The "you're my brother" Excuse and How to Solve It

@daveyrobinson3779

5 жыл бұрын

Lmfao! Why hasn't this gotten more likes?:D

@samo6401

5 жыл бұрын

Slow down there Japan

@bahaatamer1245

5 жыл бұрын

You disappear for a while and let her come to you (and find other girls to improve your game!) - the rules and playground are yours the moment she returns to you!

@hellogoodbye2424

5 жыл бұрын

@@bahaatamer1245 there was this girl who I was close to She liked me but I never made a move on her because she has three kids She's cool though We would go out and have lunch I paid one time she would lay the next and so on so on. She said she didn't want a relationship she just wanted to have fun. So a week later I hooked up with this girl I met at the bar. Next day we run into each other at work and I have a hickey on my neck She saw it and acted different She said something like "you are so" And disnt say anything after that I say I'm so what? Then she says "yiu like to argue, just go away" So I just walked away She acts different around me now

@bahaatamer1245

5 жыл бұрын

@@hellogoodbye2424 stay away from single mothers! - unless that's what you desire/shes your ex wife or whatsoever, you're getting yourself into so many things you dont want to be involved in!

2 types of resistance: - Objection (emotional problem) - Solution: solve emotionally (change her mood not her mind) - Condition (logical situational/logistical problem) - Solution: solve logically with tangible solutions

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

@1Scuter watch the video Todd gives examples

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

@yeahyeahblabla someguy I just laugh when people think these jacked good-looking dudes all slay pussy left and right. A lot of time you can throw a girl at them and have her grinding on them dying to suck their cock and they can’t accept it or find some other way to chode out of it. The people who don’t get how insanely common it is for these good-looking dudes to drop the ball tend to either be: 1) Naturals who didn’t drop the ball a lot themselves so they can’t really relate to the notion that a girl could be giving you ioi’s and you DON’T try to fuck her or believe she wants to fuck you especially if they rolled with an alpha pack like themselves who all were getting laid (or at least bragging/acting like they do and glossing over when the girl is ugly etc like guys often do lol) so they just kind of assume all the other good-looking rich etc dudes were doing the same… or 2) AFCs who never approach or talk to girls or learn game and just listen to the Hollywood stereotypes and blue-pill conditioning because they never go out and collect the data for themselves because it’s scary and painful to go down this journey and a lot easier to just believe everyone else is slaying based on attributes you were unfairly not dealt in your genetics (perfect excuse to never really try, and break all the rules like Tyler and the rest of us who don’t turn heads when we walk into a room). This is also why I say looks are great, they get you some free ioi’s and opens here and there. If you don’t have game, you’ll still fuck it up…so focus on game above all else. Society beats us over the head with how we aren't good enough "as-is" so guys have all these fucked up confidence issues. This is again why I say looks don't really matter infield, 'cause every night out you can see these tall jacked good-looking dudes with shitty internals going home alone because even when a girl DOES like them they have trouble accepting and embracing that and taking it somewhere because they don't believe they're "good enough"…even if they LOOK good they feel like they don't have enough money, or if they have money and look good they feel like they aren't tall enough, etc etc it's all bullshit designed to weed out the guys who give no fucks from the guys who will listen to what society tells them about how to feel about themselves…and of course it drives the whole consumerism culture we live in, 'cause that guy can feel good about himself if he just buys the latest brand name product of such and such, at least for a few weeks, until the newer version comes out and then only LOSERS still use that OLD version. Vicious cycle. My problem with typical Red Pill method of “just get jacked“ is that it's still playing inside society's value system. Even if they get jacked so they can finally feel good about themselves, that's a value system that society put on them so no matter how good they do 1) there will ALWAYS be a better looking guy than them out there, so they can never feel like "the best" because someone will ALWAYS have another inch on their biceps or a more expensive suit etc, and 2) they're still determining their self-worth based on other people's values. That's why I stress go to the gym, sure, but do it for yourself and your own health, not because you think it'll get you girls because as soon as you're doing it "to get girls" you're coming from the wrong frame and starting to build shitty internal wiring.

@razzdiamond6447

5 жыл бұрын

@yeahyeahblabla someguy that's a limiting belief, go out with someone who knows to talk to women and you'll realize.

@SammyCee23

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@Trazynn

5 жыл бұрын

@@stealth797 just note that you preach about societal conditioning while at the same time buying into the frame that failing to pursue a woman is to be avoided at all costs. They got you exactly where they want you, studying, scheming, discussing strategy, inner game, for what? Validation? An orifice?

guys. If a woman says she has a boyfriend simply move on. No I don’t think it’s sleezy. It’s a HUGE waste of time. it’s rarely ever a “shit test”. She either has a boyfriend or isn’t interested. In the rare case that she actually hooks up why do you need that drama? Just walk down the street or move to the next set and open someone that doesn’t give you that objection at all. Problem solved. Don’t waste your time trying to solve a Rubik’s cube blindfolded if u don’t have to.

@DarkWish98

5 жыл бұрын

What if she has a HUGE ass and you want a piece but she comes with this objection? The bigger the ass the harder it is to move on.

@makarawash

5 жыл бұрын

@@DarkWish98 What if I can actually solve a Rubik´s cube blindfolded?

@RyanJamesOfficial

5 жыл бұрын

i slept with the last chick who said she had a boyfriend... didnt stop her from grinding on me on the dance floor and sleeping with me. her boyfriend called me on my phone though that she used to call him while she was in bed with me.

@nightwolfvienna799

5 жыл бұрын

@@makarawash Than you dont need Game ;D Be the local star and let her chase you...

@dynogems

5 жыл бұрын

I'd say still go for it. Usually "I have a bf" means "you're not there yet" whether she has a bf or not. I was fucking this girl for a few weeks and then all of a sudden the last time I tried to smash she "had a bf" lol

Also there's a difference between "I have a boyfriend" in a coffee shop and "I have a boyfriend" in a club in a little black dress. Is she in a hot or cold environment.

@koac3978

5 жыл бұрын

Retweet^

@sean3533

5 жыл бұрын

@@koac3978 😘

@Ws6Ms

4 жыл бұрын

those are big facts

@centanhotbox84

4 жыл бұрын

yeah but no. as long as the attention is there its all win. just scream something random and shed forget about the world. pure frame imposement. when ure ultra leading and dominant who dfk can stop u and why lmao

@fuge511

4 жыл бұрын

Plz explain lol

As a personal rule if a girl says "I have a boyfriend", I end the set and find someone else. For one, if she's telling the truth, Idk what kinda guy her bf is and it could get dangerous plus drama I don't want to deal with. If she's lying, that means she's clearly not interested in me and I'm wasting my time trying to change her mind when I could be doing a set with a different girl. If a set is going so badly that she uses the phrase as an excuse it's really difficult to fix and often not worth the effort. There will always be other girls and they are likely to be far more receptive.

@hauntedbytheliving1175

3 жыл бұрын

Actually sage advice.

@PIOVRAME

3 жыл бұрын

Respect

@martinmedina686

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah 99% of the time when a girl says she has a boyfriend she really does have a boyfriend. The best bet is to move on to the next and find a girl that's single/available.

@blackorchid2494

3 жыл бұрын

Smart man!

@TS-fw6yo

2 жыл бұрын

Well think about it like this if Todd has done it and nothings happened to him

why are dudes messing around with a another man's woman?

@IsmaelDrucker

5 жыл бұрын

Because we can..??

@visualizeme-tz3ng

5 жыл бұрын

exactly. im all about fucking bitches but bitches with boyfriends should be left alone. fuck the bitch. you can't do a fellow man like that

@dragon-id5uj

5 жыл бұрын

Another man's woman... so you're saying women are property?

@visualizeme-tz3ng

5 жыл бұрын

+乁dragon違 stfu

@Trazynn

5 жыл бұрын

If she consents to having sex with you then why is that anyone else's business?

There are pick-up artists. Then there are pick-up surgeons. The Toddfather is a pick-up surgeon.

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

True. The contrast between Todd vs the modern trend of woo woo vague Pickup advice is incredible.

@Frederick0220

5 жыл бұрын

YASSS! The only thing I wish Todd would cover, and perhaps it's further along in The System, is converting pulls to lays. Busting through LMR is my biggest issue, particularly since I'm pulling sober girls off dates that I met via daygame. I don't do nightgame where you have drunk girls from the club at 3 AM. @@stealth797

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

@@Frederick0220 I found a lot of LMR busting is done by running good comfort game. Plus setting the "premise" (as Todd says) that she is the one chasing you. Other than that the old Mystery Method LMR techniques have helped me too.

@Frederick0220

5 жыл бұрын

Excellent! Appreciate ya. Let me know if you're ever in Chicago. Would be down to daygame with ya. @@stealth797

@renegadezen7841

5 жыл бұрын

Hahahha love this comment. The ToddFather hahah

Hmm this seems pretty desperate .. If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend why not have the respect to walk away and be the better person?

@renegadezen7841

5 жыл бұрын

Desperate...maybe. Pimpish..definitely.

@YouCalledMeRage

5 жыл бұрын

Why should that stop her from meeting you? A guy that's most likely way more cool than her chose boyfriend. Think about how much better 'her' life would be meeting you. How much she'd learn meeting you.

@Adam-kr7sw

5 жыл бұрын

Why was she showing indications of interest in the first place?

@movement2contact

5 жыл бұрын

@@Adam-kr7sw by existing..?

@AliasTekTV

5 жыл бұрын

You're already the better person. Women are not loyal beings. They can and will fuck other men relationship or not and hide it behind things like boyfriends and "girls nite" outings.

Or just respect people's relationships and boundaries, and move on to someone who's available. Problem solved.

@jakubturlinski7159

5 жыл бұрын

Unless the relationship does not exist!

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

Jakub Turliński exactly. Lying bitches.

@MattHofstadt

5 жыл бұрын

@NolanEP84 The video is about girls who already said no because they have a boyfriend. They made their choice after the option was presented. Sure, some girls can be coerced into having sex with you as a new option if you "play a good game", but just know that's a girl who will quickly and easily enjoy her freedom of choice while with you too. "You're not Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now. If that's the type of girl you want, go for it I guess.

@PUA-Dude

5 жыл бұрын

Hence why nice guy finish last

@ursamajor5107

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. This should be called 'Loser Game'. This Todd guy admitted that he got punched out 'protecting a student' in exactly this situation, funnily enough.

"Women with 2 or more boyfriends are more likely to get promoted at work" ... that works for me..

I was a side boy once. It makes you feel like human garbage. Don't do it.

@hi4827

4 жыл бұрын

Benny Costello What ? No way best sex ever

@NiCo.B

3 жыл бұрын

Nah, you just didn't gave her good emotions and good sex

@jamiemobilerepairnow5968

2 жыл бұрын

being used for sex is horrible, as a male too. Makes you feel low in yourself. agree with Benny

Don't get with other men's girlfriends. Imagine the lack of self-respect needed for that shit.

@OffGridInvestor

2 жыл бұрын

This kinda crap is how MOST guys get their girlfriends in South America. Usually stealing them from other guys. South American girls ALWAYS HAVE a boyfriend. I know some here in Australia and they ALL have a guy. Even the damn 12 year olds....

I don't think it's moral to sleep with somebody's partner in non open relationship.

@datmex6

4 жыл бұрын

Agree anyone advocating for that shit is a scumbag.

@ChanMan-mm7fe

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think it's right to sleep with anyone while they're in a relationship, open or not..

@hmb8801

3 жыл бұрын

@Eli Lis She has to break up with him then going out with another guy , that's the moral way

How desperate do you have to be, to persist after a girl says she is in a relationship? This is flagrantly low-quality behaviour, masquerading as "alpha". Not one of you would have the balls to look the boyfriend in the eyes after sleeping with his girl.

@rickyticky3350

2 жыл бұрын

The ones that do is up to them if they are faithful or not. Don't blame the guy.

@xavier6037

2 жыл бұрын

@@rickyticky3350 So you would sleep with your friends' girlfriend then? It's her fault, right?

@ElMundoDeSam95

Жыл бұрын

​@@xavier6037noooo friend girlfriend is out of the question cuz of loyalty but a HOT PIECE OF ASS who says i got a bf but we can fuck....I WILL FUCK

Dont do this. Just simply find a different girl.

What about having morals if she actually does have a bf lol

@razzdiamond6447

5 жыл бұрын

Todd is doing this for science... You can use this for whatever you want or not use it at all

@MrSkinnyWhale

5 жыл бұрын

@Yoshiyahu Yisrael sure buddy

@chrisjfox8715

5 жыл бұрын

How about realizing that the girl isnt always telling the truth about this. Sometimes, it's an objection not a condition. Plus, you can't make a girl do anything that she doesn't want to do. You can't steal a girl from a guy.

@li6706

5 жыл бұрын

This country has no moral mate, women especially have no morals

@seand622

5 жыл бұрын

It's a dog eat dog world, kid

ive been in the game a while now and most of the girls use the "i have a boyfriend" excuse. they all say the same thing. i got so used to it, so i don't even respond to it anymore. i usually just ignore it and keep on with the conversation going. once i establish more comfort on her she never mentions the i have a boyfriend again. most of the time it turns out they actually don't have boyfriend.

@icarovdl

2 жыл бұрын

This in a hot environment

Everyone has weak moments. If you are messing with people's relationships like this than you (not the hypocritical "next guy who will do it anyway") you are putting more negativity into the world. More of the despair so many feel over the breakdown of human connection. "Lots of love making but no love"

@vicente3354

5 жыл бұрын

Assuming you were already flirting with a sexy woman with the intention of pulling her home and getting to fuck, there was no real chance of making the world a more positive place to begin with. It's important to map out fundamental goals with game: 1. Are you out to have a good time? 2. Are you out to find a wife? In the first case, it all revolves around personal enjoyment. Stop trying to intertwine philosophical values with a situation that isn't inherently morally "good" by most standards anyway.

@datmex6

4 жыл бұрын

@ People that put foul energy into this universe Karma will take care of that ass sooner or later.

@littleman787

3 жыл бұрын

100% this. Bunch of fucking scumbags here

@blackorchid2494

3 жыл бұрын

@@vicente3354 Lol you throw philosophical values out the door until her BF ends up being a dude like MMA Fighter War Machine who beats the shit out of you and nearly kills her!

@dorikin333

7 ай бұрын

"Everyone has weak moments" Lol a woman whos in a good relationship even at its worse moments would never even entertain the idea of cheating. This is nonsense.

Or just let her get on with it and speak to another girl...

Personally I won't even fuck with a girl if she really has a boyfriend. I don't want to be the reason another guy feels depressed and broken hearted. But that's just me.

@tronalddump2444

7 ай бұрын

If you really think like that, then you are a cool guy.

just leave that girl alone, she had a bf. If ur her bf, ur gonna be proud of her..

If a women tells you "i have a boyfriend" it means she either has a boyfriend, or wants to be left alone! Just move on instead of triyng to force your flirting upon her. She is simply not interested. Is it so hard to accept this? This shit right here is just creepy

@ca32

Жыл бұрын

He's such a huge arsehole the king of arseholes I don't know why he is popular

@articsebas

Жыл бұрын

Do you realise how damaging is using the label creepy? At least try to empathise with our position.

VALUE VALUE VALUE

Why do you NEED to still pursue her if she says she's already in a relationship. I mean is there a shortage of women going on?

Hold up...so in his head, if the girl says she has a boyfriend (even if ACTUALLY does) it doesn't mean you can't have sex with her?...that's just desperation, that ain't loyalty either. Even if she's lying, back away, let them chase you silly.

@ca32

Жыл бұрын

He is the biggest jerk I've ever seen

Me: I have a boyfriend Him: So can't have friends? Me: (pulls out phone) *I DoN't kNOw Let'S AsK*

Lost respect for Todd here, if she has a boyfriend why would you continue to hit on her?

@selfinexile

2 жыл бұрын

Because you want her? tf you mean

I'm 36, I'm in interested in getting past the boyfriend excuse. Not trying to get with a girl who actually HAS a boyfriend.

@glockbabe9601

5 жыл бұрын

Go get a job thomas

@gambit_toys6554

5 жыл бұрын

@@glockbabe9601 I'm at work

@glockbabe9601

5 жыл бұрын

@@gambit_toys6554 oh just checking

@Warpath1337

5 жыл бұрын

Thomas...you are fired. Clean out your desk get all you shit and begone in the next 10 mins or I will have security escort you out.

@MsAggie78

4 жыл бұрын

Here's the thing. We say it because WE'RE NOT INTO YOU. And the only way these guys will accept us saying "no" is if we're the "property" of another man.If we say we're single, they act like we have no right or reason to say no to them. Simply saying we're not interested doesn't work. They'll just ignore it. We have to say we're taken by another man. Because they respect another man more than our right to say no. Even you were like, " How do I GET AROUND her saying no?"

"Me too"

My head hurts 🤦‍♂️waste of time just move on and be done with it or stay there and keep playing games with both of yourselves. Plus why tf do I gotta change her mood.

Love it when Todd puts out a new video. I love his insights. His wisdom is impeccable, it's not just useful for pickup, it's applicable to all aspects of life.

@NeoJiNeTiK

5 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it's about the understanding of why things are the way they are and how to deal with that truth.

What's the point of having boyfriends and girl friends if you're just going to keep whoring around anyway. Why do your lives revolve around whoring around and never having a lasting relationship? This just seems desperate, not advisable. This kind of behavior shouldn't be promoted just because it is allowed.

@rickyticky3350

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to America

Dude siriously... What kind of man acts like this if shes in a relationship MOVE ON don't try to wreak it. Disgusting

😐 yes, “I have a boyfriend” is a dealbreaker fellas, there’s plenty of fish

World class advice

what's the deal with calibrating and being polarising? like most things in game it's seemingly paradoxical but what's the connection? like order and chaos seem different but they aren't.

@FunHowse

5 жыл бұрын

Calibrating is just adjusting to the situation. You're not going to act the same way you would in a nightclub, as you would in a coffee shop.

@Jachammer93

5 жыл бұрын

Calibrating is making sure you are on the same wave length, communication wise. Without that you are just a weirdo. Polarizing is more about how she sees your role in the interaction

Honestly I dont want a girl that has a boyfriend that's low level shit. As men we should have more respect for ourselves and the masculine principle. Dig the system though.

@datmex6

4 жыл бұрын

Agree I am a desirable guy and had attractive women with boyfriends try to hookup with me. Even though it was tempting my values are too strong to do some shit like that plus Karma is a bitch!

I'am actually just watching some of your videos on Winners game. And it's really great! New to the PUA ''community''. And also, I am reading the Mystery Method. I am i taking the right steps? What should i be doing. Any tips would be awesome =)

@davidangelo3025

5 жыл бұрын

Are you from Sweden.

@RajveerSingh-xw4nl

5 жыл бұрын

You can learn from mystery method a lot but it’s outdated but honestly you wouldn’t really need anything else than Todd’s System because the guy did learn from Mystery years ago and also past the paradigm of only routine style game

@JohnnDoep408

5 жыл бұрын

The only thing you need to do right now is TAKE ACTION. No book or video will give you first hand experience. Let experience show you what you need to learn.

@dudemeister421

5 жыл бұрын

read mystery method, then magic bullets, get your solid foundation down, then watch people like todd who will fine tune your base knowledge, and update it, and of course take action (most important step)

@henriksonsamuelson9303

5 жыл бұрын

@@davidangelo3025 German/Sweden! @DavidAngelo

Why would you a gal who has a boyfriend? That shows you have respect for other men if you decide to go after another man's girl same goes for women who go after another woman's man

@daveyrobinson3779

5 жыл бұрын

Why respect other men? You think that would give you some karmic advantage for when another dude hits up your girl? No!

4 жыл бұрын

@@emirmaslo4054 i would leave it alone

wtf i approached over 7 gurls this week they all tell me the same phrase...i have a boyfriend like wtf

This is Advance level game, thanks Todd

Guy: (sneezes) Girl: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND! Guy: And I have allergies.

What is wrong with this guy? If a girl says she has a boyfriend just leave her alone. If she says she’s not interested, leave her alone. It’s not a hint to try harder!

@BadWolfSilence

5 жыл бұрын

And it sucks that so many men respect “I have a boyfriend” so much more than “I’m not interested”. Both mean “leave me alone”!

Isn't a big part of being attractive being non-needy? And non needy is being completely ok with walking out without the desired outcome, so this is kinda hypocritical

Yo Todd, I hope you have an answer for this problem, related to this video's content: I find many many times that girls, after they give me very good signals and responses, they would still, at some point in the interaction, give me "objections" that I can't seem to surpass. I think those are mostly objections, according to your definition, rather than conditions (purely practical hurdles) although they want to make it seem that way, but are based on them being still not comfortable enough with me. It's typically when I try to move the interaction to something more 'serious' that requires a higher level of commitment, like "let's go have a drink" or, by text, "let's meet for a date", and so on. They always seem to have some excuse not to comply, the likes of oh, I'm waiting for my friends, or I can't leave my friends, I have to work tomorrow, I have to travel tomorrow, or even I tdon't know you enough, etc..... So the question is, how to get them feel comfortable enough with me, when they won't give me time enough to build that comfort?? In short, despite them giving me what I would say very positive signals for some (short) time, corresponding the flirting etc, when shit gets real, they end up chickening out, finding excuses (objections based on emotions of insecurity), and I don't know how to handle it, so frustrating, because I know these are just excuses, and I know it's no use to argue logically with them about it!!! Thanks Todd for all the great content!!!!

@mikebingham9700

2 жыл бұрын

Chad and Tyrone don't get any objections. They just get sack time. Chad: Hey, (Girl) let's get together right now and chill. (Girl:) I have a Boyfriend! Chad: I understand and proceeds to walk away. (Girl) Chad, wait I will go with you and chill out. Chad: But what about your Boyfriend status? (Girl): I'll just give him some excuse why I couldn't meet him. Chad: You mean you would do that for me? (Girl): Absolutely Chad! (Hunk)!

Thanks. Good content man

got approached by some girls and when I tell them that I got a girlfriend, well I got one. they could have been models or whatever, my answer would be the same because I do not wanna cheat or betray my girl

change her mood, if emotional objection fix her problem, if legitmate condition

The 2 type or resistance should be learned well and practice more. Guys misunderstood it for most of the time. Excellent video topic bro! Hope you do more videos like this.🤙

@thinkingofaname6233

5 жыл бұрын

Anri Davids sorry, I don’t talk to a girl to figure out a magical puzzle.

Taking on one sticking point at a time is perfect for teaching. Simply Gold Todd.

This is gonna come up sooner or later... and perhaps more regularly than you'd like. What do you do when she says, "I have a boyfriend?" systembytodd.com for more.

Todd is like a scientist 😜😜

@renegadezen7841

5 жыл бұрын

He for all intents and purposes is a behavioural psychologist

226 good people disliked this

Basically the men who agree with this guy believe that if a girl is single, she has no right to say no to them. Fuck her preferences or if she even finds them attractive. She's single, so she has NO reason to say no, apparently.

Thanks toddy. I will never have a girlfriend ever again

I see some comments saying this strategy is sleazy, but then what about these two frames of mind PUAs put out a lot? 1. She's not his, it's just his turn. 2. Never listen to a woman's words, just her actions.

You are a legend Todd

Just say "ah well sorry then" and move on to find the lucky lady ;)

I know when I'm not interested in a man, I use the boyfriend card as to not be offensive to him. Or when I'm interested in someone else,.. & not him. Just saying! 🙂 Love your gift of conversation and confidence and in your material on you tube

@Protestan88

5 жыл бұрын

Very childish and immature reaction. Just say that you're not looking for a date or relationship.

@Protestan88

4 жыл бұрын

@Kleo yeah, except she edited her reply after getting called out for her dishonesty...

@mcpheefan21

4 жыл бұрын

@@Protestan88 So how long do you say you're not interested until he finally takes the hint? We all knew that most girls use the boyfriend ultimatum cause most of the time a simple no doesn't work.

@Phat_336

4 жыл бұрын

@@mcpheefan21 My advice is don't smile or smirk and focus your attention in every direction but his. Men can hear you say you're not interested but if you're smiling, it's going to fall on deaf ears.

@boniphacerobert482

4 жыл бұрын

@@Phat_336 Understand woman sometimes its complicated, some women can reject a man at first place and after few weeks when a man comes across them again a woman accept

Hey Todd. Can you make a video on How to change her mood?

@razzdiamond6447

5 жыл бұрын

That's just like asking, "How do I do game?" LOL

At the end of the day you shouldn't be messed with the other man's woman also if the woman value the man she wouldn't be messing around with you so there's a double-edged sword to all this and also if you know she got a boyfriend then you shouldn't probably take it to the next level because you already know what you're getting into from the get-go

This video pretty much shows your lack of respect/integrity Todd for men that have women that have to put up with this crap. No wonder infidelity is out of fucking control today...

This is desperate af. Like even if she's lying about having a bf, she's still resorting to LYING to get you out of her face. I've never used the "i have a bf" line to curve a guy. I'm more straight up with the rejection. Even if we're vibing in the club or at a party, etc.., it's still a curve when friends are ready to go and we're leaving. But that's just me. I'm not the wishy-washy type.

What are thing that you can do to add value?

Woman use the boyfriend card to show they are not interested. Letting you down easy.

As a 20 year old that unfortunately isn’t moved out yet cant use any of this because no girl has any interest in me. If you have nothing to give/show for, its kinda done for from the beginning

Wow please kids, grow up and respect people. If someone doesn't want to sleep with you, don't try and manipulate them. My god this is gross.

@smurf88

5 жыл бұрын

If they end up sleeping with you of their free will, doesn't that mean they want to sleep with you?

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

There's been plenty of women in my life who've fallen in love with me who didn't like me at first, let alone want to sleep with me.

5 жыл бұрын

best comment ever.

5 жыл бұрын

@@stealth797 where are all dis wymen now? exaclty. case closed.

@nietersman

5 жыл бұрын

found the normie.

If a giel says "i have a boyfriend" its more than likely bc she does and shes informing you that if youre looking for something she's not offering. If you continue to press her 2 things are most likely to happen: 1) she'll talk to you hoping youre a normal human being that can have a conversation without wanting sex as a result 2) she's now uncomfortable and will entertain you out of fear. There is a chance she's a cheater, but most likely the 2 above are the most likely events to occur. If you're just looking for sex find another woman - most women are single. If youre looking for the challenege join an intramural league or crossfit.

And what if she really does have a boyfriend; I know if I caught you trying to pick up my girl friend it would be your final mistake as an able bodied human being.

Todd is one of the GOATS. Thanks for sharing the knowledge and all that comes along with it. The play on words of objection and condition at the end is hilarious.

Hey Todd, What do you think of "Models" by Mark Manson? Do you somehow follow or agree with his methodoligies of attracting women? Or do you see it as a flat out lie? Basically, what's your take about that book? Hope you give us your opinion about this. Thanks! :)

@chuck1052

5 жыл бұрын

I have that book, it is complete crap. In one part he tells a woman who wants to fuck him that he doesn't have a lot of experience. Guess what happened, her attraction for him went down even they hooked up, she no longer saw him as a high value man. He thinks complete honesty with women will get you somewhere, I think it will get you nowhere.

@Nico-ze2gl

5 жыл бұрын

@@chuck1052 I've read that part as well. I'm only at the part 1 of the book. The reason why I'm asking Todd's opinion is because I somehow agree with Mark Manson's methodology but not entirely. I'm asking Todd because as we all know he's one of the veterans in game. Haha I think the good part of the book is his teachings on knowing your value as a man. But what I disagree on him is about the technicalities of the game because he doesn't believe that you will be successful on the long run if you do pick up techniques. I guess for me his book is good for inner game but not for outer game

@chuck1052

5 жыл бұрын

@@Nico-ze2gl I would recommend books by Roosh and Rollo Tomassi.

@Nico-ze2gl

5 жыл бұрын

@@chuck1052 I would check that. Thanks for the recommendation.

I wonder how relevant this advice will be when technology drastically reduces the number of available men?

@ChanMan-mm7fe

3 жыл бұрын

The hell are you trying to get at?

3 жыл бұрын

You can't just leave this comment and not elaborate.

@tiphotisted

2 жыл бұрын

@ I think he means sexbots..er maybe near perfect virtual reality where you can't tell the difference anymore.

@rickyticky3350

2 жыл бұрын

That would be cool. I hope they make a female cyborg where we don't have to depend on the human female. They all have bf anyways.

Literally everything this guy said demonstrates two things. Just how shitty some guys are who are willing to overstep boundaries and just how dishonest many women are. If you want the simple form of what he’s talking about psychologically it’s called manipulation. It’s laughable 😂😂😂

Ok, but my question is, when she throws at you the "I have a boyfriend" line, how do you discern it from it being a shit test vs. it actually being the truth. From my beginner understanding so far, if she does it very soon right when you initiate that date request, I think that means she either rejects you (she is not attracted to you, at least not yet) or she actually has a boyfriend. If she throws the line at you after you initiate that date, then it sounds more like a shit test? I mean, why would she consent to the date in the first place is she is not attracted to you and/or she has boyfriend which she really likes. Now the question that remains, do you pursue her if she truly has a boyfriend? This depends on her and on you both I guess. If you know you're a high value man and have strong game you can, but there are moral implications here. If she has respect for her boyfriend and isn't promiscuous, she should decide not to engage.

@laurenpistol22

4 жыл бұрын

If a woman says she has a boyfriend, she either has a boyfriend and doesn't want you, or is using it as an excuse to get you to leave her alone without hurting your feelings. Whether you think it's okay to lie about having a boyfriend or not, the meaning is the same: not interested. Move on.

@rickyticky3350

3 жыл бұрын

As an experienced gamer all you have to to is ignore it. especially when you first approach her and your trying to take her on a insta date. Women are always in the moment so whatever she is feeling in the moment usually her response will be based on her mood. if she feels uncomfortable and she cant trust u in that moment, she will use her defense mechanism to repel you. or pretty much she is telling you that she is not ready. thats why todd says its all about comfort cuz you need to spend time with her so you both can build comfort. once you both establish comfort she will never use it again. most of the girls who i approach and do have boyfriends or they are just not interested they will put their ground and tell you over and over again until you leave her alone. persistence is the key. so when your talking to a girl when you first meet her and she tell you the i have a boyfriend analogy just ignore it and keep talking.

@JonBonesJones84

2 жыл бұрын

@@rickyticky3350 How do you discreet that she has a bf and keep talking to her? what is there to say to get her to change her mind?

@ElMundoDeSam95

Жыл бұрын

What if she sends CHOOSING SIGNALS you aproach her and says "i have a boyfriend"

First most important question- is he a marine? (aka will he kill us if we get caught)

Gold again. I don't get the "come to my flat" joke, can anyone explain?

@sentry9834

5 жыл бұрын

A flat is another name for apartment. He is asking her to come to his place/home. Her excuse for not hanging out was that she had an appointment to view a flat, and he suggested they see his flat.

@RandyVollrath1

3 жыл бұрын

Someone in his audience said the girl's objection was she was going to look at a flat to rent. Possibly why she was meeting up with her bf. Todd said the somewhat funny somewhat weasely response was to say "I have a flat, you can come check it out. I'm moving out Sunday, after that I won't be here..."

Don't try to sleep with women that have a boyfriend. You are risking a whole world of problems when you could just simply move on to one of the many other available women. I've seen a number of "players" get put in the hospital over these cases.

@adomede

5 жыл бұрын

paul mooney ppl die because of things like this. Todd is just borderline crazy for putting up this video.

@andrelavandero3041

5 жыл бұрын

paul mooney How bad were they? Sorry for asking.

This objection/condition thing is BS in that situation. First of all, if a girl tells you "I'm meeting my boyfriend IN 5 MINUTES" she probably don't want anything from you, the only thing you could say there is "Alright, can we meet some other time?" And depending on her answer you'll know where you at. On the other hand "I'm meeting my boyfriend this afternoon or later today" she opens a door and only then you can try to solve this "condition" and see where it leads.. I feel like, in this video, Todd is just trying to have an answer to any problem and not able to do so turns the focus of the conversation and his objection/condition theory when in this situation I think the guy has just been rejected for good and should've walked away. Plenty of fish in the sea.

@elgoog-the-third

5 жыл бұрын

Plenty of fish in the sea, but no fish in the sea who want me.

@gabrielonibudo5710

5 жыл бұрын

Did you watch the whole video?

Todd I respect you and most dating coaches advice but for the love of god teaching guys to get women to cheat on their boyfriends by sleeping with you. I get that you may be the "better" option or however you like to frame it in your head. But it's still disgusting. Would you want your girl cheating on you, granted you'll always get to have another but a girl you're good with if she cheated on you because some fucking guy manipulated her into it. Would you be okay with that? This is one of my contentions with the dating industry and why I believe when people say the pua industry is creating sociopaths. People with little to no disregard for how they're affecting the lives of others. Like on the one side it makes people better but on the other hand its shit like this that when used by shit tier men ring things not just for other men but for the women too because those fucking guys are just trying to get with her smash and pass with the justification "if shes gonna cheat with someone may as well be me" maybe I'm to ideal to think that we could not fuck up peoplea relationships ships. 4.6 billion people in the world man. Exponential growth every decade. humans garbage nature to take from other people fucking astounds me. Literally the cause of almost every bad thing in history. And its continually being supported, encouraged and perpetuated. Yes women have the right to sleep with whoever and they're not property. This part of social dynamics is murky at best I personally hate the idea. But dont deny things like this are a two person job. It takes two people to cheat... Its convulated..

@epiram

4 жыл бұрын

if my girl is so weak she sleeps with another guy just cuz hes good with words shes not my girl anymore lol

@rickyticky3350

2 жыл бұрын

@@epiram she did you a favor tho. You don't want a wife like that in the future

@epiram

2 жыл бұрын

@@rickyticky3350 yeah true. Why are women upset at this they do realize they are the ones who can choose whether to cheat or not right

His eyes are dead. Just like his character.

@li6706

5 жыл бұрын

John Doe i notice this too whats up with that??

The worst case was she will call cops or security guard to kick me out from her.... I experieneced several times when I was younger. As an adult, I am afraid to hang out with ladies so that they will respond to me like shoo, I have a bf, fuck off. Even in business, small group meeting, and etc.

Todd, on your texting video you say to ping value in to the void, what are some good examples of that?

@erbyoreste3225

5 жыл бұрын

Funny memes that she can relate to and cocky funny text (eg: I know you miss me so I thought I should say hi lol)

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

It's also NOT a question she has to answer. Think of "pinging into the void" texts like a social media post that doesn't require a response.

Love you Todd❤️

Great video. Ive always noticed objections but never had a way of understanding how to deal with it... girls saying their boring is the most common thing i hear

I usually just move on Been the shoulder to cry on twice Love triangles fucking suck, they're not for me

Todd got the craziest beats on his vids

Moving on when she has a boyfriend is building good karma 😁 Karma exists

Hmmmm ... so what if the 'I have a boyfriend' is an objection to you flirting with her ... yeah I know if she was flirting with you in the first place it's not really an objection but ... I am probably over thinking that one LOL. Anyways good content Todd.

so far i feel like im the only one pointing this out. Have u guys noticed he sells dating advice to men and women? it feels like those people that sell weapons to both sides of a war. (not in a bad way) just in the way that he benifits them either way.

I feel like a piece of shit watching this type of advice, but hey, be ready for everything

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

Monogamy isn't natural for humans. I'd recommend reading the book "Sex At Dawn".

@yeetdeets

5 жыл бұрын

@@stealth797 And then read "Sex at Dusk: Lifting the Shiny Wrapping from Sex at Dawn" to undo the effect of bad pop-science.

@ronaldraygunpew

5 жыл бұрын

nothing wrong with trying to better one self learning the proper intentions and learning to express how we as humans feel inside isnt a bad thing. in this world of zombies and social media learning to connect and draw people in is a good thing. These techniques dont only apply to ONLY women, but to life in general.

@stealth797

5 жыл бұрын

@@yeetdeets 'Sex at Dusk' is trash written by an anonymous writer that has been thoroughly debunked. 'Sex At Dawn' is based on real science with citations from all the peer reviewed studies in the book.

What is Todd saying around the 1:00 mark?

Go todd! Results oriented pickup. No bullshit

Yo guys, women have feelings as well

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

Shhhh it's a secret. We are supposed to suppress those things called emotions

@ryanvtec3885

5 жыл бұрын

Nah woman just want a good man. Men have the deeper feelings.

When you get that email notification Todd posted a video 😍

The things I go through to get laid..jesus christ

I find it funny that Todd has an entire video dedicated to how to game in a way that isn't sleazy or negative, doesn't leave the girl in a worse state than when you met, and let's you feel good and proud of how you game. Then he has videos like this, that are all about trying to pull a girl who's in a relationship. Or that story he told where a girl he was hitting on earlier in the night was making out with a different guy and he walks up, pulls her off the guy and starts making out with her. That kinda stuff is so negative and makes the world such a worse place. Honestly, I'm surprised he hasn't gotten his ass kicked a few times for pulling that kinda crap. I used to really like Todd's videos, but after seeing this side of him more and more, and seeing how he now looks like an unhealthy 48 year old even though he's only 36 (seriously the guy has aged 15 years since this video), I don't really want to game like him anymore.

@havok627

Жыл бұрын

lots of his advice can be used for good, but I'll never believe that a self described PUA isn't a sociopathic sleaze bag

The line every crush I has used :(

I believe that if a girl likes me and is single she will be so excited to go out with me and she won't talk about having a boyfriend. if she tells me she has a boyfriend I'll believe Her and go for the next honest, single girl. I'll friendzone her and go spend an amazing time with other girls. no time for games :)

@MsAggie78

3 жыл бұрын

It's not a game. We say we have a boyfriend because either we HAVE one, or we want him to leave us alone, and he won't unless he thinks we "belong to" another man. You're smart to realize that if we were interested, WE WOULDN'T SAY WE HAD A BOYFRIEND.

Ripping off another man's girl is rather sleazy (and risky)

Hey Todd, What's the best response when a girls says at the end of a date (clearly attracted to me) "It's getting late I gotta go home". Sometimes I never know whether it really is too late for them as some girls do start work early.

@yeetdeets

5 жыл бұрын

Not that experienced myself, but i'd try "Yes, you're right. Lets go." Basically inserting yourself in the "solution" she is suggesting. Like Todd says, women often TELL you how to get them in bed. You just have to listen to what they say, interpret it in an entitled way, and act out that entitlement (obviously within limits). I think this is one of those cases. Consciously misinterpret what they say as a suggestion for what you two should do, make sure she knows you misinterpreted it by saying it out loud, and go with it.