Tammy Nelson is so wise and so human. Anyone who hopes to thrive beyond the idealized, romantic phase of a relationship should watch this. Janis Abrahms Spring

This forward thinking talk provides a thorough insight at how modern society looks and treats intimacy, relationships and monogamy. Who would have thought that just 20 years ago you'd be able "... to cheat on your partner while lying in bed next to them (with your smartphone)". Be prepared to rethink your relationship.

Great talk! I like the idea of people negotiating their monogamy and technology boundaries. Thanks Dr. Tammy Nelson well done!

Tammy is amazing! Her style, delivery and knowledge makes everyone feel comfortable talking about a subject that is not always comfortable!! Thanks, Tammy, for sharing your wisdom with the world!

I am a huge fan of Tammy Nelson's book "New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity" personally; and have recommended their perspective on the three spectral areas of relationships being time, emotions, and physicality to many friends, clients, and colleagues. Thank you for not being dualistic Tammy! Life is not a polarity between monogamy and polyamoury, we all live upon a spectrum of life needs, wants, and offers.

FINALLY! A TEDx Talk that is more applicable to my actual life. It's nice to be inspired by people's life-stories, but Tammy Nelson is actually giving her viewers valuable, applicable information for everyday life! Definitely sharing this with all of my friends who have had or are having relationship troubles, or those who aren't- as a lesson and guidance for the future! Can't wait to here what Dr. Nelson comes out with next.

What a refreshing, intelligent, and insightful talk. I want to watch it a few more times and will most definitely share it with friends and my patients. Every day in my practice, I listen to men and women talk of the deep issues around monogamy (and dissatisfaction) in their marriages. This simple 3-step plan is a perfect prescription not only for couples who are struggling but also for those who are happy yet know the value of regular checkups. It's a form of "wellness care" for relationships. This topic transcends religion and culture and gets straight to the heart of the human experience. Thank you for your wisdom, Dr. Tammy Nelson!

Dr. Tammy's insights into monogamy are eye-opening and thought-provoking. This is an important video for anyone in a relationship or thinking of beginning a new relationship. Jane Applegate

I love this talk. So down to earth and relevant to today’s environment. Honesty and communication are the key component to relationship. Dr Tammy’s approach helps all couples.

Thanks, Tammy, for your fresh perspective and practical suggestions.

Thoughtful, provocative and insightful. Thank you!

"By the time you got bored, you were dead" perfect analogy.

@Iazzaboyce

3 жыл бұрын

That's not an analogy it's a witticism.

@Stevonniewolf3113

3 жыл бұрын

I used to imagine being in a relationship with celebrities.

I could watch this on repeat!!! So relevant for all generations. Everyone needs to hear this.

Absolutely love this talk! Thank you for sharing your words with us :)

Here is an issue... the idea of honesty and transparency between two partners is a good point to aim at.. but there is a need for mystery, curiosity, longing, space, even a touch of risk /transgression, to keep the spark of attraction alive.. and these are the things that draw people to infidelity.

@delmanpronto9374

3 жыл бұрын

and ... marriage rate hits rock bottom. it just doesn't work.

Insightful look at the world of monogamy and all its modern challenges. Tammy is able to take an emotionally charged topic like infidelity and offer her perspective in such a way that we're left seeing it in a more human light.

Genius TY 4 sharing

Ted thanks for the good tips on monogamy

Wise

While I agree with cyber boundaries, I disagree that "transparency is tied to commitment", and I disagree that intimacy means barring every single corner of your life (do you. really want to know how that dress looks on you). Some online communications are between me and another person. That person deserves privacy as well. I don't hide the fact that I'm talking or texting but my friend's business is theirs. So if they confide in me I will keep their confidentiality. The best thing she says is to craft the relationship that works for you.

Its disappointing to read the three comments posted so far for this very open minded and present speaker. The subject matter is always going to draw negative attention from the conservative, religious or more reserved sector of the community but she talks a lot of sense. As humans we are capable of remarkable things but appear to be limited in our ability to hear. She's not saying monogamy is dead or unimportant. She's not saying anything that could be considered negative or de-motivational. She’s saying there is a choice. This lady knows her stuff.

@ChikeBrinkley

Жыл бұрын

"Limited in our ability to hear, " perfect!

Interesting

Just make sure to negotiate before getting married. If you do a religious marriage monogamy is a given

Hi Tammy, you are amazing! xoxo

I am also a motivational speaker huh!!!!

Justifying the lack of moral, empathy and real connection between humans with this... you don’t have to marry if you can’t be truthful to your partner and your common project, that includes growing old together and having a strong family for your kids. Marriage is hard stuff, you have to gain it with hard work and commitment from both sides. Otherwise marriage is just an economic contract...

@kbanghart

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you didn't actually watch the video, or did you?

@andreatheodora8810

3 жыл бұрын

@@kbanghart I watch the full video and I am sorry but I just can't bite this rhetoric

@kbanghart

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreatheodora8810 no problem, you don't have to believe in it. But don't add all your extra fake news and prejudices into it.

@andreatheodora8810

3 жыл бұрын

@@kbanghart Fake news:life is hard, even harder when you have nothing to believe or to fight for. I comment with my own opinions and believes and you don't have to argue if you disagree. You still haven't expose your thought on video, like you don't know what a debate is.

@kbanghart

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreatheodora8810 oops, you sound a bit triggered. First you say I don't have to argue, and then you claim that I don't know what a debate is. So do you want an argument or not? Personally I really don't care, but it's obvious your initial post makes too many assumptions.

I have only been with my for the past 13 years. Trust me...its get hard when you are fairly attractive and its even harder to please the same person over time.

The trouble with monogamy is it's boring. We men have always been under the impression we were the ones who got bored and needed some variety and the woman was in ecstatic as long as they had an emotional reliable relationship with their spouse. The truth is women get bored screwing the same guy over and over. Most divorces are initiated by the woman. They find us boring. They want variety more than we do.

@tomasbritt4444

3 жыл бұрын

Great insight. This got me thinking 🤔

@daytoday6132

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe they desire creativity, not variety.

Sounds like she read or heard a lot of Esther Perel

Ask all the homewreckers who hit on married people.

Killing and robbing are crime 200, 500 years ago… so can all commit these crime now… commitment in relationship being loyal and honest has it value… She’s destroying those values redefining it. Human nature is not enough in anything at all always. Every Thursday will become every day. The one who don’t have brains to run a healthy relationship with one person find a solution with others and body demand too. She needs someone once a week clearly understood.

Lol

This collection of vids should be retitled TEDxxxNPD.

She lost all credibility, for me, when she said that 200 yrs ago we lived to be 38. This isnt factual. The average life span was 38, sure, but that is because many kids died by the age of 5. Those kids weren't married, I'm going to assume, and therefore wouldn't count in this particular idea. If one lived to be past age 5, then they typically lived to be 80, which ruins her theory of 'only being married for 15 yrs'. Ah, junk science.

@PolyCoachEliza

5 жыл бұрын

@@dr.tammynelson7971 I am certainly open to that.

@onyebuenyiude694

3 жыл бұрын

You are being literal, she simply meant people don't live long those days because of diseases with no cure or preventative measures

@kbanghart

3 жыл бұрын

Lol Elia good try

@stevemccready595

2 жыл бұрын

No antibiotics, Starvation, malnutrition, wars, no life saving medical treatments or medications... 200 years ago it would have been rare to reach the age of 50. A life expectancy of 80 is only a very recent achievement and only found in developed countries.

@PolyCoachEliza

2 жыл бұрын

@@stevemccready595 sure. Except you’re wrong.

Oh, Tammy... I know it's 2023 and people are making up new definitions to words. But you're reeeeeeeally allowing for the definition of monogamy to be about whatever the couple agrees to as long as they conduct their behaviors with integrity toward each other. Please, no.

Weirdest pronounciation of monogamy

@_BODLE_

3 жыл бұрын

Lol how do you say it?

this is such a load of bollocks! marriage is dead. try to draw up your agreement as many ways as you want, you will fail.