"Rarely can a response make someting better. What makes something better is connection." Really well demonstrated too in this scene. I have to stop myself sometimes from "advice giving" to friends when I realise inside, there isn't necessarily a way to "fix" something for them. Sometimes, something is just awful and a loss. And I just have to try and offer that connection to them to help them through it.

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! That line you highlighted is such a powerful reminder to me. Thanks for stopping by to comment and share your experience 🙏 Good to have you here!

@cutepuddleslime8201

Жыл бұрын

I know that you don't do cartoons anymore, let alone preschool shows but I have been thinking about this Wow Wow Wubbzy episode called The Blooey Blues. It is where the pink rabbit named Widget fails at her giant frog hopping invention and Wubbzy and Walden try to cheer her up through out the episode. And Widget develops a made up version of depression called Blooey Blues. The episode itself wasn't very well executed as it was more focused on trying to cheer up someone, rather than empathizing with someone and so I thought for a bit and rewrote the episode to execute what I feel the episode theme and lesson should have been: Have empathy towards others, even if you don't understand what they're going through. It's the feeling to listen and understand, not force them to cheer up. I will post my rewritten version on this comment when I find it! Edit: Here is what I wrote out to give you a good idea! Keep the episode relatively the same throughout, but change the ending part where Walden fixed the frog machine to get Widget to come out to save Wubbzy to cure the Blooey Blues. Instead: We now cut to Waldens house where both look sad and Wubbzy still says that he can't figure out how to help Widget. Walden with a sad thinking expression, suddenly gets an idea to paint themselves dark blue so Widget doesn't feel lonely or misunderstood. He doesn't say the plan as the scene would be just him thinking with a sad face for a few seconds, and his face immediate changes to an "I think I have an idea" face. Now the next scene cuts to both sluggishly walking to Widgets bed. Both pretend to act like they have the Blooey Blues, Widget then looks over from her bed to see her two sad best friends approaching to her bed and sandwich between her. "You're sad too?" Widget asks, "Yes, I guess we'll be sad together then." Wubbzy solemnly speaks. Both of them sigh. Her skin color transitions to a less dark blue, Wubbzy realizes why they're doing this and keep up with the act. As the day goes on they still pretend they are sad, Widget feels less and less sad as they both play in a slower manner, both of them act less sad. They read her favorite books, play tea party with her toy animals and give each other a hug here and there. Slowly she becomes a pale blue, coming back to her original pink color. She looks out the window and says that she wants to try again to find a blunder on that frog, but still isn't very confident that it would work anymore. Wubbzy accidentally blurts out a word of encouragement, and tries to get back in the act; Widget still with a sad expression actually smiles and asks a startled looking Walden, "You're also not really blue, are you." Walden sighs and admits defeat, both get up with guilt and admits they painted themselves blue so that she feels understood, which Walden founded worked on Widget as she becomes less blue. Widget puts the two together in a group hug, forgives them (she wasn't really upset and felt happy), tells them that they were the best of friends that she could have asked for, and then asks the two if they could come with her to fix up her frog machine. All three now came to her 'dud' and Widget exclaims, "That's why it didn't work! I forgot to put in the batteries!" All three cheered and laughed joyfully and now she is back to her pink skin color. Now we cut to the scene of them riding on the giant hopping frog machine, off to the sunset, laughing and yelping with joy. Concluding my rewritten version of The Blooey Blues. Maybe the whole episode could have been rewritten, but it is still a preschool show and making it simple with a good dose of show don't tell is very effective for good story telling.

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

@@cutepuddleslime8201 You may be surprised how many cartoons I have consumed, even over the course of my adult life 😅Thanks for sharing your re-write. It captures perfectly the spirit of this episode. I can tell from your writing you have a great imagination and empathetic heart!

This is an amazing example of Empathy and how it helps others. It would be a great tool to teach others learning about the difference of Empathy vs. Sympathy.

@mikenelsoncmhc

2 ай бұрын

I’m so glad you think it is helpful 🙏 I have found learning the difference between empathy and sympathy (and being able visualize it) very helpful in both my personal and professional life. Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting 👍

I’ve watched this twice and cried both times. I realized how much my “Inner Joy” has been trying to fix things and have me see things positively, and this has not allowed me feel what I’m actually feeling. What a gift all of the emotions truly are. Thank you for your efforts in making these videos Mike!

@mikenelsoncmhc

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Josh for taking the time to share some of your journey here. I appreciate your positive online presence and find your encouragement invaluable ❤️

So much pressure to be happy. Sadness is very needed...for without it, there could be no happiness.

I watched this when I was younger (18 or something) during an extracurricular class in my Uni, but had the majority of my emotions repressed so I didn't care, but our teacher, who is a psychologist, told us that him and many adults identify too well with this movie and cried during the display. Now I understand and couldn't content my crying, what a masterpiece of movie, maybe I should watch what is going now(Stopped watching movies time ago due to the paranoia of being controlled by corporations like Pixar trough them).

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your experience with this beautiful story 🙏 I am a big believer in the healing power of story-telling!

People can be traumatized by being pressured to "just be happy" no matter what.

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I’ve even heard some call that pressure to “have the right attitude” or “just be happy” when we are experiencing appropriate grief and loss as “the cult of positivity” or “toxic positivity”-and I thought those are interesting ways to describe that cultural phenomenon. Ultimately, it’s that unwillingness to acknowledge *unpleasant* emotions in a healthy way.

@kimlec3592

Жыл бұрын

@@mikenelsoncmhc Yes, I am grieving but it is for my dog, no one wants to talk to me. I have given up talking to people. The video helped to cry. There has been too much trauma these last few years. I have a friend who chides me because I am not positive. It is cruel, this turning others away when they are in pain. Thank you for making this video.

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

@@kimlec3592 You are very welcome. And thank you for watching, for the encouragement, and your sharing.

im so glad to have found your channel! i think its time for a binge

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Welcome Jaylee! Thank you for being here 🙏 I hope it is a thoughtful, helpful, and healing space to be in.

Great edit and great message. Loved it

@mikenelsoncmhc

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching my friend! And thanks for the feedback ❤️

I can see what you’re saying. Joy is able to pull people out of their sorrow, while Sadness is able to connect with that sorrow. It’s essentially a yin/yang principle, which explains why the Joy x Sadness ship is so popular…excuse me for getting off topic.

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Not off topic at all! I love the idea of applying the principle of Yin Yang to an emotional experience. “I am feeling this” *and* “I am feeling this.” They are not the same *and* they coexist harmoniously at the same time. Love it!

@user-lz7gn9gt7b

7 ай бұрын

Not suprised that they are being shipped 😅

"I dont know what to say but I'm glad you told me"

@mikenelsoncmhc

7 ай бұрын

Such a powerful sentiment. I love Brene Brown’s work ❤️ Thank you so much for stopping by. watching, and commenting 🙏

Amazing video, thanks so much!

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

I’m really glad you liked it! Thank you for watching and for your encouragement! I hope you find the channel a helpful place along your journey. Welcome! 🙏

@bohebionte

Жыл бұрын

@@mikenelsoncmhc I shared it with my therapy client today because it was so helpful for what we were discussing 😊 thank you for this fun yet educating content format!!

Discovered your channel because of this video. Such great content. Love all of your other videos as well! You deserve a lot more subscribers :)

@mikenelsoncmhc

11 ай бұрын

So glad you liked the video! Thanks for watching and for the encouragement. It means more than you might know. 🙏

@joycemarney46

7 сағат бұрын

I agree and second that. Subscribing! 😊

Don't cry its just a movie Don't cry its just a movie Don't cry 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@mikenelsoncmhc

Жыл бұрын

Right!? Lol I feel the exact same way :)