On the flip side of the awkward/embarrassing equation, I have, on multiple occasions each, greeted people that I knew to be completely blind and put out my hand for a handshake, only to feel like a complete idiot when they neither saw nor shook my hand.

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@JonBrase 🤣🤣🤣 I love this. On the bright side, they almost definitely didn’t notice.

@HelloHamburger

25 күн бұрын

I suppose if they consented, you could touch part of their hand and grip it with them.

@ljosephdumas3113

16 күн бұрын

You and George W Bush who tried to wave down Stevie Wonder. 🙂 It happens!

@TheKingper

2 күн бұрын

You are beautiful, just keep being you!

@legallybadatseeing

2 күн бұрын

@@TheKingper Thank you!! 🫶🏻

Beautiful person and personality.

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@08Derrock thank you!! That’s so sweet!!

@vegito179

29 күн бұрын

​@@legallybadatseeinghow u managed to see this comment?🥴

Not blind, but I heavily relate to the "I dont hate you, just got stuff that makes me come across as rude" vibe! I had a brain injury and people always thought I was mad at them, but no, I just was trying to hold onto my train of thought so I could feel independent and not have to ask for help to finish a mundane task. It worked out a lot better when I started introducing myself as dealing with an injury that could be misconstrued as angry, really considered a sign that said "Not mad, just thinking" for myself!

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@russelchambers5630 I really appreciate this! Maybe it would be best to just get it out in the open as soon as possible. I just feel so awkward bringing it up right when I meet someone, almost like I’m making meeting a new person all about me or something. I know that’s not the case, but I think that’s my fear.

I completely sympathize. I have a degenerative genetic disorder that robbed me of my vision 10 years ago, and sometimes asking for help can be the hardest thing, especially for an independent person, but I have found through experience that being upfront and honest about it tends to avert a lot of problems you would otherwise face, it does suck having to compromise your independence and ask for help for something that you used to be able to do without any difficulty and social interaction has definitely become considerably more awkward over the years for the most part. I tend to avoid social situations exactly for that reason I do not like crowds I do not like being in public, and I find it very difficult to navigate, especially in areas where I’m not around people who know me it does take quite a lot of adjustment. My heart goes out to anyone else who is also dealing with this. It is never easy.

I always inform people that I am visually impaired rather than saying legally blind because some people don't understand that legally blind is a spectrum. It's not just totally blind and then it's awkward. For the ones who really don't understand what visually impaired means. I tell them my eyes don't work so good.

@ljosephdumas3113

16 күн бұрын

Same-o. In my case it's Posterior Vitreous Detachment, which I'd never heard of before I developed it. I explain my peripheral vision is flashes like colored lightning, and looking at things through my right eye (the worse one) is like looking through crumpled plastic wrap. I've had some interesting responses, but fortunately no negative ones.

I'm legally blind as well! The most embarrassing for me for some reason is asking for help. I second guess it, I once was doing state testing for school and I could not see what I had to type and it felt awkward shouting out "Oh I'm legally blind can... you tell me the numbers?" 😭 I felt shame and maybe that's the stigma of societies ableism but even so, it's hard to ask when I need help because honestly I'd need it all the time. I pretend to see so my parents don't make so much of an effort sometimes, because I don't want them to try and help something that probably can't be helped, which is um probably not good! I hope this makes sense, and maybe somebody can relate(?) Sorry to randomly dump this here but !!

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@Sleepy_S1mon I completely relate! Especially to pretending to see in scenarios where you really can’t just because it’s not worth it to point it out and just not wanting to ask for help unless it’s absolutely necessary. Honestly I think I’ve let that trickle into not wanting to ask for help in general unless it’s completely unavoidable even if it’s not vision related which is definitely no bueno, but I don’t want to be annoying. 🤷‍♀️

@Dracalis

24 күн бұрын

There's no shame in asking for a helping hand. Most people are kind and would do what they could to lend some aid if asked. They're probably just unaware that you could use some assistance in particular scenarios unless you bring it to their attention. Don't feel bad in asking for help. We all have different abilities, and all need some help sometimes. We're all a community and should look out for each other.

@bradpnw1897

21 күн бұрын

Hi Simon hope you're doing great. I have a legitimate question and I'm not trying to be funny, but have you ever taken psychedelic mushrooms? And if you have do you still have visuals? I know when I'm taking a macro dose of mushrooms I still have closed eye visuals when my eyes are closed. Either way God bless you 🙏❤. When I was addicted to heroin for 18 years I had a blind friend that was addicted for 5 years and boy I got some stories about that. He was a super cool nice guy though. Much love ❤❤

@Dracalis

18 күн бұрын

@@Sleepy_S1mon Funnily enough, yesterday when I was at the grocery store, I was doing the self checkout. A woman next to me asked me if I could read something for her, and she held out an apple. It had a sticker on it with teeny-tiny numbers. My distant vision is poor, but I can see up close very well, so I read the numbers for her to enter into the checkout till. I don't know if she has poor vision all around, or if she's farsighted and forgot her reading glasses, but I didn't judge and I just helped because she requested it. Had she not spoken up, I would've been oblivious and just walked by her while she was left to fumble with the machine. I asked if she needed any other help before I left. She said no, and then I bid her farewell and was on my way home, reminded of this comment thread here.

@Izabela-ek5nh

17 күн бұрын

Dunno... as I have learned making an unasked attempt to help people feel as intrusive and crossing boundaries thing. I always help when asked and I sometines ask if someone needs help when they clearly look clueless in a situation (or they are old lady carrying groceries, for example). Some people want my help, some don't. But we should never just jump and help, because it just seems patronising and offensive. I think you can just ask for help naturally, there should be no shame involved! Just as a short woman asks me for something from a top shelf in a store, I am tall, I just give it and we are all fine. I couldn't imagine this might be embarassing for that person. We live on this world together with our different abilities and qualities so we can just... cooperate. Right?

I am like you! I am legally blind, but not blind enough for most people to know by looking at me that I’m blind and can’t really see their faces very well. I have good night vision and peripheral vision, but my central vision is gone. So, When I walk up to somebody, I often can’t tell if I’ve ever met them before. Unfortunately, I end up feeling part of neither group, either the cited or the blind.

She has the most BEAUTIFUL eyes! Wow!

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@91CBR86VFR ahhhh thank you!!! 🫶🏻

@akale2620

28 күн бұрын

Sucks they don't work

@91CBR86VFR

28 күн бұрын

@@akale2620 They work for me!

@freemanpense2782

17 күн бұрын

@@akale2620 Why?

0:56 Even if you don't always strictly need it, a cane might actually be good as a means of cluing people in to your condition without having to specifically mention it.

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@JonBrase You’re definitely right, and just in general I need to be using my cane more. I do think that, unfortunately for a lot of blind/visually impaired women in particular, sometimes making your blindness so visible around strangers can be really vulnerable and not always feel like the safest thing to do. I’ve just heard from several of my blind female friends that they’ve felt like it makes them a target for weirdo creeps. I still just need to get the tip replaced and start using my damn cane though 🤣

@DrinkYourNailPolish

24 күн бұрын

The problem with using a cane is sometimes people will walk up and grab you. I've had that happen to me on several occasions. And I have autism as well, which is not a good combo, because Being randomly grabbed by strangers freaks me out

@legallybadatseeing

24 күн бұрын

@@DrinkYourNailPolish That has happened to me too, and happened several times when I was a child and used my cane regularly, and I’ve seen it happen to other kids when we were on cane travel leasons. Those experiences can definitely make you feel hesitant to be in oublic with a cane. I know going without isn’t the answer, but it can definitely feel pretty vulnerable.

I have autism as well. So it's kind of a double whammy because if somebody is waving at me. I will completely ignore them. Not just because I have trouble seeing them but also because I assume they are not waving at me unless they yell my name.

I am NOT blind, but I WAS born totally blind. I was fortunate enough that my vision was restored with surgery. I have three family members that are legally blind (we had to force mom to stop driving a few years ago). From my side, pretty much anyone is going to be happy to assist you if you ask, particularly if you explain why you’re having trouble.

@SlimThrull

20 күн бұрын

Oh, I have a question. But I don't want to ask without your permission because I think others might have asked you before and I don't want to be that guy. Can I ask? If not, that's cool.

@UpperDarbyDetailing

20 күн бұрын

@@SlimThrull no need to ask if you can ask a question, go ahead. Or read the thread and see if I already answered your question

@SlimThrull

20 күн бұрын

@@UpperDarbyDetailing Alright then. Well, at one point before you could see you knew what a ball or a cube felt like. After the surgery, were you able to immediately able to tell a ball was a ball from seeing it? Or did you have to train your brain to recognize what a ball looked like?

@UpperDarbyDetailing

20 күн бұрын

@@SlimThrull Ah, I don’t know. I was only a couple of months old when I had corrective surgery. I don’t actually remember being blind. However, I have very good spatial reasoning , so I’d reason that I almost certainly did know what things were. Certainly an adult or older child would.

I was legally blind from 12-17 years old. I can totally relate to this.

There are other forms of non awareness that most people are oblivious to.

Too darned cute!! If we had the option, I would have left a voice message.

You're really Stunning. I bet You're interesting to talk to as well. God Bless

I was actually about to suggest the sign around your neck (or something a bit more stylish that accomplishes the same thing. T-shirt that says *"HEY! My eyes are up HERE... but they don't work so well so if you want my attention, you'll have to use your words."* ) I've seen one or two people with "I'm Deaf" signage on them somewhere. Back side of a T-shirt is pretty effective for that, actually. "Hey! Hey you! Stop! He--- Oh, I see; he's deaf and I'm a moron. Forgot that for a minute."

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@hinoron6528 I love this so much 🤣🤣

I'm not blind but I do have invisible disabilities and it's hard, especially when you don't look it and people don't necessarily expect you to be disabled. I don't ask for help as nearly as much I should do. I'm neurodivergent (ASD and ADHD) for context. You are so pretty, btw. Your eyes are so gorgeous.

Just wear the Ray Charles glasses and most people with a brain will figure it out, and you'll look like you're cool.

You have a great attitude and outlook on life.

Complete sidenote, I now want a sky walk at my workplace. That sounds neat.

@legallybadatseeing

12 күн бұрын

@@NicholasMoreau It’s the best honestly! Most of the downtown area in my city is connected by skywalk, and as someone who can’t drive, it is about as ideal as it gets.

The love of my life who I’ve been married to for 51 years has been legally blind since birth. The doctors say it is retinal scarring from prenatal toxoplasmosis. She can tell light from dark with her left eye and has less than 50% of the central vision in her right. She has learned to use the peripheral vision to cope with most of life, but even that has issues. The periphery of the retina doesn’t perceive color as well and is extra sensitive to motion which makes her startle easily. She can read if the print is big enough (thank you Kindle!) and can handle most things around the house. None of which matters a bit. We’ve been there for each other for all those years and we are still as much in love as the day I proposed.

Awesome personality! ❤

@legallybadatseeing

15 күн бұрын

Thank you!! 😊

it's not hard to say "hi, I'm Emily, if anything I'm blind", and if you think it's weird that's your problem, if they think it's weird that's their problem, because there's a more important problem. It's weirder when a person doesn't say hello back

you should tell people you're blind, and the level of blindness as well. people won't go out of their way to ask you. everything to ease communication

about the sign around your necklace part, you could wear a sunflower lanyard! i also have invisible disabilities (but more on the chronic illness and mental conditions side) and i sometimes wear it to communicate that i am actually disabled even if i don't look that way :)

"How many fingers do you see? ✌🏻"

Love your shirt love your shirt!!!! Emily kicks ass, I mean even for a blind person😂❤. God bless you Emily keep rocking it and doing your thing. Legitimate question here seriously have you took a macro dose of psychedelic mushrooms and how are the visuals? I know when I have taken a macro dose that when I close my eyes I still have closed eye visuals at times. Either way God bless you 🙏

I had a pen hit my eye when I was nine so my vision in my right eye is awful. It can be corrected with glasses but anytime light hits the wound it can feel painful and a bit debilitating..not to mention it fully blinds that eye. I'm sure people have waved and I've missed it and they've been upset. Which is weird to me but I'm not typical

@legallybadatseeing

20 күн бұрын

@@tdbhmusic Ngl I find waving as a practice odd, but that might be because I never see it.

You need a button that says "Im so blind I dont know what this button says"

You are nice person. Keep it like that :)

You speak so well for being blind. Oh, sorry, misread the title. I thought you wanted awkward moments from us. My bad.

“Legally blind” 🙄

@legallybadatseeing

19 күн бұрын

@@gavinhelgeson2880 ????

Good for you lass, gorjus smile, awesome vid, world needs more like you, On a serious note how do you get to know about people's comments, no disrespect to you at all, and hope you don't mind me asking, stay strong. Hi from hull UK

@legallybadatseeing

26 күн бұрын

@@samholborn Heh there! Firstly, thank you for all your kind words! I do have enough vision that I’m able to read the text on my phone most of the time if there’s a large font setting. I probably look a little crazy with how close I get to my phone, but it works. If that ever stopped working for me, I’d probably transition to using a screen reading program of some sort to read comments. Thanks again! 🫶🏻

Your eye ticks would give me a clue that you're blind. I think it's from working retail for many years. When you come across hundreds of people a day for years on end, you tend to learn a few things here and there.

Uv jus got ur 571'th sub!

Genuinely interested. As a blind person. What kind of work do you do?

@legallybadatseeing

27 күн бұрын

@@BADD1ONE I’m a paralegal, so lots of computer work, scheduling, and document review. I’ve definitely learned over the years that I’m not super comfortable in customer facing rolls. It just gets old being asked if you forgot your glasses all day 🤣.

@BADD1ONE

27 күн бұрын

@@legallybadatseeing do you use a voice system or can you read the screen?

@legallybadatseeing

27 күн бұрын

@@BADD1ONE i usually prefer to just read the screen with a magnifying software, but I sometimes use screen reading programs anf used a braille computer through school.

@BADD1ONE

27 күн бұрын

@@legallybadatseeing thank you for the reply. I was genuinely curious. God bless

@legallybadatseeing

27 күн бұрын

@@BADD1ONE Ofc! Any tome!

You are stunning!

Do blind People say things "I did not see that coming" when they trip over something? lmao

@DrinkYourNailPolish

24 күн бұрын

My favorite thing to do to mess with people is to tell them see you later when i'm leaving and my good buddy Was the only one who got that joke and he said. How can you see me later when you can't see me now??

You have a slight desync on audio/video.

@akale2620

28 күн бұрын

In real life too

First

The sign is a good idea. And a cup. Might get some walkin around money.

Are you allowed to eat seafood

@DrinkYourNailPolish

24 күн бұрын

Legally blind means your eyes do not work so good. That has nothing to do with your ability to eat certain foods. I think you're confusing that with an allergy.

@brandonl7110

24 күн бұрын

@@DrinkYourNailPolish bruh 😂

Stop watching when misuse God's Name

Can blind people hallucinate?

@Sleepy_S1mon

Ай бұрын

@wayout6092 I'm legally blind and I do tend to hallucinate because of the lack of clarity in vision. It's different for everybody but I often see black wisps (like most people with schizophrenia) but it's caused by my bad eyesight. Your brain typically tries to fill in the gaps, but I also have nystagmus so it causes some contribution to the hallucinating as well. Hope this answers your question, and if you have more lmk!

@wayout6092

Ай бұрын

@@Sleepy_S1mon I was thinking more along the lines of hallucinogens, I have one eye which is deteriorating, I don't want to live if I can't see.

@Sleepy_S1mon

Ай бұрын

@wayout6092 oh then I have no idea. I am a minor 💀

@Sleepy_S1mon

Ай бұрын

@wayout6092 there's lots to live for even with the loss of vision. I assure you blindess doesn't need to take complete control of your life. Maybe try talking to hotlines if your mental health isn't very good

@legallybadatseeing

Ай бұрын

@@wayout6092 yes they can, but just know, as someone who experienced sudden vision loss and has less than one eye’s worth of vision, there’s still a whole life’s worth of experiences and joys left to have. 💕

Shell never see it coming..

Fun Fact: She really has 20/20 vision.

@legallybadatseeing

24 күн бұрын

@@Jolly-Green-Steve Damn I wish the DOT agreed.

@Jolly-Green-Steve

24 күн бұрын

@@legallybadatseeing Hey for being legally blind you are pretty good at reading comments.

@legallybadatseeing

24 күн бұрын

@@Jolly-Green-Steve It’s almost like being legally blind doesn’t make someone illiterate.

@Jolly-Green-Steve

24 күн бұрын

@@legallybadatseeing so you can read words close up? so it's only your distant vision that is blurry? if that's true you are not legally blind you just need glasses.

@DrinkYourNailPolish

24 күн бұрын

​@@Jolly-Green-Steve Things like permanent optic, nerve damage and missing peripheral vision cannot be fixed with glasses.

I think you should explain it to new people you meet at work, or anywhere you're likely to see someone a lot. Just let them know that you're not ignoring them, you just can't see them. My roommate on the other hand, always acts like he can't see my texts and actually is ignoring me.

you seem like a lovely person

BTW, you have a sweet, engaging personality so I think once people know you, they will accept you.