Best thing I learned was to not get into a relationship until you loved yourself enough. Those insecurities you have of yourself will spill into the relationship if you don't stay in check with yourself. Can't support someone else if you're not ok with yourself. Lastly love can walk in when you least expect it. Don't spend too much time pursuing love, just enjoy the present and if things were meant to be love will fall in place.

@MangaDevilCat

5 жыл бұрын

How did you learn to love yourself? I just broke up. Learned that I need to really love myself and be confident rather than hate myself. Any tips would be appreciated

@aaronchan4830

5 жыл бұрын

I learned to love myself by putting in the time to work on myself. I had a lot of insecurities about myself because I had a lot of qualities that weren't attractive or didn't make a girl think twice about me if anything more than a friend (nice guy syndrome/friendzone). I was overweight, didn't know how to dress, shy, couldn't hold conversations with strangers. These factors ultimately hurt my confidence. Everyday is a new opportunity to improve yourself. Just know no one is perfect and never will be, however you can always become a better version of yourself. Figure out where you lack and then make plans to change. For me, I'm still working on this myself, but I could never look at myself in the mirror. I was ashamed of how I looked. I started researching how to dress, workout and forced myself to talk to 1 stranger a day for 5 mins. Eventually, that got me into a leadership position in a community service fraternity where I met my current girlfriend and we've been dating ever since. Not to compare myself, but I think she is way more attractive than me appearance wise. However, the qualities that drew us together was my confidence that I acquired from working on myself along with my nice guy tendencies. All in all, the me now is just a newer more improved version of myself, still a nice guy with way more confidence that can dress better and hold long conversations with strangers all the time. Put time into yourself whether it be physical, spiritual, etc.once you start getting the results you want, you'll start to appreciate yourself more especially by finding the courage and motivation to be a better version of yourself. Feel free to ask me more! Hope it helps, sorry it was so wordy

@jtbard

5 жыл бұрын

Aaron Chan Wow thank you. I’m looking to get into my second relationship ever and this was really interesting. Thanks for the advice!

@aaronchan4830

5 жыл бұрын

@@jtbard Didn't think my comment was gonna mean so much to others. Glad it helps, feel free to ask me anything. Best of luck with everything!

@MangaDevilCat

5 жыл бұрын

@@aaronchan4830 Thank you so much! I really appreciate this... Really needed this especially at this time of my life. Another question: How were you able to talk to strangers? What did you talk about? And what site did you use for how to dress? (some things I also need to work on.. social interaction as well as dressing up)

I wish I had known there was no need to start a relationship just because other people were. I wish I'd known that, no matter how hard you may try, sometimes you're just not the right person for someone--and it has nothing to do with your personal worth. You're still lovable.

@Haianh329x

5 жыл бұрын

your comment is so sweet

@mintfudgecupcakes

5 жыл бұрын

even if you know this, it's still hard. Happily single isn't something people really understand or compute... or you really need to jump through hoops to convince them. If you don't convince them, you get looks of pity, people setting you up, questioning you and all closer friendships with the opposite sex.... It's tiresome.

@moitrig.9530

5 жыл бұрын

Needed this, thank you❤

@ilai7893

2 жыл бұрын

100% agreed, sometimes it's no one's fault and not reflective of either of you, when you just might not be a fit, and that's okay

I'm 20 years old college student and I've never been in a relationship. A huge reason why I'm still single is a lot with Phil's comment on confidence. For the past few years, I've been learning more about myself like my strengths and weaknesses. Making myself into a better person and ultimately learning to love myself. If my significant other appears in my life, I'll be ready to support him. To all my single ladies out there, don't feel bad if you're not in a relationship. We all go through life at our own pace. It's like Tori Kelly's Dear No One. If he isn't here now, he'll appear someday. You just have to wait!!!

One thing I learned from my girlfriend is understanding just how much something means to your significant other. It may not matter that much to you but just put yourself in their shoes and that really helps you to understand your significant other better. I think a lot of guys probably don't do that but it's really a good thing to keep in mind.

@tulaimes

5 жыл бұрын

Uhhh That’s just always great advice

@halam899live8

5 жыл бұрын

Kitty pryde for life and Kaylee Bryant should play as her

Sometimes, you just aren't compatible. And that's okay. Someone you fit with in one way, may not fit you romantically. It's like finding out that maybe one of your good friends isn't necessarily a good travel companion. You can still be friends, just don't travel together. Similarly, maybe you do get along with someone, but that doesn't mean you need to date.

Def agree with Phil on how the end of your first relationship isn't the end of the world. I remember back in 2014 I was binging Wong Fu videos thinking about the ex I never thought I could let go of, but now that I'm over her I look back at those videos with a heavy sense of nostalgia of who I was back then and I'm proud of the progress I've made and how much I've learned

The thing I wish I DEFINITELY would remind myself before my relationship is... the relationship IS NOT the number one priority in life. That you *should not* identify yourself by the relationship - it's just part of you, maybe a big part. But each person has their individualism, that what makes you interesting to each other. So make sure you keep it and you don't need to do everything together just because you're a couple. Now, that's not to say relationships won't take some self-sacrifice or that it's going to succeed if you don't put the relationship above certain things. But all I'm saying is not to lose _Yourself_ for the relationship, because when you're each the best version of yourselves you'll bring it into the relationship as well.

I remember watching strangers again when I was like 14 and being SUPER worried that all my relationships would follow those stages LOL needless to say, one of them did and while I was going through the breakup I remembered that video and it actually helped me cope with the sadness! So thanks Wong fu and thanks phil :)

my first relationship was when i was 23, somewhat long distance. id say dont jump into a ldr with someone that doesnt even want to talk about their life bcs they think theyre boring and refuses to even try. also dont have tunnel vision and ignore the many red flags bcs you're in "love"

The big thing i learnt about relationships is that just because two people like each other doesn’t mean you are meant to date. and learning your partners love language is pretty useful and being insecure is a killer in relationship, my ex boyfriend was very insecure in himself which made him really controlling and wanted me no to have any guy friends and he always thought i was cheating. “ love when you are ready not when you’re lonely “ is a saying i heard it’s so true honestly

I've never been in a relationship like ever *I'm in 11th grade*, but I tend to learn from other friend's relationships. I learned that communication and time management is important. But I learned that my studies are important and if the time comes I like someone or someone likes me I'll consider it and analyze then it goes on from there.

@Lily.valkyrie

5 жыл бұрын

yeeeesss 👏 healthy 👏 mindset

@huychung4727

5 жыл бұрын

Dude, I'm in Grade 12 and I feel the same, whenever I have friends over they always talk about their relationship and while they say you will find one in high school, I feel like I don't need to have one right away just because everyone else has one. Your point where you learn from your friends is exactly what I tell my friends when I don't have one. I'm saving it for the right person and if the first relationship doesn't go well like Phil said it's not the end of the world. Learning from mistakes can lead to the right person eventually is what I believe.

@funnyanime

5 жыл бұрын

My real first relationship was when I was 18 you got time.

@shainnolia3398

5 жыл бұрын

As a 19 years old in college, you guys have time until you meet the right one. I've also never dated or been in a relationship. School and work is more important.

I wish I had known before my first relationship that people are always changing. I think when we're young we have a group of friends and none of us had really changed yet. The only change I had faced was instead of playing with toys we were hanging out. So in my senior year of high school when I started dating it was very hard to deal with the constant changes of myself and also him. I will say, I was fortunate to find a loving person who was there with me through his changes and mine. He was my first relationship and last. I am now married to him.

@osophine8672

5 жыл бұрын

Whoa.

My first relationship wasn’t the best, so I learned to look out for red flags. Also that the signs you ignore in the beginning will be the thing that you break up over

There is no timeline to relationships. I dated a boy in middle school I liked, and they were like it's been 6 months together, you haven't said "I love you" yet? You guys haven't kissed yet? I didn't feel comfortable or ready to do so. But i was so pressured by my friends, I ended up kissing him one day. But I wish I knew that there really is no timeline to things like the first kiss, first I love you, holding hands, etc. It's all about when you're ready. And the fact that it's OUR relationship, what are other people to say that you guys don't care for each other because you haven't kissed yet or whatever. You aren't dating them. They're just outsiders to the relationship.

How do you guys always have the best advice at the right time 🤔😂

@LorenzoMarch

5 жыл бұрын

True

@timefliesaway999

4 жыл бұрын

Underdog 206 it’s called a script

You guys should make a video about expectations vs reality on your very first date! And include a scene about a large car centre console!

I'm in the midst of starting my first relationship ever... Wish me luck!

@LorenzoMarch

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck

@maya_mak

5 жыл бұрын

Anna Lee Any updates on how it went?

@saracortes107

4 жыл бұрын

Update?

@elainekan4209

3 жыл бұрын

how's it going

Me and my boyfriend have like casual date since day one 😂 Because we both are student and we have already talked about everything due to the long distance relationship. We wanna save up money for the future 😂 Even though once in a while, he will surprise me with gifts, flowers or even showing up at where I am (KL, Malaysia) even though he should be in Singapore. We both know in the 5 love languages, we are people that don't really mind without getting gifts but like to have more act of service. However, we like once in a while surprises 😍 Cause you never know when you get it ❤ And due to my parent's divorce, I did researches before I get into my first relationship and my boyfriend had been into a relationship before, so we both are settling things quite well :) Do research before your first relationship! It is important and send it to whomever you think you are going to have a relationship with before starting it! It really helps! :)

@nghannking

5 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this because im in LDR with my gf, im from KL and she's from indo haha

R U GUYS EATING ROMAINE LETTUCE

@seewendy1

5 жыл бұрын

Mariel P this May have been recorded before the shortage 🙃

@azngirl1854

5 жыл бұрын

SAME THOUGHT!!!!!

@hunter8i8

5 жыл бұрын

This is a film channel after all. They're trying to lettuce experience some subtle drama. Are they or aren't they? Is it prerecorded or not? Ooooh! ;p

@morewongfu

5 жыл бұрын

@@hunter8i8 subtle asian drama

@hunter8i8

5 жыл бұрын

;D

So,,,, I just bought 5! I’ve been following y’all for 10+ years and now I’m in a place financially to support! (Professional school takes foreva....) keep doing what ya doing! My girls are gonna looooove this :P

A relationship is a platform to showcase who you truly are! Inspiring others in the process. Many people underperform as they get affected by the situation and focus on the problems, forgetting themselves. ❝Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see "show up," not what part of another you can capture and hold. The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.❞ - Neale Donald Walsch

HAHAHA you can bet your money maker that i bought that calendar the day it came out. My singleness wont be lonely for 12 whole months now! Thanks Wongfu!

@morewongfu

5 жыл бұрын

soonduboos all year round ❤️

Thank you for uploading again! You make me laugh and smile every Thursday

I recently learned that it takes a whole bunch of connections to make a full life. It's a lot of pressure to put on just one person to be your "everything". You have to learn how to appreciate all the people who are already in your life, and leave spaces for the others you're going to meet down the line. The worst thing you can do in a relationship is put on blinders.

i learned in life that love is something that is never planned it can come at the most unexpected times

Relationships are about more than just feelings!!! I actually had this realization from a Wong Fu video that you can care about someone a lot but not be fit for a relationship. There are a lot of practical aspects of committing yourself to be someone's significant other that I never considered, and I hope young people can learn to take a step back from the fluttery feelings and look at the situation as a whole so they don't make the same mistakes I did :')

Damn, I just now realized that have been informing my friends about relationship stuff when I have never been in a single relationship

I definitely wish I learned to balance my time or spent more time with family because in the long run, they matter more. Also, you can't change someone if they don't want to change for themselves.

That salad bowl is endless

Can we hear more about dating stuff and advice from Benson? He's been in a relationship for like 6 years or something so hes obviously doing something right!

Time to eat “lunch” and join in

i don't comment much, but i just have to say that, i learned that you should know what your looking for in a relationship. I always thought i just needed to be that person for the other person and be what they want, but I also need to consider what I want. Both people need to know what each person want to see if they are compatible or if not. learned it the hard way... But i walked out being a better person.

The thing Phil said about the first relationship hit me hard like a truth bomb. Thank you.

You know what would be great in the next lunch break video? Ted in it and them just catching up on each other’s lives and reminiscing about the Old Wong Fu :)

Omg this is like perfect timing bc I’m in the before/beginnings of my first relationship~~~

A dose of Benson's Mukbang plus Relationship advice.. Wat more can you ask?? 😜😜😆..#WongFu4ever.. 💕💕💕💕

Be honest to yourself about what you want from a relationship. Don't live your life for your s.o. live for yourself and make sure you're not unhappy.

Nothing but hearts for you guys!!!

you guys should make a video going through relatable asian things on the "subtle asian traits" facebook group

@danella636

5 жыл бұрын

yeaaas

@wynnj1004

5 жыл бұрын

My close friend started that group haha

@Aysha3338

5 жыл бұрын

They did in the video after this 😂

Before committing to a relationship, consider that you will lose time being with your friend group. Balancing between your friends and significant other is difficult and failure to do so can damage one of your relationships.

Wow this is so convenient

ARE U GUYS WATCHING ME?? LMAO honestly I’m a senior in high school right and sort of undergoing my first relationship. It’s so weird but a good type of weird. I don’t know how movies make it romantic but the first time you hold hands with a boy is one of the weirdest feelings 😂😂

My friends are always telling me that being in a relationship always has its ups and downs. I'm aware of that but still, it would be nice to have that special someone you can cuddle, hold hands with, etc. :( I'm about to finish college and because of that, I've been feeling so desperate lately to look for a date since I'll have more free time (sigh)

@Ezero8

5 жыл бұрын

Same :(

... I’m going to be 18 in less than a month... I have never been in a relationship. Thank you for the advice!!!

I learnt to not make someone my everything when I am only their option.

"..and 'm still working that off" *Benson proceeds to eat burger*

I learned that one of the most important things in a relationship is communication

That dating is not the end-all-be-all, that you're not stuck with them forever. I feel a lot of people stop themselves from dating or getting valuable experience because of this. Sometimes you need to date person A and person B to get to person C. You don't have to see yourselves forever with them or even plan to be together long-term. But at least make some good experience and learn from each other in the moment and in any way possible.

Phil's last tip... i needed this... #WongFu4Lyfe

Hey Wong Fu, I love what you guys are doing. But I have some questions. 1. Some of your old videos (eg. the original ramen cook off) have like extended scenes or director's commentary links in the description but it just goes to the Wong Fu website saying it has been removed or moved. What happened to it? 2. Are you going to make a thanksgiving short? I have a feeling you would. 3. I also have a suggestion, I love Wes's short "a world away" woudn't it be great if you made a series about it? I know it would be difficult but it's just a suggestion (you can always ignore it). I mean no offense in this comment, you guys are awesome. Wong Fu 4 Lyfe!

@quantumphysicsmaster

5 жыл бұрын

Eli C I would love a Thanksgiving short from them!! Good opportunity for a skit/comedy, think... maybe next year?

This was a good lunch break topic. Maybe Wong Fu could make a video about guy and girl friendships. I think it would be interesting considering that people almost everywhere in the world thinks that a guy and girl cannot be just friends if they spend quality time together.

30 years later, I still think about her.

do they actually read all the comments ? so like would they get offended if i said jenn’s my favorite ?

@_jennle

5 жыл бұрын

I won't tell them 💕

@rochheellee

5 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Le AHHH HI I LOVE YOU

@bensonq

5 жыл бұрын

offended

Every time they said, “habit” I kept looking at the fries thinking they were gonna make a pun 😂..

9:20 Haha! No one noticed! We noticed!

I've never been in a relationship (i'm 23 years old, soon 24).

@andrea.dandelion

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting this. Sometimes I feel like a loser for never being in a legitimate relationship even though I'm in my 20s. But then I remember that it's just society making me feel bad because it's normal (and even expected) to start dating in high school. And then I also realize that I still have so much time to find someone. And you do too! So thank you for reminding me that :)

@Moonlitebliz

5 жыл бұрын

@@andrea.dandelion i know what you mean, i get those feelings too.. Thank you for saying those kind words! it means a lot

@HeartofaWarriorX

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, I just turned 24 and still have not been in a relationship before. All I know is, you can't force things. Sometimes the waiting is hard. But you got to avoid impulses. Glad I'm not the only one out there in their mid 20s who is also in the same situation!

@Moonlitebliz

5 жыл бұрын

@@HeartofaWarriorX I agree! Everything happens at its own time. I'm glad to hear too that I'm not the only one.

@salemsaberhagen1570

5 жыл бұрын

Same. I'm 24 and I've never been in a relationship . I'm always pressured by friends that it's weird to not be in a relationship so it's great to hear I'm not the only one

Love eating lunch with my OG asians

How do you become confident in yourself and also not be cocky?

LUNCH BREAK!!!!!!!

frodo and the ring omg

I wish I knew when she asked, “What if I moved to pursue my career?” She wanted me tell her to stay here with me and everything will be ok. I wish I knew how scared and confused she was, but I thought I was doing the right thing by being supportive. I wish I knew all the problems to come and how hard it would be for us being over 2,000 miles away. I wish she knew that I wasn’t pushing her away by letting her pursue her passion. I wish, I told her to stay.

I wish I knew that my feelings are equally as important and valid as my partner's despite what the other person says. You should be considerate of your partner but also you shouldn't lose yourself in the process.

Wong fu for life \/\/

Love that Benson mentioned relationships affecting animals too. Hahahaha.

He might not be the one so take it easy lol. Put effort into the relationship, but don’t overlook red flags. Go slow. Be aware of who you are and don’t try to become someone totally different to please the other person, unless it’s a better version of you!

I wish I had known none of the guys I’ve asked out would say yes, so I wouldn’t have stressed and bothered in the first place 🤦🏽‍♀️ okay but seriously, I do wish I would have known none of them would work out so i wouldn’t have put so much pressure on myself and been filled with so much anxiety. Worrying does nothing and feeling bad because a guy doesn’t like me is so...bad. I’m constantly learning and growing and someday, one of them will say yes and it will be amazing and to all the boys I loved before I can say thank you, next 😉

Looks good

Lucky I've never had a relationship before so I can use all these tips 😉

Me: I need relationship adv- Wong Fu: *busts through door*

I always wonder if these Poor guys always have a mic floating above their heads while having lunch. @_@ Love u guys

Anyone else ate while they watched this video or am I just fat 🤧 nice vid wong fuuuu ❤️❤️

Can you pleasee do white elephant or secret Santa again?

Megan Batoon ''toon squad'' hat!

Could you guys add some info on what your're eating, I spend a lot time trying to figure out what you are eating -nomnom

Toonsquad!

Yes this is all good... But I would say my experience took me to be more mindful of the world, not just those I'm in relationship with (romantic, platonic, profession, casual, etc.)

@parepidemosproductions4741

4 жыл бұрын

Taylor literally says this at 7:33

I wished I knew that my first boyfriend was the good man. But of course I had to date the player, the boy and the confused men to realized that.

omg lol, perfect face 9:34 xD

niki = queen

i'm always shocked whenever i see them actually eat during a lunch break aha

I really want habit now

@taylorchan

5 жыл бұрын

Hahah

What a very coincidental timing I wasn’t even watching themingthing videos recently or searched any rls vids

My girl friend is harder to please now once she discovered Wong Fu LMAO

Yep, young girls have unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships. All these relationship stuff don't really matter when you're in your 30s. It's now like, "Whatever. I'll just do my own stuff, and if you like me, then good; if not, then tough." Maybe I feel that way because I'm an Asian-American guy... BTW, what's up with the soft volume on this video?

anyone else realise benson is the only one that eats during lunch breaks everyone else just takes nibbles

Benson is so cute 😥

Nice

Overton x Synclaire are romantic goals XD

"how your relationship affects other people, other animals..." those poor sea world creatures...

When they said Mike Bow’s gf do they mean Lindsay from as/is (buzzfeed)??

Watching this for the first time.... That guy on the left tho, he is serious with that burger

I wish I knew that it 's better to keep certain things a secret and if I were to tell her the truth, I need to tell her everything not a fraction of it and that my never involve my friends in our arguments. My first relationship ended in 2 weeks because of it. I made too many dumb mistakes.

wauw im early

ITS A TOONSQUAD HAT. pls let this be a sign that Megan Batoon will be on lunch break

i need help. My friend and I both told each other that we liked each other and now when we hang out it gets really awkward. What do i do

press f for all of jen's friendzoned guys

What kind of fries are they eating

@Benson what happened to your finger? :(

I’m also with Jen. But my mom is also like, what? Youre eating with a male friend alone? Is he your boyfriend? But why dont you bring other female friends along? 😂

@_jennle

5 жыл бұрын

l o l at everyone who thinks platonic guy-girl friendships aren't possible ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

0:47 “some people have talked about exes before”