The Root of Sorrow is Attachment by Anthony De Mello

Can you imagine how liberating it would be to never be disillusioned again, never be disappointed again, never feel let down again? Want to wake up, come alive, and be free? Anthony De Mello’s Stop Fixing Yourself is the answer you have been looking for.

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  • @girlyguidetolife
    @girlyguidetolife5 ай бұрын

    Where was this guy my whole life?

  • @OfCourseICan
    @OfCourseICan2 жыл бұрын

    I have read and listened to hundreds of books. This Man is the most profound thinker I have come across, and his book/ audiobook is not to be overlooked!

  • @priusuguusiii3633

    @priusuguusiii3633

    2 жыл бұрын

    What book would you start with

  • @stevefowler8095

    @stevefowler8095

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@priusuguusiii3633 the way to love. Life changer

  • @priusuguusiii3633

    @priusuguusiii3633

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@stevefowler8095 thank you

  • @Gaurav.P0

    @Gaurav.P0

    Жыл бұрын

    @@stevefowler8095 Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.

  • @BrianBroughten

    @BrianBroughten

    Жыл бұрын

    Eckhart to my knowledge never directly addresses attachments, i could be wrong i only read one of his.

  • @bobtyrell6718
    @bobtyrell6718 Жыл бұрын

    Anthony was a true Mystic. Awareness was a masterpiece.

  • @bobhope5114
    @bobhope5114 Жыл бұрын

    This man saved my life!

  • @keralytekid

    @keralytekid

    Жыл бұрын

    Same!

  • @deskreverse

    @deskreverse

    3 ай бұрын

    Me too

  • @aug.jam.1

    @aug.jam.1

    27 күн бұрын

    I'm happy u guys are still here ❤ alan watts saved me but Anthony is absolutely great too

  • @beatereich5466
    @beatereich54662 жыл бұрын

    The biggest Relief for me was not to feel anymore SORRY for myself! Changed a lot. Blessings.

  • @reycfd7753
    @reycfd77532 жыл бұрын

    He was a master of spirituality, a mystic, though restrained by the Catholic Church hierarchy for putting all religions and religious teachers in equal footing.

  • @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, as usual the intelligent, liberated ones are "stopped" by the elite and psychopaths.

  • @backINdaROOM

    @backINdaROOM

    2 жыл бұрын

    They probably bumped him off.

  • @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@backINdaROOM Yes

  • @keenfit30

    @keenfit30

    2 жыл бұрын

    Could not agree with u more. I think he was murdered

  • @reycfd7753

    @reycfd7753

    2 жыл бұрын

    He suffered a heart attack, not murdered.

  • @bobtyrell6718
    @bobtyrell6718 Жыл бұрын

    He did trancend. I truly believe that.

  • @vrindaandparas3654
    @vrindaandparas36543 жыл бұрын

    Happiness through Materialistic stuff was so conflicting to me until now. I needed this. Thanks.

  • @Tonymcd274
    @Tonymcd2745 ай бұрын

    This is so deep and a lot will fly over surface level peoples heads

  • @hsheean
    @hsheean2 жыл бұрын

    I have an attachment to those glasses!

  • @michaelkraft218
    @michaelkraft218 Жыл бұрын

    Mindfulness is really desirelessness. It's the therapy in vogue to reduce your suffering by changing your thoughts and beliefs. I love the mental exercise of not even judging thoughts. We have inordinate desires to control everything, to get one's way, to win, and to analyze.

  • @hado8272

    @hado8272

    Жыл бұрын

    If you don't judge your thoughts, you are not attached to your thoughts. Aware of thoughts but not being attached to them!

  • @victorjcano
    @victorjcano3 жыл бұрын

    I tend to watch a lot of these kinds of videos. What I noticed here is that unlike so many of the other teachers there are no flowers behind him. Just his message. interesting

  • @Gaurav.P0

    @Gaurav.P0

    Жыл бұрын

    Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.

  • @ooohlaa13

    @ooohlaa13

    5 ай бұрын

    style of delivery ,,,,, eckhart is very subtle and this guy us bombastic .... message fundamentally same@@Gaurav.P0

  • @jeanniebeneanie3752

    @jeanniebeneanie3752

    5 ай бұрын

    LoL... obviously the flowers... first person I thought of when the flowers were mentioned was Eckhart Tolle, and then your comment confirmed "great minds think alike" 😊❤ love to all🎉

  • @hichamdaki3932
    @hichamdaki39326 ай бұрын

    I love this man ...May he be blessed ✨

  • @adaptupon
    @adaptupon Жыл бұрын

    This helped me realise how attached I was to succeeding in my current Masters program. Thank you.

  • @sinethembadyoki
    @sinethembadyoki3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Mr De Mello 🙏 You have open my eyes and I'm very much awake now 😊

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel492 жыл бұрын

    An attachment is a "have to have", a dependency.

  • @dragicrade

    @dragicrade

    2 жыл бұрын

    addiction, drug, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling... that's the physical mirror when we depend on certain things or people or believes... We judge people who use too much alcohol or drugs, but we are not different from them.

  • @lisamarie5680
    @lisamarie56802 жыл бұрын

    “Is we don’t get that we are going to be miserable, that’s called attachment”

  • @lisamarie5680

    @lisamarie5680

    2 жыл бұрын

    “The root of sorrow is attachment-desire”

  • @RickBaldwin
    @RickBaldwin3 ай бұрын

    DeMello was one of my earliest spiritual influencers and I love seeing him here. His books have a light like few others. If you can find his book on meditation, it is perhaps the best book ever written on the subject.

  • @deepakarya3085
    @deepakarya3085 Жыл бұрын

    Majestic 💐💐💐

  • @dfheezy
    @dfheezy Жыл бұрын

    This guy is the OG Double-Deepak Chopra

  • @buctwn
    @buctwn Жыл бұрын

    "Depression at loss of something" wicked

  • @billyquinsey5361
    @billyquinsey53612 жыл бұрын

    Talks straight up

  • @budwilmott3151
    @budwilmott31512 жыл бұрын

    I had to see this.I am grateful

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel492 жыл бұрын

    You need 'a reason' to be unhappy

  • @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    @JonasAnandaKristiansson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @deskreverse
    @deskreverse3 ай бұрын

    I owe my happiness today to Tony's teachings of spirituality. I was introduced to his book about 15 years ago. Only in the past few years has it truly started to sink in. Grateful for this.

  • @katrinetroelsen

    @katrinetroelsen

    3 ай бұрын

    at 23 i was in a crisis after having been attacked and then forgotten by the "justice system". i found De Mello by chance. bought a book. Changed my life.

  • @rahmasamir909
    @rahmasamir9097 ай бұрын

    Amazing and true ❤

  • @g.abzilla7665
    @g.abzilla766510 ай бұрын

    Although this video is quite old, the message is more relevant now than ever before. Thank you!

  • @createa.googleaccount713
    @createa.googleaccount7133 ай бұрын

    My HERO!!! ❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🙌🙌🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @egymenez4809
    @egymenez4809 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @tobysmith1490
    @tobysmith14902 жыл бұрын

    Very interesting video on attachment🥰

  • @PezhvakIMV
    @PezhvakIMV2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @LadyBug-fs8gz
    @LadyBug-fs8gz9 ай бұрын

    Brilliant mind

  • @Squickycleaners
    @Squickycleaners3 ай бұрын

    Anthony Démelo so funny, but so real❤

  • @Zer00805
    @Zer00805 Жыл бұрын

    Anthony holds the keys

  • @_Christopher_Williams
    @_Christopher_WilliamsАй бұрын

    The woman at 7:11 has no attachment to staying conscious 😊 Jokes aside, the book "Awareness" by Anthony De Mello changed my life. It may be my favorite book of all time. I read it every year. God bless you all! ❤️🙏

  • @malves64
    @malves6425 күн бұрын

    Incrível.

  • @KevCraven
    @KevCraven Жыл бұрын

    He taught us how to make fire! I have a giant poster of him on the wall 😜

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel492 жыл бұрын

    "Achieved is the end of craving" anonymous

  • @Shaun023
    @Shaun0235 ай бұрын

    This was beautiful! But please do yourselves a favour and have a giggle at 7:11 😂😂❤

  • @jobelle5470
    @jobelle54702 жыл бұрын

    💛

  • @crisaunt
    @crisaunt Жыл бұрын

    yes, and when you believe in jesus christ, you no longer struggle with these attachments. this is all reiteration, read the bible! 🥰

  • @AL_THOMAS_777

    @AL_THOMAS_777

    Жыл бұрын

    W O W ! ! ! That must mean something . . .

  • @AR-jo5vv

    @AR-jo5vv

    Жыл бұрын

    Of course it is! There is nothing new in Christianity - it’s only 2000 years old!

  • @ariseppa7444

    @ariseppa7444

    11 ай бұрын

    But aren’t you attached to jesus christ then?

  • @crisaunt

    @crisaunt

    11 ай бұрын

    @@ariseppa7444 yeah that’s kind of the whole point of the bible, ur not supposed to be detached from everything? don’t you see how dangerous that is?

  • @crisaunt

    @crisaunt

    11 ай бұрын

    @@ariseppa7444 buddha wouldn’t stop a rape because he’d interfere with the karmic cycle. jesus would save you, jesus hates evil. buddha accepts it as part of life, it’s not. holiness and life without sin is real. me and you are tainted with evil, jesus shows u this.

  • @ZooDinghy
    @ZooDinghy10 ай бұрын

    I think I have the opposite problem. I don't feel much attachment. Neither do I feel much sorrow. I enjoy being around others, have fun with them, etc. but I don't have the urge to have a relationship. To live together with someone else. The thing is, I am actually quite happy being by myself. I just wonder whether this is healthy.

  • @mangelwurzel476

    @mangelwurzel476

    9 ай бұрын

    It sounds very healthy to me. We are all unfortunately conditioned to believe that we have to fit into society in a ‘one size fits all’ way to be happy. That’s a lie. Go your own way, be free and enjoy!

  • @ooohlaa13

    @ooohlaa13

    5 ай бұрын

    well I am like you, I have no sense of loneliness or desire for relationships but I always feel something is wrong with me and I do think ultimately I am attached to my privacy and my freewheeling lifestyle. What say you about this comment?

  • @ZooDinghy

    @ZooDinghy

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ooohlaa13 Sounds totally like me! 😅 What I find stange about myself is that I often think I do not care enough for things - but at the same time I am a highly curious person. At one point, I spoke to a psychiatrist and she thought I might have autism or something. But I am highly empathic and can feel high empathic distress. Often to the point that I cannot watch certain films. I also have a very good judgement when it comes to social norms. So the autism hypothesis doesn't make sense. I guess everyone is unique in their own way.

  • @ooohlaa13

    @ooohlaa13

    5 ай бұрын

    once again same ... I have very deep empathy for animals and for the pain their deaths and loss of them as family members incurs. When I am around others empathically I can feel their pain and it can stay with me for days so I avoid at all costs because all my life this has been totally disruptive. I have recovered from alcohol addiction and bulimia and from marrying my psychiatrist who turned out to be a narcissist puerile man who had a "loving" persona that fooled many.@@ZooDinghy

  • @jeanniebeneanie3752

    @jeanniebeneanie3752

    5 ай бұрын

    Sounds peaceful...

  • @scottsheffield6474
    @scottsheffield64742 жыл бұрын

    Haha, this was wonderful to hear! If only it was true...

  • @AR-jo5vv

    @AR-jo5vv

    Жыл бұрын

    Attachment!

  • @FreshnessStudio1
    @FreshnessStudio13 жыл бұрын

    What is it called when somebody lives in such a way that his/her soul purpose is to dedicate their life to enlighten other human beings to the Art of heart seeing, happiness, Love?

  • @SpidermanInLondon

    @SpidermanInLondon

    3 жыл бұрын

    Grace

  • @breadrev2008

    @breadrev2008

    3 жыл бұрын

    Attachment

  • @nickydastinks

    @nickydastinks

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bodhisattva

  • @estherpat4227

    @estherpat4227

    2 жыл бұрын

    Mystical

  • @lollipopsaresmelly

    @lollipopsaresmelly

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nickydastinks I always preface this with altruism. Not a perfect translation but helps to you to get it

  • @user-nn8cu5ql4t
    @user-nn8cu5ql4t Жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @dabrupro
    @dabrupro2 жыл бұрын

    😆 @6:45 "So here it is. The world is full of sorrow. The root of sorrow is attachment desire. The uprooting of sorrow is the dropping of attachment. How does one drop it? One only looks and sees that it is based on a false belief. The belief that without this I cannot be happy. That's false."  From Nisargadatta: "All chaos is due to a concept: I am the body. The affairs of the world are going on by the strength of a concept. Do not renounce anything; you have only to understand....Pure consciousness is called Naryana. Beings do not know it; hence they suffer misery. Those who have recognized that consciousness is without quality - guna - get tired of staying on in the world....Simply remember that your form is like space. "Our behavior through body consciousness is like the condition of a patient in hospital. During sickness one feels the need for oneself. So long as there is sickness, one has to look after oneself very carefully. Sickness means beingness. "You might not understand this but it is important to understand just the same - identification with the body is like a sickness; therefore, it needs to be taken care of throughout the day....You look after yourself so that this experience of sickness should not pass away. Since the experience itself is that of sickness, it will come to an end....Why do we do japa and meditation? Is it not in order to protect the consciousness? However, this quality itself is of material origin. It is created through the essence of the body essence of food. Because of body consciousness it has expectations, desires and passions. "...the gnani has no use of his self-realization. With such discrimination one goes beyond consciousness. Every being is protecting that which can never be protected in spite of all efforts. All that is desirous of protection will not last. "....You aspire to get physical and spiritual well being through your body consciousness, but the body is not your true nature....Body consciousness takes all the responsibility and pride. As a result it becomes a source of misery. The one who is forever awake is the satguru. He gives you wakefulness. Take that wakefulness and be awakened. Then you will get the true nature of the satguru. One who follows the guru word does not have to make much effort. "....After listening to this, you will understand that your consciousness is the quality of the vital life force. It is not you. Only see how consciousness has come over you. Leave all the rest. All complications have started with consciousness. That which has to experience consciousness has no name or form; hence, it has identified itself with the body. Consciousness depends upon food. "....Until you get the full understanding, observe how consciousness has arisen....How long will it take for us to get realization? Until such times as when your concepts come to an end. "Wakefulness is the primordial illusion."

  • @onetapmindset
    @onetapmindsetАй бұрын

    If you were not actively engaged in making your life miserable, you would be happy 😂 Anthony Demello

  • @starbros1947
    @starbros194711 ай бұрын

    BUT - don't get attached to "getting unattached" - sometimes "IT" rains and sometime not.

  • @victorjcano
    @victorjcano3 жыл бұрын

    Can these lessons be taught to children? Does a child with limited life experience have the capacity to comprehend ? It sure would be interesting

  • @CommuneRecords

    @CommuneRecords

    3 жыл бұрын

    He talks about this! They may not need to comprehend it per se, but they are already living the life moment to moment, involved in what they are doing. Look for more ADM talks (I always look for his own voice, not people reading it which never works for me). There's a bunch of them here, including #74 which talks about schools and bringing up children: www.demellospirituality.com/the-happiness-podcast/

  • @CommuneRecords

    @CommuneRecords

    3 жыл бұрын

    Or his brother's website is great too: www.tonydemello.com/

  • @s4nj0k

    @s4nj0k

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@CommuneRecords those 2 pages are gold, thanks brother (or sister)

  • @lollipopsaresmelly

    @lollipopsaresmelly

    2 жыл бұрын

    A child doesn't think about its limitations until we make them reflect on it

  • @suju3056

    @suju3056

    2 жыл бұрын

    It would be traumatising to them

  • @aadilmanzoor5178
    @aadilmanzoor517818 күн бұрын

    Abdullah bin `Umar said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler." The sub-narrator added: Ibn `Umar used to say, "If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death. Allah said, narrating upon a believer at the time of Fir’awn that he said: “O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]

  • @talalztube
    @talalztube2 жыл бұрын

    where do you think Love comes from?

  • @lollipopsaresmelly

    @lollipopsaresmelly

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love with attachment is love with conditions. We should fall in love, not fall in dependence

  • @ginovilla4104
    @ginovilla41042 жыл бұрын

    Well if you work for Tesla, u can’t do propaganda for Lucid. At the end of he’s life he recognized Who had all in all. In he’s book ; “The way to love”.

  • @liron_feldman
    @liron_feldman2 ай бұрын

    But don't you think it gives you higher chance of success if you have an all or nothing mentality? Like wouldn't persona A (puts his success as condition to be happy) have higher chance of succeeding to get what he wants, and person B (is happy even if not achieving set thing) less chance, since less pressure?

  • @svspirit4999
    @svspirit49994 ай бұрын

    Girl in the middle at 7:12 is attached to the inside of her eyelids.

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity63145 ай бұрын

    I feel so relieved that their is less in front of me than behind. At 64....l can't wait to go home to source. I have never known happyness on Earth. I got it all wrong.

  • @YouDroolIRULE

    @YouDroolIRULE

    2 ай бұрын

    I wish you the best if you are truly seeking but it doesn’t sound like you are going back to “source” with the attitude that your message conveys. There is so much work to be done here and now with feet ground, so your tone sounds defeated and nihilistic in literally the best time ever to be alive especially for free access to unlimited spiritual teachings. Best of luck. My hunch, like how the Buddha said is that most people think they are returning to “source”, when in reality they get sent back here for another rebirth. The samsara merry go round from heII! 🎪 🤡 Go for higher rebirth!! 🙏🏼 🌬️

  • @dommccaffry3802
    @dommccaffry38023 күн бұрын

    My pheasant has diarrhoea

  • @MichaelKlena
    @MichaelKlena10 ай бұрын

    He probably lived in the very comfortable Jesuit Residence at Fordham where somebody else paid the bills to keep a really nice roof over his head. And it's likely that staff made his meals. Most people I know are busy working to pay for a residence. Most people I know are attached to their significant others and children and relatives and friends. Everybody I know would be very sad if their wife and kids drove over a cliff and died. If they weren't grieving, I would judge them to be sick, or it would be very suspicious. Did the residents of Lahaina, HI bring their misery on by being attached to their loved ones, their homes, their businesses? Only somebody who doesn't understand what it is to work for things, or to be in a loving relationship can be so cavalier about blaming people for their unhappiness about loss because of attachment. I'd rather be attached to my spouse and be a human, than to some kind of near-sociopath who says "easy come, easy go" when his wife and kids drive over a cliff and die. The superiority of Fr. De Mello to suggest that people choose unhappiness by pursuing normal lives in a capitalist consumer culture is typical of Roman Catholic clergy. Why not sell Vatican City give the proceeds to India's poor and do Catholic ministry from a tent?

  • @ooohlaa13

    @ooohlaa13

    5 ай бұрын

    your comment is the kind I would make normally when filled with bitterness, envy and resentment. It's a trap to kill the messenger and ignore the message that attachment to the earth plane culture is a living hell! and it shows up in many forms, some more severe than others like attachment to a substance or contemplating suicide because of betrayal. It's sneaky and subtle and the quality you call sociopathic is just a loud wake up call to how sneaky and life sucking attachment is. A Course in Miracles calls out special relationships as a key disturbance in our peace. We make some people more special than others, or some conditions more important than others = attachment and addictions that govern our lives and rob us of inner peace. That's my take. Many teachers are ruthless in their presentations to wake us up from sleepwalking thru our lives. Don't kill the messenger is my opinion.

  • @an7440
    @an7440Ай бұрын

    How is this different from Buddhism

  • @ralf547
    @ralf547Ай бұрын

    This guy is silly.

  • @Anniemax1
    @Anniemax1Ай бұрын

    Thx @mrlocario for referring me to this guy

  • @eduardo_guzman11

    @eduardo_guzman11

    Ай бұрын

    You watch Locario to? I watch @THEMANMINDSET a bunch to