The Secret to Being Likeable and Confident | Vanessa Van Edwards on Women of Impact
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Vanessa Van Edwards, professional investigator into the science of human behavior, used to try so hard to be someone she wasn’t. Thankfully, she got tired of pretending, and decided to embrace her real self. And now she devotes her time and energy to helping others present their own authentic selves in the most likeable and powerful way. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Vanessa Van Edwards explains the best way to deal with video calls, job interviews, and even first dates. Those best practices include some surprising insights, including reasons why you might want to wear perfume and high heels in a video call interview, why you should use a real background instead of a virtual one, and why it’s better to reveal your inadequacies and insecurities sooner rather than later.
SHOW NOTES:
Vanessa spent about a decade trying to fake it, and then she got tired of it [2:04]
There’s actually more cognitive load on a video call than in real life [4:02]
The background people see behind you in a video call says a lot about you [8:33]
Interviewers are doing tons of interviews now, and they’re tired of conformity [10:52]
Your first impressions now include your visual background along with facial expressions [13:30]
How formally should you dress for a video call? Should you wear perfume? [15:25]
Vanessa explains why you should quickly reveal your secrets on dates or interviews [19:38]
Vanessa explains why even a 1.2 second delay causes people to like you less [21:20]
Vanessa discusses why in work calls you should show some of your upper body [26:03]
Vanessa describes the importance of hand gestures, and talks about how to use them [27:06]
We now have a brief window where we can create our own rules for dating [29:40]
You can have fun with video calls in ways that wouldn’t be possible in real life [33:04]
Vanessa discusses what the future holds for Zoom calls and in-person meetings [37:10]
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I love how these two love each other. It's so evident in their eyes. So much respect & admiration for each other.
Oh my gosh. As an introvert, can I just say that Vanessa hit that advice right on the head!? I also now feel a lot better about having to observe things before jumping in. Her advice on hand movement and eye contact was also super helpful. I've always felt silly about making hand motions while on camera. It's nice to know that helps people on the other end engage more.
"Your brain looks at your hands for confirmation and income!"
It was SO authentic of Lisa to leave the part in where she had to ask the gardener to hold off! LOVED that!! That’s real life!! 💯
I so appreciate Vanessa's positive outlook and soft yet uplifting energy.
I read her book after Tom’s interview on his channel. Such a great lady to assist many of us who feel less confident in social setting. Thank you Lisa for bringing her here 😘
"I put on a
The let it out helped. When people sense you have something that you are afraid of coming out, just say it.
Lisa & Vanessa Van Edwards are the best combo in the world! Please make more videos & I sincerely applaud your authenticity Lisa ❤
She is amazing. These are super practical knowledge!
Every single person in the world needs to see Vanessa van Edwards' work! She and her team are doing amazing things. She has inspired me so much.
I genuinely enjoyed this interview, you've such a good connection with Vanessa! p.s. "dropping the shoe" at the beginning of the conversation is a great advice!
OMG she's so funny.. please have more of her in your show
Yay! It's Vanessa again. I was excited to see her appear on WOI. Such a relevant topic too as all of us are doing video calls, this ep was very interesting and useful
This video was sooo positively impactful!! much needed during this time. 💋
Thank you, great episode!
I love how Vanessa gets complex points across with easy to understand analogies and words Vanessa and Lisa worked great together. :)
36:06
Love Vanessa! She has such great tips and insight. Thanks for another inspiring video Lisa
I really love all the tips Vanessa gave in this interview.