"Your woman needs to have her own territory. Women are very territorial." Distance creates peace. Benjamin Zulu

I am in this situation....ive been living with my inlaws and i dont feel like im building myself rather im building them😢😢😢...May God give me strength to make the right decision

Don’t make my home an assembly of your relatives 😂😂😂😂 that statement right there

@naomingwepe5984

Жыл бұрын

Priceless 😅🤣

As someone who desires to be married one day, I have been taking mental notes from observing married couples and I completely agree with Benjamin. I have visited with relatives that lived with their in laws and I can tell y'all, THE STRIFE IS REAL!!! Couples, please have your own space!! In order to maintain respect between yourselves and relatives, boundaries and space are necessary. This is good advice💯❤️

@mi3helle707

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 💯

@gladysmwangi5531

Жыл бұрын

I agree 💯

I always say the max days for visiting inlaws is 2days, especially if they are a very big family. Usually we women are mistreated & undermined. Inlaws are competitive, they always wanna show off how they can cook, how well they can clean, how long they can pray, how well they can treat your husband, etc.. You are stuck there feeling small and frustrated ... 🇿🇦

@user-ec8js3nc1p

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@n.m6249

2 жыл бұрын

And men are so blind to any fault of their families

@missjenn6861

2 жыл бұрын

Me that will sit down and cross my leg if my mother in law wants to show off… I cannot be bothered at all..

@sharzy_greys

Жыл бұрын

Finally someone had to say it

@user-ec8js3nc1p

Жыл бұрын

I'm dying living with in laws im running away🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ can't take this anymore

Honestly I just love Mr. Zulu,im so greatiful I accidentally found this channel. Thank you switch TV.

I learnt this the hardway and I realised I'm a grown up and I have a choice and that is to avoid contact!!

I need to like this more than 3 times ooh Benjamin you always teach me a lot.

Marriage is only worth it if its advancing your life 🙌🏾

I support Benjamin 101% be in your on compound, I lived with in laws and the relationship ended in 3 months ,you find being fought north west east south and if your man isn't on your side surely you will suffer, and I swore never ever again

@hellenokoto4199

3 жыл бұрын

Men!! Why make relationshop with a woman you can't support and cling to your relatives like your wife trespasser

I have seen it in my family. Nyanya has made it clear, kila mtu aiishi kwake. And when she got sick, a help was hired for her in her home, she only comes to Nairobi for doctors visits and doesn't stay for over a week. We need to care and protect our families and lives.

PREACH. I am watching this while crying. I will live through this.🙏

I wished I knew this before I got married. My mother in law is a living hell and living with her is like sleeping in fire/or in a very hot room.

Benjamin gets it again!You deliver the message with the passion it should be accorded. Kudos to Joyce and Switch tv for such a valuable platform.👏🏾

Thanks Joyce and Benjamin I'm watching from South Africa, I'm learning a lot may God bless you..

I’m Indian and this is so helpful

This guy I just love him lol lol. Joyce you are the best. Loving the show from Antigua in the Caribbean. Benjamin really knows his job.....love it

Benjamin Zulu is the best you're a gift from God to counsel us as humans, thanks!

Wow !! You both fantastic , I love this show can't afford to missed an episode 💕💕🙏🙏

💯 agree with Benjamin Zulu....I have experienced it where the mother-inlaw actually knows the inside out of the marriage than me,the wife and she tells the son how to run the marriage including me. Finally,I realized throughout the marriage,the male I have been married to cheated and a very sexualised predator. In other words,he had hidden life style I didn't know and uses Bible and church to cover evil deeds and after,12 years I ended the marriage and for me to realise that all these years I was treated an option and not priority! Thanks Joyce and Benjamin for highlighting on the matter.

I wished I watched this before I got married.i have been living with the inlaws for 2 years now. I feel stuck Here

@mellisagova2113

Жыл бұрын

God will see you through

@tweety07534

Жыл бұрын

U not alone dear

@thegirlnextdoor4939

4 ай бұрын

Same here, we are going for year number 3 of living with our in-laws. It sucks. My husband does not make enough to get us out of our situation and I am still studying. I have two years left of studying before I get my degree. It’s hard…really really hard. If I had known this would happen I would have never moved out of my parent’s house and sometimes I wish that I could move back in with my parents but I cannot. I am already married, the deed is done and dusted, I cannot go back in time.

@Jah-jj6dz

2 ай бұрын

​@@thegirlnextdoor4939same! I hope things get better for us

This is soo real @Benjamin and joyce,thanks for the knowledge

I needed this,,am going crazy in this house

Am the first today, watching from jirani🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬thanks for always advising and teaching us

I'm loving the conversation... Always a vibe with these two

Since the day i landed on this show 2 weeks ago, i got stuck and i have never been disappointed!! U guys r the best!!! I love laughing and learning with u!!! Watching and enjoying your shows from Rwanda🇷🇼🇷🇼🇷🇼🇷🇼🇷🇼

People are forgetting that one day they would be a mother in law. The golden rule treat others the way you want to be treated. We are only hearing the negative stories but there are positive relationship too. People need to look for positive side and know their boundaries and show Godly love. Look for people who have good relationship so they can give you good advice. Do not listen to a voice that seems controlling. Some men are so controlling that the girl mother might be trying to advice the daughter and the man does not like that. Some men feel they can do a woman anything because the woman is vulnerable, afraid of him and do not know what to do. She would tell her mother one she can trust and the mother in law would talk to him but he would be upset. Ladies do not throw away your mom because the man do not want your mother there so she can see how he treats you at home. Take warning.

@luciocosta7433

3 жыл бұрын

I like the first part of you comment. A lot of woman that like to criticise they mother in law always end up being worst than them in the future. There is always positive and negative things about the in laws. Like you said its more important to focus on the positive side. In law are very very very important. They help a lot. Always respect them.

@Israelxox

Ай бұрын

Same as Boys don’t throw your MIL as well

Benjamin you are talking the truth.

Thanks for this, love from Zimbabwe.

I live in a compound in Nairobi with 5 bro in laws and their families....its crazy...toxic. Manipulation,control issues,divide and rule,lies,insults etc I find it difficult to create a home where the man I submit to is not in control.

@reginamwangi2236

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry

@maureengithinji01

2 жыл бұрын

I get you. I've stayed for a month with a bro in law and it's draining. It's a bedsitter. No space, no boundary.And he's a dirty bro. Menn it's draining

@carolinemghanga2891

Жыл бұрын

I hv stayed 2 years i feel stressed weak and worthless but atleast im praying God to help me thro .....ill be moving in to my house this sartuday

@imdinma9826

Жыл бұрын

@@carolinemghanga2891 congratulations ❤❤

Spot on, learning a lot from this,👏👏👏👌👌👌.

Thank you Benjamin!!!

LOUDER &CLEAR SIR.GOOD TOPIC

B. Zulu u are the epitome of class!!! this is the truth!! in law moms are hell

Benjamin Zulu you got the bombs!!! So much wisdom

All that Benjamin has said is common sense to me.My sentiments exactly💯.I have had this very discussion with people time and time again. Folks end up falling into traps of their own making because of putting sentiment where logic should take priority.

Am learning a lot thru this show as am about to get married, it will help me alot

@luciocosta7433

3 жыл бұрын

Always respect your in laws and be wise. Zulu have wisdom but don't be foolish to agree with everything that he is saying because doesn't apply to everyone.

Thanks Benjamin n Joyce..

THIS MAN IS EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGG

This advice is really good, I needed to hear this and will always remember this for life.

This is y some women come into the marriage battle ready, they create walls around them against the in laws even be4 they try it..... They r aware that one is not a joke.

This has got me laughing more than Joyce, thank you for the good job

I really like the topic learning a lot

Thank you ! Best advice , don’t do it, enjoy your space..

Woow....nice topic...learning

Benjamin my former fitness trainer I'm proud of you 💯💯🙌🙌🙏🙏💪💪

Benjamin and Joys hehe. I am laughing so hard my stomach hurts 😂😂😂😂😂😂. My house with our two pictures🤣🤣😂😂

This is soo amazing

Thanks a lot Benjamin and Joyce 😘 😘 😘 😘

I laughed sooooooo many times watching this.

Thank you Benjamin

I love Benjamin....just enlightened me

Thank you ,the bitter truth ... in-laws will mess you big deal especially those ladies who visits ,does no house cores in the name of niko my brother yangu😓😓

@elizabethtaabu262

3 жыл бұрын

It's exhausting. Been living with one since she was in high school, finished college, graduated. Working, na bado ako tu. Chei! Ayam tired

@missbett6170

3 жыл бұрын

Me right now..... Nitafukuzana soon

@moreennjeri559

3 жыл бұрын

Wooi kumbe tuko wengi 😢😂

Thanks Benjamin for publicly airing out my sentiments

This was so funny! But so true!!! Benjamin Zulu is all facts! 🙌🙌🙌

I thought Mr Zulu is from South Africa, he is very funny to listen too. I can imagine him preaching, the church would be flooded

Benjamin is right space and bounderies are neccesary. This man is hilarious!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@n.m6249

2 жыл бұрын

He is hilarious to watch,

True dont be too much inlove,That you ignore Where his going to put you

Benjamin......uko sawa I enjoy your shows

waau thank you Benjamin

Thank God i have found you here...❤❤❤❤❤❤

Mothers in-law , need to be at a distance , especially the mother of the husband.

@mbalenhlenkabinde5478

3 жыл бұрын

Even mothers of de wives

Very true i support Zulu. Never ever live with in-laws

this is 200%, please don't live with their in laws. Or with your parents. I have done so on both sides and it doesn't work.

Totally agree! Never works living together

Leo ni leo 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏very good

True, arguing soap with in-law. Enough, indeed women want and need their space

@luciocosta7433

3 жыл бұрын

Couples.

Waaah Benjamin 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂atleast today 23 years hatujatajwa

@Mercy-ds7ll

3 жыл бұрын

True:)

@tinachristine4573

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣 amewacha kuwachoma for just a second.

Men don't marry if you cannot carry your own weight,,,wuuuueh.I just love this man.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Amen Benjamin!!

So interesting

Wooow this is Great

Waooooh Joyce n Benja this is lit leaving with in-law is the worst went to visit my in-laws for Christmas abroad lockdown ndiyo iyo 6months the same roof I feel tired she is monitoring me...but I thank God he is great

@maryowino9403

3 жыл бұрын

Oh sorry too bad they are reading you as book they never bought and wondering how they came to be in possession of it. Come back soonest.

This one was a comedy on its own🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@n.m6249

2 жыл бұрын

I was having a bad day I can't stop laughing. He is hilarious

Gosh Benjamin leo umekasirika kabisa! But I agree with yu 100%!

Honorary wife...I'm dead Zulu 😂😂😂🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

Zulu you have handled this topic in an excellent way Required: if parents are sick get them nurses In laws please stay away from other peoples marriage Yaani Zulu on this topic u have done an excellent job People pretend they want in laws around but tht is it

@TheBabadogo

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think it's pretence. Its just acting nice coz you have no choice

Respect demands distance.....

l agree with Benjamin will never repeat that mistake .distance matters

You look so smart

taking notes...

you nail it Benjamin!!! You rock!!

You can fall but God will make you ride higher than before,Dissapointments happens We cant prevent them

eh..........in laws is for sure a thorny issue....Benjamin is not mincing words!

This guy is funny😂😂🤣🤣

Very true

Please give more lessons for the already married couples.

💓💓💓word .....men 👂👂👏👏👏

Uuuuwiiii hii topic imenitouch sana ...staying with in laws nayo cpendiii bt my husband amependa familia yake sana ...sina sauti

@maureengithinji01

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Am tired

Aki Benjamin Zulu...😂😂😂

He is so animated!!!

@loisegachuche1942

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@BeautifulDelights951

3 жыл бұрын

He needs to come here to the Indian community and Preach all this....

This is it

I rather take good example from my parents if they are good role model.

Do not import your mother in law 😂😂😂

Under no circumstances should you live with your inlaws

How do I save this aki?

Mi napenda tu

👏👏👏so right

I have lived with my in-laws before and I agree 100% that it is not a good idea.

Facts