The contemporary sexual marketplace is witnessing a Mexican standoff between men and women. Women want men to "do better," and men want women to be reasonable. Both sides are increasingly comfortable remaining single until their demands are met. In this episode, I discuss the way out of this standoff by examining how the power differential between men and women changes as a function of time. If your house is on fire, then you need to be a motivated seller. Pre-order my book: amzn.to/3UlsTsY Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iaaMpNyKYquqdbQ.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzread.info/dron/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw.htmljoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #dating #men #women

@thordivdev

4 күн бұрын

Can you link the video you mentioned?

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

Eh! I don't see the problem. Everyone will either get what they want or be happy single.

@edheldude

4 күн бұрын

​@@summersday7894Most childless people regret not having children and people will be very unhappy with little incentives to create a meaningful life if you bypass the main thing in life.

@awsambdaman

4 күн бұрын

Orion is it possible that our ancestors figured this out and that’s why women weren’t allowed to work? Like if the expectation was every woman made zero dollars in the market, then women could marry any man and still fulfill her hypergamous need? I’m not saying it’s an ethical solution, but maybe it’s the least bad one considering all the stability and prosperity monogamy brings?

@edheldude

4 күн бұрын

@@awsambdaman What are you talking about? Women have always worked as most people in history lived on farms in an agrarian society. Women outside farms did the same jobs as now: teaching, nursing, serving, s"x work etc.

They can't see that their house is burning because of cheap likes and attention on social media

@seanfobbs7575

4 күн бұрын

Exactly

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

The wall is coming. Menopause and ovulation failure is real.

@baffinsansterre

4 күн бұрын

SM is a distraction/sedation for women.

@talleneagle1974

4 күн бұрын

They don't know how to tell the difference between a man just wanting sex and a man who will want a relationship too. They are low hanging fruit for the top guys and don't understand they're average because every guy wants sex and think they're worth more than they actually are because they have options.

@AfriqueNY

4 күн бұрын

And men don't see that women now want to make the offer. Let them

In southern California, women in their 40s are still saying the men's offers are too low.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

Already past expiration date - no more children, no shared future. The house is now worth nothing.

@nikeisagreekgoddess4135

4 күн бұрын

If you're still listening to them, does that mean they're still fuckable?

@simontmn

4 күн бұрын

I knew a woman in California who got wise just in time, left her exec job with Apple, moved to Atlanta. Man, marriage, baby (at 42).

@ZoldicsDiaries

4 күн бұрын

😂😂😂.

@ZoldicsDiaries

4 күн бұрын

​@@simontmn baby at 42?😂

I have a 37 year old sister and this is absolutely true. As she got older, the quality of men she could attract kept getting worse (although she's in denial).

@perpetualprocrastinator

4 күн бұрын

No women understand the situation very well , their pride will not let themselves be vulnerable in front of men be it the brother, father , husband ..whatever.

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

​@@perpetualprocrastinator lol what?!

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

​@@perpetualprocrastinator Confirmation bias - all leftover women are leftover because they don't understand it. Women who do understand it, married young. The smartest women marry as virgins - Free +3 ticket given to everyone, instantly move from 5 to 8 on quality scale when it comes to marriage.

@mani-00

4 күн бұрын

my sister was in the same boat, but at 42 years she got with a man that she wouldn't have considered a few years back, he is a nice and decent dude tho, now she is happily married and got her most precious wish...she got a son that she loves to death ♥ she is just among the 5% of the women population worldwide that could have a natural pregnancy after 40yo

@onward2727

4 күн бұрын

@@perpetualprocrastinator massive insecurity and very fragile egos. And yet they behave like children and call us names and say we’re fragile and insecure smh When really we were all willing to legitimately take them in and love them. But they began the pushing away. They started the division. Yet they blame us for men and women drifting apart Can’t they for once look inward and be self aware and take accountability? I know they hate it. But for once, for the sake of the entire world lol, could they for once take a step back and evaluate?

The wall is undefeated

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

Just as long as you can admit that you've hit it!

@nikeisagreekgoddess4135

4 күн бұрын

The wall is being pushed back by all these educated, wealthy and single women who can afford cosmetic procedures and freezing their eggs. They ain't the majority, but they sure are dents on your argument and as time passes, it will increase given how much more they are going to college.

@PolishBehemoth

4 күн бұрын

This punchline has gotten really annoying on youtube. I personally have seen many stunningly attractive women in their late 30s and early 40s and even late 40s. Some of them ive slept with. The whole notion of "the wall" is that after a certain age say 30 or 35 that women are completely and totally unnatractive and useless and not worth being with. I have personal experience that counters that and shows middle agr and older women typiclaly do more for the man and not less. Also this dynamic os very different with women in poorwr countrys.

@SirShiv7

4 күн бұрын

@@PolishBehemoth "Some of them ive slept with. .." Then you're demonstrating the reality of 'the wall' without understanding what it really means. The 'wall' is not that women get so ugly no one wants to sleep with them, it means they've aged out of anyone of any worth taking them seriously for anything other than that.

@eQuariuz

4 күн бұрын

@@PolishBehemoth The "wall" is just an indicator of a woman out of her prime SMV, it doesn't mean a guy wont ejaculate all over her face. It's also used in conjunction with a woman trying to "settle" on a beta guy whom she wouldn't have given the time of day to while in her SMV prime. The fact that you find some or even most of them "stunning' is irrelevant to the concept of a woman "hitting the wall".

That analogy was perfect. The one factor it doesn't really account for is the fact that the family laws have driven many of us away from the market altogether.

@steveunderhill5935

4 күн бұрын

Analogy was half right at best. Post fire you would still own the lot and would be able to rebuild for less than the price of new lot w house=apples vs oranges.

@oyinloyeademola7086

4 күн бұрын

He who feels it knows it ! The family law is against menfolk.

@daszieher

4 күн бұрын

​@@steveunderhill5935after my first divorce, I vowed never to get married again. Now, with my ex girlfriend, I'm just paying off her payments to the house and get to keep the thing. Much, much better than getting kicked out, having to pay anyway. Also, my money is in my company, so whatever I could have earned, I never did.😉

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Family laws can be minimized to some extent. 1. Choose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable, i.e. calm, peaceful, agreeable. 2. Don't get married. And 3. only have 1 kid to minimize any future child support. I messed up on 1 and 2, and have pretty much ruined my life.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

@@steveunderhill5935 You're taking the example too literally. Obviously, in real life, women go through the menopause and therefore can't rebuild.

If she takes the lower offer , men still end up with a bitter woman that always feels like she was strong-armed into taking a low ball, and she will always walk around "available " and open to other men's potential offers

@greenfinmusic5142

4 күн бұрын

Because she was intentionally brainwashed to be that way by the ultra powerful men who run our society. The women (and low tier men) are being used as pawns of war and don't even realize it.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

This is why pride is a sin.

@richien8472

4 күн бұрын

So it's best to let her be

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Great point. This is probably why simping back fires long term. Simps pedestalize women and the end up losing their money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.

@cosmictreason2242

4 күн бұрын

That's why you only accept a wmn who is already serving you and demonstrating humility in exchange for nothing.

It's only a standoff if both sides refuse to move. Women are refusing to move, men are refusing to participate - that's not a standoff, that's a fallout.

@vibhaverma2659

4 күн бұрын

True!!

@darthcholo

4 күн бұрын

The standoff is between women and the very few men they actually want and NOT the men they actually deserve. The men they deserve are willing and ready to wife them up.

@GabeSeamless

4 күн бұрын

Best breakdown of what's really going on.

@PolishBehemoth

4 күн бұрын

This is a great point because women are making all kinds of moves to get a woman.

@drunkduck

4 күн бұрын

I'd rather crawl out through the fallout than deal with women anymore.

The title made me laugh. How to sell a burning house lmao.

@pmaitrasm

4 күн бұрын

😅😅😅

@-441-

4 күн бұрын

Great title analogy 🤣🤣

I'm reminded of Hoeflation-meme. Sadly, lot of those burning houses on the market come with termite and cockroach infestation, leaking roof and extensive water damage, uninsulated windows, and unruly drug-addled neighbours.

@michaeljmyers1995

4 күн бұрын

Random comment but do you think a roach infestation is hard to kill than a termite infestation?

@mujtabaahmadi7960

4 күн бұрын

That’s not a house anymore.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Marrying a single mom = using another man's tooth brush. Don't do it gentlemen. Do not give Chad and Tyrone's leftovers your commitment. Chad's trash is not your treasure.

@Doberman_6773

4 күн бұрын

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 *DO NOT* be Mr. Cleanup.

@JeffersonRah

3 күн бұрын

Both are something i wouldn't want to deal with. Walk away ​@@michaeljmyers1995

Everything you said is logical and makes perfect sense, which is why women will never understand it.

@brandoncrooks1681

4 күн бұрын

Why would you comment this

@johnnyfuentes888

4 күн бұрын

@@brandoncrooks1681because it’s true

@vibhaverma2659

4 күн бұрын

If you were a woman, you might find it hard to digest this piece of truth because it essentially says lower your guns and accept the first reasonable offer you get. It's an emotionally hard thing to accept.

@rayzerot

4 күн бұрын

Women will never understand it? Or they'll pretend that they don't understand it?

@vibhaverma2659

4 күн бұрын

Acceptance takes time. And when you say women will never "understand" it. You have generalised a statement for an entire gender and called them incapable of using any intellect, not the wisest statement to make. "Some women might never understand it" would have been more objectively accurate.

Woman+time=old woman. It's not rocket science

@purplesprigs

4 күн бұрын

According to a John-Hopkins study, 50% of American women (HALF!) have had sex for the last time (their choice) by age 50. It only gets worse past that. If you can ignore the obesity, wrinkles, and putrid attitude, you still are not getting any. I know countless men (50+) in sexless marriages. If you are not married, don't. If you are, start planning for divorce.

@daszieher

4 күн бұрын

keep'em fresh!

@steveross4151

4 күн бұрын

😂😂

@deedeeh3206

4 күн бұрын

Men + time= old man

@AfriqueNY

4 күн бұрын

​@@deedeeh3206 old men have value. I didn't make the rules. Robert Dinero did. Lol

The issue I have with your analogy is this: While their house is burning, rather than put the fire out as quickly as possible, most modern women would take selfies of themselves in front of their burning houses and post the videos to social media while complaining that there no men will put out the fire for free. And other women would validate and encourage their behavior.

@johnmuniz328

4 күн бұрын

I agree

@muyleche6466

4 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 💯

@thedevilsadvocate3710

4 күн бұрын

Have you ever heard of the crabs in a bucket analogy? The analogy applies perfectly to women.

@DeShonDixon

4 күн бұрын

Then sir simp a lot would come out the woodworks and put out the fire for her 🤣

@thomasdee1980

3 күн бұрын

I think you are half right. I would bet back in ancient Rome, the homeowner would appeal to the spectators and they would all agree that Crassius is an asshole and he should put out the fire and if he won't, the homeowner should let it burn down as a point of principle. When the fire was over, the homeowner would be left with a pile of ash while the crowd would go home and know if their house was on fire, they would accept the first offer as it si easier to tell someone to stick to their principles rather than actually do it yourself. The reason why I think you are half right is that women are all deluded as they don't realise that all their houses are on fire and they all need to settle sooner rather than later. It is all still pride as they can't handle the idea that as time goes on, they are becoming less attractive

Women were the ones who decided to pick up the gun. Why should men be the ones to lower theirs? All it means is that women are rewarded for picking up their gun and pointing it at us.

@greenfinmusic5142

4 күн бұрын

To be fair, they didn't pick it up: it was put into their hands and duct taped there by the small group of ultra powerful men who are the controllers and puppeteers of our society, and who also brainwashed the woman since birth to hold the views they want her to hold. That group of men is intentionally doing this to disempower the lower classes of men and to further reduce and control the population. They want Western women to substitute 'the state' (controlled by those ultra elite men) in place of a man of their own. All of this is being done to further the agenda and personal power of that particular group of ultra powerful men; they pretend it's being done to 'save the world', but it's really being done to genocide the world so that the ultra powerful group can soon have it to themselves without any threat to their power. Basically, that ultra powerful group is waging war against their potential challengers, and they're using/manipulating women and low-tier men as weaponry against those potential challengers. It's not rocket science. They explicitly say they want a world of their own (with just a small slave class of mixed brown mutts remaining), which necessarily entails genociding the rest of us.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

Indeed, if time is on your side, what's the incentive to give up your win and take a loss instead? Once you have the income, the house, and accumulated wealth at 40 years old, you can then go ahead and get a fit and feminine 20 something from abroad. You are now finally in a position to provide for a full time housewife and mother in today's economy. So why provide for that 40 years old prideful, ungrateful American boss babe with a barren womb instead?

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Because most men are low value beta simps. Most men, because they are low value and have a scarcity mindset, will put the women on a pedestal in order to gain access into the sexual marketplace. However simping massively back fires on men when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later.

@gionaldori5811

4 күн бұрын

exactly, never forget that it is women that start the gender war. and men will, eventually, given enough time and motivation, win the gender war

@onward2727

4 күн бұрын

Brilliant. Agreed.

But the big question is what’re men getting from the deal ?? Men not only have to be attractive , they also have to be tall , charismatic, fun , and have resources while women just have pretty? So how’s this a good deal for males ??

@Besunica

4 күн бұрын

Men get a pretty woman. And hopefully some other nice attributes: feminine, tender, good in sex, good friend... That is actually what we want more than anything else in the world...

@Ideophagous

4 күн бұрын

Men just have to be confident and have their affairs in order. That includes things like good hygiene and mental health, as well as finances. The rest is sometimes just women shit testing you, to see if you'll lose confidence and start stuttering if they mention that you're short or fat or whatever. Make a joke about it and move on. Of course, the better you already handled your own shit, including past traumas and weaknesses, the better prepared you'll be for such situations. There are of course women who are totally turned off if you're not 6 foot tall and have tons of money and charisma, but those are rare, and if you get rejected by one of them, just move on.

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

Yes for the most part, but then there’s a level of physical attractiveness that will breakthrough all that height stuff.. In fact I’m only 5’8-5’9 and I have never once had a woman reject me for my height. Hell, when they see my face they forget about all that. They say things like: “You’re the best looking man I’ve seen around here in YEARS!!” “Mr Quick, you are a VERY nice looking man” “Wow, you are such a GREAT LOOKING GUY”! When I see men complaining about height, I know automatically that they are either: Facially challenged, overweight, have bad teeth or some combination of bad features that they have not addressed. Also, lots of men are not getting in the gym and looksmaxxing to the fullest extent. Finally, and this may seem contradictory but women lump things like height into the same category as looks bro! That’s why you see ugly men with HEIGHT with pretty women as well!

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

Yes for the most part, but then there’s a level of physical attractiveness that will breakthrough all that height stuff.. In fact I’m only 5’8-5’9 and I have never once had a woman reject me for my height. Hell, when they see my face they forget about all that. They say things like: “You’re the best looking man I’ve seen around here in YEARS!!” “Mr Quick, you are a VERY nice looking man” “Wow, you are such a GREAT LOOKING GUY”! When I see men complaining about height, I know automatically that they are either: Facially challenged, overweight, have bad teeth or some combination of bad features that they have not addressed. Also, lots of men are not getting in the gym and looksmaxxing to the fullest extent. Finally, and this may seem contradictory but women lump things like height into the same category as looks bro! That’s why you see below average looking men that have HEIGHT with pretty women as well!

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

Why KZread why??

What Orion is saying is 100% correct. The answer is for woman to adjust to fit the market place but they will not do that. What your really asking is for woman to change their ingrained belief system embedded in them from every cultural crap hole in western media. Almost no woman do this, they don't have to to survive so wont. Men self reflect and adapt because they have too to survive, Woman will watch the video and get mad, Perhaps 1% might understand and say, oh crap he is right but that would be a woman around 33 years old and realizing the facts of life are real. To bad this video could not be played in every high school health class.

@1Plebeian

4 күн бұрын

Yes. You reap what you sow. An inaccurate and terrible portrayal of the nature, past, and present of the two sexes was sold. Now the bill is coming due. You have to focus on telling a better story to NEW generations, because the damage has been done with the prior generations. This is a huge reason why family units are so important in successful cultures, you need NEW generations in order to have adaption occur. Start stretching out the time frames and you get an ossification of the old framework.

@payamism

4 күн бұрын

33? no, if a woman figures this out, she is perhaps in her 60s. Most women live a very delusional life.

@talleneagle1974

4 күн бұрын

They haven't got a clue, they'll say but i have men wanting to be with me multiple times a day i get hit on all the time i have so much value I've got a lot of men who want me. They never understand that the men are just trying to get laid and don't want to buy the cow anymore because the cow just keeps getting bigger and wanting more money or leaves you for no reason and takes half your stuff and the cow can never be happy.

@johngossett6928

3 күн бұрын

Nailed it! My lady left at age 33 to find a man who wants kids. Bye !

@PB_324

3 күн бұрын

😂😂😂 Men NEVER self reflect. Most of you are incapable of deep thought.

When 20-29 year old women of today hit 40-80, it’s going to be a glorious time for memes and videos. 😂

@yuriy5376

4 күн бұрын

Why these women specifically?

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

​@@yuriy5376previous generations of women got married and had children, at which their houses stopped burning. This generation kept burning until there's nothing left.

@AcaraDain

4 күн бұрын

@@yuriy5376Because they’re heavily in the social media-dependent and highly feminist segment of society. The ones most likely to get a huge shock that they were lied to about being desirable their whole lives.

@yuriy5376

4 күн бұрын

@@AcaraDain the social media part might be interesting to observe but a lot of today's 60-80-year olds were just as feminist in their 20s and 30s.

@merdog3190

4 күн бұрын

​@@yuriy5376not even close..my mother is one of those feminists but she had 3 children and tries to encourage her granddaughters to be independent, travel, and have a career. Men and women can look back and second guess how great their lives could have been to some extent but women have elevated it to an art form. They all have magical thinking.

Logic wins for men. Stay with your logic when dealing with women. Switch off your emotions

@bsdiceman

4 күн бұрын

what??

@LucasHLopez

4 күн бұрын

@@bsdiceman a newbie here hah

@Kim-vw4nx

4 күн бұрын

Men think they are logical . That’s why men do the things they like SA their own children , other ppls children,corpses , their patients in their dental and doctor offices and most recently on their actual surgery table 🤷🏽‍♀️.

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

Ladies, do the same. Eff your feelings and get that bag!!!

@sdmoore89

4 күн бұрын

Logic sounds good until you consider the comparison of a building to a human being. I don't think it's wise for the man or woman if the woman settles on the man because it's the best offer she could get at the time. That usually leads to the woman resenting the man and neither party being happy.

On the opposite side, for a lot of us men who have a lot to offer, especially in terms of assets and tangibles, the legal risks are too high. What’s in it for us? Women want the ultimate prize,(ring) but majority of the time break their oaths and still take you to court anyway, a territory where they know they’re bound to win. Doesn’t matter what women want for this demographic of men, until the laws change where we men get more protection and incentives, the deal with NEVER be good enough. The men who women desire the most, have the most to lose.

@carlospita6442

4 күн бұрын

I agree with you

@ripley7t429

4 күн бұрын

Yep, pays to be stealth in today's society as well. Keeps the gold-diggers away. The legal/social issues weighed against us will not be corrected in my lifetime. I choose to keep my earnings.

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

@@ripley7t429Facts! In fact this will never be corrected. It will burn until everything is destroyed. (Rome is burning to the ground)

@9avedon

4 күн бұрын

@@ripley7t429 That only works if your Chad !

@user-go7cl8vz5d

4 күн бұрын

if the house is not worth the ring. do not offer it. if the house is worth a relationship with benefits that doesn't jeopardize your assets, unrecognized by the state. make the offer. Its on them say no and watch it burn. I believe we need a lot more of these offers made to bring the market into check.

There are more girls turning 21 every day. Men can wait. It is what it is.

@levismirnoff5450

4 күн бұрын

This is only true if a man is high value though

@blastermaster7261

4 күн бұрын

​@@levismirnoff5450disagree, as things go further into the toilet economically, security becomes even more important and you don't need to be James Bond to be tough/armed.

@Guildofarcanelore

4 күн бұрын

@@levismirnoff5450 lots of women in Asia that already think you are high value and don’t have an inflated sense of their own worth.

@Moe_Posting_Chad

4 күн бұрын

@@Guildofarcanelore That's fake. There is no escaping to a fantasy land of expats. You're trying to outrun your problems, but you simply do not understand how utterly futile such behavior is.

@PlatiumBeats

4 күн бұрын

I agree with @levismirnoff5450 only works if you continue to work on self and improving in different life experience. Its delusional and weak for "men" to think you can sit on your ass and good women/high value women will be running to you, sure you might get some women but will they be the one's you were waiting for i doubt. Hight value men are not just going to disappear. People do not attract that which they Want, but that which they Are.

We've told a contemptuous, inaccurate story about the nature, history, and present day reality of the two sexes. It will take new generations that are being told a more accurate story to produce different outputs. You reap what you sow. There's no avoiding the fallout of the terrible story that was sold. There's just triage.

@VaronPlateando

3 күн бұрын

those generations won't come to be.

@garydrago

3 күн бұрын

Well put.

4:00 - 5:15 Dr. Orion tariban’s acting background making itself known

@DaddyShegz

4 күн бұрын

real talk

@ravazoid469

4 күн бұрын

My thoughts exactly

@marse7092

4 күн бұрын

Fantastic presentation here! Very entertaining to watch 😂

@icekills1

3 күн бұрын

Face expression is on point😄

@TheTrendDoctor

9 сағат бұрын

Glad someone else saw jt

I was 50 years old when I married an Alpha male who was 39 years old. We had a great time together but unfortunately he has passed away suddenly of a heart attack at 54 years old. So you see it is not only women's houses that are burning but also men's houses that are burning down' as men and women's body's decline over time. I don't feel particularly attracted to old men who don't look after themselves. So I too am attracted to the value of outer physical handsomeness. When I was young I dated older men because they were more mature and now that I'm older I like men who are a little younger. Youth health and beauty / handsomeness matter to both sexes. We all want to be loved and we all want to love someone of high value. I would argue that we do make rational decisions when we decide to let someone into our lives. We are not just biological selfish creatures that want the same things. This is just societal conditioning that we can unlearn. Women want this and men want that. Those are big generalizations. Does someone have a bias against women here? I am 66 years old and my value has increased with my age steadily over time. My body was weaker when I was younger. Now I am strong in my body. Might not be quite as childlike but the lines and wrinkles show wisdom and depth of character. Women are not dish rags that ware out. How insulting and obviously objectifying.! Your message is blind to what is real and true. Men don't just want sex and women don't just want commitment. That is what you are teaching here. People will believe you or not. Depending if they have a vested interest in doing so. Just some persuasive ideas. Really! You could say the opposite and make an argument for that. Say, women just want sex and men just want commitment for instance. That could become our new societal conditioning if repeated over and over again and we all believed it. You don't know much of anything and neither do I but I do know that. Pride and Self Love should not be confused. Ego identification when wrongly placed on the body as the self is at the core of this dilemma. Men and women can both work on there perceived societal value by caring for themselves' spiritually, emotionally and physically if they want to. But you can not become more valuable inherently because ultimately everyone has unlimited value and worthiness just the way they are. This never increases or declines. People love to love and be loved as time goes by and we want to "love, love before the dying of the light!" So there is some urgency and greater liveliness in the older men and women in my life. Know who you are and love yourself and all will be added.

@minakumari1515

Күн бұрын

I agree with you,,, I find it shocking that he is always reminding women to marry or get in a relation other wise their value biological timing sexual market or physical appearance will be lost,,,,wrapped in psychological terms and language to make it sound more authentic, he never tell men to do what right but rather tells women to do what men want from them, again in a very polite and psychologically preferred terms

@cynicist8114

Күн бұрын

It's biological, not social conditioning. You can't negotiate attraction.

@smetzgerful

8 сағат бұрын

“Alpha males” typically do not marry older woman. Have you landed another Alpha male?

@smetzgerful

8 сағат бұрын

@@minakumari1515he is not telling women to do what men want per se….my interpretation is he is helping men and woman understand their roles. In a dance, the man and woman each have a role to execute or the dance will be a flop. Relationships are no different. When roles are not understood and/or executed relationships are stressed.

@minakumari1515

8 сағат бұрын

@@smetzgerful in this video he is saying accept the proposal before the house burns....means Woman should accept low value relations sooner rather then later or else she would have to choose more lower value relation afterwards ...as ur age will increase biology clock clicks physical appearance decrease..so lower ur value now let go of pride of finding a value relation which u deserve or else u will be left alone like the burning house!

Men can't back down, otherwise we wouldn't be strong men. We just have to become the best version of ourselves, stay mission focused and women can either capitulate or continue to live a miserable life. No retreat, no surrender

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Try telling simps to hold the line. Simps can't help it, they have to put women on a pedestal. However it will ultimately back fire when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce.

@derwoodhamburger

4 күн бұрын

@marriagecausesdivorce7540 yes they add to the inflation, but those simps get ghosted and friendzoned eventually. Stay strong and play the long game

@VaronPlateando

3 күн бұрын

well... if xx.s sincerily come to cooperate, that doesn't imply capitulation, just some fundamental reason. the ones who opinionate differently in this are deliberately or just implicitly opting for doom. alright then, nothing to care for, be they gone. this is 'behavioral sink' trajectory in winter now, and xx.s won't make it out thereof either, i.e. 'future being female' won't happen.

@VaronPlateando

3 күн бұрын

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 they don't need to continue simping as long as can til doom, though. addictions can be mitigated, with will (and support) to do so.

@andrasbiro3007

3 күн бұрын

It's not a war, you know. With this attitude you'll die lonely too. That's a miserable life for you too.

Or there's another option, where women do sell, but are not happy about "settling for less," and proceed to treat the buyer like trash the rest of his life.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Wrong. She will divorce him after 10 years and take the money, house and kids.

@derwoodhamburger

3 күн бұрын

Pre-nup

Damn this video is top tier. It’s not even about whether they’re willing to watch their house burn though. It’s whether they’re willing to live with their lives after the house has burn. I don’t think women know what it truly means to be lonely like men do.

@tomyoung8563

4 күн бұрын

It does seem like men are better at the “will die alone” game

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

​​@@tomyoung8563That house builds slower but also burns far slower. Men can still have health children at 70, but 35 is geriatric pregnancy, at 40, it's over for 92% of women. "Die alone" lasts a few years for men, more than half a lifetime for women.

@ceeIoc

4 күн бұрын

Women have the highest rates of anti depressant use. They escape through continuous dopamine spikes via social media validation, alcohol and girls trips.

@M0viLover

4 күн бұрын

As Terrance Popp preaches: *40 to 80 is a loooooonnnngg time!!*

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Single women have loads of single women and divorced women friends. They are perfectly fine being single and childless. In fact, the % of single and childless women is expected to continue to increase going forwards. The only thing they will miss is male attention once they hit the wall.

Under 50 in Florida… I observe every widower inundated with casseroles from lonely widows. Takeaway: outlive your buddies

@nikeisagreekgoddess4135

4 күн бұрын

What for? Sloppy meat sandwiches? 😂

@davidr9589

4 күн бұрын

Tuna casserole? How many fishermen have had a hook in her mouth?

@base99498

4 күн бұрын

@@nikeisagreekgoddess4135 were you thinking of a more appetizing outcome? Embrace your fate 🤌🏼 don’t forget the young nurses everywhere looking to make ends meet 😉

@shawnmcdaniel435

4 күн бұрын

What for? To take on a 60+ year old dependant? No thanks.

They're right - we're not "good" any more. We spent our youth punished for being "good", while these women rewarded "bad" men. We learn from our mistakes.

@JS-pn5cn

4 күн бұрын

Exactly right. I don’t know many men who are inclined to take on the burden of a woman with relationship scars from the very men for whom she rejected him (or somebody like him) years before. Many of the men who were “good” didn’t or don’t even register as “men” in the first place to the average Western woman.

@Shifft-This

2 күн бұрын

@@JS-pn5cn It goes further than that. The women then expect those "good" men to help them "heal" all the scars they got by rejecting the "good" men in the first place.

@danofthedead1979

Күн бұрын

This is just unhealthy bitterness

@233kosta

Күн бұрын

@@danofthedead1979 Nah dude, it's my villain arc

I just sent a text to my partner to stop my house from burning down, and it worked. From a female fun. Thanks for your incredible advice 👏 ❤

@verb0ze

3 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@gabbyngu7956

3 күн бұрын

@verb0ze 😂😂😂 I had too even if I get it for a discount its better than ashes 😆. Are you from Ghana?

These days most men are not looking to buy a house, they just want to get a nice house for free and use it until the best years are gone and the house is worth next to nothing, whilst, women wants to focus on career and be financially independent so they don't even need to sell their house 😂

That's a powerful idea I'm sure most women will refuse.

"None of it is my fault" -- Woman

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

Oh wow cuz that's EXACTLY what Men are saying!!!

@ZappyOh

4 күн бұрын

@@summersday7894 Well, ultimately all of it is men's fault, as we allowed women to vote, work and have bodily autonomy. So, in some sense you are right. Men is 100% to blame, and women just got drunk on free power.

@leyenda6149

4 күн бұрын

Iss all Jermaine fault!

@omerkaya8243

4 күн бұрын

​@@summersday7894 Because it's the fault of the men who women admire the most, 80% of men are invisible to women.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Accountability and apologizing is their kryptonite.

I’m 44, healthy, fit, beautiful, successful, I have awesome interests and hobbies, I love adventure… I haven’t met a healthy man who I feel attracted to. I’m not settling for either. I’ll be a solitary mystic healer + jiu jitsu blackbelt in my old age. I have a daughter and grand children already, I have retirement savings building. I don’t know what it would take for me to settle.

@glennlgg6871

3 күн бұрын

How did you get your daughter? 😂 And if you are totally disinterested in a relationship, why are you here? I am for the evolutionary psychology and the cognitive dissonance of many people.

@paulocl2

2 күн бұрын

Good for you 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The Roman forces were decisively defeated at Carrhae by the Parthian general Surena Crassus attempted to negotiate his retreat, but during the parley, a scuffle broke out, leading to his capture and death. Accounts of his death vary, with one particularly vivid and perhaps apocryphal tale stating that the Parthians killed him by pouring molten gold down his throat as a symbolic punishment for his greed. The defeat at Carrhae was one of Rome’s worst military disasters, and Crassus’s death marked the end of the First Triumvirate, altering the power dynamics within the Roman Republic. This event paved the way for the subsequent conflicts between Caesar and Pompey, ultimately leading to the end of the Roman Republic and the rise of the Roman Empire.

@immortaljanus

4 күн бұрын

Historically accurate. Not important to this discussion though.

@LucasPawlik

4 күн бұрын

@@immortaljanus wait and see Remember it is the end of the metaphor :-)

@user-rj4xl5bl2s

4 күн бұрын

Ok your supposition is that women and men nowadays are not desperate to marry. It could very well be argued that most people value themselves too high in terms of what they have to offer in a relationship. If they are not desperate to marry why would a woman take a low offer. Many older or plainer women have more to offer in other areas than physical looks. They have a maturity of what the world is like and how things proceed, they may own a house, a car, and have a good paying job. Or they may have the most important gift to bring to a relationship with a man: peace and joy. A beautiful woman in your home is not necessarily a happy, peaceful person. What determines that gift is the woman herself. Find someone with those qualities and she will look better and better to you as you compare your life to your miserable neighbor who went for a beautiful but miserable woman. Now that’s a real Burning House waiting to happen.

@XristosArgyropoulos

4 күн бұрын

​@@user-rj4xl5bl2s Quite bold to assume that an old woman has any of the virtues you described Usually they become resentful and bitter as they age alone Also her higher body count is a big problem for any relationship Her house is on fire and the value goes down not only on looks Her good paying job is of no concern, after all: "her money is her money, but his money is OUR money" Also women with money don't want a useless 500$ bag They want a useless 5000$ Gucci bag It's harder to keep them happy

@LucasPawlik

4 күн бұрын

@@user-rj4xl5bl2s I am never sure; are you a chatbot? I never met a woman who was happy for long. There a few exceptions

What a perfect analogy! Can't wait to hear this one.

I’m glad I found you. My intention is to think out of the box ( different, open minded) and be knowledgeable in terms of understanding men better. I love your anecdotes, this one makes sense, unfortunately social media is trying to convince women to be prideful , and not accepting the bare minimum and bla bla . I’m just here learning and trying to not to be brainwashed. Thank you 🙏🏽

@awsambdaman

4 күн бұрын

A woman who has lowered her gun (or maybe you never had it raised in the first place)! Props to you, if you seek to understand how men think you’ll have much better relationships. Here’s to hoping you get yourself a good one.

@erendiraperez9455

4 күн бұрын

@@awsambdaman Thank you for sharing. It is not easy when you hear to do the opposite, but I am very open to learn.

@dekev7503

4 күн бұрын

@@erendiraperez9455I wish you all the best honey

@rhenriksen

4 күн бұрын

It's so refreshing to hear from a woman like yourself! You've found a great channel to follow. Best of luck to you. There are two things I've learned to require from a woman: a willingness to take accountability when appropriate, and the capacity & willingness to apologize. Adopt those two things, and men will see you as a unicorn.

@erendiraperez9455

4 күн бұрын

@@rhenriksen I appreciate it! I will take your suggestions into account. I like to be responsible for my actions and apologize when is necessary . We are humans at the end of the day we make mistakes, but it is never too late to learn. My intention is to be compassionate , understandable, respectful . Slowly I am learning.

" Let go of the past to save your future

WAIT for nothing! I will just remain single and happy! ❤

@andrasbiro3007

3 күн бұрын

Until your house burns to the ground. And there will be you homeless and moneyless.

Even if they sell the house for 50% off, they will be resentful for the rest of their lives, and this is not an ideal relationship for both.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

No one will pay more than 50%, because no one else can put out the fire. 70 years ago, a woman is grateful that a man picked her for marriage, because she lives in the real world, where women's expiration date runs out fast. Today, she thinks she's settling, because she's delusional.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Wrong. She will divorce him after 10 years and take the money, house and kids.

These series make me realise women are at a really bad disadvantage when it comes to dating, time. Something that can't be earned back or recovered from.

@TheAustrianPainter87

4 күн бұрын

They'll always be on the loosing end of the sex games

@october3rd213

4 күн бұрын

@@TheAustrianPainter87 that's why its better to not participate, afterall, a married woman will still turn old.

@rahfx5485

4 күн бұрын

Not true at all. They are only at a disadvantage when they choose to be. The problem women have is they work against themselves, both at an individual and collective level in dating. If women would not give up casual sex at a collective level, and waiting for marriage was the norm, the only disadvantage they face when they are young and at smv peak would be gone.

@stean90

4 күн бұрын

No, both men and women are bound to time. The thing is, while men have to use their time to build up the house, women get it owned from the start and most let it rot in the modern western world, instead of hireing a man that helps them keep it in shape.

@adamasher7301

4 күн бұрын

They dont have any disadvantage unless they decide they want to be disadvantaged. They are wanted without having to do anything, all they have to say is "yes" to one guy before hitting the wall...

Hold the Line! Nothing is in favor of men in Western countries. There are BETTER CHOICES overseas.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.

@marktapley7571

4 күн бұрын

Women are the same everywhere. Only difference is economic conditions and that is being watered down by more choices coming in.

@2coffinfuneral486

3 күн бұрын

@@marktapley7571 I say that all the time put a dollar in their pockets and see

@emmanuelbamidele6968

3 күн бұрын

Everything happening elsewhere is actually going global, women are fundamentally the same, just localized cultures keep them in check or not.

@trachenismail4508

2 күн бұрын

I am not from the West. And don t be fooled, we have the same problems here or even worse.

Stay strong! And do not settle men! Modern women ain't worth it!

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Hold the line gents. Simping will back fire long term. You will end up losing your money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.

@user-wf7sl7sw8k

4 күн бұрын

If other wealthier men is growing your kids isn't it better start for them?

The one caveat I’m not going to bypass here is the assumption that time brings a woman’s value down only. There are a plethora of factors that bring a man’s value down over time, so please let’s stop the women’s value is always down narrative. Also, just like any commodity, if you invest in yourself so your value increases over time, you will not have to participate in the “stand off”.

@CX0909

Күн бұрын

You request a stop to the narrative that a woman's value goes down over time… Right after saying that there are many reasons why a man's value goes down over time. That attitude, right there, is precisely why men are throwing their hands up in the air and quitting. We are exhausted and furious with the narrative that women and children and pets are loved unconditionally yet men are only loved for what they can give. Our lives, as proven by data and statistics, are shorter and our rates of depression, anxiety, homelessness, and suicide are profoundly higher than that of women. Why do you think that is??? And if your answer is some bile filled misandrist devaluation of men then you still don't get it.

@SchittStane-c4t

Күн бұрын

True, attractiveness for both men and women decline as they age. But, men acquire resources, money, wisdom, etc. as they age, which can make up for the loss of attractiveness. The same is not true for women - most women base their lives upon their looks, so they don't acquire many resources or wisdom as as they age. It's the opposite case, women acquire psychological issues, ego, a repulsive promiscuous past, entitlements, and so on. So overall, women's value declines sharply after their looks fade simply because they have little else to offer men personality wise due to living a life of superficial physical vanity.

If men only seem to want sex without commitment, is it because they've either had it before or they've seen others get sex without commitment and they want the same? Does sex without commitment incentivize dysfunctional relationships because sex can be seen as a reward and it is rewarding poor behavior?

@tigerbear3038

3 күн бұрын

To a man, what comes with commitment is often getting his wallet milked dry. Women always talk about needing to feel safe but men need to feel safe. But the safety that men and women seek are different. Women may need to feel physically and emotionally safe while a man often seek financial safety. If a woman wants commitment from a man, one thing she can do is to make him feel she’s not just after his resources. Even if a woman is a gold digger, the smartest thing she can do is make herself appear like she’s not after his money and that includes not allowing him to pay for everything and being spoiled by him. If a woman is capable of being patient and play the long game, she can win over any woman that shows up immediately demanding a man lavish her and pay for all her stuff

A crass business model of Crassus, But he sure made a lot of cashus. 😂😂😂

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

Love it!👏

@gerhardvanderpoll7378

3 күн бұрын

Be Crassus, have casus and pay by the hour as the hours go by,to always have freshes fishes on the menu...

Problem is women can't afford to wait because they are on a time clock., Tik Tok, Tik Tok. 😂😂😂

@abardarian

4 күн бұрын

lol TIkTok

@summersday7894

4 күн бұрын

And yet, they are waiting. Either become a better Man or We won't have anybody to wait tables in 20 yrs.

@awsambdaman

4 күн бұрын

summersday7894 Pride is a woman’s worst enemy huh. I agree that men can be better in a lot of ways..but choosing to be prideful is not the way to incentivize men. Appreciate men, love men, support men, and they will give you leaps and bounds in return

@PolishBehemoth

4 күн бұрын

​@@summersday7894You sound really arrogant and negative. A majority of waiters are female. So im not sure what your poimt was with that statement. And also women need to get better and the fact you dont call that out shows you ha eno idea etf youre talking about.

@Jimmy-gl8cs

4 күн бұрын

@@PolishBehemoth She sounds so bitter lol.

Yes sir, if you take out the laws, you are totally correct. Yet we live in a world of laws and the laws make any longer term solutions between the common man and the common woman impossible. Not only is the marriage contract unconscionable, relationship laws from Scandinavia to Australasia have made defacto marriage and even long term relationships (without living with each other) now equally penalised as a 'relationship divorce.' Their is no legal, commercial or financial incentive for women to change and thier is even less for men to accept judicial kamakazi doomed relationships. I know you try with genuine sincerity however, the meritorious talented 20% of men women find attractive have nothing to offer the common man.

@levismirnoff5450

4 күн бұрын

If you live in a country with common law marriage you have to consider moving.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

Marriage rate in France is now down to 3%.

@pro5702

3 күн бұрын

@@georgedang449Is this a real statistic?

I'm widowed from an excellent human being. We both served in the military and most of our adult life until his passing had been in service. My husband and I both went to college and did very well for ourselves and our children. I'm still raising our kids. I've have lived in 10 states and 2 foreign countries. American men tend to be the most narcissistic. I dated on the insistence of his bf. It was the worst mistake I have ever made. I know the quality of men do NOT exist in my age. Divorced men are divorced for a reason. The amount of entitled behavior and lack of EQ is VERY prevalent in dating in all ages. Men still feel entitled to holding onto old patronizing behavior. It's so bad out here, I've had to relearn cluster b personality types that I learned from my psyc degree!! The reality is I never needed my husband, we had a partnership because our military backgrounds enabled that. No one needs anyone to make it in life... you need community. Women are tired of raising other people's kids(men) because they settle. I rather stay widowed and alone🥰

@AfriqueNY

4 күн бұрын

I get your point. I think the men most women find attractive have harems and rotations and therefore don't need women either. Hence standoff. This is for those who do want a healthy relationship.

@teefrankenstein4340

3 күн бұрын

Funny, I think the total opposite of you. Most women act narcissistic, don’t seem to really understand men or care for their well-being, and most that are divorced are divorced for a reason and men are tired of taking care of their children from other men. I guess the standoff will continue, our birthrates will continue to fall, we will take in more immigrants to make up the difference, and we will all be worse off in the long-run.

The standoff will not resolve itself. Supply and demand doesn't fix it. In China there is both a massive surplus of men and a large contingent of "leftover women". China is also culturally more conservative so culture isn't likely to fix the issue. Also, there is going to be a huge psychological hangover from all this. There's a concept called inequity aversion that's going to make both men and women unlikely to want to transact in the sexual and relationship marketplace. Both men and women have both realized that relationships suck for them. What they don't understand is that relationships suck for both sides of the transaction.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Facts. A lot of children from the 1990s have seen their parents get divorced and the fallout from all of that. Why would these children (who are now adults) want to take the risk. The juice is not worth the squeeze.

@a-t5380

4 күн бұрын

Ever so often I read a comment and I’m just so impressed with the writing and thought process of the person who posted it. This is one of those comments. I’d love for you to go into deeper detail. I feel the same exact way without the skill and ability to formulate it into words

@Lex_Lugar

4 күн бұрын

Great comment. Every relationship is different though and I feel the generalizations happening on youtube are more poisoning younger (under 32) men who are already bitter and women are largely unaffected.

@nelsonzambrano5788

3 күн бұрын

The difference is that in China, there's alot of social pressure for people to use common sense..The "left over women" are the ones that got bamboozled by the Western idea of "success" - They've got families, that were telling them all along "You're barking up the wrong tree" - The massive surplus of Men, they can always do things to increase their value (again that social pressure), but women quickly lose value, at least from the desirability aspect - While those Men that focus on improving their value will increase. -

@andrasbiro3007

3 күн бұрын

China is a completely different can of worms in every way. No relevance to western issues. And no, relationship doesn't suck for both. That's just another propaganda from modern snake oil sales man. But with this attitude you are guaranteed to fail.

Acting in a manner that hastens the most optimal outcome in a situation does not equal settling for men who don’t meet my standards. I’m optimistic but unwilling to settle for unhealthy unhappy or unattractive men. My happiness is not reliant on my finding a good man. How is what I said denial? Do you know me? Is it possible you’re projecting?

@cheekymonkeygirl3378

Күн бұрын

Well said. ❤

@rahulterwade

20 сағат бұрын

I can say so much but I wouldn't as I know it will fall on deaf ears. God help those who help themselves. If you're not willing to change for your own betterment cause it conflicts with your beliefs which are the reason for your mental illness.

Telling women to "settle" is against their rule book. And if they do settle, expect higher divorce rates. However that strategy is not a total loss for the women, because they get to walk away with half your stuff.

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

They act like time is on their side instead of on men's. Why is that?

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

I lost 70% in my UK divorce. Losing 70% is also common in USA divorces. For example, if there is a $100k marital pot, it would get split 50-50 in the States, but the judge could get the husband to pay her 10k for lump sum alimony and 10k for ex-wife's legal fees, so the split would be $70k to her and $30k to him. I'm not sure why people keeping saying men only lose 50%???

@marse7092

4 күн бұрын

@@georgedang449because they are biologically wired to only love and appreciate pets and the top 10% men. Better to be alone than stuck with a loser.

@Lex_Lugar

4 күн бұрын

You’re right and as good as this video is, it just speaks to bitter male fantasy. Women are not going to change their biology because of a youtube video LOL

@johnroberts3824

4 күн бұрын

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 They lose 50% of all assets, and then there's alimony on top of that. The 50% number comes from the asset split, not including alimony. For me, I lost 50% of everything, plus another $70K lump sum alimony payment. Not all divorces have alimony. If there are no kids and wife has a decent career, she may not qualify for alimony.

I’m fortunate enough to be an excellent shape and 60. I’ve worked out regularly most of my adult life and also do yoga fortunate because I do get many offers and I’m not willing to settle just to settle and if my house does start to burn, I have good insurance.

@paulocl2

2 күн бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@bruhhhhh718

8 сағат бұрын

bro have u looked at ur picture?

There are MANY people who are addicted to the Mexican stand off. Like counting winning strikes. Men and women. And after the stand off ends , they are moving to the next one. This is some serious content for a video. Thank you for this video.

I tried to sell at a perceived loss, but my boyfriend, after 2 years, said he never wants to get married. I'm cutting loose so I can find a man who is willing to buy.

@AfriqueNY

4 күн бұрын

Why cut loose? What's the point of getting married?

@2coffinfuneral486

3 күн бұрын

@@AfriqueNY how else can she get his money?

@AfriqueNY

3 күн бұрын

@@2coffinfuneral486 I'm sure she would tell you that she doesn't need or want his money. That's literally what every woman nowadays says.

@AfriqueNY

3 күн бұрын

I really want to know why you require marriage? Do you want to start a family?

@a.d.b535

2 күн бұрын

@@AfriqueNY No. I am well past that, but want to share my life with someone in a mutual support relationship. The merry go round of new people is old and shallow, not to mention, pointless

It is not really a standoff since all men have to do is wait unless God take the man. What men want from women always benefit women at the end, unless she falls on a bad man. But what women want from men always benefit themselves.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.

Poor mentality . We are not on fire. Glad that there are adequate men around .

Fookin brilliant analogy chief!

With a house that's been burning for a while, adding layers of special paint, or injecting voluminous amounts of insulation, or remodeling the bathroom, etc. are maybe not the best strategies.

My house burned to the ground before I had a choice and now I'm rebuilding it from the ground up, but women can't see the efforts in rebuilding. They only see something that isn't completed. Maybe it is just my age, but I don't care what they think anymore and I'm building it exactly how I want it. That way everything I have rebuilt benefits my children and me.

@derwoodhamburger

4 күн бұрын

They only focus on what ISN'T there, not what's right in front of them. It's part of their solipsism

@musicalfringe

4 күн бұрын

You expressed my attitude perfectly. I realised the other day that I'm just not interested in assessing myself by their standards any more.

my take away as a lady is I should not put myself in crisis. Keep my house safe from fire and assess offers (within appropriate time period) for my unburn house and choose the best offer. Without the crisis situation one may get a low offer but an honest and well intentioned offer unlike when ones in crises. After the sell I got the money from the offer and I get to continue to live in the house but with the new owner.

@mnml

3 күн бұрын

My IQ dropped about 20 points after reading the stupidity that you wrote

Orion, I am taking steps to be a good partner to a man and I want something healthy. I just keep running into bitter angry people. It is hard to stay hopeful. I appreciate the videos and effort to have a middle ground.

@Cedartreetechnologies

Күн бұрын

I think you need a new YT name. The existing one makes men think "boxwine". Just sayin.

8:14 "a lot of interesting and important attributes go unnoticed when unpaired with physycal attractiveness" I think this also applied to me as a man. Most of my best features wnet unnoticed because I can't get a foot in the door (speking in past tense because I'm not even trying anymore) When searching for a serious relationship, you might be right... but only to a certain extend. Physical appearance has become way to important for both sexes.

@autarko

4 күн бұрын

That's what I was thinking. Imo, it's women who are more obsessed about men's looks than the other way around.

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

@@autarko You know what, I honestly think it has always been this way to some degree at least. Women are far more superficial than men are

@deedeeh3206

4 күн бұрын

@@autarkoyep! Take it from a woman with her own career and own money-we want someone who legit turns us on… it takes sex appeal for that. Men want the same. And… I’m willing to say most men aren’t maintaining themselves just to end up like Johnny Depp, used and abused in horrible ways.

@musicalfringe

4 күн бұрын

It's become too important because basic self-care has become so rare. I don't demand a supermodel, just someone reasonable-looking who's capable of regulating their body weight.

@mrquick6775

4 күн бұрын

@@autarko Facts!

Remember gentlemen, marriage is oppressive to women. Don't be the oppressor. Don't marry.

If (wo)men are happy enough being single, then what's the problem. The true issue is being honest to yourself. What do you really want and what is the highest acceptable price? After that, live with your choices.

This is a tactic which expanded, not the other. Only now it's international, common practice, and not the just individuals involved.

Relationships shouldn’t be a game. Good men don’t need sex right off the bat…. They want to get to know you. Just ask my new husband…. He didn’t put moves on me…. Weird I thought…. Eventually we had sex after getting to know each other. I asked him why he didn’t put the moves on me…. He said he wanted more than just a physical relationship. He had a high count…. He was used to getting casual sex from others. Interesting.

@teefrankenstein4340

3 күн бұрын

Lots of men are like your husband, I am, most women do know or understand this.

Yet another great video Orion, thank you. It’s highlighted an uncomfortable truth for me though, as a man in one of these relationships, the analogy of Crassus makes me realise that, as you put it, my “business practices are not exactly scrupulous.” It does feel a bit exploitative, and I’d much prefer it if there wasn’t this stand off.

That's what marriage is, fighting in a burning house.

@marriagecausesdivorce7540

4 күн бұрын

Marriage is actually the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the wife. The whole thing is a legalized scam.

@2coffinfuneral486

3 күн бұрын

bro your comment though! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I think the anecdote might work out in different ways. In the story, it looks like Crassus has a monopoly on extinguishing fires. This means he dictates the price. This is not the case now. In the current, dating marketplace, by analogy, some men would gladly put out the fire and rebuild the whole building, for the idea/illusion that maybe one day, the property will be theirs. The owners are aware of that. The owners could also make a proposal for the potential rescuer, to share everything that is inside the house, in case the house is saved. The house is empty, though. By removing the monopoly aspect, by setting this story in a fuller context, we end up with a completely different ending, where in some cases, the owners can actually turn their disaster into profit. Finally, what we have today - the city council - seeing the increasing number of disgruntled former house owners, took the matter into their own hands and founded a city-sponsored fire brigade. The owners seem to be happy.

Meh, I'd rather be alone than deal with any of this

I think hoemath does a better job of explaining the dynamic and it won’t change as long as women earn the same or more than men. Also urbanization always produces less kids throughout history and we’re more urbanized than ever. If we define relationships between men and women as a shakedown (that’s what Crassus did) we are definitely doomed. Yes, Orion has rational points, but we don’t live rationally (which is okay) in every way, so if this is the dynamic presented to women no wonder they would rather get a career than a man who is seeking to do as little as possible for you.

Women, generally, start off life with a grand inheritance and squander it assuming their resources are limitless because they do not understand how it feels to be wanting. For those relative few who don't, you now know what life is like as an average man but you do have the disadvantage of still having a countdown timer.

True. As men are now increasingly aware that they are being used for money and a family if a woman who would not have considered them at 22 suddenly is all over them at 32, those offers are not just falling in value over time... they are increasingly becoming no bids because it is better to be alone than a second (or 22nd) choice.

I've completely given up. 35 years, never had a relationship. It will make me sad, but it's totally pointless to find a woman today, it is just not possible for the average man, that's almost a fact. This society is not made for the average person.

@jimgoplayoutsideable

4 күн бұрын

Hahahaha Imagine if you had a relationship And lost everything Sad doesn't even come close to describing that But, time is on your side Passport can help tremendously And, giving up might actually help you stop getting in your own way

@calebz5890

4 күн бұрын

Society is average. Plenty of average people in relationships and having kids. It’s only impossible if you believe it is.

@Besunica

4 күн бұрын

These stories make me sad. Never been to the USA, but the dating culture seems really terrible there. This all stands true for Europe, but to a little lesser extent than the US apparently...

@anthonywilliams855

4 күн бұрын

Go to another tribe of women the culture has already destroyed theses set......

@georgedang449

4 күн бұрын

​@@calebz5890 It's possible, abroad. Get your passport.

Wow! All women need to hear this!

@nelsonzambrano5788

3 күн бұрын

finally!

In the analogy the homeowners should not sell to the extortist at all.

@user-im6ru3wx9t

Күн бұрын

Really? 🫤 I hate extortionists but, REALLY? Don't be reflexive & really THINK about IT.......& then what, BUTTERCUP? [all up in your self righteous indignation with kids to feed & Winter coming on] 🙁

But, women aren't just holding on to their pride they are holding on to their jobs ( as more women are entering the workforce), their money ( or the illusion of it), girls trips, their freedom and because there are more and more singles in their late 20s, 30s and 40s they can take refuge in the fact that while they are single they're not on their own island ,so to speak, they have other women who have chosen to go it alone, as well. So my question is how does this all end, considering shifting perception that women are the ones working and young men are all living in their "Mother's basements?"

I wish you do a video for showing mans logical-faults like this one, so we can learn about ourselves. Much love

@amandaharris7205

4 күн бұрын

Blaming others always gets more views than taking responsibility. 🤷‍♀️

@airmann4673

4 күн бұрын

He has a lot of videos towards men. If you watch his videos you would know that once he makes a video toward one group he then makes one for the other groups.

@airmann4673

4 күн бұрын

@@amandaharris7205 his videos does not blame others. If you actually listen, he gives logical reasoning for the way things are. He doesn’t even really give advice. He allows the listener to follow their own course of practice or beliefs. He just tells us what he believes the most logical outcome.

@seanfobbs7575

4 күн бұрын

@@amandaharris7205What would be the responsibility of the men in this here standoff

@richien8472

4 күн бұрын

​@@amandaharris7205Factual comment here but under the comment of a man asking another man to point out his flaws so he can learn (something women never do) is the wrong place for it

Really enjoy your storytelling and your gift of making the complex simple. Your content is unmatched, thanks for putting words to the current dilemma of modern dating.

Orion brought the HEAT in this video! That analogy was FIRE. This guy really explains intersexual dynamics in a way that only a handful can.

I was hoping to hear more about the devaluation of “commitment.” Isn’t it practically meaningless?

But a man wants to get laid now, not a few years later when he's had a pay rise and accumulated some savings. He can only "win" if there are other women who take OT's advice, otherwise the stanndoff remains

@chipsteve

4 күн бұрын

You're leaving our prostitution, which gives him that now for the price of dinner & wine in a nice restaurant.

@upstar21t

3 күн бұрын

Ezgortz are a thing, ya know.

@SmileyEmoji42

3 күн бұрын

@@upstar21t If that works for you then why are you even bothering to watch these videos?

@upstar21t

3 күн бұрын

@@SmileyEmoji42 I'm just saying, if it gets that bad, men might wanna consider that, no ill intent or anything.

Men earn. Men conserve. Women like to spend. Men have money. Women, not much. Now GDP is an indicator of money supply and money velocity. How to increase the money supply and money velocity? You know the answer.

@armandaneshjoo

4 күн бұрын

Men do earn. Men do not conserve. Men promise firefighters, then let the people's house burn down. Men build empires of ash. If I was a woman, I'd strive for a job, not marriage.

@wtfuredead

4 күн бұрын

give it to women? (sorry if i'm not the smartest cookie)

@edheldude

4 күн бұрын

Women control over half of the wealth in the US

@awsambdaman

4 күн бұрын

Yeah something that never gets mentioned in male-female relationships is how much a man increases a woman’s wealth. Practically any relationship a woman gets into, the man earns more and thus increases the woman’s wealth. Women complain about all the chores in a relationship but I never hear anyone mention this: MEN MAKE WOMEN RICHER. Can’t replace a provider

@armandaneshjoo

4 күн бұрын

@@awsambdaman Women don't need men. They can work and earn money.

1:30 No, we’re ok staying single until we take a nap underground, not waiting for a better deal, just resigned to the fact that there is no deal to be had.

A beautiful analogy, thank you Orion.

What if women are building their homes to be fireproof? Many women are redefining the norm, embracing single motherhood, financial independence, and adopting more masculine lifestyles. This might not be true for all women, but I doubt most women feel their homes are “on fire” these days. Even if that were the case, you would end up with a resentful and contemptuous woman. I don’t think any of those people who sold their burning houses would have befriended Crassus.

@incassable

Күн бұрын

the house is your attractiveness on the dating market, not your complete individuality. Note that it is also true for men, but we age slower, and we can compensate with money/status/skills, and guess what, they tend to increase with time. so yeah, you can embrace single motherhood, but it means you have put yourself out of the dating market (unless you really enjoy situationships and casual sex, good for you then)

Intense stuff Orion. Bitter medicine is most healing though.

I am sorry but that title is Movie Level !!! I can imagine a full serie on it with multiple subtopics 💯

Things are changing now with our consciousness awakening and our reactions not merely based on our evolutionary programming. A match/connection is less of a "trade/exchange" based on only superficial things like appearance and more of a mutual merger at an equal level based on holistic, comprehensive suite of character traits that includes intelligence and spiritual maturity etc. Perhaps a good topic for a future flog.

@jimgoplayoutsideable

4 күн бұрын

I used to think that way So far, all I found is that I was kidding myself Even the most spiritually aware women are still women They will speak all kinds of wisdom... and then turn around and act like a materialistic child... and then giggle. Planetary consciousness is estimated to be around an 8-9 yo girl (earth being female). So what can we really expect? Just have fun seems to be the order of the day. Get you some muscles and enjoy the attention.

You need a crisis point to occur for this to get rolling, otherwise most women would actually be pretty content just remaining alone.

This is AMAZING!!! This guy is incredible.

The problem with his analogy is that women are not the least bit concerned with their house burning down. Through social media, peer pressure, and government programs, they're actively cheering the burning down of their own house because they find it exciting.

The best analogy I've ever heard. Well done sir 👏

As a man I will never put my gun down first. Why should I, when I have maximum leverage compared to females?(ie. mortgage free house, physical fitness, car, no debt and loads of equity, access to 20-year old females).

I love the grounded reality of this channel!!! *Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $15,000 weekly returns has been life changing. AWESOME GOD* ❤️

@Janeoooo225

3 күн бұрын

I feel sympathy and empathy for our country, low income earners are suffering to survive, and I appreciate Wayne. You've helped my family with your advice. imagine investing $30,000 and receiving $95,460 after 28 days of trading.

@America500

3 күн бұрын

I'm in a similar situation where should I look to increase income? Do you have any advice? What did you do ? Thank you

@ValentinaYepes-tj2eo

3 күн бұрын

Well I engage in nice side hustles like inves'ting, and the good thing is I do it with one one of the best(Michael Wayne), he's really good!

@Brook_589

3 күн бұрын

Did someone just mention Mr Wayne!? Damn! You just made my day; what a coincidence.. I've worked with him for over 2years and I can tell how good he is

@foralluser6525

3 күн бұрын

It's great to see you guys talking about Michael Wayne, This man changed the game for me. Good Man ❤

Women's houses might be burning down, but even so a lot of men are only offering Legendary Creature cards from Magic The Gathering. It's a non starter.

@cynicist8114

Күн бұрын

Men are looking around at the quality of women they have access to and choose to play games instead. Men don't need a lot of money to survive. They only need it to start a family.

Dr Orion Taraban strikes again! The anecdote and the explanation just made so much sense, joined together effortlessly like the right puzzle piece. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀Legend!

Can you make a video explaining the difference between pride and ego?

@JJ-wi2uw

3 күн бұрын

Pride is an expression of ego.

The answer it's a passport. I'm trying Thailand first and Philippines later.

@michaelh6551

4 күн бұрын

As someone who survived a disastrous marriage to a Filipino, my advice is this. Find someone with a proven work ethic, preferably from a middle class family. Lazy women from poor families looking to marry a foreigner will throw themselves at you, but you will be entering a world of trouble.

@legiontepes3474

4 күн бұрын

@@michaelh6551 i don't believe they are all saints. Just less demanding. I'll take my time and vet like I've done in my country EU.

@upstar21t

3 күн бұрын

That won't work longterm, since the men from those countries will then have no women, causing a massive backlash towards foreigners. A ticking time bomb.

Freaking brilliant, damn! I've heard snippets of this reasoning over the years, you nailed it for clarity and effect! Bravo Sir!