I always said this stereotype hurts black women because "strong" in this context just means "you can take alot of pain" your pain and struggle is overlooked and when you speak up you're angry. Sigh...

@leadingthepack91

5 жыл бұрын

I seen my mom lose a good boyfriend over wanting to act "hard" in front of him and his boys, it was over something dumb too. I told her this when I was 7 years old. She agreed with me, and till this day regrets everything.

@trevelbrown2557

5 жыл бұрын

@@leadingthepack91 ahh music to my ears

@Useyno

5 жыл бұрын

You are so right

@-hana327

4 жыл бұрын

Mr. West lndian t.v. so being a black woman resorts to being masculine because of their skin color? k....

@Ali08

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. I don't like it either. I believe it initially meant to empower black women but it has it downsides too. We all are not the same and and people will expect you to carry that 'attitude' or have that presence. Others assume we can take a mental and emotional beating too so yes this stereotype is dangerous.

I get so tired of the media's strong black woman propaganda.

@inertia_oudrey7006

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@kaeona2303

4 жыл бұрын

Thomas Ray #me too Thomas.

@mary-ks4pz

4 жыл бұрын

What's wrong with being strong

@bibleguy1207

4 жыл бұрын

The racist white men want you to think that.

@kratocracy

4 жыл бұрын

@Cham pagne nothing about their behavior is strength.

Just the other day a man called me a “strong, independent black woman.” I told him to never use that stereotype to refer to me again. I’d rather be seen as weak and feminine, than strong and depressed.

@VashTheStampFiend

4 жыл бұрын

Oddly enough your reaction actually fits the stereotype lol

@VashTheStampFiend

4 жыл бұрын

Also being feminine isn’t “weak” idk why modern day women especially feminists disregard femininity as valueless.

@gregoriopassport

4 жыл бұрын

There is more power in femininity than you realize.

@Juan-qq1rb

4 жыл бұрын

@@gregoriopassport pffft

@coyab6263

3 жыл бұрын

@@VashTheStampFiend how?

A problematic stereotype and extremely damaging!!!!

@girlsnextdoor1895

5 жыл бұрын

it's not a stereotype that's how a lot of black women act. My girl literally told me yesterday, "If I have a kid with you, I'd prefer you to stay around, but I have no problem being a strong black woman. You don't have to see the kid every week."

@pizzyg

5 жыл бұрын

Excuse me, I am black woman and know what stereotypes we face. You also dont speak for us and I wonder if you are even black yourself

@anim3z4u

4 жыл бұрын

@@pizzyg 😊Do you think I'm black cause of my profile?

@danielinnicg2114

4 жыл бұрын

@@pizzyg l dont think you face any problems your in london whites a minority there and im irish id prob have it harder than u over there than yourself in fact l know this, in america yea black ppl have it hard but in london no

@zodiactrigga948

4 жыл бұрын

The South East Londoner stfu

I blame this prejudice, racist society for trying to masculinize our beautiful, feminine, dainty and naturally pretty African American women!

@bbbbagplays9872

5 жыл бұрын

Gtfo yall black chicks just aggressive

@TheMariemarie16

5 жыл бұрын

@@cellone8269 Black women NEVER joined the feminist movement. It was by and large a white movement. My momma raised me against feminism from jump.

@julienassange48

5 жыл бұрын

What's wrong with genderfluid? Are you sexist?

@booboobunny5655

4 жыл бұрын

TheMariemarie16 Your mama is stupid. Feminism is for all women, not just white women.

@bibleguy1207

4 жыл бұрын

@@thatsterroristsbro7855 No

Finally, this is being studied and called out. Pretending to be tough as nails in every facet of life is exhausting, and I feel like it is expected of me everywhere I go. Also high on the list, people either want the highly sexualized Jezebel or the Asexual type woman...as if we can't be anything other than the two extremes...

@bibleguy1207

5 жыл бұрын

Jezebel was an ugly female version of Hitler, better yet I bet that the two are related!

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

4 жыл бұрын

@Blue Finally Gets A Clue Yeah steady flip flopping whenever shit don't go as planned. Y'all need to keep that same energy y'all had when y'all thought you didn't need a man

@19blondie93

4 жыл бұрын

@@R.O.T.C._SEEM Why are you all so mean- spirited. This is not even a dialogue?Who is y'all?? Firstly, no one NEEDS anyone to live, love and pursue happiness. So, do women NEED a man for that, no. Just like men don't need women. What we WANT and Desire, are different. I don't NEED my spouse of 26+ years to do shit for me. I do want him to, though. Change the narrative; change the language and use a different tactic. Damn; discuss, not attack.

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

4 жыл бұрын

@@19blondie93 Mean spirited because I want them to be treated the same way they treat men 😆 if they get treated bad then that's their own fault because they treating you the way you treat them so if you don't like it then stop being mean spirited

@19blondie93

4 жыл бұрын

@@R.O.T.C._SEEM So, ALL black women?? My mother is one of the sweetest people I know. My daughter is blessed and highly favored. My mother-in-law; her sisters, the black women I work with. Mmm, I am sure there are some mean black women out there, but I highly doubt that it is ALL. We shall agree to disagree. Have a good day.

When I decided to heal and save myself, and make that my priority, I no longer had the time, energy or interest in playing God to other grown people. I handed them over to God, knowing God's got 'em.

This is why Representation Matters: a myopic media representation shortchanges all the various other interpretations that exist.✊🏿

I wish I saw this 20 years ago.

@EbonyJoneskuye

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I am changing this mentality and teaching my daughter.

@BigBoss-sr6ur

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 It would have just made you angry

@bekimcolaku5258

2 жыл бұрын

As a white guy I don't care what race you are if you don't put God first I'm just not going to date you

@SEEDOFISRAEL12

2 жыл бұрын

@@EbonyJoneskuye the BW needs the BM and the BM needs the BW. This independent strong BW will lead to death. THE MOST HIGH made us to be together ❤ NOT INDEPENDENT.

I want to be fragile sometimes too. Its very hard in this world 😢😢😢

Basically black women got stuck with the worst parts of male and female stereotypes, the hardworking homemaker and the silent stoic provider. Not by choice mind you, uninterrupted by colonialism blacks would be on the same plain as Indian, Asian, and European women in history with the respected positions in society in and out of the home. But slavery, segregation and systematic attacks made the “strong black woman” inevitable and it’s time we finally give it a break, independent and strong are good but it needs to be balanced with a support structure. No one person should feel that it’s their sole responsibility to hold everything together.

@AvgJane19

6 жыл бұрын

Cangel Tibon +

@Saint_Darius

6 жыл бұрын

Cangel Tibon I couldn’t agree more

@demetricklouis5710

6 жыл бұрын

Mike Gilardino.Then what you witnessed was societal racism on blatant display. You cannot justify the differing treatment white girls vs black girls and hang on an adult stereotype. Something deeper is a play. Secondly this behavior persists because people like you say nothing. It is not enough to merely discuss issues on a forum after the fact. Action in movement must be taken. I'm certain SROs would not be punching black girls like they were in a boxing match if teachers and witnesses spoke out and filled complaints against those officers. There must be more that just saying an is wrong and doing nothing. That only demonstrates indifference.

@Cangeltibon

6 жыл бұрын

hahahhahahahahahah what videos have you been watching. There are literally thousands memes of white people especially white women confronting officers. It's part of the public conscience that white people can get away with being rude and confrontational with officers and maintain an air of safety. We have black teens in schools and bathing suits being body slammed by officers 3 times their size, while having week long stand offs with heavily armed trespassers and even taking a mass murder for hamburgers. And please provide an example of teenagers of any race in the middle of a fight that just calmly break up when an authority figure shows up, teens especially middle schoolers have tunnel vision when in a fight and will swing at anyone trying to stop them from their target, which is why the goal is to stop them before the fight or to get a large person or two who can take a few hits in the middle and separate.

@isaacbakan1295

6 жыл бұрын

Also, compliments shouldn't be confused with responsibility.

Single Motherhood caused this stereotype. Feminine too. No one addresses that.

@MrFuchew

4 жыл бұрын

Good insight i hadn't thought of that. They have to be mom and dad

@richardvonhohenleben3143

4 жыл бұрын

A stressful upbringing with a mother permanently close to the edge causes trauma, anxiety and aggression for the kids. This basically repeats the cycle of poverty, criminal activity, incarceration and in the worst case death. Which is once again dumped on to the next generation of adults. Why do so many men walk out? I do not get it.

@genesisbond8615

4 жыл бұрын

Your comment is a pure lie. No one addresses single motherhood? All the TV shows, books, movies, talk shows, podcasts, KZread videos on the matter and you can say that? The truth is that no one addresses the Black man's problems and struggle in any of this. All the public ever hears is how much better Black women are than their men from Black women.

@HabitualLover

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah. The part of that bothering me is all the black men in these comments criticizing black women when any look will reveal hard facts that they’ve never ever invested themselves in being there for the mothers of their children nor their children. They sure pop up to join the chorus of criticism online though. 🤯😐

Getting rid of this mindset is a good thing. We sometimes associate being feminine as weak and its not. Its okay if we arent able to do it all. The "I don't need no man" mindset is so toxic. Just let a man lead for once. Its not bad once you just let go.

@JMeyer1112

5 жыл бұрын

I will let a man lead once he shows he is qualified

@Demthorshie

5 жыл бұрын

Allowing just any man to lead isn't going to do it. He can't lead unless he proves he is fully capable and qualified to do so.

@ShaunHensley

5 жыл бұрын

Couple man haters in chat

@johnrankin7135

4 жыл бұрын

@@blachanddesigns4826 we can't copy something you don't have.

@kennyb1588

4 жыл бұрын

@Darth Maul Woah be careful not to choke on your misogyny there buddy......

Black women are never silent as a group never

@hortinus

4 жыл бұрын

@Coraleigh May-Dewitt Spoken like a true femcel. :)

Always be honest about your limitations. Don't be a hero for others and fail yourself. Man or woman people move from appreciating it to expecting,to resenting you when you just can't do it anymore.

@thebridge5483

4 жыл бұрын

🙌🏿

@thebridge5483

4 жыл бұрын

I been there and trying to get out of there

@itsbeyondme5560

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

Yes it is hurting. Some come across as loud and offensive. That pushes most if not all men away.

@Juan-qq1rb

4 жыл бұрын

Big time

@DavidGreen-oc4nv

4 жыл бұрын

@Mrs. Arthur Morgan and that's what the outcome is today.

@DavidGreen-oc4nv

4 жыл бұрын

@Precious B. for sure

@kendrahandlegacy7875

4 жыл бұрын

Neutraliser Jan o-o if black women wants to get treated like women well they should start acting like a woman and I’m a black man

@MrMartellSincere

4 жыл бұрын

Bingo

I’m aSouth Asian Canadian woman and I can relate to the superwoman complex too. In the way that I have been treated and certain interactions I’ve had...

@chriso8193

Жыл бұрын

But you get to choose who you re around, so why are you around people that mis-read you? Don't blame anyone for your decisions.

@BowdowntoAnnaConda

Жыл бұрын

@@chriso8193 you dont understand south asian family dynamics. keep your two cents out of it thanks

Women are not men. All the attributes you described are the expectations placed on men. At a 76% fatherless rate the women are having to take on both rolls. Humans are not built to fill both rolls. If you want to stop having the expectations and responsibilities of men, then get the father back in the home.

@sxm2009

6 жыл бұрын

comedy4all exactly

@JMeyer1112

5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you said this thank you so much for speaking the truth. These are the circumstances that are placed on us we dont choose this life.

@JMeyer1112

5 жыл бұрын

@My name is my name FACTS

@gregoriopassport

5 жыл бұрын

@My name is my name thats not true. It's really woman dependent.

@sakurakou2009

5 жыл бұрын

If man want to leave he will leave , woman can't make man act like man .

This video doesn't even mention how this trope effects black children. It teaches black women that they are strong and independent enough to play the role of both parents at the same time, and raise a family on their own. Children who grow up in a single-parent house hold have a significant disadvantage to children who have two parents. So many black children are being raised by single mothers and this trope promotes the idea that these mothers can do everything on their own and don't need help from any man. Just watch TV and pay attention to how many black female characters are single mothers, and the father just isn't there for whatever reason or not even mentioned. Kids need attention. Kids need to be raised by more than one parent and promoting the idea that black women can do it all on their own is creating a culture of black children being raised with this disadvantage in addition to all the other disadvantages they already have.

“Hollywood”, tv, movies always stereotype people Do not believe the BS Love each person for who they are individually

I honestly wish I could protect Black women. Y'all deserve so much better, I'm so sorry y'all have to go through this

@gioluvs1893

Жыл бұрын

Simp

@gudlukkay

Жыл бұрын

They put themselves through this shit.

@mariamart_0

11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for caring about our societal struggles and issues in the United States. As a Black girl, I’m so tired of the stupid superwoman syndrome! I WANT US BLACK GIRLS TO BE IN OUR SOFT ERA! WE NEED TO BECOME OUT SOFTIE GIRLY SELVES. So damn exhausted from an outdated stereotype and cliché!

What about men and absent black fathers? Seems like much of the stress Black women have to endure is bc of a lack of partner support

@briggie28

6 жыл бұрын

Prophet Guru The men hold just as much responsibility as the women....why is that so hard for most Black men to ACCEPT and UNDERSTAND?

@FrigidWhisper

6 жыл бұрын

I was going to say something similar. Black females tread the fence line when it suits their needs. Will not take responsibilities for poor choices, but complain about how it's a mans fault. They choose the crappy men. Plenty of great guys out here. But focus on bad men. It's interesting how so many other nationalities can find great black men, but black women can't find one to save their lives. Blind leading the blind.

@judeokoye9466

6 жыл бұрын

and the women that spread their legs for them.

@GameChanger00100

6 жыл бұрын

If you are looking to be a super woman, you cannot have a super man by your side, his image will shatter yours. So a woman with the super woman mindset will subconsciously seek weaker men or men or no men at all. In other words they are avoiding partner support.

@ladycatfish2896

6 жыл бұрын

+Classy-N-Clever-4EVA Maybe because a significant chunk of them are in prison? Or dead?

And they can still be feminine and emotional!

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

5 жыл бұрын

nope not at all

@bibleguy1207

5 жыл бұрын

@@R.O.T.C._SEEM Yes they can!

@digimonalvatrax2738

5 жыл бұрын

When they act feminine and emotional is when they are nowhere to be seen, other races just pathetically whine sand pretend that they are the victim. When we react after dealing with shit for sso long iss when we are angry, wow!

@mariamart_0

11 ай бұрын

We are just humans ok. Please just treat us like any other female in this planet. We aren’t special or superwoman. We just happen to have more melanin in our skin, does not make us strong and masculine. 💅🏾🫶🏾🙏🏾

They have become tough ,because there men have treated them so badly, they feel they have to stick up for themselves.

@lnzo5033

Жыл бұрын

Yup, its always the men's fault

The reason why they're breaking down and having so many problems is because they are essentially doing a man's job.

@TheLeah2344

5 жыл бұрын

Kung Lao Law 🙌🏿

@ascotthumphrey

5 жыл бұрын

Welcome to our world! Now eat it and deal with it like us men been doing all our lives.

@efil1607

5 жыл бұрын

You totally missed the point of the video. It was about black women wanting to save and take care of everybody and handle everything alone at the expense of their own health and well being. That's what they meant by "superwoman syndrome". Men are taught to be individualistic, whereas women are taught to be empathetic and put other's needs in front of their own

@ascotthumphrey

5 жыл бұрын

@@efil1607 I beg to differ because before their was a superwoman syndrome, there was SUPERMAN syndrome. Men have been taught to take leadership roles, rule the world, and make sure all he governs survives and produces. Most woman just stayed home for the free ride pretending to do real housework 30mins before hubby arrives, after watching soap operas and eating bon bons all day.

@Iceberg_maal

5 жыл бұрын

You mean TRYING to do a man's job...

The thing about it is that every race has loud, obnoxious women. The magnifying glass is just placed over black women. The flip side, there are many of us who are soft, sensitive, and very loving...shoot....and at times damsels in distress when we wanna be.

@jamesnash6101

2 жыл бұрын

The only way to stop the strong and extremely independent feminine movements and curb the MGTOW movement. Is through women like you.

Protect our BLACK WOMEN !! 🖤

@lnzo5033

Жыл бұрын

"I'm a strong independent black woman I don't need no man" -Quoted by black woman

*******Warning***** Please don't read the comments there are not many black women commenting there are mostly racist trolls on such an informative video.

I also think everyone’s definition of ‘strong’ and ‘strength’ is different. It can be used as a compliment sometimes and not just associated with men. I think it’s when it’s used in a negative way that it’s a problem like when strength is associated with masculinity or aggression or being able to withstand pain or pressure. That’s definitely unfair. I personally don’t mind being referred to as a strong woman because I associate strength with power and resilience. However, it’s really important to have these discussions and I appreciate this video for doing that.

@leronrussell1628

Жыл бұрын

How can everyone have a different definition of the words....... That's their definition. Strong means resilient. Not weak. Feminine women not trying to be strong are powerful because they understand how to use their network to their advantage vs trying to do it alone.

Keep the black distracted so that black home is unguarded.

@Riley42-03

4 жыл бұрын

Engaging Black Wicked statement!! Currently feeling isolated at work bc of my HR compliant for being armed with documentation. Three white men

@bongsilla8109

3 жыл бұрын

@@Riley42-03 You don't feel right working with whites?

Please continue to educate and enlighten our sisters who suffer from this madness. I love our black sisters and this madness must stop!! Thank you for posting this video sis. I'm rooting for my sisters...I am in reality rooting for us.

The stereotype is for sure hurtful. This didn't go deep back into history but this had been going on for centuries. I think the best way to combat this mindset is to show young black girls it's ok to have emotions.

@Akilah077

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

The ' strong black woman ' stereotype has been a hazard in many ways to the Black community, it influences young girl who do not know better, to pattern themselves after that image because they think that's the way they should be, , it put unnecessary pressure on insecure women to act strong even if they are not sure of what they doing, it is an unattractive persona to have if the woman wants to keep an relationship with a self respecting man.

Ive never been this woman and it makes you feel fraudulent or not “black enough” if you are not STRONG AND UNFLINCHING. I’ve always been shy and introverted and I’ve literally had black men tell me something was wrong with me for being too “quiet”. 🙄🙄🙄

This was explained and executed very well. Thank you for this information.

the " Strong black woman stereotype" is holding a lot of the same criteria of toxic masculinity

Much needed conversation! Let it continue...

I hear women claiming independence on social media then next week they be like, A man should not watch a woman struggle paying her bills. Make up ya'll dam mind goofy, either you're independent or not.😂😂

If anyone can answer please do: I'm not clear why Black Women are labeled "Strong"? I don't hear that same label applied to White, Hispanic, Asian or Indian Women. What exactly is "Strong" supposed to mean??

@patrickburns4821

5 жыл бұрын

in my opinion, the " strong " word means I can do any and everything a man can do; not only that I don't even NEED a man in my life. I am self sufficient; self providing and I (the woman) make it all happen with no help at all! No matter what happens to me I will suck it up and deal with it and come out on top! We as men understand that nobody does it alone; we understand we (men) need women; I know I need my wife.

@MikeBNumba6

4 жыл бұрын

Strong meaning - they don't need a man because they were single mothers raising kids by themselves. And some black women do actually work multiple jobs to raise kids by themselves. They can do a man's job because they took on the father role. Now that is both a good and bad thing. The good thing, its good that they raise their kids. The bad? Most single parent households raise criminals or kids with daddy issues.

@kanagawayarichin

4 жыл бұрын

MikeBNumba6 if they raise criminals, they are not doing a good job as a parent

@gamehero6816

4 жыл бұрын

It's an attempt to justify their suffering and suggest that they don't feel pain.

One problem is, black women do lots of right things, but for the wrong, unappreciative people! She needs to understand that she should NEVER break her neck, for those that require her to do it!, especially in relationships! You inform her of this, but, she hardly ever listens!

😢😢I'm hurting..and trying to figure out why...

@DarkEmpress1

4 жыл бұрын

Aww. I know this was a year ago, but this comment brought tears to my eyes. I hope you are feeling better and that everything is OK! 💕💕💕

@candylove49

4 жыл бұрын

Skeletongirl91 Interesting, idk why these haters click on a video dedicated to black women, maybe because these “men” feel like women on the inside. They should go watch Taylor Swift lol

@smarke76

4 жыл бұрын

Open up your mind. Pay attention to the obvious and hold other women accountable.

@dondre9063

4 жыл бұрын

@@pastelvampxoxo5625 stop trying to cause division

But the first female self made female millionaire is a Black woman, and the self made female billionaire is also a Black woman.

@njgiant1

4 жыл бұрын

Andrew Lim If you don’t have a black mother stfu your people just use them for money

@DJLXSTARR

4 жыл бұрын

YOU ARE VERY WRONG!

Love it love it. Keep up the great work.

Great video !

Nothing wrong with a black woman being strong. However, something that the stereotype does is not make them seem really human with their own emotions, pressures, struggles, and vulnerability. This is something I think everyone should be taught. You can be strong but with that strength, you should also have the courage to admit when you need help. I am a white man and, despite trying to make sure I am educated as much as possible about this, I will NEVER 100% understand what black women go through on a daily basis because I am a privileged white man. I mean, I have my own struggles and I am someone who likes to be compassionate to others, but I don't experience what these women go through every single day of their lives.

I hate this trope. I actively dislike when people tell me I’m a strong black woman because I feel it’s an excuse to neglect me. People assume because I’m good at showing strength that I’m ok. I’m not a strong person at all… but I realize that I feel like I have to be. But I want the freedom and autonomy to be vulnerable without it being seen as a weakness. 😭 I’m tired 😭😭😭

@jamesnash6101

2 жыл бұрын

You didn't want or need us in your Prime. Now we don't want you in your decline Let me make a guess. You are over 30 years of age. You were raised to believe that you don't need anyone's assistance. Oh, yes Miss independence. And that attitude served you well, in your twenties. Because it was reinforced. But now... You're tired, and you do all the lifting. Well to bad, so sad.

@krissydiggs

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamesnash6101 …what? What are you even talking about? You’re so off base it’s kind of absurd. 😅 For starters I was never raised that way. People definitely assume that about me though. I was a fairly codependent person and I don’t desire independence, I prefer teamwork, and I don’t have any kind of attitude. I actually try my best to be a very kind person so I don’t know where this is even coming from but alright. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

@jamesnash6101

2 жыл бұрын

@@krissydiggs well, well, well. What do we have here? A Black woman who is tired? And sometimes, wants a man to take the lead? But can you be submissive, vulnerable, soft, feminine and know when to just shut it? In other words can you lead from a position of power that comes from your feminine energy? Well can you? Because most black women have to win at all cost and that is a masculine trait. Men do not like dating masculine women. Because the squeeze is not worth the juice.

@lnzo5033

Жыл бұрын

"I'm a strong and independent black woman". -quoted by black woman You create your own stereotype

@krissydiggs

Жыл бұрын

@@lnzo5033 I never said I was…

Such a great and informative video.

Is it possible that a clip of this material could be used in a class for educational purposes?

The other damaging stereotype is black people know how to dance. Imagine being the black kid who doesn’t know how to dance...

""Is The 'Strong Black Woman' Stereotype Hurting Black Women?"" What type of question is that when the answer is very obvious.

Thanks for having this discussion. I hope this recirculate in light on the new James Bond movie

Can someone explain the reference to the song "I'm not your super woman"? I think it needed more explanation.

Yo I’m a black man and in my experience of dating black women they don’t like to be submissive a man wants a feminine woman not a woman who thinks she’s so strong and independent and don’t have to follow the man lead

@niag7273

4 жыл бұрын

A lot of black men usually are saying the same thing. I think a lot of it has to do with us black women not knowing how to be respectfully submissive to their man. They see it as something bad why? Because a lot of us grew up in a household see our black moms raise their voice to our dads/men, or having a certain level of aggression n that has been the black woman normal for years! I feel like maybe we should listen to our men more n speak life into them. At the end of the day race as nothing to do with it... it’s about staying in a woman’s place n letting the man be a damn man.

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

4 жыл бұрын

@@xxxlemoyne So he sexist for telling the truth

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

4 жыл бұрын

@TheHolyGhost So true. Majority of black women don't care about the progression of the community. As long as they get theirs then they are happy

@zil5296

4 жыл бұрын

@@niag7273 Sad but true well said.

@MartellThaCool

4 жыл бұрын

@@xxxlemoyne continue to be a crazy cat feminazi. Feminazis of all color and cultures like you make me laugh, you bitter old prune. We men, regardless of race and cultures demand feminine and submissive women. So shut up and know your place

Chrissie SheraSeven1 Chloe_ Thank God I found these channels 😊 I've never been happier.

@Aritul

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the recommendations. I had heard of Chrissie, but the rest were knew to me.

I feel that a lot of black women don't want to take responsibility for there own actions. For example, you keep getting pregnant by loser dudes than have the nerve to say all black men are bad. Also, a lot of them don't know how to compromise and work through problems in relationships. From what I've seen black men and woman tear each other down instead of uplifting each other so in short there are problems on both sides that need to be addressed.

@TheMariemarie16

5 жыл бұрын

So wait. Black women cant win either way. If we "stand by our man" and are not golddiggers and dont care about a man's finances and just love him then according to you we are dumb and not taking responsibility for having babies with "losers". Sad to say most black women do not have tons of great options knocking at the door. We are willing to work with diamonds in the rough. I thought those were all of the things that men say they want.

@DONNYPESO

5 жыл бұрын

@@TheMariemarie16 he is right about one thing black women do not work through relationship problems well they are quick to leave especially if they're going to benefit from it in somewhere

@dontplay_withme.965

4 жыл бұрын

Only black men will see it. Black women are being bamboozled.

@alexandercoffman8319

4 жыл бұрын

Yes Sir.

@sweetlife1423

4 жыл бұрын

@@DONNYPESO Not true...plus it all depends on the problems their having in the relationship...is it intentional or a mistake or something deep rooted from the past.....some problems you need to walk away from or you will get hurt...you can not change a persons heart by allowing them to hurt you over and over....God is the only one qualified to heal hearts....and deep rooted issues affect everyone exposed to it including children.......hurting people hurt others......saying this as i🕺🕺🕺 away with dignity

It's getting redicuolous! First we talk about empowering women and for them to be stronger, now were talking about if their becoming too strong and how that is not sustainable! Women, feminist, make up your damn mind!

@synthesis7

5 жыл бұрын

Feminism was never meant to include black women due to the masculine stereotype we already have. Feminism enhances it and makes it worse for black women

@lbarnx

3 жыл бұрын

Not too strong, but only strong and nothing else. One dimensional.

@zurirobinson2749

5 ай бұрын

A stunning idea: different people have different takes. There's no "woman" or "feminist" hivemind to clue into.

Why are they using fictional characters as an example?

@wheresthelambsauce8273

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly cuz TV shows, and the media like to reinforce this stereotype.

I'm sure that there are plenty of black women out there that are actually strong, but I hate the stereotype that strong = loud/angry/sassy. Strong people can be quiet, calm, gentle, loving, and polite. What determines strength is not how hard they hit or how easily provoked they are, but how they hold up under pressure and hardship. In fact, being easily provoked is more likely to be a sign of weakness than strength. The woman that works three jobs she hates and puts up with all kinds of crap politely with a smile on her face in order to take care of her children is much stronger than the woman that throws it all away for the selfish satisfaction of venting her anger. In my opinion, the people that self identify as strong are often the weakest because they are so insecure they feel the need to affirm themselves.

We need a whole bunch of African American female action movies, media and entertainment! It will truly help to empower all African American women!

@richbrake9910

2 жыл бұрын

Blacks are already overrepresented in Hollywood and the NFL and NBA.

This is soooo true. We are expected to be able to take any and everything that the world throws at us and not have pain physically or emotionally. I recently went to a new clinic obgyn due to a surgery I had, just as follow up and my doctor had left the practice because she moved so doctor I saw was Caucasian male who seemed to get angry in that I initially had went into ER for a infection I had. He looked at me sideways and slammed door as he walked out, as to say or be in disbelief that I could have a issue from a procedure. He looked disgusted and looked at me with such hatred as if to say you suppose to be able to take whatever

The TV show also show them breaking down

@therambler3713

6 жыл бұрын

that obviously goes against the narrative being pushed here so they just ignored it

@jamilabrown6093

6 жыл бұрын

Mr Misanthrope The video literally says this

@MrMisanthrope_

6 жыл бұрын

Jamila Brown Does it

I wouldn't get rid of the stereotype but instead add variety to it. Bring balance into the stereotype , show black women moments where it's good to be strong and independent but at the same time it's not always needed . Also there needs to be support from black men (physically and mentally). These stereotypes were not created out of thin air , they are result of experiences and shows we need to do better as a community and race.

This is excellent.

Black women created the Super Woman Image, then they realize their very human.

The same issue here in the UK.

@liverpoolfanchannel8

4 жыл бұрын

yup

AJ+ can you get an actual african american to speak to these issues? We can tell our own stories.

@thebridge5483

4 жыл бұрын

Go on then....

This is late, but I don't care: Subscribing and saving this in my favorites. Thanks.

They believe It's cute and kool and they wonder why all the good black men aren't with them.

I hope to meet a level headed black woman one day. Even though most of my circle is successful black women, most of them are very emasculating and extreme feminist who blame everything on the black man. I can’t date a woman with a vendetta against us but I haven’t given up

@grownman1017

5 жыл бұрын

Chicago Writer Brotha give up while you are young!!!!! Listen to me, I used to be like you. I'm successful, own my both of my homes, etc..... Get yourself a white woman. I have never been happier. I come home to warm hugs, food, no stress, she doesn't hold grudges. Trust me brotha, do not.....i repeat, DO NOT fear rejection from your culture or family. You only live once my brotha, and this life is short. Why search and search only to be let down in the end. If you don't take my advice, one day you will wake up, look in the mirror and say "damn, that guy on you tube was right, I'm 50yrs old still looking for a good sista" by then its too late

@taylorthenatural5509

5 жыл бұрын

@@grownman1017 Don't lie to this man, you foul creature. There is probably a reason black women didn't want you. You sound like you have a god complex.

@grownman1017

5 жыл бұрын

Taylor Sipp God complex? I have no complex sista, but your reply to my comment proves my point. I don't know you, nor do you know me, yet I'm a "foul Creature" ....why? I have never called you out of your name, done you dirty in any way, I've never lied to you, cheated on you, or put hands on you, yet I am a "foul creature"...... Fact of the matter is sista, it makes your blood boil to know a white woman has yet another successful black man in her arms. It upsets you to hear me warning this young brotha, it makes you mad to know a white woman is receiving all the treatment a sista SHOULD be, ...but women like yourself can't lose this attitude. Its a shame. But its also just fine, because brothas like myself are done waiting on black women to get their act together. I am a college graduate, home owner, and business owner, never been to prison, pays bills on time AND IN ADVANCE, in other words, (excuse my French) I got my shit together. My advice, lose that chip on your shoulder, chip away the ice off your heart, then perhaps maybe..........just maybe, brothas will attempt to be with black women. Until then, I can care less what you call me, or how angry you get, fact is, I'm super happy, and im spreading the news to brothas everywhere .....Happiness is with a White Woman!! Now you have yourself a wonderful holiday.

@taylorthenatural5509

5 жыл бұрын

@@grownman1017 Damn I didn't need you to write a book. I'm a little tipsy which is why I was being dramatic.

@grownman1017

5 жыл бұрын

Taylor Sipp no problem, I've been there myself. Its all good ....enjoy your holiday

As a black woman im tired of being strong. I work hard as ever, take care of my kids, and every responsibility in between. Rarely do I get a break from motherhood and work. It is not a complaint at all but I am saying that sometimes carrying the world on your shoulders is expected. I am human and value time more than ever now. I have no time for anything in relation to me but I’m always on the go for the children/their lives/the household.

@leestyles6687

2 жыл бұрын

Becoming a baby momma before a wife, leaves any woman poor

@w..j..2605

Жыл бұрын

@@leestyles6687 Because you know her, right?

@lnzo5033

Жыл бұрын

Claiming to be strong and independent doesn't help

Yes!! I answer it for u!!

Could this be why black men are iffy to date black women

Most part of the people in comment section say things as they know for sure how it feels to be a black women. Guess what? You don't. Being a black woman is struggle all the time to be a power figure and still have mental health at the same time. Society says that we have to provide, suffer in silence and no one is going to have your back. The video is to keep us AWARE of what image we assume socially and the ramifications of that. If I say "I don't relate to the video" because I am strong, have a family, an amazing job and blah blah, that's exactly the image of super black woman that I'm endorsing and endure: the woman that succeed and won, but can't show weakness or vulnerability.

@michaelg7251

6 жыл бұрын

Society says you must accept welfare, food stamps, and affirmative action programs over fathers in homes--damn traitorous agents. Stop procreating with thugs and criminals and choose good fathers for your bastards.

@johnlindsey358

5 жыл бұрын

It’s a struggle for black men too, but no one seems to care about our struggles just except what you asked for and the systems you supported all these years.

I'm confused. The Video title says that a "Strong Black Woman" is a STEREOTYPE. But in the video, the black woman is being touted as if she really is "Strong" in real life. Nevertheless, I agree with the actual title of the video. The Strong Black Woman is a myth. It is indeed a "Stereotype".

@alexandercoffman8319

4 жыл бұрын

@ Greg Presley-Only partially my dude, but please do not act like there is not a whole lot of black women who fit this stereotype.

@kadeedee

3 жыл бұрын

Alexander Coffman it’s still damaging. Stereotypes create boundaries and look you just proved the whole point of the video. Why tf are you grouping a group of people because of the ones you’ve met. You’re disgusting that’s it

@chimeresmith1216

2 жыл бұрын

It’s not being touted but Debated instead she gives different examples of the strong black woman then right after explains the mental, physical and emotional effect it has living up to these unrealistic expectations

@BowdowntoAnnaConda

Жыл бұрын

its called being educated and smart lol.... just admit smart black women intimdate you. you are half of a man

*Me a white boy watching this video*: 🧐

2020 humbled a lot of you. I hope y’all are ready to work together instead of being “independent”

Sometimes I don't understand Americans. Why using tropes at all for writing? Make the characters realistic and the audience would probably like it more. Unless it concerns some superhero-movie or something like that. Am I naive?

@benjaminjohnson1397

6 жыл бұрын

Race is a huge dimension of American social life. Some people don't want to hear about race at all, some only want to hear certain things about it. Writers use tropes to manage audience expectations, and it's useful to have them when dealing with something as complex as race.

@peterjansen4826

6 жыл бұрын

Race only is complex if people make it complex for themselves. Nothing is complex about people having a different skincolor because their ancestors come from another part of the world. Issues related to immigration and (lack of) integration can be complex, race itself shouldn't be. I say this as a 'white' Northern European person.

@benjaminjohnson1397

6 жыл бұрын

Whether it should be complex or whether it is are two different things. Europeans made race very complex in their societies for themselves and others for several centuries, so it is expected that for many people it is still a complex issue.

@wavy2186

6 жыл бұрын

It is a cultural difference? What dont you understand? Americans are always painted as ignorant and uneducated, but non Americans dont really know much about the intricacies of society here. Only what they see on TV.

@booboobunny5655

4 жыл бұрын

Benjamin Johnson I’m black and hardly ever think about race or stupid “tropes” assigned to them. Ethnicity and culture I find have more basis in a person’s personality than race and skin color alone.

Loud, rude and belligerent isn't strong.

@19blondie93

4 жыл бұрын

What?? Here we go with this bullshyt…. You stereotype black women, but your sig is HBCU Football.... #joke

@DJLXSTARR

4 жыл бұрын

@@19blondie93 SHUT UP! EVERYTHING HE SAID IS THE TRUTH AND YOU CANT TAKE IT!

I love this video.

In all honesty I get sick of people stereotypeing black women such as saying all black women have an attitude problem women of any race can have an attitude problem I,Ve seen a white woman with an attitude problem she had an attitude with my sister at Sonic I,Ve seen an Asian Girl that works their have an attitude toward my mom the point I'm making is this Attitude has nothing to do with race attitude is in the person not in their race

i disagree with her when she says “this happens because no one is caping for us” ..as a black male the reason this happens is because you wont let your defenses down.. u try to compete with, and argue down the very men who are sent in your life to love u and bless u

@ciara_buncha_numbers

5 жыл бұрын

How do you tell her that what SHE experienced is wrong?

@TeacherOfIsrael30

5 жыл бұрын

@Joi Powell Because its true.

@synthesis7

5 жыл бұрын

@TReaL T95 women don't want to submit to just ANYBODY...

@vivianraw

4 жыл бұрын

I'd like Black men to share their stories about how they learned to let their guard down after being spiritually/psychologically stereotyped and attacked, will you do that, please? That could be helpful.

@thvtsydneylyf3th077

2 жыл бұрын

yes. combative women always lose and the number today are proving that with bw mosly single and unwanted.

Yea, they strong alright ,unless they are in a Asian nail salon and don't know kung fu

@theesleekgeek73

4 жыл бұрын

@A guy on the web Dude, you really found his lame, cheesy, corny, lackluster excerpt funny???

some people contribute to negative stereotypes and complain about the outcome.

@gudlukkay

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

This ain't no stereotype, this is what black women called themselves back in the 90's, just look it up.

If you notice, much of the stress that black men suffer, comes from his woman.

black women don't jog simple! ask uncle ruckus

Big reason why I'd rather be alone

@lbarnx

3 жыл бұрын

Could lack of support be causing some of this anger? Alone and constantly being dragged down.

First 9 women in the first 20 seconds are ALL wearing a weave.....plus, those are actresses are playing a role ....so they aren't real......showing celebrities does not help REAL situations....Juss saying....it gets old.....

GET THE FATHERS BACK IN THE HOUSES!!! I can almost bet that 99.9% of these women did not have a positive or no father in their lives!! Do that research!

Act like Masculine men

@thebridge5483

4 жыл бұрын

Roger King well god damn, you are very correct for some reasons our women want men they can control it seem interracial is on the rise and when you look at the men they’re dating they are not very masculine at all.

@ofentsefefe04

4 жыл бұрын

Roger King how do you say that to your own people? I mean you can’t talk about your women like this. I don’t think you’re as masculine as you claim to be! You’re such a baby dying to be a man. You should be ashamed of yourself to put down your own race like that.

@jshuabrown9968

4 жыл бұрын

@Roger King women of all races love you 😂😂😂😂wait wait I didnt hear WOMEN OF ALL RACES LIVE BLACK WOMEN 😂😂😂😂😂😂 nope

I think there’s many other stereotypes that are worse when it comes to black Women including seeing us as sexual objects, angry black woman with a bad attitude, and unattractive and undesirable. I do agree that the ‘strong black woman’ isn’t a good stereotype depending on the context.

Yes

It's fine to be strong and independent, but you have love and know you first, you have understand you as a person and know when to step back and reboot so to speak. You have also know that your humanity and intelligence alone allows you admit "some" vulnerability. We cannot perform at peak level all the time

@lbarnx

3 жыл бұрын

The point is that Black women are expected be strong and independent, and nothing else.

African American Women, continue to workout and get in shape and tone your bodies and still be pretty,dainty, and feminine, don't let these racist people or this racist United States of America stop you from getting inshape, or learning self defense skills and still looking pretty, dainty and feminine, African American women can still be soft and strong, so continue to workout and build both your physical and mental strength. African American women, you all are the icing on the cake when you all workout and get in shape!

@itdoesmatteryep8822

5 жыл бұрын

Few AA women really work out.

@bibleguy1207

5 жыл бұрын

@@itdoesmatteryep8822 Really, I would love to meet a beautiful African American woman like that!

@quwandathornton

5 жыл бұрын

I’m doing it, I just need to self motivate myself - love myself and my body.

@bibleguy1207

5 жыл бұрын

@@quwandathornton Good!😀

@Ali08

4 жыл бұрын

Um there are millions of black women, past and present who are slim. In shape black women also included in this stereotype.

I think it has less to do with being a strong black independent woman than some black women who are loud and ignorant(other races of women have those), the latter gets all the attention and are most heard and popular and society loops them together. but sometimes if you have to shout IM a strong woman , it looks like youre trying to validate yourself when you really dont need to, its great to be self sufficient,but you dont have to prove it anyone.

How does the "Black Superwoman" trope buck the stereotypes off Mammy, Video Vixxen, and Angry, when the "Black Superwoman" trope is defined as "Abrasive", and "Sexually liberated"?

@willowfaye670

3 жыл бұрын

It was made to buck of those tropes because it was all we were seen as. But now that we've advanced some it's nice to see different kinds of characters that are black. How I see it at least.

The biggest cause of cancer after smoking is obesity not stress. As you mentioned before this community has a lot of suffering due to obesity, which is linked to diet. Maybe y'all should look at dietary habits in these communities, seems kind of odd to say that having a stressed out friend will somehow cause breast cancer, rather then poor diet and lack of exercise.

@lbarnx

3 жыл бұрын

Mental health is more important, and would be a bigger help, than diet and exercise.

@justine9047

Жыл бұрын

My mother had lupus which, sadly, affects Black women more than any other demographic. The intense strain of family drama and caring for her sick father definitely was the catalyst for her premature death from this autoimmune disease and, what do you know: after giving up my career and relationship to also assist her with caring for my grandfather I was diagnosed with a rare autoimmune condition and told might never walk again. The relationship between stress and autoimmune conditions is real and Black women are the ones who get them most.

Real black women are in Africa and they are soft. This is some English.

The reality is that we have to be present for each other. Despite what we are told, when you show vulnerability, the vultures show up and try to feed on you.

let em be strong