Great podcast! I had to take voicemails to my therapist because i couldn't say anything "bad" about my ex (who also was a therapist) because he had me trained so well. When she listened to his long, angry and rambling voicemails where he degraded me and lifted himself up she told me he was a perfectionist, narcissist and likely sociopath (then she told me not to share that with him as she was afraid of repercussions since they moved in the same circles)

@user-jm3lo5po1m

7 күн бұрын

That's crazy :0 hopefully your in a better place now 😊

@Globaldave1970

2 күн бұрын

Wow, long, angry and rambling voice mails? How long did you put up with that shit?

59 yr old woman first time watching Bombshells! Millionth time toc richard 😂

Love Richard. He is wonderful

The girls faces watching their minds ticking 😂😂😂

I learned a lot from this. Thank you. Mr. Grannon has a new fan.

I briefly dated a narcissist and thank God I figured him out very early on. I don’t want to date an emotionally unavailable and indifferent man and that’s why I ended it. Any woman that wants that needs to do the psychological work on herself and heal from childhood trauma as wanting a man like that usually stems from parental abuse/neglect. If you’re a healthy woman you treat yourself with love, respect and kindness and that’s how we expect to be treated also, not jumping through hoops and mind games, no thank you I’ll pass.

You waste time trying to fix someone else over fixing yourself, which is you dodging your problems. Work on respecting yourself and being an adult and holding yourself accountable. You are responsible for how you are treated and how you treat other's. One thing I don't agree with is the narcisisst is stronger or more interesting because it is fake and you definitely won't end up with a warrior, or on the other hand an amazing mother for your children.

@LovingLightx

Күн бұрын

I totally agree it all starts with healing ourselves and becoming better versions. If you want mind games, emotional abuse and indifference then dating a narcissist is an ideal partner. Definitely the narcissist is not stronger or more interesting, they are very insecure and boring once the love bombing wears off. Being with someone who has done the work and still learning, someone authentic is so much better and more rewarding.

~Hi. Great! Thanks for this. To one who knows, the explanations are understandable. To one who does not, no explanation is energetically understood.

No, Richard, your body isn't screaming that. Women are not after tough hard warriors. We just want decent men who treat us as if we're equal human beings.

@MrDanielvass

5 сағат бұрын

YOU are. But the reality is that the worst of the worst - serial killers. Jeffrey Dahmer, gets an army of obsessive female fans. They get constant marriage proposals. The badder the bad boy, the more attention.

@annal2740

5 сағат бұрын

@@MrDanielvass I think you've misunderstood the difference between some women, and women in general.

🎯 Key points for quick navigation: 00:00 *🧬 Richard Grannon suggests that biological and genetic factors make certain narcissistic traits in men attractive to women, as these traits signal the survivability and strength desirable for offspring.* 00:58 *🌍 Grannon shares his travel experiences and his preference for minimal visits to London, emphasizing his connection to other locations like Liverpool and Spain.* 02:49 *📘 Grannon discusses his work focused on helping clients overcome the effects of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and abuse from narcissistic, psychopathic, and borderline personality disorders.* 03:31 *🌟 He finds positivity in his challenging work, exploring the darker aspectsof human behavior and the benefits that arise from addressing them.* 04:28 *🧠 Grannon explains his background in self-defense and psychology, leading him to specialize in addressing psychological issues through his training programs.* 05:24 *💬 He reflects on the unexpected shift in his audience demographics over time, from predominantly male to female, and the viral success of his video on being the daughter of a narcissistic mother.* 07:03 *🔗 Discusses the psychological tendency to seek familiar patterns in relationships, even if abusive, as a way to resolve unresolved childhood issues.* 09:18 *🗣️ Grannon highlights the different vulnerabilities men and women have to narcissistic abuse, influenced by gender-specific psychological traits.* 12:34 *🧲 He theorizes on the biological attraction women have to men with psychopathic traits, perceived as high-value and capable of ensuring offspring survival.* 14:23 *🔄 Explores the complex interplay of attraction dynamics during different phases of a woman's menstrual cycle, affecting mate selection based on perceived genetic benefits.* 19:52 *📢 Grannon advocates for open discussion and debate on gender differences and psychological drives, challenging the suppression of such conversations in contemporary social movements.* 23:00 *🎭 Richard Grannon critiques the weaponization of ideologies across the political spectrum, noting that any group suppressing open debate is problematic, regardless of their political orientation.* 24:09 *🎲 Grannon describes how narcissists may use therapy manipulatively, adopting therapeutic language to dominate others and mask their own issues.* 25:17 *✝️ He extends the discussion to religious manipulation, drawing parallels between how some individuals use religion and therapy for personal gain rather than genuine improvement.* 26:14 *🗣️ Grannon laments the misuse of psychological terms like "narcissist" and "gaslighting" in popular culture, which diminishes their clinical significance and transforms them into casual insults.* 27:11 *🚫 He criticizes the modern radical left's tendency to suppress natural human behaviors, suggesting that such actions are almost anti-human and likening them to a "death cult."* 28:31 *🔄 Discusses the hypocrisy observed in individuals who publicly advocate for certain ideologies or behaviors while privately acting contrary to those very beliefs.* 29:29 *⚖️ Grannon asserts that the misuse of power and ideological control reflects traits of narcissistic psychopathy, where individuals demand others conform to their ideological beliefs for personal power, often hypocritically.* 34:00 *🌍 He speculates on the persistence and possible decline of "woke" ideology, suggesting that natural societal corrections might eventually reduce its influence.* 35:21 *📚 Grannon differentiates between classic liberals and social liberals, emphasizing the importance of equality of opportunity over equality of outcome, which he views as detrimental.* 36:01 *🌐 He notes that "woke" culture is a luxury belief system that isn’t prevalent in less affluent or non-Western societies, suggesting its sustainability is tied to societal wealth and privilege.* 46:23 *🚩 Richard Grannon warns against partners who probe deeply into one's past traumas early in the relationship, as it could be a tactic to manipulate vulnerabilities later.* 48:06 *📚 Grannon explains narcissistic abuse as an attachment to a grandiose, delusional self-image, warning that individuals who resist any challenge to their self-view likely exhibit narcissistic traits.* 49:41 *🎭 He highlights the serious nature of true Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), describing it as a constant, severe detachment from reality.* 50:38 *🔄 Discusses how the response to challenges in relationships can indicate narcissistic tendencies; disproportionate anger or defensiveness is a red flag.* 52:42 *🌶️ Shares a personal anecdote to illustrate irrational narcissistic rage over trivial matters, like a disagreement over condiments, which escalates to personal attacks.* 54:32 *❓ Grannon debates whether a true disorder must involve personal suffering, suggesting that narcissists may not feel traditional distress but suffer when deprived of attention or admiration.* 56:08 *🤐 He notes that narcissists may apologize, but their apologies are often performative and not indicative of genuine remorse or intent to change behavior.* 58:09 *🔄 Observes that narcissism appears equally among men and women, challenging past beliefs that it was predominantly a male trait.* 01:01 :35 *🌐 Grannon argues that modern culture's rejection of boundaries, impulse control, and shame promotes narcissistic behaviors, as it removes consequences for selfish or destructive actions.* 01:07 :10 *✝️ Reflects on the role of religious belief in curbing narcissistic tendencies by fostering a cycle of recognition, confession, repentance, and continual moral vigilance.* 01:08 :49 *🔄 Richard Grannon explains that religious narcissists may feign repentance for their actions but often lack genuine intent to change, continuing to judge others harshly.* 01:09 :33 *🎭 He discusses how narcissists manage perceptions through simulations, constantly adjusting their behavior based on how they believe they are viewed by others.* 01:10 :01 *👁️ Grannon notes that narcissists often dissociate during conversations, as they are overly preoccupied with managing external perceptions of themselves.* 01:10 :26 *📱 He asserts that social media platforms, which encourage the display of a grandiose self-image, likely exacerbate narcissistic behaviors.* 01:11 :08 *🎭 The conversation highlights the performative nature of vulnerability on social media, suggesting that even posts about personal trauma are often crafted for likes, rather than genuine sharing.* 01:12 :12 *💰 Grannon criticizes the commodification of trauma, where influencers monetize their supposed vulnerability through partnerships with mental health services like BetterHelp.* 01:13 :35 *📲 Discusses the detrimental effects of dating apps on self-perception, arguing that these platforms encourage users to commodify themselves, leading to a damaging self-view.* 01:15 :11 *🔄 He reflects on the spectrum between the sacred and the profane, suggesting that spiritual fulfillment can lead to a healthier, more contented state of being compared to materialistic pursuits.* 01:17 :28 *🎨 Grannon links suffering and artistic endeavor, discussing how personal hardships can drive creative expression.* 01:18 :24 *🌟 Announces his focus on producing more optimistic and uplifting content on his KZread channel to help viewers find a better balance in life.* Made with HARPA AI

Richy invented himself as an expert on narcissism. He continues to get into narcissistic relationships. You wouldn't ask a drinking alcoholic to help you with your drinking problem.

@DA-ee1xi

7 күн бұрын

Or maybe you would, seeing has he has first hand experiences and understands all the pitfalls and his own weaknesses that led him there. Narcissists don't turn up with a calling card announcing the colour. It takes time to spot them.

@narcsurvivors2445

7 күн бұрын

@@DA-ee1xi if that was the case then he wouldn't keep doing it would he .

@ChumpanZees

4 күн бұрын

​@@narcsurvivors2445 how do you know that he has kept getting into narc relationships since he started doing content?

@mathews0618

4 күн бұрын

Dont you get a sponsor in AA? So alcoholics are the best people to help with a drinking problem. Richard still deals with the fantasy of being loved as a child. Finally being seen. Npd fills that for a while. Its a tough addiction to break

@narcsurvivors2445

4 күн бұрын

@@mathews0618 Yes you are exactly right. I have been in AA for over 20 years and yes you get a sponsor but only a person that has a proven track record of sobriety. So thank you for reinforcing my point. I used to listen to Richard's KZread videos but when I started to hear him say that he thought he was the first to coin phrases or statements about narcissism I could see that he was losing the plot and has become really quite deluded . I find what he puts out nowadays quite uninteresting, repetitive and self aggrandising or agGrannondising more accurately 😂 .

It seems narcissist is a word fir not getting what we want from others .

43:00 core of narcissistic relationship. Dual, shared fantasy, covert contract. Main takeaway from the podcast.

I am not dating anyone. Why am I receiving this video. Going to get coffee a man offered to buy coffee platonic. Talking is platonic. No one has asked me out to date.

When are you guys gonna have Penny & Liz on your show?

There are a number of these videos. It's a big topic lately, and isn't it just more than a little obvious that the videos are made in glass houses?

I have to be honest, I came here to listen to the talk, but I stayed here because I couldn't stop staring at the gorgeous blonde bombshell that is Amy Shepherd, wow!

this is very tedious

@michaelsanchez8457

2 күн бұрын

Increase playback speed perhaps