My addition would be: NEVER apologize for having a past. You should not have to apologize for being who you were and for decisions that you have healed from - BEFORE YOU MET YOUR PARTNER OR BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED.

@forexsigna-m1j

Жыл бұрын

A very GOOD POINT. Stop it I like it ❤🎉

@sunnyhunn9315

Жыл бұрын

Hmm it depends what kind of decisions you’ve made before meeting your spouse, I think it’s healthy to show remorse depending what you did, the past is the past yes but when you’re inviting another person into your life it’s wise to express how you could’ve done things differently and the both of you can have that moment where the growth is celebrated together. There are different ways to do things, wisdom is important and if the person is someone who’s mature and sincerely loves you beyond anything you’ve experienced and done (especially if it’s something that can have an impact on your marriage / something that can help you bond healthier and better if you’re transparent and repentant) they won’t hold anything against you and further injure you with it.

@dineomothlele2192

Жыл бұрын

Oh I love this! We often beat ourselves up for our “past”… it was a part of our journey. It moulded who we are.

@sivmdingi8950

Жыл бұрын

Love love love this comment. You are 100% spot on! As a Xhosa we say uy'tye yonke💯😊

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Love the part where you mention healing. It’s such an important part of also forgiving oneself.

The word of God says husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. As I listened to the conversation, it's clear that Lerato loves Pheto as she is. He just let her be, and with time, she grew into the woman she is. Christ's love is not forceful or critical. He meets us where we are. He loves us into a better version of ourselves. Thanks, guys. Marriage is beautiful.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Lerato is also gifted with a spirit of patience. Something that God has had to work in me in our marriage❤️

@natashashapolamwamba5683

Жыл бұрын

Honestly this comment is gold!

When Lerato starts with “ It’s a tricky one” I start to listen attentively 😅

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

You know he’s about to drop gems😂

The vulnerability shown here is out of this world! Thank Sis Petola for being a safe space for your husband♥️the black and white part was beautiful to watch♥️

@jemimahshomkegh

Жыл бұрын

It was...

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Thank you sis❤

Same I actually spend 80% on my own in my room it doesn’t matter I’m happy or sad I just get I’m my own space and I sit, talk alone,sing, remember funny things then laugh, sleep….I just love me time and

@keolebilemmoke60

6 ай бұрын

You are me

I’m here as one of the gents. You are not alone abhuti 😂😂 you are right. A man’s confidence/pride comes from his ability to provide for his family through the career he chooses

@earningelegance

Жыл бұрын

Yeah neh. I’m getting used to that from my hubby

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Dumela abuti! We love seeing the gents in the comment section ❤😅

Lerato is the man among men. The way he admits his mistakes and apologises is worth appreciating. i wish more men could hear your wisdom.

l was actually having a conversation this afternoon with a fellow co-worker. As women we get judged for retaining our individuality in relationships ,standing our ground and having a voice.

@leratomolaoa3819

Жыл бұрын

Wooooow The Makhs....you are the best guys

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

All the time!

I had to pause at 26mins and literally laugh out loud😂😂😂😂"just call me Baba then I will get the memo". I think one universal weakness we women have is expecting men to "just know", honestly men are willing to do the right thing if only we told them. In fact in their minds they are doing the right thing that's why they retaliate when we react aggressively. Someone once said " men read newspapers not minds,tell us!". This installment was breeze thank you.

Please tell me why I laughed so loud with Lerato about Wendy Williams 😂😂😂😂😂 Also, I'm also representing the gents! Great installment as always Mr and Mrs Makhs. Love from Namibia 🇳🇦

@karabobatshwenyi1101

Жыл бұрын

I think you are the first guy I've seen in the comment section 😂😂

@mberiikaturota6483

Жыл бұрын

There are quite a few of us actually 😅

@karabobatshwenyi1101

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I noticed 😂

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

No guys😂😂😂😂

“I feel like I’m saying something for the sake of saying something” is so real. If more people applied this in conversations it would save relationships too. Make it an episode😂

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Listen! 😂… we do this sometimes right?!

I see a lot of Phetola in me, we are very principled, have defined boundaries and have expectations about the "right" way to do things..but I also see things from a different perspective whenever Mr Makhs comments on the different "issues" 😂brought up. This nuance is very helpful, its shaping my ideas around relationships ... also to give grace/understanding to people that are not exactly like me.This is a true ministry- Thank you

@siyamtolo6733

Жыл бұрын

Same I always feel like she's talking about me when she talks about how she used to show up and how she shows up now. Mr Makhs also helps me see a different perspective to things.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Yoo I’ve had to also do a lot of growing up in marriage sus🙆🏾‍♀️😂. One thing I can say though is I’m grateful at how my perspective has changed❤

We do comment guys, empa when you don't acknowledge us, rea tlohela. Truth is your channel is a breath of fresh air, especially for young married Christian men and women. I share your channel/content a lot on FB and via whatsapp with some of my brothers who I feel can benefit from what you guys share and in the manner that you do it that's always Christ centered. I might be going through a divorce but I still have hope for a great married life in the future and that's partly due to watching you guys, hore no man "this thing is possible." So keep on with the good work guys. We appreciate you. 🙏🏾 👊🏾

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Hey fam. We love the comments and do read all of the them. The reality is we sometimes can’t answer every single one due to the volume. The comments aren’t just for us also but for this community. We are all learning from each other and growing. Please don’t tire from commenting, it might help someone❤.. thank you sharing with your loved ones, for encouraging and affirming us❤

“When you forgive yourself, you release yourself”🙌🏾

I'm with Lerato when it comes to point 3. I've had my dreams & goals since I was a child & want to dedicate 15hrs a day pursuing them. I'm hoping my partner is somewhere pursuing his dreams 15hrs a day too. Once we are fulfilled with our dreams, then we can pursue each other vigorously. Anything that stands in the way of my dreams is my enermy

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Oooh this is tricky though. Can we not find a balance? Relationships need to be nurtured too. If 15 hours is spent on pursuing your dreams, when do you pursue each other?

@LM-he7eb

Жыл бұрын

@@TheMakhs It does leave the relationship unnurtured. I hope for an understanding partner, that'll wait. I don't expect the my dreams to be understanding & wait

@tshepocindi5999

9 ай бұрын

Those dreams might also take too much time as they have to be maintained, look at celebrities hw every family member was so busy around them accomplishing goals when they are no more. They hv to find their path....MJ is no more...Whitney is no more.. @@LM-he7eb

The self-awareness in both of you is unmatched! Talk about evolving and growing together. Nginishayela izandla..

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

You’re so kind. Thank you❤

Lerato you’re me in relation to loving my personal time. I’ve always thought I’m more likely to struggle in marriage. I love being alone so much! 😭 I’ll take my future husband to this episode to help him understand me.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Yes bring him here! 😂❤. Hopefully you’re also able to strike a balance when you do get married❤

@prelenahona

Жыл бұрын

I am also that person and overtime your partner gets to understand and love you through it. In the beginning I didn't understand what was happening to me. I would quickly meet that desire with "it is wrong, I should not feel this way". A lot of it was driven by the fact that I'd see other couples and there would not be one second that they'd want to be from each other. The other part was the fact that this was/is my first serious relationship and I didn't want to get the little things wrong. From these reasons, I resorted to lying. "Babe I've got to go, I have one, two and three to do" when I just wanted to be by myself and just get lost in that. Eventually he noticed and reassured me that it wasn't wrong. Agg, when love finds you ♥️ it is the most beautiful experience. 5 years in and I really love it here.

Please don't forget to watch the Ads my people 🥰🥰❤️that's the least we can do for the Makhs

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Thank you family! ❤

"The motivation is you." I love that!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Lerato and I arent making heaven for laughing like that on the Wendy topic.😂😂😂😂

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Listen!! 😂😂😂

@siviwemapekula1689

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂Me too

I appreciate these chats so much because I am Phetola in every situation and I'm learning more about how men think through Lerato because he is a lot like my husband.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

It’s quite refreshing to actually hear what men want right? Often we misunderstand them because they can’t quite express how they feel.

Forgive yourself!!!!!Beautiful conversation, highly illuminating especially about husbands faking it because of the pressure to know. Mental health problems in men is real, oh dear, the pressure is real!

don't apologize for standing up for urself I like that one Mrs makhs

@LM-he7eb

Жыл бұрын

This is a big one, especially when it comes to in-laws. They'll abuse you, and you'll be told to withstand it NXA

Lerato the way you draw in the man you were in that dating phase,to transition of marriage and now your a dad and a husband makes this conversation relatable and pinpoints "self tcav"

Lerato's intellect & Phetola's laughter 🤩 This is it. I perceive it took work to get here but I love how you guys just gel. Its incredible.

The last part has to be the highlight for me. I can't believe Lerato gave us a lot of nuggets after going through a terrible brain freeze. And how Phetola was so patient and looked at him with eyes full of love and compassion. You guys are amazing. Once again, it was a great instalment! Thank you.

Forgive yourself, Release yourself ❤

The black and white part❤. Its okay guys, it happens to most of us. Loved your response Pheto ❤

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Shame Mr Makhs😢❤

Yoh the "time alone" part! I'm misunderstood as an introvert because I'm conversational. But I neeeeeeddddd time for self cav! My mind works non-stop, in a loud world. I need lots of alone time.

Forgive yourself!!! Got my mom hooked to this podcast, 🤣

I forgive myself for my past. I'm not proud but GOD restores! ❤😊

FORGIVE YOURSELF! Quietly asserting yourself!....loved that👌👌I'm the same. I totally agree with the disagreeing part opening one up to other possibilities, the trick is to do it graciously. Weaponizing another's past creates distrust. Exhaustion does sometimes create difficulty in processing thoughts, rest Mr Makhs! You guys are the real deal❤

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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Forgive yourself ❤ Thank you fam! Ya'll are doing the Lord's work 🙌🏾 🙏🏽

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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The blooper at the end is hilarious and yet soo real 😂😭

26:50 Preach!!!!😢 .... sometimes we just don't know and we can't say, so we suffer the pressure of having to know and having solutions to issues that are beyond our measure.

Oh my gosh Phetola is so relatable 😅. I feel like I went through the same struggles at the beginning of my marriage.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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The inserting of song lyrics, just finished me more😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀

Yes thank you Mr M I always ALWAYS even yesterday I told my aunt ukuthi she offended me and I feel 123 she was like Mara it wasn’t me necessary for you to feel that way I was like haibo I didn’t decide to make my heart feel that way it naturally happened then she said well it’s wrong like my family disagree with me a lot when it comes to that it ends up being an argument

Why did the rewind make me so sad? 😢Mr Makhs are you ohk? I want to take this moment and S/O to you for showing men what being vulnerable with your partner looks like, what communicating with your partner looks like, what emotional intelligence means, and what being emotionally present looks like... not many men have this on lock, and I belive that they could learn from you, that the ability to be all those things actually makes you more masculine than the not...I feel that men tend to translate emotion as feminine... thank you for breaking that narrative. You're wife is blessed and your girls will definitely know what men not to settle for...especially when there not willing to unlearn...❤❤❤

Eyy! Mr Makhs thanks for letting us ladies/well me know that as men, all you want is to give us access to opportunity and rooms..wow (Mrs Makhs asked the question so well😊❤) 😂😂😂I also laughed so hard with Mr Makhs ka kgang ya stroke😂🤣eish sorry hase gore ha re rate bophelo😂 And that last clip of Mr Makhs😢shems go raya gore he's been overthinking lately..shems bathong sorry Mr Makhs ❤❤love you guys✌

Going to watch this with my personal person ❤

Those last few minutes…I love how Phetola was so patient while Lerato was trying to gather his thoughts 🥺

You guys are beautifully made☺️I love your channel full of authenticity and genuineness. Keep up❤️❤️ Such a lovely topic🌺

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much❤

When he laughs he makes sure 😂😂😂😂😂😂 eh you will get hurt by that silent laughter shuuu 💀💀💀 and watch his eyes goes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 they must do that eyes emoji

It’s okay🥺 Everyone go through that sometimes. Peace

Lerato please dont overwork yourself,make sure you take supplements.We love you guys❤❤❤❤

I loved the part about not apologizing for your feelings. Feelings are very valid and a huge part of yourself. Not acknowledging them is as good as not acknowledging yourself or your space within the relationship.

Zixolele❤ Thank you so much fam, we are learning a LOT from you guys. May the good Lord continue to bless you❤️ We appreciate y'all so much!

Phetola is so right about letting you go non begrudgingly when she feels pursued. This is so true. Please come give us the feedback after two years😂

Do The Work 🙏🏾🙏🏾 FOR YOURSELF ❤

#ForgiveYourself ❤️😊 I love this platform 🥺 I am so young yet I feel so equipped after watching every episode. Thank you for being the voice of this generation 🙏🏾❤️ Modimo a lefe molemo o sa feleng 🙌🏾

I love how you make your wife laugh, with such minimal effort. Beautiful to watch ❤

That "stroke" laugh was so cute.....I was even giggling!

@leratomolaoa3819

Жыл бұрын

Same here I couldn't stop giggling

Forgive yourself, I’m loving this for me. I’m taking it.❤

Subscribing to this channel was one of my best decisions.. I enjoy these conversations sooooo much ❤ | Thank you for the vulnerability yoooh ❤

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Aaah thank your fam!❤

Shuuu Mrs🔥🔥🔥 what is saying is so true at church Ka Father’s Day my pastor was preaching about what you are saying now. He said men can’t be men’s without being a son first by that I mean you need to be a good, respectful….son so that you can be the better version as a father. A male wasn’t born as a father he became a son first so he need to be an active role model to your family, household, community so that when you have kids they are better versions they have learnt so much from you it doesn’t matter in the house or next door or church that’s how their children will be better as well because they will take a piece of what they have learnt from their dad, grandfather so the generation continues. It takes a whole community to raise a child

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Wow! What a word!!!!❤

I love spending time with myself n am a lady .Married 14years ,4 kids .I need time n spending time with myself n my husband gets offended by it 😂

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

It’s a tough one. Hope you’re able to make him understand ❤

Phetola's Laughter 🤣...is so contagious

The blooper at the end😭😂was a bit funny and scary at the same time🥺❤

My husband works a lot of hours, and i must say it does tend to feel lonely. But we have made sure we set aside time for a catch up daily, time we spend for a weekly talk, and it has made a world of a difference in our merriage. We have made it a point that no matter how busy life gets, we have dinner together as a family and 30min to and hours, after the kids go to bed. Then we get back to our busy life.😅😊

Forgive yourself ❤😊 I’m still here 🎉

Guyseeesss I LOVE THIS COUPLE. 😭😭😭 Every installment I have watched, I always go in prayer because woooooow the wisdom being shared......shooo...my God...God please protect them and please remain in the Lord guys...

Forgive yourself ❤️loved this!!

I love this couple ❤they have a way of explaining things ❤

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

We love you! Thank you❤

I'm a woman and i stand by what Mr Makhs is saying about doing it for us. I also experienced it and when i voiced out that i feel neglected. And he said im doing all this for u and the kids so you be comfortable, and i understood where he came from and he also understood that as much hes doing it for us also make time for us.

Forgive yourself 😇

I am surprised Phetola didn't laugh during the mini stroke😂😂😂😂

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Yooo listen! 😂😂. I was so worried. I have never seen Lerato lost for words🤞🏾❤️🙆🏾‍♀️. Shem he was really tired.

@mbuedzedzondou9259

Жыл бұрын

@@TheMakhs shame you were🤣🤣🤣

Forgive yourself 😆. This was such a great and insightful conversation. Thank you Fam🫶

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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Now to my comment.... Whoa okay so this might be the second or third time I'm ever commenting but... yeah. Okay I usually have quite a number of things to say... But contemplate it so much that in the end i say nothing at all. Your conversations are so deep, honest and relatable sometimes although I'm not married or in a relationship, thank you for good conversations and showing constantly that love is not a scam. Finalement, uhm, that end sound track had me laughing at that video the same way Lerato was laughing at the other woman😂, sorry tho, was a mental block fr, I love how you handled that Pheto, not feeling like you had to fix him, allowing to process it. I guess this makes up for all the times I've missed. ❤🇳🇬

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

We love to see the comments❤❤. Shame Lerato really struggled there😂😂❤

The stroke thing has killed me, I'm in a public place but I've laughed so hard🤣🤣🤣

Yoh am I the only one who was so sad when Mr Makhs couldn’t put a whole sentence together?😢

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

I was freaking out on the inside but tried to be cool. He just needed some rest❤

29:36 aaaah Lerato 👏🏼 such an important point you’ve made here man. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I completely hear you. Thank you so much for articulating something that a lot of men go through and might not know how to navigate or communicate. 💯

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I love you guys, you authenticity is so refreshing. I have learnt so much about my husband by just listening to Mr. Makhs his point of view as a man. It sometimes is difficult to hear your own partner bcoz we are heavily invested. But it gets clearer when i see it play out on screen with the both of you. Thanks for your ministry, its messy, it demands constant growth, it's beautiful and it works by God's grace. May the Lord keep you and may He shine his face upon you. May goodness and mercy continue to pursue you all the days of your life on this earth.❤ In Pheto's voice mxwa love you😊 I watch till the end ALWAYS.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Aah thank you for this beautiful message❤

Forgive yourself❤️☺️🙌🏻 Loved every part of this

😂😂😂Ska wara Bro rena le wena Mona👊I think at some point we spend more time working thinking that I want to give my Wife a better life, I know I have the same sickness if it's sickness I rather spend everything on Wife nd our child until she tells me the way Im working so hard for them I even forget about my self so I think that comes naturally nje.

😅😅I really enjoy these segments. I enjoyed so much and very much agree to these points. I looove how self-aware you guys are.

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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To not apologising for not knowing! The way Mr Makhs profoundly unpacked this 🤌🏽a whole lot of guys out there suffer from this. I guess more than anything, it's the expectation that "indoda must".

Forgive yourself, thanks for the lovely episode ❤

Thank you for this conversation. It has shed a lot of light on a situation I’m currently dealing with. ❤️❤️❤️

forgive yourself!!!! Oh guys ndiyani thanda man! this episode is too relateable!! thank you thank you thank you!!! you guys need to plan a couples retreat man!!!! 🥰💗

@karabobatshwenyi1101

Жыл бұрын

Yeah this is true they should do that

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

Aah we love you family❤

Mr Makhs wisdom galore

the last bits genuinly so funny I love you guys so much

Ewuuu bandla!😅 FORGIVE YOURSELF! (register signed) Awesome conversations! Love y'all❤❤❤peace & blessings!

Forgive yourself ❤

❤️ 23:15 Phetola 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely loved this part and I literally laughed the same time as you because I also like asking my husband “motho wa Modimo when are you taking your kids and giving me some space and alone time” 😂🤭

Not Lerato laughing so hard at Wendy Williams 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I joined 🤣🤣🤣 #forgive yourself And please the end 🤣🤣🤣 Phetola looks so concerned 🥺

Thanks for another great instalment the Makhs. Oh and please, forgive yourself ❤

A very healthy conversation you'll just had, it was soooo interesting to watch. Loved it, thank you for sharing with us that it's OK to disagree on something BUT don't be rude when expressing that opinion. Thank you the Makhs❤,

Forgive yourself, love you guys.

The very end sahna, ngife fi! Fi! Fi! 🤣🤣🤣

😂😂😂😂 Yuuhh it's so late in the night I'm having a blast with this conversation but Yuuhh the black and white part of this installment has me in stitches 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Let me grab my journal 📔 and pen 🖊️ ✍🏽 ❤❤❤❤❤ because my faves are coming through with yet another beautiful teaching🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 God bless your hearts ❤️ thank you for always coming through for us❤❤❤ We are blessed to have you indeed❤❤❤❤❤

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ we are so humbled ❤

Mr Makh I understand you clearly at 6:40…. The problem is not the problem typa thing

It's the genuine cracking up 4 me😂😂😂😂😂

I love you Lerato for your honesty,wow ,please teach other men,shout out to Mr

Hey Fam ☺️ lol this week I was ready I have my phone is within my hand 😂😂😂🙈

Forgive yourself💯

Forgive yourself

11:30 Mrs Makhs- If you love me I expect certain things to come naturally!!! kodwa kee weeeee😔

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation. Forgive yourself❤❤❤. You are doing the Lord's work fam. Thank you!

@TheMakhs

Жыл бұрын

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