Such a good question! I think about it pretty logically: if a friend has betrayed me beyond repair, I've seen who they really are....so how can I miss something that was never real, that never existed? I don't attach myself to people because I can't control others. It keeps me sane and happy, but I had to learn to do this the hard way. Love you, keep smiling, there are billions of people on this earth! ♥

"Date your friends like you would date a potential partner." - LOVE IT

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5 жыл бұрын

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@balajimukhedkar2162

5 жыл бұрын

Love it

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5 жыл бұрын

My whatsapp no +918920305539 only friendship

You could honestly right a successful book, about friendships confidence, etc. I would buy it

@TAG010

9 жыл бұрын

*write :)

@bornonmoon4222

7 жыл бұрын

Agree!

@inanjoice8251

7 жыл бұрын

Michelle Castro I definitely would too

What hurts the most is people that cut you off in their life when you still truly cared about them, but they begin to turn on you and turn and twist everything you say to suit their agenda. I'm a genuine person, always making effort, if I hurt someone directly or indirectly, I said I'm sorry, I'm always valuing the other person and the friendship but we have people that think in black and white and some people will either love you or hate you, there is no inbetween , these are the people that if you ever have an issue with them, they abandon you.

@keonarandolph7849

7 жыл бұрын

Rock N exactly.

@maix139

6 жыл бұрын

True friends will work things out with you, understand you. There are only a few good friends out there though however, they are worth it.

Really great points made, but when I think about the relationships that I have "fought" for, none of them exist anymore. I prolonged the inevitable. If there is a mutual desire between 2 people to make things work, there will be no fighting =)

Friendship is no different than a membership at Costco. Their are rules and regulations members or friends have to follow, if people break the rules of a contract like at Costco, Costco has the right to break that contract with that person. Same goes for friends, Nur thank you for this video, it is always nice to watch your videos.

It’s so difficult walking away from long term friendships even when you know you have completely outgrown them... I love the analogy of dating your friends. Gives the issue for me clarity .

Yup don't be desperate for people! That is so strong and important! As for having a conversation if a person can't handle the criticism and walks out on you midway then know that they are so not worth your time! And I walked away from them. Loved this video! keep up the good work :)

WRITE A BOOK NUR! And I love that you are 100% real, that is soooo hard to find nowadays!

Ok people, no matter which way you look at it or how many different ways you set up your plan, always remember life only comes with one guarantee, that is death. Everything else is a mystery. Live everyday of your life with a clean heart and you will not have a thing to worry about.

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE

Don’t be desperate for people, so true, so true! That’s why I don’t focus on just one friend, I try to cultivate more because if things go wrong you talk it out instead of begging for approval/ validation.

Thank you for taking time and posting these videos. Can’t tell you how much the things you say hit home and get me excited to better my life.

" Only equals make friends" maya Angelou;)

pretty much treat people the way you want to be treated. I loved this, such good advice and alot of food for thought. Makes you think about what kind of friend you want to be and have.

You're wise beyond your ears. Stumbled on this gem 10 years later. Thanks❤

u speak the truth! Your advice is lifechanging! :") I am so thankful for all that you've posted

That is soo true we definitely have the right to have standards! I definitely going to take your advice! I always make friends who want to USE me and it hurts but I'm getting better at finding real true friends. :D thank you for your words of wisdom! :D

This video couldn't have been any more perfect. i have just been through some hurtful things that have happened to me by a 'friend". I have tried to realize these things you have said but could not come up with the advice you have given. I truly appreciate you sharing this with all of us. It really helped me and I'm sure it also helped others :)

my dear, congrats for your inside and outside beauty !

Thank you for doing this video! I think a lot of times people really don't stop and think "am I good friend?" I hope this changes a lot of people and how they are as friends and to help them realize what kind of friends they want around them.

Thanks for reminding me to 'move the trash'... although i wouldn't always call the ex trash per se, it's reminded me that i need to make room for new and better things and i cannot do that if i'm always going back to read the last chapter in my book instead of turning the page to begin the next (however great that chapter was at the time). It took me at least 4 months to get over him and then an additional few months to move past the situation and all the resentment and bitterness that i still had towards the circumstances even though i was actually over him. I could write forever on this topic, but in short, thanks for the reminder to move him out of the way and stop bothering to talk to him and 'stay friends'.... and allowing him to want to be friends one minute (and getting pissed when i don't bother) and then not wanting anything to do with me when i do bother to be 'friends' to acquiesce to his wishes.... He had me running in circles and then getting angry at myself for making the same mistake in thinking it would be different... Time to breathe some new air!! Thanks!

Honestly love your confidence videos, lots of great points.

After your confidence video, I've always been waiting for more advice videos. I love them!! You're really good at it!

I admire you. Thank you for taking time out of your day to post these helpful videos.

wow great advice. please do more videos like this. its nice to hear advice from a level headed, non biased, non judgmental perspective. very rare now a days.

This is so well done Nur! It is a privilege to be your subbie, srly! As much as I adore your makeup/hair videos, I highly regard your views on life, relationship, etc. You are one in a million! I wish you all the happiness you deserve! xx

you are very clear headed-in a good way. Everything that you have said made sense & is actually true.

Hey Nur. Great Video! your advice on expectations in friendships definitely takes me back to certain situations that i had to deal with in the past where i had to make a decision on certain people in particular that i was in association with. keep making these videos. you have a lot to say for the greater good of how people can firmly structure themselves and their relationships. Thank you!

Wonderful video....and very timely for me. I am dealing with this sort of thing right now and trying to work out in my head what I need and what is important to me. I have the feeling I will be watching this video over and over, especially in my moments of weakness! Thanks!

you are such a truthful person Nur. You gave me a really good insight on friendships. Thank you

I admire how eloquent and confident you are. I am working on getting rid of all the bad energy that surrounds me, and unfortunately my past friendships were the toxicity in my life. It was up to me to realize the damage and to end it, no matter how much my mother warned me. I agree with you 100%.

love it when you do these kinds of videos - you are a natural and persuasive communicator, i love how mature and positive your insights are :)

LOVED this video. Thanks for the advice and reminders about looking within first.

Thank you Nur, you have helped mensly these last few days, especially your confidence video, ive come out of my shell a little more and it feels good.

You're awesome. That's what you call effective communication. Thank you for posting this video!

Such a touchy subject, but I would say yes. I forgive more for family and trust more for family and I am fortunate to have family that I love, but I have seen and heard of situations where family can really bring people down. I'd say, just make sure it isn't teenage rebellion. 10 years ago family dynamics were very different with everyone being so young. Now, we're not perfect, but there is a mutual respect amongst us all. Another tough topic!

Your amazing and a phenomenal speaker. Your just so genuine, and its so awesome to see a woman that knows what she wants and is confident. I have alot to think about.

I seriously love your videos. They're beyond helpful.

Wow, Nur. This video is not only amazing advice, but corresponds directly to the situation I am going through with a friend. I have long felt annoyed and overwhelmed by needs of me, and while I tried to make my expectations clear, she never let up in terms of her demands. For the past two years I have wanted to do what I finally had the guts to do yesterday - tell her that I need space and that I feel too many obligations within the friendship. Today I finally feel free and happy. Thanks again!

Thank you so much for posting this video. I can relate to everything you mentioned darling. A year ago I had to cut quite a few people from my life. I've always felt guilty for doing so, despite the fact that I made incredibly new friends and nothing but positivity in my life. I always felt guilty for breaking the friendships, but after watching this video its starting to sink in that my decision was in fact the best for everyone. Thank you so much! I've watched your videos since day one!

Wow, the last part was really something I needed to hear. Thanks Nur, I will definitely take time to reflect about all of this, it's a difficult topic to think about.. but I'm sure it will benefit me mentally in the future. Thank you!

You are a wonderfully smart and genuine person! I thoroughly enjoyed your videos and hope to take your advice into my life and my work. Bravo! Can you do a full video on being kind and compassionate to others? I really think that is severely lacking between folks!

Such a great video!! I applaud you for your reasonable thinking, everything you said was honest and true to who you are as a person. I tell my daughters constantly about the "desperation syndrome" it's really sad to see someone trying to hold on with bleeding fingertips to something that just isn't meant to be.We've all been there that's why it's so important to learn from our mistakes and move on to people that are more suited to who we want to be as a person.Thanks so much for sharing

Great Video as always. I love the way you deliver your videos, it has been very helpful

That was really great Nur! You put everything into words what it has taken me 29 years to learn. I may not have a ton of friends, but at least the ones I have are quality people.

Your videos are gold! Please continue to make more. ♥️

This video could not have come at a better time for me, Nur! THANK YOU for keeping it real! :)

I just spent 2 days watching your videos and taking notes. You are amazing and should write a book ASAP

Thank you for this video, Nur. I am 21 and throughout the past year I have become a much more confident person and learned the hard way many of the lessons you have discussed in this video. Through a bad breakup, failed friendships, and difficult roommates, I feel like I have so much more wisdom in relationships now and in how to be confident and happy. Having standards is not only acceptable, it is ideal& Im so happy Ive figured that out. Your video really solidified things for me. Thank you :)

you are such a beautiful person, inside and out. your confidence video gave me a little push to emerge from my shyness, and now i can see that one friendship that i am trying to hold onto should really just be let go.

This was great advice and I needed it to hear it. Thank you! I would love another advice video about getting over a long term relationship.

6:42 into this video, my first on this channel, and I'm already subscribed. I'm so glad that my mom not only found you, but recommended this channel. :)

Nur, I'm so happy you're making videos more frequently! Love you!

Wow. Your story hit home, I did that to someone from my childhood, the choices she was making were making me sick. The vid touches on TOXIC friendships/relationships, its hard to stand idly by when someone you know so well continues to repeat the same pattern(s), trip, fall even bleed, and see no change. Thank God my friend is out of that funk, and more thankful that she's still here. I'm so very sorry for your sorrow and unanswered what if's.

By the way you choose your words, definitely shows how educated you are. In turn, your voice on what you have to speak of surely maintains viewers attention on your message. absolutely, one of your best videos that you have made so far in regards to the your thoughts and advice on subjects.

You've honestly inspired me so much through your videos

It's good to hear an opinion of someone who's deep but realistic, values herself, but isn't cocky and chooses not to feel pathetic in life. Your thoughts are very appreciated, Nur. And you're right it's always setting things straight to yourself first that's important, but also the most difficult step.

Yey! More vids from Nur bear! I'm loving it,and truly made my evening.

Your advice on friendship is so useful. Thank you so much 🥰

beauty with brains! you are the only beauty guru that i have seen so far who is actually SMART!

Writing down abt ur expectations in ur clear mind and don't let emotions bother you sometimes....I liked that. Wish someone told me when I was in my teens & early twenties. Love ur videos. I am glad I found your videos.

You have pretty much described my thoughts for 2012. I feel like I am coming to peace with who I am and what I need to do for myself to be happy. I tend to make lots of friends and only recently realized that I need to be more selective and get rid of the toxic ones. I really like this video...nice to see a beauty guru talking about other things beside make-up. Really shows us your personality. You just got yourself a new subscriber :)

Thank you for this video. I have been thinking about my friend choices the majority of my life and your video gave me great insight on the subject.

I love how you express yourself, great advise!

Another great video! Thanks Nur!

This was a really interesting and helpful video. I wish I'd seen it ten years ago before I went to secondary school (high school). But still, I think I can use what you have said here to help me, because when you said these people go in and out of your life - it's true. Thanks for the help. PS you are so well-spoken, you really speak beautifully and clearly, with a lot of sophistication.

Great video, having a much more passive demeanor previously, I agree it is important to be proactive. That's something I didn't really learn until my early twenties and has led me to have much more fulfilling friendships.

You're so well-spoken and smart i really look up to you!

COINCIDENCES. I was thinking about all of this just a few hours ago, as I sat with some friends who I was debating about cutting from my life. I feel like I've grown apart from them and as if they are negative and hold me back. I've always been wary of getting rid of people in my life because it's hard for me to make NEW friends but I feel like your video reaffirmed everything I've been debating. It's just the advice I needed. You're right--I need to control who's IN my life. You're awesome

you are a very intelligent and honest woman nur and i really appreciate these videos :)

Wow this is a awesome video, I could listen to you all day:) you totally are a inspiration

Thank you for making this video...some of the things u said really resonated with me & they were things I needed to hear :)

I love your advice type videos !

Definitely needed this tonight!

I love the way you speak, express your feelings and how you enunciate your words. So intelligent and confident, I'm 23 and I'm still in that in-confident stage, your personality is really magnetic and interesting, your my idol.

awesome video,as always super concise and rational - love your advice!

My parents tried to give me guidance too....had to learn the hard way, but the hard way sticks with you for life! Wish you the best! xo

wow... I have watched this 3 times in a row and am about to watch it again just to really soak up everything you say! Thankyou for making this video :)

What an amazing video. This truly inspires me. I have never really thought about MY expectations of other, I never had any. After this video I realize that I deserve to be friends with people who want to spend time with me and want to call me. With one particular friend, it feels as though I have to do the work in order for the friendship to work.

thank you for taking the time to do this video and give me a straight forward answer! You are awesome!

I love when you do these types of videos! They are so helpful. Thanks Nur ;)

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

4 minutes into this video and i am smiling. A couple years ago i cleaned house with a lot of toxic people in my life. It was very hard on my heart, but now i am so much happier as a person. I am super lucky to have the friends that i have and i realize now that the people i used to know were never truly my friends. :) You are such a great person, and i admire that you have taken the time to speak on things that people need advice on. Love ya Nur

you are so well spoken and logical and clear.

Really great video Nur. Plenty of food for thought. Thank you.

Gosh Nur, you inspire and motivate me in so many ways. You would make a great college professor :)

This was so great. It's just occurred to me lately that the reason I don't maintain friendships for long is that I'm attracting the wrong people who drag me down and don't contribute anything to my growth as a person. Everything you said confirmed everything I'd been thinking. Thank you so much!

Love your videos like this. I feel so one on one with u. You're an amazing wise woman and I legit took in everything you said. From this video AND your confidence video ! Thank u for sharing -3

The conclusion was awesome ! Thank you

wonderful video!!! I am going through so much in my life regarding friends and this was just perfect. But you made me realize one thing, I wasnt putting out the best energy and Im assuming thats why I have gotten screwed over by so many of my so called friends lately. But like you said, we can always look at ourselves and change what we want to. Cant dwell on the past or the bad negative things, just got to move on, appreciate what I do have, my hubby and my family and be happy. Lesson learned.

grr my situation is different. i only have a few friends and they are very dear to me, unfortunately the toxic people i have in my life are in fact some of my family members. as much as i love them its just gotten to the point where i cannot, i repeat CANNOT handle it anymore. ive been doing a lot of reading on how to keep calm in negative situations and it has helped a ton! watching this has given me the push to focus on what i need to get done before i can move out. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

I feel like I often fall into the situation where certain friends don't respect me. I mean I have one, who always looks to me as a last resort, but always asks for favours from me. When she does she's the nicest person ever. But then when I text her to hang out, or even to invite her to my birthday dinner(!!), I never get a reply.I realised she doesnt even want me as a friend at that point and was just using me. I do like spending time with her but as I said, I always feel like she clearly thinks she's better than me in some way. (Skinnier, prettier... whatever.) I know I have to cut her off to gain some form of self-respect back, but what do I do when I run into her (we are part of the same group). I definitely don't want to talk to her again and pretend like we're still friends, but I don't want to sit on my phone or shyly disappear either because why should I. I'm trying not to feel bitter, because I know people who act like this have shit come to them in other ways, so its fine. :) Do you have any tips to set the vibe of how you want others to treat you? (btw, people say I'm really kind hearted but I'm sick of people taking advantage of it.) I know you're probably not going to see this Nur, but if anyone else does I'd love to hear someone elses input.

@timeheals0097

10 жыл бұрын

Firstly, portray confidence through your body language. When you see someone making a bad remark or is shedding negativity towards you, bluntly ignore them or don't give them recognition. Show them that they can't treat you like dirt. Secondly, ask people for favours, if you are an important person in their life, they will do the favour, just like you have in the past. Moreover, don't let people take advantage of you, when you don't want to do something, learn to say "no". And if someone starts distancing themselves from you for this reason, then you know you were just as a tool in their life, so their not worth it. Make them realise that when they take kindness for granted, and they treat you like you're worthless (When you're not) What the consequences of that really are. Start making new friends as well, show that other people really like hanging out with you. I love how forgiving and sweet you are, I mean you're the least who deserves negativity in their life; I know what it's like when people take advantage of you. Just hang in there, never become bitter; just become independent, uber confident and love yourself no matter what. You're beautiful, i'm telling you! As for how to react to your friend, give her a vibe that something's off, you're uphappy with her about something, and later just give her hints when conversing "I really hate it when people take advantage of the kindness their given, people don't realise it really hurts; and sometimes I feel like I fit into that." Be honest with her without targeting her, just let her do the thinking. Hopefully her attitude will change. Okay, long reply sorry I could have condensed it, and I made some mistakes; but I hope some of this stuff will work when put into action. Goodluck! :)

@heathermca1351

10 жыл бұрын

this helps me thanks :D

@Rogvaiv7

7 жыл бұрын

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@maix139

6 жыл бұрын

I am the same, back then, but I have been weaving out toxic ones and meeting new ones. There are genuine people out there that cares about you as a person and are interesting individuals to know. They have taught me a lot about myself and about life experiences. Also do not have high expectations for others you will be disappointed. If they don't value your friendship, you do not need them.

@goddessvibes08

8 ай бұрын

She's nice because she wants something. Manipulation queen. Stay safe

Noor!!!!! I haven't seen you in soooooo long!!!!!! So good to see you!!!!

i love you nur!

Most "friends" only care about their own self-interest at the day, no matter how nice or understanding they may seem at first-that's something I learned the hard way.

you're like the older sister i never had :) great video nur! really needed to hear this advice.

Intelligent and beautiful! You deserve the best Nur!

The best video you've ever made. Great advice! Wow.

You have opened my eyes Nur x