The paradox of stability
A few weeks ago, I got some unsettling news. It made me think back on the past few years of my life (and even way before that) and how I would react whenever something like this - something unexpected, unplanned - happened. This video is about me grappling with the question of why so many of us crave stability and fear uncertainty, and so try to minimize it by exerting control over every little part of our lives. I know this has been an ongoing theme in my life, so I wanted to tell a little bit of my story and what it's taught me. If you're compelled to share, I would love to hear yours.
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Hi there! My name is Grace and I'm your average thirty-year-old living near and working in NYC as a brand strategist. My vlogs are an attempt to share with you a realistic glimpse into my life (and my head lol) as I build a career in advertising, navigate adulthood and relationships as an ambivert and chronic overthinker, figure out how to survive as a foreigner in the U.S., and learn to love myself a little more every day.
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Much love,
Grace
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My algorithm Deserves applauses for bringing me here 💙💙
Thanks for sharing this. Really oddly I have the same fear of instability but my defense mechanism is the complete opposite. I make no plans at all so they can't be ruined. It really holds me back. Every little part of me that tries to reach out and truly live is like a child reaching out of a window fear that their fingers will get clipped. So I don't reach out at all... I end up waiting for life to tell me what I'm safely allowed to do even though I've spent so much time understanding the world around me out of fear that I already know everything that will happen. It's almost like choosing to live feels like I'm choosing to be hurt. I'm not really sure who's reading or who even understands my jibberish or if this is even the right place to be oversharing like this, it just felt like you carved a tiny safe space for me to put something of mine out there. I hope it's okay, and thank you for your vulnerability and story. I hope you keep finding yourself out there.
@state_of_grace
4 күн бұрын
It's definitely scary to put stories like this out on the internet but I'm so happy we've begun to create a space for people to feel safe enough to do so - and I'm very honored that you felt compelled to share with me! I don't want to claim I fully understand everything you're going through, but I do relate to the fear of being hurt preventing me from living actively & wholeheartedly (and it's especially hard when memories of being hurt are fresh in your mind). But from what you said, it does sound like the hunger to live fully is alive in you & that in itself is very valuable! I hope you know you're a lot stronger than you think. Being able to talk about stuff like this is also a testament to that, imo. Hope that strength keeps growing! Much love xx
That was such hard but wonderful video to post, and I hope that you are doing better. Thanks for sharing
@state_of_grace
5 күн бұрын
Thank you so much ♥️
Thanks alot that this popped up in my recommendation. All the best to you !! I hope everything turns out nice for you 💞
Thanks for sharing this. Its comforting to know that I am not alone in my experiences. I too have had a realization that in the grand scheme of things, our life that spans for like 80 years is mundane and quite insignificant. Some might call that a nihilistic and dark way to view life, but to me its such a freeing thought. I don't need to take life so seriously and instead try to have fun. Focus on the process and not the outcome. Do what I can do today, this hour, this min, this very moment. Life is so ridiculous, so lets take it easy and have fun.
@state_of_grace
4 күн бұрын
AMEN! Thanks for dropping a note, always comforting to know I'm not alone!
Went through same thing trying to get a startup to work. Sorta still going through it. Happy to see I'm not alone in it =)
you are going to make it big!!! im rooting for you girl🧿
@state_of_grace
2 күн бұрын
That's so nice of you to say! Thank you ☺️
Thank you youtube 🎉 first time getting something nice because of the algorithm
I love this video
@state_of_grace
5 күн бұрын
Thank you!! ☺️
I dont know why my algorithm sent me your video, but thanks. Im passing for a hard time.
@state_of_grace
2 күн бұрын
Thank you for stopping by! Sending you strength for whatever you're going through 🙏
Algorithm brought me here and it's a treasure.
@state_of_grace
5 күн бұрын
I'm happy you found me!
@sram6814
4 күн бұрын
@@state_of_grace staying here❤️
Fear of living in constant fear, poor mental health for that work visa or Fear of living an ambitiousless, mediocre life. Which one is worse ? I should find a balance.
@state_of_grace
3 күн бұрын
Yes, balance is key 🙏
KZread decided to show me this video--this was a topic I had to face a couple weeks ago as well. The universe threw me a curveball... btw, Is that a Cornell University pendant on the fridge?
@state_of_grace
5 күн бұрын
It is indeed ☺️ Hope things work out for you, sending strength!!
bomboclat
You are too self-obsessed. A shape square is square because it maintains the shape instead of changing shape. You fight the world to keep the shape. If you are everything, you are nothing
@ThisIsMyAlt0
5 күн бұрын
Use punctuation so we can at least understand your negativity.
@user-tc1qb9uz6e
5 күн бұрын
@@ThisIsMyAlt0 I stated what i observed i had no negative intention.