The Gay Agenda, Making Music vs Acting & Nonbinary Trailblazing with E.R. FIGHTMASTER | SHE/HER/THEY

E.R. FIGHTMASTER joins me this week for a god damn DOOZY of an episode. They're intimidatingly cool and good at basically everything. We packed in an absurd amount of topics so buckle up. We get into new music they just dropped (which is FAB), the SAG/WGA strike they're on, the difference between acting & making music, why the WNBA is superior, trailblazing for nonbinary folks in TV/Film, reclaiming "DYKE" as an identity, why you couldn't pay either of us to be straight, queer breakup trauma, and how resisting change just makes you a grumpy loser when you're older :) ENJOY IT OKAY? OK.
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Since language around gender/sexuality/identity is limited, nuanced, and ever evolving, some of the terms used here may become outdated. Please know our intention in this space is to be inclusive and validating of all marginalized identities. KITTENS is committed to learning the most appropriate terminology along with her guests, but just incase anyone gets it wrong...we apologize in advance and promise to do our best to stay on top if it. xo
CHAPTERS
00:00 Welcome back:)
04:06 Thank God your music is good
08:06 Music vs Acting (A Return To Self)
13:56 Women’s Sports is Superior
21:50 Womens Studies majors = Frat Bros..in a good way
25:26 Decolonizing Identity
31:50 Embracing change and expanding your mind is hot
41:46 Nothing rocks your world like a queer breakup
46:38 Dyke vs Fagette vs Lesbian
56:26 Nonbinary babes in media
00:01:06 Dream Zone

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  • @twinklestar02
    @twinklestar0210 ай бұрын

    I’m from Berlin and in Germany we use in queer/leftist spaces the term FLINTA*, which in German translates to Women/Femmes, Inter, Nonbinary, Trans and Agender (basically everyone but cis men). We have whole parties for FLINTA* only :) the term is also starting to be established in casual conversations to describe this group :)

  • @micaelabrinsley8618
    @micaelabrinsley861810 ай бұрын

    'if you can look at life as this constant project of growth, it's so much more enriching than looking at life as a series of humiliations in your fight to be the most right when you die' - yesssssss - also feel this would be a fab merch idea for the back of a sweatshirt or smtg👀

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    TRULY

  • @MichyPanicky
    @MichyPanicky10 ай бұрын

    Great interview. Have to say, since discovering E.R as a human being that roams this earth possessing an unfathomable amount of talent my brain has been pried open to things/subjects that used to maybe cross my mind once in a while. Even though I'm not part of the queer community, but as someone in medicine I've always understood the importance of language when it comes to treating people, especially those in the queer community because I educate myself and put in the work. Listening to the views and perspectives of those in the community has helped me immensely with patients because I never want someone who is entrusting their health to me to feel uncomfortable. And it's definitely about decolonizing/unlearning things that have been woven into the fabric of our lives since we are born and taken as carved in stone growing up. I always tell people who resist change that change is one of the few things we can count on in life. Human beings are ever evolving and you need to be willing to do the work to accept that some people just do not share your point of view or values and that that's ok but that respecting one’s believes/values/perspective/emotions is the minimum you can do because at the end of the day how other people lives their lives and who they choose to love does not affect your life. I feel like today everything is so hyperpolarizing, people are living in the extremes instead of seeing the beauty that lies in the middle: where growth, communication and a whole spectrum of emotions live and flourish. Representation is so important, especially for the younger people (I too am old since apparently being in your 30s is ancient these days ) and I'm happy to see more role models take up space in social media and the arts being unapologetically themselves, it gives me hope for the future.

  • @kryptoniteKJ

    @kryptoniteKJ

    9 ай бұрын

    Thank you for serving the community as a medical professional (especially as an ally also).

  • @meg.87
    @meg.8710 ай бұрын

    Love them so much! Really enjoyed this interview 👏 they are so wise and love listening to what they have to say. Always learn something new when they talk!

  • @carrieblack8760
    @carrieblack876010 ай бұрын

    I love this. Learning is powerful. I love being aware. I love knowing who I am. Thank you both. You are so intelligent. You rock!

  • @carlaclark7349
    @carlaclark734910 ай бұрын

    omg I have just found your show and I love it. thank you so much

  • @justinepecquet9534
    @justinepecquet953410 ай бұрын

    Hi from Belgium, i discovered your youtube channel with this video, thanks for it, i learned so much, so great to have these subjects adressed with a clear discussion and no judgement at all it gives a more faith in humanity (sorry for my poor english ;) ) i'm now curious to discover all your prior videos.

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    Aw I’m so happy to hear that! Welcome and thank uuyu

  • @Nsjsoona
    @Nsjsoona10 ай бұрын

    I would love if you brought a women´s football player, like leah williamson, caitlin foord etc

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    Definitely on my dream list!

  • @KristinCerda
    @KristinCerda10 ай бұрын

    The nuance in this convo🔥

  • @miraaa19
    @miraaa199 ай бұрын

    In Germany we've got an acronym that kind of describes what you were talking about: FLINTA*. It stands for Frauen (women/females), Lesbians, Intersex people, Nonbinary people, Trans people, Agender people and the asterix for other minority genders. So basically everyone except for cis dudes.

  • @mitzygarcia2005
    @mitzygarcia200510 ай бұрын

    This is amazingggg

  • @rNeyshabur
    @rNeyshabur9 ай бұрын

    Holy shit that was awesome!!

  • @mayqhss
    @mayqhss10 ай бұрын

    thank you for doing gods work

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    AT YOUR SERVICE🫡💕

  • @gunselshaly537
    @gunselshaly53710 ай бұрын

    I've followed them since Skrill, but avoided their music out of fear that it would be shit until they performed on Gaze And Flatter Me. They don't suck. They're great.

  • @Eyeswide39Open

    @Eyeswide39Open

    10 ай бұрын

    *Shrill To this day, I am PRAYING that it will come back! Truly an amazing cast.

  • @90sDRgirl
    @90sDRgirl10 ай бұрын

    I loved this interaction so educational ❤🌈🌈

  • @winooskiwinter4357
    @winooskiwinter435710 ай бұрын

    women's studies majors UNITE

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    We are BONDED

  • @puckygirl14
    @puckygirl149 ай бұрын

    Im waiting for the day E.R. discovers womens rugby 😂

  • @itsrere13
    @itsrere1310 ай бұрын

    Sue Bird next?

  • @Neo.Jordon
    @Neo.Jordon10 ай бұрын

    28:00 You dont have to add a bunch of intersectionality labels to know yourself

  • @mirandas7690
    @mirandas769010 ай бұрын

    “Shit can get crazy.” “You’re talking about a richness of life.” 🤌🏻😂

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    Lollll

  • @Neo.Jordon
    @Neo.Jordon10 ай бұрын

    53:00 The word you're looking for is "female", but they dont want to use that because it might hurt someones feelings. This is exacly why words and definitions matter.

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    If thats the word I was looking for I would have used it. This is exactly why language grows. So we don't have to use terms for things that don't fit what we mean.

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    You're clearly having a hard time with this subject matter and it's upsetting you. Hope you can take some time to reflect on why you're so bothered by people's identities that don't fit rigid molds that at some point...someone else made up.

  • @Neo.Jordon

    @Neo.Jordon

    10 ай бұрын

    @@iamKITTENS you're the one who doesn't like the updated definition of lesbian 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @MichyPanicky

    @MichyPanicky

    10 ай бұрын

    Great interview. Have to say, since discovering E.R as a human being that roams this earth possessing an unfathomable amount of talent my brain has been pried open to things/subjects that used to maybe cross my mind once in a while. Even though I’m not part of the queer community as someone in medicine I’ve always understood the importance of language when it comes to treating people, especially those in the queer community because I educate myself and put in the work. Listening to the views and perspectives of those in the community has helped me immensely with patients because I never want someone who is entrusting their health to me to feel uncomfortable. And it’s definitely about decolonizing/unlearning things that have been woven into the fabric of our lives since we are born and taken as carved in stone growing up. I always tell people who resist change that change is one of the few things we can count on in life. Human beings are ever evolving and you need to be willing to do the work to accept that some people just do not share your point of view or values and that that’s ok. I feel like today everything is so hyperpolarizing, people are living in the extremes instead of seeing the beauty that lies in the middle; where growth, communication and a whole spectrum of emotions live and flourish. Representation is so important, especially for the younger people (I too am old since apparently being in your 30s is ancient these days 😂) and I’m happy to see more role models take up space in social media and the arts being unapologetically themselves, it gives me hope for the future.

  • @iamKITTENS

    @iamKITTENS

    10 ай бұрын

    @@MichyPanicky beautifully written ♥️ thank you so much for sharing and making such an effort to be supportive of others

  • @bastetowl3258
    @bastetowl32588 ай бұрын

    there’s no such thing as non-binary. just women and men with different personalities and personal styles. liking sports or wearing suits doesn’t make you something in between

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