One thing I did that helped me when my son was small is everytime he cried or screamed and we couldn't get him to stop, I thought about people who had lost their children. I felt the feeling of absolute loss and the overwhelming desire to have your child return. I put myself in the mind of those parents for a moment... My son's cries became like music to my ears and I appreciated every moment, I learned to embrace the chaos as a moment in time that I will never get back. I embraced every moment as the most precious moment of my life and I consciously slowed down time by not being too busy or do too much, but instead focused on the sounds, the sun in his hair, the smells - simple but beautiful things. I had heard so many parents say that kids grow up so fast and before you know it they're gone, and I didn't want that experience. The chaos became a blessing to me, and it also shifted my son's energy to be very calm, possibly because he sensed the calm in me and also felt no need to demand my attention. He felt loved and seen. Also if you can go out in nature that helps too. For this reason I feel like my son's 11 years of life has lasted 5 times the length, and I treasure every moment. I hope this helps someone 🙏🏼

@paulaandreaocampomoncada4470

5 ай бұрын

Oh My God this is just what I need to hear 😥❤️🎆, thank you very much for sharing that message 🙌🏻🌟

@gibbethoskins8621

5 ай бұрын

@@paulaandreaocampomoncada4470 My pleasure 🙏🏽🤍

@Vesswall

5 ай бұрын

Beautifully said

@jennifers.798

5 ай бұрын

I can feel your love. My experience is the same. And throughout the years, my patience and presence have grown tremendously. Our kids are the best teachers.

@oldlobo5654

5 ай бұрын

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"Not to be confrontational with this moment." That is simple yet monumental. I know no one personally who lives that. I aspire to.

Welcome to the life of parenting. Just breathe and stop trying to control everything. We have 3 kids, each 3 yrs apart. This is what helps me.

Kids usually manifest their parents' obvious, hidden or supressed emotions. Just looking in that mirror helps to see ourselves ❤

As a play therapist I agree with your guidance and would like to add that playing with your children can calm them and help create a better relationship.

😂❤ She will miss this one day. My children are 17 and 21 now. Don't worry Mom. Don't judge yourself for being tired or for being happy day is over. You have needs too and good that they realize this, but also Imagine yourself to be an old lady in reality and you have traveled back to this moment on a time machine and this is the last moments you will have with them. ❤😂 It's always this moment and it all goes by really fast. Over stated because it's so true 😂

Great pointers there, Eckhart. Thank you so much. Life would be so harmonious if only parents could realize the same 'innocence' in themselves that they see in their children. The children are asking us to be children again. It is a golden opportunity for us to uncover our true nature. 🙏

@rickyyo215

5 ай бұрын

Well said. Thank you.

My father was one of those "unconscious" parents that got furious I when knocked over a glass of milk at the dinner table. It brings a knot to my stomach thinking about it right now, and that was 50 years ago. Be careful to exercise caution when situations like these arise, so as to be the best possible example to your children, so they will react likewise with their children.

I have all my sympathies with her as a mother of hyperactive 5yr old twins.

This was so thorough and wonderful. He tackled the advice from all angles, and I sympathize with her already with only one son.. Having the father only come home at 8 pm is very rough. The saying is "it takes a village to raise a child" stands because it is so true, and she is probably going to be exhausted at the end of a day like that no matter what.. But I believe how she feels about her exhaustion can change. Some days after taking care of my son by myself all day, I feel proud of my tiredness, like it's a reminder that I took good care of my child... but I do need and ask for help sometimes. I try to play with him enough each day that he eventually gets bored of me and then is content to play by himself for a time... He definitely knows I will come pay attention to him not just if he's in a bad mood. Wish me luck when I have another one, I'm sure I'll be coming back to this video again lol! Also I cracked up when he said this would be better spiritual practice for her than 20 years meditating in a monastery 😂😂😂

I do believe that now collective mothers are experiencing taught times... We are overdoing :) so we need to slowdown :)

Accepting the situation is one thing but also realising that who you are is untouched by any ‘external’ experience. Having acceptance isn’t going to change how the kids are.. at certain ages.. sometimes it’s also accepting that tiredness will arise but again who you really are is unaffected. Stillness doesn’t have to Be something you do but the awareness that you are always that, I AM AWARE THAT I AM AWARE helps bring the attention to the place of stillness that you already are..

I sometimes practice yoga with my grandchildren who are 3 and 4 and attempts to teach them mindfulness at the same time. They love it! I realise it is different for a grandparent as you don’t have all the housework to do as well but it might be worth trying. 💙

@marymcsherry1965

5 ай бұрын

That's a great idea..It's teaching them how to calm themselves at a young age too

I for one understand this. Esp working full time as a single mother. Eckart wisdom is on point! I used to feel my kids pull at my energy, literally feel like they want something from me. I would pull my energy back in, as in a imaginary bubble and pulling that bubble towards me when I felt it, breathing the bubble back into myself. What helped me was remembering what I felt with them when they were born. It wasn’t the mind made love that was felt, it was this unexplained energy.This unexplained calmness. In all honesty I can’t put into words what was felt when they were babies. I also did yoga sessions everyday that helped keep my energy centered. The firm tough love comes through as well, but the “growling” is non reactive. It’s just like a firm NO. I remember my youngest was sick, I have 4 children, youngest is 10 now. We were at the hospital and I never thought anything about my parenting or how I was as a mother, all I knew is there energy is learned through me. Whilst at the hospital in emergency we and others were waiting a while. One couple, with there 8 month old were irritated by this, the baby then started playing up, crying, feeling irritated and it made the parents irritated more, which made the baby irritated more. That was the first time I saw physically what I already knew. Esp babies, there energy is extremely sensitive, sacred!! So I had to learn to come up with tools to keep my energy within myself whilst raising them or going through stressful moments. The car is a perfect way to learn how your energy can feed your children, it’s such a small space with all your energy interacting with each other. And if they are babies, you can actually tap into there energy and use it to recharge yourself and also use it in future situations. I believe they come with a gift when they are first born and growing into toddlers. A gift that is only felt through them. I then remembered what I felt whilst raising them and it helped me get through the most toughest times.

How to talk so little kids will listen is an incredible book. Pair their recommendations for almost every situation with presence, and it’s a slam dunk for more days than not ❤

@jennifers.798

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

She sounds overwhelmed with being a mother and all the things that it is implied in motherhood. This feeling seems to be getting stronger than the joy of little (precious) routine things. Instead, simply dealing with her chores would be lighter. I'm grateful anyway, because her question and Ekhart comments make me see the same kind of struggle in me.

I was a stay at home mom my boys are 4 years apart. I always tried to be a perfect mom and once I changed my mindset and let them enjoy themselves and I would take them outside to play or take them out more. Than at the end of the day and they were in bed than I would clean up but I had to stop trying to be perfect and my husband was very supportive. Believe me they grow up fast and I’m so glad I changed my mindset because if I didn’t the kids wouldn’t have had such good memories and a good feeling about their mom. I also would talk to myself and remind myself that it will be ok and who cares what other people think. I’m not saying my house was a total mess, it wasn’t. My kids also went to preschool and when they were there I would straighten up. Every little chance I got I would do as much as I could but if I couldn’t I was fine with that.

I'm more present with my child when I get rest and breaks. I child proofed my home, limited toys and activities, so that I can stay present more often. I get up and take action at the first annoyance. I don't let myself go completely unconscious and lash out.

This was covered very well by Eckheart, the Mum is very conscious already, her heart is fully open to unlearning more. She's a Wonderful Mother, heard once, imagine an invisible sticker on your Childrens forehead, " Catch me been " good ", co-operative etc and acknowledging it to the Child. Found one on ones very helpful too. There' great wisdom in the "HOW" there that Eckheart say's here. Also found in that acceptance of the isness of things happening as they are ( the things we think shouldn't be happening ) it's like it leaves a space for a new way to come, in the moment to take over that was not even thought up, planned, it just seems like a spontaneous natural next thing to do, say, not do, or not say.

@johnryan3102

5 ай бұрын

Few are willing to unlearn the parent role. One of the strongest identities.

@firstnamelastnam3

5 ай бұрын

@@johnryan3102 They are all adult children here now in my life and am still unlearning, finding having quiet time each day is helping alot and feel the presence is going before me to make the crooked places straight even if the straight may appear as crooked from anothers point of view or expectations, and seems to be becoming less inportant and more so trusting what is coming through that is consistant, caring and feels true in that moment. The present moment is true and seems to take me out of the picture completely.

Jus love the moments you have

Here's some insight into my own ego death. I've heard him speak of children and how to deal with the situation. Well how can you truly give an idea of example, if you've never experienced it yourself? His method is kinda flawless, but there's one major flaw. He's never experienced it(which is the whole point of being in the moment), so he actually doesn't know how to deal with children on the practical level. For me, my ego shines through sometimes, but I believe in my self that it's becssue we need it for children. They need it for structure and personal growth. Once you create the distance between the ego and yourself, it's a clear sign of which thought process is which. So for me, the ego is sometimes present, but I can also shut it off at an instant(usually). Kids are definitely my hardest challenge in life so far. I have been working on thought reconstruction and have only just start to write down the ideas in which you need to contemplate, to come to a realisation of the feeling on "now"

Very good tips, thank you very much for this interesting video.🙏

Excellent ❤️

I have three small children. The reward of this situation is this: once the lady manages to get presence and consciousness with her kids now - through training it and effort, then when the kids grow up - this training will get her to super presence and super consciousness.

@a-xf5lg

5 ай бұрын

Hi, how to manage presence and consciousness with kids?

I am totally fine with letting my three kids express themselves freely vocally and physically. Not so fine with my neighbors though😂😂😂 The reminder of relying on presence to take right action is a great reminder. Thank you.

So inspiring and so pragmatic! Many thanks 🌷🌷🌷

Gratitude🙏💞💞

Before anything existed in the material world, a single energy desired; I know of everything but yet I can't experience what I know. I know of love ... but I want to "experience" love, touch, etc. So this energy split itself apart to have something to relate to ... and at that moment, relativity and all of us were born! But Even with others to "relate" to, we had the same desire; to "experience" what we knew. So we all made an agreement to come here, to live in flesh ... but we realized to fullfill our experience, opposites must also exist. To know of good, we must know and experience bad. Both must exist for experience. To know of love, fear must exist, dark and light and Tall and short etc. To that ends, we must not know who we are, of our true nature (our connected spirits) and we must believe that we're all separate but we can never not be who we are, so we did the next best thing, we forgot who we are! Therefore, we don't teach, we simply "remind" each other, to "remember" to "re enter" the membership .. Re Member ... Remember. So reality is everyone's dream brought to life through our consciousness. Example; the double slit experiment proved, if you observe wave forms they jump to particles (solid form) and vise versa! So everything is not solid but a wave form without the observer! So reality only exist through the observer. When this study broke, it was the first real measurable study of reality! But The real question is, why do we exist? It's simply to quiet the mind and the ego until we can realize our true nature, our consciousness, which is our souls. And once we find that space of stillness and make that connection to our egos ... with our souls ... which is where we came from and will return once again! Until we make this connection during a lifetime, we'll keep coming back to play this game over and over again. See you soon! 🎶 Namaste 🎶

Thank you 🙏 ❤️

Beautiful video ❤

I love this! I can relate so muchhh

Gratitude ❤

Thank you ❤

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The world is a stage. We are each given a character (a human body), and as we grow, we learn what it is like to be a person. We do not control what happens to the character. We think we can influence the world. The reality is that we do not even control the body we are in. The story is for you, but it is not about you. You are in the character as it performs on the stage. This experience is as close as you can get to reality without it actually being, reality. Ramanamma Who? author and 21st-century prophet has written 3 short books. They answer all the unanswerable questions.

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Some kids can be very exhausting, not to mention if their egos already opertate in a very nasty ways. They might already know what pisses you off to do it again. Pacience, rules love, be strict when needed and dont feed their egos and uncouncious patterns is important. Also to explain to them why, not only don't do this or don't do that.

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you paint how you want your life .... and then life happens (:

I’d love to know why the father does not adjust his schedule to get home before 8pm which is bedtime…

Por favor subtitulos en español 🙏🙏🙏

Nothing really here other than, "be wiser".

She can hire a nanny if money is not an issue 😊

hold on a second.. then this mean that Eckhart's old strategy - using unhappiness to get attention from God and make God do something about it - worked out, didnt it? :D

In my family everybody beliefs unhappiness is responsible and everybody should unhappily complain about the wrongs in the world? They try to lure me still into this old horrifying state of mind, what to do about it?

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

Don't participate. Let them focus on the negative. Neither participate nor condemn. Instead, you could share the wonderfulness of the world and the beauty of life. You can also opt to be silent. Mainly, maintain your center, your inner harmony.

@stone8man

5 ай бұрын

@@daodejing81 thanks for the answer, yes i do my best that way, but must constantly remind myself not to judge, it just wears you out though

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

@stone8man I don't know your situation. Are you able to live elsewhere, and move on with YOUR life?

@stone8man

5 ай бұрын

@@daodejing81 dont know really what to do, plan to travel a bit to begin with, still struggling after my awakening 5 years ago, but i will try to be patient withmyself i think at least

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

@stone8man One observation of life that may be helpful is this: Some challenges you face, you've created. Some challenges you face have arisen naturally on your path. The first one, you have control over, the second kind are designed to cause you to evolve. Whatever the adversity, reflect and discover the treasure in it. Your situation is common to all humans. Do what you can to move forward with your life. Life will take care of the rest. Usually, your greatest obstacle is YOU! So, do reflect on your choices.

How you let n go in panic situation?

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

Address the situation after having reflected on a good solution. There is a time to address matters, and a time to do nothing. Letting go is an attitude of trusting life to guide.

@johngreen4683

5 ай бұрын

Think of your mind as a snow globe, when we are consumed by panic and fearful thoughts and feelings it's like the snow globe being shook up and disturbed, our minds thoughts and feelings become like all the bits of snow chaotically floating around, just as there is nothing we can do to make the snow settle down more quickly than it naturally takes for it to do so, the more we try and force things by turning the globe one way or the other the more we disturb the snow even more, it's exactly the same with our minds. We don't need to fix our minds, our minds will fix themselves just fine we just need to leave them alone and allow them do so without our getting involved by trying to force things 🙏🙏🙏🙏.

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I would recommend her to stop labeling and giving meaning when her kids act out. When she gets her peace, she decides within.. now the kids will act out and because she is the observer and decider ..they get the urge to do exactly what she is thinking. Be the observer, then you can observe with love and appreciation. Also teaching the kids boundaries and self comfort will help them so much. The 6 year old can meditate with you.

The issue with the kids is the woman has decided that the kids are not capable of being brought into the present moment. Parents love their kids too much. It is part of evolution. You have to rise above your role as mom to find the way which I imagine few are willing to do.

There is no rule that says you have to have children...dont be pressured to do so.....life will go on..

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Echart has no kids

@johngreen4683

5 ай бұрын

I don't have a degree in mental health but I can see when people are being consumed by their ego's thoughts and feelings 🙏🙏🙏🙏

There's a better spiritual practice called Being Single with No Screaming Smelly Kids. That's radical freedom - you don't have to live to work, have a career or mortgage, or fit into the mainstream. Every day is calm and quiet with no diapers or shopping or schedule or soccer games or school meetings - just one beautiful meditative day after another. Kinda like Jesus or Buddha.

He doesn’t have kids..

@Kundalini_Goddess

4 ай бұрын

You don't have to have kids to know and understand them and what they want and need.

SHE NEEDS TO BE MORE STRICT AND DELEGATE THE KIDS TO DO THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE ( PICKING UP TOYS,CLEAN AFTER THEMSELVES ETC..) SHE SEEMS TO LENIENT AS A MOTHER.

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

Yes, they need responsibilities.

@sarahburnett5206

5 ай бұрын

Did you hear their ages???? That’s not really an independent activity for them.

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

@@sarahburnett5206 Why not?

@johngreen4683

5 ай бұрын

And you need to say this with all capital letters because? Maybe your comment says more about yourself than the mother! Just saying 🙏🙏🙏🙏

@daodejing81

5 ай бұрын

@johngreen4683 Usually that's how we acquire wisdom, by dint of living our own lives. Maybe she used caps because she can viscerally relate, meaning she's been through it. It could also be that you're defensive because she may have touched a nerve with you. There are many reasons why people do things, like use caps, or respond reprovingly.