The New 5 Second Rule: Redefining the First Impression | Quita Christison | TEDxPortsmouth

First impressions are the unconscious categorization of people. In order to change the outcome of first impressions, Quita Christison is redefining the "5 Second Rule" with a new 5 Second Rule: STOP, See The Other Person. Quita’s two competing passions are theater and health care. She’s been able to merge these two passions at Next Step, an organization that provides teens and young adults living with chronic illness experiences and opportunities to learn life skills and build community. She uses expressive arts to develop “adulting” workshops. She’s a true people person and always happy to discover anything and everything while sharing a meal. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @experience42
    @experience424 жыл бұрын

    “Maybe they think I’m standing in a hole” 😂 you have a great sense of humour!!

  • @PatrycjaJot
    @PatrycjaJot4 жыл бұрын

    “First impressions are the points of no return” - I struggle with this statement. I absolutely agree with the fact that we need to STOP and “adjust” the initial impression as it might be completely wrong, even hurtful. However, there is definitely a return from it, we just need an open mind and, as you say, not act right away on the initial judgement.

  • @psteinem
    @psteinem4 жыл бұрын

    Superbe presentation. Loved the self deprecating humor, not made at the expense of others, yet twice as funny. A star is born

  • @theprimagen
    @theprimagen4 жыл бұрын

    What a great speaker... really enjoyed this one.. was able to take something valuable while having a good laugh.

  • @jjo5375
    @jjo53754 жыл бұрын

    I like this. Should be taught in first grade and every grade of school...including medical, educational....Life's schools!

  • @kkaisa6685
    @kkaisa66854 жыл бұрын

    i thought this might be a video that lets me eat food of the ground guilt free.

  • @ilytswg

    @ilytswg

    4 жыл бұрын

    So did I. Gueas there is more 5 second rules.....LOL

  • @sensegrove

    @sensegrove

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same lol

  • @ropy89

    @ropy89

    4 жыл бұрын

    AHAHAHAHA ! X'D thanks for the laughs man :'D good comment and a creative one !

  • @chiamakankorikailechukwu9189

    @chiamakankorikailechukwu9189

    4 жыл бұрын

    I was not the only one. Thanks God

  • @boldnbutiful_

    @boldnbutiful_

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol

  • @sweet717tbd2
    @sweet717tbd24 жыл бұрын

    Hey Quita, great video, glad we ran into you randomly at a restaurant on a trip to Boston last year (i think?)! Enjoyed our chats and bonding with you and your significant other as we bounced around to a few local breweries!

  • @TomiwaAdegbola
    @TomiwaAdegbola Жыл бұрын

    This is brilliant, insightful, cheerful and beautiful. I was engaged throughout, and I surely will remember STOP, See The Other Person (STOP)!. Bravo!

  • @psteinem
    @psteinem4 жыл бұрын

    WOW . A truly awesome presentation. Thank you for teaching us how to Listen, Learn, Respect.

  • @hebamadi265
    @hebamadi2654 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant I love her energy she is so nice

  • @aleenadavis1801
    @aleenadavis18014 жыл бұрын

    She redefined first impressions for me, truly.. I now see more of the perons own identity and find it easier to identify with them.

  • @More-clients-less-stress
    @More-clients-less-stress Жыл бұрын

    The category my brain wants to put you in is "BRILLIANT SPEAKER"! Thank you for a wonderful speech.

  • @brahimassafar3687
    @brahimassafar36874 жыл бұрын

    One of the best speeches since I subscribed in this channel but I did not expect it to be that good at first 5 seconds.I'll work on it thank u

  • @martinmason5008
    @martinmason50083 жыл бұрын

    This is superb. I'm here better late than never. I'll take all of this on board. Also seriously, the comedy clubs will be all the better, when reopened, for this young ladies wit, timing, and delivery. Very good, and alas I do need to keep reminding myself of the fundamentals.

  • @elenabelacastre7789
    @elenabelacastre77894 жыл бұрын

    THAT WAS GREAT!! 🦉👁👁🦉 I CERTAINLY DIDN'T NOTICE UR HEIGHT AT ALL! UR RIGHT, , U ARE WELL PROPORTIONED!!

  • @tanyabuckner2891
    @tanyabuckner28914 жыл бұрын

    You might be small in stature but delivered a big impactful message.

  • @abhishekjain5995
    @abhishekjain59954 жыл бұрын

    Great speech. thanks a lot for sharing

  • @becomingadreamcatcher
    @becomingadreamcatcher4 жыл бұрын

    🛑 STOP. See the other person. And after we learned how to do this perhaps the next time we look in the mirror we can also STOP and also give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. 💚

  • @2901nc
    @2901nc4 жыл бұрын

    You had wonderful adults in your life when you were growing up, and you make good use of those interactions. Congratulations.

  • @enjoylife9995
    @enjoylife99954 жыл бұрын

    wow😍 brilliant speaker👍👍 vibes, energy is surreal and she is the kind of person who enters in room n glows the room with her presences... I would be blessed to have friends like her!!

  • @delont1986
    @delont19864 жыл бұрын

    What we project is so powerful.

  • @samanthabanya1349
    @samanthabanya13494 жыл бұрын

    this was great! really nice to listen to

  • @PawanKumar-tu6ti
    @PawanKumar-tu6ti4 жыл бұрын

    What a awesome experience she shared with world to make them think that what the world really wants....Ted talks .. ideas worth spreading...and For us it's worth watching ...

  • @gersonyamada5366
    @gersonyamada53664 жыл бұрын

    Gratitude 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

  • @user-vw1kl6um1m
    @user-vw1kl6um1m5 ай бұрын

    You're awesome for speaking on this I'm a small person myself. So I relate so much.❤

  • @ig0ddessify
    @ig0ddessify4 жыл бұрын

    That was Beautiful!

  • @DavidHoodEdinburgh
    @DavidHoodEdinburgh4 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant.

  • @gaillewis5472
    @gaillewis54724 жыл бұрын

    I noticed her voice more than anything else, then asked myself if she was little based on its resonance. Then she said it.

  • @tathagatize
    @tathagatize4 жыл бұрын

    You are amazing Quita ✌

  • @mrhallman64
    @mrhallman642 жыл бұрын

    Great sense of humor!!

  • @LearnwithMariyam
    @LearnwithMariyam4 жыл бұрын

    Amazing video

  • @AiyanaT93
    @AiyanaT934 жыл бұрын

    LOVE YOU QUITA!! ❤️🌻

  • @vivilonrane1330

    @vivilonrane1330

    4 жыл бұрын

    @The Rockall Times yea she does

  • @PrayWithMeDaily81
    @PrayWithMeDaily814 жыл бұрын

    Let's keep developing ourself

  • @TheHappyYouChannel
    @TheHappyYouChannel Жыл бұрын

    Time to make a positive first impression with the new 5 second rule! 🤩✨

  • @kunjattasvlog4010
    @kunjattasvlog40104 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @gartheligon140
    @gartheligon1404 жыл бұрын

    Standing alone I couldn't tell she's that tall.

  • @sadabahmed1649
    @sadabahmed16494 жыл бұрын

    Amazing 😍🙌👌

  • @DjediFemi9of1
    @DjediFemi9of18 ай бұрын

    This was a beautiful presentation I am going to save this video so that the next time I have a speech or storytelling to do I can refer to your style. Really,it was absolutely, most awesome-ly, beautifully presented, thank you for the inspiration - oh and I also learned something valuable as well! Next time I meet somebody, I won't forget to S.T.O.P and See The Other Person

  • @englishwithhanifkhan6501
    @englishwithhanifkhan65014 жыл бұрын

    Respect is better than apology that's what I've learned from this video.

  • @pyschologygeek
    @pyschologygeek4 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes you need patience in order to find true happiness. It won't come fast and it won't come easy, but it will be worth it.

  • @HowellConsultations
    @HowellConsultations4 жыл бұрын

    Almost 2020! The next 2 months are all about being dedicated to your craft and to yourself. Hope our channel helps!

  • @alisherkhasanov2632
    @alisherkhasanov26324 жыл бұрын

    Wow, awesome, I just was talking to my son similar thing before his bed time. ...Mercury in retrograde, must be it..

  • @AdamShaiken
    @AdamShaiken4 жыл бұрын

    In 1992, I shaved half of my face as a fashion statement so to speak and I wore that look for several months. The reason for this was trifold. First, it was my sociological experiment...Do people really look at you and fully notice or take you wholly in ? Secondly, it often provided entre into an informative exchange with those that did notice and further acknowledged the difference and thirdly, was meant to be a personal statement of my opinion as to the schizophrenic state of politrips at that time. If you will recall, Perot was in then he was out then he was in again...blah blah blah !!!

  • @abcgamer2012
    @abcgamer20124 жыл бұрын

    Nice.

  • @haticebiket7067
    @haticebiket70674 жыл бұрын

    Yahh so kind lady 🙏

  • @medineyasar6184

    @medineyasar6184

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hatice Biket Sen türkmüsün, senin de mi bu hastaliktan var ?

  • @haticebiket7067

    @haticebiket7067

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@medineyasar6184Evet Türk'üm tabi ki. Hayır çok şükür bu hastalığım yok , kadının konuşması stili çok hoş çok net. Beğendim 👍 Neden böyle bir soru sorma gereği duydunuz ki ?

  • @walid2029
    @walid20294 жыл бұрын

    Nice

  • @jambuvantavhale15
    @jambuvantavhale154 жыл бұрын

    It is always see that to judge poeple is our prejudices about our past experiences, and our brain use it's past references, so this video may be change people to judge by only seeing then in first apperence. It will help to STOP.....

  • @asthajha5041
    @asthajha50413 ай бұрын

    She reminds me of Bernadette from tbbt

  • @AceHardy
    @AceHardy4 жыл бұрын

    👑

  • @4thi13
    @4thi132 жыл бұрын

    nobody commented in 10 months and my teacher made this an assignment to watch so wassup

  • @giga_chad_cosmic

    @giga_chad_cosmic

    2 жыл бұрын

    Your teacher made this an assignment ??

  • @ivonneedithl
    @ivonneedithl4 жыл бұрын

    S.T.O.P 🛑 See The Other Person!!! 🛑

  • @m...1045
    @m...10454 жыл бұрын

    👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍

  • @Lianpe98
    @Lianpe984 жыл бұрын

    In my experience first impressions are always wrong

  • @jareknowak8712

    @jareknowak8712

    4 жыл бұрын

    My experience: above 99% right. Not joking.

  • @junjied1875
    @junjied18754 жыл бұрын

    Stop, see the other person. The world doesn’t need an apology, it needs more respect. Every person deserves respect, all it takes is 5 seconds!

  • @evab2132

    @evab2132

    4 жыл бұрын

    I don't think so. All these psychopats sociopaths, narcissists....don't deserve respect. 5 seconds judgment is wrong. Person need more then 5 second make a judgment, without need, to apologies later.

  • @junjied1875

    @junjied1875

    4 жыл бұрын

    Eva Gabor safe to reach out with good intentions and allow time to filter out different behaviours, values and personalities - those could also be identified sooner once you’ve met enough of them. ;)

  • @mr.h5436
    @mr.h54364 жыл бұрын

    As a 6'3" man, logger, roughneck, I sort of was tired being looked at by 4'11" women as another notch on their belt. But I got over it.

  • @amicst
    @amicst4 жыл бұрын

    SEE the other person!

  • @amicst

    @amicst

    4 жыл бұрын

    @The Rockall Times yes, exactly.

  • @kayketterling5133
    @kayketterling51334 жыл бұрын

    Awesome Quita! You are so articulate. We ALL live in this one big world. Love and respect each other (S-T-O-P!) Love it!!

  • @umbratrickster7774
    @umbratrickster77744 жыл бұрын

    Wait... this isnt about food

  • @idealoading
    @idealoading4 жыл бұрын

    She has good sence of humor επισης κανω επιστημονικα βιντεο μπορει να σε ενδιαφερει

  • @carlosmanuelcabreraalvarad4365
    @carlosmanuelcabreraalvarad43654 жыл бұрын

    Why that isn't spoken at schools? Teach kids about that, and problem solved. They grow up with it

  • @englishwithhanifkhan6501
    @englishwithhanifkhan65014 жыл бұрын

    Need subtitle also to understand easily

  • @ahmadabdullah008
    @ahmadabdullah0084 жыл бұрын

    STOP 🛑 See The Other PERSON .. Masha’ALLAH.... I love that ❤️

  • @flyme2009

    @flyme2009

    4 жыл бұрын

    dont bring your islam here

  • @user-bj7bz1vg6q
    @user-bj7bz1vg6q4 жыл бұрын

    رائع

  • @user-bj7bz1vg6q

    @user-bj7bz1vg6q

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Sneed_formerly_chucks nice

  • @wildedibles819
    @wildedibles8194 жыл бұрын

    The Adhd behaviors we can put our foot in our mouths a lot.. Makes sense ansestors judging quickly to make quick safe not safe etc... Stop and think about it... I'm thinking more before taking.. Some times it's hard remember to stop.. We will remember better... Like my kid learned snap... Stop... Now... And plan I think it was it helped my Adhd child... Stop is better for us adults stop is already in our brains

  • @ih271
    @ih2714 жыл бұрын

    She got Chariiismaaa

  • @ih271

    @ih271

    4 жыл бұрын

    @The Rockall Times wtf?

  • @darrenwalshe8513
    @darrenwalshe85134 жыл бұрын

    Judging is an ego trait xx

  • @darrenwalshe8513

    @darrenwalshe8513

    4 жыл бұрын

    ???

  • @Hoxgene
    @Hoxgene4 жыл бұрын

    Add these categories next time: Hit-able faces/buck foi/not today/mama mias You're welcome

  • @defendliberty1289
    @defendliberty12894 жыл бұрын

    Naming something of biological/ neurological origin as "cultural" influence and trying to "redefine" it to an arbitrary standard? Sure, that will work.

  • @defendliberty1289

    @defendliberty1289

    4 жыл бұрын

    @The Rockall Times I guess so.

  • @owen9510

    @owen9510

    4 жыл бұрын

    @The Rockall Times okay boomer.

  • @wildedibles819
    @wildedibles8194 жыл бұрын

    Hi 5.... Person....

  • @Kdrama-699
    @Kdrama-6994 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like selena gomez

  • @albertobozzetto8939
    @albertobozzetto89394 жыл бұрын

    Delicious.

  • @Esther_In_SoCal
    @Esther_In_SoCal4 жыл бұрын

    ummm heavily "borrowed" from Mel Robbins who has millions of viewers of her TEDtalk and what turned into a book called The 5 second rule. Why not come up with something original instead?

  • @psteinem

    @psteinem

    4 жыл бұрын

    Maybe if you had taken 5 seconds to STOP you have have noticed the title of her presentation is "The NEW 5 second rule"

  • @jimtaylor7670
    @jimtaylor7670 Жыл бұрын

    Just do what's natural, if you have to take tips off a KZread video then you've already failed

  • @illegitiminoncarborundum115
    @illegitiminoncarborundum1152 жыл бұрын

    Tough to do with all the masks being worn.

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