"Givers have to learn to set limits, because takers have none"

@delamarhamilton7225

4 ай бұрын

This 🙆‍♂️

@Seldomheardabout

4 ай бұрын

I like when sentences encapsulate my feelings.

@gazzmania150

4 ай бұрын

This logic has saved me so much hardship XD

@bdickinson6751

4 ай бұрын

100%

@johnjohnblazin

4 ай бұрын

Damn another banger comment , ty

The reason he puts back 5% is because he's trying to see if you're going to give some effort back or not. I don't blame him one single bit.

@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf

4 ай бұрын

Males do this to see if women will allow it. The slow define of effort happens regardless of women's contribution. Ladies, just opt out.

@KRYMauL

4 ай бұрын

Or he’s just been convinced that she’s in love with someone else and that you should move on. I did move on, but she kept expecting something even though everyone said that she was clearly in love with her ex. I was wanting to talk to her ex's girlfriend about my roommate's shit because that was her job. Instead, I got her fired and the girl came out and started screaming saying she thought it was about dating. Not once did I consider myself a prospect because the other guy clearly won by showering her with gifts. Needless to say, I told the guy that was going to Germany and he gave her his phone and told her to chase me. However, I was already of the mind that she would stay with the guy. Now it’s been almost 3 years since a professor called her out and I still want to go on one trip with her. Also, she kept saying that she had a friend. EDIT: Grammar

@RanchKings

4 ай бұрын

@@KRYMauL?

@RoddHoward

4 ай бұрын

​@@KRYMauL hey man, just run that through google translate again, I wanted to read what you put, but it doesn't quite make sense. Good luck bro

@user-qs2vs6ji4b

4 ай бұрын

Facts

My husband and i have been together for 15 yrs..... since out of HS. He still gives it all. He will wait for me on the front porch until i get home. Meet me at my car, help bring anything in, even if its just my coat and cup. Help me out of the car when im in a lot of pain from a long day of work. He does anything i ask of him. He randomly buys me little gifts. He *truly* cares for me. And why..... because he gets it all back in return. We take care of each other. We equally give all we can. We are very considerate of each other.

I stopped when I realized that no amount of effort was being returned.

@Shivam782

3 күн бұрын

no one puts the effort unless he gets the appreciation in return. So expecting same level of effort like in the beginning when nothing being reciprocated, that's foolishness

@simpinainteasy680

3 күн бұрын

What do you mean your reward was having the honor of expending time money attention and other resources on her. That in and of itself is a far greater reward that can never be paid back.

@Lazy_Smurf

2 күн бұрын

it took me talking to an outsider who I opened up to, to learn my ex gave 0 fucks about me. They had dumped me to "get theropy" and never did it, then a month later accused me of cheating on them with the person I confided in... proved to me I was giving too much for nothing in return. found out recently she started dating a dude in the friend group that I told her she was too friendly/flirty with during our relationship.(they would regularly exclude me from things during our relationship and he would tell me she said I didnt want to go years after[he told me because they had broken up and she did something similar to him that reminded him of me and messaged me out of the blue].) It crushed me that I was right, but it made moving on immediate. I feel sorry for the next relationship Im in, but I hope they are understanding. Sorry for over sharing.

@Shivam782

2 күн бұрын

@@Lazy_Smurf just learn from your mistake and never repeat same mistake again. like it is said a smart man makes mistake and never repeat again, a wise man see the mistake of smart man and never does that mistake.

@ItsAllApsyop

Сағат бұрын

If that's true AND she ain't working the joy stick, time to part like Moses.

That woman sounds exhausting.

@coleycole5344

4 ай бұрын

😭😭😭

@kennymonty8206

4 ай бұрын

For sure. I'd rather eat a broken light bulb.

4 ай бұрын

which woman

@J-O-H-N

4 ай бұрын

​@@kennymonty8206 I'll be sitting next to you taking shot glasses of nails

@kennymonty8206

4 ай бұрын

Oh my God, was there more than one?

What he gives - no matter how much he gives - gets criticized.

@chrisw8838

4 ай бұрын

It's just criticism all around. It's continuous and everlasting and all encompassing. There's a reason why men die earlier than women even if they are active, in shape healthy and work a safe job with no bad habits. They die inside a little bit after every negative statement and over time that compounds till you've used up all the will to live you had. Even healthy relationships often turn out that way. Some will however be successful and that hope keeps men in relationships they shouldn't be in, putting up with nonsense they wouldn't put up with from a man. It doesn't get better but it can absolutely get worse. So only stay with women who are consistent, who say sorry and try to make amends with you. If she is not your biggest fan and supporter day in day out you should leave. Women are so desperate to be in a relationship they will force it with a guy they don't really love then leave and trash you on the way out. When they shut off the lights in a bar you know it's time to leave, treat your relationships the same way. You'll live longer, be happier and will make room in your life for a woman that actually loves you for who you are.

@chriswilson7211

4 ай бұрын

yep.

@mernmoon

4 ай бұрын

Girls give some in the beginning and then they drop off like a cliff

@stephenhipp7859

4 ай бұрын

Fucking bingo!!

@TheIncredibleMrG777

4 ай бұрын

That is my reality

Emily is absolutely correct. It gets really tiring to put in 100% effort all the time and just receive an entitled attitude in return.

@FrankHaubrich-kd9vr

3 күн бұрын

Right on

It’s called appreciation, he will give 100% in the beginning because he knows you appreciate what he’s doing. He only starts to put in less effort when he notices that you are just expecting him to do what he’s been doing and you don’t return the same amount of effort. Listen ladies, you may think that giving him sex is more than enough, it’s not. You have to be willing to match his effort if you want that effort to continue. So if he’s not putting in the effort that he once did, he’s just matching what he’s been getting. Remember ladies, a guy likes getting treated just as special as you do.

@tempestwolf067

18 күн бұрын

Life Starts Off Giving You 100% Vitality. Then it goes down to 90, 80, then to 70 then down to 60 and If You Put In Some Effort You'll Get Like 5% Back but It's Never Back To 100% or 90 or 95 back down to like 60 When it started at 100.to like 60 When it started at 100. Sex Is Not "something women give men" ew gross idea! If Sex Isn't Something You Enjoy Together Then Your Minds Aren't Actually Compatible. (I don't think that's what you were saying. I'm just dumping a few thoughts into your comment. Thanks!)

@GundamReviver

4 күн бұрын

Bingo. This plus appreciation, not expectation. Even for small things.

@bobfranke2347

3 күн бұрын

Sex was never that important to me when I was dating, but good conversation and appreciation was. Maybe women need to consider that.

@Porkchopguy

3 күн бұрын

Well said, I couldn’t have said it better.

@FrankHaubrich-kd9vr

3 күн бұрын

That's the truth

The lack of self reflection and accountability is unfathomable

@robinwells8879

4 ай бұрын

You’re right. She obviously can’t hear herself. 😢

@timothyrothrock4173

4 ай бұрын

What percentage is she putting out. You receive what you are showing. Don't waste your time figuring him out. What's wrong with me is what you want to work on.

@frayzure

4 ай бұрын

Just your typical wahmen ☕️ these days…

@WomenAreRottingHoles

4 ай бұрын

@@frayzure as I say whine-men

@beatnik6806

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, this woman definitely have had million boyfriends and she is addicted for the first phase of the relationship. Is it called the "honeymoon phase"?

No reciprocation, no appreciation, only expectation

@SlikPapaRuff

4 ай бұрын

more proof a woman's soul is a Black Hole

@jaredlackey9177

4 ай бұрын

I heard a saying once, "Just because it's expected doesn't mean it shouldn't be appreciated."

@MrBixsonic

4 ай бұрын

Told my sister once what it was like to be in a relationship with a woman these days .."Oh it'll work out fine if you understand it's about her, it's always about her, it's only about her"..... Honestly it's 10 times lonelier than being alone.

@curtish5925

4 ай бұрын

@@MrBixsonic I feel you pain. I remember hearing of a young fellow who just started dating, ask his sister why he's always broke , but she has money. She said, " simple, I have a boyfriend and you have a girlfriend"

@positivel5530

4 ай бұрын

What does reciprocation look like to you?!? Is the affection, concern and care not enough ? Is the fact that I consider you in my day, plans and show up when you ask me to not enough! It’s exhausting on our end too🤷🏻‍♀️

Facts!!! I've walked away from relationships because of the lack or total absence of effort...

Yep. Welcome to REALITY girl.

Also another thing they conveniently leave out, is that they get so used to what they receive to the point they take it for granted.

@jaidynbell7885

4 ай бұрын

This! My ex literally admitted to my face that she was taking me treating her good for granted

@notyourtypicalwatchreview2563

4 ай бұрын

@@jaidynbell7885I’m glad she’s your ex.

@take7upyours822

4 ай бұрын

It's expected and never appreciated. And a guy needs respect or he goes elsewhere to get it. That's what these broads always fail to see. Only a simp will grovel and stoop to pathetic levels to please them.

@darkbringer1440

4 ай бұрын

Yeah. Half the time, that "effort" drops 5%, not from less effort but from her taking more of it for granted and just not perceiving it anymore which then triggers the other half the time it drops because he's literally penalized for putting in effort.

@Enigma.88

4 ай бұрын

Saturation my dude

If a woman said this to me, I would ask how much effort are you putting in?

@user-sf3ih2ns2d

4 ай бұрын

SPOT ON...!!! Well Honey, WHERE THE HELL'S "YOUR 100%"...??? WHEN I SEE IT..., THEN YOU'LL SEE "MY 100%" AGAIN....🤔🤨😡👊😎

@Raymal100

4 ай бұрын

"I AM THE TABLE"

@OtisCluck

4 ай бұрын

Then she would get all pissy and offended, and start some tirade about misogyny or some other bullshit

@guitarswiftable

4 ай бұрын

She would simply avoid the accountability by switching topics and offending you with unrelated things

@lukemustafa6692

4 ай бұрын

I wouldn't..... I'd disappear and get on with my life.

Your so right girl, we do stop after not getting anything in return.

Love the last part! “Just trying to figure out if you actually like him”. Right on. I’m married 30 years now to the only woman honest enough to let me know she liked me.

@thomasgalligan134

25 күн бұрын

Your just as lucky as I am then. 30 years and I still don't understand why she still loves me. But I still love her as well.

@mikeslater6246

10 сағат бұрын

​@@thomasgalligan134I'm the same at 45 years of marriage.

An old woman told me when I was a teenager, "Son no matter how good looking she is somebody somewhere is sick of her shit". That's the most truthful statement I've ever heard and it was a 60 year old lady that said it.

@martinboyle9163

4 ай бұрын

Truth!

@user-in3hp6ow2h

4 ай бұрын

Wise words indeed. 😂

@johnlibonati7807

4 ай бұрын

100% truth. Been there.

@GnomesBeCool

4 ай бұрын

Lol my step mom once told get a woman you can get along with because they all look the same in the dark 🤣

@seanlinnan2719

4 ай бұрын

My roommates dad told me that. It's so true

Men stop trying when they realize it's not going anywhere.

@cheesethatdoesntbelongtoyo7279

4 ай бұрын

Or when we realize she not mother material

@chevychelios4672

4 ай бұрын

That woman has audacity to judge, good luck judging and getting left over-over again

@AnEmerald

4 ай бұрын

Bologne

@deependguitar777

4 ай бұрын

AGREED!!!!!!! This woman appears to be one to walk away from FAST!!!!!!!

@RapK-fu2sh

4 ай бұрын

Not receiving the effort back?! Lol suddenly she knows every man's relationship and the problem with it. Nice try! These "experts" spreading toxic misinformation on videos and attempting to validate a segment of men with fragile egos. Real men are confident enough in their abilities and don't need cr@ppy videos to tell how to treat a woman right.

As a man this hits 100%!! We give less when all we do is give and can’t even get so much as a Thank You! Let alone anything else. Speak the truth Emily, you are so inspiring!

She notices he goes down in effort but doesn't think to put more effort in herself. Self centred

Absolute facts. Dudes get tired of giving 100% while receiving 0% back. It's unsustainable.

@notrelatedtobacon1282

4 ай бұрын

Effort and investment is like a battery for wach person How can we keep the charge up when we are only giving but never being recharged in kind right?

@tiagomota6226

4 ай бұрын

todays woman just put makeup on their faces and they already think they are the center of the universe like this one for example you look at her face and you can see she is full of makeup and so just because of that she thinks he as to give give give because she is a princess with makeup i am a real supporter of the ending of makeup companies let the woman be who they are with insecurity but at least she will get her feet on the ground for a change and pray for this modern woman mentality of being center of the attention and 304 passed and make them again wife material i truly belive if the cosmetics doesnt end they will forever be that unfortunately.

@shieldwolf65

4 ай бұрын

The whole beauty industry is calculated to attract men, all the surgical mods, salon Work, false lashes, hair, Botox, spray tans, lip fillers, Kardashian fashion that makes them expensive high maintenance Plastic Princesses. Of Course they think they've done all this for you, you should for everything else for her. Ultimately you'll end up paying for her vanity & she'll never understand it her vanity, not what you need. Red flags on these girls. For going out on a special occasion sure, for everyday - Run & don't look back.

@robertnoble6661

4 ай бұрын

Yup, if a woman cares, appreciates, and loves a man it will reach to 1000%

@andrewgardner1727

4 ай бұрын

@@tiagomota6226great idea and see how fast these woman will crumble it’s truly a sad fake world we live in

Women who demand to be treated like queens usually want a servant not a king

@sm_artx

4 ай бұрын

That's a severe burn for women who say that 😂

@user-gw5tc7nu4r

4 ай бұрын

FACT

@georgecurious2248

4 ай бұрын

Kings have lots of concubines to entertain him. She is not the focus of his life. She is a talking point.

@squidvis

4 ай бұрын

​@@georgecurious2248 Not European kings, which is usually the dynamic that women want. Oh and before you say "Henry the VIII!" That was one guy and most people agree that he was a scumbag.

@donquixote...

4 ай бұрын

These days, that'd be a butler, who btw, is paid...

Lady, you need to start a school for understanding men. You get us.

It's amazing how accurately she can measure effort ..I never knew it was such a precise science. 😊

Effort is always proportionate to appreciation.

@johnnelson7192

4 ай бұрын

Ooh ooh. I like this. 😮😮😮

@notyourtypicalwatchreview2563

4 ай бұрын

Well said.

@lilmama88

4 ай бұрын

As a decent woman(I'm35), that is correct.👌🎯

@yyyyyk

4 ай бұрын

Not just appreciation, also reciprocation!

@Todd_Swank

4 ай бұрын

Yep, I heard my neighbor compliment how my lawn looked dozen more times than I heard my soon to be ex say anything positive about the work I did.

Imagine if men expected women to give 100% of what they can offer…….😂

@waynehewett4017

4 ай бұрын

Yer right ... Hell would freeze over first before that ever happened....

@moldovancrisis5482

4 ай бұрын

That truly got a laugh from me. Thank you; very cathartic to see I am not alone in my experience. 😂 She wants to put in 5% effort and be praised like it's 110% and meanwhile nothing is ever enough for her.

@thesignman704

4 ай бұрын

😂🤣😂

@Voxavs

4 ай бұрын

lol fair point

@connor7296

4 ай бұрын

This is why i want to die.

Im already exhausted just listening to you, lady

Do you have a sister... Cousin... Like minded friend? The world needs more ladies like you!

A lot of men don't even expect equal effort in return, they'd settle for appreciation.

@AdLockhorst-bf8pz

4 ай бұрын

And sensible communication! Why can't women just *decide* and then *say* what they *WANT?!?*

@b4rs629

4 ай бұрын

@@AdLockhorst-bf8pz because they're indecisive 99.9% of the time. They can't even figure out what they want to eat.

@AdLockhorst-bf8pz

4 ай бұрын

@@b4rs629 Oh, but they DO! They want what's on your plate, things they are shy about ordering. Like fries.

@tonyrobbins1665

4 ай бұрын

Yes, and cooperation

@rudy_dstroys1821

4 ай бұрын

Ding ding ding! It's really isn't as complicated as math but really feeling appreciated is more than enough for me. Or at least acknowledging my efforts have gotten us this far without any negativity.

You can guarantee this broad is putting in a consistent 0%. One of the ones who, if asked what she brings to the relationship, she says "Me!" like that's a prize

@samuraitadpole5459

4 ай бұрын

Sadly there's an abundance of her personality type especially since women 99% of the time don't approach

@waynehewett4017

4 ай бұрын

This entitled bird is no prize...

@willshad

4 ай бұрын

@@Andel-1995 They don't approach anyone, except maybe the cops to report men 'harassing' them.

@brandonshelton7692

4 ай бұрын

@@Andel-1995 keep simping brother, it makes it a lot easier for the rest of us who actively avoid the nukes that “approach” you. Just so you know since you’re oblivious, you are responsible for the over inflated egos these women have you donut.

@RubbingPotatoes

4 ай бұрын

Don't be a hater. What she's saying is 100% true and you know you'd date her if you could. Like a dog waiting for a treat.

Thank you for supporting men! The odds are stacked against us in society. We don't receive nearly the amount of support that women do in society. Yet we continue to be the providers and without complaints. Men are hugely underappreciated in society.

that woman is a total red flag. RUN !

When effort doesn't pay off, the energy goes somewhere else.

@benoitguillou3146

Ай бұрын

Women spending starts at 100% , the she move in your home so you gotta pay food , her Netflix bill yada yada , you're now at 120% , then she puts out kiddies , expenses jumps up to 260% ....long story short the guy has to put more effort at work and comes back home exhausted hence the 10% in the "relationship involvement" .....But then she asks for divorce and the expenses skyrocket to 1650% plus half the house ....At this point "relationship involvement " touches minus 20%

@21nitro21

Ай бұрын

No, play the game build your value.

@SteveInLava

Ай бұрын

​@@21nitro21value is lost if very few is reciprocated.

@shieldwolf65

25 күн бұрын

Sometimes the women these days are clueless as to what energy they have to return. They think it's just se×, or paying the next tab & everything will be fine. With the average Chad, which is where most of thier experience is, that's a Fair mov😅e. With a Real man looking for. Relationship??? *NOPE*

@shieldwolf65

25 күн бұрын

Maybe try initiating *"Affection"* not lust. Showing genuine interest in his hobbies, putting time into figuring him out, plan outings, dates etc to off the wall places that show she understands him better.

Only a woman would legitimately feel like she has a right to complain about effort while giving absolutely zero. It doesn't even cross her mind. That's the scary part

@grantbishop1961

18 күн бұрын

It's because their taco 🌮 😋 is a commodity to be used and traded for goods and money. The thing is their quality is not all the same level lol.

@salbahejim

17 күн бұрын

It's not really scary, is just sad and disappointing.

@RichardDraggin99

16 күн бұрын

Bingo

@ShaneOffTheGrid

7 күн бұрын

Exactly. Never crossed her zero empathy self absorbed mind. Well said.

@raymondpeters9983

7 күн бұрын

Better having a hooked its cheaper 😂

All we want is someone to give back the effort we put in, not to have our effort taken for granted.

She is correct 100% if the man is with a respectful woman and he likes her back , The same effort and respect will not be any problem for eather person.

Crazy how they never question themselves. But quickly blames the man.

@patriarchmike

4 ай бұрын

It never even once occurs to them that they may be the problem. Not even once not ever.

@kevinward3088

4 ай бұрын

Western women believe that they are perfect and men are beneath them

@MrTsukudu

4 ай бұрын

They know they are useless and have no agency without men, that's why

@nedflanders3769

4 ай бұрын

Yep

@shieldwolf65

4 ай бұрын

Unless you want an argument DON'T ever suggest they might be the problem. 80% of Women simply won't accept it & will go on the attack, denial, whataboutism, Kitchen sinking, burning every bridge just to be right. Then of course you're expected to apologise for upsetting her.

This girl is used to giving 0%, and cries when the man wants her to do anything.

Emily you’re a damn genius! Thank you for putting these videos out there as they spread the absolute TRUTH about modern day relationships! Women expect and expect and expect! And if you ever find that one who does give, I’d highly suggest you hold on tight.

she’s a mathematical genius

Understood. Start off at 10% fellas.

@samuri119

4 ай бұрын

My Grandma always said don't set the bar to high, because where do you go after that?..

@budisutanto5987

4 ай бұрын

Always, don't envy guys who can get girls fast, he's giving everything & got nothing in return.

@WomenAreRottingHoles

4 ай бұрын

@@budisutanto5987 depends if he is ugly ye he is giving if he is hot no she is giving

@dandotvid

4 ай бұрын

10% is a bit unrealistic. Really, you should start off at around 70% and make sure she's worth the other 30%.

@JoeJ-8282

4 ай бұрын

I would say start off with only "half" effort (50%), and ONLY IF she proves herself to be actually worthy of the "rest" of you, THEN you can do more, but NOT unless and until she shows that she's actually worth that much from you, with her overall quality of character, personality, morals, values, and especially her quality of internal Spirit! If she can't show you that much then she's never gonna be worth any more than only your "50%". (And of course the exact number percentages to start with and then go up (or down) from is ultimately relatively unimportant, but the main thing is that a true partnership and Loving relationship is only worth it IF it's an EQUAL energy, effort, time, affection, Love, and positivity exchange among and from BOTH partners, back and forth to each other, and on an ongoing, continual basis throughout your lives together as a couple!

It’s called comfort. A truly happy couple can just be in each other’s company doing literally nothing saying nothing and be perfectly content.

@georgefromgreece4119

18 күн бұрын

Excellent insight.

@user-ps1ft1hy4j

14 күн бұрын

That's the only kind of people who should be a couple.

@Richard_Nickerson

10 күн бұрын

This. I need a woman who understands this.

@cjkohlberg

8 күн бұрын

This is me and my girl. She has anxiety so she doesn't like to do too much. Lucky for me, I don't either lol. So we send reels and talk all day. And when I see her we just hangout and watch TV and talk and do all the cozy things together

@jeffsaxton716

7 күн бұрын

You learn that if you manage to avoid breaking up by sixty or so.

Spot-on. The girl is talking about the guy giving 75%, 80%, etc. No mention of how much *she’s* giving.

Most true shit ive heard in my life effort should be reciprocated

Facts. A LOT of women swear they give effort when they don't give a damn thing

@jomacba

3 ай бұрын

I will add that in my experience women will only out in the effort when it's convenient for them.

@bjornironsides6474

3 ай бұрын

Yup only when convenient and they think just seggs is the only effort they need to give. Let's ignore the constant nagging, passive aggressiveness, acting like cleaning means you're doing nothing... etc.

@TheDeathmail

3 ай бұрын

The reverse is also true. Many times, problems males face in relations with females are often also reflected in reverse...

@jzurita6186

3 ай бұрын

​@@TheDeathmailwomen believe simply showing up to the date is putting effort. That's like saying accepting a gift is reciprocating.

@shinymew2887

3 ай бұрын

@@TheDeathmailyou shouldn’t be able to vote.

If "What did you bring me" ? was a woman.

@soulextinguisher

4 ай бұрын

often is

@cobra8888

4 ай бұрын

The usual Eddie Murphy joke. “What have you done for me lately?”

@unlimited971

4 ай бұрын

Talking like it s not women by default

@tanucci733

4 ай бұрын

​@@cobra8888 "I want half, Eddie.." 😅

Em, This is very true! Thanks for your support. God bless you. ✝️🇺🇸🙏🏻

Nailed it. We go in knowing we need to go over the top but eventually we match what is given.

Nobody can afford red lobster, an amusement park, a dozen roses, and to take off work every single day. Its called scarcity.

@kingcerberus93

5 күн бұрын

It's called life lol

@dirkfrazier9779

5 күн бұрын

It's because somebody quit puttung out!

It's not "give, give, give" its "provide, provide, provide". Treat him like he is 100% and he will keep providing 100%. He cuts back because you take him for granted.

@Justin-ox2xn

4 ай бұрын

They don’t think this is possible! It’s our job 😢

@mrOGbobbyjohnson

4 ай бұрын

Providing is giving. Doesn’t matter if it’s food, money or time, you’re still giving it

@maleenajewelry

4 ай бұрын

Treat her 100% in bed first 😂

Amen. I did all the cooking, cleaning , laundry, yard work , house work , dishes. Worked 60 + hours a week. Took her to once in a lifetime travel experiences. Married her. Took exams for her RN license in classes she was failing, so she has a career & feels confident & independent. Got her on the reality TV Show i did 27 episodes of. Made her breakfast in bed for 4 years every sat and sun. Caught her cheating with videos & photos. I guess I gave too much. I'm joyful to be divorced. At some point the 21 nights in a row at bars was too much. The cheating too much. Wait for it. I was told "I want a divorce" ( while I'm hustling on the road for work ) via text message once i challenged the lies i was told about the 21 nights in a row at bars for 4 hours a night. Text message then lawyers. Really.. Are you kidding me. Again joyful to get rid of a love bombing, lying, cheating, zero empathy, zero culpability, narcissist. Painful lesson.

The man is slowly becoming aware of his situation and he is lowering his level of effort to match that of his partner.

@aliray7833

Ай бұрын

Yep.

@Ard-mhacha-abu

Ай бұрын

100%

@ashley_brown6106

Ай бұрын

Not true at all, I always give 100% every day and they always drop and drop

@NigraeLegiones

Ай бұрын

​@@ashley_brown6106then you've chosen the wrong person. Men generally will always put in 100 when they're shown that theyre loved and approciated for it. However if that isn't the case then their efforts starts lowering yo match what they're receiving. Tbh what most women view as putting in effort isn't actual effort they seem to have the view that being attractive and having a vagina is all the effort needed from them and men should just give give give.

@jkutyna

24 күн бұрын

@@ashley_brown6106 perhaps your 100% does not match their 100%, so yet again, they are lowering their effort level. It is difficult to self analyze ourselves until we get older and more objective. It is a skill you must actively cultivate in an effort to become a better human being.

That actually says a lot how much reciprocation this woman gives to her men.

@Resmund

4 ай бұрын

My ex used to love bomb me all the time, when I got used to it and also responded more she stopped, that was around 6 months into the relationship, then she called me clingy when I asked if anything was wrong because there was sudden decline in our talks and effort on her part, so I also started putting less effort and after few months it was all over.

@djgamingdragon969

4 ай бұрын

​​@@Resmundsame exact shit happened to me, bro(maybe i put up with bs longer than 6 months until I blocked her) but she had you trauma bonded bro

It’s not that we are putting forth less effort, it’s that it takes more effort to continue to do everything we have been doing without any acknowledgement of the effort we put in. A simple “Thank you”, a hug or kiss on the cheek every day would supercharge your man.

She acts like she is putting in 100% constantly 😂😂

Sounds like a manager talking about an employee's declining performance.

The man just begins to match the effort the woman gives. Know your worth kings 👑

@PaydayGabeBCNV

4 ай бұрын

🙌 This comment is 💯 Valid !! Sadly everything has become "transactional". " what have you done for me lately "...🤦‍♂️ Pathetic.

@jakemidnight7458

4 ай бұрын

Damn good comment

Emily’s response is exactly correct.

Bingo, I give my wife 100 percent everyday, faithfully and whole heartedly. Some days I have an empty cup and it’s only a drop to spare, and she fills me up when that happens. My wife and I are besties and we have never had a single fight in over 5 years of being together. She is my everything and my life would fall apart without her, our son turns 6 months tomorrow. She gives us 100 and I give them 100 and we both feel bad that the other is doing more than we are. It’s called loving someone. It’s an act, it’s a verb, it’s a decision, and it’s a habit. Love is not a “feeling”, and love does not have to be difficult. My marriage is honestly the easiest most stable thing I’ve ever had in my life.

A mans effort is directly correlated with how much of his soul hasn't been sucked out and crushed.

@pwh5805

Ай бұрын

Yup, if you meet this type of man, just run.

@scotshanley

Ай бұрын

​@@pwh5805run ? Run where ? Run to the next man whose life your going to destroy. 🤦🏻‍♂️ May your feet always be bare and every road you walk on be filled with broken glass that you may never reach your destination or destroy another man's soul.

@d.gerstmann4930

Ай бұрын

False. That's boy shit.

@pwh5805

Ай бұрын

@@scotshanley ?? All I’m saying is do not engage with these men. Stay far away from them. You’re interpreting it as the opposite?🤷

@troysimmons506

Ай бұрын

This applies Jobs as well

He’s matching the effort he’s getting in return

Thank you for not making all men out to be trash and lot what you say I experienced...

This was true... at least for a couple relationships I've had. For example, one ex was great in person in public. We had fun, shot the shit and genuinely liked one another... realized after close to a month that I was always the one reaching out, talking, texting, etc. I started to feel resentment towards her in a way. It was awkward bringing it up to her. But she only made small improvements after I explained how it made me feel.. so I tried something... I stopped initiating. I went about 2 weeks, hoping she would do or say SOMETHING... it's not great putting in so much effort, but feeling like you don't exist to her when she gets home. I chose to break it off and God knows she tried to act like she understood, but you could tell her eyes were glassy. I do hope she learned from this or found someone that better suits her. That being said... my wife and I both give less effort than when we first met. I don't think this applies in all situations; because no matter who you are, the longer a relationship lasts it just gets stale. It's natural. Despite this we still have a great marriage so far. We just kinda shifted from 'telling' stories to 'making' them.

Ladies, men give you the amount of effort you deserve. If his effort is going down, YOU are slacking.

@tomaszstramel3594

Ай бұрын

Even that is often done on credit, i.e. in the hope of being at some point reciprocated.

@1Skorpia

Ай бұрын

That's when men get dumped. 😂

@TheLvGordo

Ай бұрын

@@1Skorpiaenjoy your cats

@seemykids99

Ай бұрын

@@1Skorpia and I'm sure those men are absolutely crushed that a No Effort Woman left them. And, yeah, enjoy those cats.

@crytoorlabs6347

Ай бұрын

Why should they when they can move on to next guy effortlessly and without consequences

Women like that don't actually like their man, they just like what he can do for them

@seanceknowles2911

4 ай бұрын

Can say the same thing of men. Men will stay with or even marry women they don’t like.

@moon66487

4 ай бұрын

Why would be with someone that does NOTHING for you? You really want to be with a man that'll let you raise the kids on your own? Or perhaps doesn't even show you love in anyway?

@yoachim91

3 ай бұрын

@@seanceknowles2911 You never heard any man say what the woman in this video says EVER. You know why? Because we don't think that way, if i don't get the same attention from a woman i start by thinking what i did wrong not what she did wrong....

@seanceknowles2911

3 ай бұрын

@@yoachim91 that’s not true. While there is a percentage of men who don’t think like this, there is another who does. I’m old enough to have seen with people around me to all the places I’ve been and the people I’ve met that a man will drag you along without hesitation if you let him. They won’t question why the attention that he put first is decreasing because he exhibited just right to be able to get you and after that there is no effort needed according to him. Men get too comfortable in relationships and marriage and that’s just not how things work. When I mean comfortable is not putting the same effort. Women disconnect or exist the relationship mentality and emotionally before walking away. Why? Because you tell the man that he is lacking in the attention and affection and intimacy department and he will look at you dumbfounded like you’re some horrible liar.

@yoachim91

3 ай бұрын

@@seanceknowles2911 Ofcourse men "drag you along" we are the once who mostly start relationships and marriage in the first place . You know how marriage "works"? Till death do us part what do you think that means? Yeah and that is normal that after a while you start building a live instead of being inlove teenagers. Having a woman is only one small aspect of being a successful man so we can't just focus on that. Once you have children it becomes even worse because all the attention and time go's to the kids. We men are always in last place when it comes to attention but you think you get to complain to us when we get used to that? I think loads of women think they put in the effort but complaining about everything is not putting in effort btw. Strange way to solve a problem disconnecting and giving up, imagine if we men did that what the world would look like. You do realise how hopeless and childish that sounds right? "I don't get enough attention so i am going to trow a tantrum so i get attention the wrong way" and you find it strange we look at you like you are crazy. Your whole comment proves it again, where is the " what did i do " but no it's always the mans fault right 😂. We men can never do enough women always want more and they offer the bare minimum. You say women want attention, affection, intimacy from a relationship, oke so one little question for you, you have a clue what men want?

Thank you for speaking about it, this is True, I had some relationships where the ex was telling me--- you are changing, -- you used to do more, but she wasn't reciprocating or even acknowledged that she wasn't, so I just grew tired and eventually left.

I love that you understand men logic. Continue to spread it to other women

Show your man 100% appreciation he'll never stop giving 100%

@Fyfester666

3 ай бұрын

Facts! That's the effort we appreciate! This entitled "but its the bare minimum" attitude a lot of women seem to have for what's quite frankly 110% above and beyond levels of effort is astonishing!

@zakirchoudhury9206

3 ай бұрын

That’s no true. Most people don’t give 100%. They give what they can get away with. It’s not gender specific.

@heinzerbrew

3 ай бұрын

@@zakirchoudhury9206 right on the money about the average human.

@psychopompous489

3 ай бұрын

@@zakirchoudhury9206 I wouldn't say people only give what they can get away with. People give what they think is maintainable, what can help give them a sense of meaning, and what they think will be returned. That's usually 75% for a good situation (In case they get blindsided, and need 25% spare), and bare minimum in a bad one.

@raphaele863

3 ай бұрын

If he gives a 100 in the beginning he definitely can continue if he sees ur appropriation (not though words only but being caring towards him n building relationship) instead some women expect their attendance to be enough.

Modern Woman: Women can do everything a man can do... Except reciprocate effort in a relationship.

@elpacho....9254

4 ай бұрын

Or admit fault.

@jackyoung2198

4 ай бұрын

Or have less bodies then a man.

@Iron-Bridge

4 ай бұрын

They can do everything except the difficult stuff that exists outside their narcissistic lens.

@darinheight6293

4 ай бұрын

Yes they can, even have sex with women. A man these days have it extremely difficult trying to compete for women.

@KhayreeMiles

4 ай бұрын

Facts😂😂😂😂

The man will put in an equal amount of effort that the woman is giving.

The accuracy of this statement is so factual it hurts 😭

Right. That woman just talks about what she wants. She never even thinks about what HE might want. No wonder this is her experience.

@SilentHotdog28

4 ай бұрын

It's also because she is going after guys that treat her like that, for some reason women like guys treating them badly......but then complain about it, then do it again. Women don't know what they want.

@vivekagrawal4232

4 ай бұрын

100-0 90-0 80-0 50-0 10-0

@antclerfont8478

4 ай бұрын

For real

@christianchetwood2581

4 ай бұрын

​@@SilentHotdog28She is probably more into the guys than they are into her if that is the case. In that situation, taking away their attention makes her want to chase. She feels the illusion of action as her anxiety kicks in. She's probably addicted to those kinds of guys and is only just realising.

@SilentHotdog28

4 ай бұрын

@@christianchetwood2581 But she will eventually try and 'settle down' and get with someone that is actually good for her and try and convince him that she isn't damaged goods. She likely won't be able to succeed and will become jaded and take it out on the younger generation of women by telling them to do the same thing.

Meanwhile, she gives 10% at the start and continues to give 10% and says "my effort has never gone down, unlike yours!"

@paulf3

3 ай бұрын

Yep. This is the same kind of woman that gets dressed up to go out with the girls and tells her husband that she doesn't dress up for him because he's the safe space, the whole point is to not have to put in effort.

@marinalovric2700

3 ай бұрын

Maybe its just a manipulation tactic hot and cold to lurk in her emotions and becomes emotionally attached 🤷‍♀️

@allanirvine7304

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂👏🏻 amen brother

@brandonfeeley514

2 ай бұрын

​​@@marinalovric2700could be but most men aren't that manipulative, unless the were used a bunch by people unless they basically broke and went to full manipulate mode. That's only like 10% of men. The only reason "all the men I know" comes out of single people's mouths referring to manipulative people is they only go to the bars and the clubs where the predators are. The minute the see a real man who would actually put in the effort, most times blow him off and not even say hi or make eye contact, because of all the manipulative guys they are constantly around. Then only if they are like male model looking even give a chance...but then if he is actually considerate he has to fight a thin line of be a jerk/look the part or he gets completely blown of like he is weak. Be willing to bet most guys that are being blown off like this make a pretty good wage, and would actually take care of you. If you asked them to do some freaky thing they would. But too stuck on obviously 100% of men are out to do something nefarious, which is a mistaken belief. But just keep gping on with that mistaken belief wondering why you always end up in the same situation.

Life is already a full time job. I can tell that if a dude is rolling with you, he DEFINITELY ain't getting no SLEEP.

Treat your partner from day one with the same amount of respect forever.

The effort goes down because over time we realize that no matter how much we give, it will never be enough.

@asdfbeau

3 ай бұрын

people need to understand that it isn't a conscious decision until you're at that 10%. That initial 100% is a man's attempt to show what's _possible_ with him, if she comes in and supports him. Nobody can give 100% of their best time/energy to someone, without other parts of their life suffering.

@DeniseFriendo

3 ай бұрын

It's not about giving enough in their mind, it's about being enough.

@DrBoX89

3 ай бұрын

Before I met my wife, this was my experience. Giving everything but getting zero from the other side

@paulguzman7088

2 ай бұрын

That's why it should be, everyone put up 50%/50% since we're equals. Women's effort will likely stay higher than the current 1%

@definingimage

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely

Remember gentlemen, no matter how beautiful she is, someone, somewhere is tired of putting up with her crap.

@sarvolfe6435

4 ай бұрын

Dude, I love your avatar.

@seeya205

4 ай бұрын

Beauty gets old quick when they are a b.

@DrummerJay74

4 ай бұрын

After awhile of not getting anything in return you give up trying. And then the woman wonders why? They aren't too bright are they?

@ChineduOpara

4 ай бұрын

Absolutely true!

@beatnik6806

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, this woman definitely have had million boyfriends and she is addicted for the first phase of the relationship. Is it called the "honeymoon phase"?

Couldn’t be more correct than that. It’s a team. You give, take a little. But for me, I give more than I take. That’s just the way it was growing up. My papa lead by example. Watched him CONSTANTLY help others every single time he could. Believe me when I say this….. It’ll come back tenfold if your effort and good intentions have been noticed and felt. That man was loved, respected, and appreciated by all who knew him. God I keep commenting about this man…. Miss that man daily🙏🏼❤️😔

Thanks Emily for this commentary. We men get sick and tired of “putting in the effort” w little or no reciprocation. It’s like digging a well that is promising but the deeper you go without any water, the more you think about digging in another area.

it goes down because when we give 100%, you don't appreciate it, so you ask for 150% and you give nothing in return

@runeingebretsen8378

4 ай бұрын

and women only put in 100 percent in bed,outside of bed they put in 50 percent.

@harigaribovic799

4 ай бұрын

@@runeingebretsen8378 more like 20 precent in bed especially if you are in a long-term relationship if she even wants to have s.. but that's something we don't talk about here 😂🤣😂😅

@andrewstratton806

4 ай бұрын

​@@runeingebretsen8378some don't even put out 100 percent effort in bed

@shakeelahmed8222

4 ай бұрын

😂😂

He isn’t dropping his effort level, he is just trying to match hers!

@johnboehmer6683

27 күн бұрын

Very good way to put it

Exactly 💯 Why should a man continually give when he feels he'll never receive any return in investment?? 🤷

Give him something worth 100%

I didn't hear her say ONE WORD about how much effort SHE puts into the relationship. My advice for the guy is: RUN AWAY! RUN AWAY! DANGER WILL ROBINSON! DANGER!

@sircefiro

4 ай бұрын

What do you mean? She's so fn amazing, you're graced by her presence

@ShiftyMcGoggles

4 ай бұрын

@@sircefiro Think he's talking about the tik-tok user, not Emily.

@112233JORDAN

4 ай бұрын

There will always be a sucker for her as long as she has those looks. Eventually, that will disappear, and she will be forced to settle. Sad reality of life.

@1notgilty

4 ай бұрын

​@@112233JORDAN Right. And then she'll make that chump's life a misery until they get divorced and she takes half of his worldly possessions. What a deal!

@K.B.Williams

4 ай бұрын

​@@1notgilty Say it again so they can hear that in the back!

Wow , that’s spot on ! ❤. When you want to go on vacation😢, just put this video on ‘Repeat”. Maybe when you come back, you’ll have changed at least the way some women think about relationships. “It’s not a game to play with men’s lives and feelings.” !!!! (That’s what happened in my marriage, no reciprocation)

So true Amen I'm glad you girls understand men that's awesome love to hear this from a true women like you.

Absolutely no reciprocation, a man feels like a working mule 😢

@RealCadde

4 ай бұрын

Working mules get more reciprocation than most men do. Mules are brushed, they are fed without question or nagging, they get shelter without having to maintain it, they receive love and affection simply for being mules, they are spoken to with a kind voice, they are taken for walks down the countryside, their shit is swept aside, they are cleaned, they get massages, they are scratched and they get the medical attention they need. How is it that women can take care of babies, animals, themselves and their friends... But can't give their supposed love of their life the same care and attention? Yeah...

@4literv6

4 ай бұрын

​@@RealCaddethat was amazingly well stated! No men? no society as we know it=the end! you think women are gonna work the oil rigs? work pulling chain logging? work as brick layers? build building's? build roads? maintain, repair and engineer the very infastructure they&all of society depends on daily like us men actually do? 😅 guess which gender is the most murdered? most successful suicides? most otj injuries&fatalities? most imprisoned? Most casualties in any conflict globally? If you guessed men to any or all of those you are right! men literally do the majority of everything daily that matters to keep society functioning and we are treated worse than stray dogs.

@huntmatthewd

4 ай бұрын

Correction: to them a man IS only a work mule.

@alexanderanghel7946

4 ай бұрын

I need reciprocation below the belt

@bobculhane4746

4 ай бұрын

@@alexanderanghel7946 hahaha 😆 absolutely

Very true. A true healthy relationship is when the 'effort' is coming from BOTH sides. Should NEVER be one-sided.

@user-bc2cv8ic9m

4 ай бұрын

YES!

Ms Emily I hope it didn't hurt to bad when you fell? I am envious of your man he is truly blessed of God I pray for you both ✝️❤️ much blessings for all of you .

Exactly why I left my ex. I never felt that I was appreciated for everything I would do for her and her 2 daughters, and I'd brought this up time and time again, met with promises of change. She was the most beautiful girl I've ever been with, doesn't matter. A real man will stay where he is valued.

@pattersonfilm9117

3 күн бұрын

Exactly, learn from that experience and never repeat it my man!💪👍

I stopped talking to a girl a few months ago for this EXACT reason. I think she might’ve seen the original video because she said almost the exact same thing about my effort dropping by certain percentages and called me manipulative. That was the craziest thing I’ve heard all year. I’m not manipulative, she just refused to reciprocate interest and even told me herself that she doesn’t think she should have to put effort into relationships. Sometimes you just need to let them be someone else’s problem ✌🏾

@SvenDansk7

4 ай бұрын

She told you that she doesn't believe she should have to put effort in? Does she really think relationships should just happen to her? That is unhinged.

@allanmason3201

4 ай бұрын

So she didn't feel the need to devote any of her time and emotional energy to making the relationship positive for both of you, and it was all on you to make the necessary sacrifices and compromises? Walking away from Miss Entitled was an excellent move.

@sunfilms5089

4 ай бұрын

@swenDansk7 Women like this view “dating” as just something that”happens to them”, not as something that they “Initiate” or put any effort into. If this is how they are unfortunately.

@TokyoSexwale23

4 ай бұрын

@@allanmason3201exactly. It was the most extreme form of not wanting to go 50/50 or the “I am the table” mindset I’ve ever seen. One thing she taught me was that all that glitters is most certainly not gold

@TokyoSexwale23

4 ай бұрын

@@SvenDansk7yeah she wanted the man to do all of the work to try to “win” her, then he has the great privilege of paying all her bills (sarcasm). She even told me she didn’t want a man in a relationship with her to feel secure, like he could be replaced at any moment. Some of the stuff she said was so ridiculous and came out of the blue, I just had to move on

I'm a man and I approve this message! It takes 2 honey. It takes work. There is NO room for "ONE WAY" mindsets.

@markrice9773

15 күн бұрын

Exactly!

So true. The woman feels more and more comfortable so she stops being as affectionate, so the man realizes she only treats him the way he wants to be treated when she’s insecure, so he stops trying because he is literally incentivized not to try because he gets rewarded for not trying and punished for trying.

100% effort and they’re still not happy. Facts

This is 100% true. If I’m not getting back, I back off on my effort.

@mcmarkmarkson7115

4 ай бұрын

No men puts 100% effort at the start. 100% comes when the kids are born. That "math" is just embarrassing for all women

@taylortripodi85

4 ай бұрын

It is simply because men are best at romance and passion generally. The relationship is an emotional entity. It primarily falls on the shoulders of a woman. Not fair , too bad, smarten up, get to work if you want a long long-term healthy relationship. The key is kindness and acceptance,not berating them for what they don't possess. We are learning about ourselves so you can choose to be a shrew or wise, you pick.

Exactly. When our efforts are no longer reciprocated we start drifting further and further away until the relationship is over.

@sunfilms5089

4 ай бұрын

Women seems to view things like getting her hair done, nails done, new outfit as “reciprocation” to the man. But a man does not view this as reciprocal TO him. These are just things that she does “for herself”. He is already attracted to and interested in her. HE needs to know she appreciates the things he does for her: planning dates, etc.

@clearsky9109

4 ай бұрын

​​@sunfilms5089 from KZread videos I jokingly think does reciprocation exist anymore?

Gee you nailed this!! The only effort they put in is putting on the clothes you bought them and being late. We also can't be consistent 100% of the time. It's completely unsustainable. I run a national company, there's only so long I can get caught up in the honeymoon stage before I have to get to be a man and handle my business.

No one keeps up the same amount of effort from the first time they meet someone

When a good man drops the effort, he realised that you aren’t worth his full effort.

Hence the reason a dog is a man’s best friend.

@eduardosantana8300

4 ай бұрын

I don’t know about you, but I’m not going to screw a dog. I’ll happily take on the bitchin