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I think it's interesting Betty sings "When you're young, they assume you know nothing" implying SHE knew. So she's got a rather mature stance - or at least she's trying to. While james is making up excuses with the "I'm only 17, I don't know anything but I know I miss you". Like?? Betty's like "Take me seriously! I might be young but I still know a lot!!" while James is trying to use his age as an excuse. You know what I mean? To me, it hints at the different maturity levels of girls and boys. I mean, I don't know for sure but it's a common saying that girls grow up faster and boys are about 2 years behind them regarding their mental age? I hope you know what I mean xD

James' audacity was actually insane I swear to god lmao

@adeyemoifemade7832

6 ай бұрын

NAH FR

“Who does he think he is John Mayer? Kanye West?” The one liners. I was dyingggggg😂😂😂

This is one of you're best videos, i swear i couldn't stop laughing. Whenever i'm bored i try to justify james behaviour but i'm proud to say that not once did i suceed.😂😂The little improv was also iconic😍.

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. I had a blast making it and especially editing it on my own this time ♥️

The shade we're throwing at James, I love that, it's such a good song but he's such an awful person, the audacity to want her back. Calling him out on his excuses, I loved your comments!

How in the world did Taylor write a song where, from a queer lens I have such sympathy for all characters and it's so poignant and meaningful whereas from a straight lens he's a fukboi dbag and his words ring hollow like empty excuses BUT THEY BOTH STILL SOMEHOW MAKE SENSE? How does she do this? Because I prefer the queer interpretation but Idk if it's what she intended or if she intended it to be both because she's just on another level than us mere mortals LOL Loved the reaction, second another request for Cowboy Like Me. Very Breakfast at Tiffany's meets southern country club,but that's just my take

@kellye.5678

Жыл бұрын

I don’t know. I feel like for me it doesn’t matter what the gender of James is. It doesn’t change how I feel about the character. If you want to know how taylor meant to write it she said James was a boy in an interview, but I feel like either way it doesn’t make a difference to me.

@evergreenforestwitch

Жыл бұрын

@@kellye.5678 interesting. I think it matters a lot in the context of the song, but to each their own.

I am in no way trying to justify what James did because cheating is not acceptable at any age, no matter how immature. However, when I heard this song I thought about people who have not had good role models, people who basically had to grow up on their own, learning by making mistakes. Not everyone has parents that teach them how to be decent human beings. Not everyone is emotionally mature enough to learn by watching other people and say "Hey, this is how I want to be" or "This isn't who I want to become". Some people really mess up and learn the hard way. I don't know if that was the case with James, but he was definitely confused and he definitely messed up. And in this song he is trying to explain himself and explain why he messed up. You can explain yourself without justifying your behavior. You can explain what led you to your mistakes without blaming others for what you ultimately decided to do. And that is what he was doing, for what I can see from the lyrics. He wasn't blaming Betty nor August nor anyone else but himself. That is why he could even acknowledge the fact that it was the worst thing he ever did

It’s cute that Taylor put all three daughters in this song from her friend Blake Lively 😍 James, Inez and Betty 🥰🥹

Yes! I’ve been married to a narc for 5 years and I finally escaped and filed for divorce, but the most addicting and confusing part of the relationship was that he would intentionally cause fights and hurt me but then he would turn around and tell me he loved me, and that if I didn’t make him so mad he wouldn’t have to hurt me… He was the only one who could make me feel okay… even though he was the reason I didn’t feel okay to begin with… ughhhh it’s so effed up!!! I can see this so clear now, hindsight. I’m still trying to break the trauma bond. It’s so hard and it sucks so much!!

Thank you so much for bringing us this! Get to know Taylor more in your perspective! She has so much magic and so do you

Been so excited for this one

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

♥️♥️♥️

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@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

I hope she loves it!! ♥️🤍

My immediate thought from a straight perspective was that it was cheating… but the more I’ve listened to it I’ve realized it could also be a similar situation to how you saw it in the “queer lens”video: That Betty had heard rumors James liked her, but he was awkward or unsure that she felt the same way and while Betty was waiting for him to, James never made a move.. then summer rolled around and Betty heard he was with someone else and when James realized Betty had liked him all along, he’d missed his chance and hurt her, he desperately wanted to make up for it. Just another perspective. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s interesting how differently everyone interprets stories like this. * also the “stupid friends” comment always made me think of the corny teenage love stories where the S.O. Refers to friends in that manner as a silly joke and not in a serious or mean way.

James as a guy is such an ass. Firstly - yes, the emotional depth for a boy this age is questionable, especially given the things he does. If it was an impulse decision, that would probably be one night - but no, he spent the whole summer with the other girl and only came back 'when the thrill expired'. And then he 'planned for weeks' to just crash her party and thinks his kiss 'will patch her broken wings' - WTF? Sadly I would've fallen for this bullshit when I was 17.

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

I would have fallen for it too at that age. Thank you for sharing and I second everything you wrote! ♥️

@MarvinBla

Жыл бұрын

@@mendwithmere thank you for these videos! I've been binge-watching your content as the way to escape from my everyday horror. remembering such 'trivial' problems as love life has been therapeutic for my mental health, while I'm trying to stay alive amidst war

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

@@MarvinBla I’m so glad you are alive and safe. It is a horror and I wish we were doing more as a country to help. How can you be supported right now?

Loving your channel, and this one gave me a good laugh. Think I gave James too much slack because I'm also a James!

I love how much you are hating on James in this video, your not giving him an inch to bs you. I love it.

I have a lot of affection and compassion for all three characters in this love triangle, including James (I should probably hold teenage boys to higher standards lol) but it always feels like a slap in Augustine's face when I hear him say to Betty "the worst thing that I ever did was what I did to you". Augustine is over there like "what am I, chopped liver??"

Also love how James acknowledges that he wasn't there. Like it makes me think he told her no I won't go or be there, and then he gets upset that when he shows up she is having an okay time and having fun as if she is just supposed to be miserable without him.

Mereeee

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

😂❤❤❤❤

I loved this video. It's very entertaining. Taylor confirms that with these songs, she is a genius storyteller.

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

So glad you loved it!

Hi! Would you ever do Cowboy Like Me? It’s one of my faves!☺️

I feel like the time period of the story of the love triangle is really important. August and Betty really feel like they're rooted in like the 50's. An Era where dating around was common if you weren't "going steady" with someone. That's where I've always thought the song came from, queer or straight And specifically the 'I'm only 17 I don't know anything' like i feel like that's him admitting in his own words "i'm a dumbass and i messed up"

@firstlast1932

6 ай бұрын

What would be the High Line mentioned in Cardigan, if the story was set in the 50's? I thought it was the High Line park, because that is pretty much the only result I get in Google.

@cheezyb92

6 ай бұрын

@firstlast1932 the High Line was still active as a railway in the 50's. "Heartbeat on the High Line" is the lyrics which likely references either taking the train or sitting on the (maybe edge) of the tracks when the train isn't running

@firstlast1932

6 ай бұрын

@@cheezyb92 Thank you. 50's make sense. I imagine the story taking place during late 80's to early 00's period, but I guess that is because of my own age.

@cheezyb92

6 ай бұрын

@firstlast1932 80's could also make sense! It was also a time of not-so-serious relationships

even though Inez is telling the truth James still felt the need to drag her name and call her a gossip girl who just spreads rumors. Just showing a pattern of disrespecting women

This video is great

I ❤️your facial expressions in this video 😍😍😘

As someone who has grown out of irresponsible behaviour like cheating I cried like a baby when I heard Betty for the first time because of how it's written with such simplicity, and at that moment it did reflected my sincere regret for what I personally did at that time but now seeing your take on it there are definitely some narcicistic undertones to it, I guess I do have a little simpathy for him because I know how it feels to do something like that and feel like you'll never be able to be a good person again, also I was exactly 17 when it happened and the song came out exactly around the same timeframe lol, but yeah, boy probably needs to really understand his actions and its implications

Karlie Kloss was born in August ❤😊🎉

Now that i know James from queer lens makes more sense Betty and James ended together! There's no way Betty, the girl who knows everything would get together again with this stupid boy! Never could understand why Taylor would want Betty to get back together with James! The Spice Girls part.... LOVED IT!

Oh my gosh thank you! This is why I can't listen to this song happily anymore. 🥲 James needs to get his head on straight. You hit the nail on the head girl.

I’m so tracking with the Spice Girls. They were my first concert ever! 🎉 This definitely sucks as a heterosexual song but can be sweeter from a homosexual lense.

Can you review the song "Scar" by Missy Higgins, way back then when the song first released lots of teenage fans went to take "am I a lesbian quiz" 😂

when i listen to betty i interpret james as a girl, because i feel sympathetic towards them and it also makes the song deeper, however, when i listen to cardigan and august james turnes into a dude, so i can hate on him

y pensar que esta cancion la escribio con joe xd

I love your videos so much! It bothers me that whoever edits your videos plays with your voice though. To me, the voice changes really distract from what you're saying. That's my only complaint. Otherwise, I love what you do!

@mendwithmere

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback!! We’ll cut back on that. Thank you for the support ♥️

How come this was Sweet & Genuine with girl James but not guy James? Seems a little unfair

So...i know this is probably either going to get hate sent to me or people to think about james in a new light. I think james is nuro divergent. Doesnt exuse what he did. But it feels also though to me he doesnt think through things and has a hard time in socail situations. Plus as you pointed out. It was probably modled to him. He also comes off as...akward. you say self centered. But as someone on the autism spectrum what comes off as Self centeredness. Is probably himself trying to not get hurt himself. It took me years to realize that me trying to protect myself might end up hurting other people. And hes trying to fix it the only way he knows. "Im only seventeen" hes also probably behind developmentally. So thats why he Semmes...childish and doesnt respect boundaries yet. Again. This is mostly informed by my experience.

James as a girl gives confused queer teen struggling with her feelings (realizing she has a crush on her friend?) James as a boy gives f*boy who cheated or ghosted and is now gaslighting to get what/who he wants

I wanna know why you think it is OK for James the girl to say "I dreamed of you all summer long" when she was with another but it's not OK for James the boy. It shouldn't be OK for neither to use someone like that

@alixrizzo6855

11 ай бұрын

exactly!!

@crystallight196

21 күн бұрын

Totally agree. Double standard anyone?

You have ruined this song for me. LOL I used to have some empathy for young dumb James but now not so much. In his defense, there is only one thing highly developed on a 17 year old young man.😉I picture him losing both Betty and August and learning from his experience and in his mid twenties getting back together with Betty after growing up emotionally. Love your channel. ❤

Lol why you so mad to straight James and not to female James lol 🤨

@Nevaeh101

3 ай бұрын

Seriously that’s a little unfair IMO