The Importance of Vulnerability

We often imagine that what will win us friends and esteem is strength. But surprisingly, it’s vulnerability that’s at the core of friendship and likeability. This is an invitation to make friends with one’s own weaknesses.
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“The desire to fit in is deeply engrained in our nature. We’re social creatures with a long evolutionary history that stressed the importance of not standing out in the group. The oddball would be the last to get their share of mammoth meat. We are the descendants of those who conformed - and got fed…”
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  • @mephistophelesthesilentchi3446
    @mephistophelesthesilentchi34466 жыл бұрын

    But of course, some people just aren't worth being vulnerable with...

  • @djchonny

    @djchonny

    6 жыл бұрын

    mephistopheles the silent chief Yes, most people I would say. They are going to spread your weakness like fresh baked bread. Be wise, there is a jungle out there...

  • @stefangaftonianu5052

    @stefangaftonianu5052

    6 жыл бұрын

    SunTzu So true.....I fell the presure in Society

  • @GoldenBearBecca

    @GoldenBearBecca

    6 жыл бұрын

    I noticed that my mom sees vulnerability as weakness. I don't understand that. Aren't we all weak though? There are more people with flaws than people who are 100% put together. Those who find the weaknesses in others just don't do much self reflection imo, so they feel they are strong and don't care to notice their flaws. Or at least that's how it seems to me.

  • @djchonny

    @djchonny

    6 жыл бұрын

    Edit Name Yes, it is way easier to critique other's flaws than looking at the mirror and see our true self.

  • @harpiesd96

    @harpiesd96

    6 жыл бұрын

    You okay man?

  • @rea8585
    @rea85856 жыл бұрын

    Being vulnerable often means being strong, because in order to be strong you have to know where your weakness is and not ignore it or hide it. By knowing and exposing your weakness and being vulnerable you can at least control it instead of being randomly shot by someone else.

  • @lucasgundi

    @lucasgundi

    6 жыл бұрын

    Quick Fix i dont think its about any defense mechanism, but just the opposite: you dont show yourself as you truly are, flaws and stupidities included, just so other people wont expose them before you do. You just do it as a means to your very own inner freedom; not having to hide all the time, to fight all the time..

  • @antonellodaburrano2590

    @antonellodaburrano2590

    6 жыл бұрын

    Also the school of life keeps targeting failed adults. Hoped they had change. More luck next month I guess ...

  • @BigTTown502

    @BigTTown502

    6 жыл бұрын

    Antonello Da Burrano lol it's Friday...relax

  • @DjJooze

    @DjJooze

    6 жыл бұрын

    Quick Fix whats ur name?

  • @bolivar1789

    @bolivar1789

    6 жыл бұрын

    +Quick Fix Very well said! Thank you. In the end it all comes down to what Sokrates said: " Know thyself". I also highly recommend everyone Brene Brown's wonderful TED Talk " The Power if Vulnerability" and her book on the subject, " Daring Greatly".

  • @PursuitofWonder
    @PursuitofWonder6 жыл бұрын

    Really enjoyed this! I find it interesting how closely related confidence and vulnerability are to one another. You really can't have one without the other.

  • @seanaceleecabeso407

    @seanaceleecabeso407

    3 жыл бұрын

    nice to see you here 😃

  • @krishnayadav-yc2zv

    @krishnayadav-yc2zv

    3 жыл бұрын

    how has your like bar and comment section not blown up yet?

  • @CameronWoods-xe5wg

    @CameronWoods-xe5wg

    5 ай бұрын

    Vulnerability literally means weakness by definition. Hate is strength. Real men only feel hate.

  • @bolivar1789
    @bolivar17896 жыл бұрын

    1. The only way we can truly connect with someone is by taking risks . If a friend tells me that he has trouble sleeping, I can tell him that for the longest time I was having nightmares almost every night , it got a bit better, but that's how I know what insomnia means. Well, then he may think that I must be a real weirdo. But he may also take it as an "invitation" for us to engage in a real conversation where we could go deeper into the subject. Deeper often means "darker and more complex". But still, because you two make the effort to get there together, in that moment you are really LIVING through something. That's what "feeling connected" means. No matter how sad the subject is, you will come out of such a conversation with a sense of serenity and it will be a " good memory" because you have truly shared something. I love this quote by Theodore Zeldin: " The kind of conversation I am interested in is one which you start with a willingness to emerge a slightly different person. It is always an experiment, whose results are never guaranteed. It involves risk. It 's an adventure in which we agree to cook the world together and make it taste less bitter". 2. We usually try to impress the other, in the hope of being loved . But indeed boasting about yourself is not being impressive, it is being "intimidating". We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Something that came to you very easily in life can be incredibly difficult to reach for another person. So by pointing THAT out, you are emphasising what " separates" you from that person. What is the sense of this?? 3. There is a wonderful, wonderful tale by Oscar Wilde called " The Remarkable Rocket". You can read the tale or watch the animation . It is on you tube. Well, in fact, the most remarkable thing about that rocket is that the more it boasts, the more it sinks into the mud! Comedian Sarah Jones uses a wonderful term, describing the darker side of the social media, forcing us to show a happy face all the time. She says it is a culture of " compare and despair". If you want to think more about this, there is an episode of the excellent podcast "Hidden Brain", called " Schadenfacebook". 4. This video does not suggest that we must always talk about our problems. Being a " me, me, me" type of person is really something else. It is another thing to "dare" to open up about the challenges you are facing right now, hoping that the other person could also learn something from what you are going through. Because indeed, anything can happen to any of us anytime. I guess it was Seneca who said that "a ship may also sink at the port".. 5. And don't miss the wonderful TED Talk " The Power of Vulnerability" by Brene Brown. Her book on the subject, " Daring Greatly" is also very helpful. Thanks a lot for this very valuable lesson. I loved the animation too.

  • @vinnicole240

    @vinnicole240

    6 жыл бұрын

    thank u

  • @nahomededeya7286

    @nahomededeya7286

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is very helpful, glad you took the time to write it all😁

  • @bolivar1789

    @bolivar1789

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nahomededeya7286 Hello Nahom! You are most welcome. Thanks a lot for your time :-)

  • @bolivar1789

    @bolivar1789

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@vinnicole240 Hello Nicole! You are very welcome! Thank you for your time

  • @juliussitohang3058

    @juliussitohang3058

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is very kind, thank you very much

  • @PersonalPower
    @PersonalPower6 жыл бұрын

    vulnerability is a two edged sword. Revealing it can help but also hurt us. Finding balance is a hard thing, but the extremes are rather hurtful for us and others. thanks for sharing this video! I wish I could make different animations for each video!

  • @PersonalPower

    @PersonalPower

    6 жыл бұрын

    Im glad you like it!

  • @abfc374

    @abfc374

    6 жыл бұрын

    If you show vulnerability just because, yes it is a bad thing. If you own it however. It can not fail you.

  • @misspou5242

    @misspou5242

    6 жыл бұрын

    I just poop all over vulnerability because I ain't got nothing better to do.

  • @DavidTitus_

    @DavidTitus_

    6 жыл бұрын

    Though when you are hurt you can learn to let go of old emotions and learning to love yourself anyways.

  • @willowwhisper6575

    @willowwhisper6575

    6 жыл бұрын

    Personal Power It depends to whom you open yourself to. I have never, EVER judged or attacked someone when they have opened their hearts to me. On the contrary, it's a beautiful bonding experience and a huge display of mutual trust, they are certain that I'm there for them and they are also there for me :)

  • @Pur3AGL
    @Pur3AGL6 жыл бұрын

    I'm a very different person from who I was five years ago. A better person. I was scared of vulnerability before. I felt as though I was placing my emotional stability and happiness in the hands of others by being vulnerable. These days, I've found that I feel more in control of my life and my emotions than I ever have, and I believe it's largely due to my willingness to be vulnerable; my ability to be honest with others, and honest with myself, about who I am and how I feel. I'm proud of that. (:

  • @con_m_computerscience1545
    @con_m_computerscience15454 жыл бұрын

    When you are not happy with yourself or have strong shame or guilt you have a difficult time being vulnerable because you are hiding something whatever it is. This is bad because it seeps into many aspects of your life especially socially it becomes very apparent in body language and eye contact as well as your personality around others. Because your fearful of someone figuring out or seeing you for who you “really are” you shut down and can’t make a proper connection with someone because of your inability to be vulnerable. It is best to take on whatever it is that’s making you shut down (and if you search deep you’ll know what it is) and face that situation head on weather it means radical action to fix whatever it is or full and 100% acceptance of the reality of whatever happened and how in the current reality of things you can’t do anything about it. This is an important step in becoming more vulnerable and greatly improving your life. Thx for reading and god bless 🙏🏻

  • @folasko5120
    @folasko51206 жыл бұрын

    This breaks my heart a little bit. I had friendships that I hoped would work out when I showed my own vulnerability.

  • @Clemsterful

    @Clemsterful

    5 жыл бұрын

    same, mine backfired

  • @marvinschenker2860

    @marvinschenker2860

    3 жыл бұрын

    another reason why listening empathicly without jugdement is a good skill for making friends :)

  • @rain0344
    @rain03445 жыл бұрын

    "We are strong enough to be weak". Oh boy this is one of my biggest challenges, because I've always associated vulnerability to being weak /incapable of and I hate to portray that image, so I always put a wall to protect my ego, I guess.

  • @banisan2035
    @banisan20356 жыл бұрын

    I needed this. Currently, I feel like I'm just being a bother to someone I considered a really close friend. I was always afraid of speaking up about it. I didn't want to bother her with me thinking I might be a bother, if that makes sense. But I believe that's what makes human relationships sincere and strong, the ability to be vulnerable and honest about your fears and hurts.

  • @mau345
    @mau3455 жыл бұрын

    “Vulnerability is both a risk and a gift that is taken by somebody else”

  • @Coolkeldon
    @Coolkeldon6 жыл бұрын

    Only when you share your fears and weakness can other people truly love you, and I mean any kind of love. How could they love you if you don't let them get to know you?

  • @muqeetumer975

    @muqeetumer975

    4 жыл бұрын

    it doesn't necessarily mean to share everything you have, there are actions and feelings that make you feel vulnerable you have to be honest with you feelings, accept it be bold about it (like i had to be with my emotions to right this text)

  • @lucillesoriano5257

    @lucillesoriano5257

    4 жыл бұрын

    But how would you do it if you have difficulty trusting other people?

  • @ImpeRiaLismus

    @ImpeRiaLismus

    3 жыл бұрын

    But what if there are no real fears and just minor insignificant weaknesses? Does that mean nobody can truly love me because they think I'm hiding something? To me fear in most cases is extremely irrational. I would feel fear when somebody is about to behead me or torture me. This is when fear comes into place for me. What's the point of sharing that fictional fear that would probably never happen?

  • @GeekyMino
    @GeekyMino6 жыл бұрын

    I show my weaknesses and vulnerabilities only to people I completely trust. That way I know that even if they hurt me with their words they have no bad intentions. It’s a great way to connect with others on a very deep level if both are open and not afraid to reveal our biggest insecurities. Very unique video style!

  • @ourmuse

    @ourmuse

    Ай бұрын

    love this comment

  • @octane2344
    @octane23446 жыл бұрын

    Knowing how to share your vulnerability is a key aspect to confidence. Such as having one or two safe people to share your vulnerabilities with. But also doing it from the point of view of accepting that vulnerability as a stepping stone to growing as a stronger person.

  • @selfdribblingbasketball9769
    @selfdribblingbasketball97696 жыл бұрын

    Those squishy noises where funny

  • @misspou5242

    @misspou5242

    6 жыл бұрын

    were

  • @selfdribblingbasketball9769

    @selfdribblingbasketball9769

    6 жыл бұрын

    Miss Pou you are right

  • @selfdribblingbasketball9769

    @selfdribblingbasketball9769

    6 жыл бұрын

    Miss Pou you are right

  • @misspou5242

    @misspou5242

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ha ha don't mind it, i'm just oc about such things...

  • @computergeek4444

    @computergeek4444

    6 жыл бұрын

    P

  • @hamzasaleem3897
    @hamzasaleem38976 жыл бұрын

    Vulnerability is truly a gift for us , it is a fixed part of our human structure, and by contemplating that , we realize that even the brightest and the wittiest and the most powerful man that have lived, all of whom had vulnerable sides, all of them had their fears ,doubts and insecurities , all of them suffered, and all have lived in the same mortal coils of tissues that aches and bleeds ( our bodies ). So vulnerability is truly a common ground for us all that's worth respect and appreciation.

  • @dochmbi
    @dochmbi6 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, being vulnerable and honest can be deeply seductive as well, because it shows that you can trust that person. Trust and excitement are the two elements you need for a good date.

  • @CameronWoods-xe5wg

    @CameronWoods-xe5wg

    5 ай бұрын

    Vulnerability literally means weakness by definition as in "to exploit". Hate is strength. Real men only feel hate.

  • @Jozsef0rsos

    @Jozsef0rsos

    12 күн бұрын

    ​@@CameronWoods-xe5wg The sarcasm you have is quite strong

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial91376 жыл бұрын

    I admit that I am a vulnerable kind of person and I won't shy about it because it's what makes me a real person. There are people who try to underestimate me but they didn't know that being vulnerable makes me become a strong person at the same time. Don't be afraid being vulnerable because it's also showing empathy to other people.

  • @annatheres3
    @annatheres36 жыл бұрын

    These videos are always so relevant to what's going on in my life.

  • @sebastianelytron8450

    @sebastianelytron8450

    6 жыл бұрын

    +Anna Bautista 2.8 Million subscribers... there has to be someone somewhere, you know?

  • @user-hb4pn8oo8z

    @user-hb4pn8oo8z

    6 жыл бұрын

    Sebastian Elytron Good point

  • @kingofeverything2159

    @kingofeverything2159

    6 жыл бұрын

    then do something about it :)

  • @bolivar1789

    @bolivar1789

    6 жыл бұрын

    Hi Sebastian, they have a School of Life app too.

  • @leab4638
    @leab46386 жыл бұрын

    This is so important. I talked about this with my parents the other day and we totally agree with your opinion👏🏼 to gain respect you have to show vulnerability. In this modern world where most people want to have success we neglect our humanity and swollow our vulnerability. We all want to appear strong but the strongest are those who let themselves be vulnerable and emotional. So keep crying publicly guys✌🏼

  • @thejazzguy2812
    @thejazzguy28126 жыл бұрын

    "We are strong enought to be weak" thats something good to remind ourselves in bad situations

  • @rachelle2227
    @rachelle22276 жыл бұрын

    Unless they’re my family (Mom, Dad, or sister), I find I can only really be vulnerable with people I can detect are like minded to me. I’d like to hint at some of my struggles with other people, but I know I can’t.

  • @angellacanfora

    @angellacanfora

    6 жыл бұрын

    Well, you just opened up to the world here so you're off to a good start!

  • @rachelle2227

    @rachelle2227

    6 жыл бұрын

    Angel La Canfora Well I could easily open up more, but I just don’t want to come off as condescending. I’m quite easily able to open up online actually, but it’s tricky ensuring that people don’t think I’m being condescending.

  • @True38

    @True38

    6 жыл бұрын

    You can never expect people to project you the way that you want them to project you. And if you care about what other people think, you are a prisoner in their minds for ever. As long as you have the right intentions in your message and what you do, nothing else matters. You can act confidently and be the way you like no matter what. Remember, it's all about YOUR INTENTIONS not your appearance or approach to others. If you mean well, then that's what it is.

  • @spookeymo

    @spookeymo

    6 жыл бұрын

    rachelle2227 i dont understand, how would it be condescending?

  • @coreycox2345

    @coreycox2345

    6 жыл бұрын

    I spilled my guts to a random stranger on the internet. I may never know who this person is, but as a result, I have quit smoking weed and lost fifteen pounds and started to think of more positive channels for my energy. I have written much of my life on the internet, thinking of it as even more anonymous (so safer) than my actual family. I have no regrets, even if (in retrospect) the person was a manipulative nutbar.

  • @jerrie1533
    @jerrie15336 жыл бұрын

    2:50 Instructions unclear: I attempted to pull out a puzzle piece from my chest, but I ended up pulling out a lung

  • @jerrie1533

    @jerrie1533

    6 жыл бұрын

    Update: They also don't explain that after you attempt to do so, you'll be bleeding, a lot.

  • @sammyscarlet5228

    @sammyscarlet5228

    6 жыл бұрын

    Jerrie the claun I love you for this

  • @SanMartianRover

    @SanMartianRover

    6 жыл бұрын

    Your mistake has endeared me to you.

  • @misspou5242

    @misspou5242

    6 жыл бұрын

    Why is everybody so funny 😂😂😂

  • @ccSkydog

    @ccSkydog

    6 жыл бұрын

    Jerrie the claun if you hit the pancreas...you went too far.

  • @esraisttoll2575
    @esraisttoll25756 жыл бұрын

    Love the artstyle

  • @kookiecastro8452

    @kookiecastro8452

    3 жыл бұрын

    *I thought its 'hairstyle'*

  • @dfruitziga2543
    @dfruitziga25436 жыл бұрын

    thanks for this video. i'm crying inside. i always do, not in the moment when someone do anything unjust to me, but when someone finally understands me. yea i know i sound like nonsense.. my mind is in a chaos now

  • @coreycox2345
    @coreycox23456 жыл бұрын

    I apologise for calling you a nutbar. This video on vulnerability hit me on a bad day. I allowed myself to be vulnerable to someone for the second time. Both times, he has immediately done an about face from his previous position and turned into a sadistic creep. The odd sequence that has included listening to your excellent videos and pondering them pushed me to accept this person. You did not invent this, but often the school of life is the school of hard knocks. Never again. That and the fact that I am going to a psychiatrist for an Asperger's evaluation tomorrow leaves me feeling dangerously vulnerable. This could be good, or it could mess up my life in a big way. I should not have projected my negative thoughts onto the school of life, as you have been helpful to me. The way that this video hit me left you vulnerable to my annoyance. I apologise and thank you for the wisdom I have gotten from all this.

  • @xoannguyen246
    @xoannguyen2463 жыл бұрын

    “strong enough to be weak.” that’s wise

  • @OMIMmusic
    @OMIMmusic6 жыл бұрын

    For showing vulnerability set and setting are most vital! Thank you so much for this video. It truly is helpful and I wish much more people could watch and understand. ❤️

  • @elliesteele2342
    @elliesteele23426 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant. We need WAY more of this type of content kicking around our world. I noticed someone mentioned Brene Brown and her Ted Talk on the Power of Vulnerability as well as her new booking Daring Greatly..I HIGHLY recommend those as well. It's time for all of us to learn the difference between expressing healthy vulnerability to show our humanity versus being demanding, needy and weak. Expressing vulnerability without expecting people to understand, empathise or help is essential right now since we're just starting to take our first steps with this new way of being and evolving as humans. Being able to express it, without expectations and knowing that some will try to take advantage of us or perceive us as weak is part of the equation. There are bound to be growing pains.

  • @directioner236
    @directioner2366 жыл бұрын

    This is a Perfect interpretation of vulnerability and the animation is so well made, Thanks for making such great videos

  • @sckiw005
    @sckiw005 Жыл бұрын

    Shortly before watching this I got the sting of shame from expressing myself but this just proves how much understanding we need to give ourselves

  • @tateisunapologeticallyinsa1229
    @tateisunapologeticallyinsa12294 жыл бұрын

    I want to become more vulnerable for the new years. I tried being vulnerable for like five minutes and I cried-

  • @itsyouhannah1654
    @itsyouhannah16544 жыл бұрын

    People always use my vulnerability against me and usually run away when I tell them. This is why I put on a front and don’t show my feelings. Why are people so cruel??

  • @linlomox
    @linlomox5 жыл бұрын

    I think the biggest issue with vulnerability is when you choose to be vulnerable with someone and get completely turned down, ignored or invalidated. We all want to show our vulnerability with the ones we love, but some of us just get missdirected from life experience on with whom and when to do it.

  • @dumfriesspearhead7398

    @dumfriesspearhead7398

    5 жыл бұрын

    This is so true. I've been vulnerable with people who couldn't cope with it and reacted badly. In retrospect I shouldn't have spoken to them in that way. I went to a butcher to buy bread. Bad move.

  • @christhomas4009
    @christhomas40096 жыл бұрын

    The dignified sharing of vulnerability that true friendship can arise... WE LOVE BRINGING YOU THESE FILMS Nice audio :)

  • @yo-ma7701
    @yo-ma77012 жыл бұрын

    being vulnerable that one of my new goals.

  • @Jtyoutube2467
    @Jtyoutube2467 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you I learned something new today. I been working on not be more vulnerable to people who get my weaknesses and upset me.

  • @Haesslicherblaubarsch
    @Haesslicherblaubarsch6 жыл бұрын

    I was almost too distracted by the amazing and funny animations to listen to the important message of the video. Both truly speak to me

  • @stonywilliams
    @stonywilliams6 жыл бұрын

    This is one of the best and most important KZread channels there are. Thanx ppl. You rock!!!

  • @theschooloflifetv

    @theschooloflifetv

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much!

  • @BronzDano
    @BronzDano6 жыл бұрын

    The most soothing voice on KZread.

  • @maxwang8270
    @maxwang82706 жыл бұрын

    This is such a beautiful message.

  • @pomegranateemporium
    @pomegranateemporium6 жыл бұрын

    I love this narrator's voice. He's like my calm place voice. I love you Mr narrator. 👍🏽

  • @lovedaisy_0728
    @lovedaisy_07284 жыл бұрын

    This is so enlightening! I learned a lot from this video. Thank you🙂

  • @MunthApollo
    @MunthApollo6 жыл бұрын

    The animations in this one made me laugh and smile. It was so cringey, yet endearing and funny at the same time. Love it.

  • @filesender6787
    @filesender67875 жыл бұрын

    About my vulnerability and emotions, I'm someone who don't really hide what I'm feeling. If I'm sad, I dont deny it. If I'm angry, I also dont deny it. I'm a woman so I'm not pressured to act macho, that's why its easy for me to show my softness. I dont also act tough in a specific situation if im really not. I also dont pretend to be weak or sad if im not. I just simply dont deny whatever i feel. My tears are also shallow. Some people think im cold and independent. But im not cold, just emotionally independent I don't believe that love is naturally pain. Pain is our best friend. Just like when we're feeling pain in our body, it just honestly tells us that there's imbalance in our system that must be fixed before it gets worse. Also, even if love is blind, its not an excuse to stop thinking and stop making wiser decisions in life. It's also not an excuse to not love yourself. Like love yourself but not in a narcissistic way. I believe that life isn't all about learning "what is love" really is. For me, its about achieving enlightenment about love and our emotions and balance. Just like our bodies are in their perfect state when they're in perfect balance. Its always trying to achieve homeostasis, that's what it always seeks,, that's always its goal. My other self might have a different personality than mine. Maybe he's more social, loves being around people or etc.. i dont know... Because me, im really introvert and contented even when im alone. but i dont have problem being around people, i enjoy that too. And I really hope that my other self is enjoying his life wherever he is, maybe its in the underworld or something, im not sure.. But just for him to know, I also want to be his friend but only if its possible, i mean, no pressure about that.. its just that im just really not that enlightened about the/his whole situation and what will actually happen.. but its ok, no need to say anything if he really cant..no pressure about that I surrender if i think that that's the right thing to do. I dont fight for every thing. Although I still fight or stand for things that i think are really important. I also apologize if i think there's something to apologize for. Some people are not like that and i think that's cool as well. About the limelight, im pretty neutral about that. I'm ok w/ that but im also ok if not. I'm really soft when it comes to those people who get my sympathy. I would rather be friends w/ someone who's being bullied rather than be friends with those who are popular but bullies bec. i dont like those kind of people. Im also cold and hard for those people who are abusive like some of my relatives or neighbors. I dont like playing with people's feelings. I may be a little joker but that's all. I may be confusing but only if you dont ask me questions. I don't like deceiving people I'm a little frank sometimes but sometimes, i feel worried that i might have hurt them

  • @KoreanwithMissVicky
    @KoreanwithMissVicky6 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful!

  • @sumakote
    @sumakote6 жыл бұрын

    This is such an educated view on emotions. And I love it this way👍

  • @solus5635
    @solus56356 жыл бұрын

    This hit a little close to home. I’m in a very competitive environment so showing vulnerability would be like shooting yourself in the foot. At the same time I can’t say I truly know any of my friends. We are just strangers forced together by circumstance... And don’t get me started on the prospect of love without showing vulnerability. That will forever be a source of anxiety and failure for me. But who knows, maybe some day I’ll get it right...

  • @lilabostwick1804
    @lilabostwick180411 ай бұрын

    Amazing video thank you so much!

  • @dexistence19
    @dexistence196 жыл бұрын

    This is absolutely brilliant. Thankyou!!

  • @101Rouge
    @101Rouge6 жыл бұрын

    If I expose my weakness my enemies will know where to strike me.

  • @briantobias9212
    @briantobias92126 жыл бұрын

    I struggle with this everyday. I am in a GREAT relationship with a girl that I truly love. My biggest problem is I have alot of baggage from past toxic relationships. I have trust issues that is really negatively effecting my relationship with my girlfriend. Most of these issues stem from negative thoughts in my head that I choose to believe and let effect me. I'm afraid if I become vulnerable, I will just end up getting hurt again. I don't know what to do. Should I stay with her and learn to trust again? Or do I need to be alone for a while and get myself together?

  • @Kurotixy

    @Kurotixy

    6 жыл бұрын

    Stay with her and learn to trust again. You may not get a second chance if you decide to take a break with her. I wish you luck

  • @stephfromnj

    @stephfromnj

    6 жыл бұрын

    I took time to be myself to get my stuff together and now my ex boyfriend is visiting a girl to see if he may love her or not. Stay with your girlfriend and learn how to trust.

  • @bi_wendt

    @bi_wendt

    6 жыл бұрын

    I think it's easier to get better with someone who loves you by your side!

  • @nickbuis3307

    @nickbuis3307

    6 жыл бұрын

    Brian Tobias I know exactly how you feel. I regret many of my past choices and the baggage is heavy and undue to my girlfriend. It sucks.

  • @josephmueller3752

    @josephmueller3752

    6 жыл бұрын

    Just be good looking and everything will solve

  • @butterflyqueen9260
    @butterflyqueen92605 жыл бұрын

    Strong enough to be weak.

  • @banon485
    @banon4856 жыл бұрын

    I really liked the animation in this video. Thank you for your hard work and drive.

  • @LivingParadox87
    @LivingParadox876 жыл бұрын

    I had to watch this twice because the first time I was laughing too much at the animation and sounds lol. Some people are complaining that it was distracting, but honestly, I really needed that uplifting element.

  • @ANTiKr00t
    @ANTiKr00t6 жыл бұрын

    I love this animation! It's comedic and conveys the message very well.

  • @ishakaul9121
    @ishakaul91216 жыл бұрын

    Lovely realizations. Thank you !

  • @Skudx
    @Skudx6 жыл бұрын

    Theses animations are incredibly hilarious and great ^^ Great video

  • @justinlewis7575
    @justinlewis75756 жыл бұрын

    Loved the animation in this one. Made me laugh out loud several times!

  • @broadbandtogod
    @broadbandtogod6 жыл бұрын

    Awesome vids you're doin man, proud of you

  • @jessicagomez1760
    @jessicagomez17606 жыл бұрын

    always on point with the topics and respective animations

  • @RobsMiscellania
    @RobsMiscellania6 жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this. I'm hanging in there, guys.

  • @sammy3212321
    @sammy32123216 жыл бұрын

    This has been one of my favourite animations so far. The squidgy sounds were a little unsettling, but the style was so cute.

  • @maillardsbearcat
    @maillardsbearcat Жыл бұрын

    Every time I show vulnerability people use it to to put me down and boost their own ego

  • @Backcash436
    @Backcash436 Жыл бұрын

    I love this it really helped me out! Plus I just love the animation with the squishy sound that is hilarious 😂

  • @Thomas_Winters
    @Thomas_Winters5 жыл бұрын

    I tried being vulnerable but when I tried I found that I really just don't know how. A lot of people just don't care. So I stopped trying to talk to people about my personal stuff. I don't know how to do it without sounding depressed. I also don't know how to relate to people. They open up to me and for some reason my brain had forgotten 70% of what they told me.

  • @sanketpaudel1239
    @sanketpaudel12393 жыл бұрын

    This is the best video I've seen in while!😍

  • @annycui9880
    @annycui98806 жыл бұрын

    This video makes me feel better.

  • @ReemZuhaili
    @ReemZuhaili6 жыл бұрын

    It's such an inspiring topic and a great speech

  • @thecrow5006
    @thecrow50066 жыл бұрын

    These animations on this channel are the best thing about it. Wtf.

  • @RobertEstrella
    @RobertEstrella6 жыл бұрын

    Vulnerability is the only way that we will ever be known and forge true connections. Unfortunately, most people don't understand this or choose to reject it and so we remain feeling alone and miserable throughout life. I've longed for, and tasted the kind of connection being mutually vulnerable with somebody affords....there's simply no substitute. "And I am you, and what I see is me."

  • @pablodejuan2096
    @pablodejuan20966 жыл бұрын

    All your videos are very inspiring

  • @charlita25
    @charlita254 жыл бұрын

    It used to be hard for me to be vulnerable. But I am getting better at it.

  • @sillawatcht
    @sillawatcht Жыл бұрын

    spilled my drink while watching this

  • @thebrownnomad9162
    @thebrownnomad91626 жыл бұрын

    So good!

  • @purpletruth4880
    @purpletruth48806 жыл бұрын

    WOWWWWW!!!!! THAT WAS AN EYE OPENER!!!!

  • @SelmaPiro
    @SelmaPiro6 жыл бұрын

    I've found 'Steps to Knowledge - the book of inner knowing' (free to download) has helped me immeasurably to face my vulnerabilities in an honest and respectful way, and enable me to build my personal strengths and innate skills and abilities. Therefore I'm better able to deal with external issues and cope with life's challenges, without the same old fear and weakness as before. Really, it does require making an effort to develop those internal muscles of strength and resilience!

  • @eliana93fer
    @eliana93fer4 жыл бұрын

    Lovely animation, incredibly tender and funny!

  • @DivineUnionTV
    @DivineUnionTV6 жыл бұрын

    The pain is empowering ... I started considering it like a tattoo when I was younger, to kinda force myself to do it more.

  • @penheartpaper
    @penheartpaper6 жыл бұрын

    I adore this art style

  • @lambusaab
    @lambusaab6 жыл бұрын

    I sometimes forget to zip up...

  • @user-ey6so8nl7z
    @user-ey6so8nl7z6 жыл бұрын

    A poignant video I needed today more than ever. Thank you

  • @yamabiko7179
    @yamabiko71796 жыл бұрын

    These videos you make are amazing but often I find my self thinking "So what do i do?". It's good to understand yourself as a human being but sometimes that isn't always enough. I know I've spent countless hours by myself thinking of things that flaws me and what the ideal me would be.. But in the end its hard to change who you are when you have lived your whole life as 'you'. And the 'you' you have always been is the only you you'll ever know who to be.

  • @wolfgangromine8341
    @wolfgangromine83416 жыл бұрын

    The animations are very cute in this one, and I like the sounds effects!

  • @aprildiamond6510
    @aprildiamond65103 жыл бұрын

    I love this.

  • @daniel.adeyemi
    @daniel.adeyemi5 жыл бұрын

    I love the animation here but more importantly the message :-)

  • @SidusNova
    @SidusNova6 жыл бұрын

    I love the art in this video

  • @tashawilliams8093
    @tashawilliams80932 жыл бұрын

    Opening up almost makes me regret that I did.

  • @skyhiker9669
    @skyhiker96693 жыл бұрын

    Needed that!

  • @kimsherlock8969
    @kimsherlock89692 жыл бұрын

    Loved it

  • @mickeyytgm
    @mickeyytgm6 жыл бұрын

    This is great!! Could you do one on intimacy? (closely linked to vulnerability)! Thanks!!

  • @brokepapa3007
    @brokepapa30076 жыл бұрын

    I think the producer may be projecting just a bit. Many good points, peppered with what seems situation specific occurrences (i.e. being mean to loved ones; That's a choice not a state of being.) Take responsibility for yourself. Take control of your own life. Take back our homeworld.

  • @sinavogt3917
    @sinavogt39176 жыл бұрын

    I love the message, and I love the video 💗🔥😂so epic

  • @indrakamalyadav2921
    @indrakamalyadav29213 жыл бұрын

    Awesome

  • @regularsizecourtney9831
    @regularsizecourtney98316 жыл бұрын

    I love this ! so true 😊

  • @AALFOBIK818
    @AALFOBIK8184 жыл бұрын

    I worked my ass off to be vulnerable and transparent as possible with a love interest if mine. She wasn’t willing to be vulnerable due to a bad break up that had her really damaged at the time. In order to show her a safe space to be vulnerable, I let my wall down, which was a lot of hard work and many many therapy sessions. All so one day I can mention that I feel that she isn’t vulnerable enough and that I wanted to make a safe space for her to communicate her feelings (we were in a disagreement) and instead she took this as me begging her to tell me what was wrong. She later said (in the same text paragraph) that “maybe she wasn’t being vulnerable with me because she didn’t want to give me and possibly didn’t deserve that kind of energy or that level from [her]”. I was torn. This whole time I tried my best to make her feel by being what I thought could help and instead she made me feel as if I was being needy and basically told me that she knew I was being vulnerable and that she didn’t want to reciprocate. I say this all to say, WATCH WHO YOURE VULNERABLE AROUND WITH. You let your guard down to the wrong person and they’ll quickly flip it and use it against you. Now I’m only stronger and my confidence and will hasn’t changed. Stay up.

  • @mameemia
    @mameemia3 жыл бұрын

    ILOVE THE SOUND EFFECT "ARRGHh!!

  • @zodayn4767
    @zodayn47676 жыл бұрын

    The sound effect of the pink shirt man sitting down at 1:46 is really gross, genius, and an audible representation of feeling vulnerable. Not many videos edit audio that well.

  • @edaphic4515

    @edaphic4515

    5 жыл бұрын

    I actually love this comment 😂👌

  • @s.cstudios3070
    @s.cstudios30706 жыл бұрын

    This hurts because it's true

  • @abbimariellafranks
    @abbimariellafranks6 жыл бұрын

    This video is what I needed to hear

  • @Mindsway

    @Mindsway

    6 жыл бұрын

    ikr, always so.. precisely true

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