I hate it when people say you’re pretty for a black girl or when people think you’re mixed race because you don’t fit the criteria of a full black women. Just say we’re beautiful. Stop with the backhanded compliments! 😡

@jamecia8550

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Everyone thinks I'm mixed it's so frustrating. Or when I wear weave they say ignorant things like "That looks like it could be your real hair because your light skin "😠 I have witnessed my darker skin sisters told such horrible things about themselves it pisses me off. And also we as black people are the most diverse we come in so many different beautiful shades it's really a blessing but some want of to feel like it's a curse.

@unicorn0305

5 жыл бұрын

Yess. People think I’m mixed ALL THE TIME. When I tell people I’m actually full black they really try to TELL me I’m mixed. Like no just cuz I’m light skin doesn’t mean I’m white stfu

@rafaela4238

5 жыл бұрын

I'm mixed and people often say I have the 'right perfect' shade of black. Like dark skin,light skin,mixed, non mixed black women are all beautiful and isn't a skin color that makes a person uglier or less desirable

@autumnjones3432

5 жыл бұрын

Maryam Dramé I get that all the time because I have “mix girl hair”

@aydenvd

5 жыл бұрын

You’re beautiful 😊

Never knowing if he really likes you or he's just curious..... Only the real ones will get it!

@ImpressDivinity

5 жыл бұрын

Right 😖 this is the most hurtful. Realizing you were a new flavor to try.

@tumi_adeyoju

5 жыл бұрын

@@ImpressDivinity so freaking true.

@nemagrace12

5 жыл бұрын

Fam, I felt this on a molecular level

@jadealexander8233

5 жыл бұрын

Bbrrruuhhh, I'm in a situation right now.

@Charlie-wm3io

5 жыл бұрын

Bless this comment

Other people trying to flirt : Does he like me ? Me : Does he like black women ?

@IdemRedd

4 жыл бұрын

Do you think that when you are thinking about black men too?

@VibeWithVida

4 жыл бұрын

Stop asking that question. And.... Take the"S" off of like. It's Does he like me? It's NOT Does he likes me.

@jennyk.2731

4 жыл бұрын

literally!

@tdf_worldkey6666

4 жыл бұрын

Felt that

@zionis_trying

4 жыл бұрын

amina traoré 😭😭😭

"They see my blackness before they see me as a person" I don't know how to react to that, can someone tell me ?

@michfreedom2588

4 жыл бұрын

Matthieu Wise We can’t tell you how to react 🤷🏾‍♀️

@itsmob4life

4 жыл бұрын

Matthieu Wise you don’t. It’s nonsense from colorism crybabies.

@EnclaviousFiraga

4 жыл бұрын

That's like wearing a neon yellow shirt and expecting no one to notice you in the morning.

@mereiam

4 жыл бұрын

@@itsmob4life I can't even respond to the ignorance

@itsmob4life

4 жыл бұрын

Mary Am of course, colorism crybabies are ignorant

Black women: says anything Everyone else: BUT WHAT ABOUT MEEEEEE?

@AngryHalfBlkHottie

5 жыл бұрын

BLACK FOLKS CANT HAVE NOTHIN

@romyvdd2570

5 жыл бұрын

Very true

@jamecia8550

5 жыл бұрын

Everytime!

@MyUniqueBeauty

5 жыл бұрын

lmaooooo

@kaytee789

5 жыл бұрын

This is so true! Damn people dont let us have a moment where we express ourselves our struggles without them even saying a thing. I think no one will understand the struggle, they will compare their struggle as bigger than ours!

Try doing this with Asian dudes next, I’d love to hear their stories.

@ramonaflowers2813

5 жыл бұрын

Buzzfeed did a similar video with Eugene but it was regarding how Asian men are perceived in movies. Really interesting you should watch. And yes they definitely need to do Asian men next.

@jd.4244

5 жыл бұрын

This would be really interesting to see

@emmanuelaadebisi5743

5 жыл бұрын

David Soundara Same sis

@jessicah9522

5 жыл бұрын

I don’t really think asian guys have a problem, but that’s probably because almost half my school is asian

@ShoRyuGuile

5 жыл бұрын

Sumire Cat I only say this because I know Asian guys have a problem trying to date other Asians because reasons. Usually one being that Asian girls say “oh he looks like my brother”

Never date someone who says “I am not sure if I want to date right now, though I’m curious how it would feel like to date a black woman/dark skinned/light skinned.” TURN THEN and never NEVER LOOK BACK.

@thomasakatidalforce7987

4 жыл бұрын

Uh yeah...sort of obvious, but thank you for saying that in defense of people who have suffered that indignity.

@BoniLdn

4 жыл бұрын

Who even says that 😂 that’s not normal

@eventplanner461

4 жыл бұрын

@@BoniLdn You'd be shocked. My friend had an incident with this one guy she went on a date with, and it went similarly to this.

@random1477

4 жыл бұрын

J-HOPPPPEEEEE

@kaylajohnson7521

4 жыл бұрын

@@random1477 God you're so immature

Dating while black is already hard but dating while young and disabled and black is even harder

@JohnDoe-jt5lb

3 жыл бұрын

How disabled are we talking? Wheelchair? Tourettes? Feminist?

@JohnDoe-jt5lb

3 жыл бұрын

@@gracefire9067 I didn't ask you. Disabled people aren't all the same. I'm only interested in the person above. Not you.

@udaykhanna1

3 жыл бұрын

@@JohnDoe-jt5lb Feminist 😂😂😂

@shalikui9849

3 жыл бұрын

@@udaykhanna1 I 😠

@latinmonsieur

Жыл бұрын

Being young is good for dating. It only gets worse with time.

Being told you’re pretty for a black girl, or having so called friends being surprised guys find you attractive because of being black says a lot on what people think.

@Neeshpeesh123

5 жыл бұрын

Bre Shawntae yes!!!

@OtakuDubProductions

5 жыл бұрын

Girl! I've been getting ALOT more play since I moved to NYC and lemme tell you these girls are thown for a loop.

I find it interesting that people who aren’t black women , are saying it’s no different dating as a black woman . Lol , I understand every situation each girl explained in this video . It is different dating as a black woman , don’t make a ignorant comment and try to tell me someone you’ve walked in their shoes . It’s different for everyone out here

@vidconwithoutthevid

5 жыл бұрын

It's odd how people just don't like to even try to understand someone else's experience.. I'm pretty white and I completely understand what they mean and I feel sorry that there's a bunch of negativety for something as simple as dating... I hope in the future things will be better...

@jamecia8550

5 жыл бұрын

Right it's just like me being a light skin black woman I have no idea what dark skin women go through they are treated the worst. Not only for outside of our race but inside. ( The Wille Lynch letter)

@diary.of.a.equestrian1931

5 жыл бұрын

There are problems dating no matter what race but as a white women I do hear more dating stereotypes about black women then I do about Asian or white women. Everyone has struggles the other races or even people of the same race don't understand. It's crazy that people try to make it all about them a the time.

@DrUmarJohnson1

5 жыл бұрын

What you are saying is something a person would have to experience day in and day out......Non Black women interpretations is limited without the experience

@MsLala1112

5 жыл бұрын

This is the best thread in this joint. Stay woke and awesome you guys

Me: *not talking, just been quiet* Everyone: OMG black women are sooo loud,why are they always shouting????? Me: seriously?!

@jeffperreras8529

4 жыл бұрын

Hi miriam seye,can we be friends

@NONAME-jk4zz

4 жыл бұрын

@@jeffperreras8529 how old are u?

@jeffperreras8529

4 жыл бұрын

33,how about you

@jeffperreras8529

4 жыл бұрын

where you from,

@NONAME-jk4zz

4 жыл бұрын

@@jeffperreras8529 AHAHA you are joking then,please I don't want your friendship thanks

Honestly i'm just over the whole dating scene. I have no desire to be on dating apps anymore nor do I feel the need to go out just for the purpose of getting a man. I would love to be with my own but a lot of us have self hate issues..I'm enjoying being single and child free and I ask God to give me discernment. God will lead my husband to me and that's that. In the meanwhile I work on myself. Black women being single without a child in your 30s is ok..and darkskin women you guys are beautiful don't let anyone bring you down

@stanfatou2002

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Girl I think we should step away from this stupid matrix of privilege and heartache.

@eubeeube8716

4 жыл бұрын

@@stanfatou2002 what are you talking about

@eubeeube8716

4 жыл бұрын

@La La are you condoning games?

@CARIBQUEEN916

4 жыл бұрын

ousmane barry Your opinion is not wanted or needed

@SIR_REALIST_88

4 жыл бұрын

WAT A LADY. GROW A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD THERES MUCH LIGHT TO SHARE FROM YOU

It is not an issue to have a preference but if your reasons to not date black women are based off of stereotypes (oh they are loud, oh they have “nappy” hair .. etc) then thats an issue!

@lindaflores4325

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, date women of other races if that's what you want. However, don't put me down in the process. There are white men who date interracial, however I have yet to see a white man speak negatively of his woman. We're human beings not stereotypes.

@PrettyEnigma7

5 жыл бұрын

Linda Flores Exactly!

@paulialan9654

5 жыл бұрын

Stereotyping is the worst thing to do judging a book by its cover before reading the contents black lady's are no louder than any other woman fact.

@sarahbarabe8470

5 жыл бұрын

I agree with this so much! That's where the whole "are preferences racist?" Debate comes in. No preferences are not racist. However "I prefer to date people who are (insert race here)" is a preference. Not racist, not harmful. "I don't like black women because their hair is dirty and distracting and they are all too loud and aggressive so I like other races more" is not a preference. Its ignorance.

@sxpreme-2960

5 жыл бұрын

YES!!!

When she said "the non black and the black guys didn't want to date black girls " I felllltttt thatttttt!!!! It's so true! There's this "angry black woman thing"....I dunno...it's tough 🤷🏽‍♀️

@trini_ice_queen

5 жыл бұрын

Yup and it’s especially painful to hear from people who look just like you, may have had the same stereotypes cause they’re a part of your ethnic groups and they watch you and say ... ‘black women are too loud/have an attitude/ always angry or my personal favorite that you’re too dark to date” I’ve been told I’m pretty for a dark person so many times, I think I’d become that angry black woman they keep telling me I am and slap someone the next time I hear it. And I also hear this from women. I have tried to explain that ‘for’ does not make it a compliment and I do not accept it as one, in fact it’s completely disrespectful and I am not an exception to any made up ridiculous rule. Sometimes ignorance is just too tiring to confront

@prime201

5 жыл бұрын

Selena Ray aye you watch fairy tail frfr?

@selenaray4774

5 жыл бұрын

PRIME Yh I do actually!!

@selenaray4774

5 жыл бұрын

SweetScienceAPA I don't know if she's stereotyping, I can only speak to what I see in the community I'm in, and what I see is that honestly black lady's always seem like less of a choice for some guys🤷🏽‍♀️ maybe I'm not putting it correctly but yh🤷🏽‍♀️

@selenaray4774

5 жыл бұрын

SweetScienceAPA I'm including light skinned women

As a black woman. When people look at me, I want them to see my blackness. I want them to look at me and say, "Wow. She's so pretty." I don't want you not to acknowledge my color, but I just don't want you to see my color in a negative light. That's why the phrase, "I don't see color." is so stupid to me. I want you to see my dark skin, but don't hate me for it.

@tonydrabenstott4745

4 жыл бұрын

R You looking for a relationship with a good man I am LOOKING for a good woman💋💭💌💌

@juliusrodriguez6447

4 жыл бұрын

Well, no human is the color black. It's your ethnicity people notice... Not skin complexion.

@candylove49

4 жыл бұрын

So you want people to 24/7 call you a black girl? “You’re a beautiful black girl”, “You smell nice today black girl”. Gets kinda redundant doesn’t it?

@williamwest9204

4 жыл бұрын

So if a white guy says he likes black girls you don't take offense? If so awesome lol

@dredgewalker

4 жыл бұрын

Rather than be seen as someone of color they should just see you as a woman first.

The media has been putting these negative stereotype about black women and unfortunately there those who buys into that stereotype.

@houseofzuma1033

5 жыл бұрын

American media you mean..lets get to the root of the problem..america is a cesspool

@nmessai215

5 жыл бұрын

House of Zuma true but shows like love and hip hop are extremely popular

@peedipiper9048

5 жыл бұрын

@@nmessai215 it is but it's still premote negative stereotypes on black women

@itsmob4life

4 жыл бұрын

Peedi Piper the media with the 100% approval of black women. This video is another example of how black women love all of the negative stereotypes.

@stryderx1

4 жыл бұрын

Trust me, it took me a lot of a time to get creepy guy vibe off. It was like for a half of the year for the girl I loved : that creep is just likes me cause I'm AA, that creep loves any AA woman, that creep now is stalking me, okay he seriously wants to date me and I was very wrong for the half of the year.

I love when people who can't possibly understand your struggles, try to dimiss them😒🙄

@ManamuneAnada

5 жыл бұрын

Bijou You're probably no different

@MrBenji1059

5 жыл бұрын

IKR...who wants to hear people that disagree with them?

@recoil53

5 жыл бұрын

Because they should be the only ones to listen?

@trappnest4490

5 жыл бұрын

I'm a black woman and I find all this totally stupid. I mean if dating was so hard for black women, most of us would be single, unmarried and don't have children. But we all know that it's not true.

@mangastar234

5 жыл бұрын

Hummingbird Having kids has nothing to do with dating. The marriage stats are low for black American women though.

I never understood this ive dated African American and African women all my life, can't get enough 😭 they hold you down like no other, many can dance, bomb cooking, great hairstyles (natural or not), relate and discuss race/cultural issues, and so on. Like why wouldn't a black man want a black woman it's crazy to me. Nothing wrong with dating outside your race but actually putting down black women because you like other types of women is unnecessary.

@AboveRubiesTV

5 жыл бұрын

Kevin A. Kevin, you’re a gem ✨

@1SouthernGirl08

5 жыл бұрын

Love you brother. Have an amazing day.

@TheLeah2344

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙌🏿

@JoudanJanaiHa

5 жыл бұрын

So if I can't dance, don't cook, and can't hold it down, then I won't meet your criteria for a black woman 🙄

@zabssoutherngirl2019

5 жыл бұрын

That's what we've been saying, Kevin.

My black sisters.. We Asian men feel some of your pain. 😪😥

@norashouldknow7091

4 жыл бұрын

Asian men date out at a high rate even in spite of being the last desired race of men, our problems are not even close to being identical.

@jacobl5488

4 жыл бұрын

@@norashouldknow7091 Hey I was just trying to empathize with the dating troubles of black women. If you'd like to keep the gold trophy for least desirable dating category, be my guest. 🤷‍♂️ I'm not here to take it from ya. Though I'm unsure where you find all these Asian men dating outside their race. Just because you see a handful, does not mean it happens everywhere. That's called generalizing.

@lovablevietboy

3 жыл бұрын

No, we don't

@lovablevietboy

3 жыл бұрын

@Mocha Princess No we don't, Asian men have it good. What are you talking about?

@aritheplebian

3 жыл бұрын

@@lovablevietboy nowadays yes, asian men and women have an easier time dating, but a few decades back there were a lot of negative stereotypes cast upon asian men. Luckily, the majority have moved past such stereotypes and are seen as much more desirable now. Sadly enough, black women, despite centuries of presence in America have not yet moved past such things. But I'm glad you're having a good time!

The comments on this video make me wanna get into spaceship and fly far away from earth as I possibly can 🤣🤣

@karabomothupi9759

4 жыл бұрын

Go ahead

@incharak1927

4 жыл бұрын

Can I come with u

@Dheerajkumar-hs2um

4 жыл бұрын

Dont go anywhere 😂 in my opnion black woman are most beautiful woman in earth

@DragoMusivini

3 жыл бұрын

Taking any passengers?

@ninjapurpura1

3 жыл бұрын

Cuié na net

Wow. This hits home. And why is strong the only adjective used to describe black women? Black women can be and are soft, feminine, flirty, dainty, affectionate, vibrant, lovable and so many words other than strong. Dating is hard when you're actively seeking and those around you have met someone. It's hard when you're the last of your childhood, high school and college friends (of all ethnicities) who is single. You open yourself up only to be told you're undesirable and not worthy of love. That's awful.

@kyrahbarnett934

5 жыл бұрын

Honestly, yeah. In the video they were talking about black women being too aggressive, but only use one adjective to describe us. Like, yes SOME of us our strong, but we are women, regardless of race, other women can be strong and independent too. They're talking about stereotypes, then fitting themselves into one. I am more sensitive, fragile, and caring more than I am strong.

@jbrealestate7155

5 жыл бұрын

Yall think yall have dating struggles.. Lol yeah right... Us clean cut black men have it the worst.. We seek out black women but the only ones that want us are women of other races

@imonlyhuman2142

5 жыл бұрын

@Liin Deshea It's Joseph Martin's loss. If you just focus on one guy that's very limiting.

@imonlyhuman2142

5 жыл бұрын

You look very beautiful in your KZread photo. I'm sorry it's been so difficult for you.

@Runciedany

5 жыл бұрын

Liin Deshea You should have told him first.Anyways, dont feel bad.There are plenty of fish in the sea.And be happy that you live in a culture and country where you are free to date whomever you want.Think about the millions of women in those countries where arranged marriages are the norm.

It's very disappointing that we're in 2018 going to 2019 soon and this still exists

@sxpreme-2960

5 жыл бұрын

It does and it's sad

@normani_love3144

5 жыл бұрын

and it will get worse sadly

@fulldem6888

5 жыл бұрын

Its cuz the media is actively advocating for white supremacy and anyhting thats against black women

@user-qo8xk7tg5b

5 жыл бұрын

Its called life!

@leaopalia8462

5 жыл бұрын

I would date a black woman actually, they look beautiful, but because I am in a relationship I just draw them whenever I feel like it:>

I am a black women I have never had a issue dating black or white however what i did notice from watching this video is most of the women on here do not look feminine or well maintained that might be the problem.

@machetey

4 жыл бұрын

thank you for saying that. And least one woman looks like straight up guy and another one just looks like a large somewhat effeminate guy.

@XavielYouTube

4 жыл бұрын

The woman at 3:30 is the best looking out of all of them. For the majority of them their appearance is holding them back

@maasaigohardordieproductions

4 жыл бұрын

@@XavielKZread WORD LIFE!!!!!

The amount of times people have said to me "you're pretty for a dark skinned girl" is unreal like it's a compliment or something, it's really sad that there's all these stereotypes about us, we are human too with feelings. Just get to know us and make judgements on our character individually that's all we ask.

@Nicminiezrobisz

3 жыл бұрын

But you all do the same

@fredyvergara7597

2 жыл бұрын

Hello Jessina greething from panama

@fredyvergara7597

2 жыл бұрын

How are you jessina

@shamsamberrealestate8220

Жыл бұрын

Hello Jessina God made you sooo 🌹🌹beautyfil

I just watched a video called “what nationality would you date.” Not one person interviewed said black women. They all listed European, South American and Russian. I was fascinated and watched another video called “what nationality would you NOT date.” Only one person said black women....he happened to be a black man. A lot people said middle eastern. This world can wreck havoc on our self esteem. We should not take this to heart and learn to love ourselves/others without the validation of society. There are people out there that love how we look. It can be hard but we can do it! ✊🏾

@prettysubtitles

5 жыл бұрын

But you can be European and be black, you can South American and be black as I am of one those people(?!) So...

@jamecia8550

5 жыл бұрын

Raísa I think they meant ethnicity or race

@paulialan9654

5 жыл бұрын

That's sad having dated black ladys all my life my preference by the way , I could never see myself being with other woman from any other race just my preference though I don't hate my own race nor others.

@Depplova81

5 жыл бұрын

I think nationality and race are getting mixed up tbf. I'm black (race) and Scottish. (Nationality) Not mixed. Black x

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

Why even subject yourself to that? I feel like this narrative has played out enough times to know what most people are going to say

I‘m from Germany and it’s really weird in school because we are only 15 black/mixed people in the whole school and I HATE when my friends try to tell me that it’s hard to find a boyfriend if you’re tan and they try to compare their tan with my blackness. It’s a difference to be tan and have those ”nice“ curls that are “pretty“ or to be black and have an Afro. Like, it’s not the same so don’t try to tell me that we have the same chances because we don’t.

@bri7547

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao 15? We're like 5 in my school😂😂😂😂

@matildaodametey6458

5 жыл бұрын

Try being the only black girl in your whole college

@rachaels.9282

5 жыл бұрын

@@matildaodametey6458 Wow, what college do you go to?

@matildaodametey6458

5 жыл бұрын

Rachael S. it’s in the UK...i don’t live in America so college here is like the last 2 years of high school. I’ve been the only black girl in my entire school for a long time

@SuzieGrime

5 жыл бұрын

Scheiß einfach auf alle in der Schule. Du bist eine Königin. :-*

When Daysha said "people need to be okay with being uncomfortable by the truth of other people experiences" that hit a nerve! You can't change what other people have been through, you can only control YOUR own decisions and how you decide to react.

"I think I'm the right type of black woman" 🤔 didn't know there is a right and wrong type 😑

If a man tells you they are not attracted to a dark skin black woman .You are a lot better off with out them !!!!!!

@prisbosma901

5 жыл бұрын

What do you mean?

@paulcooper5748

5 жыл бұрын

Do black girls like white boys.

@rainandpetalsss6244

5 жыл бұрын

@@paulcooper5748 Do you think every black woman is the same?

@paulcooper5748

5 жыл бұрын

@@rainandpetalsss6244 Of course not.

@thegreatbrandino8234

5 жыл бұрын

maduro169 that’s one way to make the feel better huh

What she said was true about intimidation and the portrayal of black women In the media

@dancewithme2278

5 жыл бұрын

Willow L. Death but that's how you guys act?

@luciacuevas611

5 жыл бұрын

ddd ddd “You guys”? I’m white

@alexc797

5 жыл бұрын

Everything in the video was true. It happened to me countless times

@luciacuevas611

5 жыл бұрын

@@alexc797 indeed

@dancewithme2278

5 жыл бұрын

sym that's how black women act I've been around them my whole life

someone please help Daysha....sis I love you but the hair is a no

@c.m.b.7567

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my lord...

@whisper2284

4 жыл бұрын

I know that you weren’t trying to bully here but that came off as harsh.

@ascotthumphrey

4 жыл бұрын

So much for sisterhood. Form bonds with sisters in previous post then less than a few minutes later, or shall I say a few comments later, throw shade to a fellow struggling sister you're in agreement with for something as simple as her hairdo? Talk about pettiness? SMH! Now you see why people keep their distance? If you can't have the sista you were just riding with back, then how are suppose to hold down your man's back when times get rough? Who wants disloyalty from their woman?

@mereiam

4 жыл бұрын

@@ascotthumphrey I wasn't shading her, I believe Queens fix other Queens crowns. She's brilliant, beautiful and funny, if it was instagram I'd dm her but its KZread dude. Still totally supportive. I can support someone and not ride their dicks. If I made a video and had lipstick on my teeth or something, I would be so thankful for someone calling me out. But that's me. And if you doubt it when I used to make instagram videos and someone called out the fact that my brows were two different people, I liked the comment, laughed and found a way to fix it.

@mereiam

4 жыл бұрын

@@c.m.b.7567 I said what I said

I am a mestiza from Colombia, but gotta recognize ... There’s nothing like a Black Queen. My respect to those beautiful souls out there.

@paulaan881

4 жыл бұрын

cowgirl boots thank you very much for those kind words ❤️

@Србомбоница86

4 жыл бұрын

@Emanyole Cole she said she is mestiza ,NOT black

@IBroLLyISePhIrOtH

4 жыл бұрын

you can't compare a FULL black african girl with a pretty mixed mestiza lol. Mestiza are pretty. I am 6'4 , i am aleman/german , blue/grey eyes , cabello/hair dark blonde/rubio ocuro , 1'92 estatura " Ich liebe dich"

@paulaan881

4 жыл бұрын

Emanyole Cole there are Afro latinos in Colombia, Brazil, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Cuba ... etc no just in Mexico, actually Mexico has more roots of indigenous communities. Just to make sure you know that there’s a phenotype and genotype aspects....wait a min what a about Black Indians ? Are they black to you? They don’t have wooly hair. Either way, I understand your comment... I’m just showing respect to the Black Queens. It’s just FACTS they deserve it. I’m not claiming to be them in order to show respect.

@retlaw4003

4 жыл бұрын

@@IBroLLyISePhIrOtH you Germans you think that to be tall is to be beautiful. That scale you use is different from that of other races

I’m a black girl and I have always been in a white school and I have never been asked out it does make me really sad and I develop depression because I was always left out. I loved the video it does really help. Thank you

@notsosure5924

5 жыл бұрын

I've been in black schools, white schools, diverse schools and at 26 have never been asked out. I developed depression at a very young age and struggle with it still till this day. I feel lonely, left out and not attractive. I'm very passive yet out spoken..I don't let people walk over me..very strong black woman but no man has ever approached me.. It's very hard...so hard

@Nathalie-ty7mj

5 жыл бұрын

Same! I'm a 27 y/o black woman never dated and never been asked out lol. Live your life and at some point we'll meet the right person.

@ela5746

5 жыл бұрын

Im white in a white school and don't even have friends, let alone have been asked out.

@maixken9873

5 жыл бұрын

BOOGuh BOOGuh I’m so sorry that you had to go through that❤️💋

@maixken9873

5 жыл бұрын

Natty Xlv I like the positivity in you 💋❤️❤️❤️

i love being a black girl...even though we go through struggles we’re so strong...i love all my fellow black girls , too 🤧💕

@Bells723

5 жыл бұрын

👸🏾👏🏾

@idwtbam

5 жыл бұрын

Aye, cringe. I really hope your under 18 referring to yourself as a girl. Otherwise, yea!

@pornesianparapiojoon9657

5 жыл бұрын

Yes gurl same and Joon stans united anywhere as well😂

@mj-zl7kf

5 жыл бұрын

hm. i didn't think it was so cringe. yikess.

@mj-zl7kf

5 жыл бұрын

@@pornesianparapiojoon9657 yesss, joon stanss 😂

Tbh some of these girls, it’s not because their black.

@tonywasikhongo7510

4 жыл бұрын

Cause they not good looking

@discingaround

4 жыл бұрын

@@tonywasikhongo7510 Seriously, that first girl look like a Skittle got into a trainwreck with a tub of Oreos.

@tonywasikhongo7510

4 жыл бұрын

@@discingaround lol tub of Oreos

@riquitoferreira9207

4 жыл бұрын

Anime Babi don’t hate on the dude, it’s just most dudes including us don’t find some of them attractive... at all.

@ALTheFreeMan

4 жыл бұрын

FACTS!!

0:36 woooow did she go to my school?? Lol! NONE of the black dudes dated any of the black girls at my school, same thing at my college except for like ONE black couple and that was it! 🤣

@EnclaviousFiraga

4 жыл бұрын

I had a hispanic GF. She was easier to talk to and showed me she cared. Black women are difficult to talk to. They have to talk over you

@ksm13706

4 жыл бұрын

@@EnclaviousFiraga ok but you're grouping all black women into one big stereotype that you dont like. Not all black women are like that, I don't speak over people. Just because you had a bad experience with some black women does not mean that all of them would do that

@EnclaviousFiraga

4 жыл бұрын

@@ksm13706 Lol. No black women are difficult. Period. I'm black so you know there's a problem if all the black girls act the same to a certain degree

@ksm13706

4 жыл бұрын

@@EnclaviousFiraga LOL. If you say so

@EnclaviousFiraga

4 жыл бұрын

@@ksm13706 I have yet to meet one that doesn't scare me off after the first day. Lol. Sorry for being insensitive or whatever but I must live in a bad area because the girls here have NO individuality.

I could never get a date in middle school and high school bc of my skin. Guys thought I was cute but they couldn’t see themselves with a black girl.

@MrBenji1059

5 жыл бұрын

lol @ dating in middle school. No wonder millennial are so wayward in their way of thinking

@koolklub

5 жыл бұрын

Bide love how you assume my generation... also yes dating in middle school aka silly school dances where you take a boy, in a silly middle school way but you can’t find someone brave enough to take the little black girl who’s the only dateless one out of your friends. It’s silly but don’t belittle my experience

@MrBenji1059

5 жыл бұрын

@@koolklub not trying to "belittle" your experience, but I take it you're in the age group of 21-35 yes?...Nevertheless the term "dating" can be interpreted in a variety of ways. SO I commend you for your explanation.

@clipaqua8848

5 жыл бұрын

@@MrBenji1059 stfu

@kyrahbarnett934

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I am feeling that right now. The worst part is when they would flirt or text with you in private, but not even give you the time of day in public. I just keep telling myself that college boys will be better.

Can we retire "the strong black woman" phrase? I'm done being compared to a stereotype. I have no problem in social settings. I chose to take a break but when I am ready, I'm jumping back in the dating pool..

@e.k.o5412

5 жыл бұрын

Yes especially since people will instantly make the connection to the violent, loud sterotype aswell. No other race tries to push this stereotypical ideal and that may just be part of the reason we have this issue

@kyrahbarnett934

5 жыл бұрын

Honestly, yeah. In the video they were talking about black women being too aggressive, but only use one adjective to describe us. Like, yes SOME of us our strong, but we are women, regardless of race, other women can be strong and independent too. They're talking about stereotypes, then fitting themselves into one. I am more sensitive, fragile, and caring more than I am strong.

@puffnugget2425

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck...

@meadowgailer5659

5 жыл бұрын

About a few years ago I started a new position and we were talking about culture. My manager at the time asked where I was from. I was a little confused at first and explained that I was African American. She was shocked and then exclaimed "But you're so nice and soft spoken!" Another girl chimed in and explained that her boyfriend was African American and his family was more boisterous and opinionated......

@nadjak3410

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think that calling black women "strong" is the reason for ridiculous racial stereotyping. I'd argue it's the other way around. Black women have had to live with the stereotype of being loud and aggressive for so long, they are now against labeling themselves as "strong", whilst white feminist can proudly use this term without having to be afraid of being called "masculine" or "aggressive".

I'm perfect. The problem is everyone else.

@ChrisCheapBodybuilding

4 жыл бұрын

fefi only if I got a nickel for every time a woman portrayed that.

@VibeWithVida

4 жыл бұрын

Lol, fefi is definitely a troll.

@fefifofob

4 жыл бұрын

Is name calling a sign of maturity?

@VibeWithVida

4 жыл бұрын

@@fefifofob you're a troll.

@fefifofob

4 жыл бұрын

It's OK. You probably just don't understand the subtle humor. Maybe someday.

I’m 20 about to be 21 and I’ve never been in a relationship and I’ve never had my first kiss 🙃 #literallymylife

@enigmaticazaleas

4 жыл бұрын

same but i'm 22

@mwan245

4 жыл бұрын

Thats most men in life

@Mrgoodbar123456789

4 жыл бұрын

You need to get on that.. And fast! Only gets harder and more awkward as you get older. Put yourself out there. Worst they can say is no. Don't let life pass you by

@farahm.3346

4 жыл бұрын

Anthony Berg lol I’m tryin

@Remss777

4 жыл бұрын

Anthony Berg omg stop you’re scaring me lol.

I usually don't comment on videos but I just want to say I'm so glad that this video is made. I've lived my whole life in Europe as a black woman with white people (who I very much love), but when it came to dating I was always like am I treated different because of my color? And I had nobody to really talk about it because I had nobody to relate so it's nice to see I'm not the only one who experience this. To my fellow black women, y'all beautiful! All women are beautiful!✨👑

@kaytee789

5 жыл бұрын

Im in the same situation!

@nicw3251

5 жыл бұрын

L A that’s unfortunate. I would’ve thought Europeans were more evolved than that.

@j.stanisic1586

5 жыл бұрын

L A im sorry to hear that cause me being European (German) I feel bad that that is what people make you feel like! Just ignore them cause no queen can be treated like that.

@anaritamateus5247

5 жыл бұрын

Samee! In which country are you living?

@LEbackstage

5 жыл бұрын

L A Dating AS black woman in Europe is not easy. I'm a african woman living in Germany. I've heard from people that I should say I'm African-American instead of African because it's more attractive. Or that I'm lucky that I'm not dark skined - don't try to compliment me while insulting other people. But for me the hardest part is not knowing if the other person is really interested or if they're just curious about beeing with a black person like some kind of fetish.

“They were the first ones to get dance with even though they couldn’t dance.” WHEW CHILE, THE SHADE💀

@Tigerheiress

5 жыл бұрын

Wurmin' i laughed

@MsKitty12291

5 жыл бұрын

My exact thoughts when I heard her say that lol 😂

@tylerdavidson2400

4 жыл бұрын

Wurmin' Men dont pick women for their dancing abilities😜

4:50 as a black brownskin girl i agree with this whole statement she said. its so easy for a white girl, latina, asian girl to mock us black women when they act boujie, bad, can "rap" or twerk character traits but when its a black girl who likes to be natural herself (me) and have some fun we always get labeled as loud, unatteactive etc & it's irritating.

@alecgurney9305

2 жыл бұрын

Because yall go too far

@its.alacia

2 жыл бұрын

@@alecgurney9305 did i ask for your response? no i did not. ain't nothing wrong with us black girls expressing ourselves bc its called having fun! i just don't like the hypocrisy but i could care less.

@seekersudarshan2078

Жыл бұрын

@@its.alacia Nah, y'all too loud and disrespectful. Blah blah blah

@esther9210

Жыл бұрын

@@seekersudarshan2078 I’m black and not like that. I’m literally asked to speak up at school…

In Africa none of this is an issue.

@muhammadabdillah1278

3 жыл бұрын

thanks alot sir.........

@manic6461

3 жыл бұрын

Duh

@proudinfidel2194

3 жыл бұрын

Lol if these girls went on holidays to Sub Sahara Africa they'd have no problems.

before you type your ignorant comments remember, listen to understand not to respond. thank you.

@sophie2946

5 жыл бұрын

Yess!

@ianwiesendanger2129

5 жыл бұрын

It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright

@ianwiesendanger2129

5 жыл бұрын

It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright

@ianwiesendanger2129

5 жыл бұрын

It's quite ignorant of you to say such a thing but alright

@MrBenji1059

5 жыл бұрын

#believewomen...............lol

I have a huge crush on this darkskinned black girl, it's not BECAUSE she's dark skin and black and not in a fetishizing way, I like her so much becuase of her personality, her being darkskin and black is a plus because I love our hair and I prefer black girls in general. And I swear I really have connection with this girl and I'm tryna wife her, dont let anyone tell you you arent attractive because of your heritage, attractiveness is subjective. But wish me luck y'all lol

@tinasnow2006

5 жыл бұрын

LS Kwuake best of luck. Everyone deserves love

@BrookD.Artist

5 жыл бұрын

@@tinasnow2006 thank you 🙏🏽

@taters2883

5 жыл бұрын

Aww good luck to you!

@crystolslimbracey

5 жыл бұрын

good luck

@amaree8420

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck

The comments are not good,my dear.If you scroll down searching for hope and community .Here I am : You are a beatiful black women and or femme and you deserve someone who loves you like you need it. Take your time,build friendships, your worth is not determined by someone else but you.I know it hurts ,I know you want to be the heroine of your own little romance. That day will come💐

@head-like-a-milk-dud963

4 жыл бұрын

Eli Buledi you sound like you live with your mom beta boy.

No matter the shape or color in a person, the important thing is his spirit, morals and discipline

"It's hard to be a Black woman." The Sister with the braids made numerous important points.

@donnyvmodus_operandi4034

5 жыл бұрын

*I'm sorry, but when I saw this: ...0.01... I stopped. But for curiousity: I place my mouse on the progress bar to see if anything else looked like that...?* *Well, not as bad but... 0.57... She's NOT... Alicia Keys...*

@saidtoney5527

5 жыл бұрын

What she said had me kinda pissed off a little bit. While she's being passed up like that I can't find any sisters like her where I live. 😕

@caveman357

5 жыл бұрын

If your loud and outspoken, and you need to be "strong" cause you need to be, then that's cool.... for you. But that dosent mean that it is, or should be attractive for guys. Also why are you comparing yourselves to the white woman dating expirence? If your beautiful black queens, then you shouldn't care, right? And all of these women dont seem like they are in the best shape. This is the type of woman that does the most complaining behind being black, but fat bodies, and fat faces are the real hindrance for them. If your face is attractive, and your body is nice, you should have Zero problem getting a date. The darkskinned chic with braids gets dates. She just doesn't get the guys she wants.

@gntsuwproverbs3136

5 жыл бұрын

@JusticeTM The only point she kept making was as a black woman she gets to claim victim status in everything. It is childish. Take responsibility for yourself and stop blaming others. It is a sign of weakness, but black women are strong regardless of how they behave in their own eyes. They are in a grand delusion!

@blankspace282

5 жыл бұрын

Nothing about dating

I’ve legit been told that black women have too much attitude, are too heavy, and their hair is too high maintenance. And that’s why people gravitate away from us. That’s when my eyes were opened.

@kikib.4519

5 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree with you.

@paulialan9654

5 жыл бұрын

That's stereo typing pretty perfetic for them to judge all black lady's like that sighs...

@kevina.600

5 жыл бұрын

It's funny how people want a black woman to be absolutely perfect before considering them but put up with so much more for almost any other type of woman. Black women need some attitude how else can they protect themselves when no one else will. Too heavy? Anyone can be heavy not even a factor. High maintenance hair? Have people seen the types of amazing things black women do with their hair whether it's natural or not. Like dating a new person to every month 😂 Black women are it 👌🏾

@lizmowrey9866

5 жыл бұрын

"Too heavy" what?

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

I don't believe for a second that you have "trouble" dating. You are beautiful, beautiful smile. Maybe the men you want don't want to date you, but that could be who you are choosing, but I do not believe you have trouble attracting men

I am a black woman and I NEVER had a problem getting a man. Maybe it's not your color...

@millymilly8264

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah maybe its just them

@gatestimonymiracle1302

4 жыл бұрын

Same here ,I have a cousin who is very dark mahogany brown with very big nose and big lips and she has no problem attracting men.all she does is take care of her basic needs like showering and eating healthy and dressing in clean clothes. These women are reaching

But I'm a white man and I am really attracted to black women.

@Bob-td1lv

4 жыл бұрын

AFGThugonomics9 ?????

@queenie7129

4 жыл бұрын

Vault Boy. Don't listen to him. But what I wanted to say is that I love ALL colours of the rainbow.

As a black girl i suggest like we date guys of all races instead of trying to specially find black men and stop holding them up on a pedestal since they don't do the same for us.

@AwqCutie

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Things are hard enough and we'll always be treated as lesser women so might as well increase our chances of getting lucky

@gratitudeandlovee

5 жыл бұрын

That's what I'm doing

@Levi_225

5 жыл бұрын

Good luck.

@fulldem6888

5 жыл бұрын

Right?! It took these bitches long enough. I dont know how long or how much its gonna take to drain that into their skulls. Some blk men arent even that cute ew smh lol ive BEEEN saying this

@Summer_li53

5 жыл бұрын

Full Dem, girl one of my formal bm friends cut me off because I decided not to pursue bm anymore. It's like bm don't want us bw dating out. However, most of the wm & Asian men I talked too was cool as ever. I'm so over bm that their not in my dating pool.

I don’t see why people are saying the video makes the women come off as if they’re playing the victim card...how are they playing the victim if they’re simply just explaining their experiences and how their race tied into those experiences?

@monrque

5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately that's what happens when black people tell the stories. It was the same thing when black people gave their experiences with the police. People said they're whining or playing the race card. When people started to see what was happening with police and black people in everyday life, they could no longer say they were whining or playing the victim. But that only happened because of social media and the use of cameras

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

Simple, complaining about not getting dates sounds like pandering. Would you or anyone have sympathy for a man you aren't attracted to who wants to date you? No, you would tell him to move on. So why can't these women do that?

@prissybell16

5 жыл бұрын

@@aqeelmorgan8873 I agree. A lot of the women weren't attractive and it didn't have anything to do with their skin tone. Also some were overweight and most people aren't into that. I really don't think race plays a factor. And totally agree. They shouldn't try to guilt people into dating them or giving them compliments because it isn't genuine

@tawhneebaby

5 жыл бұрын

@@aqeelmorgan8873 first of all, when a large group with the same characteristics have the same experiences, that gives grounds for evaluation. Did any of them complain? I didn't hear not one complaint about their experiences. I only heard their experiences. What you internalized was the fact that you fall under the group of people who shun these women simply because of their skin tone. The mere acknowledgement of an experience is not a complaint. These women have not let any of their experiences keep them from happiness (as evident by the fact that one is currently married). They are sharing their experiences so that others don't feel so alone and can see that life still moves on and can be positive, even with all of these factors going against them.

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

@@tawhneebaby that is your interpretation of the video. My interpretation is a group of people who feel entitled to other people's affections and inserting race as a reasoning for why they have not received that affection. I love black women, I'm black, grew up in a mostly black city. This phenomenon of black women not feeling desired seems very new. This women do not speak for all black people or black women. I was simply giving another possibility for why this specific group of women may not have as much success compared to other women (black women included) when dating.

I am dating a beautiful black wowen and it’s my first love and for sure the last❤️💍😍

@alex_lebox

4 жыл бұрын

diztiinct ???

@genewalker4687

4 жыл бұрын

Smh

@yapleanna

4 жыл бұрын

@Private Privacy What are u talking about

@leila_de_hautjardin

4 жыл бұрын

@Private Privacy Why so mucg negativity ? He just said he was in love with his wife.

@princesschanel469

4 жыл бұрын

Update?

I'm a dark skinned black women who is educated, can cook clean, work hard and have fun and I've never had a problem dating black or any other race. I've dated black, white, Spanish, and Arabic men and I'm married to an Indian man. I think its truly about you and your personality and how you carry yourself not race.

@MistahUnknown

3 жыл бұрын

@Deborah Singh You married one of us Indians? I want to see wedding pictures! What's your favorite Indian dish? Did you convert religions?

@deborahsingh2011

3 жыл бұрын

@@MistahUnknown mutton and rice is my favorite dish. No I haven't converted I'm still a Christian and he's still Sikh. I can't upload any photo at this time. Sorry

@MistahUnknown

3 жыл бұрын

@@deborahsingh2011 Do you mean Lamb Biryani? Does everyone on both sides of the family get along? I have to ask because us Indians are very picky. Haha.

@deborahsingh2011

3 жыл бұрын

@@MistahUnknown yes lamb biryani. And yes indians can be very very discriminatory against darker skin people even there own.

@CruddyDave

2 жыл бұрын

@@deborahsingh2011 So why marry one? We know why you did.

Please stop blaming your ugliness on your blackness. I CANNOT stand this talking point. There are countless black women who enjoy success with men.

@ArizonaArie11202

5 жыл бұрын

So are you saying colorism doesn't exist? That people don't discriminate against you because your skin is darker? Because it definitely does and people definitely do.

@keisi1574

5 жыл бұрын

Chidi So you're saying YOU take responsibility for YOUR ugliness? Way to keep it real.😉

@stigludwigsen

5 жыл бұрын

The ugliest woman in the video, Ehis, was the one blaming her blacknes the most....

@sunstorm4436

5 жыл бұрын

Chidi - Props to you... Great comment. Sadly most of these chicks won’t understand it.

@JasminelovesIndycar

5 жыл бұрын

As much as it's hard for a lot of black women to admit race does factor into men approaching you. Doesn't matter how attractive you may be. Ever heard of "you're pretty for a black girl?" Why is it always "for a black girl?" You may not have a problem getting any man, but don't sit here and act like every black chick has it easy too. There are many of us who are attractive, but attractiveness doesn't matter when we're stereotyped horribly. Other women do not have this problem. If you have white female friends ask them if they were ever told they were "pretty for a white girl." I'll wait.

With my experiences growing up in Europe in a very small " white town", I could write here a testament. All I can say , I feel very related to this video. Besides as a teenager I heard " How is it possible a girl so beautiful ?" ( I know what he meant ) , at a party " Don't be sad , you are a very beautiful black girl ", at school " Be lucky you are not dark as that girl" and so on. Nowadays I am just " careless" and living my life.

@RamonLovesRockandPie

5 жыл бұрын

Reading this made me feel sad. Can't stand that people say that.

@dritzzjoney

5 жыл бұрын

Which part because germans love black women and men hahaha

@maurasanchez33

5 жыл бұрын

dritzzjoney Portugal

@fruitsarelife148

5 жыл бұрын

@@maurasanchez33 litteraly there was this turkish MAN coming up to me talking about the dark skin people "but NOT you, your skin is nice " 😷😷😷like don't involve me in that racist psycho world. I'm a child of god and all his creations are beautiful. Only the devil pushes one ethnic group. I'm NOT for any cast system, thanks.

@hazel.a3557

5 жыл бұрын

But they somehow blame on black men. Keep your head up beautiful

There’s nothing wrong with not being attracted to a dark skin woman but when you say we’re not pretty or that we’re pretty for a dark skin, or that you would never date a dark skin based on just because we’re dark is kind of hurtful ngl 🤷🏾‍♀️

@mgtow-balance3409

4 жыл бұрын

whahhhhh, tell that to the millions of good black men that black women call "educated lames." (oh but yeah, 20 years later, after y'all are beat and have multiple children, then that "lame" becomes "the good man") F. O. H!!

Most of the women were fat and not attractive and very masculine . The pretty girl with the braids gives off that masculine vibe.

@c.n5127

2 жыл бұрын

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It's so sad that being confident and indipendant is being seen as unattractive when you're a woman but when men have these traids it's completely normal and even a must

@Mactownization

5 жыл бұрын

Its not fair when men seen as unattractive when they lack confidence and are dependent. Its just not fair.

@imnaelywa5113

5 жыл бұрын

@@Mactownization the same for women

@Mactownization

5 жыл бұрын

@@imnaelywa5113 Not true at all. I will say that successfully women usually look down on men who not on their level or higher.

@imnaelywa5113

5 жыл бұрын

@@Mactownization those kind of people will always be there and you can't do anything about it. I think it's better to live together with people and try to get along instead of bullying or looking down on someone but sadly that only works in small groups

@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249

5 жыл бұрын

Mactownization True

I went straight down to the comment section.

@princemoore845

5 жыл бұрын

Lol same!!!

5 жыл бұрын

Nuttin but 'educated' fat hoes complaining. One chick said 'they don't want to see us winning!" Ok ma'am... theres a conspiracy against you. Mmmmmmmk gotcha.

@9yearoldepicgamersoldier129

5 жыл бұрын

Lol same

@Truther945

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao and here I am too..😂😂

@BasilNUmeh

5 жыл бұрын

Same

This is so painful, but so true. And it just seems to get harder as you get older :/ It feels like the world hates Black women and deemed us to be "undesirable" when we're the ones that birthed creation :_ (

@Todsor

Жыл бұрын

Birthed creation? No your ancestors were working in mines before deluge meanwhile adam and eve were taught husbandry, farming etc.

I’m a black girl and I just learned to accept that black women are deemed as undesirable in this society. Maybe when I’m 6ft under things will change but I’m not going to stress over anything human beings’ acceptance. Beauty ain’t forever so....🤷🏾‍♀️ I know it sounds harsh but no matter how much black women try to fight back the enemy will always hit harder, it’s a sad world.

@brucewayne3074

4 жыл бұрын

No. When I see your face, there's not a thing that I would change! 'Cause girl you're amazing just the way you are! And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while! 'Cause girl you're amazing just the way you are! Yeeeaaah!

@esther9210

Жыл бұрын

Girl what?? Black women are not undesirable! Change your mindset

Two things I cant stand: 1. Being an experiment to other races. 2. Being unappreciated or unwanted by our own race. ! Black women are humans too ! To my black women, you're beautiful just the way you are and you are enough 😙💕

@mcbthird

5 жыл бұрын

Coming from a black man I want you to know that most of us love you and don’t all the propaganda fool you. You are beautiful, you are a Queen and you are loved.

@lolamonroe5910

5 жыл бұрын

UnDebNiable same sis. Thank you queen I also subscribed

@undeBniable

5 жыл бұрын

@@mcbthird I appreciate that 😊 I love ya'll too. I wish I was referring to the propaganda, unfortunately this is based off my experiences (can't speak for anyone else).

@undeBniable

5 жыл бұрын

@@lolamonroe5910 awh thank you! Stay blessed

@undeBniable

5 жыл бұрын

@Donald trick Trump Has STD's from Stormy D. Thanks for solving the issue 😘

This is the most desperate representation of black women I have seen in a long time. Like geez. Perpetuating victimhood much? Was the point of this to guilt men into dating more black women? In that case, the women didn't even discuss why they are dateable or what makes them attractive partners? To all the black women out there, dont feel sorry for yourself, love yourself unconditionally, clean up your energy, heal your anxiety attachments, invest in personal development, find the fashion style that resonates with you best, develop your personality and ability to emapthize, learn about men (how they think and operate), and find HAPPINESS with your life and who you are , and you will have no problem getting and keeping ANY man you want. This advice goes for any woman of any color btw. I know its easier said than done, but trust me, it WORKS.

@melamela.

5 жыл бұрын

you are a goddess, best advice to give ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@cosmickirby4793

5 жыл бұрын

Your one of the sane people in this comment section

@amateurastronomer9752

5 жыл бұрын

A Mel Thank you, dear 💛🌞

@melamela.

5 жыл бұрын

Brionna Pinkney no problem 😘, love heals all things, positive energy only 💛

@NellyMfeka

5 жыл бұрын

I hear and understand your point, but they are being open about insecurities a lot of us have had to deal with and have ignored out of fear of not being acknowledged. As a black woman I feel we need to commend them for talking about it and not criticize them calling it “perpetuating victimhood”. I feel you sound like someone who clearly experienced this or if you have, you were able to move past it. Not everyone deals with such issues the same way so the last thing they need is someone saying they are responsible for how other people perceive their physical appearances because they are not.

Man I wish that I could remedy this situation by letting these GORGEOUS women feel their worth. Please stay strong, you are loved, you are valued YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

First of all... If someone does not find you attractive then thats that.....but dont blame your skin for it..... Not everyone is prejudice..... And why a chic in this look homeless?

@kenyagrant2727

4 жыл бұрын

if you are a "pretty" black girl and most guys don't like you its probably because of your skin color lets be honest

@emmarose7491

4 жыл бұрын

@Kenya Grant If you’re a ‘pretty’ black girl and no guy wants you, it’s probably because of your attitude, not skin color. Attractive is attractive regardless of skin tone.

Here come the comments invalidating the experiences of these women because they don’t understand! 🤗

@lechatnocternal4817

5 жыл бұрын

Ana Campbell totally unrelated but you are so pretty

@anarenea

5 жыл бұрын

Lechatnocternal Thank you so much 😭🥰

@anarenea

5 жыл бұрын

terry wit da dreds Nope, I was referencing the people in the comments denouncing the experiences of Black women because they see it as trivial or unworthy of discussion

@shockhouser3171

5 жыл бұрын

Honey this brotha will back u up

@monitaylor537

5 жыл бұрын

terry wit da dreds have you noticed the comments here by blk males ?

black women in my experience (I'm black btw) are generally more approachable even though they initially give off the vibe that they aren't. they are fun to hang out with, really good sense of humor, if you ever watch prank videos on youtube black women seem like they are able to laugh at themselves and laugh at the prank in the end. def have a unwarranted bad reputation.

@joseramirezchavez2146

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly, the most common prank pulled on black women involve pulling her wig which just aren’t funny anymore. They were funny during 2016 back then and we all laughed and had fun. Now it’s just awkward and they have to laugh it off to not come off as offended and aggressive. When you repeat a joke long enough, it stops being funny. What is so funny about that prank? That they don’t have hair? Let’s stop with those humiliating pranks.

To the other black women who read the comments and see, AGAIN, that no one is listening or that a lot of these commenters are very disrespectful and not wanting to understand our situation (NOT ALL, BUT I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO SAY THAT) just know that we know our situation. And that our feelings and experiences are valid! Stay amazing out there ladies! 💙💙

I love black women, but I don't like mad face piercings and pink hair. Maybe that's the problem😂😂😂

@dewknow1315

5 жыл бұрын

They look like a clown when they do that it not attractive IMO .

@isa.m8009

5 жыл бұрын

B Mac wow

@dewknow1315

5 жыл бұрын

@@isa.m8009 Not to many men find face tattoos, face piercing and weird color hair attractive it a bad look no matter the color the woman is .

@isa.m8009

5 жыл бұрын

Well mr Man Make it seem like ur talking about all race then

@kidmario08

5 жыл бұрын

@@isa.m8009 oh, one other thing. Don't let me catch you with that scarf on. Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier than mine, take the scarf off, lay back down, let ur hair beautifully lay on the pillow, pretend ur sleeping until I wake up and say " Good morning my queen". Lol

To all my black girls out there: you are beautiful and intelligent and so resilient! I appreciate all of you and wish the world gave you more love because you are wonderful❤

These women in this video just aren’t attractive it has nothing to do with their skin color

@jordandennis3215

4 жыл бұрын

What was the point of this comment

@Incognito-jl3jk

4 жыл бұрын

Jordan Dennis exactly how he said it. What’s not clicking

@romariohenry412

4 жыл бұрын

You must be blind, Sequoia is beautiful

@jordandennis3215

4 жыл бұрын

@@Incognito-jl3jk Well you must be blind all women are beautiful in there own way and they are actually beautiful

@Incognito-jl3jk

4 жыл бұрын

Jordan Dennis the same logic can be applied to you. Everyone is unattractive in there own way and there and these women are plainly unattractive like majority of the comments are saying.

I dated a few dark skin black women (not cuz I wanted to try a black women but their vibe) , and the stereotypes aren't always true(shocker) some are loud some are calm, as a man I love both, I love it when I can handle her being loud and outspoken, I find the beauty, the fun in it how they talk with passion and full of live. Like some of my white friends, dark skin never bothered me cuz, I saw they person beyond the skin, I can relate cuz I m light brown skin. Just my 2 cents, I love black women!

@deadass3545

2 жыл бұрын

that’s actually the best thing i’ve ever read lmao i might screen shot it and set it as my wallpaper to read it everyday

Black women are sooo beautiful!

@Juicyfruit123

5 жыл бұрын

JDoe depends

@arimoxoxox2413

5 жыл бұрын

@The Real Tea why tf you come on this type video then? Stick to a specific subject.

@SarahChanel94

5 жыл бұрын

@The Real Tea they said black..

@depressantdrug

5 жыл бұрын

@The Real Tea *All lives matter* have a seat.

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah some are

I've heard horrifying comments from men that are both black and other races on this topic. "Oh I don't like dating black women because they're just too aggressive and loud" how can you just generalize millions of people like that.... It's terrible to hear and I know it's even worse to experience. It hurts my heart because I've met dozens of amazing black women who some men won't give a chance purely because of ignorance and stereotypes

@melbee5767

5 жыл бұрын

since the 1970's there has been a Hollywood/media campaign to portray blck one way wich is 90% negatively. unfortunately people who don't have interactions with blacks because of their country or where they live, rely on these media portrayals to judge us. I think it's so odd that black women are portrayed as loud and aggressive....from what I have seen in my travels around the world, African women and Black women of African heritage are THE MOST humble and sometimes passive women out there. Also to note, African women from the continent are way more submissive than Asian women (I lived in Japan)….yet MEDIA never portrays this. I have been getting my hair braided by different African women for years and when their husband, sons or father comes into the house he is treated like a KING. Also back in the day in the South at least, I remember my great grandma from Georgia being the EXACT same way.

@mcbthird

5 жыл бұрын

As a black man I want you to know most of us love black women and the clowns date outside of their race who subconsciously wants to be white. Their minds have been destroyed by your people. So don’t ever act like you care more about black women than black women. That’s why I don’t like white women y’all aren’t even half as smart as you believe you are.

@TerellTheG9697

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I bet you care so much. Lol..

@abigailowusu4866

5 жыл бұрын

@Christian Barrett every woman is strong though so you will probably end up alone if you don't like strong women and the funny part is there are negative stereotypes about black men too yet y'all behave as if you're better than your women.

@jamesedwards3923

5 жыл бұрын

In nature the best way to not fight is to avoid conflict at any opportunity.

Why would a man want to date a woman with credentials? That isn't what is important to any man. Is she polite, would she be a good mother, will she be faithful, does she have a good sense of humor?. Not some list of accomplishments that shows you don't have time to date or have a family. These women are listing things they find attractive in men and wondering why men don't respond. We are different.

I feel for these ladies. I’m a gay latino male. The gay dating scene can be harsh, but black women have been overlooked for so long. I’ve noticed many black women have beautiful skin that needs little, if any makeup.

@wendigodeadpatterson2514

3 жыл бұрын

It's hard for latino men to get dates in the gay scene?

@clovis-ti1yv

3 жыл бұрын

@@wendigodeadpatterson2514 It can be. Dating within the culture, outside of it. Stereotypes

As an Asian dude, I guess I can relate. Dating is rough game for Asian guys in this country too. Unfortunately, as men, we’re not allowed to “complain” and are expected just “man-up” so it’s difficult to have an honest conversion about the problem.

@MxWeirdoifcation

5 жыл бұрын

I’ve read about that. Black women are seen as too masculine and Asian men are seen as too feminine. At the end of the day it’s all just stereotypes and are myths.

@user-wk6nr6bb1x

5 жыл бұрын

Richard K That’s sucks because you’re a very attractive man, whoever says other wise is missing out. Good luck on finding your soulmate. ❣️

@margaritam.9118

5 жыл бұрын

Richard K We should show a world the middle finger and date each other. Problem solved!

@naomimesfin6821

5 жыл бұрын

@Tyrone jacobs jr it isnt about who has it harder. Let us talk about our pain and help each other through it. pain is pain

@lxndrx3168

5 жыл бұрын

well go get you a black woman and you can both stroke each others egos

Can we start promoting a positive narrative of dating while black? I'm so over the media portraying black women's dating life as if it's nonexistent or challenging. Maybe if we change the narrative, we won't perpetuate these negative stereotypes. Edit: I want to be very clear. I know this is a reality for a lot of black women. I’m not saying their experiences aren’t valid. What I am saying is that there isn’t enough media representation of black women in loving relationships to counter this narrative. We’re fed so many images of the “unloved black woman”. I believe that can have an adverse effect on black women’s self-esteem and self-image. And I also understand that this video may not be the best place to voice my concern as it appears that I’m invalidating their experience. That definitely isn’t my purpose for commenting.

@queenswaybaby1992

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you,some people will have pity and feel that They are doing a good duty,by dating black women as if they are giving to the poor.that's what these poor girls are portraying

@AlayziaWade

5 жыл бұрын

That’s what I’m saying!

@shanickalamar3616

5 жыл бұрын

Im glad someone spoke up it's crazy because I've never had that issue they're talking about and neither have my sister all married and have black husbands and not to be mean but look at the woman they choose to speak on this matter not trying to be mean not the best looking bunch .

@ayomide6138

5 жыл бұрын

Sure, there are many happy, black relationships in the world. However, they are talking about the negative aspects which also still very much exist. It’s easy to say just talk about the positive when you haven’t had negative experiences with black guys/men.

@iLuvsIjaee

5 жыл бұрын

agreed. im over this victim mentality. I know im a beautiful black and I dont need validation from the internet

Let’s be real. Some Black woman have very high expectations.

@asdfghjkldfghjhgcgyuigfyui9792

5 жыл бұрын

*most

@varldinesss26

5 жыл бұрын

Brando Diaz not always. Due to western beauty standards black women end up at the bottom in attraction. Cause we’re like the opposite in looks of white women.

@andinonyong2149

5 жыл бұрын

I’m pretty sure women of different races have high expectations as well

“Don’t think of black women in absolutes.” *Talks about black women in absolutes (“You’re beautiful; you’re a queen)*

@dudeinoakland

4 жыл бұрын

Also 'strong.'

@michaelss1294

4 жыл бұрын

Nik Wilomady , true

Being in college exposed me to this dehumanizing thing. I am basically invisible to every man of every color. The ones that flirt are guys that “just wants to try something new” like I’m some kind of exotic sample. It crushes my heart to be dismissed like this. Why can’t anyone see me as a beautiful woman?

"Intimidating"="Unattractive" basically. "Strong"="Difficult, Loud, Attitude and Undatable"

@shamiquawilson4403

5 жыл бұрын

IBroLLyI SephirothI RIGHT

@mr.peanutbutter6969

4 жыл бұрын

Intimating= acts like a black Male Strong= literally the strength of a black Male

@pachi146

4 жыл бұрын

Don't listen to them. People are jealous of black women, and prey on people who seem vulnerable to make their sad lives feel better. When you show them the opposite of how they want you to react, they'll retreat to a corner. Just keep doing you and being yourself, God will find you the right one.

@natensityfilms5440

4 жыл бұрын

@@mr.peanutbutter6969 That's how the Europeans trained them to be. Be stronger than your own men and we will reward you. That's the U.S for ya.

@pineappleduck1021

4 жыл бұрын

What makes someone intimidating someone who doesn't smile?

It's not about color to me, it's about personality and character, and of course, personal attractiveness. That gal with the white t-shirt and braids, I would totally ask her out. She is so pretty and just needs to be respected and enjoyed for who she is. Wish I knew her number....

@aritheplebian

3 жыл бұрын

I admire your outlook. Scrolling through these comments has been an absolute nightmare 😂

Ok so being unattractive doesn't have anything to do with it?

@IdemRedd

4 жыл бұрын

Attitude can make you unattractive. Of course they see you are black first. You might have too much masculinity. I might have a lady that could beat me up (skilled Brazilian jujitsu) but i dont want one that looks and acts like it.

INB4 a bunch of white people charging in here to say "Well ackchyually, dating is hard for everyone, don't make it about race"

@queenswaybaby1992

5 жыл бұрын

It is hard for everyone. A lot of the girls in the video have a hard face and weird style sense. I am a black women and I don't find it hard to date.sorry

@sexychocolategoddess2821

5 жыл бұрын

@@queenswaybaby1992 you probably dont notice things that other people do

@queenswaybaby1992

5 жыл бұрын

@@sexychocolategoddess2821 did you not watch the video,these poor girls said their friends get more guys and they themselves don't get approached much. I don't blame them ,they don't know how to be lady like ,like me.If you work on yourself trust me a lot of guys will not only approach but will also stalk you.

@queenswaybaby1992

5 жыл бұрын

@C RD awwwww I know your type. You are the type ,who doesn't want any black women to do better than her.It's okay,some man will one day love you.

@queenswaybaby1992

5 жыл бұрын

@puppycat just try not to look like a man simple

I'm more attracted by Caucasian men, certainly due to the fact I was adopted and grew up in a Caucasian family. My ex was from Eastern Europe and he kept telling me I wasn't black enough because I wasn't loud, didn't have huge lips nor was wearing super colourful clothes all the time. He wanted to date the caricature of a Black woman he saw in the media, not me. Best breakup ever!!

@kemartini

5 жыл бұрын

Melissa London Wow so distasteful that he thought black women were like that

@aqeelmorgan8873

5 жыл бұрын

Sucks for you

@melilondon

5 жыл бұрын

@@kemartini I think this was how he only Black women portrayed on medias at the time. He had a big culture shock when he moved to London.

@kemartini

5 жыл бұрын

Melissa London that makes sense. That’s why positive media portrayals of black people are so important.

@Trylica

5 жыл бұрын

Good for you babe💙💙

Not all black women are angry ... just the ones I have run into

@R.O.T.C._SEEM

4 жыл бұрын

😆 they are all Queens with no subjects

I always get that I’m a good woman and etc.I still get curved. So i gave up on dating at the moment.

@Hannah-pj5og

4 жыл бұрын

Roger Gerritsen yeah they do

These are comments are why I don’t have Black conversations in white spaces.

@cinnamon88

5 жыл бұрын

Daria L. Right?? People refuse to address the elephant in the room. It's comical how they so desperately try to deflect from the real issue.

@jeffrutt5292

5 жыл бұрын

It's not all white people commenting in here.

@donnyvmodus_operandi4034

5 жыл бұрын

*_I'm sorry... What?_*

@javadabaron81

5 жыл бұрын

Daria L. What you doing on here lol? Come back to THEE I LOVEE

@JohnSmith-td7hd

5 жыл бұрын

The internet is not a "white space". That's why you're here. That's why everyone's here. There are a disproportionate number of black people without a computer in the home, if that's what you mean. But it sounds like you would like these self-promoting, racist, sexist conversations to happen in racially and sexually segregated areas in order to never get them called out for being just that.

Sequoia is fine though. Not for a dark girl, not for whatever random identifier people like to add here. She’s just FINE.

@fulldem6888

5 жыл бұрын

FACT

@trev1783

5 жыл бұрын

What’s her @

@angelzanetti-1947

5 жыл бұрын

She had a deep voice and a permanent look on her face that screamed “discontentment “ let’s just say she wouldn’t be a first round pick in the draft lololol

@barimaadusei-poku3940

5 жыл бұрын

@@angelzanetti-1947 IDK man. Call it a reach, but imma take her with a mid-first

@renardbennett75

5 жыл бұрын

FACTS, my brotha... She need to come my way f'real...

Lesbianism is enormous in the black community.

I hear a lot of crying. Maybe these girls need to get rid of the boy hair cuts, the extra pounds, the chicken bones in the nose and the lip, the red hair and a list of other things that we can't know from the video.

@ellebee42

4 жыл бұрын

^ Judging an entire video of black women's experiences on ONE person. Thank you for demonstrating the generalization that hurts our cause so easily.

@the1one18

4 жыл бұрын

I actually agree with you in part. You think you're not getting dates because you're black, perhaps it's just because you're not attractive.

@zil5296

4 жыл бұрын

Well said as a Blackman these bitches be crazy. Just look at the single mothers, study shows 80% of black woman have kids to the same 20% of man mostly crim's and playboys in there community they all flock to the same guy hoping to become apart of his harem and everyone else has to pay (taxes) for there choices to support them. Let em suffer they don't deserve a men.

@fattycakes7349

4 жыл бұрын

Zil go on with ya bad-self then police target

Intimidated??? Strong???? Why always those two words...

@donnyvmodus_operandi4034

5 жыл бұрын

*I'm trying to find out what: "I'M A STRONG WOMAN!!" means?!* *Do you have an interpretation?*

@donnyvmodus_operandi4034

5 жыл бұрын

*Oh yeah... I remembered something. Women on the "Steve Harvey Show"; had said: "...men are intimidated..." And Steve [immediately] responded:* *"...NO REAL MAN ...WOULD BE..."*

@jasonfields7058

5 жыл бұрын

Its double speak for "combative and self-absorbed" just replace those words with the words they say when they say it and you will get it. They don't want to admit that the culture has indoctrinated them to be combative, antagonistic, and narcissistic to the point they are abrasive and repellent to the men they want to approach them.

@lnb252

5 жыл бұрын

sounds like feminist terminology

@BigDutchKingTut

5 жыл бұрын

It makes them sleep better at night.

I don't understand why black men don't support their own women. I as a Somali i will always put my Somali girls first. Don't abandon your women

@marknic5000

5 жыл бұрын

@Zazzy we Somalis are iron heads, it really doesn't effect us that much what other people say. We don't see Europeans as a righteous to dictate us, I really don't care what a German, English, French or Italian standards of beauty is. We have our own beauty standards that goes centuries back,

@ButternutBanyana

5 жыл бұрын

@@marknic5000 You are amazing brother. Keep supporting your Somali women because they are truly beautiful and stand by you guys as well. I am originally from Botswana and our men although players, love their women. I think Africans prize their culture above everything else.

@marknic5000

5 жыл бұрын

@@ButternutBanyana that's great thing to here, men and women from the same country needs each other, so they have to support each other. If we abandon our women other men would take advantage of them and will ruin their lives. I don't get what attracts AAs men to white and latino women that much, that they left their own women, who were for them there in their hardest times.

@ButternutBanyana

5 жыл бұрын

@@marknic5000 Exactly. Somali men are warriors and protect their culture. I truly admire that. You guard your women, thats why Somali women are exclusive. Its a big deal if a man gets a Somali woman because they are very very hard to get. Thats what happens when you guard your culture and women, they become a hot commodity.

@marknic5000

5 жыл бұрын

@@ButternutBanyana i hope Botswana men do the same thing.

Im russian and i love black women

@11bsavage64

3 жыл бұрын

I am brown not black and I love Russian women!!!

@mermaidwilliams2355

3 жыл бұрын

But are u normal..or should I say come from under that rock you're hiding under !

@Schinzo__

3 жыл бұрын

Don’t

Shoot women never date me because I have an android😩

@caramelgumdrop393

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you man... But that's not what We're talking about.

@kittydollsxo189

4 жыл бұрын

Do you at least got a case lol 😂

@mustaki7620

4 жыл бұрын

Why wouldn't they date u for having an Android 😂😂😂

@CoolinXCam-_-

4 жыл бұрын

@@mustaki7620 I don't know tbh just droid problems

@mustaki7620

4 жыл бұрын

@@CoolinXCam-_- yeah ik I have an Android too lol

I am a white middle class woman who has grown up in a predominately white area, and i think ALL black women are EXTREMELY GORGEOUS!! This video was beautifully made, and absolutely opened my eyes to just a fraction of what some women have to go through. You women are power houses, incredibly smart, gorgeous and kind. 💪 your strength is inspiring and i pray for the day where there is a generation of strong powerful black women and all women who no longer have to live in a world of stereotypes and racism! 💖

@mallary1012

5 жыл бұрын

Emily Foor wow, idk what to say

@dayleslie426

5 жыл бұрын

Emily you are officially invited to the cookout! Come through sis! 😂

@emilyfoor1396

5 жыл бұрын

Heck yes, I'll be there, tell me what to bring hahaha

@ajc1818

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so positive and and uplifting.

@emilyfoor1396

5 жыл бұрын

@@ajc1818 aw thats so sweet of you. I am usually a silent watcher but felt inspired by this video and spoke my truth 💞 i appreciate the love.