They hate you because they can't be you. And they also hate you because you can see under their mask.

@casperinsight3524

Ай бұрын

They project their hatred onto you like painting a picture you become the canvas and their feelings become the paint

They hate you because you're shiny and they don't know how to get that so they want to destroy it in you.

@Madison0193

2 ай бұрын

they want to attempt to try and destroy the light of God that is in some people

Narcissists despise you for three key reasons: 1. Threat to their ego: Your refusal to validate their grandiose self-image challenges their fragile sense of superiority. 2. Envy of your qualities: Narcissists resent qualities they lack, such as genuine empathy or humility, making them resentful of those who possess them effortlessly. 3. Resistance to manipulation: Narcissists hate individuals who refuse to be controlled or manipulated, as it threatens their need for power and dominance. Understanding these reasons sheds light on their disdain, reminding us to protect ourselves while fostering empathy for those affected by this destructive personality disorder.

@jimpowers9553

11 ай бұрын

You got it right on man!

@andrewsmith3257

11 ай бұрын

I feel like alot of Narcissists can get along with other narcissists as long as that Narcissist isn't a threat to them or their fragile ego. A Narcissist will hate you if you are good and you refuse to go along with their demands

@karinbernhardt8747

11 ай бұрын

Thank you James 👍✌👌🍀🌼

@lucindasavona2278

11 ай бұрын

JamesNGames You are spot on. That is 100% true. Thankyou for the validation.

@ReRe_642

11 ай бұрын

All this boils down to jealousy.

They hate you because fundamentally they hate life.

@sunkissedarkandainty01

11 ай бұрын

This video just helped me to quit weeping for a while. Thank you, again. 💝

@andrewsmith3257

11 ай бұрын

Yep

@NightRogue77

11 ай бұрын

Mine hates me because of everything I have that she can’t possess

@NightRogue77

11 ай бұрын

@jewLUBEkneegahRsWHINE after reading your comment, I am compelled to tell you that my heart goes out to you and I hope you escaped your abuser. I know that language quite well.

@NightRogue77

11 ай бұрын

@jewLUBEkneegahRsWHINE I’m sorry 😢 - mostly that you never got to close the wound. I’ve been the victim of two abusers in my life, one I am trying to work things through with because she may be far more BPD than NPD… and the other is my mother, A vile, dark beast of a bitch that will forever have to remain those terms and not a human being, so that I won’t get fooled into that black hole ever again. But it is guaranteed that that wound will forever remain open, because I have completely cut her out of my life permanently. I have some unhealthy things upstairs that have made it hard to deal, but the worst thing that ever happened to these two abusers, was my eyes being opened to what was happening - because once I was aware, neither of them had a chance in hell at continuing to fool me. Which is probably why they were so hard-core with the gaslighting. I survived, and I’m starting a gd music career at age 46 :) we can make it 💪🏻

I came to the conclusion that my narcissist doesn't hate me at all. The person he hates is himself. I am where he deflects his hate onto.

I was raised by one. They’re extremely insecure and jealous.

Narcissists low key hate themselves. Period. They just don’t show it. So they have to one-up you and take what you have to make themselves feel better. They’re not worth the fight. Cut them off. Then forgive them. No that does not mean reconciliation. Or excusing their behavior. You don’t even have to see or talk to them again. To me forgiving them is accepting who they are and that they will never change. Without holding anger towards them. They always have other victims. It’s not you

@new_hampshire

11 ай бұрын

It’s so hard though when you’ve loved the good parts about them. Mine was so good when he was good he was about 5% bad though and 95% wonderful and I cried for two weeks when he left but no more.

@jenniferrosas7482

10 ай бұрын

I 100% agree with your definition of forgiveness. It is how I've been able to deal with my own trauma bonds. I just never thought about it as being a form of forgiveness. But, accepting a person for who they are and removing that hope that they could be who you need them to be - it's truly the only way to move on. And to do so without holding anger towards them. It seems so simple and straightforward to me now, but it took a very LONG time and work on my self-worth to get to this place. I hope others can find that peace as well. Thanks for sharing your key

@mariegallagher4725

9 ай бұрын

Very true. No contact is the only way to survive and begin to heal.

@ShadowKing1993

9 ай бұрын

She still stalks me to this day and it's been 2 years now. Seriously leave me tf alone and move on with your multiple supplies.

@mariegallagher4725

9 ай бұрын

@@ShadowKing1993 Mate please don't wish that on anyone.

They can’t love themselves so they definitely can’t love you.

That “Shadow” is a DEMON.

@annabayles19

10 ай бұрын

That's a FACT

@alexmaremaa7057

6 ай бұрын

And that's ok,I forgive you for my sins..

Narcissistism is a learned behavior from childhood! Empath is a gift from above! It comes naturally to care for ppl more than yourself!

@Cosmic-Cat.

4 ай бұрын

I don't know that it's learned. I think it's somehow inherent.

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

4 ай бұрын

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA DID I MENTIOM A AMEN!!!¡¡!¡!!!!!!!!!!!

They hate you because they see the parts they hate about their own self in you. So yea basically they hate themselves.

Thank you so much - this is SO valuable. What really makes me frustrated is the knowledge that they don’t get their own ice cream on purpose because they PLAN on taking what you have. They don’t want what they have. They want YOURS.

Christine, you and Dr. Ramani are my main sources of information on what I am dealing with. Thank you.

thank you. for putting it so clearly. and yes my distressing experience of marrying a narcissist and then running from his abuse and insanity at 10 months married. the gift of the miserable marriage... he rubbed the reality of my childhood and young adulthood with a raging dangerous father in my face. even though I have been haunted with and worked through full Ptsd seizures and a blackout froM the family abuse at 54 years old. this marriage put my shattered past together in MY ADULT MIND. I have stayed close to counsel for a year and I am walking out the divorce. I was able to say HELL NO to all the narcs actions. He has set me free to live a healthier life at 69 years old. AND I AM GRATEFUL.

They hate that I look at the bright side. I deserve to be injured for being foolish enough to not hurt them before they hurt me.

I have a narcissistic controller in my life. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is tell her she needs to get a dementia test done asp. I nursed a close friend with dementia until he died. That was a piece of cake compared to helping my narcissistic friend. She attacked me verbally and told me to leave it. I think she is in about year three of dementia. For my own sanity, I have to do what she said and leave it.

This was EXTREMELY helpful in explaining what I am going through with my narcissistic sister . . . who learned everything she knows from our narcissistic mother. Thank you.

@MI6-W

4 ай бұрын

Same. Only the black sheep doesn't become a carbon copy of their parents.

This happened to me as a kid when I told my egg donor ( mom) no to a bag of chips. 😢 I was made to feel like an awful person and taught have no boundaries put others needs before mine.

I think this explains why my narcissist ex went on an irrationally cruel smear campaign against me after she split me black. The more loving and kind to her the more it enraged her. She even went to the extreme of placing a protection order on me, now she has renewed it again. I was never a physical threat, it has to be a shame spiral, and control thing with her. Nothing else makes sense to me. I have been completely no contact for almost a year now.

@realpilBMF

3 ай бұрын

A judge won’t award a protection order without merit.

@theonlydjtopcat

3 ай бұрын

@@realpilBMF well a biased liberal female Muslim judge who hates Christians will.This is exactly what happened to me. Combine that with the covert narcissist's crocodile tears to manipulate her and I had no chance. Protection orders are meant to protect from physical threats and harm, my ex weaponized the courts to punish me. Period. end of story.

I wish I had of had an advocate as a child. I'm now in my 60's and I not only get shamed for not sharing everything I own, I have it rudely snatched from my hands while not looking if I refuse to give it pronto. Virtuously defenceless thanks to the shame involved in the caring sharing ethic.

@user-os5xj7ce4k

2 ай бұрын

Run from those people. Even if your alone get away

Christina, you’ve helped me to get past so much of the pain that I’ve suffered due to narcissistic abuse. I was surrounded by it as a child and find that in adulthood, I seem to attract the abuse more often that I’d like to admit. Sound familiar? I’ve learned about boundaries, I’ve learned about projection, and reactive abuse, the blame shifting, the accusations of being unworthy and unloveable, the rage abuse, I’ve seen it all. It’s very destructive and was eroding my mental health. What I’ve learned from watching your videos is that, first of all, I am not alone. Whew, that’s a relief! Secondly, that I can take measures to heal. The no contact rule was instrumental when dealing with my family, who only used me and put me down and treated me like dirt no matter how much I showed up to help them. I’m a classic co-dependent, so I’m on that spectrum of people-pleasing and saving the day. I’ve also learned that I don’t have to be that way anymore. That I can be a little narcissistic myself and only take care of me for a while. Drop the hero role and focus on healing my hurts and sorrows. It’s so liberating. I don’t feel guilt in leaving some of them behind, where I once would. Where I once would find a way to fix it or serve them in order to make things better, I now let them have their own lives and consequences. I’m not here to save anyone. Boy that was a lesson, and a huge relief. It’s not my job anymore to make others happy or comfortable. I make sure that I am comfortable and happy first. A full 180 degrees and I feel so much better. Thank you. I realize that I must take care of me and not to look to others, and looking at my own shadow and integrating my dark side as well. Doing shadow work while was feeling my lowest helped me get out of my funk. I had desires of revenge and hate that I held onto for so long, but by putting up boundaries and creating my own safe space, I’m feeling like I used to. I’m the kinda guy who wakes up and finds himself singing in the shower. My normal disposition is joy, but I got so turned around during the narcissistic abuse. It was as if my joyfulness provoked them to target me. Then after the poking and reactive abuse started, my joy started to die. It was as if the narcissist wanted me to feel like they do everyday, angry, envious, hateful, destructive. And I did feel that way, for about a year. Omg, what a long detox period! And I feel like I’m just coming out into the light. Anyhow, I’ve learned so much and it only feels like the beginning. Thanks for the vids, you are making a difference.

@atk8302

5 ай бұрын

Well said! I relate to everything you said 💯

Mine died, but here i am keeping his memory alive Trauma bonded, love bomed...was amazing! How? Weird!

OMG so Catholism is a shame based religion too. It was my mother's rocket fuel.

@user-dt3wm8rn4j

3 ай бұрын

Catholicism should have been good. Not for my brothers who were alter boys.😢😢 My mother continued her faith until death.

@samsquanch1996

18 күн бұрын

Religion in general is shame-based and is the root of all prejudice.

I love your channel because you go deep without complicating. Even though I've watched many videos about the subject you always make me think about it in a new way.

I dated so many Narcissists until i worked out my Empath patterning from childhood (having a Narcissistic Mother). Narcissists are unhealed children walking around in adult bodies. But the crazy thing is, its not only childhood trauma and unhealed childhood programming with a Narcissist, but there is a spiritual element to it also, where negative entities can hijack the Narcissist through feeding off their unhealed lower vibrational emotions (remembering that we live in a world of energy, frequency and vibration). There is 2 aspects too abusive people: physical and spiritual. I made a video on this exact subject yesterday kzread.info/dash/bejne/oaF5mLeLYNqwpZM.html

This is an amazing explanation, thank you so much. It explains so much for me. I’ve really been struggling with my codependency. Met my now husband when I was 15, we’ve been together for 30+ years. He “rescued “ me from my childhood home. The moments of anger emanating from him have always been such a trigger for me! This really helps me understand why. Thank you!

Seems like generalization to say these things apply to all narcissists. Not everyone with the disorder is the same. I know there are common patterns. Many neurotypicals do have narc traits without the full disorder as well, since narcissism exists on a spectrum. Borderlines also experience splitting. There can be a lot of crossover of traits in the cluster b disorders, as well as in autistics.

thank you for saying that part, that you are not the one who is going to be able to get the narcissist to see that they are wrong. that was so very on target and true. its a game, they want you to try.

They can dish it out, but they can not take it. My narc daughter decided that she wanted to go to war with me. Ok, but you know that I'm going to throw all of your imperfections into your face. First on the list? Her addiction to food and how she is now morbidly obese. "Do you think that your mother and I enjoyed seeing you walk around the house with your ass dragging on the floor?" That hurt. I wanted it to hurt. You took my grandson out of my life. Don't expect a Christmas card.

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

4 ай бұрын

DOES NO CARDS MEAN NO PRESENTS 2

@taze317

4 ай бұрын

@@user-zp4lf3lv6x LOL. Absolutely!

@shadow-ru7mu

Ай бұрын

You sound like my mother you're the problem

@taze317

Ай бұрын

@@shadow-ru7mu I respect your opinion, but you're wrong. None of these things would have been said if my daughter had not come to our house on May 11, 2022, and yelled at me, called me names, and was extremely vulgar. Without provocation. She did this in front of her mother, who was in the early stages of dementia. I tried twice to talk to her. She wouldn't let me talk. She'd yell louder or faster. I disengaged from her and just watched her going completely crazy for 5 minutes. The "out of nowhere" aspect is massive. You can't act the way she did in front of someone who is having memory problems. You can't frighten my wife. You can't walk on me in my own home. If you do either, expect to feel my wrath. You'd feel the same way if it happened to you.

PEOPLE PLEASING is so sick !!!!! It's big time LOW SELF ESTEEM

Wow... this was huge for me - profoundly enlightening, and a massive revelation in helping me understand their hatred. Thank you so much for this video.

I've put up with a narcissist for 60 years.....my Mother..... because I made Dad a promise that I could not break until he passed away....... I've borne the brunt of her hatred all my life...... & from observation I know that...... Narcissists hate you because they hate everything..... God, men, women, children, love, affection, kindness, charity, the Universe, their life, their circumstances,their families, themselves........ They especially hate everything good & wholesome.......... It's not just you or what you represent !

Splitting makes perfect sense. Oh so hard really to love them. It's so confusing. High maintenance.

The final 2 minutes says it all. You couldn't be more correct. Much love !!

Self loathing

I found this video extremely helpful. I've studied Carl Jung but had not been exposed to this idea of a shadow self and it applies directly to a friendship I've been struggling with for the past year. Thank you.

This is so strange. I recently had a friendship fall apart. One of the things that I noticed when we had any conflict between us was that she spoke to me like I was someone that she really didn’t like. It felt so odd - we had been such good friends. How could someone I had been so close to come across so cold and angry? I’m beginning to understand why… wow.

Hello, thank you so much for all the amazing and valuable information. Growing up in a small community I was aware of the lists of approved and unliked non approved people! The categories of non approved people was very long. As I got older I discovered the lists of non approved people was total *** < (insert bad word). This also lead me to discover many of the ideas that were fed to me were total fabrications the motivation was control. Very sad existence, but good lesson for me as an adult.

It's an unfortunate situation for everyone involved.

@clintonnagy1662

2 ай бұрын

Sad to know her 8 year old son is following in her footsteps. 😢

Why can’t I understand shame? I mean I’ve experienced so much in life and understand people make mistakes but can redeem themselves through their future actions.

This cleared up so much. Thank you for the way you share all this info. Clearly and deeply explained.

Thankyou this is so revealing.

This is an excellent video. Thank you.

This is EXCELLENT ! Thank you 👍

Your SO RIGHT.... :(

brilliant. Thank you

Thank you for starting to make longer videos! You are amazing. Thank you for everything! ❤

Interesting take! Appreciate your insight

Thank you Christina. It has been very informative and helpful for me.

I feel bad for anyone who's ever had a narcissistic parent in their life. Thank God, he blessed me with parents who loved and respected me because that would have been a greater detriment to me. However watching some narc families that didn't raise me, I never had to be around again

Wow!!! Well put. 👏👏👏 🙂👍

I like your voice and the way you describe these issues. You know your stuff. Thank you!

Wow! Wisdom here on view thank you

That last two minutes…God bless you.

Such powerful information. How would this look with a covert narcissist dynamic?

Extremely important and I love your unique angle on this topic that is rarely explained so well. 🎉❤😊🙏🏻

I've often wondered why the Narcissist on my life goes ape at my gentler traits of behaviour,I have also noticed that some of the criticism aimed at me is really about himself (if that makes any sense)

This was a really really good breakdown thank u so much

Wow, you're really good! (I just subscribed.) You succinctly summed up everything I've been going thru & at a much deeper level than most of the people on KZread addressing the issue of narcissism. My once best friend has slowly over the years gone from being a caring, mentorly, mother figure to a vindictive covert narc. I mean, I guess she was always a bit of a covert narc. It's just that we were long distance friends for years & now we're roommates. And in that span of time, she's gone from mentor to covert narc to then even more an overt narc. This has been so confusing & painful to watch & experience. But really I don't give a shit anymore. I will speak my Truth no matter what...& next year I hope to move out. But this hate she sends my way like a vindictive, flaming arrow---->it hurts! When she's not being mean & hateful, she's all nicey-nice,, like a Stepford Wife. Total Jekyll-Hyde! It's next level cray-cray! How do I deal with her until I can move out?

Truer words have never been spoken

I love this so much ❤ I was happy and dancing and boom a fight I was so confused

I thought I had it now I really get it.

weve been on and off for 6 yrs. off and then She hoovered back, i believed her promises and "thank yous" she came to me begging for help with alcoholism. acknowledge everything, how bad she treated me, she answered 1 or 2 questions. one, asked her why she always leaves, she said to protect me. she went to 3 detox programs. didnt even finish the 3rd, left detox and has blocked everything. never said a word to me. didnt even break up with me. she just never spoke to me again. its been 4 months. i am broken. 6 yrs and got ghosted.

@idkBRUCE

11 ай бұрын

i realize so many things thru the years where lies. she has cheated on me over 35 times. and i just didnt want to be too controlling or crazy so when id ask her about stuff i just took whatever her answer was as truth bc i want to be a good boyfriend. stupid me. i am so hurt. 35 times she put another man in her and lied to me and kissed me and told me i was her person.

@idkBRUCE

11 ай бұрын

and by 35, i mean people. not how many times she has sex period.. she admitted to being a prostitute..... we live in nyc btw so it is def true.

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Proverbs 24:20 For there shall be no reward to the evil man; the candle of the wicked shall be put out.

You have a very soothing voice :)

This is very good but complex and confusing

Told her, she ain't respecting me. Gave examples. She played the sympathy game. Than she got sarcastic out of nowhere. Now big silent treatment and she having at least two or three other sources. Silence like I wanted to trigger. Still I feel like shit.

@DebbieLee-dr3hr

10 ай бұрын

You shared the data she needed. Now, it will be used against you.

@terranman4702

10 ай бұрын

@@DebbieLee-dr3hr Next messages, everything seemed allright. Then ghosting again, I needed more than 24 hours to answer because I was out at saturday. The fuck do I know why. Maybe because she might be moving in another appartement or she is shagging someone. She is online everywhere and checks every WhatsappStatus I post.

Especially women lonely. Narcissist woman imagine how fun you can have fun with her.

They hate you because - You are everything they are Not ( in a good way )

There are several fundamental differences between empathy and codependency. I think it would behoove you to make the distinction between a codependent and an empath. The better term for the opposite of the same coin are the Narcissist and the Echoist.

Another tactic I've just seen family from CA came to see me sis called them come to her place not really because she ❤ to see them but cause she couldn't stand that I might have anyone's attention she had to do something to take there attention off me I don't object to them visiting her it's she really doesn't like any of them she made it vary clear. To more that just me Sickening.

@stephaniee1766

11 ай бұрын

I have a narcissister too. They are so awful 😣

I was raised catholic and have a narcissistic wife. You might think this is hell? But hell is psychology. This is hell for sure 🤭

Thats is so true everything that is fundamentally correct they hate it when this one told me I need to accept her, just the way she is I really had to check out yotube and learn what is wrong with this nut lol and then gonna say to me let her learn the hard way, oh yeah don't correct her oh really I quickly started learning more about their behavior and problems and when she give me that gaslight oh yeah I was waiting calmly that next day to end it, enough in simple unexplain details to yotube. There's one question who do they listen to?? those narcissis people and do they ever tell the truth to anyone??

I disagree with your takes on the empath / highly sensitive person, it isnt as black and white. Narcisism is a survival response to trauma, all humans grew up with some kind of trauma in their childhood because of its intergenerational nature, you have different responses to trauma but in essence, some people keep their empathy (thankfully) , and some people as a response to trauma, become the bully the agressor, become exploitative, entitled and lack empathy, this is the case of narcisistic people......... Empathic people also have trauma they just kept their empathy , (again thankfully), there are survival responses to trauma that are to become a people pleaser, and also difficulty with boundaries, thank fully i got trauma informed support and learned to be more gentle on my self, and to set healthy boundaries so my inner child and true self came out, and now i can keep horning my innner child true self in a healthy way, and finding safe enough people , where i can get my needs met, and have workeable and available relationships...... Takes that make the empath seem like their addicted to a narc are vague for me and vicitm blaming, empath, or highly senstive person , in my book just refers to a person who kept their empathy as a response to lifes conditions , i for one wasn't addicted to any narcisist, i was just affected by growing up in a narc family system and needed to unpack my trauma, tell my story in safe places be empathized with as a survivor, and learn tools of gentleness and healthy boundaries and started integrating, i wasn't attracted or addicted to any narc, i just needed healing, and i consider myself a highly sensitive person, that thankfully found healing in safe places, in my book , empaths with boundaries is for the win, but, an empath/ highlysensitive person is just a person with empathy, it doesnt refer to being addicted to anarc, i wasn't i just needed to find healing, after growing up in a narc family system, and thankfully i did by finding safe enough places, telling my story and learning skills of gentleness and healthy boundaries so my inner child and true self came out, i needed trauma informed places, that understand trauma, people who could hold space, and not project weird takes on me , and show me trauma informed skills like gentleness on myself and healthy boundaries, so my true self came out again me chosing safe enough people. Your takes are about you. Its not the universal experience. of people who are healing and trying to keep gentleness and healthy boundaries, and be in available relationships where we get our needs met, were worth it :) God speed. were worth it.

He hates me cause I'm not young, gorgeous, virginal, and stupid. 🙄

I should have seen the flags. Her kids wanted nothing to do with her and she only had one friend that lasted more than a year.

I was raised religiously and had bible memory assignments starting in kindergarten. As an adult, some of my values are aligned. I believe in something bigger and that what is "right" is bigger than me. I believe in treat your neighbor as yourself and all of that. Sometimes it might not be a healthy way to think/act. It is supported in some ways in society; Of course, you probably won't get a promotion ;) You are spot on in your video. I have felt the kind of clash you speak of. It is most clear for me with a work relationship where things are less cloudy. I have had the feeling that a coworker maybe hates me or is competitive with me and it seems super weird; Then, after a while, I realize I do not respect them and kind of hate them(?). I start to see they are out for themselves. It sucks they seem to see me first. The first thing I notice is that I feel confused. Anyway. during your video I remembered a bible verse something like - there is no greater love than this: that a man/person lay down his life for a friend. I can see how that isn't healthy in that I don't want to lay down anything for any kind of sucker-fish-face... but I feel a little bit slow. It seems like a good verse to live by if we lived in a world where everyone was nice, lol. I liked your video. Very insightful. A lot to think about :)

@robertdemeter5793

7 ай бұрын

If you want to see the most narcissists gathered in one place, just see what's inside a christian church.

@robertdemeter5793

7 ай бұрын

Nothing is dar.-ker than christianity.

@robertdemeter5793

7 ай бұрын

Christ is the darkest ideologies that have ever been conceived in the Universe. As we were ALL born free and eternal, therefore who is that controlling narcissistic Jesus telling you otherwise ? Secondly, why the heck would I want to die FOR you and rob and steal your infinitely sacred and magical manifestations and revelations of experiencing death ? As I died loads of times in Ayahuasca ceremonies and eye would Never ever consider in a trillion years to take that powerful learning experience away from you (or anyone else). That's true divine love.

@robertdemeter5793

7 ай бұрын

Eye can ask infinite questions about Nature, the infinite heavens, and the infinite multi-dimensional universe and the Self, thjat we shamans have all the answers to, and you would not even be able to answer one of them. As nothing is dar-.ker than christianity.

@robertdemeter5793

7 ай бұрын

Explain how your rel--igion is not extreme narcissism ? You constantly blame-shift (and label) hundreds of other cultures/groups of ppl all over the world for your endless inner pain/suffering in your Ego mind's need for control, when those "others" had ZERO to do with it.

Can people pleasers end up not knowing they’re in relationship like that because they have the complete opposite of what they value ?x

Carl Jung… the OG infj

He loves you He loves you not He loves you He loves you not

@Spock_Rogers

10 ай бұрын

I saw a post the other day who said that's why a narcissist flower (daffodil) has 6 petals. He loves me not.

@clintonnagy1662

2 ай бұрын

That's how I was feeling towards my ex narc. I felt like I was losing my mind. Hot, cold, up, down, left, right, yes, no,... Then dealing with her little brat son, then her mother started her crap. I said, " hell 2 da NO ".....this shit stops right here.

@casperinsight3524

Ай бұрын

@@clintonnagy1662 When you know you GO

@casperinsight3524

Ай бұрын

@@clintonnagy1662 When you know you GO If you stay you PAY

He always would say in Spanish, “I, don’t even trust in my own shadow ”! Explains, why when I live on my children why he would stare like a demon and then he would try to mimic me and then he would accuse me of being jealous of his time with the children 😂I was like what?

My mother omg 😢😢😢

They hate you cause they ain’t you

I couldn't set boundaries as a illegitimate child from a adulterous relationship... my 3 step brothers and step sister used me as a scapegoat... i would catch wrath if I said no... I was the server of the family... I couldn't say no... with sex also... become sexually addicted. She used sex with her father to get back at her narcissistic mother... became Covert Narcissists just like her father... learned behavior.... mine turn into Codependency!

@richardjohanson6421

11 ай бұрын

Isaiah 54 4“Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore. 5For your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. 6For the Lord has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God. 7“For a mere moment I have forsaken you, But with great mercies I will gather you. 8With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment; But with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,” Says the Lord, your Redeemer. 9“For this is like the waters of Noah to Me; For as I have sworn That the waters of Noah would no longer cover the earth, So have I sworn That I would not be angry with you, nor rebuke you. 10For the mountains shall depart And the hills be removed, But My kindness shall not depart from you, Nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” Says the Lord, who has mercy on you.

Born an illegitimate child from an adulterous relationship before Roe vs Wade 3 older step brothers 1 younger step sister my moms 1st daughter... 3rd wife here 1st born daughter for 9 yrs... very spoiled... yes shame! We were both sexually abuse as kids... she willing by her father... step brother abused me and i became bisexual... with both are trauma bonded...

@richardjohanson6421

11 ай бұрын

Isaiah 54 4“Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore. 5For your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. 6For the Lord has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God. 7“For a mere moment I have forsaken you, But with great mercies I will gather you. 8With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment; But with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,” Says the Lord, your Redeemer. 9“For this is like the waters of Noah to Me; For as I have sworn That the waters of Noah would no longer cover the earth, So have I sworn That I would not be angry with you, nor rebuke you. 10For the mountains shall depart And the hills be removed, But My kindness shall not depart from you, Nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” Says the Lord, who has mercy on you.

Ok, but why are narcs made out to be bad guys when sociopaths and psychopaths are celebrated by society?

Matt XXXXing Chapman !!!

You gave no solutions. A lot of what you say may be true. I am a victim of narcissistic abuse to the point where this long-term 27 yr business relationunp anf best friend, ended up. Where my business partner tried to kill me. The last year and a half ended up being incomplete nightmare. just couldn't figure it out what was going on.but all these people as yourself and doctors, seems so negative and Seem to be ....like the profit of doom and gloom!!! I know I have to get this person out of my life but it's just very hard for me to believe that there is no hope for these people. Whether it is a spiritual awakening to God or something. There has to be some kind of hope for them and some type of healing. I realized this friendship and relationship is over. But I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that a person who was so good and kind for so many years to everyone, has ended up like this with no hope to help them With this mental illness and whatever else is driving it I know they don't realize they are the problem and all that stuff, but something has to give and there has to be some kind of answer for them. It's very sad and heart breaking fir all involved.

Shame is the core CAUSE of narcisism. Narcisism is accompanied by physiologicakl changes that make them unable to see themselves out of the box. It is not an apology for their behaviour, it is just a fact. Maybe the best approaches are those that target the mind-body connection.

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my year vounger ex-sister has been narcisstic since year 2 and take makes me three. i had my back to the wall without a care in the world she is screaming at me and my parents are in the background on an eastmab kodak ectachrome slide dated 1959. ehe never outgrew he narccist ways she marriod a liuser lnamed loudii juniot. evil loises that raised a miscarrige for 4 months and had a daughterss lifebqbl perfect trio of losers.

They hate you because they hate themselves.

Ugh. Jung was a narcissist. I wanted this video to be so much better than it is.

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Cain and Able all over again

I don’t agree that empathy and codependency are the same thing. In my view, empathy is a quality that is lacking in narcissistic personality disorder, and perhaps present in abundance with a person exhibiting codependency, but it does not follow logically to say that all empaths are codependent. What both the narcissist and the codependent share is insecurities, but it manifests differently. The codependent needs to be needed as a form of external validation, and the narcissist needs the narcissistic supply, so there can emerge an unhealthy symbiosis. But just being able to sense and care about the feelings of others does not necessarily make someone codependent. At least that’s my interpretation. I make the point because I don’t think all empathic people need to automatically be concerned that they might be codependent. Something to watch out for, of course, since empathy can be taken advantage of, but not a case-closed automatic diagnosis either. Just my two cents. Respectfully submitted.

@CommonEgo

11 ай бұрын

I don’t think they are the same thing either. I included the empath personality in that spot because some people look at the spectrum that way with the ultimate empath on one side and the ultimate narcissist on the other. And there’s definitely some overlap, so excluding that group didn’t seem to make sense to me.

@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq

11 ай бұрын

@@CommonEgo I see what you mean. Thanks for clarifying. 🙂

Yep, but I don't care :D:D:D And if someone believes narcissists/borderlines, he is a fool himself and this is the most valuable information for me, because they do not care about the truth: "Depart from fools"~ Bible... ; ) Check out Sigma Empath - probably the strongest personality ;))) It's a "bit" worse when I fall unlucky in love 😆🤷, but apart from that, it's invulnerable.

The fact is you imagine urself has narcissist human Bean im not human where like the the narcissist people you're confident with ur self view ur has narcissist you need supply every Tim or victim.cant help to luagh at them there funny victims in life

TRUE DAT ABSOLUTELY AGREE