The actual test is reading the story on the screen while listening to the narrator.

@levy5867

6 жыл бұрын

IKR

@Izikissosmartandcool

6 жыл бұрын

harun farah That's a really easy test.

@sweetcakes2048

6 жыл бұрын

harun farah 😂 ikr!

@OMIMreacts

6 жыл бұрын

harun farah yeah haha, didn't comprehend anything of what was being said in the first third. Had to watch twice, once without looking at the screen

@alejrandom6592

6 жыл бұрын

I need a poo

The ultimate test: >can you hold a conversation with the hairdresser

@xzonia1

6 жыл бұрын

I just want the haircut. I've actually tipped less to hairdressers who insist on talking after I've indicated I don't want to talk.

@nik1128

6 жыл бұрын

I am at the salon right now, it's so awkward lol

@gnarthdarkanen7464

6 жыл бұрын

People generally (in my experience) only blather on in small talk until you speak up and ask something pointed. If you don't want to talk about the weather, and they don't necessarily know what you do want to talk about...(especially business people) they will either prattle on with each other or other people to neglect you until you decide to get noticed... So it's a hairdresser... maybe nuclear rocketry isn't the subject to focus on for a worthwhile conversation... But you might bring up horses, or family BS... Everyone deals with some kind or other of family BS, inter-family difficulties, or full-on feuding in the ranks, or even the hereditary type of "you must be your daddy's boy" crap... Maybe the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree, but it's not always the obvious near-proximity either. Most hair dressers I've ever visited have considerably more on their minds than they let on, until you find the right button to push. (that same "any" key from the dialogues on your PC usually has a verbal form) :o)

@CRO-Palacinke-D.C

6 жыл бұрын

Josip Čondić Jurkić thanks, wouldn't be able to write it down more accurately than you did.

@nicolleakua50

6 жыл бұрын

My hairdresser speaks French so I pick up some, also I get my hair braided so I'm there for hours - would be awkward if we didn't talk at all 😂

"they don't ask polite questions, they don't have feeling for our lives, they don't do the news and the weather..." Oh fiddle sticks, I might be a kid.

@cujocujocujo

4 жыл бұрын

Mood

@sunnydforfree7145

3 жыл бұрын

😆😆

@zano9291

2 жыл бұрын

My subconscious: Always has been

@nterbeastro-slayers9528

2 жыл бұрын

That was exactly what I was thinking

@ThorOdinson1269

2 жыл бұрын

You might feel like you're different/isolated, that was my issue

I vehemently disagree. It is so much easier to talk with small children precisely for the reasons mentioned in the video. Because children aren't good at small talk, you aren't forced to navigate the tricky & sensitive waters of 'polite conversation' which often serves no purpose but to convince an adult that you are harmless. In most cases, children answer questions honestly without pretense. I easily get along well with children, but I struggle with almost all adults. I often find myself escaping to hang with the kids rather than continue forcing an uncomfortably polite conversation with adults.

@burymebelowawillowtree9243

6 жыл бұрын

Nathan Cashion Word!

@Zanderthegrape

6 жыл бұрын

Same here! I work at a preschool and I'm with the kids most of the time. Which is nice because I get to bond with them and I don't have to always talk to the fake co-workers gossiping all the time lol

@danielm793

6 жыл бұрын

Ever tried acting less harmless?

@AwesomeComps23

6 жыл бұрын

couldn't agree more...!

@angeltesfayexo6909

6 жыл бұрын

You have spoken the Truth

Children are easy. Adults are anxiety attacks

@Elkx2121

6 жыл бұрын

Both children and adults are terrible. The best is old people.

@undeadpresident

6 жыл бұрын

Fuck people.

@KevsUploads

6 жыл бұрын

Elif madness, old people carry their worries with them, abs fret about it everyday.

@TheTorridestCheese

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@nuclearcoil

6 жыл бұрын

Old people are the worst for me. They don't learn anything new about changing world and never understand me. The children are the easiest.

I find myself disagreeing some with this video. Adults can be a much tougher test of your social skills than children. Children are more predictable in what they want and how they behave and don't set up barriers complex enough that you'd have to try very hard to get under their skin. Adults on the other hand, riddled with insecurities and anxieties can be a much tougher nut to crack.

@xzonia1

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@ashablue78

6 жыл бұрын

Nejc Havaši true, but kids don't know small talk

@thorr18BEM

6 жыл бұрын

Nejc Havaši , so do you regularly have pleasant times with children you don't know?

@deanrichard1770

6 жыл бұрын

Nejc Havaši it's easy to get under a kids skin you tell them they are wrong when they are clearly correct

@DJNHmusic

6 жыл бұрын

Asha it's irrelevant. They don't know awkward silence either so it's unnecessary.

Me: well.. I'm off to practice socializing with kids at the park. Police officer: you have the right to remain silent!!

@AA-ei7pu

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@Jdabomb93

4 жыл бұрын

“FBI OPEN UP!” “But I am opening up! I’ve been very vulnerable with these kids!”

@lebz752

3 жыл бұрын

“Officer please! It’s the kid’s fault”

@dirkdiggler2430

3 жыл бұрын

@rose against the law as well. 😆

@mifnp8887

3 жыл бұрын

LOL!!🤣👊

I'm shy around kids , boys , girls , teenagers , young adults , middle aged adults , elders and even family ,and I have always been like this , so I'm pretty screwed up ain't I ?

@deltaxcd

6 жыл бұрын

Yes, you are screwed op but don't wory when you will start hating everyone all that shyness will go away

@dukes1993724

6 жыл бұрын

You're screwed bro time to get the lube

@MissSunshineHS

6 жыл бұрын

Julian Rosero me too. :(

@Storm17ify

6 жыл бұрын

I understand how you feel. I don't why its so hard for me to strike up a conversation with someone, even a family member.

@deltaxcd

6 жыл бұрын

I think I have a cure for this problem: register on f-list, create another character and do some roleplaying this will be great opportunity to learn how to do approach and how to keep a conversation, also you will get used to nonstop rejections and learn how to identify people who actually will not reject you.

Dear God. Guys we need to donate or the animations will keep digressing to stick figures and eventually dots that talk in emoji's

@Dubois_tada

6 жыл бұрын

VisualsFromMark lmao I think this style of cartooning was on purpose

@theschooloflifetv

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your concern: it would be great if you were tempted to buy a book.

@markmunyui

6 жыл бұрын

The School of Life on my way now 🏃🏾

@FROBcom

6 жыл бұрын

VisualsFromMark Digressing? We better donate to buy you a dictionary. 😂

@god8063

6 жыл бұрын

Stop calling me motherfucker, I'm busy jackin it.

Why did that chick leave a total stranger in her home with her kids? She doesn't even know the guy's name!

@audreyandremington5265

4 жыл бұрын

Because the story gods ordained it to be so.

@skarbuskreska

3 жыл бұрын

well in the test of ones social skills she definitely failed

I find it easier to talk to children than adults. Adults seem to have walls built around them.. children on the other hand are open and carefree.

The trick is to memorize a bunch of random facts and stories. I tell them to anyone I don’t want to talk with. By the way did you know that some jellyfish can change their own age at will

@animeandstuff5377

4 жыл бұрын

Bruh I worked as a camp worker and kids are easy to talk to just tell them stories

@hasukihusky3428

4 жыл бұрын

Oh I knew that, the inmortal jellyfish

@shaunhayes3072

4 жыл бұрын

I swear the jellyfish was 18 at the time, officer

@etoatoummhmm6391

4 жыл бұрын

Shaun Hayes “at the time? but turned back into a child, and kept claiming she was 18 you say. Tell it to judge!”

@AA-ei7pu

4 жыл бұрын

Shaun Hayes lmaooo😭😭

i don't know how to hold a conversation with a stranger.

@Araanor

6 жыл бұрын

I know, I am. And I am getting better, just went through How to win friends and influence people, pretty helpful book. Do you have any recommendations ?

@mehgamer467

6 жыл бұрын

honestly the hardest thing is just practice. Alot of the time you can just talk about the place you are at (amusement park, casino, park, etc) and go from there. Just random thoughts or questions that branch off of what you said. If they engage then awesome. You guys should feed off of each other and generally best way is to show that you are somewhat interested in what they are saying. they seem uninterested then just move on. Try not to use "ender" words that end conversations immediately unless you have another topic in mind or want to leave. Don't leave the other person hanging is what I mean. biggest thing is just not to beat yourself over if a convo doesn't go well or just falls flat. You have far more people to talk to :).

@Araanor

6 жыл бұрын

haha yea, talking about the weather is always weird for me, people here in Denmark are generally always dissatisfied with the weather, unless it's clear skies and the sun is shining, but even then they complain about it being to hot. i'm generally satisfied with pretty much any weather that doesn't kill me so even small talk can be disagreeable.

@Araanor

6 жыл бұрын

thanks. "talk about the place you are at" was a great suggestion that i hadn't really thought about :). i pretty much know most of the basics. but putting it into action, and encouraging people to talk about their interests makes me a bit anxious, but i'm definitely going to try :D. i know rejection isn't nearly as bad as it feels so it's just a matter of going out there and to it!

@mehgamer467

6 жыл бұрын

Araanor I love your attitude! I've been shy most of my life until I started working in a restuaraunt. I wouldn't mind talking, but I couldn't engage and got by just on being a good listener. After awhile of forcing myself and being forced to engage in conversation I felt more confident and love talking. Even if you aren't a great talker, the world definitely needs better listeners. That can get you pretty far on it's own and most of the time (fortunately/unfortunately) the other person also does all the talking, so you don't have to worry. But some people also drag on and on lol. You obviously know this, but just make sure you seem like you are interested. Some people might take you just saying "yeah I agree" constantly as *this person is just being rude*. Talking is one thing, but actually feeling like you are being heard is what really matters imo. I wish you all the best! Rejection is tough, but we can't get stronger without putting ourselves in awkward positions.

It's hard to converse with children when you're legally obligated to stay 500ft away from them

@Bobelponge123

6 жыл бұрын

The Passionly Passionate Nightman lol

@englishpizza7580

6 жыл бұрын

The Passionly Passionate Nightman I can't tell if your being serious or not

@kalidjackson

6 жыл бұрын

Well thts concerning

@Kalenz1234

6 жыл бұрын

Pure gold

@weirdokiller123126

6 жыл бұрын

Your username makes so much sense now...

I actually have anxiety around kids too. I find it's easiest to talk to really old people

@xzonia1

6 жыл бұрын

I would say it's a blessing if you're good around old people, as far too many people in our society today shun the elderly. Play to your strengths! There are far too many people who go gaga for kids these days, anyway. We need more people who are willing to spend time with the elderly. Give them the joy of your company.

@galaxysnot6276

6 жыл бұрын

Cj Iscool I struggle talking to anyone who's not between 19 and 29 years old.

@manuelalonsodominguezvazqu2145

6 жыл бұрын

Cj Iscool The same here.

@deltaxcd

6 жыл бұрын

It may be easy to talk to old people because they are not different than talking to the wall. But I wonder how does it feel when you talk to someone and get an almost no response at all, it is not even possible to tell if that person can hear you. Maybe the situation is different if you talk to the active people whom you meet outside.

@amoney2570

6 жыл бұрын

It's easy to talk to old people. Just be polite, and ask them about their lives. They have enough experiences and stories to talk for hours you barely have to do the talking.

As someone who worked for 5 years as tennis coach for juniors and 2 years as a Kumon teacher, I actually found it easier to get along with kids. Kids, esp. when they are young, lack the life context to truly judge people more than at surface level therefore it is much easier to gain their trust by being open and honest to them. Also you learn very quickly that the key to getting along with them is to become a mentor...not necessarily the "adult". They understand you're an adult relative to them, but by being a mentor, you give them a chance to feel more open and free to be themselves around you and in doing so, they will often become more engaged with what you have to say. Working/spending time with kids is about them wanting and feeling comfortable in engaging with you as much as it is you engaging with them. I work in the corporate world now, but I do miss the fulfillment of working with and mentoring kids, all I ever wished for was to pass down my knowledge to help them to become good people.

Fuck. I'm shit at talking to kids.

@hellno9072

6 жыл бұрын

Toast I guess I'm a toast to 🤷🏻‍♀️

@GreatJobTy

6 жыл бұрын

My channel is dedicated to MASTERING confidence and social skills, and other marketable skills that are applicable to all development. Interested?????? come to my channel then.

@matsuokaemily

6 жыл бұрын

Toast me too!

@jadisjoy

6 жыл бұрын

Toast Oh God! What a toast

@joshandrews5134

6 жыл бұрын

It's easy. Just bring up Minecraft.

Do you have games on your phone?

@IonicAtom

6 жыл бұрын

the next thing that happens is that the kid steals your phone ´till the battery dies

@burymebelowawillowtree9243

6 жыл бұрын

Can i download a game in your phone “? .....yep it happens. But frankly I don’t mind.

@vrpnblstr3441

6 жыл бұрын

Solution : Don't own a smartphone.

@tomfanning8319

6 жыл бұрын

Who did this

@kcufeht5795

5 жыл бұрын

Here's some fireworks. I need my lighter but you can walk to the store to buy your own.

I don't care if modern "philosophers" say this is fake philosophy or someone says it's phony. This is the philosophy I want to live by and learn from. Thank you, School Of Life.

@mariee_e

4 жыл бұрын

Same Q actually, genuinely curious!^

@StrawberryNinjaNibbles

3 жыл бұрын

How can there be “fake” philosophy? Isn’t it just a way of thinking of things?

@mariee_e

3 жыл бұрын

StrawberryNinja Nibbles Yeah that’s what I was confused about. I met someone on discord that said something along the same lines about the School of Life, and I was like ? Like philosophy is only from people in the Aristotle time?? Lol

@dazzlingdexter5060

2 жыл бұрын

This video is a lie though. Most adults who can socialize with adults have a different skill set. Some people can socialize with kids and animals. Children and animals require openess and compassion. It's different when talking with adults.

What are you talking about? Children are easier than adults. They don't judge you. Even if they don't like you at first, or they act super shy, you just have to play with them or ask them some basic questions about their stuff, and 30 min later you'll be their favourite person in the room. They value kindness and good humour, and the simplest things in life. I wish everyone were more like children, the world would be a better place.

@ridethelapras

4 жыл бұрын

Lady Von Hautkopf Jesus was on to something with His "of such is the kingdom of heaven" principle.

Personally, I have always found children easier to talk to than adults. Children are much more straightforward and simpler. I find that adult's often say one thing, but often they are implying something else. There are also so many more rules and rituals you need to follow. Kids seem to like you as long as you are being your true self.

@musicandpoetry_8

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, it’s like you don’t have to talk about more intellectual subjects so it’s kept at a basic level, takes the pressure off and you feel more comfortable

Am I the only one who thinks the animation fits the video?

@theschooloflifetv

6 жыл бұрын

We think so!

@doitlive1279

6 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure the people who made it do...

@HorribleSonofa

6 жыл бұрын

cherry875 - until 3:43, at which point I was suddenly confused/concerned about a child being involved.

@Rachulie

6 жыл бұрын

HorribleSonofa well it was Socrates so

@antebellum606

6 жыл бұрын

Child drawings cues us to see things through the eyes of a child, so it is apropos indeed.

I actually found the part where the french king is on all fours quite funny... who ever draws the animations for these are clever

You have a place in Istanbul? That's awesome I definitely am going to check it soon.

@mertcanaltay3722

4 жыл бұрын

Reyiz ne arıyorsun burda .d?

@teaskovski336

4 жыл бұрын

Güzelmiş. Şimdi sus ve video yap.

being around kids is easier - they are sincere and straight forward, and you know what to expect from them. the adults are mostly boring or difficult to understand many times. how is it the ultimate test?

There is stigma on western societies that a grown ass adult(especially men) shouldn't interact to stranger kids. very bad idea to test your social skills

@Hip.Username

6 жыл бұрын

jay fawn I just replied to someone else about this, but as long as you keep a safe distance and don't say anything innapropriate and also acknowledge that the parent is there, it shouldn't be weird to say something to a kid. People interact with my 4 year old, she's naturally shy but because I encourage it she feels safer and holds conversations while in the checkout line or at the doctor's office. Parents who don't let adults talk to their kid's while they're standing there are idiots, like wtf do you think will happen?

@yurisonovab3892

6 жыл бұрын

For real. I'm playing with my kids at a park, some random kid walks up to me crying talking about his brother being mean to him. I just listen to what he has to say for a minute, and the kid's dad is like "it's time to go!" Giving me looks and shit. I literally only listened to someone crying and got that stigma.

@slaymarie_rdh_ntraining

6 жыл бұрын

jay fawn thought I was crazy for thinking this.

@gabemerritt3139

5 жыл бұрын

There is and it is quite sad

@kedabro1957

4 жыл бұрын

@The Absolute Madman The Absolute Madman Depends how you look compared the parent's idea of what an ideal man looks like. Definitely don't look gay or poor or unhappy. But don't look too enthusiastic either. Also don't bother if your face looks odd. Hollywood has always cast weird-looking men as pedophiles, and most people believe what they watch. Also, some parents are dicks to their kids, so their kids will fawn over any adult who treats them with basic respect. This makes asshole parents jealous, because they long ago stopped earning that kind of response from their child. Even if they're not abusive, some parents feel no obligation or have no ability to show interest in their child's obsessions. The parent may have such narrow interests and such an inability to speak outside those interests, they thought their kid would be a captive audience. Such parents are disappionted when their kid branches out to something else, and furious at any adult who can carry on a conversation about it with their kid. Of course, this just proves the title of the video in a different way. The true test of your social skills is "Can you present yourself in a way that a child's parent perceives you as no threat?" Its like a job interview, except your life is on the line.

Lol adults are way harder

@xzonia1

6 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@kyber452

3 жыл бұрын

I find that avoiding people in general seems to be the easiest route.

Kids are so open to talking and saying whatever is in their minds, when I was a kid I wasn't like that at all, I barely talked to grown ups and developing a friendship took me months or an entire year.

What? I'm great with kids because I feel they cut the bullshit and go straight to what matters as opposed to adults who indulge in horribly confusing and tedious social rituals which I have zero patience and understanding of.

@gabemerritt3139

5 жыл бұрын

This ^

@kedabro1957

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome to autism. Lots of us here today.

@dandre3K

4 жыл бұрын

@@kedabro1957 It's not autism to be annoyed by unnecessary bs, it's autism if you don't recognize it.

Never had this problem..kids love me for some reason..which is strange cause i am not such a fan of them.

@atypical_moto

6 жыл бұрын

dawnriddler I can relate to that. I barely said two words to the kid but now I'm "uncle Kenny". It's like walking through a dog shelter with bacon in your pocket but you're allergic to dogs.

@biglegsman8414

6 жыл бұрын

Lol same

@hnyii

4 жыл бұрын

Interesting, 'cos: same.

@thiagozlin

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe that's why they like you. I think that kids don't like being patronized and treated like babies, like many adults treat them. So someone listens to them and actually disagrees with what they say instead of just nodding and calling them cute is really cool for them.

I love kids, and they love me, I'm a part time teacher, yet I know how to enter their world, I know how to bond with them. No matter where or when. Thanks to this ability, I not only play with them, but also teach them how to be decent people, because if you teach the right things to kids, they'll grow up to be very good adults. Kindness, hard work, a little imagination and fun, and you have helped in creating a loving member of society in the future. Teachers should be respected more, because the role that we have is so greatly installed in their brains, that if we aren't a good example, then we haven't fulfilled the purpose of our job, profession and purpose of life. We're all teachers, wether as parents, friends, co-worker, boss etc. We teach each other new things, yet we learn more from kids than any other adult. Kids are always the new generation, they're the new perspective we once were.

@theself5738

5 жыл бұрын

Teachers like you should be respected more. As for a good number of teachers and caretakers who actually hate children, nope.

I have social anxiety so I can't even say more than 2 words to people

@xzonia1

6 жыл бұрын

Most people like someone who's a good listener, anyway. So just listen and don't worry about what to say.

@deltaxcd

6 жыл бұрын

+xzonia1 Not really. Unless a good listener is someone who is not only playing dead but actually responding properly what is actually harder than talking yourself.

@DarkWandererAU

6 жыл бұрын

Social anxiety is a double edged sword, it ruins interactions for you & for those you are having them with

I relate to this so much. I find it so much easier to talk to kids at their level because of how direct they are, there's no social niceties to wade through which I hate. I love intellectual conversations with adults but hate mindless chit chat but I know it's necessary to get through life.

I quite like talking to kids. I work in a service profession and have to interact with them a lot. They're funny and spontaneous. I like them better than most adults.

Beautiful! Thanks so much for this reminder. This applies to so many situations - even adult interactions with people we don't know. Curiosity is key. Curiosity can relieve social anxiety across the boards.

I'm the opposite because i have autism. I cant speak that well to adults but i can speak to kids.

@twintwail

6 жыл бұрын

So does My little brother, and he acts the same he only ever wants to talks to kids since his autisim :)

@DarkWandererAU

6 жыл бұрын

Is that because kids don't walk on eggshells with you like some adults would?

@theannoyinglywittytrollwho2880

6 жыл бұрын

DarkWandererAU because little kids are inherently open minded and are very much likely to play and giggle along with you; while most adults would write you off as a weirdo.

@DarkWandererAU

6 жыл бұрын

+English_Wulf yeah pretty much what I meant. Adults when having to converse with you, would be polite and try not to act like they think you're a weirdo. Whereas children don't even think in those terms, they will converse with anyone without judgement. My older brother has aspergers, so socially he struggles. He does struggle even with children, but he has mentioned how easy they are to talk to & how he never feels judged.

@ydweroostenveld4049

6 жыл бұрын

I'm the same, I hate social chit-chat and love to be silly

The ultimate test: Can you hold a conversation with dentist while he's doing his work

@yael4627

4 жыл бұрын

I can, if I'm a nurse

@bradtheunchad3192

4 жыл бұрын

My dentist always does that. Always asking me questions while he's elbow deep in my mouth.

It's not the kids themselves I have problems dealing with, is the parents. Whenever I'm with kids, I'm constantly wary of what I may or may not be allowed to do when interacting with them, or even if it's okay to interact at all if I'm in a public place. I've been told off by people for letting my dog interact with their dog, let alone for talking to a child who seems interested in my handheld game. Interacting is just not worth the headache, so I'll only ever do it if I'm explicitly given permission, even to adults.... only talk if I'm talked to first.

Kids are so easy to socialize with. You just need to find something they are interested in and start talking and teaching them about that stuff.. then playing a bit and later changing the topic of discussion subtly to make it more mathematical. Then show them some cool math stuff that is actually cool the first time you check it out.. then do whatever because they will listen to you and you can teach them easily afterwards.

This was so touching, and I can not describe why - I’ll will say thank you, as always.

I watched once to read the on-screen dialogue and a second time to actually listen to what Alain was saying.

Hi, would you do a video about how to get social and emotional validation as an adult, if you didn't get much as a child? Thank you

@theschooloflifetv

6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, this is a key theme for us. Check out our film on INNER VOICES.

The really true at the end about friendship. I remember being around people and they always seemed so uptight and could never put their ego aside. Friends are one of the few people you should have no ego with

My mother ran a daycare out of our home for 30 years. I was surrounded by children for most of my own childhood. I guess that is why I have great social skills.

didn't that happen to michael jackson? he found comfort and fun in children

@wlankabel2986

6 жыл бұрын

If the age is on the clock

@elifkopat

6 жыл бұрын

leo lol

@Grace-mr8bc

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. And he often encouraged us adults to tap into our inner-child. By doing so we live free of conformity and judgement and ignorance that we end up imbibing in our teenage and later adult lives. People unfortunately misunderstood MJ so often, it's ridiculous. This video helps put into perspective what Michael Jackson had been telling us for more than half his extraordinary life.

@bestestinventions7032

5 жыл бұрын

you do mean "in" children?

@Grace-mr8bc

4 жыл бұрын

@Planeswalker Please provide us a quick summary of why you think MJ was a monster, refer to the official court transcripts and evidence obtained by the DA that somehow wasn't presented in court. I'll wait.

I have social anxiety and quite frankly, children are the easiest people to talk to. Also, children know damn well why they love Frozen.

Children have pure soul...we can feel it through their eyes..and its amazing to be with them....when we gain their trust...

This is truly one of the best SOL Videos! Thank you.

I feel always awkward talking with kids, I don't know what to say... And adults interacting with kids like they were some of them look ridiculous to me

I immediately began to disagree with this video because I feel so much more comfortable talking and having conversations around children rather than adults. With adults I'm always concerned what they're going to think of me or whether they'll think I'm weird. Kids haven't been indoctrinated yet. I have no concern of that

@guesswho5790

4 жыл бұрын

That's what frightens me the most. I feel exposed when around children I'm not familiar with. It's like I have to break down the walls that I spent so much time and effort building. Take good care of that ability. I hear it's very liberating to be around children doing childish things (I mean that in the most positive way).

@anna.318

4 жыл бұрын

Yes this is so true! Kids don't judge you if you act a little awkward or say something that might seem dumb

The amazing thing about kids is that they can play with literally everything, once you understand that you can become a kid too

I've been a recess teacher for over a year, it learns you great amounts about how to connect and communicate with kids. Would recommend to anyone.

Pretty sure that most strangers won't like me talking to their children. Forever alone :(

@Hip.Username

6 жыл бұрын

Chris D As long as there's no touching or offering to get into vehicles I'm ok with people talking to my kid. It gives her practice for being polite and having a conversation. You're doing parents a favor!

@joelgonzales8342

6 жыл бұрын

I come from the Stranger Danger! days, where we were taught to NEVER talk to stranger . I think it screwed alot of us up.

I'm the only one who's socially akward both with kids and adults?? Kids are really terrifying

I'm a socially awkward person and i get along with kids way better. They don't judge, they ask bright questions. Adults are harder task.

Understanding age groups might be a good start to being able to communicate effectively with people

I'm amazing with kids it's adults that are hard to get on with because they are so judgemental and selfish

It's rather easy to have a pleasent time with a kid. All one has to do is to be willing to play and to pay attention.

I actually feel like its way easier talking to kids vs talking to adults, I just ask them about cartoons or video games

For some socially awkward people, getting along with children is much easier than socializing with other adults.

Thanks for Spanish subtitles. From a Brazilian guy.

I listen to The School of Life every time I can't go to sleep. Shit cures my insomnia real quick.

I love talking to kids and strangers of all ages. Being curious and pure-hearted make unfamiliar interactions an adventure.

The way to social with all children is to hold them upside down.

I hate kids, therefore my social skills are lacking. That's actually quite true.

@kyber452

3 жыл бұрын

I've hated kids since I was a kid.

OMG I noticed that people who are good with kids often aren't good with socializing with adults

@firstlast2594

5 жыл бұрын

This does not apply to everyone though :)

@MrCmon113

5 жыл бұрын

And vice versa. The two things are almost orthogonal.

@YUNGDEE214972

4 жыл бұрын

Me

@UFO_808

4 жыл бұрын

Ain't true

The guys smile when the kid asked him to draw something for him made my day

That's because Socrates and Henri IV were in well terms with their inner child. The guy at the house of his boss, waiting for him, and taking care of his children is already in a position of vulnerability and boredom, if he could choose, at least in my opinion, he would prefer to be anywhere else. It'll be much more difficult to get well with children in this situation, than if you feel like a King, or if people listen to you, and you do what you love, as Socrates. I'm a kindergarten male teacher, and my job became excruciatingly difficult and forced, when my dating life was dry as a desert, and I was only receiving rejection from women, in China. My inner child was hurt and frustrated, and although I am a good man, and good with children, as I have no way to express my masculinity and sexuality, I felt it like I had no balance. it was a challenge everyday, I started to dislike children also.

26 packets of biscuits and go to bed when I want... that gives me an idea *pauses video* I'll finish this later *goes off to buy biscuits*

@theschooloflifetv

6 жыл бұрын

That made us laugh.

What if your a kid?

@headhusky5707

6 жыл бұрын

Then do it with an adult

@paperboy9310

6 жыл бұрын

You're*

@jonathanmurguia812

6 жыл бұрын

silver oh God 😂😂

@dylankim1984

6 жыл бұрын

Sol Dalaris you're*, ok are we buddies now?

@eba56

6 жыл бұрын

All Things Otaku I would say you're pretty smart going to this channel instead of watching those gaming channels....

Idk why but this video somehow gives me that warm happy feeling

The real challenge is not ending in court after you have succeeded

Contrary to this i actually find interaction with kids to be incredibly easy. Easier than dealing with most adults. The reasoning i often give is (bare with me here) kids are...not smarter but... less stupid? Children are ignorant of most information but the difference is- they can be introduced to new information pretty easily. As long as you remember to start from the beginning and don't assume they already have foundation knowledge. Meanwhile, the average adult honestly seems to be equally ignorant *but* in place of a willingness to learn about the world, they already *have* their own delusions and are frustratingly unwilling to learn due to arrogance. Or maybe even an unwillingness to *appear* ignorant and admit vulnerability? You have to unentrench them from *prior* biases (which is laughably impossible) before you can even start attempting to introduce them to almost any idea at all.

I'm very good with kids but horrible with adults

One shouldn't project one's insecurities onto the rest of us. When faced with unfamiliar children rejoice that you can be yourself in front of them without them sizing you up and estimating who you are and what you're thinking..

Enlightening! ! Totally enlightening!! Have already messed up valued prior relationships!! Will massively apply this info to my future relationships!!

Pfft the ultimate test is maintaining a conversation with a dentist.

@Light-cy1gp

4 жыл бұрын

hahahah

@anna.318

4 жыл бұрын

That's impossible? How tf do you talk with your mouth wide open😂 I think you meant your hair stylist

"The greatest ethical test we're ever going to face, is how we treat those who are at our mercy" - Lyn White

I watched this child play today because his dad was trying to have a business meeting at a coffee shop and it was really nice because I was able to balance multiple things at once while having fun because I am a normal person and I meditate ! ! !

Thank you so much, I’m not sure what were the purpose behind of many people are trying to make me happy, I’m truly happy right, I never got this much attention in the past, now I got attentions from people i never thought I would never have chance to talk to. I do know I’m having a lot of privilege right now for receiving a lot of learning resources(expensively), which otherwise had to spend a lot of time to find by myself in the past. You don’t have to pay that much attention on me, I can be better myself, I promise. I’m start having feelings of using you guys, it’s not a good thing, I should help myself.

When I'm around kids I let my inner kids self be out

4:40 Wtf

@UFO_808

4 жыл бұрын

Hhhahhahahahahhhha

What a beautiful video. Emotionnal honesty works with kids, in my experience.

I’m very much aware of how terrible my social skills are. It sucks. I admire those who have mastered these skills because I lack them so much.

Personally, I find children a lot easier to get along with than adults. Just buy them an icecream or hold them upside down by their ankles and they'll love you forever. :p

why cartoon version of henry VI looks like penius?

@luizdosanjos425

6 жыл бұрын

fresh liberty Penius and Perv

@vaimast

5 жыл бұрын

because you are a pervert jaja

@canonballXD

5 жыл бұрын

PINGAS

Honestly, you guys are amazing.

Some kids are amazing at starting conversations. When I feel nervous and can't think about anything to talk with the kids they say something that'll help. I love kids I wish adults were as understanding as them.

The cartoon was so cute:)

Children are horrifying

@htoodoh5770

6 жыл бұрын

NEH aka Thatonekidwholikesmetal You were a child before so you should have already understand why children act the way they do.

@htoodoh5770

6 жыл бұрын

Danny Cyr You were a child before so are you horrifying?

@nicholaso.1502

6 жыл бұрын

Danny Cyr Thanks! Us 10 year olds like throwing some cringe out to everyone.

@sheepish2159

6 жыл бұрын

Htoo Doh I'll be a corpse some day. That doesn't mean I should want to spend time in a morgue.

@emilyshmelimy

6 жыл бұрын

Htoo Doh I'm an adult and there are times when I don't understand why other adults do the things they do. So it seems strange to me to think that an adult would just know why children behave the way they do.

I have severe social anxiety and make plenty of adults uncomfortable, but children LOVE ME! Random kids run up to me in public a lot...and at work (emergency room), sometimes children will hug me after I help them (I'm only a nurse assistant...I don't do much to help directly...) and say "you're a very friendly boy" (I'm 27 but they say boy not man 😂) and even kids who can't speak English say "doccor...you doccor" "ha I'm not a doctor!" "Hehe yes you doccor! And funny! You funny! Hehe"

Oh myyyy gawwwwddd ... Thanks for making this video and thanks for this channel ! I am supper bad with kids. U leave a kid with me and I will never start a conversation. I freeze with kids, zero skills. And I'm pretty bad with adult socializing too, not bad I am worst!! But this video helped me a lot. Thanks a ton... Thanks a ton... Thanks a ton!!!! Love love love... ♥️❣️♥️❣️♥️❣️♥️

Hmm, for me it's the other way around. I'm very relaxed around kids because I don't give a rat's ass about what they think of me, unlike with adults where I'm constantly trying to please and afraid of embarassing myself

The only reason it’s awkward to relate to kids is because interacting with them makes other adults think your a child molester. It’s sad but it’s not worth the risk.

I had an uncle moment yesterday; when I was pushing my almost 3 year old nephew on his balance bike and push car after. He randomly gave me a hug 20 minutes after. My mom and I were surprised. My Mom told my sister (his mother) "He (meaning me) doesn't get much hugs." Then my mom tried to play off what she said; but it was too late. Lol it was a roller coaster moment full emotions.

I need to watch the video twice. Once for watching the story in the screen and then for listening.

my social skills is zero

It depends how old they are, toddlers are like little aliens. Slightly older ones are more fun

Lovely film. So much to think about and relate to, as a mom without many people around me who understand people raising children. Works the other way too, I think.

I agree with this video. I know my social tendencies; I have behaviours that I know aren't completely typical ("aloof" eg. reduced eye contact, an oddly formal manner of speech) but I am comfortable with myself. Some people do find it awkward or talk down to me but most people seem to eventually come around because adults are mostly reasonable people. They understand that it's just my way of speaking. Apart from the most spontaneous of social situations with the most unfamiliar people, I feel and do fine especially when discussing ideas. That's because I just try to reason out what the conversation should be, what the other person means, and how to respond, and through my speech and body language I convey my sincerity in my own way. Kids on the other hand require a level of "feeling the room" and "going with the flow" that I simply am not capable of. It's an open-ended situation that really requires getting into their minds and understanding their priorities, and then taking some off-the-cuff risks in communicating. I can't do it. I try, but I'm just told I'm "not very fun". Which, to be honest, in the sense of spontaneity, is probably true. It's alright though, communication is always a learning process!