I come back to this video time and time again. For me, it's the anthem of a failed marriage. This song has so much pain and longing and feeling in it. It simply slays me. And I guess I come back to it every few weeks to remind myself that I deserve the pain. She made mistakes too, but to me, all that matters is the mistakes I made. If I had only tried harder, listened harder. For those of you that have it, don't let it slip away if it's real. Peace out

@margobonita3651

2 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel. This is my anthem of my failed my marriage. I feel I deserve the pain too and all I see is my mistakes and it's hard to reconcile the loss of a meaningful relationship. It will be a hard day when I sign away this connection I have had with someone I have know half of my life. If I had talked to him more, if I let him in, if he knew when I was breaking, if we REALLY talked... There's so many regrets. I also want to "rise from the ashes" as a whole person from this life lesson and painful journey. I have to remember that it took the both of us to make a marriage and it took the both of us to break it. We're taking our own paths. Marriage is hard work but it is so worth it when it is real and when you make it real; if you have it, cherish the union. Feed it with genuine love and care and active concern. Have a blessed day.

@dh1474

2 жыл бұрын

And one day you'll see it in perspective and stop blaming yourself.. you'll learn never to make such strong attachments and that happiness isn't found in anyone else but ourselves. Peace.

@SP-og5uz

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you are ready to take responsibility for your mistakes, learn from them and do things differently next time. Maybe you will be ready to work at it when a good, healthy, happy relationship comes your way. If that's true, no need to beat yourself up, or shy away from love next time. 🤞🙏 Best wishes!

@Mark.H.9192

2 жыл бұрын

@@margobonita3651 I wish you quiet peace, Dear Margo. I believe you did nothing wrong. Sending you a hug from faraway.

@mrsfmcool

2 жыл бұрын

Failed relationships are the hardest lessons to go through but we get to find forgiveness for ourselves and learn what's inside of us that's not serving anyone involved then do the work to let go of old conditioning and outdated programs of connection and communication Stepping into our darkness to understand and nurture and release it from us so we can bring in clarity and new healthy positive ways of thinking and being. To have a relationship with our soul and mind first before brining others into our hearts again so we can become the truest better version of ourselves. I'm going through a very hard break up at the moment but I'm doing what's needed to help us let go of things that broke us and each other for my own heart to keep functioning and do what's needed for my soul and journey I'm in alone now

Sara, is so patient. Waiting patiently and allowing herself to be affected... for her moment to punctuate the song with only what she could bring. Bravo...clapping.

"Have I made him forget how to love me?" Excuse me while I go cry in a corner.

@user-ig2rl4gl2f

5 жыл бұрын

Ben no corner for me, I’ll sob right here

@gilbag

5 жыл бұрын

Yup, the words robbed me of my energy. I'll have my cry right here, thank you.

@normam.atchley9856

4 жыл бұрын

Ben I am a year late to the party, how beautiful. Plays with my heart strings and I can’t describes how it makes me even feel.

@jessbyrnes4637

4 жыл бұрын

Me too 💔

@BrookerJordan

4 жыл бұрын

😭

She always brings me to a place where words don't suffice. She is a Carol King for a new generation. I hope they are listening. 🙏♥️🙏

@ellenh5314

11 ай бұрын

Love Carole King. I agree with you!😊

Just revisited this video for the 100th time. Sara and Ben are ridiculously talented. Their voices blend to make something other worldly. I want an entire album of just their voices and a piano.

There's just something about her when she sings. She is so honest, raw, pure, and elegant. What a beautiful charisma. I am obsessed Sara.

@slinkers27

6 жыл бұрын

thats how I feel about Sara right now.

@craigf2137

6 жыл бұрын

Because she actually feels when she sings. Ive loved her since her first album. I miss the piano but I love her music

@chaytorrist3651

5 жыл бұрын

Amazing! Every moment listening I was captured....

@ShaneenLim

5 жыл бұрын

she's magical..

@tinaleeth2707

5 жыл бұрын

Just hit pause to say ayup before she sings her first note Queue the piano

Sara has never really gotten all the recognition she really deserves IMO.

@vertigoed.

4 жыл бұрын

at least she finally won a grammy this year

@MagicTimeTravel

4 жыл бұрын

she has time. i think she'll egot someday

I come back to this song ever so often. To me its a song about redemption. I found this song when my wife cheated on me (12 years married at that point). If it werent for the kids, I would have left her. "Some phoenix may rise from these ashes, but the fire comes first" was a perfect fit for the pain and betrayal I was feeling. We fought thru it and fought for the relationship. Neither of us is perfect, and although her mistake was a really big one, grace allowed me to forgive. The pain really never does go away, and distrust (from me to her) is a fight in myself, the phoenix did rise, and our relationship is strong. For those in the same spot as me, remember that redemption and forgiveness is possible after the pain.

@christinehallidayuribe3007

Жыл бұрын

Felt that...the distrust (from me to him) is a fight in myself... And there's times when I think about it, it hurts all over again

@timeflies313

Жыл бұрын

I can't even imagine how living with someone who cheated on you feels like. I would have left and never looked back. I would have brought the kids with me. I just can't fathom continuing on living or even being close to a person who cheated on me.

@npkrn6764

2 ай бұрын

​@timeflies313 Or sleeping with them again??? Ick. 🤢🤮 I agree - I couldn't do it. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't love you. I'm a woman, and while I shouldn't try to speak for all women, I honestly don't know any women who if they are seriously in love with a man could ever cheat on them. And for 2 people to stay in a relationship "for the kids" is just lying to them, and to themselves.

Schloss Einstein ❤️

@rsbndv6832

4 жыл бұрын

Jemo ' Rainbow Six ❤️

@LaraFischer-pn6te

4 жыл бұрын

Habe ich mir auch gedacht❤️😃

@LaraFischer-pn6te

4 жыл бұрын

Tillartha❤️❤️❤️

Till & Martha🥺

Tillartha 🤯❤️

Sara’s voice is one of the most beautiful I’ve ever heard. Praising it in words isn’t enough. I’ll listen to her songs for a very very long time.

@krochelle2619

8 ай бұрын

Agreed! She reminds me of Karen Carpenter and how effortlessly they connect.

Jetzt wo Till und Martha raus sind muss ich jedes Mal wenn ich diesen Song höre fast weinen... 😢

@rachellefletterer8323

4 жыл бұрын

Safe

@pial1223

4 жыл бұрын

Same ich auch

@leoniem9729

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😢😭❤️🔥💔

@nelefochler5621

4 жыл бұрын

Ja same

#tillartha forever!!!💓

As soon as I hear the first notes, my eyes start tearing up. What a gorgeous and powerful song.

Till & Martha ❤️❤️❤️

Till und Martha💗💗

I came back over ,and over again for “But , the fire comes first”.

Ben is such a treasure. Hearing him with Sara is transcendent. I feel like I'm in musical heaven. Simply beautiful. ❤️❤️

Tillartha 😍

Sometimes I forget this song exists, and then I listen to it again and I'm struck all over again by the power of simplicity and two beautiful voices. If you need me, I'll just be in a corner somewhere listening to this song on repeat... again.

#Tillartha 😭❤️❤️❤️

TILL&MARTHA❤❤❤❤❤

This song always moves me to tears. How heartbreakingly healing!? The sound of hearing two intimate confessions of love and pain. Incredible harmonies and freakishly amazing vocalists. Love. Love. Love.

Is there anything she can't sing. She is WONDERFUL.

#tillartha 🥺💗omg diese Tillartha feelings die da hoch kommen🥺

I feel that this song is about a relationship that lacks communication. He starts off: "willing and waiting to come back from the edge, but the look in her eyes says she's leaving" -- notice how desperate his words are but his voice remains somewhat calm and I can sense a feeling of numbness. He blames himself “this is on me”. She feels the numbness in his voice and assumes that he no longer feels anything for her so she then asks herself “have I made him forget how to love me? She too, blames herself “this is on me”. Instead of communicating they both assume what the other person wants and feels - “things I should have been saying that I swallowed, how the silence can be deceiving”. Weird how they’re sitting right next to each other yet the song/lyrics created distance between them.

@maryb6672

4 жыл бұрын

There’s no place more lonely than being alone in a crowded room. It’s hard to explain the ache unless you’ve experienced it. My marriage of 16 years is ending & the silence in our home has been much more painful than when we used to fight.

@pamelabarone5868

4 жыл бұрын

❤️

@Cvandyful

4 жыл бұрын

Profoundly true.

@leiona1395

4 жыл бұрын

@@Cvandyful Hey love, thank you for taking the time to read my comment x

@leiona1395

4 жыл бұрын

@@maryb6672 I’m terribly sorry to hear that your marriage is ending, my heart goes out to you. Sending positivity and unconditional virtual hugs! May music heal you during this difficult time 💛

tillarthaforever

"Have I made him forget how to love me?" Gets me everytime. Beautiful 💜

@loverox777

Жыл бұрын

Me too😭

Tillartha forever 🤞❤

@hieunguyenlethanh

3 жыл бұрын

mariolinabasics can you please explain to me what this means and what it has to do with this song? I’m really curious.

@derbaeckerhatnichtauf

2 жыл бұрын

@@hieunguyenlethanh These names come from a German TV series called “Schloss Einstein“ (castle Einstein, it's a school). In the 23rd season two characters named Till and Martha, who hated each other in the 22nd season, have a great character development and fall in love with each other, but it's a little complicated since she has a boyfriend and they both hurt each other several times with words until they finally get rid of all the struggle and fights. This is the song which played when they had their first real kiss and got together. At the end of the year they leave the school together to live somewhere else. Short version: It's a couple from a TV series. Tillartha is their ship name.

When they hit that last "this is on me" and Sara hits that high note. I died.

when she said, have i made him forget how to love me? ... i FELT THAT

chills down my spine lets listen to it for the 100th time. i just want to hug this song. I don't know how, but i want to hug it.

@carrieannhess

6 жыл бұрын

Reuben Rasmussen I wanna hug it too!

@aboutaljon

6 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@GALLEN-vf7uy

5 жыл бұрын

Come on dude ! You know it's impossible to hug a song ! .......But, that is exactly the feeling that comes over you the first time you hear this song.....If a man can say that something is hauntingly beautiful without sounding like a sissy, well, I'll say it. If not, well this sure sounds good......and huggable ..lol

@Luckycat8

5 жыл бұрын

I’m at 1000

@louern123

5 жыл бұрын

when this pops up on my autoplay, it makes me stop whatever i'm doing, and pause. first, i just stop and wonder why i'm feeling so hard. then i'm lifted to somewhere. don't know where. then i wonder how music can do this and if it does it eo everyone. then i just conclude that this feeling defines life.

Sara, how can you make EVERYTHING so beautifully sweet?

Every time I hear this song, I always feel like the four minutes goes by so quickly. The kind of song you get lost in and don't wanna come out of

Please release this version on Apple music!

This song. Pulls at the heart strings, tugs oh so gently, before ripping them apart.

One of the most truthful and heartbreaking songs I’ve ever heard.

I am convinced that Sara is an angel.

@roxiheart1

4 жыл бұрын

MMM Hmmm...DEFINITELY.

How did I stay for almost two years without knowing this song !!!! She is simply wonderful !!!!!

Two brilliant artists. Love this. So raw and honest.

#Tillartha ❤❤

This was my first time hearing Ben Abraham a couple years ago. Love his voice and he and Sara make an awesome duet ❤️. Been following Ben’s music ever since!

@markalfred3599

Жыл бұрын

Hello Debbie,I Love your comment😍😍

@markalfred3599

Жыл бұрын

I'm new here, Debbie 😍

@debbiewheeler4066

Жыл бұрын

@@markalfred3599 Yes, these two have great singing chemistry.

Their voices harmonize so beautifully

It's sure been an awakening. I hope my love made a difference to somebody🌹🙋

#Tillartha❤️❤️

This moves me every time I watch/listen to it. ❤

Incredible duet. Chills for days as I listen to this for the 500th time, each time like the first time.

This is one of the best duets I've heard ♥️

Why people can’t appreciate simple, this song is simple complex! Absolutely love it!

No matter how many times I listen, I'm still never prepared for how good she sounds when she comes in.

How can a song be so sad, yet so beautiful.

Don't worry about me, I'm just over here crying!

#tillartha❤️❤️

Those last high notes. Just totally take this song to the heavens ..

@alansutton3718

Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@blanketeyblank5309

11 ай бұрын

Have you mastered them yet? LOL for me..

A beautiful song. I always find myself wanting a third verse though. Anyone else?

@maandpa

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I want them to make up and sing a third verse together... but I guess that’s kind of the point.

This song breaks me every time

@shannonpowell8515

Жыл бұрын

This! And I have been coming back to it for 4 years. Listen to Hailey Rinehart sing "Undone". It has the same vibe, imo. You feel like youve been kicked in the chest when the song stops and you have to move on...

She has one of the best voices. So beautiful.

Breaks my heart even more..

How am I just now seeing this for the first time? THEIR VOICES TOGETHER ARE INCREDIBLE.

That feeling you get when you hear someones voice, and can't help but smile as knowing to preform such art takes a truly humble soul.

This song saved my relationship. I'm a firm believer in feeling everything. And this song ripped my heart out so I could see every side of it.. it was a bleeding mess after a betrayal.. this song picked out the beauty hidden in that pain. Thank you.

@kellanappollis6373

2 жыл бұрын

How are you managing? Going through one myself.

@prose_ack4818

2 жыл бұрын

@@kellanappollis6373 this happened nearly 4 years ago and we are still going strong. I had to be honest with him about how it would effect our relationship moving forward. It takes a lot of time to build trust back. I still dont completely trust him but he is earning it back little by little. I had to learn not to throw it in his face every chance i got and he had to learn to deal with it when his actions then effect us now. Is it healthy? I dont know. Is it going to all work out in the end? I dont know. But i made the choice to stay. And i have to continue to make that choice every single day. Its not easy. Its hard work but you'll know soon enough if he's willing to put in the work with you. My heart is with you through this journey. If you ever need to reach out, please do.

@kellanappollis6373

2 жыл бұрын

@@prose_ack4818 I made the same choice too. A week into it and it’s still hard. I find myself slipping into loving him as usual then remembering and pulling away. It feels like a really tough internal struggle. Thank you.

She is otherworldly. That voice. Then you find out she writes these songs! She absolutely knows who she is and doesn’t fall for fame’s trappings. Please Sara, don’t botox up, cut your hair off and dye it white, get lip injections, and start dressing in ridiculous fashions. You are a gem in a landscape of rocks. Keep doing you. Wow.

@blanketeyblank5309

11 ай бұрын

Hard not to be impressed and amazed. The depth of her songs and then her delivery. 😲 You're SO right , that voice...she's singing gotta go

Simply beautiful -- the light shines through Sara when she sings.

I just keep listening to this - raw, beautiful and heartbreaking.

Something always brings me back to this. 😭❤️

Wow! What perfect pairing of angelic voices. Tears of joy... tears of sorrow.

Amazing

Their voices work really well together. What a joy. Thank you Ben (Oh, lucky man), thank you Sara. Imagine being good enough to sit next to that voice and make something so beautiful. I am, as ever, in awe.

I have always loved Sara’s voice. She consistently brings it! I wasn’t familiar with Abraham until I stumbled upon this video, but I love it.

I'm full of shivers and tears. The lyrics are so raw and real.

Dieser song wow🥺 ich sag nur Schloss Einstein Leute...

@nelefochler5621

4 жыл бұрын

Jaaa immer wenn er dort läuft und dann auch noch im Zusammenhang mit der Handlung der jeweiligen szene muss ich immer heulen

This may well be my favourite duet. Beautiful.

I lost my best friend around the time I heared this song for the first time. Couldn't be closer to the heart, I've sang and listened to the song many times to process the loss. Two of my favorite singers, ever, performing this was a huge comfort during this time. It's been 4 years now, but the song reminds me of him. Still miss him every day. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world, you beautiful people. ❤

My son just shared this with me, and I am in tears. Their harmonizing is perfection...pure perfection.

This song broke me! Crying! "Have i made him forget how to love me....some kinda wrecking ball we turned out to be...maybe theres hope for us yet!"

This song is pure perfection. Congratulations to both.

Every note that comes off of his tongue is gold. May every every note continue dancing in hearts.

This song used to be my place of calm, the beautiful song of my favorite singer with a guy who did that awesome video to get her to sing with him and then did song this with her - how awesome and hopeful is that? I couldn't help but love this song! Then it became my breakup song... Better said, the song that was stuck in my head while we created an abyss between us that we couldn't get through or "raise from the ashes" only the fire came. It's both healing and heartbreaking to hear it because it is a perfect description of what we went through. Part of me likes to have a "soundtrack" to such a moment and another feels like the worst about breakups is how many songs get "tainted" by it.

I don’t completely relate to the lyrics of the song, but the melody is exactly how it feels to lose someone you love. Wonderfully bittersweet.

Willing and waiting to come back from the edge, but the look in her eye says she's leaving. Things I should have been saying that I swallowed instead. How a silence can be so deceiving. And so we've begun the crawl. Trying to break the fall. Some kind of wrecking ball it turned out to be. Some kind of wrecking ball it turned out to be. This is on me. Caught at the ending and all I have is the hurt. Have I made him forget how to love me? Now it crumbles and crashes. Maybe there's hope for us. Until we're one with the other. A way we can make this thing work. And some phoenix may rise from these ashes. But the fire comes first. Love we've begun to crawl. How do we break the fall. Some kind of wrecking ball it turned out to be. This is on me This is on me This is on me This is on me.

@noblev728

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@lyfragola

5 жыл бұрын

Awww it's awe! Thanks!!

@lfletch2773

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, lyrics so so great.

@AdamJMusic23

5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful words Written from an honest & painful place...S.B lit it Up 🔥it feels like 'say something I'm letting go of U' in so many ways, it's the part two 💝

@lfletch2773

5 жыл бұрын

@@AdamJMusic23 Isn't Sara just out of this world? She's no Ella Fitzgerald..and yet she is captivating; SO unique! Her writing is incredible; her voice in mid-range is amazing. The songs that don't get much attention are my favs: like this one with Ben "This is On Me". And if you haven't really listened to "Send Me the Moon", please do. kzread.info/dash/bejne/hK2KmJhuY6i7ecY.html. Should have been nominated for a Grammy this year for "She Used to Be Mine"....kzread.info/dash/bejne/Z2d7q6N9eNu8qrA.html

Sometimes you find a song exactly when you need it.

Sara and Allison K have the most beautiful voices of this generation. I'm not a religious person but angelic is the best way I could ever describe their talent.

can I please hit like 8 million more times? this song (like BOTH Sara's and Ben's other songs) is simply exceptional.

Absolutely flawless! I cannot wait to see Sara in October at the Seattle WaMu Theater! Her voice gives me goosies!

Way too much in love with this song. It's so pure, so true, so beautiful.

I've listened to this hundreds of times, and somehow it's more painful every time. It can honestly relate to so many things in life, but man it has so much feeling. Just about loss and feeling like you could've done more but maybe not.

I love this man's voice!!! Pure, true and original. As an Australian musician, he doesn't try to hide his Australian accent. I love this about him. Ben Abraham, I am a big fan!

Her voice pierces my soul. Beautiful 🙏🏽❤️

Two such beautiful people

I just cried in multiple dimensions from awe of beauty. Thank you for gifting us with this song.

Absolutely no one like Sara. As tasteful and giving as can be.

My god, Sara Bareilles is such a fucking queen.

Always love Sarah's songs. Did not realize Ben is actually have an Indonesian origin #BravoDuet

They should play this song in tv dramas like Grey's anatomy and this is us. It will fit very nicely with the theme.

Wow, Sara's voice is incredible, love it. Great song. Gotta love YT for the suggestions, so many artists/songs that most of us wouldn't had heard of if it wasn't for the suggestions

I am still listening to this freaking masterpiece! ❤️

What does the painful naked truth of a broken heart sound like? It sounds exactly like this song...

wow... chills from head to toe right now. this guy is understanding and taking responsibility for breaking some girls heart. It's so soulful, and honest, and you rarely hear this kind of purity. I won't soon forget it. Love this so much.

This song is one of my all-time favorites.