If a surgeon is having a mental breakdown right before surgery, I would hope that surgeon would skip that operation and have another surgeon step in. I don’t want someone who isn’t completely there to operate on a person. It’s as simple as that.

@toluoladele873

2 жыл бұрын

This!!!!

@T.Harry79

2 жыл бұрын

There’s always that one short bus special with WiFi that will say that the surgeon should dig deeper and suck it up.

@niles1492

2 жыл бұрын

@@T.Harry79 Exactly they have no understanding the difference between "quitting" and "Substition"

@imangotit

2 жыл бұрын

This is a great analogy

@Y0mAmA84

2 жыл бұрын

Great analogy. The same people who would say that someone with mental issues should just dig deep to complete their task would not like a Surgeon that's having a mental breakdown working on them. A lot of people don't understand something until it affects them.

Man when Aba said how many people have died from a broken leg vs how many people have died from mental health, it hit home. I appreciate sensible people like Aba and Preach

@michaelgamble2848

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, I have depression amd I've had a broken leg. My leg's healed but I still look forward to the day I move on....

@berniepina860

2 жыл бұрын

Mental health is extremely important. You can't be your best version of yourself if your mental isn't right.

@okoromarvelous4986

2 жыл бұрын

nice one, this will be the new norm, most people I adore and admire have been going through alot but they stay strong and I am very happy about that, they've me to push on even in my weak times.

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

How many people can perform with a broken leg and how many people can perform through mental health issues

@michaelgamble2848

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 wouldn't that be subjective to the person and event?

14:29 "Don't sacrifice for people that will replace you within a week" I think more people need to hear this..

@ashleygreen1458

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💜💜💜🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

@airess1

2 жыл бұрын

I've lived by this for 20 years. I learned it the hard way

@YouKnowMeDuh

Жыл бұрын

Don't worry. They are hearing it. It's getting to be a pretty big topic on KZread right now, and it's to the point where big names, CEOS, and shit are responding with their own videos to try and convince people that they are important, irreplaceable, and other lies to keep you working in toxic environments.

@noone2706

Жыл бұрын

How do we figure out who those selfish people are?

I just got a 6 figure job a month ago and I immediately told my husband, who's been miserable at his job for months, that he can quit now. I've seen what this job is doing to my husband's mental health, and therefore to our family and this is NOT what I want for him, for us. I commend him, he's been patient, a great professional, he's held it together for so long. But enough is enough, I'll always have his back. I told him to go the next day and quit on the spot.

@Phoenixishot

2 жыл бұрын

High 5 frfr

@nazmulislam5217

2 жыл бұрын

When I get older I want a supportive relationship like yours. Hope everything is well for both

@NoName12344o

2 жыл бұрын

Hope he and your family is doing a little better today!

@AlphaEchoZulu

2 жыл бұрын

You a real one fr ❤️

@oz_jones

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the best.

“You will always be criticised by people who’re doing less than you.”

@harshgrub3181

2 жыл бұрын

Fking tell me about it.

@teachertx

2 жыл бұрын

So true!!!!!

@mr.freezypk9954

2 жыл бұрын

Or you get criticized for quitting and when the media gives you praise for quitting you accept it. You could just be a loser with justified criticism

@jetjet6560

2 жыл бұрын

Lmaoo all these people complaining, almost all conservatives, are so untalented it's actually comical!

@Sesshoumaru888

2 жыл бұрын

@@mr.freezypk9954 Define loser

This video isn't solely about PTSD & Soldiers. This is about our "GRIND THROUGH IT" attitude surrounding mental health issues in general. People are quick to label those alive today with depression or other issues as soft or quitters or cowards looking for a way out. Keep in mind that these kinds of phrases used to be used on veterans all the time. Depression... Self Deletion, Mental issues. They were always around, we just never talked about it and now that folks are people are just like "WHOA... WHERE IS THIS COMING FROM.. ALL THESE PEOPLE. THEY MUST BE FAKING". Yeah folks are faking it soo hard, thats why self deletions are reaching record highs. Just because you cant see it, doesnt mean they arent suffering from it. Im not asking you to believe it, you dont have to believe in something oyu dont see. BUT WHY ACTIVELY SHAME OR DISBELIEVE SOMETHING YOU HAVE NO INFORMATION ON. You could be injured and folks may not be able to see it including doctors, that doesnt lessen your physical hurt. You wouldnt want folks labeling you for pain that they cant see and this happens all the time. Lets be mindful that this is their body, their mind and if they say they are suffering only they really know so lets not make their situation potentially worse with callous words.

@lostinlore523

2 жыл бұрын

The same people calling soldiers with PTSD "quitters" are probably the first to claim all mass shooters have a mental illness. Just saying.

@Cee-G

2 жыл бұрын

That guy is a ignorant fool. You can't comprehend what he doesn't know, so he justifies it with his ignorance and lack of critical thinking or knowledge. Only, when he experience it then he would understand!

@DarkSabreMC

2 жыл бұрын

You know what I’m very happy and grateful that I read this at the start, it helps put you in a different mind set and allows you to broaden YOUR knowledge. Imma Read the comment From Aba and Preach at the start know instead of the beginning.

@sorina9130

2 жыл бұрын

The entire thing was because she was being praised as a hero for it instead of the people who kept going the spotlight was on her instead of the people competing is that fair? She was being called a hero no she is not it was disappointing she backed out but she is NOT a f ing hero all these people coming up with excuses for her saying stuff she never said originally which did NOT help its warranted criticism ps I was a paramedic for a few years I've seen some bad ish i worked through my problems through the proper channels I know not everyone is the same but elevating these types of people is wrong

@blakegillette839

2 жыл бұрын

I just want to say thank you for using your platform to speak on this issue. No matter the viewpoint on it, it just needs to be discussed openly. If we keep normalizing the conversation, us veterans and others suffering from PTSD can get the help they truly need and DESERVE. Just...thank you. Won't even entertain the gentleman stating they're "quitters." I want to focus on the fact that you guys have used a very large platform with tons of diverse viewers to shed light on a very serious subject.

Semi personal story. While I was in the military, a drinking buddy of mine was regaling us with his not so glorious stories of his 5 deployments. He had medals for each one. Then we got our deployment orders. He begged the NCO to put him on "rear D" (for non military types, that is rear defense where the person would stay back at base and not be taken to the combat areas). The NCO refused stating his expertise in the combat situation. He stated his mental health was too poor to go again. A couple days later, that same NCO told him that the first Sargeant denied the his request saying, "if he stayed behind he would be a 'quiter'". He stabbed his NCO with a combat knife. The guy and the NCO had drinks the night before our orders came in. They were close and he was willing to sacrifice his military career, his friendship with this guy, and his freedom all to not go. His mental health was really Shakey and noone would listen. the NCO was treated and recovered, and he was court martialed but he got off of the charges because the (still injured) NCO he stabbed was a character witness for him. He did get discharged based on mental stability but he couldn't function in society. He took his own life 2 years after discharge. I have seen mental health being taken for granted in many circumstances, but it hurts me to think of him still to this day even though that was in 2005.

@sendmorerum8241

2 жыл бұрын

This story must be seen by more people.

@fruitsknack6948

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this story. Thank you.

@odizza1688

2 жыл бұрын

Damn

@stetfhoneshields6862

2 жыл бұрын

I am a retired Corpsman(8404) 21 years I saw the same kind of things, this is par for the course in the Military. It's not that they don't care ( they don't) but we are just tools products to use and if we break so be it. I can go over to NHSD across the street to the park and find some of my old shipmates mentally, physically and almost always emotionally broken. The military definitely takes mental health for granted they rather kick you out that treat it, sometimes for obvious reason and sometimes for not so obvious reasons.

@bethsaytomvarughese8839

2 жыл бұрын

Damn

Simone was passing a kidney stone while she was competing in World competition. People have been making child abuse jokes at her expense. All they care about is her being a source of entertainment that they can profit from.

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to a capitalism based world.

@BaebaeW

2 жыл бұрын

Greed ruins this planet, they didn’t get any F’s what she was going through.

@anthonyfletcher8053

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 is their a better option?

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

@@anthonyfletcher8053 the word you are looking for is there; and yes there is always a better option, but I have to ask you wtf are you even getting at???

@anthonyfletcher8053

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 ah yes! Thank you for the correction. People wouldn’t have understood my question otherwise 😁 My point is people, as of recently, have been unwarrantedly bashing capitalism like crazy but offer no solutions. My question is literal.. is their... sorry there a better option..?

As an Afghan Vet, there are many different reasons people can get PTSD. An Engineer in the bombsquad may need to go defuse an IED (fuck that noise) after watching his best mate get blown to pieces days before. Then has nightmares every night for the rest of his life. I dont imagine most western civilians to understand but when you talk shit about PTSD it shows that you probably dont understand how life can be very hard. Especially for Afghan civilians that go through it everyday. Peace A&P.

@lovinmclovin5290

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah that's real PTSD, not gymnastics 😳 the fact that ABA compares a girl with ADHD with PTSD shows me Aba is the idiot

@pauljohnagustin237

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovinmclovin5290 as if getting sexually assaulted is not horrifying enough 😏

@beanieweanie535

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovinmclovin5290 you’re a goof cuz he wasn’t comparing the two, he was using it as an example of how mental health could be even more dangerous when not taken seriously especially if you’re job requires you to put your life on the line along with others

@rogerfurlong1535

2 жыл бұрын

The fact that 'triggered' has been co-opted by a bunch of unemployable professional victims who cry if the wind blows due east has made this problem 1000X worse.

@niwreyentihw1496

2 жыл бұрын

I have PTSD, but not from being in the military. However, I've been through some pretty traumatic stuff. I've been diagnosed with it by professionals . It's not fun having this and it's shitty when people don't understand.

Irony: He started showing clear signs of stress near the end and then he left the call. By his own standards he's a quitter.

@nickb6425

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. He coulda said no. He coulda not taken the call. But yea what a quitter

@absolute3112

2 жыл бұрын

LOL 😆 thought I was only one who noticed that.

@Jo-zi5px

2 жыл бұрын

😂

@Subllama

2 жыл бұрын

yup his leg wasnt broken

@P-XIII

2 жыл бұрын

and it didn't take a lot for him to quit either.

Gymnasts are out there doing crazy feats that could easily kill them if they land wrong. You have GOT to have your head in the game for that. Good on her for recognizing it.

Being a kid from an immigrant mother, some people don't understand how hard it was to try and actually open up and tell them things we were dealing with. I tried telling my mother I was dealing with depression in my 20's. She told me I was imagining it and needed God. I tried taking my life while dealing with it. I overcame it, but damn when there are people who think people dealing with mental health is fake, it triggers me.

@bbbbbbb51

Жыл бұрын

Just wanna say, I'm a white boy & had an identical experience with my own parents, but I was still a minor. They told me how I felt wasn't true. I know mental health is talked about more in white countries, but that doesn't mean the people & culture have really moved up to match it. It's about to be 10 years since I first told them that, & I'm about to try and tell them again.

@margiegarza9539

Жыл бұрын

@B well I hope you get someone to listen to you. If not, there are resources and people who will listen. Sending positive thoughts ✨️

@jrmckim

Жыл бұрын

My mom's grandparents came from Germany in the 1940s when ww2 was going strong. My mom told me she often tried to talk to her mom but the German way of suck it up was embedded in her. It's good to see that your parents way of dealing with depression didn't trickle down to you.

@jrmckim

Жыл бұрын

Praying for both of you. There's always a better day... don't let anyone take that from you..

I've seen "quitter" used to manipulate people into staying in abusive relationships. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is quit and walk away. That takes courage. And the right thing to do is to set boundaries and sometimes that means saying no, quitting and walking away.

@liliarosales1961

2 жыл бұрын

100% agree with you.

@imanigordon6803

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@cubingspeed6933

2 жыл бұрын

[I've heard it joked that AA is for quitters! But in all seriousness, introspection and brutal self-honesty is why most seek escapism. Accountability and responsibility is the result of a person with real love for others, and themselves. Toxic knows no gender, and exiting stage left is self-care!✌🏼💊]

@welikelethabo

2 жыл бұрын

100% agree

@tashboog

2 жыл бұрын

True sometimes.

In the case of the black community, it's not even just always feeling the need to be strong. It's being indoctrinated into certain beliefs such as, "black people don't go to therapy, they go to church." I remember spouting that nonsense in my teenage years...that's beyond damaging. I have no problem with religion, and I believe in God but sometimes religion mixed with untreated mental issues can do more harm than good.

@marlonthomas8042

2 жыл бұрын

If you’re hearing voices you’re schizophrenic If you label that voice god, you’re a prophet It’s not surprising the church or other organised religions can mask a lot of this stuff

@jayoutram8460

2 жыл бұрын

@@marlonthomas8042 actually alot of the time it's not actual voices, rather signs or signals often seen by those that want to see and or "hear" it. It's an extremely dangerous mentality and doctrine to act as if those that claim they feel or see or hear what they are technically forcing a feeling they're pushing so hard to feel as if they are crazy. It doesn't necessarily make them crazy for believing what they believe in, especially when majority of people use that as an escape. Just as people imagine they're on vacation "feeling" what they're thinking of like the sun, or the beach, people feel their own happiness and or escapes.

@cyndirankin

2 жыл бұрын

IMO, church CAN help ppl, BUT mental health is important. Don't you think God made man see how these ppl are suffering and provided ppl who can help them? I like to believe God provides a way for us to better ourselves and to care for others. If Jonas Salk had not been born would we have the polio vaccine? Sorry, I have a strange way of thinking.

@NoMetsNoNetsNoJets

2 жыл бұрын

This is not just a “black community” thing. To suggest that only black ppl have a lack of empathy and understanding when it comes to mental health, is absolutely ignorant. There were plenty of white ppl who dismissed Simone Biles. Stop spreading these stereotypes that are based on anecdotal experiences.

@hoodiemelomelodontmissstay3771

2 жыл бұрын

@@NoMetsNoNetsNoJets She didn’t say it was just a black community thing my guy.🤦🏾”In the case of the black community” is what she said. It’s a difference.

Simone doesn't owe anything to anyone. She's proven she's the best and backing out doesn't make her any less of a champion. Gymnastics is easily one of the most dangerous sports out there. You're flying through the air upside down and one mis step you could easily snap your neck and end your life. I don't blame her at all for not participating. She's earned her gold. It pisses me off when people who've never played a sport let alone gymnastics or have gone through the same amount of pressure someone like Simone has gone through say she's a quitter.

If you’re a gymnast and you are suffering from mental health issues, you have no business competing , not because it hurts the team but because you don’t want to end up with a broken neck and live the rest of your life in a chair or worse. She did the right thing. Kudos to her.

@HasanPikerIsADouche

Жыл бұрын

Still returned to her solo competition the next day... she's a quitter

I had a teacher who told me when her brother came back from Vietnam. Whenever he enters a room and hear typewriters clicking. It reminded him of machine gun fire. He will proceed to jump behind a couch and ask everyone in the room to get cover. The same when on bin day when he heard metal bins clang . It will remind him of artillery setting off. Poor soul . War changes people immensely. Soldiers are humans. This was in Australia

@phoenixjones7191

2 жыл бұрын

My friend's father can't listen to trucks because it reminds of him instantly of humvees in Afghanistan. He just starts shaking and trying to leave immediately. He had to move out of the country to get away from it.

@usopyeh2340

2 жыл бұрын

@@phoenixjones7191 I'm sorry to hear. Veterans all deserve a special place in heaven for all the trauma and shit they've been through

@shootingbricks8554

2 жыл бұрын

Aussies took on very dangerous missions in Vietnam. I feel that Australian troops have not been credited for their fight in Vietnam.

@CremeCheesus

2 жыл бұрын

@@shootingbricks8554 Do the Anzacs often get credited for any of their efforts?

@donovanlocust1106

2 жыл бұрын

I didn't know Australians were involved in Vietnam. I'm an American so I always think it was pretty much us that did the major stuff.

"These low IQ people, making all these loud comments about stuff they have no concept about." EXACTLY!

Honestly listening to the other guys opinion on mental health issues made me cry. I felt so invalidated. A lot of us didn't know what we would experience over there. I've lost way to many of my brothers from the military to their demons because of the negative stereotype given. As infantrymen we were told to always put the mission first and that turned a lot of us into robots.( We lost 11 guys on deployment. Never forgotten and always missed) Now 10 years down the line I'm trying to tackle my own demons and it's so so hard. Thank you guys so much for standing up and shining a light on mental health.

I’m glad that I’ve found this video. I was sixteen when I left my home country by myself to come to Canada. Nothing went according to plan and I found myself alone and fighting to survive. New country, new culture, new language. Working full time, going to school full time. No friends and away from all my family. After i got through high school and was mid Cégep, I was waiting for the metro at Montmorency station when I found myself calculating where I should place myself to guarantee an instant death if I decided to jump in front the metro car. I got so frightened that I went back to the Cégep and asked to see a psychologist as soon as possible. I’m glad to this day that I didn’t shy away from asking for help.

Army vet here. Whoever says that, has no comprehension of what war is...war is hell. 😐

@Harz42

2 жыл бұрын

Hooah brother!!

@phoenixjones7191

2 жыл бұрын

I literally know a dude who went to a psych ward for telling somebody he tried to kill himself. A single fucking week later he shot himself on gun watch because nobody believed him.

@chelseae.6779

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your service man! We glorify war too much these days but no one should have to go through that. The sacrifices that alot of people made should be the reason why.

@Rieky22

2 жыл бұрын

Like Mike Tyson said “Social media got ppl comfortable without getting punched in the face.”

@captpanthergrenzent2963

2 жыл бұрын

Until someone has been behind that line brotha in the red zone they won’t understand it. The military is a factory. They don’t give a damn about the soldiers, just some ibuprofen 800 and they send you back out there. Now I can say this shorty should have said before even stepping out there that I’m not G2G coach. Don’t put me in the game. I can’t go into the RZ in the middle of theater and say nah I’m good. At that point your SL might call you a traitor. Mental health is real, so gotta get the help before it’s too late

The brain is the most important organ in our bodies. Therefore, PTSD is far more of an injury than ANYTHING else 💯

@scottedwards1209

2 жыл бұрын

Minus massive internal bleeding etc.

@sk8lv868

2 жыл бұрын

Type of shit that keep or mind spirit and emotions crippled

@onashenwings3850

2 жыл бұрын

@@scottedwards1209 Massive Internal Bledding of the Brain is worse than any other organ

@MichaelJohnson-wd1le

2 жыл бұрын

@@onashenwings3850 that's not ptsd though...

@jakethegreatest473

2 жыл бұрын

@@scottedwards1209 the body in many cases is easier to fix than the mind

I tried to self-delete this last week. I drank a lot and took 56 25mg phenobarbital pills and ended up in the hospital and in the psych ward for 3 days. Self-delete is NO JOKE. Please don't resort to it. There's always something to live for. Me, personally, I have my dogs and family. I fucked up and now I know I'm never going to try to do that to myself again. Please try to keep your mental health well.

@glittermob9155

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your pain. I pray for God to put caring, loving people around you to support you

@nontsikelelolanga5729

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you still alive.❤️

@bubba_banks

Жыл бұрын

@@thesharinganknight9859 you’re absolutely disgusting

@wontonschannel

Жыл бұрын

Glad you're still with us

@jrmckim

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry

It’s also important to recognize “Superwoman” syndrome that Black women are pressured to keep up with from Society. You see it in medicine with practitioners not acknowledging BW’s pain and think they are exaggerating or feel less pain than anyone else. You see it in always thinking that BW can push through pain, stress etc and should because it is what is expected of a “Strong Black woman”. You can take care of everything everyone etc.

@prtdiva

2 жыл бұрын

Such a great point! 💯

@PrettyPrincess2614

2 жыл бұрын

As a Black woman I hate this assumption. We cry, feel pain, and go through struggles just like anyone else. Let Black girls and women be soft and vulnerable in life, we can't be strong 24/7 otherwise we'll crumble.

@terrim.9002

2 жыл бұрын

@@UmightBwrong i recognize your opinion. As i stated i am not speaking on the pressures of BW AND BM. Only the women. My statement was an additional pressure BW feel from society along with our culture not emphasizing mental health issues and care, hell tbh any MEDICAL CARE because of WARRANTED MISTRUST, let alone the lack of luxury. Preach already made that point about the historical context; i am speaking on another pressure. A pressure where in historically broken homes from slavery and systemic imprisonment BW make a way out of no way, and it is celebrated/ accepted. But they are not giving time to grieve or be lax etc, because they should be able to work 3jobs and take care of 6 kids and go to school as an example. It is seen when medical professionals ignore BW pain seeing it as exaggeration, and historically in how BW were experimented on without anesthesia because they were “stronger” and felt less. It is real. It is from “SOCIETY”/our culture (by definition society means any ordered community)as well. In fact a lot of mental health issues are derived from people trying to withstand the pressure of society and keep up with the thinking of the masses or becoming a victim for following suit. So let’s not foolishly disregard that. BW and BM have different struggles although from the same root. For Simone as a BW, my experience as a BW and I’m sure she has felt the same “Superwoman” Pressure from others and herself at times. And it shouldn’t be ignored because of more accepted answer of BPpl just don’t do mental health because of the past. There are many folds and aspects to this issue.

@seg162

2 жыл бұрын

@@terrim.9002 "historically broken homes from slavery and systematic imprisonment" How do black homes fall apart precipitously only from the 1960s onwards, alongside (but in greater measures than) every other demographic?

@maxgucciardi4507

11 ай бұрын

​@seg162 crack was being pushed into black neighborhoods. Interesting when you look into what groups were working with the cartel and profiting off the drug trade.

She’s an olympian who’s has worked her whole young life and sacrificed to be an olympian. I don’t get why people think it’s healthy to work ourselves to death! Sometimes it’s time to tap out and heal.

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it’s just what you have to do to survive. Everyone doesn’t have the luxury to cry mental health. You’d better fix it before you show up to work, push through, or you can find another job that cares but probably pays less

@doris2079

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 Nobody is saying to not work hard or don't make sacrifice to survive or reach your goals. But we need to learn when to take a break to reset the pressure. You won't be able to enjoy these hard work and sacrifices if you are dead or unable to function properly. Ex: When lifting weight, we do a set, take a break then come back to it. We don't do reps until our body is injured. We listen to the signals our body send us and act accordingly. We should apply the same logic to our brain/mental health.

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

@@doris2079 yes and it is solely your responsibility to handle your problems and assess your situations before throwing yourself into something

@shayla106

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 Still sounds like your projecting.

@vihansubramaniam3593

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tjm416 Exactly, thats literally what everyone is fucking saying. If you aren't mentally fit, you can't ignore it, you must find a way to fix it.

Talking about the Olympics, it is sad that this man cares more about the "country's image" than the individual athletes that represent the country.

@Mosaic-xerox

2 жыл бұрын

And at the end of the day, the country doesnt care

@Naistov

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mosaic-xerox At all! Not for the little ppl and not for the ppl that literally serve. Smh.

@Jack_Arbor

2 жыл бұрын

The athletes know what they agree to do. They are there to represent the absolute best a country has to offer- not for themselves.

@Tjm416

2 жыл бұрын

And vice versa

@Mosaic-xerox

2 жыл бұрын

@@Jack_Arbor why dont you become one and show us how it's done?

This upset me so much. I have an incredibly close friend who's been dispatched overseas in the military, and she's struggling with the mental after all this time. I told her to get discharged but she didn't like the idea of being discharged over mental health. She won't put her health and wellbeing first and the exact reason is because of people like this and it enrages me because she's so important to me but I'm powerless to do anything.

@DaiNoShoujoNoYami

2 жыл бұрын

You and your friend are in my prayers.

@MakiseRumi

2 жыл бұрын

@@DaiNoShoujoNoYami ty

These people say “but they still came back”. That right there is the problem. They’re viewing ‘coming back’ as a default positive. As Aba said - yeah, Durant came back… and blew out his Achilles! *HE SHOULDN’T HAVE COME BACK! THAT WAS THE WRONG DECISION.*

He fails to understand that mental health is just as important as physical health… sad times

@JYGtube

2 жыл бұрын

If anything, it's more important

@dubbyu4286

2 жыл бұрын

He's ignorant

This man really triggers me, BRUH!!, as a British Soldier myself this is a serious topic, 1 year ago we had a Soldier shoot himself after finishing his guard duty, went straight in to the shower room and took himself out. We don't know why he chose to do that, sad.

@crazycjk

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, thanks for all you do 🇬🇧 a lot of people appreciate you and your colleagues

@hwk_art2k23

2 жыл бұрын

Bruh.... The worst part must've been that nobody knew he was down bad before he decided to leave the way he did

@marlonthomas8042

2 жыл бұрын

Do you find that the gallows humour that soldiers have can mask a lot of these issues? Like “if I get one more of these duties I’m gonna off myself” or “if I have one more squaddie get shit I might as well do myself” So because people say this it’s never taken seriously because it’s equivalent to “if you serve me one more warm beer I’m killing everyone” but if you were an accountant with firearms licences and said that people would intervene?

@nituraa8147

2 жыл бұрын

One of the most common causes of death for men in this country is suicide and its def a lot higher for those in service, you go through so much like :/

@TheMurray1922

2 жыл бұрын

It's terrible :(

Probably my favorite video from Aba and Preach as of yet. Thanks for this Aba and Preach - I felt like my feelings were validated. This means a lot for people like me who can’t help but be hard on themselves - we wish weren’t and it’s easier said than done.

I still remember my parents telling me that I'm not depressed, that I need to man up and keep pushing forward....

@2kjstewart

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad you continued pushing forward I hope you got the help you needed

As a Marine Corps vet with PTSD I’m really glad there are people like you two gentlemen speaking about these very real disabilities.

@wiz369

2 жыл бұрын

I can tell the guy in the video don’t meet and converse with people on the daily

My sister cofounded the Friendship force years ago with her friend. As time went on, new management came in and started bringing up new ways of completing tasks and brought electronics and computers into the mix of things. My sister was ousted by a vote of her peers and lost everything. For years, she struggled with finding something else to do with her life….it was all she knew. She would give you the shirt off her back and always had a smile. Always kept herself up and was beautiful. In 2002, she gave away all her belongings to the poor, sold her house and gave the money to charity. She went to church one last time to ask for forgiveness…..got a call one day while I was in school. She put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger. Never knew she was sad, never knew her inner struggles because she “looked” happy. Point is, you never know what struggles someone is going through on the inside because they hide it so well on the outside

@abigailelizabeth4729

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss my friend 😞 it is a horrible thing to experience. I lost my sister the same way. Except the back story is different. Losing a sibling is like losing a huge part of yourself as well. I’ll pray for you and your sister. God bless!

@camwil1934

2 жыл бұрын

My condolences to you sir. It was hard to read this, so I can only imagine what you and your family went through.

@nyny1042

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my not the news you want too hear! Your sister started a successful foundation she did great things while she was and that needs too be acknowledged and not skipped over. If only.... Prayers too you and your family And your sister legendary accomplishments. 💜🌷🙏💎

@nyny1042

2 жыл бұрын

If I may ask did anyone in the family start another foundation.

@captainfuture2882

2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry for your loss.

Very true. Some people just want people with mental disorders or disabilities to constantly look "disabled" and if you don't, you're fine. I had to leave a job years ago due to a PTSD relapse and it was really hard to come to that decision, but I was getting memory lapses and I knew I could slip up and someone could get hurt due to my lapses. I wouldn't call myself or anyone in a position like that "a quitter". I never heard about mental illness being ignored or hidden in black American communities (I'm a white Aussie), but that's terrible. I hope people talk about it more and things get better. That feeling of shame when you try to hide this stuff but people start to notice something is "off" about you is terrible.

Thank you for this. I ended a friendship because he called me a bitch and couldn’t understand that I have PTSD getting out the military and having psychological and psychological affects that are beyond my control. You can’t control your body’s reaction to trauma.

I think he was confused on the difference between quitting and a quitter, I feel calling someone a quitter is a characteristic trait that carries on about a person. It’s obvious if you leave something you “quit” because by definition that means “to leave” but to assassinate someone’s whole character over a singular event is unfair, if Simone was a “quitter” she would’ve never made it this far If a soldier was a “quitter” he wouldn’t make it past basic training but hey these just my initial thoughts let’s tune into this great content📈🔥

@pheonic3665

2 жыл бұрын

It's a she (for some reason i see people being mad at my comment)

@ThePartmentz

2 жыл бұрын

@@pheonic3665 huh? The person in the video is a female?

@reinaldomartinez13

2 жыл бұрын

@@pheonic3665 what is you talking about?

@ThePartmentz

2 жыл бұрын

@@reinaldomartinez13 I’m so confused bro😭😭😭

@HaissamMouard

2 жыл бұрын

@@ThePartmentz i think they were talking about the soldier

Sometimes when people say “we live in a sensitive society now” I do agree because a lot of people are abusing that fact. However, we are now in a better time and place in the world where many issues can be talked about now, instead of swept under the rug. Do we need a better balance ? Absolutely. Should we treat everyone as quitters or crybabies when they put themselves first ? No.

@ChristopherCricketWallace

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@neilpapermodels

2 жыл бұрын

Facts

@ryanjones3163

2 жыл бұрын

Say sum’n Chel!!!

@kush7138

2 жыл бұрын

Better time and place yet cops are still being bullies killing innocent ppl while bootlickers think nothing of it.

@destroyerarmor2846

2 жыл бұрын

These people are cowards, if the world collapses and education and economic systems fail it's back to the stone age

People literally forgetting that a gymnast unable to function can snap their neck if they mess up one of those incredible flip-a-things

As my dad is a Desert Storm Veteran , I find it very triggering to hear him say people with trauma (mostly mentally) are cowards for giving up. My father was very strong and was in the army for 25 years and now thankfully he's getting help. People like this are very ignorant and forget mental problems are a very real thing. It's not a little thing people choose to do to gain sympathy especially considering certain circumstances. edit: my dad is 100% mentally disabled due to his PTSD and takes alot of meds to cope with his issues. it doesnt make him weak for getting help. it's more honorable of a soldier to leave the military due to their trauma and deeper issues than to risk others' lives and theirs.

When the mind isn't functioning properly the body doesn't function properly. Simone Biles literally had an episode midair. If she were a lesser athlete she would've probably ended up landing incorrectly and been taken out on a stretcher. If a soldier has mental issues that soldier will be a liability to themself and their fellow soldiers. You can't discount someone's health because something isn't apparent.

@phoebe6533

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like since people always label her as the “perfect gymnast” she can’t ever mess up, which is not true. She’s still human, she will make mistakes like the rest of us. I just think people tend to forget that since we put her on top of this pedestal (I’m not saying she doesn’t deserve that title)

Your brain is the most important organ in the human body. It literally tells your body what to do. Simone Biles is literally using her brain to tell her body to defy gravity so many ways with technique and minute calculations. If something goes wrong it can lead to serious injuries. Shes not a quiter shes actually brilliant.

@eldiboblo923

2 жыл бұрын

Nah, she's a quitter. She could have decided that before she got to Japan, before she was not just quitting for herself, but for her team as well. All the people she could have been inspiration for. Think the Miracle on Ice folks were in perfect mental standing that whole time? Plus, as a person who was an athlete and did and still do deal with many mental health issues, up to and including PTSD. Quitting is the absolute worst thing you could do for yourself in about 99/100 situations People do that stuff and they go into the comfortable little hole of safety. The next time the choice is there to have to try and get through something or just quit. The quitting is that much easier. Until you're not even trying anymore. Because why? Then stay there until they figure out how to find some help and pull THEMSELVES out of it. Or not. The Military PTSD example they used I think is a horrible analogy. It's not the same at all. That's talking about a person trained to be ready to kill at the drop of a hat, put in a place where they could be killed. Having to actually kill someone...that's a much different situation. And being discharged isn't quitting. I think better would be someone at work starting a project with some people, doing most of it, getting to the very end and then saying, "You know, I actually can't do this. Good luck." and bouncing

@proleaguer9535

2 жыл бұрын

@@eldiboblo923 well u take her shoes ok go win a medal for your country then get ur self ready for the next olympics and get out there win a medal .........................................................................................................................oh wait u will never even attempt it because ur too soft and u know u will fail before you even try

@omnium_gatherum

2 жыл бұрын

When he said "her mind wasn't hurt, it's a physical sport" I thought of just this. Literally everything physical is connected to the brain and the mind.

@TheDesciple30

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@SEvelynJackson

2 жыл бұрын

👆👆👆👆 EXACTLY!!!!!! People act like the brain doesn’t have a significant role in the different athletic performances her body does. If the brain isn’t right you CANNOT perform.

If I'm in a war zone with the military, I don't want the guy who is meant to have my back to have mental health issues. Best thing he can do is remove himself. He can still hold his head up.

Mental health is SO IMPORTANT! Thank you for making this video. We need to treat all areas of illness.

I was in a job for 2 months, I was alienated, had multiple mental breakdowns, was verbally abused. I decided to leave, and instead of respecting my decision, I was gaslighted. Always choose yourself and your wellbeing over anything anyone says. Doesn’t make you a quitter, it makes you human.

@josezamora1639

2 жыл бұрын

Had a similar experience and I coping on recovery

"Her mind wasn't hurt" - That's gaslighting as well. Whoever this guy is, he's so ignorant. Watch out for people who deny your and others' experience. Just stay away from them. Also, quitting is not always a bad thing. Thanks for talking on this Aba and Preach!

@gamermc616

2 жыл бұрын

i think he himself is a 'quitter' in his terms. He is just unexperienced and insecure.

@Awaken_To_0

2 жыл бұрын

How is he "gaslighting" and not just disagreeing or being wrong? This appropriation of psyche and abuse language to apply to any and all situations is pretty inappropriate IMO.

@absolutebackfire191

2 жыл бұрын

Thats not really gaslighting

@jazminebianca437

2 жыл бұрын

@@absolutebackfire191 Refer to my response to o o

@absolutebackfire191

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazminebianca437 i dont see any

This video is important. I appreciate the breakdown y’all did. This was needed! As an army vet to another thank you abba. And preach you’re awesome and being just as supportive if not more. People need to know ptsd doesn’t just stop with vets, anybody can be a victim of this mindset.

My mom is that kind of Christian who believes that God and the power of prayer will fix everything, yet she does very little to nothing herself to fix a situation. Now as an almost 30 year old man I realize that a lot of my anger comes from her and that mentality.

@ravenwhiteduck6460

Жыл бұрын

Got about the same advice just replace god with astrology

Preach said “don’t sacrifice for people who can replace you” ouh that hit

@qcarter396

2 жыл бұрын

Same here.

This may sound super vague, but it's for the sake of my anonymity: I've never been a veteran, done sports professionally, or anything like that, but I have been pushed to my limits due to everyday life. After being under so much stress and breaking down every couple months or so because I just couldn't stand the pressure that I had in literally every part of my life. Depressed. Stressed. Burnt out. Anxious. Thinking about things again and again, almost constantly for months on end until the next big issue pops up to occupy my mind nonstop. Absolute misery. I took a long vacation from my job not because of how I felt, but because something else that I had to focus on in school that required a lot more time. I spent months with that job still on my mind, and then after I quit, I still thought about it. I was stressed out by a job that I hadn't been to in MONTHS. Eventually it was down to stressing over just school and family and it was still too much. Less family, less school, still stressed. Being drained for years at a time took more of a toll than I expected. I spent YEARS prioritizing everyone else's wellbeing and happiness over my own. What do I have now? Not much. Not enough. I got another job about 8 months after I had been away from my other one, and when I say my drive to do anything was abysmally low... Had the job for 2 months then quit because of "school". I used to be such a reliable worker, the person who goes above and beyond, and now I am just a "bum", if I were to state how I've felt about myself for a long while now. I'm at the point where I need to apply for a job soon and I don't even want to start the search. Don't want to update my resume. Don't want to find anything that requires that I use a lot of brain power, and definitely not something that uses my degree (computer science) in favor of just any old shit that will allow me to work from home and make decent -- if I can even get to the stage where I get my mind together enough to actually get up and go to work. It was very difficult for the last job. Oh yeah, and school! It's total bullshit that I'm just tryna scrape by. Beyond burnt out in every part of my life, but no one around me knows. They couldn't help me in a positive way if they tried, because in a way, they encouraged me to get to the point that I am now without stopping to take the time to ask whether I was really doing OK. It's funny that you say that some of these people ain't bred for hard times. Even those of us who are ain't built to do this shit forever. It breaks both the soul and the body, decreases our overall health, and lowers our life expectancy. The dudes like the one who claimed we're quitters need to stfu. He doesn't have an ounce of empathy or emotional intelligence in his body.

I liked the viewpoint you made on different kinds of struggles. It hadn't clicked until then how the struggles now aren't as materialistic but more existentialist. Made me have more compassion for mental struggles. It's still my default to think that because it's mental you can push trough it more so than a physical issue but I'm starting to see that as with playing with a broken leg can cause more harm in the long run. Continuing with a "broken" brain can too. Also just to add to the conversation, it's not because you don't deal with something that it doesn't exist.

My mental health got so bad that I quit my job of 8 years. Best decision ever. I didn’t want to be that quitter. But I also didn’t want to suffer anymore. I took time for myself and am working on feeing better. Mental health is very important, never let anyone tell you it isn’t. Take care of yourselves ❤️

@Naistov

2 жыл бұрын

Proud of you stranger ❤

@quaesitorverum7579

2 жыл бұрын

Better to quit a job than quit life

@adityakrishnan6600

2 жыл бұрын

Good job my friend!!

@kittencatperson

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to this. Ive been a ballet dancer for three years but right now I’m taking a long break because I was battling with depression and suicidal thoughts years prior. At first I didn’t want to because my parents didn’t believe that I was depressed but I got to the point where I didn’t care because I knew one day I was gonna hurt myself. If you need help you deserve to get it 😊

@henryreichstine3699

2 жыл бұрын

Quitting on things that aren't you isn't a "quitters" mentality. You "quit" on yourself for 8 years. You owe nothing to anything external of yourself. If it doesn't serve you get rid of it. Aside from obvious selective situations you should be living and building for your self.

Same with concussions in sports. I’ve had 4 diagnosed concussions but probably 6-7 in total from playing women’s soccer. You can’t see the concussion so people think you’re fine when you’re mentally foggy, hyper-emotional, nauseous, sometimes you develop depression. I had a really bad experience with my college assistant coach because of this. It’s a real problem and when people deny your reality it can make you feel even worse.

@deathrager2404

2 жыл бұрын

oh poor you. man the fuck up girl. equality.

@LoneStonePro

2 жыл бұрын

“When people deny your reality, it can make you feel worse.” That shit hit different. It resonated with me, for real. 💯 When you’re really goin through shit that people don’t understand & they tell you to just “get over it.”? Shit would piss me off, cause it’s like they tryna downplay your mental health. I hope you’re healing from it. Concussions are serious.

@JohnGalt916

2 жыл бұрын

Then when you kill your family from CTE. You get labeled a monster

@JohnGalt916

2 жыл бұрын

@@deathrager2404 I'm not sure if you're a troll or just stupid. Why do you think people with CTE kill their wives and beat their kids? 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

@deathrager2404

2 жыл бұрын

@@JohnGalt916 stop being a pussy and man the fuck up. ya wanted equality right? wellwhen this happens to a man what do people say: man the fuck up. so equality = man the fuck up stop being a pussy. cant handle the heat? get the fuck outta the kitchen.

As a veteran myself, I’ve realized mental health is real. Before the military I thought people had to stop being mentally weak when that’s not the case. Trauma and constant exposure to a dangerous/toxic environment will fuck your mental state.

In this day and age, people owning up to and seeking help for mental health conditions are not quitters. Not enough people are doing enough to make sure they're well and it's causing a whole slew of problems that we're having to deal with as a society. That's a vulnerability they are making known to everyone and it's not an easy thing to do. And someone who can help bring light to this series issue are heroes to an extent.

I have a older friend who was in military. He's been out for two decades and still HAS shell-shock. During 4th of July celebrations he takes a few days off from work, because loud explosions would trigger him? He still hasn't gotten over being shot at or having bombs blow off by his head. He has a greater problems with loud noises to this day.

@jaybee8862

2 жыл бұрын

There's a vet who lives across the street from me... we've both talked about our PTSD, I never served, but I still have mine from growing up and dealing with things in my past... Idk how many times I've been talking to him out on the lawn and a truck passing on the highway backfires or a firework goes off and he does a front tumble straight into his hedges... I know he's going through shit, but after we always get a good laugh out of it lmao

@Himawariyoung

2 жыл бұрын

@@jaybee8862 so sad. I’m glad you have each other.

I had a mental break while serving 5 years in the usaf, requested a discharge after almost putting someone's newborn child at risk after a misjudged call over their allergy test because of the stress I've tried to ignore with working. I get called a quitter and a disgrace for making the decision to not put other's lives at risk over my own inability to focus properly in the laboratory. You can say whatever you want, but rarely will someone choose to think over judging, it's the easier decision for most

@marshydinky20

2 жыл бұрын

Aye good on you for knowing when enough is enough. Putting others well-being ahead of what peers may think. I’m SF or “SecFo” as yall call us, and we’ve had too many members just push through and keep pushing without getting help and it leads to them taking their own lives.

I appreciate you guys more and more every video. I just had this exact conversation with one of my coworkers. She always busts her ass and had a ton of health problems. I told her she needs to slow down and make herself a priority because the job is not gonna do it for her. Working hard, testing your mettle, growing through pain is fine, but breaking yourself, sacrificing yourself to a faceless entity that doesn’t care about you is pointless and ultimately futile. Simone would have hurt herself and in a month she’d be forgotten, my coworker would hurt herself and in a week be replaced.

As someone who ignored my mental health for years only to have a mental breakdown causing seizures and suicidal ideations, I finally got help. I was diagnosed with ptsd & bipolar 1 and am now disabled because I couldn't go on with life the way it was. You're brain is the most important organ, don't ignore it. This video is so important.

congrats on having a "happy life" my buddy from the Corps put a shotgun in his mouth and I never knew he was going through anything. He was physically tougher than I. I cried while meeting his family after his death and we both never figured out how he got to that point. We aren't all built the same. Things we come across in life, effect us differently. I think about taking my life and realize it takes more balls to do so. Selfish or not, that kind of pain must be unbearable.

@phoenixjones7191

2 жыл бұрын

It leaves a gap decades down the road my family still misses and talks about our uncle. Sorry you went through that man.

@claytonkeever2992

2 жыл бұрын

@@phoenixjones7191hardest part is wondering why I am not as far gone, going through the same things. am I the fucked up one or has it not hit me yet. Suicide makes you wonder. Am I stronger or weaker. Or less Empathetic. All I know is that in the last few years we have lost more to suicide that have served than in combat.

@Panic0funraver

2 жыл бұрын

@@claytonkeever2992 it’s non of the above my guy. It’s compound and complex. Stay up and take care of yourself and those you hold dear. Bring an umbrella but don’t hold it alone

@claytonkeever2992

2 жыл бұрын

@@Panic0funraver Thanks my guy.

@Panic0funraver

2 жыл бұрын

@@claytonkeever2992 anytime brother. Loss hurts everyone and it’s deep. If you need to then speak to someone. If at least you have my random ass we can pm but I’m tired of seeing it too and civvies will never understand the kind of rates you’re actually talking about..

You guys said exactly what most of us vets have been saying for years. The softest people got the most mouth.

@lot3kness

2 жыл бұрын

Not just vets man, some of us came from neighborhoods in the 80s and 90s that were war zones, and learned quickly that bark and bite are two totally different things.

I'm not sure if this will be read since I'm a year out, but this sentiment resonates with me. Live experiences can harden a person, this can be positive and negative at the same time. You look at things differently, but those that don't have the same experience will naturally disagree with you. I'll admit that I've been rather soft in the past, but being robbed at gunpoint multiple times in my life, running around as security within a mental health facility for 5 years, and seeing and sympathizing with individuals that have had a plethora of different and traumatizing experiences other than my own, I can say now that majority of the population is soft. Am I a hardened person now? Far from it, but I know that my ability to understand it and adjust to situations around me make it a lot easier to accept that some people need to get away from things of that nature. Mental health issues get downplayed and then we wonder why mass deletions happen so often, and the scale increases every time. The key problem is that since it's been played down so often, nobody knows how to handle it. My thought process ultimately comes to. "You wanna throw somebody with PTSD back out into the field. So are you willing to gather that platoon's families together to tell them they got wiped out when someone IN THEIR OWN SQUAD snapped and deleted them themselves, and then self deleted? No? Then STFU." Unfortunately it's exactly like you said. The success, confort and entertainment of the masses outweigh the health of the sacrifice. The cattle. The "not me". Anybody with any type of burnout from any place of employment can agree with this, yet once their entertainment or services become threatened they'll do a 180 immediately. I don't ask anything of anyone that I wouldn't be willing to do myself. To be perfectly honest, parents should know this whole heartedly. (well, responsible parents) Think about how much a parent sacrifices for their child. The child didn't ask to be here, they were a product of passion, but they have to have their struggles and survive like anybody else. Critically, parents want their children to have the best or have a comfortable life. So why can't we as people want that for other people. Forcing people to do things that they are currently incapable of doing is far from comfortable. So if you wanna discredit their struggles and problems, handle them yourself.

This is such an important video. Thanks for talking about this. I don't always agree with everything you guys say, but when you're spot-on, you guys are right on the money. All of his is so important and so true and needs to be said.

Whenever I hear people say ignorant things like this I just know they have not been through anything messed up. The people I have met with PTSD are some of the strongest people I know because they went through some of the most messed up things I have ever heard and they are still fighting to move forward in spite of rarely getting the emotional support and a healthy environment to properly heal.

@AaIsForAaliyas

2 жыл бұрын

Most underrated comment on this thread.... ❤️

@mac1bc

2 жыл бұрын

PTSD is a real thing. I'm just afraid people will use this as an excuse for many other things. If you need to take a break for a while to get your head back in the game that's fine. At least come back when you are ready.

@ghoster7600

2 жыл бұрын

Realist shit has been spoken

@fedoramcclaren4294

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you entirely... 💜💜💜

@bignasty6395

2 жыл бұрын

Y'all some hypocrites, if this was a male athlete y'all would be clowning on them. If an NBA player went around acting as boastful and arrogant as she has then pulled out of the playoffs cause it was "to much pressure for their mental state" y'all would roast that fool.

These ppl that call ppl quitters are the same ones that are the biggest cowards with no backbone and wouldn’t last a day in that other person shoes. All that talk coming from behind the screens and the comfort from your home.

@Rieky22

2 жыл бұрын

Like Mike Tyson said “Social media got ppl comfortable without getting punched in the face.”

@Rieky22

2 жыл бұрын

@V O yeah it’s ridiculous

@burgermike92

2 жыл бұрын

@Beefsteak Pete How fucking dense are you? I mean really.

@donovanlocust1106

2 жыл бұрын

@Beefsteak Pete what the fuck?

@donovanlocust1106

2 жыл бұрын

Let's get them in a war zone and see how they like it :)

Wow, you have a lot of patience Aba. You were talking to a brick wall... I can't! I would have disconnected. Mental health is so important. I always tell people "your health comes first".

Ik I'm the late here, but I can't help but talk about this thing that still irritates me years later. When I was HS I was also in a early college program for cyber security. I was rlly struggling in some of my classes and I was realizing I can't be putting 100% effort in football as I used to bc of this situation. I gave up my starting spot, I willingly sat on the bench for a majority of the season so that when I catch back up in college, I will be the best I could in football. Some of my coaches supported me and some others did not like me after that and called me a quiter. When that time came that I was ready to be fully focused on football I put my heart and soul into the game and in practice I was doing great, but my coaches weren't even giving me some of my minutes back(I would understandable not giving me my starting spot, but minutes to me was crazy). I go to ask my coach asking hey, I'm playing great in practice, I'm caught back up in college, can I get some of my minutes back? They would constantly shrug me off and eventually during a game when we were up by 30 POINTS and I'm asking to get in my coach tells me to stop asking, stop being selfish, and support your teammates. I was shocked he was calling me selfish when I literally gave up MY spot and MY minutes bc I knew I wasn't in the right mindset to be in that position. And he had the nerve to tell me to support my team when I didn't miss a single game or practice no matter the predicament I was in while your "star" favorite players are missing 3 practices a week. I played for this team for 4 years started in 3 of 4 years, helped and taught some of the players who are now in starting varsity. And this coach who just got hired the year this happend is calling me selfish and saying im not supporting the team. At that point I just left the team right when we made the playoffs(we were undefeated and never done this well in decades) I didn't go to the practices and I didn't go to the round 1 playoff game. My team lost by a mile and yet even tho I probably should be happy bc they got the karma they deserved I still feel bad and I feel like I lost with my team.

I think people forget that your mental state affects your physical state. If your mental state is unstable while you're attempting to do dangerous stuff like gymnastics you're done, that physical injury is coming. Try doing a backflip while doubting yourself before the jump

As someone who is deployed currently: There are so many people - from Private to Lieutenant Colonel - who have come across our casualty board for Suicidal Ideations. & I’m only 2 months in my deployment. They don’t take mental health serious until someone either threatens to kill themselves or is OBVIOUSLY injured. Luckily, I had went through my emotions prior to deployment. Shit is real out here. (Keep in mind that I’m in one of the most stable areas for deployments, too. It’s literally a duty station for people, & there’s cases like this.)

@TheMurray1922

2 жыл бұрын

Best of luck and blessings to you on your deployment!

@InspirebyKhan

2 жыл бұрын

Im assuming you are in Kuwait lol. Ive done a few tours in Iraq and multiple times to Syria during the height of the Syrian war. After it all, I was never the same. It all hit me about 1-2 months AFTER everything was over, the post deployment therapy / re-integration was life saving.

@LoneStonePro

2 жыл бұрын

@@InspirebyKhan Yep. I’m glad you’re doing better. & thank you for your service.

@Aronoel31

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you love and light brother. Take care 👍

I applaud you both for being aware of yourselves and speaking out on this subject. You’ve done the work and others need to hear this 🙏🏼

By far one of my fav videos. It’s crazy how some people can’t understand how important mental health is and that she respectfully pulled out because it means so much to her. Your sport can sometimes be your trigger and at some point it’s more mental than physical toughness needed. I’m a professional figure skater and I can’t commend Simone enough for shedding light on this issue. Thank you guys for always bringing it 👌🏾❤️

I PRAY MY FRIENDS GET THROUGH THE BATTLES THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT… this is why this is one of my favorite sayings.

@AliciaMully

2 жыл бұрын

🙏😉👌

Thinking like this drives me up a wall. This thinking is common in the Caribbean as well. The Simone situation she isn't a quitter but she isn't necessarily a hero. She is honourable, humble and has a sense of accountability. Black people, Caribbean people and everyone with this kind of thinking. If you cannot help yourself, you cannot help others. You can ruin the lives of others around if you don't get yourself in check. I am not saying be selfish but tap out when needed.

@fearthedeerreckmon8741

2 жыл бұрын

she not humble, she sewed a goat on her uniform

@Oll_704

2 жыл бұрын

@@fearthedeerreckmon8741 she is the gosh and she is also humble she was appreciative and happy with her bronze medal.

@bignasty6395

2 жыл бұрын

@@Oll_704 m8 when ask if knew anyone out there that was capable of beating her dhe said "I don't know if I can be beaten". Y'all some hypocrites, if this was a male athlete y'all would be clowning on them. If an NBA player went around acting as boastful and arrogant as she has then pulled out of the playoffs cause it was "to much pressure for their mental state" y'all would roast that fool.

Reminds me of that notorious incident in General Patton's career: the shell-shocked soldier in the field hospital, powerfully portrayed in the movie. "Send him to the front! You hear me? ... I'm not gonna have cowards in my army."

I agree 💯. The lack of Mental health awareness in the diaspora makes me feel saddened. I remember watching your channel at a time I was experiencing burnout, CPTSD, high codependency and narcissistic traits, lost multiple jobs, and relationships, and addiction issues with drugs and sex, definitely was in psychosis in my opinion 🤦🏾. 8 years later, I'm in therapy, reflecting, gaining more insight into my old behaviours and hoping that I'm not gonna be labelled a narcissist by clinical experts 😵‍💫. I have a mission to build with folks that create awareness on these issues. I'm a student of counselling and aim to be a trauma-informed life coach and stay on my mission. The most important thing is to always balance my health and wellness over anything. I want to Love and build with family members that are willing to continue this life journey with me and create a solid foundation for a family. I still have a long way to go. However, this type of talk reminds me of the narcissistic abuse I remember experiencing 🤦🏾. Consider this message as a warning about your mental health and attitude. 🤔 peace, and love to you and your family. 🤲🏾🌱🤲🏾

I'm a soldier that got medical discharge for PTSD. This hits hard

@OMAR-vk9pi

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your service homeboy you did what’s best for you

@phoenixjones7191

2 жыл бұрын

Happy you got out man, hope you're doing better.

@Misnyc

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your services!

@reinaldomartinez13

2 жыл бұрын

glad you got out bro, putting your life on the line for some oil ain't worth your mental well being

@justice1714

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your service

As an athlete myself, the most important injury to me is any mental injury. If you're having mental issues but you force yourself to go on, not only can you injure yourself, you injure your teammates and become a liability. Mental fortitude is the most important thing to have in general. If you're being called a quitter because of your mental issues, then the people saying you're a quitter don't matter. At the end of the day, maintaining your mental health is key.

@izzylandyt

2 жыл бұрын

the brain is in charge of ALL functions. If that's damaged / compromised, you're fucked. You could even up dead or paralyzed.

I tried explaining my depression to my coworker, but he just could not understand it. He was always saying "it's mental bro, get over it"

As someone who has had to deal with mental health issues in the past and has seen it ruin other peoples' lives and their surrounding family members and social circles, I really appreciate this video and your advocacy for the importance on checking up on ourselves. I am tired of our generation being compared to past generations. Past generations struggled through wars and strife in hope of a more peaceful, SOFT world where we would not have to act tough and deal with the issues they dealt with. Past generations innovated technology and medicine so that we don't get killed off by things like the flu or measles. Our parents work hard to provide us a better future. I could go on and on but honestly the comparisons people make between the past and present are just silly and lack insight on humanity's purpose.

Quitters are out in training, veterans are no quitters, they finished their training, PTSD is an injury wurse then a physical one. Greeting from A Dutch veteran Sergeant of Infantry(A lucky one cus I have come back the same as I went)

@ldahmy

2 жыл бұрын

Just as Some people can cope well with pressure some people can cope well with mental issues, doesn't mean everyone does. You're right in the lucky part at the same time you can't be certain it didn't affect even though your not aware of it.

@Swisba

2 жыл бұрын

Some training facilities are bullshit and take very long to get through. I didn’t quit when I was freezing my ass off at -45 carrying my machine gun. I did waiting 2 years for my main course to start only for it to be interrupted by this COVID shit.

@MazzoBrothers

2 жыл бұрын

@@ldahmy my mission was 25 yrs ago. I know I'm fine. Not everyone is that lucky though. Not even people who where right by my side. Anyhow my point was that its wurse then physical injuries. Those are easy to cure mostly. Mental issues are mostly for life

@ricktap3247

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for comming back home safe now we need to do better for the people who come back worse in our country

@BDDterror

2 жыл бұрын

Both can be equal imo

mental health of parents is sooo important. when my mom wasn’t doing well mentally (for many different reasons) she used to yell at me all the time for all sorts of reasons, even when it was nonsense. never did it to my brother. it caused a lot of resentment during those few years she did it. once she stopped our relationship flourished, but i can’t imagine how we would have been if she had continued that behavior

Our legendary Olympic gold meal champion legend Simone has done more in one month than her detractors have done in their entire lives. Literally.

I needed that! Thanks bro!

You know what's even worse, when these soldiers of the past come home exhausted and filled with mental health issues and PTSD, ignoring it (because that's what they're told to do), causing an unhealthy home and family, passing that trauma to their kids, having a generation of broken and lost kids, and the people that didn't even fight *BLAMING* *THAT* *GENERATION* *FOR* *NOT* *FIXING* *THEIR* *PROBLEMS*

@silverbro13

2 жыл бұрын

There are problems caused by others of their generation. The blame doesn't belong to the soldiers.

@kittyykatie

2 жыл бұрын

@@silverbro13 yeah maybe the blame is all the greedy world leaders around the world starting the wars

This reminds me of the old adage, “you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t.”

@spinmaster6995

2 жыл бұрын

Damn.

Standing Ovation!!!! Thank you!!!!! Signed A Vet with MST PTSD! Thank you so much!! I got out at 11 years and I always get the question, why did you get out 9 years from retirement? I couldn’t do it!

I’ve been watching this video at least 100 times, merci beaucoup mes frères for speaking about this. Abas words has helped me thru a lot of dark days. I’m tired of having to describe my PTSD and get ish like “you need to stop being negative and maybe try yoga”. As a former nurse who’ve worked with victims of war and in a conflict zone… also lived a couple of years in a country who was in a civil war, so I’ve been having bad nightmares and panic attacks on a regular. Your video always helps me go from panic to just anxiety (which means a lot). So thanks guys 😊

"If you're compromised, you're a liability." This is precisely why Simone should have left the event and came home. With that, I am happy for her. She was able to overcome and medal.

@mbubb4626

2 жыл бұрын

Simone had a death in the family.

@viceverse11

2 жыл бұрын

@Leptune Cannet A quote from Aba.

@viceverse11

2 жыл бұрын

@Leptune Cannet Google Translate

@RayVision3D

2 жыл бұрын

@Leptune Cannet It means that if you are distracted by some physical, mental, or emotional issue, you will not be able to focus on the task in front of you and can hurt yourself or others.

@eldiboblo923

2 жыл бұрын

She was able to overcome and medal? But I thought she quit...

I commend you Aba on continuing the discussion with that guy. I would've ended it. "Simone let down her country." Yo... I'm good, Simone aint hurt me by deciding take that much needed break with the Olympics. Ppl need to respect other ppls decisions and focus on themselves. That beehive mentality is real 🙄. There's bigger things to worry about.

@Inspirayetion

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! We don't get anything from her being in the Olympics so we aren't hurting when she decides to take a break! Most people only remember her during Olympic season anyway so they need to stop acting butthurt.

@mika9883

2 жыл бұрын

@@Inspirayetion True, it's amazing how they responded to her taking that moment to herself. She has serious things going on with her from the abuse to her brother charges. Who knows what else she's dealing with. Most ppl need a tall glass of stfu.

@Inspirayetion

2 жыл бұрын

@@mika9883 Amen.

@tyashac.1102

2 жыл бұрын

Not to mention she was being sexually assaulted by a former coach and was not protected by the gymnastics community or the public. She owes the country nothing. And as far as I'm concerned any support that black people show this country should be out of personal choice not obligation.

@mika9883

2 жыл бұрын

@@dixztube Absolutely... I don't know what more ppl want from her... she's given all that she got to the point she needs to take a break.

Thank you brothers for covering this. I have that I served with people that have it. And people think it’s all bullshit. I had a friend’s dad that served during Vietnam. And every year on the Fourth of July when the fireworks would go off he would disappear for about a month because of the PTSD. I appreciate you guys really covering this

I’m gonna be real and say that I thought she was a quitter but putting myself in her position I fully understood why she couldn’t. She went through a lot and I relate to that. I’m glad she didn’t go and instead put herself first and rested. It’s honestly not worth your mental health. Your mental health is more important than anything else. Great video guys. I totally understand your frustration. Some people need to be more compassionate.

In chess you physically move the pieces, but you still need the mental to make the right moves. In gymnastics you have to physically move yourself, but to execute those movements at that high of a level, with so many people watching and so much pressure on you from being a previous olympic medalist, you need the mental to be as sharp as a japanese knife to perform.

Stepping down to take care of yourself is the bravest thing you can do.

@someoneyoudontknow6083

2 жыл бұрын

Not only is it a brave thing to risk others trying to ridicule you for making the right decision, it's also one of the most responsible things to do. Like Aba said sometimes you gotta step down so you don't compromise the rest of your team.

@dontrailtyson8405

2 жыл бұрын

That's an exaggeration but I get the sentiment.

@jennylee5003

2 жыл бұрын

she didnt step down she cherry picked what she thought she could pull off. She came back and performed. She didnt leave. No soldier leaves the millitary because of his mental health then comes back to deploy a few days later.

@temari105

2 жыл бұрын

@@dontrailtyson8405 taking care of yourself and putting your mental health first is not an exaggeration.

@dontrailtyson8405

2 жыл бұрын

@@temari105 it being "the bravest thing a person can do" is....not downing the act but I am downing the statement you made to a certain extent

I think the issues in your head are worse than physical issues. With physical stuff everything is able to be seen. You can see yourself recovering, people can see your injuries and can sympathize with you easier. But psychological stuff is so much harder to come back from since it never truly feels like you’re getting better until one day it just slowly starts to gradually become easier to deal with

Gosh, this video hit me hard. Both my parents had the same mentality of having to go on in such tragic and harsh environments - Both parents lost their dads at the age of 8, both parents had big ass families with little to nothing to survive on, both parents had to physically torture themselves to get by. For my mom, this resulted into toxic positivity, and my dad, it resulted to anger issues. As for me? It didn't help that they were workaholics and inevitably neglected me from time to time, and knowing about their pasts at such a young age while having no one to really guide my thoughts, and when they do guide my thoughts, they weren't the best at guiding. That just lead to a lot of mental issues for me, and it probably didn't help that in the church we always went to, I had to look at kids my age, begging for spare change. That guilt and misguidance really fucked me up man. And while I'm not professionally diagnosed, I definitely asked myself the same things someone with depression had - And that extremely low self-esteem lead to a gross fetish of feeling hurt. Masochism is technically the word, and thank god I was found out and my parents enrolled me to exercise-related activities, because not only did exercise gave me the chance to be able to push myself in more reasonable ways, I realized just how fucked up I was. Like damn, I really thought I deserved to die at the age of 12. I know that sounds edgy, but remembering how overwhelming the guilt and how low my self-esteem was, I would never wish my most hated enemy to experience this as a child. It was that bad. Unfortunately still have the scars years later, but it's an honest reminder that I survived all that shit.

People who says that about someone who's in the army is just rude and disrespectful! If you've never been on the battlefield for yourselves you have no right to call war veterans quitters!

@donovanlocust1106

2 жыл бұрын

People who say this need to be drafted and see how they like it :)

@Dragoncurse4

2 жыл бұрын

@@donovanlocust1106 They'd probably quit during the first week of boot camp.

@donovanlocust1106

2 жыл бұрын

@@Dragoncurse4 wouldn't even make it past basic training

@easymoneybaby5162

2 жыл бұрын

stroking your egos I see, I don't disagree with y'all it's just funny. don't @ me

@cubingspeed6933

2 жыл бұрын

[On a smaller scale, as a kid I was often beaten by my father's belt whether unjustly or deserved is negligible. Cuz I wasn't a bad kid, not a bully, bringing home terrible report cards under eight years old is normal where my mind was at, bc play and entertainment is a kid's bread and butter at that age. On the last time I spilt tears from a whippin', it was bc the food wasn't cooked thoroughly. At 8yo was my first time considering snicide, I swallowed every last hard split pea on my plate trying to die or make him happy to just stop hitting me. When the blows weren't stopping and all I was hearing was, "I'll give you something to cry about!" Something died in me then. It was a small shift but I weathered that storm and still remember to this day the lost innocence, almost three decades later. A Shrink would easily diagnose my psychopathy on the first try bc emotions that normal people react with are abnormal to me. I literally have to fake being human. The visceral reaction one would get from seeing cute puppies or a dude getting kicked to the nuts is non-resonant to me. I can run a nail thru my palm and never acknowledge the pain as a result. Making connections and relationships is as easy as being autistic. PTSD is no joke. And while many are able to fake normal, the public should be glad that people like me only seek self-harm! Under slightly different circumstances, another would have turned serial killer or mass-mnrderer! Saying, "Man-up!" is just another brush-off! If mental healthcare were cheaper and less shameful in this country,♂️snicide would be far more reduced and♂️would feel more valued and less disposable!✌🏼💊]

Being a parent of a child in a wheelchair.. I’ve noticed visible disabilities are so much easier for people to understand then invisible disabilities..& to be honest invisible disabilities are much harder to navigate

I was proud of Simone biles that took the smart route and stepped down to protect her body and her mind, she, if she wants to, can always make a comeback! we need to do more thinking and less worrying about what others think!

This video needs more views. Needs to be on the tv! Needs to be everywhere! This is by far my favorite video from Aba and Preach 4l