As a fitness coach for women over 55, I've noticed a recurring pattern during our FITFlex sessions. When asked about progress, many clients default to highlighting their struggles rather than celebrating their achievements. This tendency to focus on limitations rather than accomplishments is intriguing and deserves a closer look.
Why the Negative Focus?
Ingrained Modesty: Many women in this age group were raised to be modest and not to "brag" about their accomplishments. This cultural conditioning can make it uncomfortable to highlight personal successes.
Perfectionism: The pursuit of perfection can overshadow incremental progress. When we set impossibly high standards, even significant improvements may feel inadequate.
Negativity Bias: Humans are naturally wired to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. This evolutionary trait, while once crucial for survival, can hinder our ability to recognise and appreciate our achievements.
Immediate Recall: Struggles often feel more immediate and tangible than progress. When put on the spot, it's easier to recall recent difficulties rather than long-term improvements.
Fear of Complacency: Some women might worry that acknowledging progress could lead to complacency, inadvertently hindering further improvement.
Comparison Trap: In group settings, women might focus on areas where they feel they lag behind others, rather than recognising their individual progress.
Breaking the Cycle
Recognising this tendency is the first step towards change. Here are some strategies to help shift focus from limitations to achievements:
Mindful Reflection: Start with regular reflection on progress, no matter how small. Keeping a fitness journal can help track improvements over time.
Reframe the Question: Instead of us coaches asking "What have you noticed?", we could ask "What's one thing you can do now that you couldn't do when you started?"
Celebrate Small Wins: Celebrates all progress, not just major milestones.
Share Success Stories: Share your achievements, you never know who will find inspiration from what you say.
Focus on Personal Growth: Focus on your progress rather than comparison with others or arbitrary standards.
Practice Positive Self-Talk: Speak to yourself as you would to a friend, with kindness and encouragement.
The Power of Positive Recognition
By shifting focus from limitations to achievements, you can boost confidence, motivation, and overall well-being. It's not about ignoring areas for improvement, but rather about maintaining a balanced perspective that acknowledges both progress and potential.
Remember, recognising your achievements isn't bragging - it's an essential part of personal growth and self-appreciation. By celebrating your progress, you create a positive feedback loop that fuels further improvement and enhances our overall fitness journey.
Let's challenge ourselves to lead with our accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. After all, every step forward is a step worth celebrating.