You know how you know you whooped their ass? They go away.

@user-uu4ug4lq1c

Ай бұрын

❤

No contact is the best way to go!

@margaretlumley1648

4 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree 👍

@LulusMom1961

4 ай бұрын

Agreed. No contact, and I now live five states away. It's the only way.

@michaelmcgee335

4 ай бұрын

Yep. Life’s to short for revenge. Best just to enjoy yourself away from toxicity.

Revenge might be fun but the best way to live is cutting off all contact. You need to live your own life.

There are times when a victim has no choice but to go no contact and assassinate the pillars at the same time. After the narc/psychopath dropped my hand while ascending a vertical cliff on a hike to a waterfall, I knew that my life was at risk. Had my reaction time not been what it was and had there not been the root of a tree I could grab, I would not be writing this. After the incident, he did nothing to help me as I crawled over the face of the rock and stood dumbfounded that I stopped the fall. He denied the incident took place and began a pre-emptive smear campaign disparaging my mental health, and warning of my propensity for story-teling. As Julian Hawthorne wrote in his review of the Scarlett Letter in the 1886 edition of the Atlantic, "the murderer's blow tells us nothing of his character, but in his remorse of exultation over his deed, his crime is known to us. I filed a complaint with the police, with his employer, and notified many of his friends and while I may not have toppled all the pillars, I do know that he was held to account for his behaviours.

The nice thing is that all you have to do to hurt them is live your life.

When the narcissistic person still has access to your bank account, change the account as soon as possible!

@user-ym3xf6xp4c

4 ай бұрын

Yes. My ex.s new narc girlfriend...who went after my assets was using this to access my a.c online. I had to get him to sign a bank statement agreeing to keeping my own a.c with my own money in it. It was all my money. She'd spent his for years on hotels fancy meals etc...then wanted mine. 38 yrs of hard slots worth.

This idea that everyone wants to see the narcissist suffer is wrong, we just want the narcissist to leaves alone.... Even when they do, we are constantly on alert mode, wating for whats next. Unfortunately its impossible to go no contact when you're co parenting, so the only choice left is to constantly wound the narcissist even when, in my view, isn't fair. Perpetual repetition of the trauma the narcissist went trough as a child, to keep him/her at maximum distance.

6 months away to end emotional thinking is waaaay too little. Took me 3 years.

I’m a month of total no contact and I was wondering why I was still having so many waves of emotions and hearing HG say a minimum of 6 months gives me some reassurance that isn’t uncommon

I don’t get getting revenge, isn’t simply disengaging the way to go.

When dealing with narcs the best revenge is simply going no contact. Seeking revenge changes a person and not for the better. I started playing the tit for tat game and quickly realized what a waste of time that was but also realized how I loved watching him get upset. That couldn’t continue.

To me it was not a good feeling to see him fall apart, but it was the only way to survive and to get rid of him. I used his own weapons against him. He didn't know who I am and who I was during the whole length of our relationship. During his preventstive hoover attempt I could see his thoughts seeking for an explanation and a way to regain control. In fact he never really had it and when he recognized that he was literally down on the floor. I played his game and enjoyed the golden period, always aware that one day the devaluation would begin. And it did. I would see the narcissism crystal clear and I lashed out against him. Every single of his manipulation turned 180 immidiatley. He went cowardly away whining complaining begging for friendship but why would I give him anything? He thought he had me in his fog and could use me for the rest of his life but he was wrong. This was revenge, not for me but for justice him having broken several women before. He is a mean man and deserved it though I did it in a calm calculated way. Since he doesnt know that he is a narcissist (according to the categorie mid-range) he wouldnt understand what was happening an why I could be cold as ice towards him. He should have listended. I was married to a narc before and studied this creatures for years before met him. But in his eyes i was supposed to be a naiv kind object. He was wrong.

@nodaysoff7225

3 ай бұрын

👍👍💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎

Going no contact was easier for me than i predicted....staying no contact is what posed as the difficult aspect.

We are the power, thank you mr Tudor

Thank you again HG! I was contemplating reveling in his demise right now and humiliating him. Thank god I’ve watched you for so long and instinctively restrained myself. I needed this message today.

Assassin revenge…. I do love your mind ❤

No contact revenge 👏👏👏👏

Yep, couldn’t care less now, 7 years absolutely no contact despite several covert hoovering attempts. It is obviously irking him as he has started appearing in various places I happen to be, the store or on the very remote road where I live , even though we live miles apart in different towns, I refuse to even look at him let alone acknowledge his existence.

@14:15 - Jam Tomorrow - I helped out a new neighbour whom I quickly realised was utterly toxic. She thought she would enslave me. After being typically generous and patient with her, I heard whisperings of the smear campaign she was already planting against me. I withdrew all attention completely. Her retaliatory rage has been relentless - vicious slanders she even tried to drag police into, traps, baits, provocations etc. Hundredes of them over the past five-plus years. Research has informed me that no matter how I handled her, the attacks were inevitable as narcs crave the drama, chaos, conflict and division as a stage where they will either play the hero or the victim, projecting their evil onto their target to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions and attempting to demonise and isolate the target. Revenge is Silence and No Contact. It's the dignified way to go, and rest assured the narc will reveal itself sooner or later. Even such an expert cannot tie its gigantic web of lies together cohesively and things will fall apart.

I use child support enforcement agency to periodically throw him in jail even knowing I’ll never see my $30,000. No contact for almost 15 years 😂

@HaileyDelaine

4 ай бұрын

I’m about to start this. He’s such a pretty boy male tow I don’t think he’d enjoy jail much.

@nicolewright5342

4 ай бұрын

@@HaileyDelaine It’s a way to do it from afar. Wishing you all the best the universe and your child/ren deserve!! 💕💕💕

@user-ym3xf6xp4c

4 ай бұрын

One of the most harmful periods in my life was when my mother had my father imprisoned for 6 weeks for nonpayment of maintenance. She did it out of spite. My poor father had no money. He was very poor we were so hungry. I lived with him. My sister with her. My mother had dble his income. He had asthma and almost died in prison as the police left his inhaler behind. Think of the children. I think my last sympathy for my mother died that day. Both my parents were very self.centred. but my dad...probably the true narc. Was the stable parent. Children suffer the most.

@HGCUPCAKES

4 ай бұрын

No contact and you’re having him thrown in jail? Few more videos from HG may be needed.

@nicolewright5342

4 ай бұрын

@@HGCUPCAKES He goes to jail because he’s breaking the law 😆

Beautifully delivered.

Revenge, what a word.......

@christinebrument6851

4 ай бұрын

Best served cold....and that's so true

@davidarundel6187

4 ай бұрын

Preferably on some one else's china . ​@@christinebrument6851

Jam tomorrow starring HG Tudor as the narcissist psychopath version of Cyrano de Bergerac. ♥️ 😂

Certainly wanted revenge in, shall we say a permanent sense. Most don't seem to be aware that what they are doing is wrong so not much point in doing life over it. Just go no contact.

💫 The bitter sweet taste of revenge. Yeah, I think I’ll pass.😎💫

So tempted to hire you 😂

@HaileyDelaine

4 ай бұрын

I’m glad I’m not the only one who had this thought. 😅

@miriam3730

4 ай бұрын

If I’d had money I’d have done it I think

Before I came across your work HG, I was subjected to never ending hooves, but that year (2021), he had no limits ( my ex), I was homeless for small periods of time, tried to commit suicide and spent 2 weeks in coma, slept overnight in jail base on crime that he orchestrated, and very little help available because of COVID. However, after I found a place to live, he had the audacity to find me and said “ I have my girl back and wisps in my ear that he wants to have sex with me”- I thought; where is the sick bucket? Anyway, he did offered me $5000, I knew that he was “ buying “ me ( hoover), but I give him the HOPE- as you call it- the false mistress, she always disappointing, I had no decency and honesty for this man, and I thought I’ll take the money for my pain and suffering, and I did. Than I involved police to stop him coming near me. He also got charged with power abuse against me and I got protection order against him. Yes, I can be a bloody bitch!

@amyemerson

4 ай бұрын

I am really happy you found your way here. 💕 Protective orders are massively helpful.

@ivanaveltmeyer6373

4 ай бұрын

Oh,thank you! I just wish I came across HG’s work years ago, my escape would not be so bumpy ride.

@amyemerson

4 ай бұрын

@@ivanaveltmeyer6373 Yeah…it may have been less bumpy, but you walk away from the inferno-well-learned. You found HG, left him, remained here 😉, and will likely, never repeat. ❤️

@HGCUPCAKES

4 ай бұрын

@@ivanaveltmeyer6373now you know the signs to look out for for everyday life now ❤

Right. 6 month no contact- check. Emotional distance- check. Bought a tripod- check. Cold, distant and logical- check. All ready to start being an assassin- excellent! I am looking forward to this. Might just get the book revenge first then.

“the technical term” 😆😂

I got sweet revenge on my narc bf, I finally exited his fuel matrix and married a wealthy physician.

@brubakerman8717

3 ай бұрын

Do you still love your ex narc ?

@KEPSAGAMER

3 ай бұрын

@@brubakerman8717 a better question is can you love someone you never even knew? the narc is never real.... it's a false persona just like the one you put on at work. once you figure that out you become freed. there's still trauma, but dealing with it (not coping, but solving and healing) is then a lot easier.

@brubakerman8717

3 ай бұрын

@KEPSAGAMER You will know when you're over your narc because you won't want revenge. You won't even waste energy thinking about them. Took me approx a year. Complete no contact, delete social media, change number, don't frequent where they go and time will heal. I caused significant injuries to my ex narc on two occasions. It was HG Tudor that allowed me to understand them better and heal. I was trauma bonded to some extent.

Did the no contact she had the audacity to reach out had to totally shame n disgrace her.15 yrs compiled facts.😊

Mr Tudor is a Judas to his own people 🤣🤣🤣 he has crossed over to work for the other team against the narcissist. For his own financial gain. 😝 This is a true narcissist. But I still thank him for his contribution - it’s hugely important.

No contact is best ….❤

The Assassin material isn’t quite what it’s sold as here. It’s an entertaining read, but only someone of power and influence of some kind could actually execute it. Someone in this position already has ways to humiliate the narcissist.

@annetallegrand5656

3 ай бұрын

What is it?

@BrekMartin

3 ай бұрын

@@annetallegrand5656A pdf for sale in his store.

@BrekMartin

3 ай бұрын

@@annetallegrand5656A pdf you can buy from his store.

I so love your content. I’m learning a lot. Thank you for what you bring to us that helps us to protect ourselves.

Wow! Just, wow! HG, Thank you.

This is brilliant HG❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Revenge is for us not them. Its all about us feeling vindicated.

@truthseeker_phoenix

4 ай бұрын

Revenge is definitely for us. Though believe me the higher powers that see everything will make this clown fall on their face. Losing us and losing access to us is one of the biggest blows. They will be searching for that supply all their lives and becoming more and more annoyed by everyone that isn’t you. Ha. We will ALWAYS have the last laugh because we have more important things to do with our lives than wake up and wonder how to manipulate someone. The very fact they need another person means they will always be unhappy.

@Jeanninecomeau

4 ай бұрын

@@truthseeker_phoenix Bravo! I agree. Their karma is losing us, but if a chance for revenge presents itself, slow and steady....even if you play the game for a few months. The way to win with revenge is through deception.

@uva3088

3 ай бұрын

@@Jeanninecomeau The longer you wait, the better! Revenge is a dish best served cold as the saying goes. WIth time, they don't know who to pin it on. Let them stew and brew with absolutely no clue!!!

@Jeanninecomeau

3 ай бұрын

@@uva3088 Exactly. The longer you wait, the more they think all is forgotten. Haha! It really catches them off guard. I've never been able to move on so well. Haha!

@uva3088

3 ай бұрын

@@Jeanninecomeau Love it! Amen!

Please explain more about the assassin revenge. How does one go about knocking down the pillars?

Just hide their mirrors! 😏

HG❤ you are amazing 👏👏👏

Marvellous videos 👏👏👏👏

Very informative. Thank you.

Just the I played it.😀Thanks teacher 😅😊

Extremely informative interesting Thank you HG.

This is realtime videos.😊

Great sales pitch Mr. Tudor lol

Revenge isnt necessary for survival.

@martyc2637

4 ай бұрын

But it is sweet. Do not f with me and think you will get away with it.

Wowwwww great 👍

Thanks

Interesting...

So tempting 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Applied this method n 'murder he wrote " 😊

HG, I have been eagerly awaiting your follow up video to Kim Zolciak and Kroy Biermann! PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE HG!!!

Not bothering now 👍

HG, can you help me become a war machine?😎 I want to learn how to hit straight in the heart.🤺

Jam … tomorrow 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤😂😂😂

Yes teacher 😊😂

You omit consideration of the deranged narcissist who slanders you and lies about you to once mutual friends and acquaintances.

I get my food stamps tomorrow🎉I'll be walking to 711 to grab a snack so i can listen too more 🎦.. anyone want anything? Any request? 🍿 🍬 🍵?

@Ailin758

4 ай бұрын

Yes Please! A bag of Revenge!! Wtf?

@Ailin758

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Retaliation means resentment. Resentment only hurts the soul of the person who feels it. I like the disappearance act: The Sandwich Islands require people!

@tracyroose750

4 ай бұрын

Totally agree with you. Went no contact in 2017 and in doing so lost three family members. Oh well, the matrinarc poisoned them against me. I am now free to be my imperfect, quirky, boring self. I know what it feels like to be joyful and happy without nagging thoughts looming in the back of my mind. The matrinarc has passed away; I hope her soul is finally at peace. As for the "lost" family members, when they cross my mind, I wish them well. Take care.

@GregorySamsa930

4 ай бұрын

@@tracyroose750 I write but not for glory. I think, I write for people who had suffered. One day I will send you a poem called: Parents. A hint: The last verse reads: "Until one day.... they are the ones who transform us into orphans."

After 8 years, he messaged me, wanting sex behind his girlfriends back. The very same woman he left me for having left me in complete financial armageddon. I haven't financially recovered and likely won't. Should I let his girlfriend see the messages?

I'm not after revenge at all! - skip! :)

Yo! HG. This is a repost of your earlier works! No hate! I regularly revisit some of them- just wanna🤘🏻‼️

@WildWillyWow

4 ай бұрын

Also, wouldn’t the possibility of exposure be one of the most devastating consequences to the narcissist!?

Live Fae or Die💕🧚‍♀️💕🧚‍♀️🍄⚜️

Which platforms who are teaching people about narcissism claiming to be victims are actually narcissists??

@BrekMartin

4 ай бұрын

The royal we I think is one. Pure attention seeking of the author.

@RationalNon-conformist

4 ай бұрын

Great question.. I’m curious about this too.

@swinginga2136

4 ай бұрын

I’d say most of them.

@amyemerson

4 ай бұрын

Or, there are those who have only dated a narcissist. While they can explain how victims feel and have been treated (with limitations because they do not provide school and subschools: some narcs present with a confluence grandiose, covert…or all of the above depending upon situation) but they have no real understanding as to why the narcissist behaves (usually seen through the lens of an Empath and its incorrect) and how the victim needs to be directed and the reasons as to why. Also, these people have no real understanding of having a child with a narcissist, raising a child of a parental narcissist, an adult of a parental narcissist, married to a narcissist, etc etc etc They are limited to having only experienced a narcissist through dating. There is a completely lack of knowledge of the narcissist dynamic and fuel matrix. Very carte blanche approach and usually incorrect information.

@BrekMartin

4 ай бұрын

@@amyemersonThat depends on their awareness. The person who is ensnared by a narcissist isn’t without deficit. They have weak boundaries typical of traumatic past, lack identity and are hiding who they are just as often as the narcissist. Wake up to that due to an experience with a narcissist, and understand a lot of their experience through those traits of your own.

To get revenge on a narcissist you have to aim high. What did you like about him? His beauty, his physique, his hair, his voice, his arrogance, his violence, his charisma, his comedy, his muscles, his money, his car, his house, his friends, his penis... Look for someone better than him and try not to burn everything this time (no, it wasn't all your fault, there's no doubt about that). If you don't do this, you will get the narcissist disguised as an artichoke who is actually a cabbage, who will be helpful and condescending in everything but who in the meantime is cheating on you with your best friend, mother, sister-in-law, sister, neighbor, your the postman, the butler, the waitress, the teacher, the dog trainer, the painter, the boiler technician, the plumber...ugh the list is long, I have to say he's not lazy. (All my own work, thanks for the applause)

Tony soprano revenge is the only true way. Unfortunately it is illegal. Skirting close to that line to get it is so sweet. I find no contact after you have been discarded is ridiculous. If you think no contact is revenge from what they consider a throw away piece of trash you are delusional.

@Jeanninecomeau

4 ай бұрын

The only way to do it is to be happy, show off your food life...a little and when they come hoovering back after getting sick of the new supply during the re idolization, go slow and steady. Even for a few months, then tell them to fuck off and block them. Totally gets them F off guard and when they're very interested in you again.

@martyc2637

4 ай бұрын

@@Jeanninecomeau They discarded you. They do not care about your good life. When their new supply ends the last thing they would do is give the trash they threw away the satisfaction that they want them again.

@Jeanninecomeau

4 ай бұрын

@@martyc2637 I discarded him though. Then he went off with the other woman.

@Jeanninecomeau

4 ай бұрын

@@martyc2637 What you don't understand, is they are interested in what you have, what you can do for them. They're like robots. You are putting too much human emotion in it.

@martyc2637

4 ай бұрын

@@Jeanninecomeau No disrespect but I do not know what Narcs you and others are dealing with. Even if the new supply does not work out my narc would never hoover. This breaks the golden rule that they are never wrong. She would rather be alone than to go back to discarded trash.

Don't think so . Applied all that I learned through all my life.Fuck the narc.😊