My biggest regret is letting heroine take 10 years of my life. It only took me 3 years to get into upper management at Walmart Supply Chain. I finally got there as a 32 year old. If I started at 18 instead of 29, 18 was when i first tried opiates, I'd probably have been manager at 21 or 22 and would be set. Oh well. Live and learn. Clean now so thats cool plus im married to the genuine love of my life with 3 beautiful children, so i know how lucky i am. Really the only regret i have lol

@Adde-hy7wx

Ай бұрын

Good for you man, and don't be so hard on yourself, despite the terrible difficulties you've had to go through, you cut one of the most difficult addictions there are, and now you live the dream of most and you're only 32! I know people that age still single and figuring things out. And honestly, no one who is 21 or 22 is getting manager if you ask me, it's more of an age thing than an experience thing. Society and business culture makes it so young people are looked upon as a workforce to be exploited by those older. And once the young people get older and into places of power, they repeat the cycle. Your age and maturity from your life experiences probably hastened the process for you. But of course I don't know you or your exact situation, so if I'm wrong on anything, I hope you understand. In any case, take care man.

@aruposupra3285

Ай бұрын

That’s so inspiring and actually just convinced me to drop etibles like ik not on the same level but honestly I lie about how much I do then and like honestly they just eat time when I could be chasing my dreams

@fordakacar

Ай бұрын

this really fucking inspires me man i’m only 19 but i’ve let severe adderall abuse take the last 2 years of my life starting freshman year of college. i’m currently an engineering major and i don’t even know if i can get through the rest of my degree without adderall but i’m sick and fucking tired of this cycle of emptying my entire prescription in a few days then spending weeks depressed as shit and starting over again. the last couple years have been a complete blur and have ended up failing countless classes because of it. i feel so fucking empty and spend every night thinking about all the suffering and hard work my mom took to get me here just to fucking stuff my life down the drain because of a stupid ass pill. most of this was just me talking to myself lmao my bad

@iamepick1

Ай бұрын

​@@fordakacarget help let a trusted person limit you or tell doctor or something

@grand_nic7686

Ай бұрын

I’m really proud that you’ve been able to get off drugs and be clean, some people don’t realise just how hard that is, but I’m proud of you!

I accidentally became aware of this over the past year. I'm about to graduate college and go into an engineering position which is stressful considering that I might have to move away from my family and friends. It feels like everyone is drifting away, though it hasn't happened yet. But also, I've been struggling with a lot of sadness, and borderline depression, for most of my teenage years and throughout most of college. I was always obese, and at one point a few years ago I was nearly 320lbs. Over the past 6 months I've dropped down to 255lbs and feel better and happier than I ever have. I'm in a position to dress better and have been getting compliments about my looks (mostly women, especially strangers), which is a breath of fresh air considering I never used to be approached. Through that process, I've also learned to take compliments and be thankful for each of them. They're not expected, but they mean so much to me. Getting complimented on my shirt at the zoo by a woman working there meant a lot to me and I still tear up a bit about it. I know it sounds dumb, but I never really got compliments like that as a dude and it really showed me how kind and vulnerable other people can be. I'm still working on losing weight, but I feel more physically fit and can do a lot more than I ever could even when I was in my best shape in basketball during high school (and I weighed less then too!). Right now I'm hoping to get down to 210lbs by the end of the year, when I graduate, and once I get a job I'm gonna start dating for the first time after I've settled in. It's scary but I'm also a little excited. Most importantly, to me, I've become far more sensitive emotionally, which I view as a good thing. Watching Smosh reddit stories helped me learn a lot about acceptance, vulnerability, and honesty in relationships and mentally. I don't fear going to the dentist or doctor anymore because I know that it's good for my health and that they are only there to help me. If I can't be vulnerable about my bad habits and insecurities, I'll never be able to accept that they exist and try to take back my health and life that I've allowed to let slip away for far too long. I feel more open with others now, I feel more compassionate and sympathetic, I feel like I try to be more helpful even when it doesn't benefit me. But I've also found that I have to stick up for myself, even when I feel like it could end a relationship or set me back financially. I don't want to live the rest of my life in regret and wishful thinking. I've found new hobbies that I actively take part in and enjoy. I play clarinet now and have been having a blast learning it. I started bowling more seriously and have my own balls, bag, and shoes, and I'm actually pretty good now. Not above 200 yet, but I'm happy so far. I'm picking up tennis right now as a I lose weight and a college roommate of mine, and friend, is helping me and my childhood friend learn. I also walk everyday now and bike a few times a week, and being in nature really helped me look forward to the next day. I know I have tens of thousands of dollars in student loans. I know that I still have to work hard to lose more weight. I know that my inexperience with dating will probably make dating difficult at 23, but I'm gonna try my best damn it. What's life worth living for if I can't try to do the best I can and find people that will love me and care for me like I do to them? I'm done following my friends around and doing everything they do in fear of losing them, as my identity had always been tied to them. I'm done sitting back and letting myself rot away as I eat an entire large Little Caesars pizza. I'm done not taking care of my hygiene and allowing my body to degrade. I didn't come this far to let it all slip away. This is the closest I've ever come to really discovering my true self and I want to earn this life. To me, there's nothing more important now than learning to just be myself. Thanks for listening to my rant.

@At0mix

Ай бұрын

Happy for you homie. Don't worry about the dating thing, 23 is still young and if someone asks then you've got an inspirational story to tell.

@socrlife316

Ай бұрын

Proud of you dude, it looks like you got some great habits and motivation. As someone that got into his first real relationship at 30, just be respectful and share your joys with your partner. I'm still learning what I like and how to be a better partner, but I'm enjoying the process. I think that's the important part.

@Qwayzar

21 күн бұрын

Read through and I relate a lot to this. As someone who made it down to 200 lbs and is dating and moving in with the love of my life at 30 after realizing I was doing the same with my own friends: you've got this.

@hexoson

18 күн бұрын

Wow, it's been a couple weeks and I did not expect to see this support! Thanks everyone for the support, and the pin!

I once heard the quote "the only person who is going to remember how often you took overtime is your kid." Thats stuck with me since, i dont have a kid yet but i do like that idea of setting priorities

When Big A is gray-haired, retired, and on his deathbed in a decade or two, I’m sure all of us chatters will be by his side to comfort him 🙏🙏

@theanonymouschicken169

Ай бұрын

In his deathbed he murmurs into your ear with a weakening voice before the life leaves his eyes: “use code: Atrioc for 10% off rocket money”

@rpb4865

Ай бұрын

Bro's dying in his 50s?!

@skifzz1

Ай бұрын

Youre overshooting a bit, seems more like 1 or 2 years at most tbh

@AltraHapi

Ай бұрын

​@skifzz1 surprised he even lasted 2 centuries tbh

@shemshate

Ай бұрын

Dude, there was a person in chat saying "I WAS HERE!" and that absolutely sent me to the moon like GME

I dont comment usually ever on these clips, but this video was a nice change of pace from the usual clips content, often ill listen to the typical financial video and often think and be mildly upset about my personal situation, but listening to this kinda got me hopeful in the way im living at the moment, i dont have too much to my name but im enjoying my life for the most part, so thank you atrioc.

@Jacobinks

Ай бұрын

This bwo everytime I see someone in chat say “My parents put 300k in apple in 1980” I get more unhappy about where I am. Then the big A reminds me how he did it and this video reminded me that I actually am happy.

@privtprofile24

Ай бұрын

@@Jacobinks Also realise that most of those comments are either fake or exaggerated. That chatter provided 0 proof.

@Jacobinks

Ай бұрын

@@privtprofile24 That is true. But there are 100% people out there who are ACTUALLY in positions like that and it reminds me of that.

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

@@privtprofile24 Probably just people dreaming their insecurities to be honest

time to min/max my remaining life hours

@icanwalcc3190

Ай бұрын

lifemaxxing

Atrioc has actually talked about this page on stream before, but thought it was lost to time. So unreal that he found it again

“My biggest regret, telling every chatter that we are going to chilis if I make this shot”

Not playing Paper Mario daily is one of my regrets as well

Atrioc's biggest regret was not investing all his NVIDIA Stock in Bitcoin

@Roeclean

Ай бұрын

HELLL NAHHH🎵🎵🎵🎵, TO THE NAH NAH NAH, HELLLLL NAHHHHH🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶

as someone from a predominantly republican family, 5:56 is actually so true with the exception of maybe one or two family members, who are much older, all the male republicans in my family are always just harboring a deep anger for seemingly no reason

@ActionScripter

Ай бұрын

I used to have a friend whose dad would literally just sit in the living room armchair and scowl at the TV while watching conservative news channels. For hours a day. Sometimes he'd yell out random things at the TV. And then he'd turn off the TV and scowl at other things. What a way to live.

Article title “Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Thank youuu!

Not using firefox OMEGALUL

@TheFeelTrain

Ай бұрын

I use librewolf btw

Brandon “Glizzy Hands” “Coffee Cow” strikes again Edit: Nevermind I’m sad now

@jurb417

Ай бұрын

SAJ

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Top 10 comments before the tragedy

Once you master these you will receive, "If i die, I die" achievement

These videos are like the exactly length of my showers

Man this really helps.. I’m 26 and stuck in my routine of training + work every day for the past 3 years and my dream is to travel the world. I have the money and I can work remotely, but every time I want to leave I start overthinking, I get scared and I end up not going anywhere because I prefer to stay in comfort and keep working and saving more money (which makes no sense cause I want to use the money to travel anyway), but I keep postponing it.

@xxColorDust

Ай бұрын

Do it. If you have a wife, children, you won't have the chance again. Now or never. If you have a decent job, a year of no work won't hurt your CV. Going overseas was one of the best things happening to me, and really opened my world both regarding my own independence and confidence, as well as getting to know people from all over the world. Worst case, it's always better to regret doing something than not doing it .

@account-yi2cn

Ай бұрын

@@xxColorDust don't say now or never, that does not help

@michaeldubery3593

Ай бұрын

I work remotely and have spent the majority of my adult life abroad. I'd highly recommend it, you meet so many interesting people, get so much surprisingly good food for cheap. And me personally, I met my now wife while abroad.

@Thisisthegreatestatofalltime

Ай бұрын

@@account-yi2cnIt’s kinda true though. The sooner the better though is probably a better way to phrase it though.

@Jufron97

Ай бұрын

@@michaeldubery3593 That sounds awesome man. Do you have any places you recommend? I’m from Argentina, I really want to travel to Asia, I’m planning to go to Europe first for a couple months and visit Italy,France,Spain,Portugal then I want to head to Asia and do Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia, Singapore, Cambodia, Vietnam, China, Taiwan, South Korea and Japan. Not sure how hard it could be to be working while travelling there though.

The idea of streamers on their deathbed waiting to see messages of farewell from their chatters, that hits different

Honesly its so true,i'm very young (18) and stuck in a circle that i'm comfortable with. Not trying new different things like i used to. I missed doing the silly and dumb sht with my friends. Nowadays they're either busy or not feeling want to do something. Anyway good vid

"From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late" glad to know it was too late for me before I even remember myself (:

I wish I used buy now, pay later more

I appreciate you taking the time to talk about this Big A

Called regrets of the dying for those wondering

3:38 playing elden ring while listening to the video

Reading the part about not working so hard and health being a freedom is so unbelievably relatable. I remember doing roofing at three o'clock in the morning while getting stage two hypothermia just because I had a job I needed to be at in four hours, or roofing in the polar vortex while all of my other coworkers went to manufacturing jobs during that winter, or even the night before I had five exams in college after working from 6 am to 6 pm getting a call saying the supervisor for the night crew wasn't coming so I ended up working twenty four hours straight of construction and only having one hour of study and no sleep before all of my exams were going on, or even the year when I was working as an employee that I averaged seventy hours a week with many closer to one hundred and I worked all 365 days of the year including every holiday. My life and self worth basically revolved around my work, getting my business going, and achieving an increasingly growing standard of success is never obtainable. I will end up being one of these people one day and it is a truly destructive cycle of never being able to do enough to get yourself to the spot in which you are happy enough with yourself to just live life.

@billclinton1235

Ай бұрын

Figure out what makes you happy. Not what success means but what makes you happy. It can be small. It can even be tiny and try to find a simple path to that.

I'm going to come back to this video once a year

The death spiral thing is so real

It's a really good article with lots of good advice, although I do wonder how much the specific kind of person that reaches that situation might already be similar. You'll get a lot more well off people in strong financial situations among those who are old and being cared for professionally. Still, it's all really good advice and I suspect generally mostly applicable to anyone. Interesting stuff.

@guitar2935

Ай бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking. These all seem like anecdotes of the upper - upper middle class that chose wealth and status over friends and authenticity. I'd imagine if you sampled lower income demographics there would be far more "I wish I worked harder" regrets.

Great video, a must watch for anyone 🙏

i too think about that exact article i found several years ago.

Atrioc has always been on that sigma grindset

Big A is like the history man from mad max

I feel like I'm falling into the trap of regret, I am 30 with my wife who i met 6 years ago and have a 2 year old. Used to sleep with guys before meeting her and set it aside. Now I can think about nothing but men and the fear of being financially trapped together if we have a second child. I've tried to break up twice but she's convinced me each time it's best to stay together. From her perspective everything in our relationship seems perfect then out of the blue I tell her I want to break up so she doesn't understand. How do I escape this aweful nightmare I feel happy in our times as a family and with my child but any time away from my child im miserable a d depressed. Also, im British so that too. EDIT: I also always do this, I do love her, I'm bi, and I havent slept with guys except at tye start of our relationship when i should have cut my casual s*x out when we got together. I alsl desperately wanted a child but didn't really care how i got there.

@CurryNova

Ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that. Hope you figure it out brother

@joooja

Ай бұрын

@@CurryNova thank you

The horrors are never ending, yet I remain silly.

Not closing tabs probably Edit: sorry lol didn't mean to start a moral war

@ShawnKlemme

Ай бұрын

Too soon

@TacticalPan

Ай бұрын

how well he recovered from it is one of his biggest achievements

@DNeonLamp

Ай бұрын

​@@TacticalPanif you ignore the first couple days of panic, yes.

@Roeclean

Ай бұрын

dON'T WORRY. Opera GX, has a mode that deletes your browser history and replaces it with super nice tabs, so no one can know what you searched. I obviously didn't use it tho

@dyldog

Ай бұрын

@@DNeonLamphis livelyhood, career, relationships, and future were all at stake, and he’s recovered on every front. I’d say that’s quite impressive

I read this book, “top 5 regrets of the dying” after big a mentioned it on a stream probably 4 months ago, WONDERFUL read. The author has such an amazing story and it gives you such a good outlook on life, highly recommend!

you should read "tuesdays with Morrie", its about an old professor who's having his journey through his last few weeks alive documented by an old university student of his. Very insightful and made me appreciate my Tuesdays and time with people a little bit more

5:09 it’s a death spiral, I’ve napped the last 3 days and with nothing to anchor myself to I just can’t get myself to function. I don’t have a job (got rejected in todays interview) so I’m just at home wasting my life unable to get myself to go anything

Could you link the article in the description for others to save? This was a really great topic to discuss

What the link to this web article?

This gave me an anxiety attack lol

did not have an atrioc bookmark audit on my 2024 bingo

I have number 3 down pretty solid. There are times to hold back of course, but a lot of the times I just say exactly how I feel lol. Some people think it is funny because I'm just nonchalant about it. That might be a reason I'm usually liked by most people around me, I don't really understand why I would need to lie very often. This stuff is pretty obvious, but at the same time still useful. I really should exercise and keep up with people.... I just really don't wanna work out after working bruh.

@billclinton1235

Ай бұрын

I think working out is monotonous. I recommend picking up a martial art or something adjacent to exercise like a sport or outdoor activity

I am currently in grade 10 high-school. I regret not having the bravery to actually do the things I thought of in my head not to over think the things I think about. This is short because that’s all I would do differently as at home and at school I am just a fake person where as inside my head I am completely different. I am selfish and outgoing and yet I put on a persona to mask everything I even fake laugh. Thank you, I hope I will change but I won’t because I am the worst person and will regret everything everyday for the rest of my life. ❤😂

We all know what it is glizzy man

3:35 im playing elden ring and watching on second monitor....

Where’s the link to the article??

@CloudCollapse

Ай бұрын

Brotha we have free will and agency. We have the ability to Google it. We already saw the article name. Literally just type it in to google. I believe in you.

@spazysparton

Ай бұрын

“Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware

Anyone have the link to the article?

i was watching this on my 2nd monitor, 12 hours into an elden ring sesh. Fucked up.

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

this was for you bro

Anyone know the article name?

id also recommend the "wear sunscreen" video on KZread

You should link the article

@JohnSmith-eu7bi

Ай бұрын

I wish I had a link

GliZZY GOBLIN

5:55 Sadge.. me, hating life right now

ædish please link the article

Glizzy

Other streamers are just trying to stir drama and here we get life lessons. Love your streams!

The book for this is called like “regrets of the dying”

@fordakacar

Ай бұрын

regrets of the dying

@aguyonyoutube4sure

Ай бұрын

@@fordakacar thanks

Can someone link the original article?

Not adding the link to the article is fowl

@michaeldubery3593

Ай бұрын

'foul' my brotha

good morning atrioc your fingers looking extra juicy today

I feel like he's had this same discussion about this topic and this article specifically like 3-4 times already

I wish I queued up for one more game :(

I’m too busy trying to get my life on track, but trust me if my bro is in trouble and needed me there, I’d be on the next flight out to be there for him.

Determination really is the greatest human superpower. Even if you set an unrealistic goal, you would be surprised what you can accomplish if you keep working towards it. You can also apply determination to something you already have. I always find my center and my purpose when I'm trying to be the best husband for my partner.

Atrioc's distinction between honesty and being mean is key. I have a friend who constantly preaches that she "keeps it real," but instead of being personally vulnerable, she just criticizes others and vocalizes her observations without a second thought. I don't think that's honesty, it's just being mean

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

When he talked about "real" honesty. That part hit me. Never thought about how much more difficult is to be honest about your insecurities and problems and helping yourself and others with that than just being obnoxious and making others more miserable with desctructive words.

When the time comes for the end of your life, do you want to read it on a Rolex or a Timex... Sometimes, the hustler grindset matters more than family.

@Spoon80085

Ай бұрын

That was way too good of an idiom to have wasted on a youtube comment shitpost

End of Tha day, only people that will remember you worked late is your partner and kids

Thanks Big A. I wont be focusing on work this month and will try to find myself. Sure I wont make rent but thats fine. It's about the journey and not the destination.

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

haha, balance bro balance

@theflybaby6736

Ай бұрын

@@jugutierrez so work 38 hours and not 40 hours a week?

Depends on what you’re being honest about Big A

Mind dropping the URL to the site?

What was that website?

Read the Death of Ivan Ilych for more on this

I want to become a Palliative care doctor so this interesection with atrioc is wild to me.

Broke: Using Edge Joke: Using Chrome Woke: Using Internet Explorer 2007 specifically version 3 patch that came out in July of that year.

Darn that sounds real tough, can I just skip to the dying part without the whole living life thing?

I remember Atrioc talking about this a little while back, how there was this thing of someone talking to people about their regrets, and that nobody wished they had worked harder. Funny to see him going back to the exact article in this way.

Guys, pro Tip: put the speed on 2x

I like how we couldn’t see the article title

@readmore5888

Ай бұрын

It’s called Regrets of the Dying from Bronnie Ware

@CurryNova

Ай бұрын

Thank you

I notice a lot of these regrets relate strongly to social standards for men. My brothers, it is okay to be emotional. It is not wimpy or nerdy to talk about your feelings. To be a man is to be emotionally mature, and to be emotionally mature is to be able to confront those emotions by expressing them

Atriocs biggest regret was the first thumbnail apparently😭 Make that the second thumbnail 😭 Now the original title 😭

this is a good perspective but it’s important to remember that people at the end of their life don’t have the best vantage point to view their choices. No one is on their deathbed thinking “i’m glad we got out of that apartment so the kids could have their own rooms” they’re just remembering the overtime they worked to have that gain. obviously there’s ways to make your life better or worse but it’s not possible to live a life with no regrets

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

They couldn't care less about the overtime. They are thinking about the time expense. And if they are regretful about that overtime is because it wasn't neccesary in retrospective for their goals in life at the moment of deathbed. For example, the one you mentioned.

Living my dream watercolor painting. Im ass

AT LEAST LINK THE ARTICLE/BLOG cmonnnn pls

This is great outlook but I see things slightly differently. To me death is not a graduation ceremony, I do not live my life to feel good about it later on. I want to be happy now, and make things that matter to me today. The way I see it is that I'd rather try to push death as far as possible. And then it's happening, well that's it anyway so there is no point into reflecting about anything. Right now matters the most.

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Fair enough

the only thing i can detract from this is that if you ended up in a retirement home you either had enough money to and planned on it and worked a lot probably to set yourself up for it, or no one in your family likes you lol, signed a dude working at a retirement home, gotta get different kinds of elderly to make a great synopsis of the elders

I wish i had watched more Big A

bwandon ewing

"The only thing you do on edge is search for chrome." You should have searched for firefox. Just saying. No better excuse to make the switch to a superior browser than having a new PC.

thats where you are wrong. being the the top 100 to gett all eldenring achivements is one of my biggest flexes. it was worth it.

My biggest regret so far after 26 years of living on this earth is that I wasted a good chunk of my life playing League of Legends to the point that it took me 9 years to finish college. At first I was devastated by the fact that I felt so left behind by my peers and friends but thankfully my family is very supportive and I pulled through. I'll always regret that I postponed my life but hope was never lost. I try to live everyday as if it's my last now and have never been happier with that decision.

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Addiction to games is so freaking hard to get out. Congrats.

What's wrong with Facebook? I mean it's the same social network as any other

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Yep, but full of dinosaurs

God can surely bring all these things. Woe to those who sold their souls to the work place. Seek God and you shall find Him

I think this is pure surviorship bias; the men who focused on their family more instead of work must not have lived long enough to be in end of life care

@bofus7173

Ай бұрын

why would men who spend more time with their family die sooner?

Hey Big A, just discovered you a bit ago, I teach business classes.

everybody's memeing, but you realize that this is probably a sendoff right? atrioc is likely a multi-millionaire many times over from selling NVDA, he's been open about his selling, and he has more money than he could ever know what to do with. it's been fun man, good content and wish you the best 👍

@Astral_Incarnate

Ай бұрын

I think he would tell us if he was planning on retiring from streaming lol

@lesleygarcia2746

Ай бұрын

Nah, Big A loves to talk about how to achive happiness and long-term happines, he even mentioned reading a book about what activities and mindsets happier indivividuals focus on in an older stream. This is more of a look into his thought process especially now that he dosent have to focus on the NVIDIA grind and can spend more time with Ari and friends.

@hastyscorpion

Ай бұрын

This is not a send off. He would absolutely tell people if he was quitting.

@rapasdecoeur7017

Ай бұрын

That might sound crazy but hear me out. What if he enjoyed streaming, and wasn't only driven by money ? 😮

@pasttense69

Ай бұрын

@@rapasdecoeur7017nooooooo way that can’t be true

The thing that sucks about advice like this is that none of these things are easily fixable. I think a lot of people know that they should allow themselves to be happy, to spend more time with people they care about, and to make an effort to be healthier. It's only when you reflect back on your life that you understand what these things really mean though. They all take time. I like the message here but all this does is give me anxiety. I can't ever know if i'll be happy with the time i've spent with others, health decisions i've made, or dreams i should have followed until it's too late. That's the nature of the beast I guess, and by that I mean that's something you accept as out of your control when you choose to actually live your life. I don't think people should live in the past like that, to do things to avoid having regrets at the end. Spend time thinking about what you care about now in the present, I think that's more important to pursue than anything else.

@danielsimancas8043

Ай бұрын

While i do agree with you, i would like to add a little more. Yes, living life trying to not have regrets at your deathbed is never going to be healthy, and it will probably make you spiral down scary trains of thought. BUT, i believe that only by reading articles like this, people can truly assess what they actually care about in the present. It is very easy to just live on autoplay, only paying attention to what you 'need' to do (like always thinking about how to earn more money) or doing things that you 'think' are making you happy (like 6-hour sessions of TikTok or League of Legends). If you look at the article as a guide on what you PROBABLY should focus/appreciate more in the present, it can be a really valuable asset to always keep in mind when you wake up every day. Hopefully this helps ease a little the anxiety buddy!

@nerbakken

Ай бұрын

i feel like it's better to see this article from a bigger picture. "I'll work overtime today, the kids and wife won't be upset about it" is not the same as looking back in the span of a couple of months to some years and seeing that you've taken overtime so much you are losing the important moments. but idk, i'm just just rambling

@jugutierrez

Ай бұрын

Nowhere in the article said it was going to be easy, and it also don't have to be easy. The most rewardings things in life are on the other side of pain and as everyone knows, a fullfilling life is difficult. Pretty damn difficult. If not, most people wouldn't have such crappy lives and regrets. So... it doesn't suck. If that sucks then life sucks. And I think the fact of the challenge is what makes it interesting and full of possibilities. If people really KNEW it, then they would make the change. Whatever was the price. But, they don't think they can't do it, they are afraid, they don't know. So, I believe the advice is great. I mean, is saying what you will probably regret, and that you don't have a second life. You have to be brave. It's not going to be easy but is going to be worth it. If it was easy it would be pointless.

@heatrs4717

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@@jugutierrez My point is moreso that the things that the article mentions are more about the type of person you are rather than the things you do. Developing relationships, following your dreams, etc. are things that you build up and pursue over the course of your whole life and by scaling them down to just one aspect of a person's life that they might regret it's kind of like missing the forest for the trees, in that sense. If you care about these values, it doesn't matter how much you focus on one or the other, or if you feel you aren't doing enough. If you care, you will find time for it without needing some overarching fear of regret hanging over you as motivation. If a person says they regret not spending more time with the people they care about what they are really saying, harsh as it may seem, is that they wish they cared enough to make more time to spend with them. What you care about is something that develops over a long long period of time especially when it comes to incredibly personal things like pursuing your dreams. If you truly care about a dream enough to chase it, then chase it, but don't chase it because you're worried you might regret not doing so later in your life. Regret cannot be mediated by fear. We all have finite time on earth and no idea how long or short that time may be. So live your life doing what you care about and overtime you will have spent exactly as much time as you could have according to how much you care about each thing in life. I actually think the idea of regretting such intrinsic and core aspects like relationships with other people is just a bit misguided unfortunately. You will always have things you wish you could have done more of or wish you spent more time on, but realistically you will never be able to balance your life in the most meaningful way possible and rather than trying to do everything out of fear you might regret it, just accept the fact that you are human and find satisfaction in the life you currently have, or the life you had, it may not be perfect and you may have regrets, but that is life. I'm not saying that you shouldn't work toward an idea of a better life, but literally nobody can read an article like that and feel like their life is adequate. It's unrealistic. If you are doing and pursuing what you care about and what matters to you however long it takes, that is all that matters. I just don't think people need to focus on such intrinsic values and personality traits as though they are goals to accomplish.

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