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@kro0018

4 ай бұрын

The intellectual masturbation!! Lady ! Technology allows us access to more types of treatments. Humans enjoy treatments. That's it. 🙄 Urghhh

In a weird way, the more inhuman and unrealistic the beauty standard becomes the less i feel pressured by it, now its more like a sad joke, it honestly makes me happy to embrace my insecurities because that is true confidence.

@vegasgirl3538

Жыл бұрын

Well said. Even the people who can afford all these procedures are still filtering and photoshopping their pictures, so what does that tell us? Chasing an impossible standard is like running on a hamster wheel. You exhaust yourself and get nowhere.

@Badmanpuntbaxter

Жыл бұрын

I had the same thing after someone explained to me how many fitness influencers were just straight up using PEDs. I think I just had the realization that I'll never be sure if someone's body was truly natty or just another science project so I was like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ at least ik I'm natty, regardless if that means I got a little tummy

@tracy_cakkes

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same way It’s so ridiculous now with social media It’s so unrealistic I don’t even pay it any attention anymore

@Ambermarie13

Жыл бұрын

yup!! beauty standards hardly affect me anymore because i’m just over the ridiculousness of it all

@ClaireGrimes11

4 ай бұрын

same!!!

"aging is a privilege, and not one that's afforded to everyone" hit home.

@shivangirathour5

2 жыл бұрын

one of the best lines I have come across .

@Laotzu.Goldbug

Жыл бұрын

Aging is a privilege that everyone in the modern world enjoys to a greater extent than even the richest person 200 years ago. Aging _healthfully_ is something that modernity has absolutely annihilated.

@thatoldcrow

4 ай бұрын

yes!!

When this topic comes up, developing body dysmorphia is always mentioned. But what about how these things are changing our perception of others? Have we created a sort of “beauty inflation” where now we consider fewer real life people passing on the street to be attractive? Are those people that are looking for an attractive mate finding plenty of matches online, yet nobody they would look twice at in the grocery store? I haven’t been able to find any articles online about the topic unfortunately

@ashleyrogers1930

2 жыл бұрын

You should write one. You have the idea, go for it.

@pisceanbeauty2503

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t know if people are genuinely less attracted to who they see on the street, but I think we tend to think nowadays there’s “something better out there” and sometimes turn down people who in a different generation may have been viewed as perfectly acceptable partners.

@MA-zg2pz

2 жыл бұрын

Idk I don’t actually know who has had Botox or other procedures and who hasn’t. So to me, I can’t really say which people I’m prioritizing or not. There are obvious lip fillers but most people go after a natural look where I am. And I don’t know until they tell me. I just think “wow look at all these naturally youthful glowing people”. But I am in a larger city.

@wl9162

2 жыл бұрын

I would say that it absolutely changes how you view others -- like, it would literally be impossible for it not to, a person would have to live in a cave. As a bit of an anecdote, both myself and a friend of mine were kids in the early 2000s, and when we've rewatched, like, a movie from that period of time, or even from the early 2010s, we've noticed that the people who were considered stunningly beautiful even that recently would genuinely not pass a lot of tiktok's "are you pretty/symmetrical/pass the algorithm" trends, lmao it's exhausting... I developed p severe facial dysmorphia as a result of these sorts of things (it sneaks up on you without even realizing it) but even more than that, like you suggested, I was essentially becoming a monster in how I viewed other people's faces as well. Chelsea is doing sacred work just by being honest lol

@ariesmry

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve seen a few videos explore this, but I dont think I’ve seen it phrased as “beauty inflation.” I like it. I do think that there are individuals who consume a lot of social media content and *perceive that they have access* to larger pool of attractive options, but that perception does not reflect their experiences either in the real world nor on dating apps. Like this perceived pool are not actual options, just perceived options. I hypothesize that those who are constantly online and pretty isolated from their physical community or with little dating experience are probably the most impacted. I think the generations that grew up online will have a lot more difficulties dating.

I once met a girl with Instagram face and I’m gonna tell ya, the face looks REALLY WEIRD in person. This girl’s lips looked like they were trying to escape her face. It’s really a look that only works in photos.

@saltycrunch

2 жыл бұрын

And even in photos there can be quite the Uncanny Valley effect. So often they just don't look like real human faces.

@meaghanorlinski8464

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of models are like that. Even before Instagram, I worked at bit in the fashion industry when I was young, and a lot of what translates beautifully on camera looks a bit awkward if not outright "ugly" in person. But some makeup, runway lights and a Camera, and a gangly teen turns into an unusually attractive and interesting model you cant help stares at....

@DefineMorena

2 жыл бұрын

😮

@ariesmry

2 жыл бұрын

Kylie Jenner is like this to me. Seeing her in photos vs on video showed me that cosmetic changes made for 2d looks odd in 3d (not to mention that most people still “touch-up” their photos even after cosmetic changes)

@starsatnightsparkle1318

2 жыл бұрын

True, seeing them in real life ....well it looks weird plus their face doesn't move properly. I had a friend who had botox which looked amazing.

Growing up, I always thought that my mother's huge, k-drama-worthy eyes were natural. Because I look exactly like the old pictures of her as a teenager, I thought that as I grew older, my eyes would naturally widen like hers. Throughout my teenage years, I wondered when that was going to happen, because my eyes were still on the smaller side, as East Asian eyes tend to be. Imagine my surprise when I learned during college that she'd gotten plastic surgery to change her eye shape! (After a comment she made, funnily enough, bragging about how she had NEVER gotten plastic surgery; all she'd ever had done was a little bit of work done on her eyes!) I was so unexpectedly relieved that I looked exactly the way I'm supposed to look, and so stunned by what she said, that I bursted out laughing! Today, I like the face I have. I think it's pretty. And as someone who left South Korea at a very young age, I feel like my face is a very precious link I have connecting me to my family and everyone who came before me.

@saschamayer4050

2 жыл бұрын

I had never thought about what plastic surgery might do to the psyche of our kids. Well, that's a little bit unfair to them, especially if you don't talk to them about it. How are kids, especially teenagers, supposed to develop normal confidence and a normal body image, if we essentially lie to them about our looks? 🤷‍♂️

@Pomagranite167

2 жыл бұрын

Not even that. How the hell do u tell your child they are beautiful even tho they wear the features u hated so much about yourself? U cant preach "be yourself" to your children when you are actively trying to augement yourself.

@jaspiejams

2 жыл бұрын

Lol my mom said something similar to me recently: "achieve my natural beauty" when she has had a chin procedure, cheek filler, and undereye reduction.

@holigatis7588

2 жыл бұрын

I know a lot of people that say, "I haven't gotten anything done, just my nose and my lips" 🤦🏻‍♀️

@lilacrose5266

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. The last sentence you wrote is so beautiful

What's frustrating about this is, as a poor person, we literally can't afford to look acceptable. When extreme, sculpted beauty is the norm, instead of the ideal, then everyone normal becomes ugly, and that fucks with job prospects and shit.

@thatoldcrow

4 ай бұрын

it’s like that one family guy episode where meg is “hot”, but then the others are informed actually she’s ugly compared to everyone else for the times (i think it was supposed to b like set in the future or something lol)

@lostusaslambus

3 ай бұрын

"Acceptable"? As in, only "perfectly on brand" is even okay? Yikes.

@toomanymarketers

2 ай бұрын

We just have to be more creative to look hot… it can easily be done, even on a small budget. It’s having style vs. looking on-trend. In my opinion, it’s better looking to do your own thing. These IG clones look like clowns imo

@moremiaj4786

2 ай бұрын

@@toomanymarketers I agree 100%. The first time I saw someone with fillers, botox and basically a face-lift, I jumped up and away from her in fright.... it was so frightening. She looked like the clown from that horror movie with the target circles on its cheek. But well dressed, clean normal people, look way better.

I don't use filters on my photos because I'm worried about warping my own perception of myself when I look in the mirror

@Bellaa4578

4 ай бұрын

Honestly , I feel like I look crazy with filters on. Too much makeup or weird shapes on my face. Lol Uncanny valley makes me scream!

@adilabadri1608

3 ай бұрын

Yes exactly! I won't even wear false lashes cuz I'm afraid I'll think my normal eyelashes aren't "long" enough

@vacafuega

2 ай бұрын

Yes!! I'm so glad you posted this because i feel like i can't explain to people why I'm actually scared of filters - because they have the power to make my own face look alien to me. Isn't that so messed up? I can't wait for the counter culture movement to really kick in.

@neen319

Ай бұрын

That’s exactly why I don’t use them as well

It's weird to live in a world where body positivity and radical self-acceptance are trumpeted at us, while at the same time living in a world where people of privilege are able to toss all that to the curb and pretend to be real while being almost entirely fake. It's a real mind f.

@marep5597

2 жыл бұрын

Mind-bending hypocrisy. Talk of ‘authenticity’ by anyone in the public eye is a joke. Who believes that sh*t?

@kokokrunchification

2 жыл бұрын

The “body positivity”, “wokeness” and “self acceptance” you see are purely marketing terms to sell stuff to a wider audience, that’s it. It’s all fake. Capitalism will find a way to market anything.

@majlordag1889

2 жыл бұрын

the new generation is extremely hypocritical in that sense, especially the average woman (in my experience, maybe men are too I just haven't experienced it as much personally..) they really will do so much virtue signalling but then some trend come along and they'll throw you under the bus in an instant if you don't have the genetic phenotypes or plastic surgery/filler substitute that social media calls beautiful

@thenaturalherbalista9492

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to planned net earth

I'm a nurse and I've seen literally 1000s of naked bodies from all angles and of varying ages and types in my career. They are all beautiful, don't let instagram tell you otherwise. The soul is what makes a person beautiful.

@dominicabollig1918

2 жыл бұрын

My time in Healthcare really helped me to understand natural bodies, and I felt so much better about mine being natural.

@proudatheist2042

2 жыл бұрын

We're all of those bodies healthy though? Or did being overweight or obese cause or contribute to health issues? You can have your own opinions. I do not think think that every other person on the planet is attractive. Not everyone in this planet is going to think I am attractive. That's how life works.

@dominicabollig1918

2 жыл бұрын

@@proudatheist2042 I worked mostly ER- all types of bodies there, including a few beautiful ppl. I just always thought if I wasn't a size 4, then I couldn't be attractive. I saw so many different sizes and shapes- I gained a real respect for the human anatomy. I think that is what helped me change my perspective on what is natural and attractive.

@ExiledStardust

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but we're either treated well by others or immediately rejected and despised on the basis of our appearance and not our "souls."

@al.the.

2 жыл бұрын

@@ExiledStardust and that's something we should work to change

Let’s not forget how vicious internet is towards women who are looking their age. The most vicious comments on “just like that” were about the women looking old. They are 55 in the show but how dare they actually look like women in their mid 50s.

@KatLovin

Жыл бұрын

So true! This is why I am so annoyed by how “aging well” is moralized. I will not applaud someone for looking younger than they are because looking your age or even a little older isn’t a crime. Some people win the genetic lottery and/or live healthy lifestyles but in reality, the best way to “age well” is to be wealthy.

I would HIGHLY suggest watching Lorry Hill if you're interested in not only cost breakdowns of (alleged) celebrity plastic surgeries as well as her OWN experience with procedures (face-lifts, nose jobs etc.) Because the cost of surgery is not just financial! These procedures have serious medical risks and serious recovery times.

@ZaynabAAli

2 жыл бұрын

I was actually introduced to her through this channel and am now a subscriber.

@balilakes

2 жыл бұрын

Lorry Hill is on of my favorite creators

@LorryHill

2 жыл бұрын

@oana gabriela which video was this? Please link with the time stamp

@Jessica-xc6vn

2 жыл бұрын

@oana gabriela Um, no, she would never say this.

@coachkrish

2 жыл бұрын

Lorry would be a great guest for financial confessions! Her price breakdowns provide a helpful standard for comparison given the number of medical practice doing scammy discounted treatments.

Growing up in the late 90s and early 00s, I was often warned of airbrushing and not to compare myself to magazines. The biggest difference now is that everyone now has access to those tools, so we think that's what we really are supposed to look like.

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

🆙ʜɪᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛsᴀᴘᴘ..🆙..

@ritarosa6824

2 жыл бұрын

I still feel that era was worse than nowdays...I was young but all those women that were aging and had to watch the celebrities the same age all brushed up. Sometimes even against the celebrity own will! At least now there is more information on how the industry and all this works!

@KatLovin

Жыл бұрын

Yes! I have been saying this forever. Don’t get me wrong, growing up in that era was tough for body image but I feel like it was easier to be like “people don’t look like that in real life” but now everyone has access to photoshop, filters and beauty standards have gotten even more out of hand.

I’m glad the effect of money is becoming more visible. It’s also nice that the phrase “you’re not ugly, you’re poor” has become well known

Quick side note to the beauty perception/unrealistic standards issue. I work in the film industry. Aside from one glorious exception, I have never met an actor who is as attractive in real life as they are on screen or in photos. Most of the time, they're haggard, emaciated and gaunt. It takes teams of people working on them each day to make them look even close to how the public perceives them. Also, I don't blame them for the highly unrealistic looks they constantly strive for; they are working in an expectations hellscape. I do agree there is a lot more transparency required though. Cosmetic treatments, eating disorders, drugs and over-exercising are rife in film.

@SilvanaLTD

2 жыл бұрын

Now I'm curious who the exception is.

@yeahgirl11

2 жыл бұрын

@@SilvanaLTD Me toow!

@yeahgirl11

2 жыл бұрын

Who's the exception? Lol

@aricarly

2 жыл бұрын

I have a relative who is an Instagram influencer, and in her pictures she looks amazingly gorgeous, she has always been extremely photogenic since she was a baby... anyways, because she has very strong features, she looks odd in real life (like a Tim Burton character), and very washed out without any makeup. Converserly, I have met some people online first, and then in person, who looked average in their pictures, but really pretty in real life.

@elipotter369

2 жыл бұрын

@@aricarly I've noticed that too - it's how the camera works or something - that translation from 3D to 2D just does or doesn't work on some faces.

To every woman who might have children and they have plastic surgery: BE honest with your kids. Like me I blamed my fathers side for years for not looking like my mother when my mother didn't look like my mother. Don't hurt your kids, be an example for them, you don't have to incentive them to have plastic surgery but don't deny it, be honest with them! They wont love you less.

@thatoldcrow

4 ай бұрын

this is so important!! and if you’re kid has features you used to have and got plastic surgery to correct i think it’s very important to be honest about that as well in a healthy way that doesn’t drain your child’s self esteem.

People who say that botox/fillers etc look 'weird' are going by overdone and extreme examples. We all know those people we look at and think woah, lips. Or omg eyelashes, when its completely overdone. Many women have botox and fillers done by well regarded doctors who do such a good job you literally dont notice as the results are subtle. My own family didn't even notice I got fillers, they just said you look well lately or 'you look tired' when I haven't had botox.

@kool2btrue

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, I got some work done at 29 (male, nose and a bit filler), when it is done well, people really can't tell. I've also been asked out on the most dates ever since and had more interest by more conventionally attractive guys (gays) than ever before. So yeah, that's basically the game these days. And once you go through it, you realize a lot of people already had work done. After my procedure I've become specially suspicious of perfectly straight noses. My blinders came off.

@soph4002

2 жыл бұрын

@@kool2btrue Definitely. The human eye takes in the features of a face so quickly, we aren't even conscious of what we find appealing most of the time. Glad to hear you were happy with your results

I’m 26, I already have laugh lines and some forehead wrinkles. I see the signs of my youth fading as my skin begins to reflect the years I’ve spent in the sun, on the soccer field, in the ocean, and from all the laughs I’ve shared with family and friends. These tiny wrinkles are a reminder of the amazing life I have lived, the hard times I have gotten through, and how grateful I am to be aging because that means I’m still alive - and what a lucky thing to be regardless of circumstance. I don’t plan on getting any “work” done, but maybe when I’m in my 60’s I’ll change my mind? 💭💭

@Pomagranite167

2 жыл бұрын

That is also how i've been viewing it. I'm only 24 and still considered conventionally attractive but I am mentally preparing myself for when my face begins to change and age. Aging is a privilege, and to live a long and healthy life is more important to me than being beautiful. And i want to experience life as naturally as possible, as nature or as god, if he exists, intended. I also have accepted that aging is a privilege not many get, and rather than spend my entire life chasing youth, I'm disciplining myself to be content where I am. Also, a man who loves me simply for my beauty isnt one i wanna grow old with anyway. And I dont wanna be spending my heard earned money on pleasing other ppls eyes when its already so hard to afford basic practical shit in this economy. Work hard just to get rid of the proof I've worked hard? Doesnt make sense to me lol

@peacelove7437

2 жыл бұрын

At 60, I won't care anymore. I dont see anything wrong with botox. I mean it's natural.

@jjk4891

2 жыл бұрын

But make sure to apply sunscreen now and then!! Skin cancer is no fun

@Shylaoutdoors

2 жыл бұрын

@@jjk4891 ah yes I’ve already my battles with skin cancer! :(

@Buttercup697

Жыл бұрын

Sunblock is your friend ;-) ... and it's not just for banishing wrinkles

I do want to point out a small inaccuracy in this video: Barbie was not based on a sex toy. She was based on a fashion doll called Bild Lili, which itself was based on a character from a German comic strip named Lilli. It's due to a mistranslation that the myth spread. Lilli was a receptionist, which got incorrectly translated to "call girl." While she was a bit flirtatious, especially for the time, she was never in any way explicitly sexualized.

@jamieb4031

2 жыл бұрын

The Lilli doll was a popular adult gag gift. While she may not have been a sex toy in the sense that she wasn't created for that purpose, she was a toy that implied sexy times.

@CodedPilates

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment!

@luiysia

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamieb4031 "sex toy" is a ridiculous term for this lol

@Lau3464l

2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you said it so that I didn’t have to! There also is really no causal relationships between body image issues and the prevalence of Barbie, Barbie just happened to be popular when people started to actually talk about womens self esteem in a serious way. Barbie was actually a pioneer in giving girls toys that were more than just a baby doll. Barbie had endless careers, taught girls about grooming and aesthetics (which was essential at a time when looks = marriage = meal ticket/survival) and showed to girls that they can be anything, NOT just a mother. Prior to Barbies, girls were given baby dolls and told even from that extremely young age that they were going to be mothers and nothing else - needed to start preparing them early! With Barbie, girls learned that if you just put on the chef outfit, you can be a chef. If you put on the nurse outfit, you can be a nurse. And in later years this expanded to every career under the sun - astronaut, politician, scientist, archaeologist, athlete… when womens lib was on the forefront of everything, they changed Barbie’s eyes to look straight ahead instead of down and to the side. Instead of her being a demure and quiet woman, she is now a bold and capable woman. It’s a tiny change that had a huge impact. Obviously there’s unrealistic beauty standards/sizes and a serious lack of inclusivity for decades, but Barbie was foundational in teaching children that you don’t have to just be a mom, you can live on your own without a man (this was something Barbie “did” that was preposterous for the era) and you can have your own hobbies and make your own money and forge your own place in the world. Barbie wasn’t a perfect role model obviously but people forget that she was a major player in shaping feminism, and she’s not the source/cause of women’s body image issues whatsoever.

@annamarial2960

Жыл бұрын

I am a translator from German to italian and English...this is an amazing translation fail!

I’m always conflicted on the topic, because the morale of the story tends to be « Do what makes YOU feel good » but the choices of individuals add up and shape societal beauty standards. And after that, it’s very hard to go back, unless a trend change happens. For instance, when hairless legs when from fad to norm in the 40s, tons of women felt like they had to follow suit. Now hairless legs are not just the norm, it’s a basic expectation. Now, having hairy legs as a woman and exposing them would probably be seen as a radical feminist move. And I say would be, because we never see it. Historical movies with huge budgets trying to replicate costumes in every detail will still have hairless legs, like it was always this way, which drives me nuts. Anyways, you see why I’m not comfortable with where this is all going. Especially looking at what happened in South Korea. We really don’t need more on our plate. I already shave my legs (in spring and summer) and armpits, do my eyebrows, get some extra dark hair in other places removed professionally, like on my chin (all hormonal pcos BS, yeah), I have a skincare routine, I put on sunscreen twice a day on top of watching what I eat and staying active to take care of my body and lots of people would still say I don’t do enough bc I don’t wear makeup daily, only sometimes. And I don’t wear heels. I’m so tired.

@kateg1570

2 жыл бұрын

Well.. attractive is attractive so that’s a choice someone makes daily. Shaving is a nuisance but beats having people stare. If laser hair removal is an option for you I recommend it. Not cheap but life changing in terms of time save. Society is not fair. Attractiveness is not fair. If you have a good starting canvas ( some people are beyond repair) that’s something to celebrate. I spend tens of thousands on beauty and made the sacrifices to not spend on other things .. worth it for me.

@littlestbroccoli

Жыл бұрын

Let them stare.... Lol. The point is to show that it's normal, right? It makes me chuckle when ppl get offended, and really that hasn't happened since the early 2000's for me. Most glance, realize they've run across a feminist, and move on with their day peacefully 😊

@vacafuega

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes, yes you're absolutely right. I stand with you. It does vary a bit by city - in Vancouver or Portland it's actually very normal now to exist female with hairy legs and pits. That's it though, all the other conditioning still stands, and in some ways i feel these women are expected to compensate with their behaviour - i found way fewer assertive confident women in those cities than in some other places I've lived.

Over the years I’ve practiced figure drawing, I’ve seen different ages and sizes of people and tried to draw them. You quickly learn to love and admire the beauty that every model brings, which spreads to how you think about others in the grocery store or on the street.

“You’re not ugly, you’re just poor” 💅🏻

@Makwayne

2 жыл бұрын

You don’t need makeup to look pretty. Other girls might find you pretty but as a guy I can tell you I don’t care

@saschamayer4050

2 жыл бұрын

@@Makwayne What he said. 🙂👍

@pachirisugirl7204

3 ай бұрын

@@Makwaynewhat you don’t understand is that women wear makeup to not appear sick or tired lol natural looking makeup is always in, most women don’t wear bold makeup daily

@Makwayne

3 ай бұрын

@@pachirisugirl7204 is this the same thing as girls never fart? You cannot escape the natural state

I remember seeing Khloe Kardashian in a commercial for a migraine medication and being horrified at how her face didn't even look remotely like her. She looked like a wax model and not in the best way. I then felt great curiosity (and attempted empathy) at what she must have gone through to feel the need to go through such dramatic changes to her face and body. I worry for my young nieces who aren't even tweens yet and they love those LOL dolls. What other face and body norms will they be exposed to by the time they come of age?

Eternally grateful that I live in a fairly small town in Canada where even wearing a full face of makeup is like a Big Deal Occasion

@CodedPilates

2 жыл бұрын

I used to live in a small town where not wearing sweatpants meant you were dressing up LOL!

@audreyandrea460

4 ай бұрын

Ikr?

I am totally blind and find this subject fascinating. A sighted friend once Drew the analogy for me that being around her cosmetically-challenged coworkers is like being around stinky people. She said that they sort of give off a cosmetic stink that brings everyone in the office down. The interesting thing for me is that when I asked her to describe for me what a person with no cosmetic stink would look like, aside from weight and personal hygiene, she was very vague and seemed to have difficulty with the question. For a person like her who gave lots of attention to her own personal appearance, I was surprised that she could not describe to me what a person Who had all the right stuff would actually look like.

@Madamchief

4 ай бұрын

Interesting. I have the opposite perspective. People who have plastic-face give off a cosmetic stink. The lack of facial expressions is distracting like halitosis- there's no ignoring it. People with the "right stuff" are natural like a soft leather with beautiful ripples and valleys that are characteristic of the individual

@vacafuega

2 ай бұрын

​@@Madamchiefthe feather analogy is perfect, i love it so much, that's exactly how it is - the entrancing beauty of our unique topographies

@Eyeluv2d

Ай бұрын

How did u type this if ur blins

Whenever someone talks about how a celebrity looks, I make sure to mention the swarm of people they employ.

It’s hard to over-emphasize the racial aspect of this too. The standards are mostly based around whiteness (although increasingly, also a certain type of of light-skinned mixed race look) that from the very beginning denigrates and undervalues the majority of people on the planet. The most freeing personal choice I’ve made in the beauty area is to challenge who I thought was beautiful and why, and to stop judging others by this impossible standard. It allows me to feel so much more secure in my own appearance.

@DivaViews

2 жыл бұрын

Because really a lot of the work is done to look like other races!

@gb.510

Жыл бұрын

"rootless exoticism" is what I've seen a lot of

@marinavasquez8813

Жыл бұрын

Agree

@marronkusakabe5026

Жыл бұрын

For me they try to look mixed racial.Every feature represent another ethnicity for example high cheek bones like middle eastern. Eyes like asian. Bbl like african. Small nose like europeans lol.

8:20 I never quit under stood how someone gets a negative self image from a toy. I was more impacted by things like Seventeen mag and TV growing up, but never once did I think “I wish I looked like this toy that I play with”

@aesyamazeli8804

2 жыл бұрын

People can get negative self image from anything.

@kurpitsa2343

2 жыл бұрын

There was also a Bratz TV animation series just like there are Barbie movies, I don’t know if theres Barbie TV series as well

@missironmouse

2 жыл бұрын

@@aesyamazeli8804 that is very true. Idk I guess toys felt very removed from reality (for me) where as I felt that I could eventually grow up to look like a certain model, or wear enough makeup to look like a celebrity. Learning about photoshop has helped me feel a little better lol

@luiysia

2 жыл бұрын

yeah honestly not to be mean but if you think you can look "like a bratz" you probably aren't qualified to consent to elective medical procedures like the bratz/barbie comparison works as a "sign of the times" or metaphor for changing beauty standards but acting like they CAUSED the change in beauty standards is just silly

@missironmouse

2 жыл бұрын

@@luiysia yeah I agree with this thought

250k for a facelift is disgusting. We’re in a cost of living crisis. Normal people are concerned with affording homes, or higher education, or actual legitimate costly healthcare concerns. Paying 250k for delaying aging when there’s actual problems that money could fix is truly dystopian.

I get wanting to include braces since straight teeth are a part of the US beauty standard, though I would argue the Hollywood smile far exceeds just braces, it feels off to use it ubiquitously because many of us do have bite issues. I had a cross bite and actually needed braces as a child and would have had a simpler treatment while my jaw was still growing. Unfortunate I was too poor for it, but at 31 I finally got traditional train track style braces. Because my smile looked decently straight from the front, people constantly asked me why I got braces. I had reduced jaw clicking and pain, less headaches and migraines, and had I had them early I probably would have less wear on certain teeth and wouldn’t have chipped one of my teeth. Braces can still be very not cosmetic and I think that is important to keep in mind. Acne as well is a medical issue.

@AlicedeTerre

2 жыл бұрын

I'm also doing health related invisalign treatment, I had no issues with my smile before and it's mainly for jaw and airway functioning. But on the flip side, a lot of people do get braces cosmetically and in that process actually create problems such as when too many teeth are removed and it reduced the size of the mouth and created breathing issues. So double edged sword I guess, depends on how the treatment is done and the purpose.

@anneshadas8249

2 жыл бұрын

My dentists always say that braces beyond teen years wont work. I am heartened to hear you went ahead with it.

@nonozens

2 жыл бұрын

This is me hoping to finally correct my underbite and teeth grinding at 26

@PhosphorAlchemist

2 жыл бұрын

I had extensive braces treatments as a child/teen for a mix of functional (jaw misalignment, rotated teeth) and cosmetic (gap teeth) reasons. I was very lucky my parents could afford to pay for the treatments. As horribly as I was treated by other kids at the time, I've definitely seen friends who haven't been able to afford necessary dental care be discriminated against or socially looked down on as adults; it's a class marker in their smile. However, while I was getting my jaw rearranged so I could chew properly, many classmates were undergoing shorter treatments for barely-visible cosmetic issues. I couldn't imagine choosing to do such treatments as a purely cosmetic upgrade, but people did & do choose it for reasons I will probably never understand. Some people will go through a lot of pain to look beautiful. I simply cannot relate; the pain overwhelms any aesthetic pleasure I might get from the results.

@JessieBanana

2 жыл бұрын

@@anneshadas8249 It is possibly for certain bite issues you have to have jaw surgery. It really depends on if the alignment is mostly with your teeth or jaw. I think mine was a combination of both, but I was able to cheat it for good/functional results. Jaw surgery is a huge deal, in both the procedure and recovery, and I think only recommended for the most severe cases. My orthodontist did warn me, but she was fairly confident my case would work and I actually had a ton of movement. If anything it was harder for my teeth to stop moving because of my age. I had to wear retainers 24/7 probably longer than most. You definitely want to see an orthodontist over a dentist for complicated bite issues.

In the interest of influencer transparency, I use a cleanser and I moisturize when I remember. However after this video, I’m now thinking I should probably step it up. 🤣

@Ronsonpeters

2 жыл бұрын

Sunscreen! Even in Canada!

@Nick_Lewis

2 жыл бұрын

@@Ronsonpeters In the moisturizer! 😉

@sandram.5666

2 жыл бұрын

Does IKEA make skincare products? Maybe a new video idea? Lol 😂

@starsatnightsparkle1318

2 жыл бұрын

Hey, I follow your channel Nick... fancy meeting you here.

@lifebrarian

2 жыл бұрын

Love your channel!

As a young woman who grew up surrounded by unrealistic beauty standards, I cannot tell you how helpful and eye opening videos like these are. Thank you Chelsea

I just spent two weeks in Istanbul. In the touristy areas it’s very common to see people who had for example hair transplants or nose jobs done there recently. I myself get my botox treatments there, done by a doctor with a wall full of diplomas. I also go to the dentist to get my teeth cleaned in Turkey. There is a very high medical standard and because they do these beauty treatments and surgeries so frequently, the doctors have a lot of experience. It’s cheaper due to the massively devalued Turkish Lira and just the generally lower cost of living in Turkey - not because of bad quality work. However it’s certainly always advisable to background check who ever you let do stuff on your face.

@valf156115

2 жыл бұрын

Can you recommend a doctor?

@chrisd725

4 ай бұрын

How on earth can a non-medical person properly evaluate a doctor. This stuff needs regulation and published figures based on ALL their data.

@July-dz7lm

3 ай бұрын

write the name of the doctor and the clinic.

@July-dz7lm

3 ай бұрын

@@chrisd725 cool down

As a boy i remember the moment it hit me how much more society puts on girls appearances exactly. I was in tenth grade and a close female friend was confiding in me that she was bulimic. Her mother had offered her $200 to lose 20 lbs. I was quite a bit heavier than her and rarely second guessed my worth as an individual because of it. I like to think that my body isn’t the result of other peoples expectations of me, but honestly I kept the weight almost as a kind of rebellion, a middle finger to that ubiquitous pressure. Point is thinking your “above it” can also be evidence you aren’t.

@MK-hh1vo

2 жыл бұрын

🤔 You kept the weight as a kind of rebellion? That's disturbing. In a way, you bought into the concept you were giving the middle finger to. You chose outward appearance, how others see you,, over health and well being. I hope that phase is over for you.

@liofotiafan9460

Жыл бұрын

@@MK-hh1vo being overweight is not inherently unhealthy.

@bhavya5692

Жыл бұрын

@@MK-hh1vo just because a person is over their BMI doesn't mean they're ill.

I feel like the cosmetic industry is really bad for humanity.

@ifetayodavidson-cade5613

2 жыл бұрын

The elective stuff can be debatable, but so many are grateful for surgery following major injuries. It's not just about appearance (see: braces & bite issues or a facial cyst that should be removed before it ruptures and causes sepsis and hospitalizations)

@meissoun

2 жыл бұрын

First humans wanted to change the way they look - then they created the industry. Not the other way round. People have been trying to change the way they look ever since there were people.

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

🆙ʜɪᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛsᴀᴘᴘ.🆙

@redhairdavid

2 жыл бұрын

@@meissoun i feel like first one human told another human they werent enough, but lucky enough they have just the thing to sell them :P

This reminds me of the part in "I know why the caged bird sings" where Maya Angelou boils down all her problems and figures out the simple solution: if only she had blue eyes. Yet if you could have waved a magic wand and given her blue eyes that wouldn't have changed the actual problem. I think many people are misdiagnosing what is wrong with their lives and then thinking, if only I had plastic surgery THEN I'd be happy. When really therapy might better get to the root causes of being unhappy (with yourself). This sense of competition and fear and never being enough is probably what the wrong Gini coefficient looks like on the ground (inequality).

@guruuvy

4 ай бұрын

‘The Bluest Eye’ is by Toni Morrison, but I totally get what you’re saying!

I remember playing with Bratz dolls with my sister and cousins. We felt happy as a Hispanic but mixed family that there were dolls that can look similar to us but we could share clothes and accessories with. I don’t remember us ever saying we wanted to dress or look like them (other then wishing our sports uniforms looked cool or having a jacket like them). But that could be because we’re all mixed so we do have different features and looks and we were taught that our differences made us beautiful. What our grandmother said once was “you guys like looking at sunsets because they’re pretty right? Well there are different colors all the time and different shaped clouds. It looks pretty because all those things are together”

When everyone looks the same it'll be the people who have big noses and uneven skin that will be interesting to look at. I embrace my ugly.

@laurahodgson6531

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I love my big friendly nose

@Corsetdollx

2 жыл бұрын

I always thought big noses are attractive, I love Lady Gaga's nose.

@Corsetdollx

2 жыл бұрын

My nose is wide but short from the side, I feel like most people find that unattractive too.

@bhavya5692

Жыл бұрын

@@Corsetdollx those noses don't look unattractive to me

@natashadavies9569

4 ай бұрын

I grew up valuing french cinema beauty standards over American soap operas. I actually think it's just as undemocratic but the french beauties, male and female, always looked less bland and more special to me

Amazing vide again! I think the most recent cash grab release by a celebrity is Kim Kardashian's SKKN by Kim. Like no, ok. You so did not get your face from that bottle you're selling which by the way if you want to buy the line amounts up to 650$. Kim gets the best high end treatment and facials and probably stuff we've never heard before. To see her sell a skincare line feel exploitative and opportunistic.

@user-oj5bw7sl8p

Жыл бұрын

Well, KK has never been a nice girl. Greedy, - yes, plastic-y - yes, compulsive attention seeker - yes. And, of course, - very, very fake. I can say proudly, that I have never bought any of her products, - and will never buy.

"OMG hey boys! "Thanks Chelsea for the first ever shoutout but more so, thank you for always being real. I do appreciate the perspectives you bring and the transparency.

My grandma used to say that there are no ugly women, only poor women lol her wisdom still holds true today...

This will inevitably affect the poorer classes trying to trend chase and whose self image has been warped by lying celebrities as the trend shifts, and they’re left with outdated looks that are costly to change back

@coachkrish

2 жыл бұрын

Poor women are also dying in large numbers from these botched procedures. They also will not be able to afford the long term up keep of these surgeries 😩

@rachelagron6172

2 жыл бұрын

My favorite video on this topic is "You're Not Ugly, You're Just Poor" by Karolina Zabrowska

@TimothyCHenderson

2 жыл бұрын

Whether it's reversible even for the rich is questionable. If anything, more surgery might make it worse.

Now solidly in my late 20s, I've starting noticing and appreciating those little "aging" features, like the little crinkles on the sides of your eyes when you smile. I think they're SO CUTE and seeing them for me differentiates a teenager/early 20s baby face with someone closer to my age and older. It's like a sign of wisdom and experience. I love an aged face that isn't super soft and plump everywhere. I fully believe in bodily autonomy and doing what you want to your face but I also get a little bit sad whenever I see a B&A where someone gets rid of those little crinkles

@josephinedykstra3383

2 жыл бұрын

Same! Also in my late 20s, and while I can't say I'm always thrilled with how I look, I honestly love the white hairs that are starting to grow in :)

@yeahgirl11

2 жыл бұрын

People look better when they get older. Facial features are stronger as opposed to the child look of our teens/early twenties. Women fill out and have more curves when they hit their late 20s- an actual womanly body. Men start to have an actual manly body. Getting older is actually more attractive because your body is fully developed. Personally, as a woman, I think men are their hottest when they're in their mid 30's and beyond because they get that nice rugged and strong face, and their bodies are more muscular and sturdy.

Sometimes I wonder why people use social media. I think to myself, "Am I missing something?" Then I watch a video like this and it occurs to me, "Maybe it's for the best that I stay away. I can't think of any pros, and there is an ocean of cons."

@dinodino5602

Жыл бұрын

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@twobluestripes

4 ай бұрын

i mean, using filters and following people who perpetuate unrealistic beauty standards is not required on social media. many of us don’t do those things when we use apps like instagram. i follow my friends and family, plus all kinds of people and things i want you to keep up with snd see content from.

@vacafuega

2 ай бұрын

You're not missing out. Really. I've done both and it's all a big trap, you wind up sitting there watching someone else's life instead of living your own. At times I've been ill for long periods it helped to distract me while i was resting but if you're healthy stay away, there's nothing you need there.

I work in NYC and IG faces is a norm, although I always end up squinting my eyes and tilting my head sideways- trying to figure out what I’m looking at. Bottom line is, I agree with the people saying there’s some strange energy… it just looks odd yet you can’t put a finger on it… it just doesn’t look good in real life🙂

It's been helpful for me to ask myself why I want to look a certain way, and if it would actually do anything for me. Unlike Chelsea, my job does not involve sitting in front of a camera. No one pays me to be cute. I would rather have a partner who likes my face the way it is, and values who I am as a person over whether I look "old" when I'm fifty. I don't actually spend that much time looking at my own face, so who would I really be doing it for?

I'm so glad to be 42 now and remember being in my 20s without really thinking that much about my face, I certainly would never have considered getting into debt to have cosmetic surgery (I got into debt to travel instead haha). Now I'm ageing and do hate my pretty obvious eye bags and droopy upper eyelids but not enough to drop thousands on blepharoplasty! Feel sorry really for teenagers today with these beauty standards :(

@danyf.1442

2 жыл бұрын

Getting into debt to travel while in your '20s is probably a pretty smart way to use your finances actually imho hehehe! I am 40 and same as you, I find that the money, pain and time for recovery are not worth it just to look a bit"better".

@Letty4

2 жыл бұрын

I got upper blepharoplasty earlier this year at 42. It was great and I'm thrilled with my results, but I wholeheartedly agree with you that it would be utterly bonkers to go into debt to have it done!

@kateg1570

2 жыл бұрын

Beauty pays more than debt hurts. I would gladly pay 20% to the credit card company for not walking around looking sad and ugly.

@Letty4

2 жыл бұрын

@@emmamusic4600 It was so minor! I took 2 ibuprofen one time and that was it for the pain. I had a little bruising for about a week and was back to work the very next day after surgery. I was shocked at how little it hurt and how quickly it healed. So easy!

@PiggyLovesOllie

2 жыл бұрын

SAME!!!!!! It’s crazy out of hand and we arent all going to look young forever no matter what!

I work full time while doing my Masters in the evenings, and after a heavey semester my employer decided to punish me with a whole month of night shift. Despite all the skin care I was using and all the water I was drinking at the end I looked like a piece of dehydrated garbage 🗑, I had an important event to attend and freaked out and ended up giong to a cosmetic clinic and I literally told the aesthetician to do whatever she had to do, I payed more than 10% of my monthly salary lol but In under few hours I looked like I drank a gallon of water, 2 green juices and slepts full 8 hours everyday in the last year! And the effect lasted for the next 3 months !! I know I can not afford that treatment regularly (she recommended I do it once a month lol) but at least I stopped feeling bad about my looks!

@CaraMarie13

2 жыл бұрын

What was the treatment? I barely sleep at night. It sounds like i need whatever that was.

@CuteKittyK

2 жыл бұрын

@@CaraMarie13 I don't know where you live I'm not from the US, it was a combination of a Hydrafacial, a chemical peel called (Red carpet) and micro needling or I think she called it Mesotherapy, and she finished with a collagen mask that I had to use before sleep. I worked a deal with the clinic where they charged me for all of these treatments around 500$, usually it would be around 800$ if I got them speretaly. Hope that helped 👍🏻

@CaraMarie13

2 жыл бұрын

@@CuteKittyK definitely, thank you.

@CuteKittyK

2 жыл бұрын

@@mindoablues I agree with you 100%, but it is always good to remind ourselves that somtimes these conditions can be out of control (hopefully temporarily). My boss is using me because they know the minute I receive my diploma I'm getting the F out of here 🥸 thank you for your kind words

@yeahgirl11

2 жыл бұрын

@@CuteKittyK LOL I thought you were gonna say that you got some type of botox or facelift. 😆 You just did some facial treatments! That's not unrealistic at all! And definitely not bad for your health! It was definitely pricey, but if it lasted for a while then it was worth it.

Loved this video! I know this isn't the main point but I loved that you talked about how aging in of itself is a huge privilege. I think remembering that can be really helpful when dealing with these toxic beauty standards. I'm in my late 20s and grew up in a working-class neighborhood and went to schools with a lot of kids who didn't have many life chances. I'm also starting to get insecure about my face/body changing already but then I remember how many people I grew up with didn't make it to this age and I remember how lucky I am to simply be alive and able to go through different stages in life. It really puts things into perspective. Also, I love the idea that our wrinkles show the kind of life we've had like a map. Eye crinkles and laugh lines are said to come from laughing and smiling so when I see those start to appear I remind myself of all the good times I've had to produce them

filters used to be something that changes your appearance drastically that it's almost comedic & that what made it fun to use them. now, especially with tiktok appearance filters, the changes are very very subtle & it's very harmful esp for younger people who spend most their time online to see themselves in a skewed way without them even realizing it.

For those asking Chelsea’s favorite older KZreadrs who talk about skincare honestly, Hot and Flashy (linked on the video, top right corner) is the number one! KZread.com/hotandflashy

I really like your videos! One of the few KZreadrs who are actually actually down to earth and research their content before broadcasting. You rock girl!

I'm going to Turkey soon for a rhinoplasty, and in the process of researching surgeons I found so many women who seemed to have just gone with the first instagram doctor they encountered, or some obscure name who was very cheap. So many also had many questions and worries about their recovery and if what they experienced a few days post op was normal (it was). People, please research thoroughly before making major decisions that will alter your body forever!!! Research the procedure, the recovery, the risks, look up the doctors names, go on forums etc etc. I feel like PS has been so trivialized online

@VanessaKiara

2 жыл бұрын

who are you going to? I had mine done there 6 months ago :) still very swollen

There’s a fine and awkward line on telling the truth / bragging about procedures. I have no shame telling people what I’ve had done, but sometimes it can make me feel like I’m bragging about the money I have to get those procedures…. Bc people always ask how much… soooo idk, sometimes I don’t share that I’ve had work done to gloss over the uncomfortable convo….

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@financialeducation2675

2 жыл бұрын

Great!👏👏👏

@sammierose1150

2 жыл бұрын

This really hit home for me as someone with body dysmorphia who uses filters and makeup because I hate how imperfect my facial features are. Also, as I am mixed race, I hate the fact that I don’t look like half my family. I got a nose job and sometimes wear colored eye contacts so I look more like my mom’s side of the family. I don’t have many issues with my body, mainly with my facial features - as that is the first thing I look at in the mirror every day. It’s a daily struggle, and I have good days and bad, but I just have to remember to give myself grace and acknowledge the fact that I’m healthy and have no major health problems to speak of. Health should be valued above vanity in my personal opinion.

I've been getting waxed on my back, chest, and upper arms for nearly a decade now. It runs (including gratuity) about $150 per session at a local spa, and I go every 6-8 weeks. Comparatively it's not a huge cost, but it's something I've always budgeted even in leaner times because it makes ME feel completely different. I used to be so embarrassed about my body hair that I would hide to change my shirt. I recognize the waxing isn't a panacea and doesn't solve any problems, but it's cheaper than therapy and allows me to feel comfortable in my skin, a value that's FAR higher than the price. Thank you so much for sharing, Chelsea! It's an important topic and I'm glad that you also make mention of the holistic impact as well as the financial cost.

@alexa.6953

2 жыл бұрын

It's your body and you are the best person to know what makes you feel good! if it's waxing then you do you :) no one has the right to judge you. I had rhinoplasty for a so called "ethnic" bump because I was bullied about that at school for years and I could never go over it, no matter the amount of therapy. I feel really happy and confident now plus no one can guess it was surgically altered (it's a natural looking nose job, not the Instagram one). If someone compliments me, I say it was done, though. I don't want anyone to feel bad because of my done face.

I have said for years that our beauty standards in the USA changed from Barbie to Bratz dolls.

@financialeducation2675

2 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right!👍

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

🆙ʜɪᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛsᴀᴘᴘ.🆙

When I was 18 my older boyfriend got his under eye bags removed(?) and I had to take care of him while he recovered. The bruising and recovery was pretty scary and it’s turned me off getting any invasive procedures :/

@mikeg8276

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you *met* him while you were 18 😳

@emmess6419

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikeg8276 oh yeah we were both in uni so it’s all good 😅

@seaglass7375

2 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend had liposuction on his chest, and it was horrific. 😭 I was really scared he would get an infection, or bust a stitch... It really motivated me to be aware of my weight to be healthy, to take care of myself, to eat right, wear sunscreen etc, so I don't have to resort to surgery for aesthetic reasons.

Kudos for nailing this on so many levels. Love your channel.

I just want everyone to know, that there are people out there who don’t put much stock into how others look. I am neuro-divergent, I see people as people and as individuals. Its hard for me to find how people LOOK ugly but more like their personality, affects how I perceive their appearance. I don’t know how many people see others this way but know that there are people who don’t judge outward appearance as much as the inner personality.

Love your wide range of topics you cover, I never know what will come next!!!

Really enjoying this video so far but I have to say, for a lot of people of color the bratz doll was WAYYYYYY more achievable of a look than a Barbie. It felt more like accurate representation than another impossible beauty standard.

@cr0wsnest

2 жыл бұрын

Yea , I remember when they came out (I was getting too old for them) and thinking oh? This one looks like the cool teenage girls at the salon and not an old (24 is ancient when you're 10!!) white lady

@luiysia

2 жыл бұрын

also they're less realistic which feels less like an expectation. like no one literally looks like a bratz lmao i think even children understand this

I am a 43 year old man and am considering getting my first chemical peel. Any recommendations for products or procedures? I am going to schedule a consult today. I will also reach out to a another cosmetic dermatologist.. I’ve been enjoying your videos. Particularly “how the wealthy gaslight America..” or something like that. Spot on.

This is one of the reasons why I stay off of Instagram. As I have aged I've noticed people half my age with what look to me like exhausting daily skincare routines and I wasn't sure where it was all coming from. I'm thankful for the example of my mother growing up. She only rarely wore makeup and her skincare routine consisted of washing her face and wearing sunscreen. Yet she consistently looks younger than her age, even now. I have generally followed her example, and I frankly have too much going on in the morning to do things that are too complicated. My personal opinion is that there are *much* scarier things about aging than a few wrinkles. I watched my grandparents go through Parkinson's and Alzheimer's and I'd take a bit of sagging or wrinkles over those any day. I am sympathetic to people who feel pressured to look perfect, however, and I agree that it's your business if you want to use products or get procedures done. Just be careful, as there are a lot of expensive woo products out there that won't really do much unless you are willing to shell out for fillers or surgery.

There is excellent technology and professionals in other parts of the world. So, as a Brazilian, I feel compelled to just comment that this warning is necessary, so as not to give the impression that the problem with this type of tourism would be the poor quality of service or products in all cases. There are issues related to this topic in all parts of the globe. Anyway, I loved the video. I've been following TFD for years and I love the reflections. Thanks a lot!

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

🆙ʜɪᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛsᴀᴘᴘ..🆙.

@vanessas8325

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto!!! The North American mentality that everything else in the world is not as good as in the US is exhausting. Seems fair warning but still…

@herodotusgreenleaf6776

2 жыл бұрын

I live in Armenia, and people come here for cosmetic procedures as well. I agree with you to an extent, but I also think locals have access to recommendations from friends and family, have the ability to go to consultations with multiple providers before picking one, and do have the assurances of being able to rest and recover at home without traveling halfway around the world and being able to go back easily if they aren't satisfied. Locals also usually understand medical malpractice laws much better than a medical tourist would. All the same, I think traveling for a surgery in general like this does inherently put your health more at risk and also puts you at risk of being preyed upon by predatory businesses. Both of these are problems that local people won't experience, whether that's an American staying home or someone from Armenia having cosmetic surgery here.

@virginiassgoes

2 жыл бұрын

@@herodotusgreenleaf6776 I totally agree! This type of tourism is very dangerous. My comment was only to highlight the need for a more pluralistic perspective, from a non-US point of view.

I just binged Botched and everything you said are on that series-in graphic detail!

The most radical thing I ever did was stop dying my hair, and stop wearing heavy makeup. When I got compliments, I was able to actually embrace them, because they were complimenting ME, my NATURAL face and hair, not the hours of effort I had put in. Over time, it eventually led to me seeing myself as beautiful. There are lots of things I still feel are "less than" when I look in the mirror when I compare to the current beauty standard. But I wouldn't change them for anything. Growing old is a gift that many don't get. I embrace all my wrinkles and aging. I really hope all women can get to this place of acceptance, because it truly was life changing.

This video is wonderful. As a person who has struggled with eating disorders and body dysmorphia, I appreciate the honest, simple and compassionate message of this video. Also, Chelsea's hair is absolutely gorgeous!

Who are the 50+ women KZread channels on aging gracefully mentioned? Would love to support their channels.

Why are people looking to dolls for inspiration on how to look? I feel like the Bratz doll look was exaggerated on purpose to be a caricature so why are people looking at that and thinking "This is goals right here"?

I don’t think it’s fair to label Thailand as sub par when it comes to cosmetic procedures or care related to them. I had plastic surgery in Australia and was in a car within a few hours, in Thailand I would have been put up in a hospital room which looks like a hotel & actually monitored. Their facilities are stunning and the doctors are brilliant. Of course there will be dodgy surgeons in any country so do your due diligence but it not fair to assume they’re worse. Also on the note of filler; they’ve started to discover that filler doesn’t totally metabolise but instead it can migrate (it’s easy to notice in lips where the filler migrates upwards towards the nose and creates a duck face effect). If you have a look on the internet and here on KZread you’ll see doctors who have done scans of the faces of people with filler who haven’t had it touched up in years and it’s still there. For me personally I haven’t had lip filler in at least 2 years and it’s definitely still very much there.

@CodedPilates

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, this video was negative and had some misinformation. Sure, there are downsides to cosmetic procedures but those are expected. I have filler as well and have had no issues. It’s an investment that has made me feel 10x more confident and I don’t regret it at all. I was happy to see your comment!

Thank you Chelsea and team!!!

2:54 HI Chelsea! Thanks for all the great advice! You've seriously improved my life!

I actually use a very cheap, very old skin care routine. Cleanse with cold cream, wash with a lanolin or similar face soap, tone with rose water or witch hazel and moisturize with cold cream again

@misskekeg

2 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one who still cleansed with cold cream. Good to see I’m not alone!

@financialeducation2675

2 жыл бұрын

I completely agree with you!🙌

@darlajones1326

2 жыл бұрын

I don't use anything for the most part. Lotion on my face after washing at the most. I have no way of knowing if my skin would look better if I used a ton of products. But I kind of think I look pretty good for my age and not spending a lot of money on skin care.

@darlajones1326

2 жыл бұрын

Moisturize with cold cream?

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

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Missing more context and self-awareness about how race/ethnicity plays into this. Touched upon briefly with Bratz, but as I've once read... The Instagram face is reliant on looking "ethnically ambiguous" with all the privilege of whiteness.

This video was so much help for me! I already have features that are considered pretty now days like big eyes, small nose and plump lips but somewhere around my 20th birthday when everyone was using Snapchat filters and stuff to enhance their features around me while I was busy working part time I realised that everyone on social media were looking so beautiful and somewhat similar. Even the celebs would post so often it felt like they were more closer to us then ever. I started feeling so obsessed to fit in. It got so bad that I decided to snap out of it but the damage was done ( mentally) and I was ashamed to even look in the mirror or click selfies or take pictures with friend. A few years have passed until then and I am no longer scared of getting clicked but I do still criticise my pictures heavily. I am slowly moving forward to the point that I’m pretty indifferent about clicking selfies and have grown to forget about them when there’s any opportunity for a good picture. I like me this way and I feel better when I’m not clicking selfies but I do appreciate my look in a reflection now and then which shows I’m healing. It’s a small step at anime and videos like these help me understand myself and people around me more. Thank you very much!

Fascinating video Chelsea! 👏🏻👏🏻

Loooove your video, thank you for having this amazing idea to talk about it ❤️

You truly are amazing at what you do. As a woman that has been watching personal finance videos for the non-past 5 years. I rarely came across women and especially of this top notch quality. Thank you for your videos. You inspire me. 😊🖤

I loved Meme Mom’s video on the historical version of this. The title was something like “You’re not ugly: you’re poor”.

so happy i stumbled upon this channel!!!! lovely content!!!

What bothers me about today's slogan of do wtv makes u happy, is a pass for out stepping boundaries. At 16 you believe getting a nose job will make u happy and 50% of the time it doesn't, so u get another one to make u happy. If ppl did whatever made them happy without actually taking into consideration that these are trends, ppl would be more accepting of themselves and others. In Europe, plastic surgery is frowned upon, if it's noticeable so ppl don't consider it because they don't want to stand out. Kardashians are not considered beautiful. Nor is anyone with huge fake lips, fake nails and lashes. They call u a clown. I admire the French, Italian notion of beauty where less is more. Although surgery is more common in the younger generation, who knows what they will look like when they are 40.

Our society where women are having the same face is really creepy. This literally gives me "why look like you when you can look like me" vibes.

Love this video. Thank you so much for talking about and normalising it! ♥️

This is really important. With my own acne, I have to have a routine to keep it at bay. Without surgery, it has taken me most of a year to finally move a bunch of scarring off. But I did grow up with enough money to have braces and get treatment for the worst of my acne (though it's still there). Now i am making an effort to embrace my rapidly spreading gray hair.

If we all learned to love our selves imagine all the businesses that will be shut down

So interesting how you talk about the research being done in the west. I lived in Brazil and it's super common to get botox and plastic surgery. People don't hide it, they also don't do it out of self-hate (as it appears to be more common in the USA) but just want to look their best selves and think why not. Many woman use botox to "age gracefully" which means making the lines less harsh. I even went with a friend to her botox appt and the dr asked me why do all the Americans go overboard? she was one of the top botox doctors in the country and even she had wrinkles(about 50 years old) and thought it was important to have some to look natural!

@grumpybulldog19

2 жыл бұрын

And in Brazil this procedures are affordable for the middle class, same for silicon implants.

@covfefe_drumpfh

2 жыл бұрын

Excuse me, but when did Brazil change continents? When did it suddenly stop being western? As far as I'm concerned, Brazil *IS* a western country.

@covfefe_drumpfh

2 жыл бұрын

Western is not synonymous with _English-speaking_ or _Protestant._

@covfefe_drumpfh

Жыл бұрын

@@grumpybulldog19 I mean, y'all's _right to Healthcare_ implies _right to beauty,_ so the federal government heavily subsidies plastic surgery. Source: I am a policy analyst, and one of my areas of professional expertise is comparative constitutional law. And yes, I am a polyglot: when I did my comparative analysis with the USA constitution and the current BR constitution, I made sure to read the actual Portuguese text. I self-taught myself Portuguese by mainly watching telenovelas, and studying comparative Romance languages grammar.

So good. Love when you talk about these facets of modern life in the context of money and class.

love your content as always, thanks!

I loved this video!! I don't struggle with worrying about my face aging. I find wrinkles to be majestically beautiful, but I do worry about the thinness of my body. The super low rise jean trend of the late 90's/early 2000's did a number to my preteen/teenage self esteem. I carry a slightly higher proportion of my fat around my tummy, so those jeans were so unflattering and made me hate my body. I have seriously considered lipo so many times in my adult life. I probably won't do it because I am incredibly risk adverse, but, man it's tempting.

@krissy278

2 жыл бұрын

I haven't seen you but I guarantee you're tummy is scrumptious the way it is.

@LaurenAnne6

2 жыл бұрын

@@krissy278 🤣🤣🤣 Why, thank you!

@elipotter369

2 жыл бұрын

High rise jeans are back! My stomach is the biggest bit of my body - due to digestive issues not fat. It's annoying.. sometimes I think abdomen exercises could help.

@LaurenAnne6

2 жыл бұрын

@@elipotter369 Yeah, I will not be jumping on that trend. Lol! I also bloat extensively when my endometriosis is flaring up.

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

🆙ʜɪᴛ ᴍᴇ ᴜᴘ ᴏɴ ᴡʜᴀᴛsᴀᴘᴘ..🆙.

My cousin used to be a steward for an airline in asia and he has a nursing background. He told me he and his coworkers used to inject glutathione shots intravenously to make their skin lighter, because light skin is a thing in Asia

Destruction of real body appreciation is what is worst here

As for braces, they're not always for esthetic reasons, sometimes they're done because keeping the teeth the way they are would lead to headaches, jaw pain, snoring, sleep apnea, etc. Some countries are better than the US for plastic surgeries. You have to do your research though to know if the person has experience, what their credentials are, etc.

Great video, I would love to know the older influencers too! (Doesn't look like it's in the description box)

@Ben-qy7wf

2 жыл бұрын

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As I’ve become older and started watching more videos about plastic surgery I’ve really come to realize that almost every single celeberuty has had a nose job like way more people that i had ever thought and it’s made me look at peoples noses more carefully because people noses are beautiful and don’t need to be redone. I’ve always noticed a lot of people aren’t actually blonde and fry their hair to even achieve it. People are really starting to look gross and weird. I’ve really be come less judgy not that i was super judgy but with social media i didn’t realize that my expectation were so different now. I look at old pictures of people from the 50s and old pictures of celebrities and we have really lost ourselves.

My doctor's office is littered with advertisements for some of these treatments. When I asked about whether of not this stuff was really good for people, she just made light of it saying "It won't hurt" or words to that effect.

Thank you so much for this content ❤

I am turning 30 next month and had my first child last year. I've been thinking of having Botox on my forehead wrinkles for the first time for my 30th. This was really helpful for me to watch.

Back in the day fashion mags were the main source of my insecurities. I solved my insecurity by not buying them. Nowadays there’s no getting away from it. Can’t even imagine the impact this has on young people whose idea of themselves is not yet fixed.

I’m 22 and I don’t even keep up with the girls my age. I like watching KZread video of “ aging gracefully” because I know the girls my age are using filters or other non natural things

@skengels

2 жыл бұрын

from an older gal, what you can start doing now to age gracefully: 1. Take care of your teeth!!!! Floss regularly and brush 2x a day no matter what (I know this is a big duh but teeth problems are the worst, so painful and expensive and you'd be amazed how many people don't brush 2x or floss... ever) 2. Try not to frown when you sleep, relax your face in bed, it's easy to frown or furrow the brow when stressed, and especially in bed 3. Weightlift/cardio, best for your health as a woman, weightlifting can help prevent osteoporosis later and cardio is just great for heart health 4. Dress your age as you age, it's crazy how much clothes make a difference, and invest now in high quality, timeless clothing that will last for years (look for vintage silk, cashmere [SO much nicer than modern cashmere], wool coats, angora sweaters, lol). I'm in my 30s and certain things don't make me look younger, they make me look immature (like mini skirts, lol), I also only buy things that I LOVE now, to make sure I keep them longer 5. Do a color analysis on yourself, colors make a HUGE difference in how healthy (and alive, lol) you look 6. This is funny but don't date people that stress you out too much!!! A guy that's late and makes you worry is never worth it anyways, lol! A guy that has your best interests at heart will do his best to not make you worry (stress accelerates aging which is why I added this, lol, and what could be more stressful than trying to please an a$$hole *big eyeroll*) 7. Save as much money as you can without sacrificing fun (fun is always a priority), a nest egg for emergencies is a literal life saver, but you also NEED to have fun ;^) Money becomes the biggest worry later on, and like I said, stress accelerates aging! edit: omg I forgot to mention, guard you back/spinal health like your life depends on it. SO many older people have back problems and it's the bane of their existence. Sit up straight, do back stretches everyday, invest in comfortable chairs if you need to sit for a long time, etc. Humps are NOT IT lol

@user-wc6bl4zs4i

2 жыл бұрын

@@skengels 🙏🙏 I seriously need to work on my posture. I have some unresolved spine issues. I’m too young to be so creaky! I’ve been doing squats everyday. Not for exercise but for mobility! Thanks for the advice! ❤️❤️