"Men want women who will bring peace into their life" That's golden, Courtney. I wish more women understood that.

@mikecicero6177

Жыл бұрын

Amen! Absolutely!

@dubbula

Жыл бұрын

Yea and growth with kindness

@prof.sherlock

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes, the simplest explanation is the right one.

@dubbula

Жыл бұрын

@@prof.sherlock 100%

@shanepettys4556

Жыл бұрын

You are so right my ex-wife wasn't my peace and the new girl I am with gives me peace listens to me and is kind, caring, supportive, and respects my boundaries. It's crazy how you feel when the right person comes into your life.

"I stopped looking for a Dream Girl, I just wanted one that wasn't a nightmare" - - Charles Bukowski.

@monkeydavefraud

Жыл бұрын

Mexican women!! Don't date a black or a white one.

@swadey2.017

4 ай бұрын

Modern women play games, im sticking to buck fuddies

@3756hans

3 ай бұрын

good ol "CHUCK"

@AngelicWitch444

Ай бұрын

Ugh I’m done with men thinking it’s women responsibility to make them happy 🙄 women wish men weren’t a nightmare too! Being violent, aggressive, rude, unfaithful…

@ashfordj81

Ай бұрын

At some point, men realize that nightmares _are_ a type of dream.

"Real progress begins when you get tired of your own sh!t." Timeless wisdom.

There's a great Thomas Sowell quote: 'When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.'

@tharais

4 ай бұрын

That darn Sowell, he's so quotable! He's way out there in a time when no one recognizes it.

@workgd3083

3 ай бұрын

great one!

@mstwelvedeadlycyns

3 ай бұрын

A woman is trying to help other women if they are throwing shade by putting them down.

@x28fhd7

3 ай бұрын

The economist, Thomas Sowell?

@carstenhansen5757

18 күн бұрын

There's another quote. "People will dislike you for lying to them. But they'll hate you, for telling the truth."

This is really well put. Men don’t leave women because they are “doing so well”, we leave women who aren’t nurturing, affectionate, etc.

@dingdong2103

Жыл бұрын

My gf runs a very successful business but she still takes care of me better than any woman, my mother included 🤣

@smti1985

Жыл бұрын

Many toxic, feminist women of today find positive terms for negative reality: "Intimidated by me" = Annoyed of toxicity, "Independent" = Lonely, "Freedom" = sleeping around with many guys. If a woman wonders why she only finds guys for sleeping and not long term, she should ask herself also, if it is her attitude.

@juanis8219

Жыл бұрын

@metalhead6526because she’s his partner not her mother. Women are born to nurture children, the elderly, and animals. Not full grown men..

@dingdong2103

Жыл бұрын

@@johnnyrocker7495 Are you telling me you take care of yourself? If yes, you don't need a woman. Left hand Laura is enough 🤣

@RimoArikus91

Жыл бұрын

@@juanis8219 So if a full grown men ends up in an accident or severe illness, only his mother is allowed to take care of him and not his partner, got it.

Something she said that is so true is "stop letting your friends convince you of that". Women who can't get men, they are told it must be the men. Men who can't get women, they are told to correct their flaws.

@knrz2562

Жыл бұрын

It ain't the men half the time

@Phayze101

Жыл бұрын

I actually think men aren't told to correct their flaws. They are shamed for them and then told to be themselves which is counter productive to fixing their issues. Women on the other hand have a protective bubble called feminism and cancel culture to dismiss any and all criticism. I legit got into an argument with a feminist who in one sentence said 'men only want sex' and then shamed me for saying woman were shallow in regards to physical attractiveness when matching with partners on dating apps. Despite having data showing how men are more fair in regards to initial attraction she shamed me for generalizing women yet literally a second before she generalised men. The saddest thing is their preference for attractive males is the exact reason they think all men want sex. They literally seek out their own predators. Men who got fit, attractive, muscular to have sex with women. You bring up a mens issue and women always respond with manipulation by flipping the script and changing the topic to be about women's issues - ignoring the mens issue and shaming the male for the woman's issue. Thus creating this dichotomy where vocal women shout out loud, despite being a minority. Which because they're the only one speaking thats the only ideas they hear. So they think they have public support. When in fact just self respecting man wants to engage in such a one sided conversation and is perfectly content letting the wacko scream, shout, and pout, and just date other women with better values. The lack of critical thinking in modern women is just unbelievable.

@bigneiltoo

Жыл бұрын

There are no "women who can't get men". There are women who are 2/10 who can't get men who are 10/10.

@knrz2562

Жыл бұрын

@@Phayze101 I agree 👍 💯 feminism is killing men sadly don't engage with female freak fantasies There's nothing we can do about it?!. :^

@knrz2562

Жыл бұрын

@@bigneiltoo wo0wah

I fell in love with my wife after our first argument when I was prepared for a drawn out battle with her and she apologized right away. I’d never experienced someone who was willing to take accountability for their stuff. We’ve been together for twenty years and she’s a partner who has helped me be a better person, we have been stronger together. Those people are out there and are worth waiting for.

@Verena101

7 ай бұрын

Would love to find someone that likes the way I am in whole. I don't know what I did wrong. I have so much to offer, but only found men that were not fitting or not good.

@sushimaster77

6 ай бұрын

​@@Verena101 all I can say is be patient, and picky. Find a way to be content as a single person while becoming a real catch for the right person when they come along. It CAN happen. Good luck!

@breannaw7254

6 ай бұрын

❤

@lennertcornette

5 ай бұрын

A woman who apologized?! On what continent did you find that gem.

@breannaw7254

5 ай бұрын

@@lennertcornette I know a good amount of women who are humble and know when to apologize and take accountability. (They're taken for obvi reasons 😆)

I am a 56 yr old man. Everything you said is true ! I want happiness, not drama not games. I don't care about your money but I do care about your personality ! Actually I find myself caring more and more about personality and less about looks as I get older.

@wannapg3750

5 ай бұрын

That's because even the girls that were pretty are lookin old and not-so-pretty at our age. Nonetheless, you could live with the most beautiful woman on earth and, if she's a b*tch, you stop seeing a beautiful woman and can only see the b*tch after the infatuation wears off.

@buddhistandcatholic

4 ай бұрын

That starts happening to guys around 26

@ihavenoson3384

4 ай бұрын

I bet you have experienced a lot of wahmen who raise their voices by a lot when challenged. The notorious bansheeitis. :D

@spencerwinston4334

3 ай бұрын

“In love affairs a woman is more barbarian than a man.” “The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything.” ―Friedrich Nietzsche, esteemed "laughing lion" German philosopher Courtney, an invisible hand of applause for your radiant beauty as well as of stylistic art appreciation from a new US subscriber--though 'm sure you receive many compliments on your sleek lush hair and hypnotic jaguar eyes On the key issues you address about modern dating, we need only look to the past to find the ideal way a woman should interact with a man for long term endearing relationship. Only 3 rules and a woman will attract a man of gravitas and substance. 1. SILENCE IS GOLDEN. if modern women could just in general stop the constant barista like voice chatter and the soap opera drama and chatter. Silence, and listen to your man. Don't bother him at work, take interest in his field and then let the man in peace with only brief interludes of pleasant conversation revolving around music, art, puzzles, humour, and perhaps show an interest in say the UFC and ask him what he thinks of Tom Aspinal the new UFC HW champion, and watch his interest go sky high for you. He will recognize the beauty of your heart even if lady does not possess the radiant beauty of Courtney. Then. leave the man alone and set a date for a movie or romantic dinner. BUT Silence and no empty barista banter or annoying talk. 2. Learn to listen and play the music of Jimmy Buffett, Blake Shelton, Journey, and Dierks Bentley and maybe Hank Williams Junior with a dash of Beethoven and Chopin for classical music. Listen to music and also learn to play poker with your man or at least understand poker or chess and include if possible a family game night. Make the relationship as easy and relaxed yet inspired as listening to the Jimmy Buffett song Margaritaville while walking down a romantic beach with your man where only the sounds of the ocean are in play. And the woman is silenttttttttttt!!! 3. Don't forget rule number 1 or 2!!!!!!!!!!!! Only 3 rules, and the natural chemistry of a man and woman can then flourish in a bungalow like room where only the sounds of the wind caressing the palm trees are heard as well as two hearts beating as one as a couple find true, endearing love through SILENCE and soft lush pillows!!!!!!!!!!!

@JohnDoe-gf5gm

2 ай бұрын

If to you looks are in opposition to personnality then you still fot A LOT to learn 😉

Trust me, men aren't intimidated, we just won't put up with the nonsense most women bring, especially baggage! Here's what you can do... 1. Stop being combative 2. Stop being selfish 3. Stop ghosting when it gets real. And if it's too real for ya, you can't handle a relationship, Stop dating, get help! 4. Stop with the narcissistic personality...seek help! 5. Own your shhhhhhht 6. Stop watching these dating reality shows and crime shows, we're not all predators! 7. Drop the attitude! You're not 5 years old! Happy 2023 yall!

@GregXHunterz

Жыл бұрын

yup

@Gh0stGaminginc

Жыл бұрын

MaNsPlAinEr

@tommygunn6901

Жыл бұрын

@@Gh0stGaminginc I think you mean MySoNgYnIsT

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Amen 😇

@knrz2562

Жыл бұрын

Ignore ignorance 🤷‍♂️ No man wants a women who acts like a guy very unprofessional and not cute

It's true. We're not intimidated. I can't tell you how many women I ghosted for their narcissism, delusional conceit, false accusations, combativeness, shallow materialism, entitlement, lack of character, heart, & congeniality. In other words ... A-wholes. Not even other narcissists want to be around narcissists. They're destined to be alone. It's actually the best for the rest of the world. It must be nature's way of quarantining the disease.

@user-lt4dm4zx3z

Жыл бұрын

Indeed. Most women are low quality garbage. They are the problem and the solution at the same time. Only the feminine, submissive, sweet women will end up having families, and thus pass on their healthy mindset to their daughters. Nature is wise.

@mellow_salix

Жыл бұрын

My stepdad and stepsister are narcissists so I can safely say, you are 100% correct. They really are destined to be on their own, it’s better for everyone

@charlessarver1637

Жыл бұрын

It's true narcissists do hate each other

@hahahaaha7208

Жыл бұрын

You just want a slave to worship you

@ClownWorldExplained

Жыл бұрын

💯

A female friend once told me I would never date someone like a waitress. Implying her income wouldn’t be high enough. This got me thinking - do I come off like this? She didn’t know I grew up waiting tables and pumping gas to get through my first 3 years of college. What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table, but how much positive attitude she brings to the relationship. Is she curious, wanting to learn, looking to support the people around her. An indicator of the type of person she is - her laugh. If a woman has a heart felt laugh, and laughs easily , this is almost like her soul is speaking out. Nice video. Thank you!

@aolvaar8792

6 ай бұрын

What I care about isn’t not how much money a woman brings to the table. Imagine you're 71 yrs old and bring in $40K/yr in retirement, Choice, a great woman who brings $0 to the table or an OK woman that brings $35K to the table in retirement.

@Yabbaxoraz

5 ай бұрын

@@aolvaar8792 The great woman, any day. Your life will improve greatly when you stop being so materialistic.

@aolvaar8792

5 ай бұрын

@@Yabbaxoraz No, I married a Great woman that brings in $50K a year. Which is better than a great woman who brings in nothing.

@robzienert7492

5 ай бұрын

@@aolvaar8792 The great woman! I turn 71 this month coincidently. And instead of feeling constrained financially, learn how to invest so that you're not constrained. Limitations are mostly due to a lack of imagination.

@xamidi

4 ай бұрын

@@aolvaar8792 No, not necessarily. Women who bring in money are more occupied, more stressed, less focused on immaterial things, tend to be more entitled, etc.

Year ago, I was a provider at a medical office in Arizona. One day, in the break room, several women in the office said to me, You're a really good guy and we think we've figured out why you don't get a second date. I said, "Tell me!" I really wanted to know what is was about my personality that was preventing me from getting a second date. They said, "Its your car." I drove a white Honda Fit. They said that girls don't like guys who drive little white cars. I said "Surely women aren't THAT shallow" and they said "Oh yes, we are!"

@jeffvillapiano541

21 күн бұрын

But then if you level up your automobile and you end up getting dumped because a chick was only after your money, you will be told that you were giving off the wrong signals and attracting gold diggers. Damned if you do, damned if you don't....

@SteveWalker-ju6yo

19 күн бұрын

You'll definitely be damned if you keep the Fit

@soldat2501

15 күн бұрын

Trust me, they are doing you a favor. If a woman won’t go out with you because of your small car, she’s not the kind of woman who you don’t want to date anyway.

@usrnewxnew5227

14 күн бұрын

And they say men are the superficial ones.

Do not ever underestimate a woman's ability to rationalize bad behavior and avoid all accountability and consequences for her actions

@johnq4520

Жыл бұрын

@@amp85d Most are not all

@pierredufour6164

Жыл бұрын

Trust me it's a human thing, not an only female trait.

@OmbaAphire

Жыл бұрын

@@johnq4520 Very true, but if "most" was a percentage, what number would that be...ahh a gambling man I see...I kid I kid ^_^

@jessebarnett4205

Жыл бұрын

If a chick says she doesn’t need a man or she can do anything a man can do wait till her car’s transmission goes out in the middle of nowhere rofl 🤣

@christopherhines595

Жыл бұрын

@@aditigupta7222 because there are consequences when a man does it

This past weekend I decided to be bold and honest with my friend about her coming across as a flirty person and that some men could take that the wrong way. She cussed me out in public, stormed off, and abandoned our friendship. It hurt that I couldn't be authentic with her, but she was a bullet I dodged in friendship!

@richardhamilton6411

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, feminism, social media and poor parenting have seduced and subtly encouraged many young women into thinking that arrogance is somehow a flex and that humility and self reflection are for "other people" and not themselves. Better to not have these kind of "friends" in your life because, instead of being honest with you when you need to hear hard truths, they will either blow sunshine up your backside with "you go girl" and "manifest that" talk or will drag you down into their emotional holes with them (misery loves company), and in either scenario, they will ultimately not help you positively grow and improve as an individual, friend or GF/wife. So better to not have "friends" whose default settings are arrogant lack to personal responsibility and deluded beliefs of perpetual victimhood - because such people are typically insufferable, entitled and lack empathy and will likely end up alone, bitter and clueless as to why everyone is "intimidated by their greatness." 🤷

@edgarbenjoseph3879

10 ай бұрын

It hurts losing friends sometimes, but you did the right thing.

@chrismoore9997

10 ай бұрын

Some friends are not worth having.

@tayh3168

10 ай бұрын

Lol imagine if you dated women you would see more and more how common this behavior is in most modern women.

@vaibhavbhardwaj3977

9 ай бұрын

Avg female friendship

Women don't understand what intimidating is. Being constantly difficult and argumentative is not "intimidating" its "exasperating"

Basically, most men have the same general criteria that I have: someone who is reasonably attractive, honest, calm/gentle personality and who genuinely wants him. Your basic low maintenance woman. The problem is that we usually get someone who pretends to be these things sometimes for years on end. We have to look for signs of these negative personality traits. The entire purpose of the long courtship is to find these traits.

This lady hit the nail on the head. I don't want a competitive partner, but a we mentality is team. I could care less how successful a women is, I am independent on my own. I want a team effort , not a combative, competitive relationship

@knrz2562

Жыл бұрын

This ain't the 1930s bruh YOU gotta have $ look attractive act and talk a certain way Bitches/ rude 🚺 are real out here

@aramesh428

Жыл бұрын

I agree, I want a team, not a subservient woman. Too many cultures, religions, etc. have the mentality that women take a backseat to a man.

@brainrich1358

Жыл бұрын

I remember hearing someone say, "Men aren't demanding obedience. They are asking for cooperation."

@wyleecoyotee4252

Жыл бұрын

@@brainrich1358 There's plenty of men out there that want obedience

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

One thing you can quit doing is using the word partner, because if women want a leader a protector and a provider, it is not an equal partnership and of course it never will be. You want a spouse, a wife, not a partner.

After being married 47 years we discovered the complement factor. She fills in what I lack, and visa versa. We cheer each other on and are a team. So recognizing each others gifts is not being intimidated, but it’s knowing what each other brings to the marriage and loving each other for it.

@MrVasmikey

Жыл бұрын

@telegranmelrn2diy134 responding

@vimanaarchitects2151

Жыл бұрын

What if I don't want to be a team?

@MrVasmikey

Жыл бұрын

@@vimanaarchitects2151 that would mean you don’t want help or give help to your mate. That is not a relationship but anarchy. You will never find joy in isolation. It’s a miserable existence. True love is giving what you need to get.

@vimanaarchitects2151

Жыл бұрын

@@MrVasmikey But I don't want to give tho.

@MrVasmikey

Жыл бұрын

@@vimanaarchitects2151 then welcome to isolation.

"Women don't really hold themselves or each other accountable." - most underrated statement Courtney makes. Men are supposed to handle their own trauma and their own emotions. Women are not: they are encouraged to seek someone to soothe them and affirm them. Men are supposed to be completely secure with a woman being exactly who they are, and seek not to alter them. Women, via hypergamy, are encouraged to ensure that the value of her man is rooted in what he can do for her. He must be strong. He must be enviable. He must provide resources in excess of what she makes. He needs to be her therapist, her bankroll, her bodyguard, her waitstaff, her manual labor. She needs only to be herself. When he does wrong, other men around him are supposed to correct him, and he is required to correct men who do wrong. He is a good man if he submits to the self-policing men do for their own gender (knowing we are judged solely by the worst of our number) and polices other men who do wrong. She is always a good woman even if she engages in bad behaviors. Another woman will validate and affirm that she is right in what she is doing. Holding another woman accountable is social suicide for any woman.

@litpath3633

Ай бұрын

It's a world that is halfway in-between traditional, they kept all the good parts and ditched all the tough hard parts. then we wonder why they are spoiled lol It works out great with the whole traditional though

@kookie_2178

Ай бұрын

​@@litpath3633there are so many traditional women I meet I meet in human shelter 😂😂. It's not good for them either 😂

@litpath3633

Ай бұрын

@@kookie_2178 A marriage takes two working together, it's not a guarantee if only one does things right. This is especially true when the one tasked with being a leader fails horribly at that job.

@litpath3633

Ай бұрын

@@kookie_2178 People end up in shelters after everything has gone wrong, so that place will be massively skewed toward the worst.

@kookie_2178

Ай бұрын

@@litpath3633 but nowdays these tradwives are so popular lol. It won't be ending well 😂

My ex needs to hear this from a woman. She loved to argue. She could literally say something I agreed with and somehow make that into an argument. Once she asked me a question about something she knew I would know about, then proceeded to complain that I was mansplaining. Just looking for conflict for absolutely no reason

@shalombella

Ай бұрын

What a nightmare!

@warbeast787

Ай бұрын

My ex wife once asked me to groom our husky. So when I call him over to do so, she flips out on me because his attention is no longer on her. She yells at me cusses me out, calls me names. I just looked her in the eyes asked what on earth is wrong with her. They will manifest any problem out of any situation. Not worth wasting your well being on.

@litpath3633

Ай бұрын

the word mansplain being used seriously is an instant breakup for me lol don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya on the way out.

@BR-it2qe

14 күн бұрын

​@@warbeast787 "i want you to the the things that i want you to do when I want you to do them"

“Men want someone who will bring peace to their life” Exactly! Nailed it! Perfect! Preach!

@janicefinch3563

2 ай бұрын

Isn't it more peaceful to stay single and do your own thing though? Why date anyone if you want peace?

It's funny that I had the conversation in a group of women (I'm male) where one was trying to figure out "Why this guy ghosted me." The women all told her how wonderful she was and how she intimidated him. I asked why she liked the guy, and she rattled off a long string of very positive attributes. I then asked how many other men she was dating at the time, and she said, "Four, but this is the guy I really want." And I had to say, "He didn't get that message if you were dating four other men. And men can tell when some woman is running them in rotation." Low value men will allow themselves to be run that way. High value men will not. They won't waste their time with low value women, and when they find a high value woman, she'll get their undivided attention. If they don't get that in return, ladies, expect to be ghosted. And don't kid yourself that you intimidated any of them.

@Swearengen1980

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I went through something similar not long ago. After the first date, she said she wanted to go out again, but still wanted to keep her options open (because she was new to America and her whore coworkers convinced her the America way to date is to see 4 or 5 guys at once and whittle them down). I wished her good luck, but that shit won't fly with me. You want to date me and only me, giving it an honest shot, or you don't. Joke was on me. She decided to ignore her friends and went all in on me and within 2 weeks she was talking about marriage and when I broke it off shortly after that, she was border line stalker LOL. That's also a first hand warning to the men on here who constantly say to go get an Asian woman. I've dated a number of Asian immigrants and they are f'n crazy/obsessive.

@DJCloroxx

Жыл бұрын

Same reason employers don't hire people with 7 jobs in the last 5 years. No one wants to be a stepping stone.

@valentinpopescu98

Жыл бұрын

@@DJCloroxx that’s not the case in every industry. I changed 3 jobs in 4 years and nobody complained. Remember: you work to make your boss money. You will NEVER out earn him. You trade your time for money and it’s a fair trade. Corporations understand that. Low level companies don’t understand it because they’re usually losing money until they get their stuff together and they don’t want to afford to lose employees. When they do, they do because of low benefits. Big corporations keep their employees with nice benefits, not by forcing them to stay.

@jessyjames7508

Жыл бұрын

If you're dating 4 individuls, it's highly unlikely you are showing anyone the time and mind they deserve. AND, you most likely don't care about family. Procreating takes focus and diligence, and no spouse wants to hear that BS about being married to a job, or being a work-a-holic. There are PLENTY of good jobs available. Find one that allows you to date and respect yourself at the same time.

@alexforce9

Жыл бұрын

Well, if she dated 4 people, maybe he dated 4 people too. And choose the one he liked most lol.

I worked at a bar and a regular, she was crying that her husband had left her. She said that "men are intimidated by successful women." Now this woman was easily 100 pounds overweight, at the bar every day and was a team lead in a call center. Her big career was taking angry phone calls about people's cable bill.

Vividly True!! Thank you Ms. Ryan for highlighting a key turn off for accomplished men (being argumentative) and thereby helping women everywhere. Sadly, you have "never heard another woman say this" because it is so very very rarely understood by women these days.

As a single 29M, the first thing that turns me off about a woman is when she turns everything into an argument. I can’t speak for all men but if she is 10/10 but argumentative she instantly drops to 1/10 and it is not about not valuing her opinion but I just like someone who is kind and peaceful who calms me down when I am tired and I can depend for advice on important issue without shouting at me.

@bassmunk

7 ай бұрын

I was just thinking the same thing. This video reminded me of me, my brothers and my dad having an intense discussion when we were younger at home and my mom would ask us to "stop arguing", and the 2 of us would tell her "we're not arguing, we're having a discussion" lol. The point being, as passionate as we could get, we were still able and willing to be reasonable and listen to the other person. We had an understanding that the issue at hand wasn't the other person, it was the subject we were talking about. We didn't take things personally, we were objective, and hence could afford to be open and honest. So a woman who doesn't know how to be objective and always takes things personally is just a headache. That's not a person you can be open, honest or vulnerable with.

@sp-lc1fy

6 ай бұрын

She is the letter N in S.I.G.N, She needs to be right.

@donchoq

6 ай бұрын

Yes! Inner beauty completes the person!

@user-cp3nt9db4j

6 ай бұрын

Some women like to argue because it brings drama. It's like an adrenaline rush to argue and make up. Some people are addicted to that high. Sounds weird 😔

@TheAcad3mic

6 ай бұрын

save yourself a whole lot of trouble and seek serious advice on complicated issues from 1 or 2 men in your life you trust deeply. Do not take serious issues you really don't have an answer for at all to your woman. dogshit idea. Seek some counsel and advice on some topics, sure. Seek consensus and make sure she's happy and involved in day to day decisions absolutely. But if you really need advice on something that has you seriously stumped and confused, you bring that kind of thing to your girl you're gonna be eating shit and she will lose respect for you big time.

11:30 - "Sometimes women are wrong" Well Courtney finally said it. Protect this woman at all costs!

@cookieterminator4389

Жыл бұрын

Yeah sometimes men can be wrong, it’s not a gender exclusive thing.

@jorge-7121

Жыл бұрын

That is because Courtney has internalized misogny

@notconnected3815

Жыл бұрын

After a 14-minute presentation, exactly those words remain in your mind?

@jorge-7121

Жыл бұрын

@@cookieterminator4389 you are wrong. It is gender exclusive thing. Because is trendy to say men are wrong or bash them anytime but if someone criticizes any woman then that person is accused of misogyny. So, it is a gender thing, women can never be wrong.

@asiangamer5040

Жыл бұрын

@@cookieterminator4389 But the difference is that men live in reality and take accountability for their actions, women like to live in fairy tail land where they're always perfect and nobody is allowed to criticize them on their bad behaviour.

Courtney , this was very insightful . . You said that women hold not each other accountable . If may add / emphasize ..Ive often had women comment why we men give each other such a hard time both at work and play . I reply that we men need to know whom we can trust in the trenches . Its a means by which we hold each other accountable and those that cant .... wash out .

@spencerwinston4334

3 ай бұрын

“In love affairs a woman is more barbarian than a man.” “The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything.” ―Friedrich Nietzsche, esteemed "laughing lion" German philosopher Courtney, an invisible hand of applause for your radiant beauty as well as of stylistic art appreciation from a new US subscriber--though 'm sure you receive many compliments on your sleek lush hair and hypnotic jaguar eyes On the key issues you address about modern dating, we need only look to the past to find the ideal way a woman should interact with a man for long term endearing relationship. Only 3 rules and a woman will attract a man of gravitas and substance. 1. SILENCE IS GOLDEN. if modern women could just in general stop the constant barista like voice chatter and the soap opera drama and chatter. Silence, and listen to your man. Don't bother him at work, take interest in his field and then let the man in peace with only brief interludes of pleasant conversation revolving around music, art, puzzles, humour, and perhaps show an interest in say the UFC and ask him what he thinks of Tom Aspinal the new UFC HW champion, and watch his interest go sky high for you. He will recognize the beauty of your heart even if lady does not possess the radiant beauty of Courtney. Then. leave the man alone and set a date for a movie or romantic dinner. BUT Silence and no empty barista banter or annoying talk. 2. Learn to listen and play the music of Jimmy Buffett, Blake Shelton, Journey, and Dierks Bentley and maybe Hank Williams Junior with a dash of Beethoven and Chopin for classical music. Listen to music and also learn to play poker with your man or at least understand poker or chess and include if possible a family game night. Make the relationship as easy and relaxed yet inspired as listening to the Jimmy Buffett song Margaritaville while walking down a romantic beach with your man where only the sounds of the ocean are in play. And the woman is silenttttttttttt!!! 3. Don't forget rule number 1 or 2!!!!!!!!!!!! Only 3 rules, and the natural chemistry of a man and woman can then flourish in a bungalow like room where only the sounds of the wind caressing the palm trees are heard as well as two hearts beating as one as a couple find true, endearing love through SILENCE and soft lush pillows!!!!!!!!!!!

Disney's She-Hulk series really shows how some women think about men. There's a scene where Jennifer tries out online dating, but no man is interested in dating a successful woman. I watched this with my friends and we got mental over how wrong it was. Financial success doesn't make you intimidating, it often makes you more attractive. What's really intimidating is when a woman looks down on a less-successful man who dared to ask her out.

As a man I've dealt with this with my female co workers via the lunch table Just by listening, The amount of defense a women will have from other women is amazing to be honest. But most of it is validation and rationalization of bad behavior. Some of these women don't care and most have an attitude of "as long as I'm pretty and have a p*ssy then I can get away with whatever I want. "I'm not the problem, I'm the prize 🏆" and with that thinking. Men start to just walk away entirely from that.

@fawkkyutuu8851

Жыл бұрын

The problem Is there's always plenty of men that won't walk away , most women who aren't fat or old don't have to even begin to try , the simps are always around and giving them attention , and as long as these women have access to a comfortable life and attention there's no motivational reason In the world for them to change , and these are always the ones to selfishly have kids who will be taught the same ways and the cycle continues.

@OrganizationXIII

Жыл бұрын

@@fawkkyutuu8851what’s the solution than?

@moka4369

Жыл бұрын

@@OrganizationXIII It's very simple. I am a woman and I have no problems admitting when I'm wrong and work toward making efforts to do better.

@moka4369

Жыл бұрын

@@OrganizationXIII Men need to tell women why they are walking away. It is very unpleasant to deal with a stubborn woman.

@mikesteelheart

Жыл бұрын

Women compliment each other and don't mean it, men insult each other and don't mean it....

Takes courage to say this as a woman. Society needs more people like you. Thanks!

@dangle5879

Жыл бұрын

More like intelligence and accountability.

@Turnpost2552

Жыл бұрын

Wow your soooooo brave to post a youtube commment claps!!

@girlysoap9031

Жыл бұрын

@@Turnpost2552 they were referencing the video not the comment 😂

@JESUSGreatrThan_all_LsThnJESUS

Жыл бұрын

Society needs more christians 😅

@worldview730

11 ай бұрын

Not courage just plain old school truth

I just wish someone would please explain the exchange that I always get..... because it is so confusing. Here is my experience......... Man explaining what they are looking for: I want someone who makes her own money, has a car, and pays her own bills. Exact same man after talking for a couple of weeks: If you have a car, pay your bills and a good job, why do you need me? Why do they do this? Are they really expecting a woman to quit her job and be totally dependent on him from the get-go? If so, that will not happen with me. I've been left homeless twice by men after putting my trust in a them.

@Carolina-rd3gh

Ай бұрын

A lot of guys do not love women, they want to conquer them. It’s not fun to conquer someone who is already dependant and holding to every word they say, it’s more satisfying to conquer an independent woman after getting her attached to you. To a lot of men the amount of stuff you quit for them is an ego buster and an indicator of how great they are. This is not a pretty message but it’s reality.

Great video. I couldn't agree more. The stuck up ones can drown in their own narcissism.

As a guy if I ever heard a female saying they are single because they’re “intimidating” I would take that as womanese for “This is how I cope when I get dumped because I’m too masculine”

@phillipevans9414

Жыл бұрын

@Brandon Gathye. I'm intimidating is womanese for I'm a bitch. Cheers!

@ed5308

Жыл бұрын

Women that say I am to intimidating for most men are just using that for not finding anyone wanting to put up with her attitude. Lets be real a very average woman if she is willing to be cooperative can find a man that will marry her. Men on the other hand have to be tall, good looking and have bank or you are just another guy in the world.

@iimmortalldreams

Жыл бұрын

True and if you ever get the opportunity to know people who know her, she's not very well liked.

@ChrisPTY507

Жыл бұрын

A woman who says that she’s single because men are “intimidated” by her indicates me they she has a combative personality, and also carrying tons of baggage while likely she having nothing constructive nor positive to offer to a man’s life. No high value man wants to deal with an argumentative woman who loves nagging and creating conflict out of nothing becas us men wants PEACE and tranquility, and this seems to be something that women on their majority fail to understand. These are the kind of women who ends up hitting the wall, buying cats and then complaining why there no good men. I’m the end…That’s the kind of low quality woman who ends up dying alone.

@lockyp204

Жыл бұрын

It’s not masculine behaviour. It’s behaving like an egotistical maniac

My sister was on her 3rd failed marriage at the time. My advice to her was "There is one constant to all your failed marriages. You." Needless to say, she didn't like my insight. I think she is on ex #7. I call her a succubus because she becomes what they are looking for. She likes what they like and works to make them happy. After a while, she gets tired of being this image she puts on. No matter how many times I tell her she has to be herself, she doesn't listen. I only ever had 1 girlfriend and I married her. We knew each other in high school and dated after I graduated. We married when I was 19. This was in 1995. We are still married. Most do not know what they are looking for. I was looking for what I needed and not wanted. I think that was the key to why I didn't date in high school and have been married this long. You don't need a 6 figure income, a luxury car, and a big house. You need to feel love and be needed. Living under your means is also key to happiness.

@beck204

11 ай бұрын

Pretty sure you need a 6-figure income. I have no idea how anyone could live in less if they have kids. I just got dropped down to 150k in the Midwest and I have a hard time making ends meet. And we have no car payments, health insurance payments, cell phone payments…

@joevillarreal9953

11 ай бұрын

​@@beck204You make 150k and own NOTHING ???? Sounds like a Bunch of 🐎 💩

@michaelsix9684

11 ай бұрын

happy for you, you've done well --wish u the best

@motherhoodsbeauty9279

10 ай бұрын

It’s hard to talk sense into people that think they always right.

@michaelsix9684

9 ай бұрын

@@beck204 check out Dave Ramsey to see how to live on less, in your income taxes hit hard, and it's one area where you need to reduce that if you can

Absolutely, I’m aware that I’m broken from childhood issues and aspects of my marriage that were bad. This is why I tapped out from dating for a while. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. And something not mentioned here is sometimes it really is a numbers game. Sometimes people really aren’t compatible and it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just how it is. Don’t give up, keep improving yourself, and keep meeting new people. ❤

I'm single because i want peace and i haven't gotten that. I hate fighting, i like to communicate in a calm manner. Relationships have been nothing but headaches for me.

"Women don't respond well when you tell them maybe you're the problem" It's difficult when you have 100K people telling you that you are awesome just to make you feel better and only one person is willing to tell you what your flaws are so you can actually be better. While well meaning that kind coddling keeps them completely blind and unable to reflect on themselves.

@dingdong2103

Жыл бұрын

You wouldn't have 100K people telling you anything if you just stayed away from the cancer called social media...

@AsurmenHandOfAsur

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@amihere383

Жыл бұрын

It is not well meaning. Women give eachother a false sense of attractiveness or importance to set them up for failure so that they can get in that spot. Women absolutely use this psychological warfare to put eachother down and climb the ladder. I’ve seen girls fuck their best friends man just for revenge, or to steal him, or even because her friend said he was the best at sex and she wanted some of the action. Sometimes it’s to make them feel better, sure. But they know exactly what they’re doing, they know they’re lying through their teeth to make them feel better. They are not all innocent.

@thepubknight6144

Жыл бұрын

@@AsurmenHandOfAsur I have many ex female friends due to me pointing out obvious toxic behavior patterns I've seen in them because of the echo chamber defending social media friends that coddle them

@tianamarie989

Жыл бұрын

This is so accurate. Especially in mom groups on Facebook 🙄

I always use the example of a Roommate. Ladies would you want to live with a roommate who "challenges" you, is very opinionated, wants everything in the house to be done their way ? Or would you want a roommate who's friendly, easy going, happy to compromise ? Everyone would pick the 2nd option yet all these women expect men to pick the 1st. And if they don't pick the first it means they are "intimated" or "not strong enough to handle you"

@airthrowDBT

Жыл бұрын

That doesn't matter because they have been programmed since little girlhood to never think of men's wants and needs.

@tezzyteaspoon

Жыл бұрын

This is well stated! I had the experience in college to live in a house with 3 guys. Who happened to be frat boys. Our parents were friends and so were we. Like siblings. I learned so much from them from the relationships they had and the conversations about the “crazies”. I watched some of these girls act like clingy trophy huggers toward them. These guys were always so courteous, thoughtful, respectful and always looked out for me. As a result a lot of these girls didn’t like me. I took my friends input to heart when I had relationship or dating issues. I am happily married now to a man who is also my best friend. We have conversations and admitting we’re wrong about something isn’t hard at all since we challenge each other to be better people. We celebrate things, have fun together and have discussions rather than argue. He accepts me as I am and I accept him as he is. I thank my 3 friends for our time in college every day for the support and guidance they gave me about the opposite sex. They say they learned a lot from me as well since they realized the “party girls” weren’t really the ones worth settling down with. We can learn so much from each other when we listen rather than react to how we think they should be.

@thescoon1

Жыл бұрын

This. Someone I know complained that they're perpetually single, and they listed all the things they would bring to the table. She also has blinders on about how chaotic, loud (and not in an endearing way), overbearing and intense she is. There's really no attempt at recognising her own flaws and working on them, instead focusing only on what they feel they already are.

@carnationsensation

Жыл бұрын

I think there's a bit of truth to both sides, meaning there are women out there who are too bossy and want everything their way, but on the flip side there are men who just expect everything to be peaceful and friendly all the time and expect to never have any turbulence in the relationship and that's just very unrealistic. I am speaking from experience.

@thescoon1

Жыл бұрын

@@Khsjsj because they have *zero* intention of ever actually being with them longterm. It's not a healthy move, obviously, but the misconception here is the reason they're cheating. They're not cheating because they've found someone else they want to spend their life with. That's statistically more common for women to do when cheating. Those men are cheating as a knee-jerk reaction to the bad situation they've found themselves in, or for the sake of novelty and novelty alone. It's less often that men cheat on their partners with a person they *genuinely* would rather be with.

Thanks Courtney, this is such good advice for both women and men. We all need to check ourselves to see how each of us comes across in relationships. I am 75 and have been married to my 2nd wife for nearly 30 years. She and I work for the common good of our relationship and for respective kids and their children…..you never stop be a parent. Common goals and communication are the essential ingredients. I’m just as down on men who want to return all women to the kitchen as I am on women who are looking for a sugar daddy. This video is an excellent tool for self-evaluation!

The TikTok girl is right, but she also kinda has a weirdly off-putting demeanor like she's got a ton of life experience when she probably doesn't lol.

@oscarschindler12

Ай бұрын

That's called being young. She does have so more to experience. Life will change her.

@jordandesmet6593

10 күн бұрын

Yeah, still seems insufferable LOL

I ended things with my ex because she always reminded me of how independent she was, how she didn't need me or anyone, and would even say she got to where she was without anyone else helping her, but always leaving out that I paid for her bachelor's and masters, helped her with homework, took her on vacation when she'd be stressed, etc. Most people don't want a difficult person in their life. Doesn't matter what gender they are.

@brent4073

Жыл бұрын

Wow you got fleeced

@prashanthb6521

Жыл бұрын

Thats very hurtful, to receive no gratitude even after helping her to that level.

@thedespot999

Жыл бұрын

Unreal ungratefulness. Despicable

@khanhcao3123

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like she dumped you. She rob you silly.

@Ghragle-

Жыл бұрын

Facts I put my kids mom through school, and even took full custody of the kids so she could do an accelerated program for her masters. (When I say custody I mean if the kids that were not mine) To this day she says she got everything she has by herself. I left and took my child w/ me

I'm a woman in a long term relationship and I agree with what this woman is saying. Very few people want to be with an argumentative person or someone who acts like they don't want to be in a relationship. A relationship should be peaceful.

@Swearengen1980

Жыл бұрын

Very much such so. I've dated some attractive and successful women (relative to my area) the last couple years, but when they create unnecessary drama or conflict, I'm out. Then they pull the, "A relationship is work" card. Yeah, a relationship is work, but not 1 month in it's not. There are times of work, but peace should be the base of your relationship. I'm in a new relationship now with a beautiful woman with very old fashioned, gender role based beliefs. The type where, I was cooking for her last night and it was driving her nuts that I was the one cooking and she was standing there talking and not working. She's no coward or doormat, just very level headed, down to earth, a nurturer and knows that very thing - That peace isn't just critical for your relationship, but your own mental health that can really drive your entire attitude. I've never met someone I meshed with so quickly with because her presence and demeanor is so calming. Probably why she's a therapist who works with specific mental health patients LOL. This is obviously far easier to come by for me in my 40s than a guy in his 20s. I really feel bad for the younger guys at this point (not to excuse them of their own short comings of being socially awkward, generally having no balls or know how to properly court women, and then slander the entire gender because of the bad apples). Courtney has her target audience, but the dysfunction of relationships is a 2 way street. I think it's a chicken and egg debate: Which came first, did men stop being real men first or did entitled, unrealistic women create these men? The feminist extremism of the last several years most certainly did a lot of damage.

@coolbreeze5683

Жыл бұрын

@@Swearengen1980 I agree...I think there's a restless feeling when you're in your late teens, 20s and sometimes into your 30s that might make men and women more intense about finding relationships. That restlessness can lead to frustration in men and women. Maybe it's the rush of youthful hormones at play. But when you're a bit older, both men and women are more calm, rational and accepting of a lot of things. Relationships flow better.

@brucebartup6161

Жыл бұрын

The work people are mostly referring to i suspect is 1st The agreement: Item, i) Separate bank accounts? Item ii Sex (how often what kind, who is allowed to "have a headache" etc, item iii) things I agree not to call your mother . . . Nothing on paper obviously. Thayt kind pf agreement needs constant validating, verifying, - work 2nd intimacy knowing the other person loving them (hardv to love someone you don't know) Femnists can have no problem with traditional relatinnshps or roles; just one choice.

@zaklex3165

Жыл бұрын

Speak for yourself...there's a fine line between being argumentative and having intense conversation, there's nothing saying that two people that don't think alike can't get along and have a good long term relationship...as long as everything is put on the table before hand, nothing is off the table. It's all about setting boundaries and expectations for what people are willing to discuss and what's off the table, that's the key. I have to do that with everyone because personally there's absolutely nothing I won't talk about, but I know that isn't the case for most others, therefore I have to find out what they're willing to talk about and what's not open for discussion, then I have to file that information away so I don't broach those subjects.

@Swearengen1980

Жыл бұрын

@@brucebartup6161 Personally I think these things are wildly overblown or at least misrepresented. Most seem to not think twice about joint bank accounts, but the problem is: Are they on the same page about life style. One may be a spender who'd rather travel than save for retirement and the other prioritizes security over adventure. Anecdotal, but I've never seen the "have a headache" BS as a real problem. Lack of desire for sex is rarely the issue, it's the underlying reason for why, which is unresolved problems. The guy can't disrespect her, stop being a gentleman, or stop being romantic and expect the woman to want to bang him all the time. The love and thoughtful gestures can't stop just because you get married. It's also not just a man thing to not be able to talk rationally and compromise when you're butting heads, women are every bit as stubborn at times. Those type of things are why people stop having sex, not because no one is horny, but because you have bigger issues in the relationship.

Even as a teenager i had zero tolerance for bad attitudes with girls i dated. High maintenance, argumentative, entitiled, games...I would break up with them early on rather than trying to fix them, which is a mistake many men (and women) make. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. I've now been with the same person for 25 yrs, and married for 23. I'm a high value male and have lots of other options, and she knows that - so she tries hard to make the relationship work, and so do I. I've passed on the same ethic to my son and he's very respectful of women but also has a zero tolerance policy about B.S. And he's highly sought after because of this and other positive traits.

@aolvaar8792

6 ай бұрын

I'm a high value male, she is a high value female, and WE have lots of other options, and WE both know that. Make it so she stays with you because she wants to, not because she needs to.

I love the part where you said "don't let your friends tell you that. . . " So much in those few words! Women advising each other about men is SO frequently off target, they're generally clueless on what men are really like.

1,000 times yes! As a woman in her 30s, I have friends younger than me and some into their 50s that have been single for many years. I am not brave enough to tell them this fact, but they do have the "I don't need a man" mentality and they do want to be put on a pedestal and men just don't stick around for it. Yes, as women we need standards and we have to know our worth... but if you've went on numerous dates for many years and it never worked out, ask yourself why and be honest. Men crave affection and peace, so why would they stick around for anything less?

@Courtney-of1po

Жыл бұрын

@wesa what?

@Courtney-of1po

Жыл бұрын

@wesa I've been married almost 15 years.

@Courtney-of1po

Жыл бұрын

@wesa on it!

@Katrica670

Жыл бұрын

@Courtney not every male likes loving, gentle, empathetic females, lots love drama, harsh, hateful females, I seen it many times! 👀🧐🤔😱😭

@TheyCalledMeT

Жыл бұрын

@@Katrica670 nope .. they mabe love the makeup sex .. but not the drama and definitively not hatefulness .. don't confuse banta with drama or hate. SOME have a be dominated kink .. but your sentence especially with the "lots" (of men) is wrong

A girl said something to me once along the lines of “your intimidated by me” or something of that effect. I remember saying “no, your just insufferable” She didn’t like that haha It was true though

Public comment. Great message ms Courtney you know the fact. Unity and togetherness brings peace of mind and happiness.

In my experience being peaceful, loving and caring just meant i was treated like a doormat while he consistently looked for better looking more "passionate" and "exciting" women. He openly admitted how nice it was to not have someone arguing with him all the time, but that made me "boring". There will always be an excuse when something better looking comes along, and there is always someone better looking.

@gayathryrajeev5639

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this. I hope you find a partner who appreciates and loves you deeply.

@suziesmith8288

4 ай бұрын

Maybe because when a man treats you bad you have to set boundaries and hold men accountable. Men respect women that respect themselves.

@ench56

Күн бұрын

So he left you because you weren’t good looking enough for him?

HOLY F*CK, this woman is spot on!! Nobody likes argumentative people. It's not a male or female thing. It's a "Don't be an asshole" thing.

@bartsullivan4866

3 ай бұрын

Any self respecting guy wouldn't want to put up with that, no matter how hot the chick was. That's why the chubby cute gal who is easy to deal with and fun to be around gets the long term guy.

@janicefinch3563

2 ай бұрын

@@bartsullivan4866 I wish that was the case, but I feel like I see so many more pretty women with average or ugly guys than the reverse. In reality, I think many men will overlook toxic traits to be with a hot woman.

@bartsullivan4866

2 ай бұрын

For only a certain amount of time beauty fades abs migraines last a long time. But I get your point.

I got tired of coming home to complaints. I also got tired of being blamed for everything that went wrong when she clearly made a poor decision that resulted in a poor outcome. A sign of maturity is being able to admit you screwed up and own it. Men are taught this growing up. Women not so much!

@JH-nv2ue

Жыл бұрын

From what I’ve learned is (most not all) men mature as they get older and (most not all) women become more immature the older they get.

@joycenoel1008

Жыл бұрын

RECORD her & play it back for her lol

@ExilixE

Жыл бұрын

Women mature faster until 18-22 but after 22-25 men mature faster because real life hits them harder as they have no money, no options, and not future in sight. And as women's options remain high, their maturity is stunted. Once a women is 30-40 and their options reduce, they start to feel the biological clock ticking and seeing younger women as competiton. Then they start to mature as the real world hits them

@JH-nv2ue

Жыл бұрын

@@ExilixE Women (most) don’t mature at all. They peak at 18 (which doesn’t mean they’re mature, it’s just the peak of their maturation) There’s the illusion of maturity (that most will want to argue with) but all you have to do to see that they don’t mature is to watch them in a romantic relationship.

@emberya9561

Жыл бұрын

@Steven Giles from what I'm seeing these days no one is actually taught admitting their fault as they grow up. If in your environment that happens, then I'm genuinely happy that at least 50% of people around are taught this but in my experience it's more up to the individual and overall very rare.

Oh courtney. No, when you push your friends to grow and change, these days, they just betray you and walk away. The problem is that people these days just suck. They've been taught to suck and they are destroying everything around them by refusing to accept they ain't that great. 😊

girl bout to get a whole lot of DMs for doing this and being this humble and honest. This is the best thing she could do for her image.

Self awareness is a rare commodity nowadays for both men and women. Our society encourages delusion..."i intimidate men", "beauty comes in all sizes" etc

@scenario1741

Жыл бұрын

Right! I want men that are over 6 ft tall and successful. 2 seconds later, OMG are you fat shaming me!?

@audemars_piguet13

Жыл бұрын

Masculine women are the most disgusting specimens on earth. Men will sleep with them but won't commit, ever.

@bplayerr1

Жыл бұрын

Men take it like MEN, at least most of us. We are truly open about what we look for. Women, not so much. All those standards go out the window the second Chad walks in the room 💥👈😉

@TerryProthero

Жыл бұрын

I'm a 300 pound morbidly obese man. The difference between me and women in the same situation is that I'm not delusional about it. No, it doesn't look good. And you won't see me running around in a Speedo. Nobody want's to see that. I dress appropriately for someone my size. I've seen women who do this, and they look pretty good. If you can't pull off sexy, go for sophisticated instead. But morbidly obese women who think they are models is really messed up. I don't why people have to be delusional rather than being mentally healthy. People should love themselves unconditionally, but part of that is being completely honest with oneself.

@worldview730

11 ай бұрын

It's really starts from the inside out

"You have a bad attitude, and you're not very likeable..." Thank you!!! Yes ladies, if you have a bad personality and garbage character, we don't like you! We're not intimidated by women.

@dg5175

Жыл бұрын

Whenever I've been open, warm, kind, bubbly, and showed interest they lost interest. When I became closed off, uninterested, and aloof that's when they were interested. Go figure.

@Sweetsweetraven

Жыл бұрын

@@dg5175 same over here.

@SingleTax

Жыл бұрын

It's the classic "80/20 rule" -- 80 percent of women competing for the affection of the top 20% of men. That's one of the reasons why millions of men in the middle have gone MGTOW, and why increasing numbers of spoiled, entitled females are now having to buy their own drinks.

@dg5175

Жыл бұрын

@@amassuocoon4968 Ain't arguing with that. ✌️

@fafdaafggh9548

Жыл бұрын

@Greg Hammon See? That's what it makes even more messed up. In love, sometimes you have to be "needy" and "clingy" it is just you showing your affection. Is that even a bad thing? I have a girlfriend and we are a very happy couple and we do not have much to argue about we build our lives together. Sometimes those constructs that was made by people in past doesn't make sense. If I have to blame somebody about why men/women is distant to each other it is because of society's view of what is right and wrong about relationship not women, not men per se.

I LOVE straight talk! Good job!

to do (partly my own issues which I’ve had to learn about and work to overcome. Like enabling toxic behavior.) I can’t and won’t do that anymore because it doesn’t resolve anything. Eventually, I’ve just had to part ways. Refusing to admit to mistakes inhibits growth. Mistakes are part of learning.

That was someone who can actually reflect on their life and make improvements. Best type of people

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

Yeah both genders can take advantage of personal growth all day everyday

@larryrobx

Жыл бұрын

Simple heart-felt message, based on clear analysis, masterfully delivered. Such an expressive face. Courtney's social commentary has grown to professional calibre.

@bleblee

Жыл бұрын

Mgtow Men F#ck these 30 plus year old bags

Being opinionated and being confrontational are 2 separate things. Men want and NEED peace, but we also like a woman with opinions, mindset and intelligence. My partner shares her opinions with me in a respectful manner and never has an attitude about it, she's successful, has a great career and is extremely intelligent; else she wouldn't be my partner but we can talk and have different opinions about stuff and be respectful about each other with love and care.

@jfo3000

Жыл бұрын

Truth. The individuals in our society have become very confrontational and reactive. Not self-aware, respectful beings. These are just two required qualities for any long term companion. Fidelity is another.

@rickc.3552

Жыл бұрын

Speak for yourself. Most of us don’t want opinionated either.

@Ray03595

Жыл бұрын

@@rickc.3552 Really? I'd find someone who doesn't have their own view of the world to be very boring and not really worth having a conversation with. It all comes down to how those opinions are expressed. If it's in an aggressive matter then it's definitely a turnoff.

@coolio96

Жыл бұрын

I prefer not to have a woman who is very opinionated but we all have different tastes. However @madestro you seem to have a great woman, your a lucky man. Cheers.

@DeematheFashionDesigner

Жыл бұрын

As a woman, I AGREE! This is how it is supposed to be! I have had women act up in public around me! I don’t like drama or being around ppl like this! I have to be careful when choosing friendships!! Reputation is important! Also long term relationships

Both men and women need to realize baggage just like garbage does not need to be carried around with you: leave it, learn from it and you will be happier for it. Take responsibility for everything in your life

I’ve always heard the “they’re intimidated by you” because I’m shy. I hardly say anything. I think in reality, there might be some of that because people don’t often know what I’m thinking, so maybe they’re thinking that I’m thinking the worst things when I’m not? But I also think I’m just not seen because I’m often in the background and am too shy to put myself in the spotlight or even put myself out there. But the people who know me see my wild and more carefree side and come to me for advice because while I don’t speak a lot, I observe a lot and can apply that to try to help people. My shyness is something I’m trying to work on, but the past rejections from when I was more social and open always have their way of coming back to haunt me. It’s slow going, but I’m trying. I hope one day I can get into a position where I can find my own person

@somesweetdreamm

2 ай бұрын

I am the same way. You’re not alone! I’m also very shy and it seems like men don’t know what to do with me. It’s hard 😢 but we just have to keep working on it! Hopefully you find someone who assumes the best in you!

“Rather being a team, than independent” is the key line right there! That’s exactly what I’m looking for. You can be strong and independent all you want but if you’re not willing to be a team together, it’s selfish and not worth anyone’s time and energy. And that’s unfortunate. One simple paradigm change could really change everything.

@davidhenningson4782

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Nailed it... if she doesn't need me or even want me... then the next thought I'd have... so why am I here with her at all? Doesn't matter how good looking she is... if she makes me feel used and worthless, I'm gone period. Walked out on one relationship and at least one date for that reason.

@konstantinrebrov675

Жыл бұрын

Collectivism rather than individualism is necessary for a relationship. This is why Asian countries are more harmonious than Western countries in relationships and family matters. Because the West has embraced toxic individualism.

@worldview730

11 ай бұрын

Independent means just that, on your own, so what is a person doing with someone, when they are on their own (Independent)

@Verena101

7 ай бұрын

I never found a good and fitting teampartner. It's not easy

@user-wg2vw3mz1v

6 ай бұрын

How do women not realize that "he's intimidated by me" is a giant cope?

Men don't look for a rival, they want a partner. That's literally it.

@AngelicWitch444

Ай бұрын

Women too ? Why’s only women’s job to be a “source of peace”? Men don’t bring peace to women’s life either, married women literally have a shorter life expectance than single women

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭21:9‬ "It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, Than with a contentious woman in a wide house". ‭‭Proverbs ‭21:19 "It is better to dwell in a desert land, Than with a contentious and fretful woman"

Courtney, Excellent video. Thanks!

Hearing that girl's story reminded me once of a girl I had to cut off. I mean, we couldn't even have a decent enjoyable conversation... her attitude and stuff she said was demeaning and inappropriate. I remember her later emailing me saying she thought the reason men didn't stay interested or approach is because they were intimidated by her. I never replied, but thought, No... they get a whiff of your personality and run the other way as fast as possible.

My wife is an amazing woman. She is a caregiver, she is very selfless to the point where people think they can take advantage of her... but they can't. She is also very strong willed and we both can be very stubborn. We are a great team and I'm thankful every day for her. There are so many self-centered, horrible people out there that I feel very blessed to have found her. I've supported my wife through her nursing career and once she gets her DNP she will have the capacity to out earn me a little bit. Like you stated. I don't care about that. I'm happy for her and extremely proud of her. We are a team. Her success is our families success. She sets such a great example for our daughter.

@inbakumar5374

9 ай бұрын

All the best man, Happy for you

@jamesdavidson676

9 ай бұрын

@getinthespace, You very much lucked out when you met your wife since the kind of women out there nowadays are such low life entitled losers altogether.

@philandthreepea

9 ай бұрын

Bless you, brother. Testimonies such as these are needed.

Things become beautiful when there is a need involved in the picture. For example, a seagull spreads out its wings because it NEEDS the wind beneath its wings and it becomes beautiful in flight. Babies are cute and also beautiful when they are dependent on their mothers milk. People are beautiful when they feel a need to serve and care for others, in order to get paid, so they can buy food to eat. Having an attitude of serving and trying to brighten the world's of other people, in whatever form that is, MAKES PEOPLE BEAUTIFUL!!!!

I saw that video where the woman said she was a croissant. There was a comment that said, “yeah, you’re flaky and make a mess!” 🎯🎯🎯

I just got out of a near 5 year relationship about 2 months ago. My mistake is I did things on her timeline. She decided when she moved in, when we got engaged, when we bought a house, etc just cause the sex was good. My biggest lesson, having just turned 33, is to create your life while you’re single, and when you meet the right person, don’t lose your identity as an individual. It will ruin your relationship.

@mickeypopa

Жыл бұрын

My honest opinion is that you were pussy-whipped. And I'm not saying that as a put down, it's just how I see it. You put such a high value on sex with her that you simply let go of everything else and let her be the 'man in charge' because you didn't want to risk her saying "ok, no more sex for you". Therefore, since women can rarely make up their mind and stick to something no matter what, you found yourself in a situation where she kept changing things around constantly and always being unsatisfied by the outcome of her decisions and choices, and blaming you for it. And that ultimately led to the break up because you could never "man up" (she probably even said that at some point). Now, take a look back and tell me I'm wrong.

@GordoDustin

Жыл бұрын

@@mickeypopa spot on bro. Trust me, I’ve gone through all that in my head many times over. I was a go with the flow person instead of having my own purpose and allowing her to enter it. I was a total beta. I definitely know now what mistakes to not make in the future.

@zhongguojiayou2675

Жыл бұрын

@Dustin Nelson Thanks man, sound advice my friend. I shall remember it forever. Peace ✌️

@iammisanthrope7764

Жыл бұрын

This goes for women too.

@bplayerr1

Жыл бұрын

​​@@GordoDustinove how us men can be direct and even brutal in our assessments but we take it like MEN and therefore we learn and improve! I went through this w my college gf, I was indeed pussy whipped for a whilem learned my lesson. The best lesson I could havw ever learned. It happens to all of us at least once. Even to my Chad friends. Good luck and protect yourself at all time 🍀✌️

Ultimately, people just want to feel connected with loving partners who are easy to be with. Being bossy, difficult, always right, or disconnected is not easy to live with.

@dancole2994

Жыл бұрын

These are the ones that say "you just can't handle a boss bitch". Why would anyone want to handle that? I'd much prefer a mature, authentic, honest and assertive lady, or if not, be single.

Spot on. I have a boss at work and a mom. I don’t need another and I don’t need stress and drama after work. I’m already exhausted after work. Moreover, women forget two become one and should collaborate, not that one person or the other controls. Type A woman? No thank you. I’ll stay single and can move on whenever I choose. No strings attached. No alimony. No financial devastation.

Kudos to Courtney for explaining about what it is like to hear her women friends. I can relate.

Yes!! as a woman who is called a pick me girl because of my views I love this!! ❤❤❤

@vapeking466

Жыл бұрын

We men love pick me girls! 💯

@JCJW101

Жыл бұрын

The irony of people using this as in insult means they're just obnoxious.

@BruceCross

Жыл бұрын

Women who understand men will always have a natural advantage.

@mafp22w

Жыл бұрын

I disagree with the comment on woman with financial success. I’ve never desired a woman that didn’t want to be a stay at home Mom. The best gift I’ve ever given my wife is the ability for her to stay home. She has flourished there and we have an amazing home because of it.

@somedandy7694

Жыл бұрын

Remember: "pick-me" girls get picked. Picky girls go pack.

It’s not intimidation, it’s annoyance lol. Great video!!

@tshaolin971

Жыл бұрын

Yes theses narcissists are so in love with themselves that it prevents them to realize how insufferable they are in reality.

Great video. The whole reason why we search for mates is that we have a need...a need for companionship, love, someone to share life with. Why would a man (or a woman) want to develop a relationship with someone who [supposedly] has no needs? If pride prevents us from admitting vulnerability (a need), then we'll continue to stay single. You can continue to kid yourself, place blame everywhere else, and that'll possibly make you feel better about yourself. But if you honestly look inward, you'll discover what this other lady did.

Well explained by you thanks

Courtney your channel is a breath of a fresh air. It's crazy how saying things that are a common sense has become an exception instead of being a standard. Keep up the good work!

‘Men don’t care about how much money you are making, they care more about your attitude, how you make them feel and to be honest most importantly how you look and complement the relationship’ this is just a great great video.

@bleblee

Жыл бұрын

Mgtow Men

@TheLace

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that’s just not true. Money to them is first and foremost.

@bleblee

Жыл бұрын

@thomaslacy2002 Yeap but if you have money you can fuck with them And get your mind out of the gutter

@johnweir3168

Жыл бұрын

Men don't care how much a woman makes because she considers the money she makes her money. She considers the money he makes - if she is generous - their money. The man has no access to her money and will have to sit and watch her spend her money on nails and hair and makeup and jewelry. Her goal in finding a man, it seems. is to be able to use more of her money on discretionary spending rather than basic overhead like rent and debt maintenance which "their money." will cover.

@jasono2139

Жыл бұрын

@@johnweir3168 yup... Exactly. My wife literally went to the extent of creating a secret debt account for "her money"... Meanwhile had no problem paying for all of the bills from "OUR" shared bank account!

Some people meet on apps, but back in the day we met in person at parties and clubs. There was more than good looks!

First Girl nailed it. Guys just want someone who is nice works together, funny. Dont care how much money you make or even what you look like. We care that you're nice to people and good person. Healthy things yet hard to find.

So many people think of a relationship as a competition instead of a partnership and then wonder why the relationship failed… look for a partner instead of a competitor and you’ll both support each other regardless of who succeeds!

@tshaolin971

Жыл бұрын

Don’t use partner this is a feminist term in the sense of equality and sameness, mate is better for expressing a relationship between a man and a woman in the sense of complementarity and friendship.

@tyarnold4088

Жыл бұрын

@@tshaolin971 he can use whatever word he wants.

@tyarnold4088

Жыл бұрын

Especially young women look at the relationship as a competition.

@arcaine101

Жыл бұрын

He can use the wrong word he wants too. Lol

@tshaolin971

Жыл бұрын

@@tyarnold4088 Words have meaning and in this case feminists see a partnership as a business relationship, this is how you slowly assimilate their warped world view. They already changed the definition of what a woman is in the dictionary to include trans people. Men are the gatekeepers of rationality and order while women give emotional meaning to words and are chaotic.

“Embrace femininity and bring peace.” I’m literally relaxing just thinking about it. 🙏🏼

I was very unhappy without being able to put my finger on it until I started taking accountability for myself. I realized that admitting that I'm wrong is a direct path to happiness, and with it came a lightness that I had never experienced before. And when I learned that I realized that I like admitting that I'm wrong (as long as, if there is another person involved, won't lord it over me) because it means more leveling up and an improved life.

I'm no "boss babe" but I'd argue that there are good types of arguments to have in a relationship. I love getting into heated debates with my boyfriend and we both agree that it's more fun to have someone that challenges you on things rather than someone who is overly agreeable with no opinions and/or a doormat. In the end, as long as we agree to disagree and there is no disrespect, it's fine

@doncarlodivargas5497

6 ай бұрын

The thing with most men are, they do not like discussing/arguing with women, that's why most men do not like argumentative women, one reason is most women are better with words than men, women go straight to humiliation and hostility, and, while most men forget the whole argument after 5 minutes women never let a man forget, but terrorise a man for ever and ever about an issue

Courtney, I'm a 64 year old man and the one thing I can say I have noticed getting more and more out of hand with both men and women in my lifetime is that there is a super-abundance of super-egomaniacs on both the male and female side. The arrogance and highly materialistic expectations of both sexes in North America, and doubtless Australia, New Zealand, the UK and western Europe, is the ruination of more relationships than I can shake a stick at. Marriage is a lifelong partnership, _whatever_ may happen to you as a married couple! You should never view your husband or your wife as someone you will heave overboard just because times get rough or someone "better" comes along. If that is how any person is, do not marry them! Just Pass Go and Collect your $200, and keep looking! Of course, if you can find that out about someone before getting married your life will be far better, ha, ha! 👌💘😉

@wakeupuk3860

Жыл бұрын

Young man ;-) I am six years your senior and having been married twice, one was hell but stay until my sons grew up, one now I am very fortunate to have, in between an eight live in partnership and along the way quite a range of different ladies. Also, a lot of close mates like me became wise along the way with their failures and successes. On that basis, wish to say, your comments could not be more correct and speaking as an ex teacher (from industry) your words should be read out and LEARNT off by heart by kids in those counties you listed.

@laurentaylorhamilton

Жыл бұрын

i love you and hope you have a happy new year friend :)

@ToddSauve

Жыл бұрын

@@laurentaylorhamilton Thank you Lauren! Here is a musical gift for you. And Sohyang has a ton of other live performances here on KZread, as well. Just do a search of her name. kzread.info/dash/bejne/dWqdqsptqaXec9I.html

@jeanlundi2141

Жыл бұрын

Exactly Todd. I think a certain strata of society is going through a period of profuse fascination with materialism. . Also, the internet "democratized" reality in some ways...giving people acess to realities they wouldn't ever rendezvous with before. Also, serial monogamy is seen as the norm and healthy........but for me I don't udnerstand how people just move on from one person to the other with such ease. It shows how invested people really are when they say they love someone.

@ToddSauve

Жыл бұрын

@@jeanlundi2141 Yes, they are interested until next year's model rolls out. People like that should be avoided like the plague, if you can.

I've noticed this trend with myself. When I date a boss babe it feels like a competition. When I date more down to earth girls it's usually harmonious and peaceful

THANK YOU! For bringing up to these women the "whose the Common Denominator" observation. Only an INCREDIBLY low percentage of them over key in to them being the problem. And it's sad to think of all the tormented men they've left in their wake as they've travelled thru their whole life.

Great content, great mindset and maturity, Courtney. Loved the vid. Congrats

“We set such high standards for others, while holding ourselves to such low standards…” Damn, Courtney. That was beautiful. I’m using that and quoting you in the future. It sums it up so well and so succinctly. Just want to add, I’ve been watching your channel for a couple months now. I’m married and not looking for anything from women these days, but I do work with mostly women, and I decided I just wanted to get to know a more feminine perspective. I think you communicate in such an approachable, respectful, and insightful fashion, that I find myself thinking, “you know what? I’ve seen that behavior! I understand what you mean! Oh, that makes so much more sense now!” So keep up the work, offering your helpful commentary and observations! And while this is neither here nor there, I really think you have a fashion style that is understated and elegant. Really goes well with your content! Also, you don’t sound like a five year old. I remember you saying that others have said that, but your voice is soothing and even. So. There’s that, lol.

@forestMog

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately many men set low standards AND fail to meet them.. Average is not competitive in any world. Work at it guys!

@casioamplifier

Жыл бұрын

@@forestMog a wolf in sheep’s disguise LOL. Seems like you’re a woman behind that account Paul 😂

@soldatintelectual6544

Жыл бұрын

@@forestMog Compete to go to Mars not to steal eachother's food

@yakhooves

Жыл бұрын

@@user-45674xcfr I totally agree, plus she’s clearly so sharp and eloquent. She treats us guys and her fellow girls with respect, but can give us both the hard truth, even if it’s uncomfortable to hear. Her insights on us men are super accurate, so I absolutely trust her for a feminine perspective. Toss in an elegant style, a pretty face, and sweet demeanor, you have someone who is great to learn from!

The reason my wife and I have been in a happy marriage for approaching 20 years is that we approaches it with a team mentality. It is all about what makes BOTH of us happy, not just one individual. If she wants to do something but detects it might not be my thing, she will not unilaterally decide she’ll do it, no matter how much I may not like it. Not taking your partner for granted goes miles in a relationship. It shows kindness, love, and most importantly, RESPECT for your other! If you’re acting like a Boss Babe (or Boss Man), it’s not a relationship, it’s simply all about YOU! No partnership survives without the active participation of BOTH involved parties. Great stuff, Courtney! Glad I found your channel.

@samuelsiedschlag4486

Жыл бұрын

My last girlfriend asked me if I had to have a he-shed, or if she could have a she-shed? I smiled and said how about a WE-SHED...

@prettyllady

Жыл бұрын

Yes! I’ve been married for 16 years now & it’s definitely a partnership. all this red-pill rhetoric with alpha males is such a self-serving selfish mentality that it destroys relationships! Same thing with boss babes. Everything is Me, Me Me! When, in reality, everything is about working together & compromising… fulfilling each other’s needs. Relationships are reciprocal ❤

@raygordonteacheschess5501

Жыл бұрын

How tall are you and what do you make a year?

@ckyeung4286

Жыл бұрын

Well said, Alexis... My wife and I are kind of like that. We hardly ever argue because we 'know' how each other think.

@Baseballbruja

Жыл бұрын

Not married but my bf is a more independent person and I respect his space. If i give him space to do family things, video games, naps, etc then he will be happy when he comes back to me.

Even for men who like independent women like me, I don't find it very attractive if a woman makes me feel that I'm one more of their accessories in their life; one more box to be checked. I want to be clear that not all independent women are like that. There are independent women who know the value of sharing their lives with somebody, of course as long as that somebody is the right person.

Women aren't single and lonely. Even an unattractive overweight woman has more options than most men. They will never know what it's like to have no emotional support, no unconditional love. There are guys in her DMs, and when she walks out of the house people constantly giving her attention. If you think women are hitting a wall, or lonely, or being single because lack of opportunity you are sadly mistaken.

I started dating someone recently, and whilst we were walking around after dinner she asked me what I think are green flags in a woman. The only thing I could think of in the moment was pretty much word for word what you said: someone who gives me peace. It really is that simple, I'm a basic guy

@shanepatrick641

Жыл бұрын

Same here that's what I'd say, someone I can get on with!

That’s exactly what I want in a woman: a companion, not a boss. I wanna be encouraged, not belittled. This is my third video I’m watching if you and I cant get enough of your content. Thank you for advocating for men ma’am. Happy Sunday!

@blade8424

Жыл бұрын

We just don't like abusive bitches sadly. Yes women can abuse men too.

@wyleecoyotee4252

Жыл бұрын

You need a woman to be your crutch, another mommy

@RealYRM

Жыл бұрын

Not only do you want to date a female who is a companion, not a boss... but I don't think any of us even want to work for a 'boss babe' Not only are 'boss babes' terrible to date, they're terrible leaders. Think about if you had a male boss who strutted around, talking about what a boss he is, taking credit for your work, pushing people around... you might've had a boss like that... did ANYONE ENJOY WORKING FOR HIM? Did he get the best out of anyone? "Boss babes" are just terrible leaders who overcompensate for their lack of self confidence.

@SouthernJaeger

Жыл бұрын

@@RealYRM very well said.

@alansun70

10 ай бұрын

I wish for a female companion. I see women like being single more. I won't commit to it unless I had a group of female friends to socialize with.

I could not agree more. What you said is correct. Men like woman that is compatible with them. Never care how much money she can make. But will dump woman when they are toxic.

My 27F manager had this issue too. Never had a relationship, never been asked for a date. One time she brought us for drinks, and asked us if she should change or lower her standards. And the other girls were like 'no, don't change, you're a catch'... But in my head I was thinking that she should at least iron her clothes when she goes to office... Can't say it because it's just my first week there. She's not a narc, she just appears very strongly opinionated and proud, in addition to her lack of style. I was also removed by her in the team sooner because I do not succumb to her leadership style.

@Valen-xu2wy

Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail there. My thai wife in an Irish job, always looks respectable dressed and clean. Other foreign girls do the ssme. The irish women mostly put no effort in. Fall straight out of bed into work. Men also do it, but on a lesser scale. I am current Thailand, and it amazes me how well everyone looks in the cities going to work. Also it is easier to look and smile at a woman without the....stalker stare you get in Ireland. Very different

@ana-maria448

Жыл бұрын

That's a bit exist. As a woman who dated guy who came tod dates without any grooming effort, and expecting a lot or even making later on comments on my look, please consider being more kind to other women.

@milesssyy

Жыл бұрын

@@ana-maria448 I meant what I said here. She's asking for an advice. Again, she was asking for advice. Good for you that someone got attracted to you despite not doing anything. It's not working for her and for her past 27 years... The true unkindness is when people do not tell the truth and keep people from staying the same when they could improve a lot of things just to feed ones ego. I just want you to know that for the past months this person, even if she kicked me from the team, still continued harrassment on me. I just reported her to HR. She's an insecure and jealous person who cannot stand another lady (specially good-looking and smart) excel at work. I'm not the first nor the last one. I have no compassion towards her. She got no style, no looks and a terrible attitude, no wonder she's NBSB for 27 years.

@rocklee619

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Having friends who agree with everything can feel good, but it doesn't help us grow... I'm glad you saw through this.

@Mariathinking

11 ай бұрын

U sure she's not a narc?

The closest a man gets to being "intimidated" by Boss Babe is simply in knowing that if she feels more successful that you, she'll have no real interest in you. Being with you is settling.

Great video. 😊 Most people naturally gravitate to articles and videos with opinions that they already agree with. A smart person will absorb all different perspectives even ones that they don't necessarily agree with to get the best possible understanding about a subject or issue.

"Being honest with people allows them to grow" 👍👍

Personal accountability, on their behalf, is a rarity these days.

@antonboludo8886

Жыл бұрын

So true. This is why they tend to believe in "Destiny" and that things "just happen" by themselves.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Truly 😵‍💫

@stevenbrashear3408

Жыл бұрын

@@antonboludo8886 In order for things to happen, one has to do the work, and that involves a combination of self-discovery, shadow-work, reflection, etc. Overall, being in touch with reality.

@antonboludo8886

Жыл бұрын

@@stevenbrashear3408 You have nailed it. "When the time is right, it will happen.". I prefer to think "When the time is right, seize the opportunity, take action and MAKE it happen.".

@cliffthecoolcat

Жыл бұрын

Haha women had so many problems and it's all men's fault.