I'm very surprised to hear what she says about cheating. I lived my whole life in France, near Paris. I never, never met a single french that thinks cheating is ok, or is tolerated. Yes, we know it happens. Yes, we admit there can have reasons why someone may come to this... but cheating is still a betrayal. Either Paris is different, or is it the community she lives in which is different, but no, it's not like cheating is tolerated in France as a general consensus at all.

@Pamanudavy-qz1vx

14 күн бұрын

You are surprised because she is talking shit. I quit France years ago, I noticed that when French start talking wirh foreigners, they tend to exaggerate everything. It s crazy. Anyway, I always struggle to get women in France however when they were interested they would naturally commit to a relationship. It could last a week, a month, a year, ten years... who knows. In the UK, I multiplied my bodycount by x10 without efforts. Anglo-saxon dating is easy. It is very superficial, if you take care of yourself and can do small talk, it is easy to pick up women but they won't commit easily. Dating in the UK/US means open relationship until there is commitment, but you can't commit at the beginning..!! So for weeks or months, it is about sleeping around until you find your fit.

@quinnjohnson4690

14 күн бұрын

@@Pamanudavy-qz1vx French guys clean up in Anglo Saxon cultures because you guys are unapologetic about going after what you want and telling a girl you’re interested in her and being sexual. Because of our puritan background and political correctness Anglo-Saxon men can be too polite to make a move or show a girl you desire her. Especially British men. Think French men will walk up to a girl they think is hot on the street and invite her to dinner on the spot. TIn France girls are used to to French men being more sexually aggressive and harassing them lol so they they resist more, Anglo-Saxon girls aren’t use to this type of boldness, that’s why French dudes clean up in Anglo Saxon countries

@PavelQuiteGood

12 күн бұрын

She says it because that's what attracts her.

@Pamanudavy-qz1vx

12 күн бұрын

@@PavelQuiteGood right!! She is projecting

@helioz7255

10 күн бұрын

⁠si t'as galéré en France comment tu sais ptdrrrr, je suis assez d'accord avec elle on est assez libre sur "flirter" on considère pas ça comme tromper

Sometimes as a man not fully pleased with the patriarchy and a bit scared by (pseudo) feminism I find Alice content a bit triggering but insanely spot-on on all of these topics. I am pleased there is at least a person talking about this stuff that doesn’t come off as batshit crazy nor pandering to a male audience. People like her are what we need to change things for the better (and this podcast too).

Cheating should never be tolerated, its absolutely not a latin thing that is completely ridiculous and I come from a latin culture myself but this is just an a societal acceptance for this country not a cultural thing. It is absolutely questional more that people really should really evaluate. I don't think anyone should normalize it.

@artguz5807

4 ай бұрын

No

@vernonstubbs4103

3 ай бұрын

From experience I am going to disagree with you. I did a lot of work in California and New Mexico. The only guys i know who cheated and got caught and there girl stayed with them were Latinos. Not only that they brag about how many times they got caught cheating and are still married. Most likely a lot of it is lies but that is a weird thing to brag about.

@roy_for_real2674

2 ай бұрын

I think polyamory makes sense

@Jamhael1

2 ай бұрын

Well, that is why polyamory should be a point in which both must be straightforward and BRUTALLY HONEST WITH EACHOTHER.

@amdonut8091

2 ай бұрын

Where are you from? Because as a person from the "Latin world" flirting and infidelity is definitely a big, existing, cultural phenomenon. Like even platonic flirting is totally normal and invited. I blame it on our very communal and social society.

Brought a great point about the expectations & flaking, my perspective in how I date is to who would I do the labor of love. There is definitely a culture phenomenon on the ghosting. For me, the few times I ghosted/left when I begin to realize I’m wasting my time. Great conversation!!

Alice has some great things to say!

Surprisingly i discovered by dating japanese that sadly cheating happens a lot there with mistresses etc and many dont even consider prostitution as cheating I was shocked

@toomuchinformation

15 күн бұрын

People have such delusions about Japanese men and women.

As a man I thought this would not appeal to me but it was actually quite interesting. Both of you had some really nice things to say

Alice is an insightful creator, her videos and views on sociology are valid

@Lazerecho

15 күн бұрын

"Valid" such high praise 😂

Flaky means uninterested. Hear the message and the flaky one learns quickly to flake less. 😊❤

In a world of instant gratification, everybody loses. FOMO, constantly discarding the "now" to "monkey branch" to a future that must be "better" on and on until the clock runs out. Selfishness is not the ultimate good. A good start would be to opt out of all social media and get back to the real world.

Repeated similar bad experiences lead people to labeling others. There's a modicum of truth in it.

@user-xg6zz8qs3q

17 күн бұрын

Absolutely. People are so quick to label other people and red flags can be so randomly triggered.

The problem stems as much from those who think they are entitled to everything as it does from those who treat people without basic respect. You should be polite and respectful to others, but no, you are not entitled to anything in life.

Come to Los Angeles, and you'll discover an entirely new level of "flaky"!

Thank you for video ❤listeting to this i am so happy i am married 😂thank god😂

@datingbeyondborderscast

7 ай бұрын

😂

@purplelove3666

5 ай бұрын

God*

Great convo!

I felt the issue was in India only but after this video it seems as universal problem

@datingbeyondborderscast

7 ай бұрын

What do you mean - being flaky?

Very telling that she talks about internalized misogyny and stereotypes (28:30) as on her channel she has a video about passport bros where she criticises the men but gives zero agency to the woman. Everything wrong with the mixed race relationship was purely the fault of the men (They only find western men attractive due to historical power dynamics and whiteness) and the women were nothing more than pretty wallflowers. I found it quite strange that a feminist would have these feelings towards other women, but her comments on this video show it wasn't a one off. Interesting guest.

@IshtarNike

Ай бұрын

She didn't talk about those women from the lens of internalised misogyny because the video was about passport bros not about those women. It would also be quite a take for a white western woman to go around critiquing how poor women in underdeveloped countries live their lives wouldn't it? Yes, they have agency, yes they're have a choice. But their choices are far more limited. Hence why she didn't spend time on it. When you say she gives zero agency to them what is she supposed to say? This "agency critique" of feminist critique is old, tired, and just bad faith to be honest.

@xm7ld

Ай бұрын

She didn't critique the women, because they're not the delusional ones. They KNOW that they are making a material transaction in marrying a Western man. The Western men are the ones who think they are getting True Love and Real Respect from their new wives

@toomuchinformation

23 күн бұрын

​Men are attracted to women in these countries because they espouse traditional gender roles AND they are poorer and want economic security for themselves and their (extended) family.

@toomuchinformation

23 күн бұрын

How is it the fault of the men if the women find them attractive because of historical power dynamics rooted in Whiteness/being a Westerner. The men are attracted to these women precisely for this reason. They NEED them more and so (in their eyes) are less likely to leave.

If flirting's not cheating, then what's cheating ?

@decollector95

2 күн бұрын

sex, duh

Alice def sounds like shes cheated in the past

It's funny how she mentions going back to domesticity/becoming a housewife as if it's this really dark and dangerous path of life to take. And being a housewife is only as isolating as u let it be. If u don't have kids u have tons of free time to do ur hobbies and/or meet with friends/relatives. If u have kids u should be happy to be so involved in their lives and what kind of people they become. You build a much stronger bond with them and it is u who gets to decide how they are raised and not some stranger who babysits them or takes care of them in some kind of kindergarden facility (sorry idk what is the name in english). This also makes the kids receive significantly less attention than they need in these early stages of their life which causes them to seek more attention later on. Most father's biggest regret btw is that they never got to spend enough time with their kids because they were too busy working. When it comes to women and their role in society keep in mind that men's role is ONLY seen as a provider because if we are being honest the vast majority of women would not want a stay at home dad. If a man has no job he is of no use for the society. So women at least have one extra option that is socially acceptable (that of a housewife). If u want to be neither a housewife nor a boss bitch u can just get a regular job and have a stranger as ur boss ordering u around which imho sounds like the worst option considering ur neither strong/independent/rich nor do u live a less stressful and more rewarding life as a housewife. Society needs its members to contribute to it otherwise it starts crumbling. Making friends, doing ur hobbies and whatever makes u happy while great is something u do strictly for yourself and it does not contribute to the society. If it did it would be viable for everyone to just do their thing instead of working. No society would function like that.

@Rainmaker88

7 ай бұрын

@kylesavage4525 No.

@artguz5807

4 ай бұрын

Ooof. Complicated.

@stormmaster108

3 ай бұрын

Don't worry so much about the "contribution to society." There are many ways to contribute beyond employment, and even employment balances itself. (unless it's a society crippled by a planned economy (e.g., USSR) - those are doomed).

@lelz0394

9 күн бұрын

Be a househusband then

What happened in the Czech Republic?

Guys try but they are shot down.Two girls didn't even tell their name. one was tryna make eye contact after not telling her name. Still looking back and back again.one was even in my class.

So why interview a French woman in a relationship about dating? She has not been on the dating scene for a while, she does not have first-hand experience. At least, interview a single woman who is trying to date, ugh

@shushunk00

14 күн бұрын

Sport analysts shouldn't analyse sports ,as they don't play sports😂 Film critics should not critique films ,as they don't create films 😂

She is beautiful!

So do talking to French people allways feel like your getting a lecture on the patriarchy at a liberal arts college?:D

Hello, Thanks for the video.

Idk we try on all we can the one who are superior too in some way. Its just women don't want to date anyone less superior from them financially or acamedically.

@amdonut8091

2 ай бұрын

Then level up. Find a way to do it.

@SahilSharma-ug7xv

2 ай бұрын

@@amdonut8091 leveling up keeps happening over lifetime.its just some women think they are the prize and stuff when they are just normal like anyone else.

@toomuchinformation

23 күн бұрын

​​Because they are. Men do SO much better with a gf/wife in their lives. They benefit emotionally, financially, domestically, married men receive more social status (and money). In fact women help extend men's life expectancy. Men recover from serious illnesses far more quickly when they're married. Women, however are more likely to be LEFT by their husband if they get a serious illness. So you better believe they're the prize and pay up.

@SahilSharma-ug7xv

23 күн бұрын

@@toomuchinformation lol who gets dumped more?

@funbarsolaris2822

18 күн бұрын

@@amdonut8091 Toxic nonsense, are you a woman by any chance? The world doesn't work for men like that. How can men "level up" in a world where there are not enough good jobs to go around, society has become a Ponzi scheme where those that have enough can never fail and those not born into some wealth and security can never win. Women want a man that has many women chasing after him and considered "high status" and reject/look down on men who are struggling to meet girls/women or considered "low status", therefore creating a vicious cycle where most guys almost have no choice (which is why most are single!) as its a "hiring staff, must have 3 years experience" scenario - how can someone start working if every job requires years of experience? It's not possible, and that's the state of a large section of the dating pool. Plus a lot of women are throwing themselves at a tiny fraction of men (deemed "high status" with personalities of dog sht), who spoilt for choice, simply get used to using, abusing and discarding women on a regular basis, these women then go online and complain that men are toxic, lying, abusive, emotionally unavailable, cheating narcissists... but that's just the small % they are selecting. You are simply disregarding all the real problems people face in modern dating most likely because you simply got lucky and didn't have to bear the brunt of the problem

Infidelity / cheating is absolutely not ok in France, wtf

I'm very committed - to non-committment.😮

The point about being flakey is well put! I'm one of the people who is flaky too, and I put it down to a lack of clear transition to adulthood. I never understood what responsibility means, so I don't feel responsible for anyone else except myself. I'm not even sure if this is an ok mindset to have. Eventually though a total breakdown of marriage will lead to pockets of absolute isolation and total liberation, some level of extroversion will be required to be functional. I think we need to radically shift the way babies are born and raised in order to correct this issue as well. Here is my ideal life- I don't marry anyone ever, I want to have children but they are raised by a service where I and my partner meet them at my convenience, all obligations of child raising are taken up by specialty nannies at these services which i pay for (because i still want to pass on my genes). But what happens when I'm old? I hit 60, and then the dating scene ends, I have nobody. Gosh i'm confused.

@belakitajka5741

7 ай бұрын

You must know how immature that sounds. Thats like i want to have a stable job get a salary but i decide when i want to go in and i would have people doing my work instead of me. Which if your the owner of your own company you can do but thats years of nonstop work, networking and a lot of luck, not a path for a lazy, comfort centric person. Life is full of choices with upsides and downsides, and wanting to not choose and trying to have your cake and eat it is the definition of an immature child. I and other people who made a choice would not pay a penny in taxes for people to stay children. :D If i were you id wake up and try to force myself to grow up.

@no.6377

7 ай бұрын

Why do you want children if you don't want to raise them?😂

@belakitajka5741

7 ай бұрын

You should change your youtube name to emotionaloperator:D

@rationaloperator4165

7 ай бұрын

Because i'm not mature enough, and i only like the idea of things.@@no.6377

@angeliquecapito2221

4 ай бұрын

That really sounds like immature.. you want to have children but you let other to raise them by paying them. You’ll end up not being a good gather.

A person justifying cheating runs a channel about relationships, society, and feminism. No, cheating is not okay. What a joke.

You guys just have unrealistic standards make em lil normal

The hard truth about dating in *Country*

Dating in France: french girl just care about hairline

@phillipanselmo8540

14 күн бұрын

so they date the Mediterranean men?

@zdravo2247

14 күн бұрын

@@phillipanselmo8540 if they have a perfect hairline

@Blue-kz3yk

13 күн бұрын

Man with receding hairline got his heart broken by being rejected:

@albertkeller9084

7 күн бұрын

I feel you main. Mine started receding at 17. Pure hell.

The more I learn about dating cultures in various countries, the more I am sure that the only adequate place is Northern Europe (and a few countries like Germany that are culturally and geographically close).

@jeanjacqueslundi3502

2 ай бұрын

Lol really? For me nordic countries are a big red flag. Physical intimacy without emotional intimacy.....serial dating one after the other.....very superficial value system (posessions and nesting are big)...........emotionally constipated cultures.

@geoffoakland

Ай бұрын

​@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 I agree, I have lived in both Denmark and Sweden. Its a shame because there is so much potential there; well educated, beautiful women, cosmopolitan, down to earth, etc..

@hunterthompson6737

15 күн бұрын

@@jeanjacqueslundi3502 it's the same in france tho

@jeanjacqueslundi3502

15 күн бұрын

@@hunterthompson6737 I'm not french.

@MA-gu2up

6 күн бұрын

​@@geoffoakland How did you get to know they are well-educated and down to earth? What did you see that indicated this, if I may ask?

Commitments freak me out

@belakitajka5741

7 ай бұрын

Then the architects of consumer society already got you in the bag. Allways change allways new = a life long costumer who will allways buy our shit as long as he/she thinks its the next best thing to change their lives. If you ask me thats way more freaky.

@artguz5807

4 ай бұрын

That's a litrle sad

@toomuchinformation

23 күн бұрын

Check out the song "My Prerogative" by Bobby Brown. It suits you down to the ground.

@tintintin534

23 күн бұрын

@@toomuchinformation you enjoy the song :)

@toomuchinformation

23 күн бұрын

@@tintintin534 I already have......

She is the problem

@en2336

7 ай бұрын

What do you mean?

@conanobrian8580

7 ай бұрын

@@en2336 she is the objective to happiness w a partner

What stats? From what study? The girl makes wrong life choices on who she decided to date and all by magic everyone is flaky.

@mrsushicut

13 күн бұрын

It's Always like that, they date some shady shitty Guy, they get their heartbroken and poof all of a sudden all men are trash

@trash3570

6 күн бұрын

Less than 50% of people in france found infidelity as unacceptable. 2013 Pew Research Centre

@puccaland

6 күн бұрын

@@trash3570 Pew Research often publishes ridiculous polls. That's why I asked about the methodology and sample used. Anyway that's the 1st thing to look when reading any stat.

@puccaland

6 күн бұрын

@@trash3570 Moreover finding infidelity unacceptable or acceptable doesn't mean the same thing. If less than 50% find infedility unacceptable it doesn't mean that the other part find infidelity acceptable or that they would be unfaithful to their partners. That's very important to read the details in polls.

This video was only interesting in parts; most of video was about culture differences and not much about dating.

@user-xg6zz8qs3q

16 күн бұрын

There’s not much to say when you have been on few dates. This seems to be the case with the people in this conversation.

Again... confidently saying something doesn't make it true...

1:13:40 she lost me at make friends. yes it is cool to have friends but that is just displacing your happiness to depend on whos around you to pump you up where as you should be pumping up yourself and attract friends. not seek them all desperate.

@user-oj7uc8tw9r

3 ай бұрын

Pumping yourself up just makes you look arrogant. How in the world is focusing on yourself going to train you to get friends when yourself is all you care about? I think its a balance, and it doesnt make you desperate if you want friends. I feel like this ultra selfish nature is the most damaging thing about people.

A 56:36 French thing

of course French should be white

@ahbe9232

9 күн бұрын

and those who aren't wh1te are just "french" on paper, I agree France is a culture, an history, values

@shinwaramin8582

9 күн бұрын

@@ahbe9232 they should not create children until they go extinct

@decollector95

2 күн бұрын

@@ahbe9232 you will NEVER hear a japanese or korean person say something similar

29:11 Alice claims that men are looking for fragile women because they want to feel superior? Not only false but way wierd bizarre take. So for example while I do see being petite an added bonus because there is something femine about it, I don't see that as something that makes me superior and thus her inferior. I also certainly don't feel Feeling superior to a woman has absolutely no bearing on how attracted I am to her.

@user-wj6dt5bq3w

2 ай бұрын

Her brain has been destroyed by feminism, I unsubscribed to her. At first, I felt she might be a real thinker but I was wrong. She is anti-male to the core.

@kerryh3833

21 күн бұрын

In a place with strong patriarchy, I am not surprised that people like she mentions, exists. I'm a Brit in France and for sure I've been looked down on by many man like it's 1950s and I should just shut up and serve.