why is it rude to ask someone their pronouns so you don't call them the wrong thing I don't understand

@ohshedead

5 жыл бұрын

It isn’t rude, it’s actually quite polite

@gink_ie

5 жыл бұрын

I mean, usually people say "are you a he or a she" when they ask for pronouns which is why nb's would be uncomfy with it. If you were to ask about someones pronouns you shouldnt ask if theyre a he or a she, but ask "what pronouns do you go by" I hope that helped in some way! uwu

@imherewaitnoimhere9401

5 жыл бұрын

It's rude to say specifically boy or girl because like what are you supposed to say "all of the above"?

@gink_ie

5 жыл бұрын

@@imherewaitnoimhere9401 yeah!

@imherewaitnoimhere9401

5 жыл бұрын

@@gink_ie I've said that before actually I said it to a transphobe

"were you born a man or a woman" i was born an inconvenience

@SodaPop707

3 жыл бұрын

Y E S, SAME

@crunked6674

3 жыл бұрын

That's literally what the people in the video should have been saying

@chipsthecattter

3 жыл бұрын

i was born a disappointment

@papairplane

3 жыл бұрын

I was born as A worm on a string

@UR2SL0W

3 жыл бұрын

I was born as cheese.

"You can be a boy and like flowers, a girl and like cars" - Precisely! And doesn't this undermine the concept of gender-fluidity? If you're a biological male, but identify as gender-fluid because you like flowers, doesn't that reinforce the stereotype that men can't like flowers? I thought we were trying to dismantle stereotypes?

@renanyctea1247

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking about this too. Liking flowers doesn’t undermine your gender.

@michace

2 жыл бұрын

I get what your saying, but nobody identifies as gender fluid/non-binary/whatever just because they like something traditionally feminine/masculine that doesn’t align with the gender they were born as. Gender identity comes from a place of self reflection, what you feel as a person.

@olivermoore7020

2 жыл бұрын

@@michace Thank you for your response. Counter point: Surely such self-reflection would ultimately be based on comparing oneself to gender-stereotypes? If not, what is it based on? A side point I would to make: one thing that comes up in many of these debates is the idea that "gender is cultural traits, sex is biology" (or variations along those lines). However, I would argue that this differentiation only really exists in the minds of those immersed in modern (western) gender-politics. To most people, "sex" and "gender" mean pretty much the same thing: the only major difference is that "sex" can also refer to sexual-intercourse, whether as "gender "does not - and personality traits (whether they be stereotypically masculine or feminine) don't really come into it. For example, girls with stereotypically masculine traits were traditionally called "tom boys" - but this was never considered a gender, tom boys were ultimately still seen as girls. Surely its better for people to just be who they want to be regardless of their sex/gender? Surely its better to see gender/sex as simply an irrelevant biological quirk that shouldn't matter? (i.e. like ethnicity). And just to clarify, I'm not trying to offend anyone or undermine anyone's identity here. I am genuinely just trying learn, and I believe the best way of learning for these kinds of topics is for people to challenge each other in civilised debate.

@Revelian1982

2 жыл бұрын

STOP TALKING SENSE! You'll never get a job at the BBC with that attitude!

@waji78611

2 жыл бұрын

If a child (born female) comes to you and says i feel like a boy.. im transgender.. ask them why and see how deep the conversation gets.. never make a child feel unworthy of understanding.. but challenge them always.. you dont want a generation of snow flakes and people asking you to call them dem/demon/demonself because they identify as a demon ..!

I've come back to this video a handful of times over the years and I still have no idea what could possibly be so wrong with the word 'unisex'.

@TheNoobler

Жыл бұрын

I mean, all clothes are "unisex" because clothes don't have sex. Everything described as "unisex/fem/masc" is an object that shouldn't be gendered at all. If that's not their reasoning, then idk what else it would be. Even still, I get that it's annoying but people really haven't gotten that far yet. They weirdly haven't fully processed that fact yet so I wouldn't get mad, since it's not common knowledge for many people.

@jeanv1352

Жыл бұрын

@@TheNoobler Of course clothes are gendered. They are designed for either a male or a female body. If everything is unisex (or whatever word you may use), what are transvestites supposed to do?

@TheNoobler

Жыл бұрын

@@jeanv1352 No object has gender. Anyone can wear anything. There are sizes that fit male/female bodies better though, that is true. But a skirt isn't a "female clothing item", it's a fabric shaped into a skirt. As for transgender people, they can also wear whatever the hell they want.

@jeanv1352

Жыл бұрын

@@TheNoobler Sure, everyone can wear whatever the hell the want. That doesn't change the fact that clothes are designed for a specific gender (mostly).

@TheNoobler

Жыл бұрын

@@jeanv1352 Yes, they currently are still designed for genders. I already said everything I had to say on it.

Asking pronouns is not offensive

@SurfingBOceanNesto22

6 жыл бұрын

Did you just misgender my pronouns?

@cottontaelle5863

6 жыл бұрын

saying "he or she" is shitty though

@cherylkaufmann4410

6 жыл бұрын

True I actually love when people ask my pronouns instead of assuming but I don’t go all crazy on people when they get it wrong I’ll usually just brush it off and ignore them or correct them politely

@sadielynnlivestreams3404

6 жыл бұрын

I have a friend that just finished the medical side of a full mtf transition. I met her about 6 months into hormones and only really knew her as "K"* the grocery store employee with the unisex uniform. Then her and I became better acquainted and i asked her if she would prefer if I used female pronouns as well as her preferred name. "T" was excited and relieved that I asked. I also let her know that between that point up until her surgery, if she ever felt uncomfortable using the women's washroom, I wouldn't think twice to be there for her. I think she has always been a beautiful human being and can finally see the beauty to match what's on the inside. *letters used for privacy.

@mymammothkid

6 жыл бұрын

Georgia Mitchell to some people it is because they’re rude or they’re a tumblrina

“Were you born a man or woman?” I spawned into this world out of pure rage.

@screwtapee

3 жыл бұрын

The child of Rak Kultesh

@drwilsonstoenailpolish3194

3 жыл бұрын

Hello genderfluid flag profile person, I have a pansexual backround

@drwilsonstoenailpolish3194

3 жыл бұрын

@Mia Young thx so much

@lilzlilzlilzlilzlilzlilzli3992

3 жыл бұрын

@@drwilsonstoenailpolish3194 hi i'm pan too ^^

@drwilsonstoenailpolish3194

3 жыл бұрын

@@lilzlilzlilzlilzlilzlilzli3992 hieee

"what bathroom do you use" Bold of you to assume that I use any bathroom at all

@SuperTrucker2019

2 жыл бұрын

I don't need a bathroom at all cuz my shit don't stink just kidding LOL

@s0meRand0m129

2 жыл бұрын

is it safe to assume that you are from India?

@sakunyaa7825

2 жыл бұрын

@@s0meRand0m129 im German lmao

@s0meRand0m129

2 жыл бұрын

@@sakunyaa7825 lmao

@shadetreader

4 ай бұрын

My numerous UTIs have entered the chat

"Are you gay" All of them: Yes Someone please explain to me what being gay as a non-binary person even means...

@dcashley303

2 жыл бұрын

Not all of them answered and the person with coloured hair didn't say their sexuality is defined as 'gay'.

@daffo6264

2 жыл бұрын

Well if someone is non-binary they cannot be straight… they could be lesbian, or gay, but I’ve usually seen a lot of non-binary people identify as pansexual

@skylargray5642

2 жыл бұрын

@@daffo6264 How could a non-binary person identify as lesbian? Lesbians are people who identify as females who are attracted to other females. Non-binary people don’t identify as females. And from my understanding, being gay as a non-binary person sounds like they’re exclusively only attracted to other non-binary people since being gay is being attracted to the same gender. Am I understanding that correctly?

@daffo6264

2 жыл бұрын

@@skylargray5642 Well somewhat, it is complicated, lesbian could be used as a word to mean a female liking another female, but I’ve also seen actual nb people go by lesbian/gay

@alex-jk9uj

2 жыл бұрын

I think "gay" is used as an umbrella term for being in the LGBTQ+ community as well? I've been asked that question before and I was a bit baffled but then the person explained that they were just asking if I was in the community lol

"I look inside and I ask myself: 'Do I feel like a man or a woman?' And the answer is that I feel like shit" - ContraPoints

@youllbesafeinaplaceyoumatter

3 жыл бұрын

mood 24/7

@ilovekittys

3 жыл бұрын

facts

@dandelion3628

3 жыл бұрын

Mood.

@jumptherooftops6333

3 жыл бұрын

You gotta look inside yourself and say "What am I willing to put up with today?" NOT FUCKIN GENDER

@Sipsipsippinonlambtears

3 жыл бұрын

@@jumptherooftops6333 I got the reference

Video: Why is there even male and female sections in clothing stores?! Me: Maybe because people want clothing to fit their bodies and not just be a one size fits all thing? You know, just a thought...

@yaddayadda7595

6 жыл бұрын

Jimmy IsABird shut the fuck up jimmy

@weyderwarr

6 жыл бұрын

Jimmy IsABird shut the fuck up jimmy

@alinajune8652

6 жыл бұрын

Jimmy IsABird . Women's clothing has much more space in the chest and hips but the waist , leg length and with are small compared to the chest.

@allyspeedruns

6 жыл бұрын

when anyone displays a point for you to deny it is the utmost childish thing ive seen all year

@11jokerchen11

6 жыл бұрын

Considering the widely different body types of even just cis women or cis men already is a huge argument for why this divide makes no sense and it would make much more sense to divide clothes by cut/fit. How does for example a cis woman with a very flat chest benefit from a shirt that's cut for larger breasts because that's "what a woman's body is like"? She doesn't. Because it won't fit well in any size. But if she knows where in the store to go for shirts that fit her body type better, she would probably not feel as awful about her body. The same goes for every body type of everyone of any gender. Shopping for clothes would get infinitely more easy if we knew rightaway which section of the store is for our body type, not which section will show us how much we do not fit a certain ideal or alleged average.

"Which bathroom do u use?" NONE. I piss in a bottle and shit in the garden

@alecgurney9305

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds ideal tbh.

Being someone who's nonbinary, I can promise you most of us genuinely don't mind questions in real life lmao. I don't get why these folks are so dramatic over the questions- sometimes people get curious, nothing wrong with that

@Evey94Marti

2 жыл бұрын

because they are just pretending to be, they want the attention but not the real life struggles that follow

@zbattlez5530

2 жыл бұрын

What’s your gender?

@cincin3574

2 жыл бұрын

"most of us" no, you said that just to make your "community" look better, most nb people will get mad over that

@dcashley303

2 жыл бұрын

@@zbattlez5530 who are you asking? The original poster? They said they were non-binary so that is their gender.

@dcashley303

2 жыл бұрын

@@lagelada3307 it's better to ask questions rather than make assumptions I'd say. Just don't treat people like a lab rat haha!

Rather shop in the ‘male’ section cause the pants have pockets, shorts are longer, and the T-shirt’s have sleeves.

@AlexMint

5 жыл бұрын

I shop pretty much all over the store. My hips are more narrow than an average woman and wider than an average man so it's gonna be a hunt anyway.

@GenderlessToast

5 жыл бұрын

NightAngelus vary true

@johnbrown2163

5 жыл бұрын

I shop in the females section cause they have pleasant colors. Relaxing...

@NightAngelus

5 жыл бұрын

John Brown I guess I don’t think bout the colors since I like wearing darker tones. I think half my closet is black shirts with some kind of gothic design on it

@ceoofcringe3044

5 жыл бұрын

I agreeee

Gender stereotypes don't change your gender. Like me being a tomboy wouldn't automatically mean I'm no longer a girl.

@lucilucid

4 жыл бұрын

Correct. Feminine Trans Males and Masculine Trans Women are valid.

@Nozrhul

4 жыл бұрын

Totally true, and you don't even need to call yourself non binary, you can just continue on with your day, doing what you do and not giving a shit what others think

@lucilucid

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nozrhul Well, that's what I want to do. But I suffer from gender dysphoria if I'm seen as Male or female. So, I identify as Non-binary which gives me gender euphoria and try to live my life. But people keep stopping me and making who I am political or whatever. I just want to live my life.

@lucilucid

3 жыл бұрын

My identity has nothing to do with stereotypes or anything. But people make me feel like I'm faking my identity if I'm not acting perfectly within those stereotypes!

@SiobhanS1868

3 жыл бұрын

exactly

" you're genitals have nothing to do with your gender anyways" I'm sorry ma'am what?

@dcashley303

2 жыл бұрын

It's a difference between sex and gender identity. For most people, their genitals and sex line up with their gender, for instance a man with a penis, but sometimes these don't line up. A non-binary/genderfluid person is someone who (regardless of genitals) doesn't identify with their original perceived gender identity and doesn't nescarily see gender as simply binary (on one side man, on the other woman) but sees gender as a spectrum. Hope this helps.

@alvegutt42

2 жыл бұрын

@@dcashley303 a man who thinks he is a woman is still a man. having a different personality than "most guys" doesnt make you not a guy

@dcashley303

2 жыл бұрын

@@alvegutt42 non-binary isn't men thinking they are women.

@eloisejordan

2 жыл бұрын

@@alvegutt42 there is actual studies put into this stuff that proves non-binary people aren’t just “making stuff up.” Gender dysphoria is real.

As far as I understand, you have no idea who you are.

My issue with this is mainly their attitudes. They’re being so condescending when this topic is actually very confusing and there are so many contradictions that people outside of this community don’t understand. So to be told we essentially can’t ask any questions to understand it we should just know certain things is extremely frustrating.

@JacieHudson

4 жыл бұрын

020ctmarie and then they get offended when we don’t know what we’re talking about yet we can’t ask questions

@jillian5582

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed. To them they seem like stupid questions and they laugh at them. I’m not sure why it is funny to them. We are curious and trying to learn.

@plasticceilingfan5272

4 жыл бұрын

When we tell people who are cis about it they just make fun of us and think it's funny or cool to be transphobic so I dont see why most of the time we should just be nice and over the moon when people are transphobic towards a whole group of people they know nothing about at all

@peepeepoopoo7781

4 жыл бұрын

Well sometimes you don't really have to know everything about a person. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean you have to question people on things like their genitalia. (kill me if I'm wrong if so iam very sorry)

@020ctmarie

4 жыл бұрын

Sam I said nothing about questioning someone’s genitalia.

"are you a girl or a boy?" "a trash can" "what's in your pants?" "disappointment"

@catsarecooI

4 жыл бұрын

from now on i’m using this-

"Are you a boy or a girl?" 3 cats in a trenchcoat with a mannequin head acting like a normal human face so we can eat fish when we please

@ZACHANDJACKSZACHSMAFIA

2 жыл бұрын

Stealing jokes, unoriginal random humor, WEEB PFP, WEEB HOMESTUCKER -JACK

@ImJustJ.

2 жыл бұрын

This made my week. "3 cats in a trenchcoat" is going to be my go to answer to that one.

Calling yourself non-binary categorises everyone into binary or non-binary, creating a binary system which makes you binary again.

“Were you born a man or a woman?” I was born 21 rats stacked in a Trenchcoat. Edit: thank you so much for all the lovely replies

@moonliiime

3 жыл бұрын

Same.

@laurenmiller5784

3 жыл бұрын

I was born 3 bears and 10,000 rats

@SeveralRasInAJacket

3 жыл бұрын

Oh I was born as a green frog that crawled out of hell

@kirrrra7302

3 жыл бұрын

I was born 500,000 snails in a human body

@getTRICKEDbywaluigi

3 жыл бұрын

How convenient, I was born as a superior entity that is feared by some and will be feared by all

How does a non binary samurai kill people? They/them

@yoschiannik8438

3 жыл бұрын

Thats a good one

@spacebubble1552

3 жыл бұрын

That's a good one!

@smokeymcbongwater

3 жыл бұрын

I dont get it

@capncake8837

3 жыл бұрын

Took me a bit.

@yoschiannik8438

3 жыл бұрын

@@smokeymcbongwater the / symbole is called slash. so they slash them.

what even is this ??? i mean, why the public funded broadcast is pushing this freak shows?? are people in UK insane?

Another fine example of the tv license been put to good use… 😔

hang on... if they don't have a gender... what is gay to them? ( don't attack me I'm just confused )

@mars4968

4 жыл бұрын

Everything is gay

@islerpiler

4 жыл бұрын

I know... Makes zero sense. To be gay is to have a same sex attraction. U don't need to k ow what's in people pants to tell whether they are male or female. It was very clear what sex each individual was. The guy who said he was gay obvs sleep with men only. As he feels he is both genders, and gay, shouldn't he be attracted to both sexes like himself?

@bfas

4 жыл бұрын

There's different terms for people who identify as non binary and are attracted to one gender/sex. That person used the word "gay" most likely because they don't know the term for their attraction.

@rafaelolivares7917

4 жыл бұрын

Confusion of the highest ordah!

@user-ju6qy4sg1x

4 жыл бұрын

So the word gay doesn't technically fit in super well with nb identities, but if people are more aligned with a certain binary gender and they only like people who identify as that binary gender, they might consider themselves gay. There are other terms such as androsexual, gynesexual, and skoliosexual which describe sexual attraction to male, female, and nonbinary people, but they're not very widespread to my knowledge. Also, just as the relationship between two men or two women is described as gay, the relationship between two nb people is described as enbian. Hope this was helpful. Again, this terminology is just there for nb people who want it, and not all of them feel the need for words to describe their attraction, or they use more widespread vocabulary that others can relate to.

"L̶a̶d̶i̶e̶s̶ a̶n̶d̶ G̶e̶n̶t̶l̶e̶m̶e̶n̶" *My fellow yees and haws-*

@eleanorfields3270

4 жыл бұрын

God-tier comment

@apparentlyjeremy

3 жыл бұрын

are you stil going to finish that sentence

@obviouslywill4995

3 жыл бұрын

*my fellow peo and ple*

@saturn5024

3 жыл бұрын

Ah yes The true Texan way Uhh Uhhh Yeehaw

@DebraSmith1992

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

If in doubt, use the umbrella term “self-absorbed”.

"genitals have nothing to do with your gender" I am lost for words

@rapbattlefan2008

Жыл бұрын

It’s like saying that your height has nothing to do with how tall you are! 😂😂😂😂

@nunyadambidniss

Жыл бұрын

I wish I had two dicks instead of one.

@RussianSpyNikolai

11 ай бұрын

it’s true

I'm all for people doing what they want with their own life but people who identify as non binary, do not get mad when people call you he or she unless you explain to them. You can't just assume people will know you're non binary or that they even know what that means. That's the only thing I've seen personally that bothers me.

@maddie7414

7 жыл бұрын

Shyla Saunders I think these people are not being very understanding. there are so many of us (including me) who are simply curious about this topic and might ask some of these questions in a respectful manner and dont mean any harm. some of us simply want to learn because we aren't educated well enough on this topic. I don't think we are expected to be educated on this either. there are so many things in the world and it's like everyone's expected to know everything about our society right now but that's simply impossible. I didn't even know what non binary meant before the video started. but now I do. and it is OKAY that I didn't know. I simply hadn't been taught before, and now I have. I believe that someone simply asking a question (to someone they know, maybe not just a stranger on the street throwing accusations) but if you are asking in a respectful manner, then these people should answer! they are so upset that we don't know these things, yet we haven't been given answers, so answer us!! don't judge us for not knowing.

@mariisnugget8406

7 жыл бұрын

Shyla Saunders I'm non-binary and whenever someone calls me "she" or "her" I just kindly tell them "I prefer they/them better." I kindly tell them again if they forget. But when someone knows and is calling me a "she" on purpose that makes me mad. (But I'm too shy to say anything)

@Kornknealious

7 жыл бұрын

Maddie; no, it is the "non-binaries" who are not being understanding or tollerant. If you consider yourself a different gender that the only two known to all human kind ....and expect the rest of humanity to instantly understand and know all the "other" genders - don't get upset or demanding.

@flamingogh_

7 жыл бұрын

Maddie okay exactly! If you want me to use your pronouns, tell me your pronouns. Don't just think I'll know them. And at that point, don't be upset with me about it, if I didn't know! That just makes things more difficult for both me and you. It's so annoying to be in fear of upsetting someone because they assume I know they're non binary.

@mariisnugget8406

7 жыл бұрын

Thomas Korn if you read my comment correctly, I said if someone KNOWS I'm nonbinary and says "she" or "her" on purpose just to piss me off or annoy me, that annoys me. But if someone doesn't know I just kindly tell them "I prefer they/them better"

I have genuine question that I'm confused about... If you don't identify as male or female how can you identify as being gay? Because generally speaking homosexual means attracted to the same sex so I'm confused because your non binary

@keplerr1512

6 жыл бұрын

Jess Ferguson good question! the word “gay” has become an umbrella term. when they all say that they’re gay, it just means they’re something in LGBT+.

@fillow7287

6 жыл бұрын

I agree with ^ I indentify as non binary, and i am pansexual, even though i scream "im gay" all the time. Gay is more used as just having a sexuality other then hetrosexual like bi or pan, so basically non binary people being homosexual is i guess only liking other non binaries? Im not sure but i hope this kind of helped :D ♡

@icecreamguru7584

6 жыл бұрын

Jess Ferguson same

@ARizo-vv5dp

6 жыл бұрын

Jess Ferguson people use the term gay wrong

@CamPalinSmith

6 жыл бұрын

As someone in the LGBT category. The way I look at it is that either A) Gender and sexuality are different topics entirely. B) If you are Non-binary/Gener Fluid, etc, you would come under demisexual or pansexual.

Dont care what gender you are all I care is are you a good person

We will collectively look back at this period in our culture with deep regrets.

@dewmontain123

2 жыл бұрын

Ive been thinking the same thing.

@jamessertigo6292

2 жыл бұрын

sadly

@austindubois7616

2 жыл бұрын

Shit I don't even have to look back I can barely maintain sanity getting through it.

@mimzz2

2 жыл бұрын

...

@SwiftKey_253

2 жыл бұрын

what? this was honestly really difficult to read

I honestly don't walk down the street ticking off people's gender....

@DaveTaste

4 жыл бұрын

@@xavierquinn5215 lol

@jesshanson3259

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@ADecadeDrifting

4 жыл бұрын

@@xavierquinn5215 stfu.. you sound like a cross training vegan flamingo as well. Typical 'let me speak to the manager' pissbag.

@andrewcohon669

4 жыл бұрын

It's a counter-culture thing. The people in the video have to convince themselves that they are attacked by the whole of the society to justify their self-centeredness. The fact of the matter is the vast majority does not pay attention to the subtleties discussed in the video, if they see a man with tiddies in the streets people are just confused at best.

@theamazingt4r468

4 жыл бұрын

@@andrewcohon669 BEST! 🙌

i am not male or female, i am swag.

@radiofish395

3 жыл бұрын

*Mood*

@MrBmoore-vy4sc

3 жыл бұрын

I am not male or female. *I identify as a microwave*

@hearts4mikeafton

3 жыл бұрын

how much swag do you have

@okbutatwhatcost9087

3 жыл бұрын

the only valid comment

@ceilinglight1413

3 жыл бұрын

People call me nuts

"I mean what is a man, what is a woman?" that really says it all.

@yulduzibragim4459

2 жыл бұрын

A woman is a creature created since the beginning of time who has the ability to make babies ONLY through intercourse with a man because it is the NATURAL way (sure Jane the virgin incidents happen no denying that) but a non-binary is a recent creation by people who’ve gotten so bored with their lives that they became sick to the point where they use words such as vae vaem or incorrectly use the Shakespearean term “thee.” But wait, before you insult me I’ll help you out and call myself “hOmOpHoBiC” 🥴. Now I’ll go ahead and prepare myself for this zombie apocalypse.

“We suffer” nah you don’t, you made a decision and now you’re suddenly a victim. Try living in war, that’s suffering, or being homeless, that’s suffering, or having no money, that is suffering.

"are you a boy or a girl?" honey, I'm a disappointment

@ohokay4663

3 жыл бұрын

Ah actually, I'm a scientist. My gender is taking quick notes and muttering "hm... interesting... I must tell the academy at once." What's in my pants? Potassium Permanganate (ouch)

@shadysheep1984

3 жыл бұрын

sksksksks spil the tea sis shut up

@jono8404

3 жыл бұрын

Sarah I’m going to have to ask you to shut up

@danielleteaster3956

3 жыл бұрын

Same -w-

@depressedutchman

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahahahah😭😭😭😭😭 why do I live

How are you supposed to learn more about the diversity of people without asking questions

@rancidsa

4 жыл бұрын

@@sammccreath7641 Why? Maybe the problem is them? Maybe they shouldn't feel like the world owes them anything? Like A.M said they are not special, they just want to be. I feel sad for them.

@rancidsa

4 жыл бұрын

@@sammccreath7641 But you don't want equality. You want to be special. Equality means you will have to take crap just like every other person on the planet. Yes everyone deserves to be treated with respect but some of these aren't rude questions but now those asking the questions are being treated like stupid. Respect you say? Respect is earned as well and when you start off with the attitude these people displayed what do they expect from people? To act as if you are better and more special than others is one sure way to get treated differently and what would happen if the person respectfully states that they don't agree with this lifestyle? They get branded and lambasted as transphobic when it's just something that they don't agree with. Respect goes both ways.

@jessethompson1637

4 жыл бұрын

@@sammccreath7641 you say you want equality and you dont have it yet. What equalities have been given to others and not you or this group? Genuinely curious but I will say that these individuals dress to stick out like a sore thumb and that might not help when you walk about in public. This video is full of people that look like goofballs and that would definitely cause people to ask questions. Also never heard a generation talk about genitals soooo much in my life.

@RayW972

4 жыл бұрын

We wait till they give us instructions and hopefully they tell you their preference or preferences. Sounds alot like Government Organizations to me.

@RayW972

4 жыл бұрын

@@sammccreath7641 that's hard to do because I have asked questions in the most polite way and people have taken offense to it. I literally asked an associate of mine that is Trans due to being worried about starting a conversation with a fellow human "How should I approach someone that I'm not sure of their preference? Should I slowly talk and get into what do they identify as? " And he got offended I didnt know when I honestly didn't in this situation. Kind of ruined our relation because I remember when I met my associate years ago it was just natural and we were cool. Now I can almost feel the stigma of individuals feeling as if I'm automatically going to offend them on purpose. The vibes are like walking on eggshells. Years ago seemed people didn't care about preferences at all. I remember him asking me a few years back if I was gay and I simply said no and took no offense. Just find it ridiculous that now for some reason some of the first conversations you have with someone is trying to find out their preference so you don't offend them. When it shouldn't be that way. We should be able to talk naturally and bond without having to even worry about personal preferences. I mean at the end of the day it's a personal preference so why isn't staying personal during the beginning stages of introduction? Not saying that in a way of dont ask dont tell but in a true world of equality you naturally just talk to people and bond not caring about anything that is visible. I have had conversations with homeless individuals that no one will approach eveb individuals apart of the LGBTQ community because their visible appearance and they were the best conversations I have ever had. I don't think many understand the actual meaning of equality.

I can tell who is a male and a female by the mere fact of observing.

@nunyadambidniss

Жыл бұрын

I saw this one so called "NB" that was honestly impossible to identify His/Hers gender in this one vid ! Sad to think how not being able to get laid leads to such insanity :(

I'm 52 so this was never explained to me but I wish it had been. People asked me until my middle teens if I was a boy or girl. It was so weird to me that people would ask that when I was a little kid. I'd just stare at the floor and mumble something like, "Idk... girl, I guess." I have never ever felt like a girl though. I thought I was a tomboy, but I never felt like a boy either. Now that I'm in perimenopause, I feel like I am finally back to how free from gender I felt when I was 8 years old and didn't care. I literally only own t-shirts, jeans, and tennis shoes and have no f's to give about it anymore. I wish I understood, back then, that I was non-binary or had my first half of life in a society that just let me be me. Back in the day, there was an SNL skit about a character named Pat who no one could ever tell. My friends used to tease me that I was Pat.

The problem is that these people (not all of them) get super angry when you dont understand it. Thats the reason we ask, because we dont understand *but we want to* . How are we supposed to understand you if you get all angry and defensive when we try to??

@vivamalcarney6205

6 жыл бұрын

Lena with a Box there is biological sex, which is assigned at birth, gender is they portrayal of that, you can portray gender in any way, a non binary person can feel boyish and girly at the same time, and trans persons biological sex doesn’t match with their gender, so they change their gender, hope this helps! Ask questions

@lenap319

5 жыл бұрын

@@vivamalcarney6205 uh, yeah. What is the difference between a non binary person and like, a tomboy? i know there is a major one, but i never really got it... Thanks for answering my questions btw

@shadowman0182

5 жыл бұрын

from what i can tell just from this video. the difference between a tomboy and non binary is non binary seem to care what u call them and a tomboy doesnt really care they just want to live life.

@nikolaipetrichor2065

5 жыл бұрын

The difference between a tomboy and a non-binary person is expression; the way someone looks: masculine, feminine androgynous, or a mix of that. The way someone expresses there gender isn't the same as being any certain gender. A tomboy is someone who dresses masculine and identifies as a woman, and a non-binary person identifies with not being male or female. How masculine or feminine you dress doesn't affect what your genders is, and plenty of non-binary people dress masculine, plenty dress feminine, and there are a lot of people who dress kind of in the middle of gender(androgynous).

@daisy6545

5 жыл бұрын

Lena with a Box. Yeah I mean I don’t get offended when people ask because they’re just questions i use (she/her. And they/them pronouns) and I like that people ask questions and I’ll happily explain to them and people who ask what gender I was born don’t offend me either I just explain what I was born and how I feel about myself honestly so long as they ask politely I’m glad they ask it’s better than them not understanding

"Why is there female or male clothing" (paraphrasing) Probably because men and women have different body shapes...

@ImFuckingAwesome97

7 жыл бұрын

KobyTheHedgehog I was born a woman and I have a very male body shape so?

@KobyTheHedgehog

7 жыл бұрын

I do know some women who occasionally wear men's clothing (primarily t-shirts), but men most the time cant do the same... a fit male has a much larger body (not to say a guy couldn't find a larger size, but generally female clothing is made to fit in a specific way while male clothing is pretty basic and universal)

@a.mostert800

7 жыл бұрын

Nikki then wear men's clothing because you have no femininity to flaunt. Men wear men's clothing whether they are pear shaped or fit as a fiddle. This doesn't change that men and women have different bodies, just that yours is inadequate and cannot be marketed as something healthy and attractive. Don't try to pass that off an argument for unisex clothing.

@a.mostert800

7 жыл бұрын

Who are you trying to convince? I prefer hourglass, as do many hot blooded men. There's a difference between child-bearing hips and a pear shaped fatty.

@user-mb7ul8mw1f

7 жыл бұрын

KobyTheHedgehog every human has different body types, so why don't we divide clothing into different body types?

I just avoid anyone who think they can supervise or correct my speech. problem solved.

@RickPatNB

Жыл бұрын

Me too, I'm not gonna participate in their word games. These kind of ppl tend to be really toxic. I consider ppl describing themselves as non-binary to be mentally ill. Madness has gone way too far by now.

@Jinkroll

Жыл бұрын

Rip language teachers

@shadetreader

4 ай бұрын

So you never went to school, got it.

What I don’t get is why they say that sex shouldn’t identify you when it literally already doesn’t, basically saying that the stereotypes associated with them are true which doesn’t make sense.

imagine getting offended over someone asking for your 'pRonoUns', can't relate sis.

@lylehmm3983

4 жыл бұрын

And then getting mad when they don't ask and "aSsuMe yOuR gEndEr".

@luluraven7698

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree I'm non binary and I think it's so sweet when people ask

@missmaipai

4 жыл бұрын

Lucinda hill same!!

@idknellyy

4 жыл бұрын

Bucky Barnes exactly if it’s “offensive” to ask then how are we going to respectfully address you...

@SurfingBOceanNesto22

4 жыл бұрын

@@luluraven7698 Non binary means a cucked feminist rip

"I'm gay" ok but gay means you're attracted to the same gender... what?

@lucienguyen4055

5 жыл бұрын

Actually it means you're attracted to the same SEX. Not gender. That's the biggest misunderstanding. If you were attracted to the gender, you would be attracted to a MASCULINE/FEMININE person (and the sex wouldn't matter). But if you're a woman, and you like men, you might be attracted to a very very andro/masculine woman but in the end it wouldn't work because you like men (and penises I guess ?) and you wouldn't be sexually compatible.

@oozly9291

5 жыл бұрын

Lucie Ng they still like the same gender and doesn’t matter if their masculine or not

@VAMR-vc7xg

5 жыл бұрын

Lucie Ng - Got it in one.

@owenlyadon3572

5 жыл бұрын

Sophie Tomkinson, I am Non-Binary, and use gay to have a sense of community.

@ghost_gakk4021

5 жыл бұрын

@@lucienguyen4055 Oh my god *Leave*

Their reactions to the questions just makes anyone like this come across as "confrontational" and rather unapproachable especially if they have unhealed trauma! which we all have to heal through our lives!)

@smokyquartz5817

7 ай бұрын

If everyone had trauma it wouldn't have diagnostic criteria.

It’s your obsession not ours

There is only one gender. OUR GENDER *Soviet Anthem plays*

@tamangtman9064

6 жыл бұрын

Daniel Sniderman how do you not know how many there are. That's when you know what your saying isn't real. Mmmm idk how many types of water there are... maybe there is 57!!!!

@Ghost-ow6os

5 жыл бұрын

Daniel Sniderman when biology accepts them, then the rest of us will too. Maybe

@davidelliott9345

5 жыл бұрын

@Daniel Sniderman "fuck biology I have a brain" is possibly the dumbest think I've ever read. Fuck the arguments idc about genders but you are stupid as shit

@Ghost-ow6os

5 жыл бұрын

Daniel Sniderman biology and psychology are the two factors here and biology is the sole reason there are only 2 genders

@emiaguilar2611

5 жыл бұрын

@Daniel Sniderman there are 2 genders

"are you male or female?" *I'm a possum in a top hat Carol.*

@funcats1999

3 жыл бұрын

how do i put this on my passport imiiediately

@ashleyedits2707

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 30 rats stacked in trench coat tho (I'm non binary btw)

@ashleyedits2707

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexthegamer7387 ok

@bored.person10

3 жыл бұрын

@Skarbie Well es Elles :)

@ashleyedits2707

3 жыл бұрын

@Skarbie Well i dont know spanish so im not sure

They are not opressed and that's nice. Truly opressed people, like gays and lesbians in my country, need desperately people to listen and make questions, so they can answer and build understanding. Truly opressed people are happy when they even have an opportunity to fight.

@dewilew2137

2 жыл бұрын

YES. THANK YOU. ♥️

I am a patently open minded person. I came to this video to find answers...but i found myself with more questions. How is one supposed to learn anything with this? Every little question its treared like an attack. Get over yourselves. 🙄 Absolutely everyone got triggered for the littlest thing. BTW reason i came was to find out what the heck is a "hir"

@toongamer2810

2 жыл бұрын

Never heard of a hir. Not gonna lie it sounds dumb off rip

Unisex - “that word needs to die” but....isn’t that a good thing... i-

@snailmeat2204

4 жыл бұрын

exactly?? what-

@Ray03595

4 жыл бұрын

they make all this stuff up. Ask them to define what non-binary is and they cannot even do it. It has no definition. Ridiculous.

@gr1mreap3rz15

4 жыл бұрын

@@Ray03595 the definition of nonbinary is literally "outside of the (gender) binary"??? It isn't complicated luv

@Hazyla

4 жыл бұрын

What the heck is wrong with the word unisex? Seriously?

@annalouise5074

4 жыл бұрын

@@gr1mreap3rz15 how does one be outside of the gender binary?? genuine question, not even intersex people are outside of the gender binary, they are somewhere in between

So is it wrong to think the reason for men's/women's clothing sections is cuz of like the actual shape of the person and like sewing?

@4TheRecord

5 жыл бұрын

@TheWonderWoman2005 "Then why not advertise the clothing as having a certain shape instead of a gender. Its just fabric" Because the majority of people on the planet identify as male or female. If you don't like that, tough luck.

@davideparis8039

5 жыл бұрын

As a cis man with very wide shoulder who frequently shops in the women's section of clothing stores, most clothes, if large enough, will fit you without much problem regardless of gender

@kiera1209

5 жыл бұрын

@Tarot Tune Up Most of the time when society mostly goes one way, it is the right way. Most people view murder as bad. Most people view racism as bad. Are they actually bad? Yes. The whole point is gender is determined by dna, you don't pick. The only things that should be identifying as genderfluid are the actual living organisms with male and female organs.

@kiera1209

5 жыл бұрын

@Tarot Tune Up The Majority would mind their business if the minority would stop acting oppressed and act like they need everything to be changed for them. Literally they changed how we do our graduation gowns at my school because the non-binary students can't stop crying about everything. Chick literally just said clothes should be changed to shape instead of gender. Literally watched a girl complaining about how doctors are rude for assigning them genders. It's not the doctor, it's your dna. What's next.

@kiera1209

5 жыл бұрын

Tarot Tune Up It’s hard to mind your business when these people literally are going everywhere trying to change everything. My school has had to change so many things because of their crying.

Why are they so arrogant and self-righteous? This has been nothing but anger and hatred towards people who don’t get them. This is more of a political ideology than anything else it’s kids playing games.

@aliceseverin4392

Ай бұрын

It's a funny video about venting some of their frustration and sharing their experiences. Literally every single one of these videos is like this calm down.

6 minutes in and still none the wiser.

0:10 why is “unisex” a bad word tho

@holliek.7145

4 жыл бұрын

Unisex is a word that means any gender can wear it. But they're saying that if you enter a clothing store it shouldn't be male clothes, girl clothes, it's just meant to be clothes I want to wear not what you define as feminine or masculine wear.

@PikoStarsider

4 жыл бұрын

All clothes are gender neutral

@PikoStarsider

4 жыл бұрын

@@Upcastpanther Why?

@alocusdraws9125

4 жыл бұрын

Dylan.thomas7 a boy can wear girl clothes so idk what you mean

@Soniccairo

4 жыл бұрын

PikoStarsider that's false. There are clothes that only a female can wear properly

these people: gender doesn’t matter! also these people: *overly puts gender stereotypes on everything and everyone*

@user-ns8my1bw7r

5 жыл бұрын

Judging from your profile pic I don't think you are being dishonest, but genuinely didn't understand, so let's take a step back; Society has and reinforces gender stereotypes and roles, that bears little or none at all biological reasons, so they shouldn't matter nor define you, literally quoting the video: ''you can be a boy and you can like flowers, you can be a girl and you can like cars'', but we have a context in which, in the first case, you are a boy liking a female thing, and sure, there are patterns, but the concept non-binary people have, is to not have a strict separation between genders(male and female), but rather a spectrum, and it's a misconstruction on your part that they define themselves as non-binary because they like both, flowers and cars, this would be just another restriction, gender is more complex, it's based on experiences, how you are perceived and perceive yourself, how you relate to other and other relates to you, and being on the extreme of that spectrum for some it's limiting that understanding. Even sex is more complex than memes might let you think and it's not so strictly binary either, been both part of sexuality, it might relate to gender in different ways, but they are distinct. Some non-binary people partly or completely disassociates with the assigned gender at birth due to experiencing social and/or physical gender dysphoria to varying degree, others might be more gender non-conforming.

@r0bbi3rulez

5 жыл бұрын

tiffany tl:dr

@115online

5 жыл бұрын

@@user-ns8my1bw7r But what he's trying to say is...here is this group that tries to associate themselves as not really having a traditional label of how to identify themselves...while somehow at the same time...extremely particular about what labels they'd actually like to be called. I can't wrap my head around it..which is fine...however, I don't think it's fair to get angry at me when I'm actually trying to understand how to just...talk to you.

@VezFly

5 жыл бұрын

when did they do that? lol

@namechange.136

5 жыл бұрын

tiffany I read your reply with interest because I'm a liberal who thinks non binary is just one step too far. I do think it's a fashion thing. I'm trying to understand.

I identity myself as a T-Rex dinosaur and I demand quotas for my fellow dino friends (only in high paying careers, we aren't interested in equality for low paying ones) and new laws so everyone else is obligated to partake in my alternative reality where there is no such thing as species because that is just a social construct created by patriarchal biologists and it makes no sense in my alternative reality world. If you don't agree with me and refuse to love me or call me by my "The mightiest" pronoun I'll pretend I am a victim even though I could eat you anytime I wanted.

@RickPatNB

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! At the end of the day these kind of ppl suffer from a mental illness. I'm not going to participate in their delusion, it will only make it worse.

at 5:08 , we still call it mens and womens sections because the clothes are made for the two different body types jesus christ

"Are you a boy or a girl?" *I'm 9000 lizards in a coat*

@luigithesnicker

5 жыл бұрын

And im 3 books in a bag

@DANCERcow

5 жыл бұрын

Depends of the kind of lizard, cuz if you were all komoto dragons then you would be a gaint! Like probably as tall as a hotel or something!

@qoobfoodisnotgood7457

5 жыл бұрын

In 2019, really? :) At this point, it makes me want to pat you on the back really

@DANCERcow

5 жыл бұрын

Sid Sidney can you *be* my fish!?

@kai_furry

5 жыл бұрын

I say IMA FUCKIN BEAST HONEY

Who the hell asks: "What's going on down there?"

@immerensisdeus

4 жыл бұрын

more people than you'd think

@wisteriahayes6810

4 жыл бұрын

@@immerensisdeus no one goes around asking what going on down there especially if that person is just a stranger or random person in the street

@immerensisdeus

4 жыл бұрын

@A M. dude you have no clue how often I get asked if im a boy or a girl, if im trans, and then if I answer, what my genitals are/if ive had surgeries. you say we are fixated on our sex, and yeah, thats probably true! wanna know why? because we spend every day in a body that feels Wrong. most days I cannot even pinpoint why, exactly, but my body feels wrong all the time. like it isn't mine. like it's some mask or suit im wearing. except I cant take it off. and every day, no matter how hard I try to cover it up or change it, people see the suit im wearing and assume thats the gender I am. do you know how painful that is? so, yeah, maybe we are obsessed with our genitalia. because we have the wrong ones. and im sure if you were in that position, you would want to try and get rid of that suit to the best of your ability, too. for some its literally a matter of life and death. I know personally I was once so depressed from my dysphoria I seriously considered killing myself because transitioning is so difficult and so expensive. shits tough, and you aren't making it any easier

@Yourhyperfixationandmine

4 жыл бұрын

More then you’d think. I’ve had several kids at school ask me “so umm, what are you?” while looking at my crotch.

@Yourhyperfixationandmine

4 жыл бұрын

A M. I’m not fixated on my sex so I’m not sure what your talking about. We get surgery and make fake dicks because it makes us feel less dysphoric. Judging my that comment I’m going to assume you don’t keno what dysphoria is (I’m really really sorry if I you do know what dysphoria is and I guessed incorrectly) so I’m going to explain it to you. Dysphoria happens when you are born in the wrong body. Imagine if you were born with boobs (or without if your female) it would feel wrong right? Like something is missing/attached to you that’s not supposed to be. That why we get surgeries to get rid of something that’s not supposed to be there or to add something that’s supposed to be there. It’s like if you had a bump on your leg, it didn’t harm you but it was big, annoying, and it made you didn’t like the bump, especially when people noticed it. You would get it removed right? That way you would feel more comfortable in your body. The same goes for surgeries to change genitals, it’s to make you feel more comfortable in your own body. I hope I explained this well! Have a good day!

I don't mean to sound rude or misgender normative but organs define a persons gender no matter what there is no denying this fact so why can't these fellow humans use the words mate and mates as a term for everyone as a compromise I mean they and them are words used to describe multiple human beings so why not use these instead of improper English while forcing it down other's throats?

0:46 what? That's literally what they define.

Damn just had a gender reveal. It came back negative :(

@nicastraea

4 жыл бұрын

Cereal this is the best comment hands down 😭😭😭😭😭😭

@ilovebasil__

4 жыл бұрын

I am sorry for that I even didn't came out

@ember5031

4 жыл бұрын

this reply section has no drama! woo!

@thecaptainsmustache

4 жыл бұрын

As a Pan, Non-Binary human. love the minecraft bee on the pan flag, it's all i ever wanted in life

@navrhy3075

4 жыл бұрын

CunfuffleBuffle You don’t exist

The question "what's going on down there" doesn't only apply to non binaries, it's weird if you just go up to some random ass stranger and ask that.

@vastrenegade299

6 жыл бұрын

I came from birdman's video too 😂😂

@thegoblinundertheporch351

6 жыл бұрын

It's just stange

@boythighs1780

6 жыл бұрын

nonetheless if you’re asking what is in someones pants you’re a weirdo Thanks For Coming To My Ted Talk

@ohokay4663

3 жыл бұрын

It's usually not specifically "what's in your pants?" It usually shows up as the question, "so have you had any surgeries yet?" Because they're trying really hard to be subtle

if you complain about me asking your pronouns to be nice dont complain if i get it wrong

@Chloe4656.

2 ай бұрын

Exactly it just feels more peer pressure

I identify as Michael Jackson, and my pronouns are heehee/shamone

@Rhys1229

5 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA that is the best comment I have ever read!!! 😂😂😂

@jhova187

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao brilliant

@blancanunez2401

5 жыл бұрын

M H this is the best comment ever.

@hannahbobby2348

5 жыл бұрын

I’ve screenshotted this 😂😂😂

@notmoelel

5 жыл бұрын

Cool, I’m Alvis Presley

The bald person said Then Learn but how are we supposed to learn if you don’t want anyone to ask any questions?

@dropkicksofthemurphys9696

5 жыл бұрын

Ask away, mate. Not all of us are as... unique as those in this video. Some are just trying to live their lives.

@chvllywvlly

5 жыл бұрын

Look it up

@okboi2513

5 жыл бұрын

@@chvllywvlly how to be gay

@lavone5541

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe not ask sensitive questions in an inappropriate setting to a complete stranger? There are plenty of proper places, online or in person to learn about the lgbt community. If you really must ask that trans /genderqueer colleague of yours, maybe ask their permission to have a private lecture first? But as i said, its a very sensitive topic especially for the trans/genderqueer person in question.

@jadie-maydredd210

5 жыл бұрын

It’s not about not asking questions it’s more about not asking rude questions

In the Philippines, we have people who are called bakla, people assigned male at birth who mostly have a feminine gender expression, and tomboys who are the other way around. They are seen as a third gender and they have existed even since pre-colonial times. The Filipino language itself is mostly gender neutral when it comes to pronouns: we mostly use "siya" when indicating the third person. What I'm saying is gender is fluid. Non-binary or genderfluid people have always existed and are part of our society and of course should be respected. Although it might be a struggle for many people in the beginning for people in the English-speaking world or any other language that uses two or more pronouns. But, respecting and accepting these people who identify in between is one step forward for humanity.

Being non binary is a trend. Like the top knot.

Imagine walking down a street and some random stranger yells "Hey! You have a d**k!" Yeah that'll never happen

@lestatthegreat5524

5 жыл бұрын

I have some friends that would teach you other wise . 😐😂

@ArielBojorquez

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah these people need help, it’s a delusion. Whenever I get a delusion my friends and family know not to encourage it.

@Springu387

5 жыл бұрын

@Mabel Willianson Who?

@Springu387

5 жыл бұрын

@Mabel Willianson Alright well, I do know that there is only two genders so I am confused about that? The only thing I did in comment was mock what that person said, because that is just ridiculous from my point of view.

@Springu387

5 жыл бұрын

@Mabel Willianson Well, I'm sorry that I haven't really made my point. What I wanted to say is basically that, in my point of view, I believe that no one would shout that in public. But yeah, I know that I'm wrong, it would basically be the same to say that someone believes that no one would die from idk, fever or cold, yet it happens. And damn that feels bad to hear, hope those bullies regret it :v

the difference between male and female clothing is that female clothing is tailored to fit the female body for example bigger breasts and hips

@thecrap17yearsago35

6 жыл бұрын

It doesn’t though it’s still stupid

@hopelessly.lavenderly

6 жыл бұрын

I'm afab and I wear "female" clothes and they still don't fit me so...

@awkwarddumbass6949

6 жыл бұрын

TheCrap what’s stupid about clothes fitting to your body? If you want you can wear clothes fitted for a male body. They are just bigger because men tend to be bigger than women.

@mercuriart

6 жыл бұрын

Yep. Which sucks, because I have zero boobage and, like, Shakira hips. There is a grand total of zero dresses that fit my hips and don't make me look like a walking square.

@whitehorsedown6499

6 жыл бұрын

I saw a hot woman with a penis yesterday. I blew my brains out and now I am a ghost that reads comments sections. I miss my boner.

The only solution is to not associate with these mental cases

@MiloSatori

Жыл бұрын

Yes, i avoid these people.

Tbh I refuse to participate in others delusions

THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION IM NOT MAKING A JOKE: how can one be gay and gender non binary. From what I understand, to be gay is to be attracted to the same gender. But if you don't HAVE a gender how can you say you're gay.....??? Once again I want to understand, not make fun of people.

@elliestrange5285

7 жыл бұрын

Gay is now used as like a generalised term, so a bisexual person could say "I'm sooooo gay" when really they're bi but they wanted to say gay.

@JustThatLauren

7 жыл бұрын

Thenoodliestofninjas being bi *is* gay, half gay. half straight. if they are dating the same gender, that is a gay relationship. thinking of the same gender, that would be gay thoughts. poor example. it does not apply here.

@elliestrange5285

7 жыл бұрын

JustThatLauren i said a generalized term. However the original meaning is just a male liking another male. Yes bisexuals and pansexuals label them selves and gay because now it is a generalized term. I'm not really wrong actually because a bisexual does choose to call themselves gay instead if saying bi because as i have said multiple times, gay is a generalized term now.

@TigerPrawn_

7 жыл бұрын

Being bi is not being gay. Think of sexualities a s colours: red is hetero, blue is gay, purple is bi. Purple isn't referred to as half red half blue, it's its own colour!

@elijah6457

7 жыл бұрын

I can't help you with this question but I can relate to what most people are saying.. I'm a lesbian but much prefer the word gay I just really hate being called a lesbian. I've never understood why just the word makes me cringe but the more I think about it subconsciously I don't like it because of how much the word lesbian is sexualised

I don’t like it when they act rude about the questions some people may ask. Like the He or She part. It’s an honest question where people are trying to make sure they don’t offend you. You shouldn’t make people feel shit for asking question and trying to understand you. That would just make them have negative assumptions about all non binary people in the future.

@hannahp7205

5 жыл бұрын

It's more of the phrasing of it than the actual question itself. If someone said, "What pronouns do you use?" Its easier to answer than, "Do you use he or she?" because its more open and not giving you options that you have to choose from.

@Kornknealious

5 жыл бұрын

First off...non binary is fictional... Secondly...see above.

@VintageDefectors69

5 жыл бұрын

@@Kornknealious I love this

@JC19171

5 жыл бұрын

@@hannahp7205 seriously? The phrasing of the question? Is their skin that thin that if you phrase your questions wrong they'll take offense?

@hannahp7205

5 жыл бұрын

Joseph Clark It’s not offensive as such, it’s just easier to answer when it’s an open question and not one with set answers.

This is a great advertisement for condoms

Yu should all get a job

9 years ago I asked the girl of my dream out on a date. Today I asked her to marry me. She said no both times

@sergioreyes2874

6 жыл бұрын

I’m not homophobic, just my guess

@pigoink1701

6 жыл бұрын

Sergio Reyes You know what a joke is right?

@benfleishman2944

6 жыл бұрын

I’ve seen this at least 50 times on various parts of the internet

@tig7737

6 жыл бұрын

o. m. g. that’s terrible💀

@darrennavaratnarajah7668

6 жыл бұрын

one day buddy

Says she or him *gets offended* Asks what their pronouns are *gets offended* Like, I’m sorry I don’t know what you are, but don’t need to get so offended if I can’t tell and just met you

@vitoisadoll

4 жыл бұрын

e x a c t l y. 👏 i hate this part of the nb/genderfluid community that gets offended by everything and feel so progressive and cool for it. like damn...

@knottypigeon719

4 жыл бұрын

just say ‘may i ask what your pronouns are?’ don’t be a dick about it. easy.

@Baby_Belle777

4 жыл бұрын

Gingie It’s cause some people say it in an offensive manner that can seem like they are taking the piss

@GummyGrave

4 жыл бұрын

Gingie it’s better to ask, most people do not get offended, yes some people are like that but people are also like that when you mis gender their dog

@sorbbae620

4 жыл бұрын

You could ask.. just ask their pronouns

Social contagion at it's finest. And narcissistic preoccupation with "identity".

@doenja83

2 жыл бұрын

Nailed it.

@darkshadowstorm7056

2 жыл бұрын

Each person has a sense of identity. It's just that language is catching up with the ability to articulate it.

@RickPatNB

Жыл бұрын

It's being called a mental illness, spread the word. It's not in their best interest either, to participate in their delusion.

As an older Irish gay man in the U.K. who is also a traditional Catholic, I am finding this topic interesting, even though I’ve got the pronouns wrong when I have attempted to engage - to be honest, I don’t engage as much, as I really find it difficult to understand as much as I could or should, so I constantly tell myself that I don’t have any right to form any opinions on this nor make any comments nor make any judgments, as I come from a background that saw and regarded people who were non-binary, gender-fluid and genderqueer as being “confused” and “pushing an agenda” as it was never a thing in my day

@babs_babs

8 ай бұрын

as someone who is nonbinary, i find most people are projecting when they call me confused. i know who i am and feel very comfortable with myself. i feel very strongly that i was born with an intersex brain. i’m not exactly sure what agenda i’m supposedly pushing. i know i don’t want people treated better or worse because of their sex or gender, but i thought that was a pretty mild take for my generation (old gen z, young millennial)

@michaeljohndennis2231

8 ай бұрын

@@babs_babs I’m 53, so growing up in a staunchly Catholic background in Rural Ireland in the 1980’s in my teens, I can relate, as I had to endure some really stupid and ignorant comments from people who would say that because I’m gay that I’m “confused” about my sexual orientation, not sexual preference, as this implies that I had a choice between living a lie in the closet and denying the values of honesty with which I was raised or coming out

@loganblackwood2922

6 ай бұрын

​@@babs_babsAnd I feel very strongly that weren't born with an intersex brain because there is no such thing.

"is it he or. She or they or what" How am i suppised to adress you by your prefered pronoun if i am not allowed to ask. And then throwing a tantrum when its wrong geez

@alexlaw236

5 жыл бұрын

Its okay to ask what our pronouns are, in fact its great when people do because then it shows they care, just be careful the way you phrase it

@lenap319

5 жыл бұрын

@@alexlaw236 okay. If i as you like this "what pronouns should i refer to you by?" is that okay? Or should i phrase it different

@alexlaw236

5 жыл бұрын

@@lenap319 yeah, that's perfect! It's just when people act like it's a drag or a huge responsibility to ask or use the right pronouns that it starts to go south, for the most part the majority of LGBT people who has a different pronoun will be fine if you're just respectful about it

@lenap319

5 жыл бұрын

@@alexlaw236 yeah, i never met a nonbinary or trans person, so i never acvidentaly misgendered one. I assumed that (same is in fandoms and such) theres a vocal minority that gets realy offemded if you accidentaly say the wrong ponoun (even if you apologize and correct yourself right after). But i figure thats just a small lart of the comunity. (also im bisexual and most of my friends are bi or gay. I just dont really associate with the nb part, because where i live theres no or just little nb and trans people)

@alexlaw236

5 жыл бұрын

@@lenap319 yeah, there is a minority of really *really* offended trans, NB, ect. people and thats all you really see and all that people really think about... Also like all of my friends turned out to be NB or trans (I'm genderfluid) and some of them get really self conscious about pronouns but that's about it, as long as your respectful most good people will forgive you. Hell, my best friend went three months without telling me his preferred name and to use her/him pronouns

"I don't understand?" "Then learn!" How are we supposed to learn if you say don't ask questions. And more specifically the questions we would need to ask in a hope to be respectful.

@lorianemonnin9458

5 жыл бұрын

Well, actually, there are a lot of way to learn without ask questions to non-binary persons. Like, for example, there is internet. And then, i know it could seem weird to say "I don't want to answer your questions, learn alone", but a lot of non-binary/transgender people answer questions all the day, all the week. And it is just really unconfortable and tiring, because it's everytime, and because they feel like they need to justify their existence - which is really hurtfull. It's why they ask you " stop asking". For them it means "let me live my life without ask me to justify my existence".

@Tsunade11844

5 жыл бұрын

99% of non binary and trans people I know are very open to questions, as long as they aren't obviously meant to be antagonizing. At the same time, it is not our job to educate you. You can easily do your own research.

@mjsw1790

5 жыл бұрын

There are KZread q and as watch those

@PhoenixRising87

5 жыл бұрын

I assume, but virtue of you being able to write KZread comments, that you are, in fact, not a toddler. Therefore, I trust you can use Google. That said, I personally don't mind questions, so long as they're not rude or invasive.

@theman_themyth_themoth758

5 жыл бұрын

It’s not their job to educate you though, and half of the questions you ask (if you ask the same kind of questions portrayed in the video) are just rude or intrusive. If you’re truly curious, search it up. The internet exists.

What about: How much of you being a creepy, self-indulgent weirdo comes from having a terrible relationship with your father?

@CartersDad

2 жыл бұрын

mr krabs makes cents

4:10 lol 😂 Even she, he, they, it - had a hard time understanding what ridiculous pronouns there are now.

Why does the word "unisex" Need to die, exactly?

@averyprice1771

4 жыл бұрын

it's kind of dumb and outdated for the most part. It's a very outdated way of looking at gender that if something is 'for men' and 'for women' it's 'unisex'. Things don't need to be targeted at a specific gender. People can just wear what they want. Hope this helped :)

@radwooah

4 жыл бұрын

@@averyprice1771 unisex means both sexes. Funny how you have been giving false statements this whole comment section wtfff.

@tlp031102

4 жыл бұрын

Natasha Price but in real life, some clothes are for men and some clothes are for women, that’s just how the majority of people live

@TurnipCart

4 жыл бұрын

Because they don't like it therefore it shouldn't exist.

@purvai4701

4 жыл бұрын

Cuz it just symbolizes gender roles

i understand she he they. WHATS A ZIF AND WHATS FEE

@irlgardengnostic2716

5 жыл бұрын

ikr, i am non binary and use they,, but zif and fee??

@polyydeucess4475

5 жыл бұрын

uhh i think they’re other pronouns for people who fit out of the binary stuff? personally i think they’re a bit weird but idk people do what they like

@irlgardengnostic2716

5 жыл бұрын

@@ayoo1023 please just let me live my life(? I don't wish to start any arguments, so I suppose I will just drop it now.

@irlgardengnostic2716

5 жыл бұрын

neopronouns make me uncomfortable tbh

@cpl_

5 жыл бұрын

I’m open minded but that’s just stupid

this video should be 2 seconds long, it should say the title then the end, because there is no non binary

This was insufferable

About the pronoun question..... please don't be angry if we ask what to call you, politely of course. There are some of us confused folks out here who may not understand, like me, but really do want to learn. We are ALL human beings after all, stuck on this rock together.

@Mismatched_S0cks

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you. There’s a lot of sources on internet so if you’re really interested.

@Mismatched_S0cks

6 жыл бұрын

Honestly there is no reason for someone to get mad at you for asking. To me it’s the best thing cause I know that person doesn’t want me to feel uncomfortable

@brolmao3482

6 жыл бұрын

I understand what you're saying, but the non-binary people get questions on the daily about that. They start to get annoyed when they get that question every day, even if it's being asked politely. Sorry if I sound rude, and I understand where you're coming from, just think about how many times they get asked that daily. Oof sorry, and have a good dayy

@TeamJulene

6 жыл бұрын

Yes you can ask!! Unless its a situation where you wouldnt have needed to know their pronouns. So if you are a friend, coworker, acquaintance, etc. thats totally ok to ask. If you walk up to someone where you wouldnt have been talking to them or referring to them its rude because it might be a question they have to answer over and over and you are basically saying 'im a random person who will never refer to you again I just really needed to know what you are'. Also heads up, 99% of the time they are a binary /cis person would will be pretty confused/hurt by the question.

@joyrowancasey788

6 жыл бұрын

This. This is the best way to approach it because you want to learn. And that's amazing enough honestly

So how exactly do they expect to encourage awareness and curiosity if every question you ask is problematic?

@estherriley6879

3 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of the time it's the tone and assumptions that come with the questions that are the problem.

@noodlzthesecond2324

3 жыл бұрын

This video isn't exactly serious advice of what not to say. It really just means try to phrase questions non offensively if you're confused. I understand that there's the whole "this generations will be offended by everything" but if you preface things with "I'm not tryna be offensive but" it should go a bit better

@lenaoreilly3647

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, whilst I totally agree with people’s right to identify as whatever they like and be whoever they want to be, it’s not fair to abuse those who don’t agree with you. Unfortunately you have to accept that people aren’t going to understand and aren’t going to share the same opinions. Too many of us feel so self entitled that we demand that everyone agrees with us. As soon as someone doesnt share the same beliefs they are labelled as transphobic, should lose their job and recieve abuse. Such as in the case of cancel culture. You can’t be liberal if you want to silence people who don’t agree with you. There are lovely individuals who are non-binary but most of these people in the clip seem ignorant and their attitude is so off putting.

@Spearlradness

3 жыл бұрын

They love not having a straight answer, it gives them a narrative they can work with.

@d.jalecarpentier1230

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, thank you. Why does asking and trying to understand make you a bigot? Why cant we just assume that people arent bigots and work from there. Why cant we just assume that people are genuinely trying to have an open conversation and understand you rather than trying to upset you? People have debated for millennia, politics, philosophy, ethics, religion, why cant we just talk about these things without assuming every question someone asks you is a personal attack? How can I learn if I cant ask questions. How can I learn if the answer to all my questions is "oh god you are so close minded." Like they throw their arms up when the statement came up "I dont get it" and shout "well learn!" But I've literally learnt nothing from any of the answers they have given to all that great list of questions presented to them literally. Nothing. Apart from apparently in India there is a third gender? Which wasnt explained any further just slapped on the table like it's a well known fact. These things clearly arent well known or more people would understand the third gender no gender thing, so maby they should talk about it and then more people will know. Rather than throw their hands up and act like all these things are so obvious everyone should know. But then the people who are asking to whom it is not obvious and of whom there are clearly a lot because these questions are apparently so common, learn nothing and come away hurt because theyve been called a bigot for not understanding something that noone will explain to them.

2:50 “what is a man or a woman “? You know damn well what a man and a woman is and looks like

@rudiebaby4573

2 жыл бұрын

An extreme game of pretend for people who have the luck to never have to face reality. =/

“What’s your genitalia like down there?” I’m a Lego person there’s none, just nada, I don’t even known how I function, my bowels and kidneys must be fucked.

Seems kind of ridiculous to be offended when people don’t immediately understand your personal situation regardless of whatever that may be. I mean, feel free to educate us but don’t get pissed because we can’t immediately identify with your world view. And it’s natural to be curious about stuff you’ve never been exposed to. That’s how we learn.

@dunbardunelm3924

5 жыл бұрын

kesayo, Thank you. Some people (am I allowed to even say 'people'(??!) just like being triggered so here, please take the attention you ordered 😅😅😅

@nikolaipetrichor2065

5 жыл бұрын

As a non-binary human, I agree I will very gladly answer questions, and try to educate

@moonman1329

5 жыл бұрын

@@nikolaipetrichor2065 Is it education when all you can say is made up?

@zliu4208

5 жыл бұрын

I agree. I am exploring my femininity right now. I want to answer more questions to affirm my identity. As long as it is respectful I have no issues with that.

@moonman1329

5 жыл бұрын

Samantha Scott That’s the political movement known as far left SJW. Get upset about everything no matter how minuscule it may be.

there is only one race, the human rac- *gets slapped* WHAT ABOUT NASCAR!

@neuroticgurl0295

4 жыл бұрын

M i L k LEFT AT LONDON KWEEN💜💜💜💜💜💜

@mellohi463

4 жыл бұрын

theres only one gender.. *AND ITS MINE* HISSSS

@skittygirls5320

4 жыл бұрын

Raymond Park mom said it's my turn to have the gender

@toastiboi7618

4 жыл бұрын

Skitty Girls no u?

@dipayandey2851

4 жыл бұрын

Angry F1 noises

"so what's going on down there" REALLY? IN WHOSE REALITY IS THAT EVER A NORMAL QUESTION? I'm just baffled that it's usually those people who claim to dislike labels are in fact the ones who perpetuate labels. Be whoever you want to be, just please try not to involve others, because not everyone wants to be involved.

Thank you for giving me a list of things to say to nonbinary people.

@meminamalikan8017

2 жыл бұрын

same

@ladymaria892

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@kaymorgan2826

2 жыл бұрын

@@ladymaria892 wtf

@Lampinspace

2 жыл бұрын

Wth 😐

@prestonthebeston1735

2 жыл бұрын

Wow you got the whole squad laughing 😐

"Don't ask me about my pronouns" ,,Did you misgender me?!" buddy, we humans are curious about things we don't have exact knowledge of. Man, why are they offended by human curiosity? Are they Tumblr special snowflakes? They are living stereotypes and I am embarrassed that I am on one planet with them. I think the prounous aren't that important. You do you I guess, but they are offended by everything.

@greenyvilanboy6794

4 жыл бұрын

Murdoc As your pfp

@titsoutforlusikka

4 жыл бұрын

@@greenyvilanboy6794 yep

@stfu562

4 жыл бұрын

Asa Ludwig We need to find a new planet where only people who do not get offended by culture, history, pronouns, gender, and other shit are allowed on.

@noon6064

4 жыл бұрын

luvbackpack Aka everyone minus buzzfeed

@doroza2lol

4 жыл бұрын

"Tumblr special snowflakes" Most of them are imo.