This is exactly my experience as an INFJ. I can’t stand lying, fake people or superficial relationships. Most people don’t want me in their life for these reasons.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I understand Miranda. What you are saying is true. Still, you are a super special person (and INFJ) and we need to keep our standards and not settle. Bad relationships are worse than none at all IMO. Keep looking for "real" people, I've only found a few in my lifetime (they are very rare it seems). Jay

@Coneman3

Жыл бұрын

Yea it’s easy for us to think we are the problem but it’s usually them that are the problem. We need to stop beating ourselves up.

@ameliaannhouck2670

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to people just hate the truth, people have always told me , lmao those dumbkoffs, I am negative no I am not , I tell the truth always and the truth just is nasty and mean , so get over your delicate selves , so at age of 73 , it does not get better! sorry , but just feel condemned to loneliness and despair , as we are basically empaths !! we are empaths, do you have that stare? I do , and it just freak people out and all I am doing is listening and observing every dastardly thing they say and do ! then I know why bother with these idiots, so hope you find someone but be careful as every dang narcissistic listens to these , so beware !

@chaoscolby

11 ай бұрын

So true.

@huongha5629

8 ай бұрын

As an INFJ, I hardly have any friends. The reason isn't that people don't like me, I can say that I help a lot of people, so most of the people I have interacted with want to be friends with me, but I choose to distance them myself because I don't like to put up with fake people and and superficial friends.

The truth is I prefer to be friendless than to deal with fakeness!! The older I become the less I remove myself. I am a loyal friend therefore, I need the same way!

@user-tz4qz4zl4v

6 ай бұрын

This 💯

@kyurei4478

3 ай бұрын

I'm not too much for loyalty if that means I have to agree with what I don't believe in.

@Y2Kr4SHM4N

5 күн бұрын

I am both fake and genuine. I’m ADHD, which gives me little choice in not masking. I’ve gotta do it to survive. But beside my mask, I loathe liars and lying, and only do so when I absolutely must for small things. ENTP.

@Misspippi777

4 күн бұрын

Same!

Some points in the video: 1) Most people don't like the truth (we always eventually give it), 2) We are looking for deep meaningful friendships, 3) Most people Aren't looking for progress and self-improvement, 4) We have high standards for what qualifies as a friend, 5) We need a relationship with great communication, Cool video...thanks

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

You are very welcome! Thanks for the synopsis and glad you enjoyed the video! Jay

@MegaCyberleader

Жыл бұрын

Soooo, my grandmother is very narcsissitc and evil, has tortured people with it untill they literally died from, a heart attack, one from cancer, and one from an anerism.. So I was invited in next and she started to abuse me over the next 2 years. So I decided to spend 10,000 dollars She promised me on an airgun hobbie, she got upset because it was a "gun" so she sided with these drug dealers, and killers, had them call them cops, and they tried to removed me on false pretenses that I owned a fire arm and had threatened them with it, when in fact it was the other way around. When I tried to explain these things, to normal people on say facebook, I was automatically accused of being a crimminal. Of course over the years this sorta thing happened to me so much that I learned what my rights are and stand up to the police. But I tell you, Those tweakers would have put me in jail, and MY grandmother would have let them rob me, All because I held her accountble for her actions abusing me in public in front of my friends while We were having fun, for no reason, I had all my work done, all the bills paid, All the paperwork filed for taxes, and I made her another 35k that year. So here we are. Im still in here.

@delna144

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Good video!

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

@@delna144 Thanks!

@TeachingToddlersAndLittles

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for creating the points!

As a mature INFJ, I've had a lifetime of people hating the truth. To top it off, I'm a retired private investigator..

@northernpianotuner3319

8 ай бұрын

Wow!!! You get PAID to find out the truth! That is cool .

@user-jx4xo6yv3d

6 ай бұрын

I may sepraises you in the quran gad mention that most of peaple hate the truth Its true

@FuzzyLittlePanfurrs

3 ай бұрын

Cool

@Lyrielonwind

3 ай бұрын

Sherlock Holmes just had one friend; Watson.

@user-zn3uu2rz4z

3 ай бұрын

​@@Lyrielonwindbut Sherlock is intj and Moriarty is entp and he was the one who understood him best. not Watson

To quote a message I heard at my brother's church last year, "Most people prefer a comfortable lie to an inconvenient truth." And as an INFJ we see through the lies.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

So true! We do see through the lies. Excellent quote and us INFJs have experienced this so many times in our lives. It’s a regular occurrence in fact. Thanks for the great comment! Jay

@harryboyes2812

Жыл бұрын

@@INFJcircle That's okay 👍

@theinsightfulvisionary0197

3 ай бұрын

Yes, we do!!!

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

At my church when they've given me a platform to share the word of God during the Youth Sunday, nobody gets high on the Spirit and all the crying coz they're blessed, the Lord soke through you kinda thing, na 😅 they go quit like a ghost just passed by and a very strong one at that, it's a pity coz it looks like the truth I say and want to express even when sharing the word of God, I don't wanna compromise the gospel of Jesus Christ just coz everyone else is, plus I've been in this church for a lil over a year now 😂. And I'm loving just how I'm the one that seeks the truth from God through the Bible when it comes to my relationship (spiritually) and yes, generally, I also can't stand up the lies, I'd rather walkout and leave em lie all they want so I don't find myself exposing the lie especially when it's completely something that has nothing to do with me

@CWatsonD

2 ай бұрын

It's interesting to hear that quote in a religious setting. It is from Al Gore in reference to our collapsing climate.

I think the harshest truth I’ve told someone was one of my ex-bosses. I told her she lacks leadership, communication, and overall discipline, with examples. She got mad and tried to fire me but I had already given my two weeks notice and that was my last day 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Great comment DC. This is hilarious because that’s exactly an INFJ thing to do. Give examples! L O L! Jay

@ameliaannhouck2670

Жыл бұрын

good to know , I also have and will do that !! I also will wander and just leave , and quite frankly my dear I do not give a damn !!

@gypsylee73

11 ай бұрын

I told my mother she's a sh*t mother who relates to the Whore archetype a lot more than the Madonna. I'm an Aussie INFJ 😎👍✌️

@INFJenius

10 ай бұрын

Epic!💥💥💥Been there done that 🤣

@MayaraSantos-xf3xs

9 ай бұрын

I did something similar to my ex-boyfriend, also with examples 😅

INFJs are a blessing. They are both genuine and kind. If you don't want to befriend them, I will have them all by myself.

@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied

3 ай бұрын

Hi, I think I love you, what type are you?

@Zara-pt5xq

2 ай бұрын

Don't mean to be rude. But I'm busy And have my work cut out for me. But Do take care of yourself

@MielaMaze

2 ай бұрын

Haha ! ❤❤❤ @joana

@user-ml6dk8sk4e

2 ай бұрын

❤🙀👵🏻😱🖖🏼👽🐲👍🏻❤❤❤❤❤

@KathrineJKozachok

2 ай бұрын

🤣🤣You have good taste.

It sometimes feels like I’m friends with everyone and no one at the same time. Everyone wants me as a friend when they need me but I very rarely feel like I can turn to anyone else when I need a friend. It’s hard sometimes.

@charleslinley4288

Ай бұрын

So true...you hit the nail on the head...friends with everyone and no one at the same time.

@McPsych32

21 күн бұрын

Heard……. And understood.

@annsjoholm7310

19 күн бұрын

Exactly!

@elizabethharmon6322

3 күн бұрын

Oh yes.

@secretshaman189

3 күн бұрын

True friends are there for you, narcissists are not.

People are haters of the truth. They ask for the truth while expecting you to give them a watered down truth and the moment they realize you don't think like them, they hate you.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Excellent point. They do expect a watered down truth, and INFJs like to give the real truth. I’ve learned to give them as little advice as possible, then go do my own thing! It’s helped a lot. Thanks so much for the great comment! Jay

@phatcat3705

8 ай бұрын

This is why my sister (she's INFJ) CHOOSES to be alone. She's had enough of people coming to her for advice and venting their drama onto her, only to get angry when she tells them how it is instead of enable them. The truth hurts. But, unfortunately, what people really look for when they ask for something is an enabler.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

I'd rather be a truth-disher than a lite version of "wanna-be truth" 😅

No wonder I can’t make friends! 😂 All the other INFJs are at home like me! I finally met an INFJ friend and love the mutual shared interests.

@user-bi2fu1ju9u

3 ай бұрын

It's awesome to find someone who is exactly like you!!!! I live in the US and my INFJ friend lives in Poland. One thing for sure is it's really hard to fake being us. I like how we are.

@SideB1984

3 ай бұрын

@@user-bi2fu1ju9u same, I live in US and made a European INFJ friend! I have one stateside too and we mail penpal art and handwritten letters, sometimes little care packages. I love finding community in these comment sections 😁 I met both of them on IG before deleting all other social media.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

I had an INFJ male friend, we matched like twins and he's from Croatia and I'm in South Africa, we were great buddies until a couple of months ago when I told him I had reconciled with Jesus and he attacked me and when I stood up for myself, and he had me choose between our friendship and my relationship with Jesus and, of course I chose Jesus coz he wasn't being respectful of my choice spiritually when I havent criticized and made him look dumb for the road he chose spiritually but the rest was great, I still remember a lot of things even to this day

@SideB1984

3 ай бұрын

@@user-bi2fu1ju9u I like how we are too.

@SideB1984

3 ай бұрын

@@bongzsnoochy4712 OMG!! My INFJ friend and I both went through spiritual awakenings together! Thankfully we both believe in God. I’m sorry to hear about your breakup- sounds super painful. You always have Jesus! 🤗

INFJ here. I do have friends. Very few, but loyal friends.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you have a few good friends. I think INFJs can have friends for sure, but they are hard to get. I have people that I could call, old friends, etc. But no really good friends since my best friend passed in 2006. Thanks for the great comment! Jay

@MaryDunford

Жыл бұрын

​@@INFJcircle I'm sorry. I can relate. 😔

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Mary. Sorry to hear that, it's tough. We don't get many chances at relationships and then sometimes they can end tragically.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

Yes. I have one person whom I call my best friend and sister (sibling) for 15 years now, coz that's how close we are and she's one person I haven't figured out her type yet after so many attempts, and sometimes I wonder if she's another geek like me 😅and then other 2, are "just friends" not even good friend

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

​@@INFJcirclethat must have been a very painful experience you had to go through. I'm so sorry to hear that 😢

Once I accept someone as a friend, I would do almost anything for that person. My level of loyalty was seen as something scary to most people when I was a teen.

@OnceTheyNamedMeiWasnt

Ай бұрын

But when people let you down, that's it.

It’s not that they don’t WANT to be friends- it’s just that they don’t DARE

We’re very blunt and would rather sting you with the truth than to smile in your face and put up a facade lol

INTJ here. I'm not even going to watch this video. Who the heck does not like INFJ's?! Only shallow fools. Be thankful those kind of people don't like you. They'd never listen to your wisdom and just drain that beautiful heart of yours 💗 You are some of my favorite people to have over for tea and Meandering conversation. I hope this video teaches you how to either ignore some people, or tell them to piss off.😂 Big Love

@Lyrielonwind

3 ай бұрын

Awaken infj: thank you. I have been insulted by that kind of people and I always tell them that if they had something good to say about me, I would be offended and will think I'm walking the path towards hell. That shut them up. 😂

@user-zn3uu2rz4z

3 ай бұрын

Judging by the way you wrote it, I doubt that you are currently using the cognitive functions characteristic of an intj

@Lyrielonwind

3 ай бұрын

@@user-zn3uu2rz4z I don't care about your judgement.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

Well it's easy for you spit out such words, and only deep conversation that and the fact that INFJs and INTJs have that in common among other things but man, INTJs has been my preferred type until one proved me wrong that I was only left with just INFJs.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

​@@Lyrielonwind😂😂😂😂😂

Most people do not like hearing the truth while I love hearing the truth, transparency is important to me. Good or bad, I rather know the TRUTH. I don’t understand why people wouldn’t want the truth. Because sooner or later, the truth always prevails.

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

Agreed. You are exactly right, most people really dislike the truth. It’s painful and shows them where they are erring. Thanks for the comment! Jay

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

4 ай бұрын

The truth sets you free!! 😃

I can't tell you how many times I've lost connections because I tell them what they're really thinking/doing, and why. It doesn't half freak people out. Perhaps part of it was that I was very naive in my youth, as I came from a constantly tense, emotionally neglectful household. I really had to study people to learn social cues for my own survival, and in the process, I got VERY savvy about body language, voice, and especially the difference between words and actions. And it isn't just that people don't want to be friends with INFJs. WE don't want to be friends with most people! I sadly feel contempt for a lot of people, even while I might understand why they do the messed-up things they do.

@reesedaniel5835

8 ай бұрын

Same. Because they practice WILLFUL ignorance.

@meagiesmuse2334

7 ай бұрын

@@reesedaniel5835 - OH man! I wish I could upvote this one 100 times. I wish I could stop feeling this way, but I've had to face horrible things alone all of my life, and maybe as a result of that, I have no empathy for cowards.

@divinaluz7

4 ай бұрын

Going through this right now with a work colleague who has been acting really cold and cattily towards me. I asked her in private what the issue is, and can we fix it, and she coldly and cattlily assured me it was fine. And I'm okay with that because I know my instincts were right, and I know I tried to address the issue. We have very different communication styles and I will just keep out of her way moving forward.

@elizabethharmon6322

3 күн бұрын

Same here with childhood and learning. People accuse me of watching them, spying on them 🙄 People call my abilities psychic, I call them necessary for survival. It really is in picking up all of the subtle cues. Very well put 😊

@elizabethharmon6322

3 күн бұрын

And the frustration is real.

I was just talking about this to my husband (INTP) that I look like I fit in everywhere but I never seem to make friendships. People will tell me their deepest darkest secret and then are like “thanks, until next time.” It’s honestly okay with me right now as I have two kids who are homeschooled and me and my husband are very close. Couple this with extended family and I’m usually burned out socially. But it was definitely something I observed when I was younger. My friend who I grew up with seemed to make friends effortlessly and she was much quieter than I was and subdued. I looked more like the life of the party and everyone seemed to really like me yet it would never go any further than that. Once they saw the deeper side of me the friendship would just fizzle out but they still liked me and would come to me for advise. I used to think there was something wrong with me but now I at least understand. This was a great video as it highlighted things I had not readily considered.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Your comment gave me some things I hadn't considered, so we are even! lol. Great stuff. Yeah, that is pretty much exactly how my life has been. I often have thought after a great meeting/convo with someone "well, I made a new friend today!" Then, later they just faded away or didn't return my efforts to reconnect. Great comment, thanks! Jay

@user-fg9tt8lj1g

Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I have experienced too. It's easy to make connections but so extremely hard to keep them and stay friends. I always feel I am on the outside looking in.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

@@user-fg9tt8lj1g I think we have to just let them go. I think we should consider the fact that there just aren't that many people out there with our mindset. It's tough though because as much as we like alone time, we don't like it ALL the time! lol.

@ComplicatedSimplicite

Жыл бұрын

@@user-fg9tt8lj1g I can so relate to this. In the past, I had always felt the most lonely when I was with other people.

@matilda4406

Жыл бұрын

@@ComplicatedSimplicite yeah, that part is horrible. Usually because the group are predominately sensors

I'm 38 and I'm just now understanding that the world is very mean. I am a late bloomer though. Still grateful though. ❤

@INFJcircle

6 ай бұрын

It can be quite harsh can’t it? Glad to see you. Jay

@joanndeck4315

2 ай бұрын

I was too….. 42 😳😅😅….I love learning about “us” and that there are others like me ❤

@user-ml6dk8sk4e

2 ай бұрын

Yes there are mean people and they seem to standout as the majority of humanity ! But in reality they are the lesser side of humanity! Today I SAW this fact ! A young man stopped his car got out picked up a large bag of trash laying in the road ! Walked a few steps and put it in a trash bin ! A small thing yet a very nice thing to do for everyone ! How so you may ask ? That act picking up some trash helps keep our small Town clean and nice/neat ! And we can all enjoy his kindness and care about that trash being scattered all over the parking lot ! Good people quietly do good deeds and don’t expect a pat on the back ! Thank you SIR ❤️for your thoughtfulness! 🙀👵🏻😱🖖🏼👽🐲 ❤️👍🏻🙏 TO each and everyone of you wherever you are on this beautiful planet 🌎🌍🌏

@littledebby365

Ай бұрын

@@user-ml6dk8sk4e He was being real. He could not deny there was a pile of trash there, right? He saw the truth. He took action. Small example but good on him.

Imagine this: you tell someone about your secret feelings and they start criticising, 'Why do you care?', they say 'You should let ys go' and they go away to a larger group. That's why I have few friends.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yes Artur, it is hard to reveal things to people and they act like the things are of no concern or something. And insinuate that you might be a bit "obsessed" or worse yet, "crazy" to care so much. Then off they go to another group that probably doesn't even care about them. Thanks for the great comment, I totally agree! Jay

@arlettasloan6453

Жыл бұрын

Ah, baby! I say in the politest meaning of saying that possible. I would try to be your friend. I say try, as there are other things than a desire to have a deep conversation. Though... not much. By that I mean, I used to have some very diverse friends, as far as their beliefs, lifestyles and job descriptions went. Ages were wildly varied too. I am much, much older than you and one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I would not be coming on to you as a certainty, nor have I any desire to convert anyone or to be curtailed in my beliefs. Consider me as a possible online friend, if you like. That goes for any other INFJ that needs emails or texts that aren't just about shallow nothings.

@danielkomorowski7966

Жыл бұрын

I hate when you tell people how you feel and they weaponize what you said against you. I just hate people. F*** it. They are full of s***. That's why I don't have many friends

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yeah Daniel, I understand where you are coming from. It's tough because many times people are immoral playing games and we pick up on it (and can't stand for it). They can sense we know (or we straight up tell them), then they can't stand us. It's tough. Jay

@katepamplin622

Жыл бұрын

I literally just went through this, pretty much word for word. I had this secret pain I was going through and baring for the sake of the person who inflicted them. I was patient because they were going through a lot in the months proceeding what they did to me, so in true INFJ fashion I waited… then they told me I was obsessing, taking things out of proportion, and why do I care so much? Man. If I ever wondered if I was INFJ, HERE’s MY SIGN.

INFP here. Hope you don't mind me gatecrashing the "circle", but I found that I also relate to pretty much everything on here. Being an INFX can be lonely sometimes.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

I have this new friend, and INFP, we get along well, yes I see a lot things in common with INFPs, even I joined an INFP group on Facebook and we're mostly the same with them

@amandabloodgood9950

5 күн бұрын

Was hoping another infp would speak ❤❤❤ and you said what I was thinking pretty much the way I would say it 😂

Seems like we live in a time where this adage fits all too well," What is true is not popular, and what is popular is not true"

You nailed it. You are reading me like a book. I have few real friends. Never fit in and usually misunderstood.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

I totally understand. We are definitely different (and can be misunderstood for sure) and wevhave different standards for friends, but that's OK. Never settle for someone who's bad for you! thanks for the comment :) Jay

Very true, especially the "we don't like people who are self centered or quick to give harsh comments". It's very very hard for me to deal with those people ! I crave real deep friendship, but got no one except for my mom. I hope one day I will feel like I belong somewhere

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Hi Ciara, I relate. I try to remind myself that if someone is like that (self-centered, not concerned about others) they aren't worth my time anyway. So, the real tragedy is that there aren't more truthful, caring people in the world. Glad you have your mom, I have mine too and am thankful for every day with her. Hang in there and don't give up, there are a few people out there that make good INFJ friends, they are just very difficult to find. Jay

@clarajays

Жыл бұрын

@@INFJcircle thank you very much for the encouragements ! And for your channel

@noway905

9 ай бұрын

@@clarajays Lucky you! I don't even have that, yet. But you'd think at my age it would have happened long ago. Been a VERY long, lonely road, the one less traveled.

@phatcat3705

8 ай бұрын

@@noway905 I'm sorry to hear that. But same with my sister (she's INFJ), so hang in there. I somehow convinced our mother to take the tests and she's ESTJ, which doesn't come as a surprise. She's all about "image," money, and job-this-job-that, so, even though my sister is well into adulthood and has been on her own for a decade now, continues to nag her incessantly to be social and that "life is fake! Deal with it!" In addition to outside of the household, where my sister just gradually stopped seeing friends due to being tired of their superficiality, my sister is literally the only Feeling type in our family and goes so deep with everything, so she told me recently that she's always felt like the Black Sheep everywhere she went, including at home (I'm INTP. I get this part at SOME point). I just hope it gets better for you all. If only there was some INFJ support group or something. Then it might be more bearable.

@drunkensquirrel7545

8 ай бұрын

​@@noway905Same here. I've been hurt a lot too. I'm very lonely... especially when I'm surrounded by other people these days.

INFJ’s who understand who they are at their core, have healed from their past and inner turmoils of being constantly misunderstood, feeling out of place and forgiving every friendship that revealed superficiality instead of loyalty come the storm. An INFJ prospers once they start with analysing themselves first and understanding what there needs and wants are first. Once this seed is planted and decides to self nurture their own understanding of who they are, an INFJ won’t be affected by illusions of external nonsense. To reach this stage you must be comfortable in your own skin for better or for worse.

@CW-ee5ih

9 ай бұрын

The real deal is that we are finally ok with being totally lonely. It’s all just pretending to be with almost everyone else. Who is really ready?

We are super smart and interested in the world, how things work, patterns (that can be used to find connections and to predict outcomes). We have high standards for ourselves. We seek others like us for friendship, but are too often disappointed in their lack of desire to grow. They say, "That's too much work." But we INFJ's think: Why else are we on this earth? We are here to grow, to help, to do good, etc. Isn't that OBVIOUS? (I think that is our motto, much of the time: "Isn't it obvious?")

@meagiesmuse2334

7 ай бұрын

I read somewhere that the INFJ motto is : "There's always room for improvement", which is close to what you are saying. It baffles me that people are happy with their little bundles of closely held beliefs and are determined never to open their minds again. I want all my relationships to last forever, and when I realize I've grown so far past someone that we are no longer even speaking the same language, it hurts a lot.

@sarahsarkissz

Ай бұрын

THIS!

@charleslinley4288

18 күн бұрын

DEFINITELY! WE ARE HERE TO GROW, HELP, AND DO GOOD! Spoken like a true infj!

@lukula2934

4 күн бұрын

Yep, It seems we live in a world where what's true isn't popular and what's popular isn't true. Oh well, it's not like I can go back and live among the "surface dwellers".

@ct6852

2 күн бұрын

People want to have decent, peaceful, content lives, and some solutions to their problems. And some mystery. Most don't want to spend all their time toiling in misery for a perfection that doesn't really exist.

I've massively struggled lately. With all the chaos in the world right now. Everyone is angry, which I just pick up on constantly. It's overwhelming at times. Everyone who meets you doesn't understand you, dislikes you for no reason. Yet everyone gravitates to me when they are in distress. It's very difficult and lonely. I'd give anything for just one person who truly understands how hard it is and just gets you so to speak.

@Nick-Nasty

4 ай бұрын

I hear you loud and clear. I wish you the best..

@ajt2348

4 ай бұрын

@Nick-Nasty Hello Nick. Thank you for that. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I wish you all the best also, I really do.

@phoenixreborn1111

3 ай бұрын

You aren't alone. I think most of us here can relate to that feeling. This is one reason I do grocery pick up now instead of going inside. I pick up on people's energy, and it's chaotic, to say the least.

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

You're not alone at that AJ, it's the same for me too, even nowadays it is, it's a never-ending cycle

@bongzsnoochy4712

3 ай бұрын

​@@phoenixreborn1111awww I'd do that if that option was available for me, but alas, and so I do my thing and my INTP dad, knows that if I had gone shopping, I'd come back exhausted from all the energy not from going up and down, round and round, it's morely emotionally drained than physically worn out and so he knows I won't be cooking food, I'd just do the quick stuff, so that I can rest early, and the rest don't get that,and I'm grateful for that with my father.

What a great video! thank you! I'm an INFJ and I have to face the fact that the people who love me the most do not want to know about what is going on inside me. It's really hard. I think they find me frustrating and trying to be around sometimes because I don't want to stay superficial and they do. I'm having a hard time dealing with that reality.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yes Leslie, I understand. It is tough to realize that people close to us just really don't care. I completely agree with your comment, but that doesn't take away how tough it is. Some books that have helped me understand others are: How to Win Friends and Influence People (discusses what you were talking about and tells you how to profit from it) The 48 Laws of Power (it's a bit offensive to my morals but helped me understand what people are seeking). Thanks for the great comment! Jay

@rnedlo9909

Жыл бұрын

I am the only INFJ I know. Also, I live in a totally MAGA region, so for me to get into deep conversations is like walking through a field of land minds. I understand what you are saying and there is no easy path for an INFJ unless they are the rare one who finds a mate or has family that understands them. I coup by staying separate but involved and doing what I can for others. As you said, most people want to stay superficial and that is the way they cope, where as we are just the opposite. Hang in there, I hope you find friend that will value you, it took me decades and only have a couple of people I can talk to by phone, they do not live close.

@Coneman3

Жыл бұрын

I increasingly prefer my own company.

@reesedaniel5835

8 ай бұрын

If those people really love you, they would love the INSIDE OF YOU. I'd rather be hated for who I am, than "loved" for I am NOT!

@holo406

5 ай бұрын

​​​@@INFJcircle hi brother. A related topic to this for us INFJs is the great difficulty to experience reciprocity both in friendships with non INFJs but especially in romantic relationships. And even more male INFJs in this social context, most types enjoy and benefit from our "giving all 24/7" for everyone and even more for a potential significant other but as soon as we dare to claim for our needs they are gone, because 90% of people simply can't and/or not willing to put any effort for us to also give us what we need (that usually is very little, as we give all and are happy with that). I'm feeling very lonely after setting boundaries from "takers" and "friends" from the past that disappeared and stopped reaching out as soon as I stopped reaching out first. And was better to be on my own than only being used and dumped. But it's not that I "want to stop giving", I just want to share life with a romantic partner who also gives... but TO ME TOO reciprocally, so that we both love and help each other consistently :( But most types misunderstand our common sense request as if we were asking "too much", when they don't precisely complain receiving all that much from us

I guess what happened to me it's that I lowered my standards so now I actually know more people and they are "kind of" friends. To be honest, each one is good for something in particular and I can share those particular things with each of them. But to find someone who I can share almost everything with it's difficult, maybe impossible. So I lowered my standards, now an ENTJ friend is trying to change my perspective xd

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I do think we expect too much sometimes - at least from one person. Thanks for the comment! Jay

OMG This is so frickin hilarious and SOOO true!! I am an INFJ. The part when he says 'they run for the hills' killed me...again, SO TRUE :)

INFPs also craves deep and meaningful friendships and are exceptionally good at reading people. I find comfort in truth and find falsehoods stressful to deal with when no one is willing to look at it. The other issue is too much empathy and need for stronger boundaries.

I am the new one in my Bridge club. I soon realised that the top player frequently recorded losses as wins in her favour. When I pointed this out to others, I was quickly howled down by her cronies, who wouldn’t believe she cheated, and defended her ‘mistakes’. So of course now I’m the ‘bad’ one 😞

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

4 ай бұрын

Oh that must’ve been infuriating. I swear I’ve been in a similar situation, but I can’t recall at the moment.

4:18 they (most people) prefer to be distracted because they can't stand to be alone with their own thoughts it drives them crazy because you can't do that for very long without finding things you don't like about yourself and need to work on which is extra difficult for those who put so much effort into picking everyone else apart and zero effort on self-analysis. I read an article a few years ago called "shocking : people doing anything but think" that I highly recommend for anyone or better yet everyone because it's good to understand this no matter which Camp you fall into

@INFJcircle

11 ай бұрын

Very good comment here. I have saved your comment in my notes and will look up that article! Jay

@Rob337_aka_CancelProof

11 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle sorry it was called "shocking people will do anything but think" voice typing and neglecting to proofread not a good combination (like laxatives and sleeping pills) XD

To be plainly honest, I often find myself the center of attention.. and I don't like it. Seem to only attract weirdos, people I want little to nothing to do with. I'm just out vibin, minding my business and these freaks are harshing my mellow. It happens way too much.

So basically... forever alone? Haha jk it's not so bad especially if you have a strong spiritual side. Well, for me at least. Wishing everyone here comfort and peace during times of loneliness.

@arlettasloan6453

Жыл бұрын

That's very true. I pray and it helps. Though, sometimes what I pray for is a human to talk to. Which, by the way, I ended up with three of them today!

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Yeah @Meenaia, there are worse things than being alone. Like being with bad company! Jay

Okay. Until such a time as the INTJ is also craving deep, deep, deepness I am back to being INFJ. lol This is literally the thing that drives me the most crazy of all. Start finally touching the surface of what's worth talking about and everyone goes skittering away, screaming "You're too deep. " Meanwhile, I'm still in the shallows, wondering why everyone is afraid of a tsunami when the water is only ankle deep as far as the eye can see!

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

This is a really great comment. Yes, any topic worth talking about, couldn't agree more. I'm not much for whether or sports talk, how about the meaning of life or the state of culture in America? lol. You won't find people chatting about things like this. We really are outsiders. Thanks or the comment! Jay

@meagiesmuse2334

7 ай бұрын

I saw a horrifying poll several months ago, and can't remember where I saw it, but 67% of Americans said they had never, not once (!), thought about what the meaning or purpose of life might be! Sometimes I wonder if the stork left me on the wrong planet, lol.

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

4 ай бұрын

I love the idea of a small tsunami that’s only ankle deep 😆 brilliant description!! 😃

@danielanyamele

2 ай бұрын

That is the intj for you. Extremely smart people..

@egverlander

7 күн бұрын

@@meagiesmuse2334 The stork definitely left me on the wrong planet.

People don't like the truth and that's all I bring😂

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

I get it Tara, me too. They certainly don't like it :) Jay

@reesedaniel5835

8 ай бұрын

Yep. I get labeled a "conspiracy nut" instantly when I reveal facts they don't want to know about.

I'd never heard of infj the last time I was in jail more than a decade ago but my infj honesty got me in eight or nine different fights in a six-month stay and you're right people all say they prefer and respect honesty but nothing could be further from the truth

Wow. This upload seriously hit home. I doubt I'll ever get it... All one has to do is look at *any* social media site to see how lonely, separate, invisible, and unvalued people feel; but when they finally meet someone who legitimately wants to help them fight these they sabotage it. Or worse. If most people were honest with themselves, on that single point alone, I think they'd be happier, and hurt others less. But it hurts my head trying to grasp this logic. So that's all I have to say about it. 😔

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

This is a great point Mary. It seems that we have the "pill" that could cure their condition, but they can't stand to discuss things with us long enough to get it. Very strange and one of the reasons INFJs have such a hard life. It's like "let me help you!" But they won't, keeping things shallow and not addressing real issues. Oh well. Thanks for the insightful comment! Jay

@arlettasloan6453

Жыл бұрын

There's a young blonde person a couple of comments up from you that wants a friend. Probably a lot of others in this line of comments. Me included.

@reesedaniel5835

8 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle They close up their hearts due to cowardice. They know they will be persecuted and rejected by the "monkey people"....(Mundane, superficial, emotionally stunted/willfully ignorant types that are the majority.)

Youre absolutely right about the deceitful people. I cant stand sociopaths and psychopathic behavior or narcisists. It drives me crazy when i see females being attracted to a narcisist because you know how the situation will end up in about one to three months. Its also likely if you tell them its a mistake, the person you warned will hate your guts. The best option is to let them find out for themselves. Lol

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

4 ай бұрын

Exactly. I always question the toxic relationships. I had one friend who would not break up with this guy, and I knew he wasn’t good for her, but she just didn’t want to. I felt so bad for her.

@DoofenSpyroDragon16

4 ай бұрын

I didn’t say anything for fear of getting judged.

@paulblart5358

4 ай бұрын

@@DoofenSpyroDragon16 I guess it's a situation that can't be helped. I guess the only reasonable answer is to state your case and just let things play out.

@Zara-pt5xq

2 ай бұрын

LOL

I have an addendum to "people don't like the truth". My whole life I have been actively sought out by people, who want my opinion because they respect what I have to say. They are always fine with the truth when receiving it is on their own terms. They are the very people who just disappear because they want to keep doing what they're doing. Even if it means outright ghosting you, they will do whatever it takes to maintain the status quo, without encountering the truth.

Thank you. I have to admit that it is my own doing that I don't surround myself with 'friends'. It's not that I don't like people in general, and people don't necessarily shy away from me. I just have a natural to keep my life simple. "Too many cooks spoil the soup", as the old saying goes.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Good point here Norman. Who wants a bad "friend"? Is that even a friend at all. I think I have imagined perfect people in my mind and keep looking for them in real life. Well, we'll never find them. A simple life is of great value. Thanks for the great comment! Jay

I have always spoken out and frequently was surprised at what I said. It was usually correct, especially when there was an untruth at the core.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree, sometimes we surprise ourself because we expect that everyone would know what we are saying, it seems so obvious to us! Thanks for the comment Lola! Jay

I think I should play this on a constant repeat 😅 How many times am I deceived by seeing the good in others while there's so little there. It's so good to hear a human voice and folks in the comments who appreciate the truth. How I wish I was born a hunter gatherer when they were still free to roam the earth in alignment with nature. 💗❤💗

4:57 this is so true and so difficult for me because as a twin my first relationship with another human was on another level for almost 10 years (until we started interacting with the rest of the world on a regular basis and hasn't been right since) and it set an unreasonably High bar for everything that followed

Great video! Could totally relate to all of it. Another point is that: we INFJ will stand up for what we believe in (situations, people, ideqs etc) while others usually won't, they'll be quiet and do "what's in their very personal best interest" . When I see people that are like that... I immediately "erase them from the list" of people I wanna be around!

@Zara-pt5xq

2 ай бұрын

Me too Not always immediately But soon

I wouldn't say I'm all that good at reading people. I find friendship quite difficult.

I was talking to a welder once, about why I wanted a metal rack on the back of my pickup. After explaining about my future plans he looked at me and said, "You're a real person". Wow I've never forgotten that.

Criticism always alienates people no matter how well intended.

So, this video popped up in my recommends and I looked up INFJ personality. I was blown away because I realized that what I was reading described me in every way imaginable. I think the last time I looked up personality types was when I was a teenager, ie. when I was still forming my own identity and decided I was an INTJ. But reflecting on the events of my adult life, as it were, I can safely say that INFJ fits who I am more. I am an idealist and am often at odds with my family for more than one reason, the biggest being them supporting people whose morality and conduct is abhorrent to me. I find it amazing it isn't abhorrent to them, too, since they raised me with certain values. I guess the difference is I stand by my convictions regardless whereas they will compromise their positions if it's someone who claims to share their values (even when there is plenty of evidence to the contrary). So, I definitely have had moments where I called someone out on their bullshit and they got upset at hearing the truth. Some of them, I still don't speak to even now. It's not a loss in my life; if anything, it means I don't have to pretend to approve of their attitude towards life or other things they do that I disapprove of. At any rate, this video and the random research topic it inspired in me have given me a renewed sense of purpose, something I've been missing of late due to being in the throes of despair at how chaotic and cruel the world seems to be becoming. I will definitely be subscribing to this channel to see what else you might post in the future. Thank you for posting this video and helping me come to understand who I am deep down, or rather reaffirm it for me.

Normal people in general seem to love the surface experience with friends rather than a true foundational relationship that will strengthen by the time the storm hits. True relationships take sacrifice and work that we are willing to put in. People are shocked when friendships of over 20-60 years takes a hit and turns sour. They loved each other in the good, but when a weakness is exposed they hate eachother. The idealism of what they built falls down. I think that's why INFJs have a harder time with people because nobody actually wants all of you like that. We aren't afraid to show our shadow sides and talk about it because we know it's necessary for growth. We're good at forecasting and we like to prepare ourselves and everyone else ahead.

@arlettasloan6453

Жыл бұрын

Gaahhah It gives me the creeps just thinking about all that surface experience. I hate it so much!

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

@pearlydiamond Yep. I've noticed this. I love you, but I"m not changing my entire makeup and interests for you. Lol. That's what we seem to say. We will bend for someone, but break for no one. I too want an idealistic friendship but people run like crazy when you start discussing weaknesses and growth. Thanks for the great comment! Jay

@pearlydiamond

Жыл бұрын

I Iove that 'bend for someone but break for no one.' That oughta be our motto. It's a good reminder for empaths. We need space to grow too. Thank you

Yes, I called out a major alpha player of a non-profit in 2017, have been ostracized by many of the organization to this very day. Very few friends. But the few are diamonds.

As an INFJ. I don't mind reminise about the good old days. But I usually turn it into a teaching moment. Then I lose the crowds attention.

Don't like labels but I fit into INFJ personality group at this point in my life. In the past I used to use masks trying to fit somewhere, as it took me a relatively long time to discover who I really was because didn't want to disappoint my closest relatives... Now I don't crave for making "new friends", social interactions or what my family thinks because of past disappointments, plus I love to be alone🖤. I forgive but not forget😜specially when my trust is broken. Can count with 1 hand how many friends I have, without using all fingers and this is not bad. Quality over quantity

Been struggling how to find friends who can just be honest with me. My best friend is also an INFJ. She's an INFJ-A and I'm an INFJ-T. I have some "friends" who are trying to mince their words when talking to me & my BFF but we already sense the lies. The fake smiling faces are hard to look at, let alone that high pitched voice pretending to be friendly. Oh yeah we can see right through those people. Haha! Thanks for this video. 😊 To my fellow INFJs, let's stay true to ourselves and the real ones will stay. Sending hugs to everyone! 🤟☺️

Thanks Jay! Your video made me laugh a bit too!! So true that others are "scared to death" by interacting with INFJs for their honesty and emotional closeness.

This makes a lot of sense.... I would rather be alone than be around superficial people.

I have door slammed a lot of friends and family. I take the abuse and then beat myself up for it. As I am getting older, door slamming has been a blessing. I have like 2 friends. My 3rd friendship, I have put an end to it after a little as I was trying to get to know the other person better she was way to negative and harsh. I was very understanding at first thinking she's going through a difficult time trying to help her and coach her but it had no end to the point she started critizing me and expressing jealousy. I was done. I can't door slam this one completely as I run into her but I am very distant and I take extreme measures to avoid her.

I’m an INTJ, very compatible with INFJ. I learned a long time ago that most people don’t really want to hear the truth, so it isn’t worth hurting someone or losing the friendship for the sake of telling someone what I really think of them or their situation. There have been exceptions along the way though. For the most part though, unless you’re someone’s therapist, most people aren’t interested in “The Iceman Cometh”. My best friend is an INFJ, very compatible, and I think we are both very diplomatic in how we give feedback and constructive criticism. We do, though, usually hit the nail on the head about each other’s faults and weaknesses. For me this has proven to be a Godsend, especially since I know it’s coming from care and concern, not hatred. The INFJs I’ve known, do take friendships seriously, as I do, and have been sensitive, supportive and loyal. The part of the “truth” they can hurt people with isn’t necessarily only about their faults or weaknesses, but about shattering their illusions about anything. IINFJs forget that humans aren’t rational, especially about what we attach ourselves to emotionally, our memories, our loves. I might remember my teenage years as having been wonderful because I’m seeing through the lense of my friendship memories. The INFJ might remind me that the neighborhood I grew up in was very dangerous so how could those years have been wonderful? That kind of having cold water being splashed in your face. The INFJ doesn’t realize that maybe it was BECAUSE the neighborhood was so dangerous that my friends, my safe allies with whom I relaxed and had fun with, became very special and unforgettable. INFJ might rely too much on reason and logic in some cases, and therefore come to the wrong conclusions. They assume that future human nature can always be predicted by observing past patterns, or, whatever the status quo is, and they fall into error sometimes. But in general, I would always choose them for my close friend!

Sounds like INFJs have the same values in friendship as I do, INTP. Not that I'm good at feelings, but I have other ways to get at them, and am interested in learning more about that.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Good to have you here! INTP's are interesting for sure, and still introverted! Thanks for the comment and for watching. Jay

I wonder if being friends with other INFJs will bring friends who can connect on the level we crave.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

I think so, but they are certainly hard to find "in the wild"! Keep looking :) Jay

@norkar5540

Ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle HOW do we find other INFJ'S?

@renespain3798

4 күн бұрын

Yes, I just found a friend recently and went on a walk yesterday and realized we were both INFJ’s. We can talk for hours and it feels like great therapy every time. It’s fulfilling to not stay surface level.

Heres the issue though. Infjs think they are giving the truth, but in actuality they are giving one truth when many others can exist. They laser focus due to their Ni. They like to think they are correct when in actuality they may not always be and this they struggle to even consider. They are quick to judge others cos of this and others can feel it. Also they do value deep friendships but many other types do too, just whats valueable and close in a friendship shows up different in different types. Personally for me infjs can be too clingy and close and can feel suffocating unless they learn to respect my entp ways ~ entp

Everything in this video's so true! And I even can see futher. Now I can see that I wasn't born a INFJ and most of my childhood I had another personality, but due to many things that happened I was shaped by this situations.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

Hi Nicko! That's an interesting perspective. I'm reading a book called "Personality Type: An Owner's Manual" that seems to be insinuating that same thing. We are shaped. Great comment and nice to have you here! Jay

@alexadellastella5247

Жыл бұрын

I relate to what you are saying totally! I was more an INFP living in an abusive family and even though I clearly am an INFJ today Irelate to the INFP a lot, even when going deeper with the cognitive functions actually. I can be both depending on the context... i even made tests which go deeper to differenciate if I am infj or infp and same thing again I truly am both even though a tiny bit more on the infj side. In the beginning it made me confused but now I have accepted that

@northernpianotuner3319

8 ай бұрын

Agreed. I think I was meant to be an ENFJ but a sad childhood twisted that.

Hi, Brigid from Australia here. I just want to thank you for this discussion tonight on INFJ’s and friendship difficulties! I haven’t been able to actually put into concrete words what I’ve been experiencing, but you have done it beautifully! Thank you so much! I am looking forward to joining your Facebook circle, thank you so very much! Namaste🙏🌈💚

Thank you for your kindness and caring. Your fellow INFJ 💙

This resonates so much and makes me feel better about certain people from my past. I have no need for many friends though. A few genuine ones is more than enough.

Wow. I am stunned by the accuracy of your description of the INFJ! Nailed it!

Well I am so glad to hear that my expectations are in alignment with INFJ always found it trying in society to attempt to have friends

I once called out the manipulative tactics of someone in middle school. She was lying and manipulating my friend and I had to step in.

I really think it is because they get so easily offended at the tiniest of things, and many are very emotionally unstable and lash out at people over the most trivial issues. Who wants to be friends with someone like that?

@divinaluz7

4 ай бұрын

Ahaa, I am INFJ but I feel this 😧🤗

I love this and now I understand myself. All of my sons are just like me. We are a rare breed and don’t like to waste our time with silliness!!!!!

This is downright frighteningly accurate.

I relate so hard with this. But my question is: How do you cope with feeling misunderstood, with not feeling validated enough, with not being able to talk about everything thats going on, that others don't seem to want to improve theirselves and you have to watch them stay miserable and just wait until they are ready? How do you not feel misunderstood, lonely and rejected? How do I lower my expectations regarding other people? How do I not care about them not caring as much as I do? Is there a video about that?

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

This is the really difficult part and I totally understand where you are coming from Annika. I still do feel misunderstood from time to time, but I've learned that there are others like me and that helps. Also, it's OK that we are different. One thing I would say is that when you let go and lower your expectations of people there is an immense relief. Finally, don't lower your expectations for close friends or romantic relationships too much, because those are the people you really need to understand you (or having the relationship isn't worthwhile). But yes, allow others to do their own thing (even if that means they are messing up badly and you know it). It's a big relief not to feel responsible for others actions and emotions. Thanks for the great comment! Jay

@northernpianotuner3319

8 ай бұрын

My only answer to that is, I talk to God. Constantly!!!! But there are times I wish for a human friend. I'm married to a wonderful man but he gets tired out or something, & needs down time/alone time...... I wish I had a dog!

@reesedaniel5835

8 ай бұрын

"He (Jesus) was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief. Like one from whom men hide their faces, He was despised, and we esteemed Him not." Isaiah 53:3 Sound familiar?

@littlet-rex8839

7 ай бұрын

Sometimes change happens at a slow pace, be patient. It may take time for someone to see your point, how consistent and genuine you are, play the long game,,,, you are an eternal soul

This was a great video...describes me to a T. I have few friends and zero acquintance-type friends...those are a waste of time to me. I've always been able to read between the lines with people...and I would say if actions don't match words (which they don't in a lot of cases)...I'm out. I've always been a black sheep kind of person...in fact even black sheep don't want to have anything to do with me...but the feeling is mutual. And being alone seems the best fit for me...I avoid BS, hassle, meaningless coversations and wasted time. Thanks for posting this!

Never seen a more relatable video 🥺

I also love and enjoy read people's types just by looking at em, interacting with em, and those sorts of things. It helped me with figuring out my dad and brother for some reason and my finding proved to be truth of what I was curious and couldn't pin point about them 😊

Asking an INFJ to join a social circle on FB lol. After about 40 years I'll just accept it for what it is, people I talk to don't like the way I talk, I'm not like the rest of my local community and I have just come to accept what is

All the time, bradda. Sometimes its a hindrance. Its counterproductive to say that you wish you were oblivious but people trying to set you up and lie is so obvious. With me its been a priceless blessing.

@INFJcircle

Жыл бұрын

As INFJs we can see this stuff so clearly! Shame that people keep trying to do it, and we can't stand for that. Thanks for the comment! Jay

@meagiesmuse2334

7 ай бұрын

@@INFJcircle - If I am at the point where I've been pushed until I am willing to door slam someone, I may tell them that I can read their minds, and I know they are lying. Every time I've done that, the same thing has occurred, ie. They would look me in the eye and lie again, and I picked up that the person was also thinking that I can't possibly read their mind, and if anyone could read minds it would be them! When I repeat back to them exactly what the truth really was and what they just thought, their eyes get wide, and they turn around and run away as fast as they can. I know it's awful of me, but that makes me feel very good, and those people never come near me again. When I was young and people lied to me a lot, I suffered in silence. Now, I've finally learned to put myself first, so I give it back to the person and let them feel it.

The comments all resounded with me! We are just "too much", right?

All spot on! So accurate!

I'm constantly learning,love helping and improving. My friends are intimate and honest. I see fakes a mile away and feel no pressure to keep them close or fit in with small talk. I find fakeness the worst. Had a very good friend, who was affected by a fake person, and gradually became more like her. I miss that friendship still, even though I shouldn't.

spot on- for someone to be considered a FRIEND to me ..let's just say that group is for a precious few. We have to be able to be our true selves, speak the truth, and allow others the space to do the same. No time for superficial relationships.

This is so true. INFJ here. Although I have very few friends that understands and accepts for who I am. Which is really nice. 😊

Love this!!! It is so true, absolutely 😂

As always, y'all nail it! Thank you so much... incredibly helpful stuff!

So glad I found this channel. I thought I was okay. I’m just special not weird.

This is so relieving. 😞

I've wondered all my life why I was so different and felt out of place in this world...now I know!

That always happen to me, thats why I'm alone. Simply wonder why the people can't be honest and loving and loyal just like me. So sad truth 😞 😢

I called out a man who was speaking disrespectfully to his wife. He was the manager of a volunteer group, there were 4 or 5 making calls, he was in the back of the room loudly admonishing his wife. I just couldn’t take it after a few minutes, stood up and called him out right in front of everyone. I left immediately because I really hate confrontation. I just couldn’t help myself. I saw him a few years later… in church of all places. The following week he apologized to me and thanked for what I had done.

Gosh darlin I just love u Thank u. This is where I am now...laying here in middle of night can't sleep asking God why I keep losing friendships when it's so hard to make them.

@MD-gk2un

3 ай бұрын

Best friend kept going back to abusive ex. I told her he's gonna kill her and her kids. Not what she wanted to hear. Lost her friendship.

I feel this so deeply. I would rather be alone than be connected with fake ass people. And because of my inability for small talk and superficiality, it has been next to impossible to have interpersonal relationships.

Great video. Really resonates with my personal thoughts and observations. I do not like social media, but that group does sound like a good initiative.

I love being an INFJ.. I hope we INFJs can have a meeting this year, please..

All the answers to my loneliness. Thank you

This describes me exactly I cannot be around shallow people it drives me nuts. I like being around people who are more intelligent than me because I don't have to explain myself, they get it, they understand.

I did call out a friend, we are no longer friends.

I’m an ISFP and I don’t know what I’d do without my INFJ best friend.

Everybody is so fake, uncaring and selfish it’s hard to deal with.

@lukula2934

4 күн бұрын

Yes, it can get to be too much sometimes. Can't say that I like being alone so much more these days, but in doing so, my self awareness and clarity of vision have increased. The fact is that there's no turning back. But the energetic usury employed by the masses does seem to be having increased , and more recognizable, "matrix-like" glitches. Almost as if some kind of unconscious, self-purging has begun...Interesting times we live in.

No truer words have ever been spoken--most people don't like to hear the truth.