extreme anger and aggression.

@क्रेज़ीबिच

9 ай бұрын

@@shawnleong3605 it's something that no amount of external reassurance can fix but I'd tell you one thing that helped me and still helps me a lot, and that's believing that no one and especially god, is not going to hate me for my thoughts because they aren't mine, my feelings are innocent and they know it. One more thing is we're all in this together buddy, probably some karma's fruit we're facing in this lifetime due to past lives karma, I'm sure it'll end one day as it has gotten way better than before .

If your traumatizer is your mom or dad, go away and live by your own, or with a friend or partner. Someone who is outside of your family nucleus. Keep messages and calls to the minimum. This is showing outstanding results in my case.

I really appreciate your videos Daniel. Could you do one on panic attacks? What's your opinion on this.

💯 accurate.

Beautiful. You are me dr mackler

OCD and Addiction are very similar functionally, for the person who is suffering. Some kind of control over the out of control experiences in the past.