I don't think the natural hair movement failed black women. Black women continue to fail ourselves. Because of colorism, texturism, european standards of beauty, and all the other isms, we conditioned our hair, but we did not RE-condition our minds. You can't undo centuries of conditioning and oppression in a decade. The movement doesn't have a long way to go, WE have a long way to go.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

This right here! 🤌🏾 Well said SheRea, well said!!

@victorybeginsinthegarden

Жыл бұрын

As a viewer of both your channels I am a little offended by this sentiment. It's like my support is not good enough for you so your are going to sh*t on black women. It is just hair people. What did you want to come of this movement anyway for everyone to become millionaires. It started a conversation people learned about their hair we got better products on the market. There are more black owned women owned brands in stores. Please adjust your mindset.

@SheReaDelSol

Жыл бұрын

@@victorybeginsinthegarden Not sure how you misunderstood what I said, but here we are. My point is exactly what you said, that the movement did not fail. That doesn't change the fact that black women have work to do towards self-love. That's not sh*tting on black women. That's recognizing that we have deep rooted issues WE ALL have to address.

@victorybeginsinthegarden

Жыл бұрын

@@SheReaDelSol to say black women continue to fail ourselves is offensive. Speak for yourself. Like I said I support both your channels and like your content but hair is not a sign of success or failure. It a bit shallow to me

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

@@victorybeginsinthegarden I agree that hair is not a sign of success or failure - that was the point of this video. I believe her point is that the issue is much deeper than hair and we as Black people have a lot of healing to do regarding colorism, texturism, and featurism. Perhaps you would feel better if she didn’t make a blanket statement such as “black women?”. It’s evident in this comment section that there is a very large amount of women who have overcame many of the system oppressions that caused us to dislike our natural hair. I won’t speak for SheRea, but I personally have a split mindset. On one hand it’s “just hair” and we should be free of such high expectations of what we should do with it. However, it can be difficult to live in that mindset 100 percent of the time when society constantly reminds you that you’re “supposed” to hate it. Kind of like simply existing as a Black woman in America. Sometimes hate just swings your way while you were minding your business, you know? Regarding semantics, I don’t believe she meant it in the way you received it. However, the way you received it has validity and I can respect that. Note taken.

Honestly I don’t pay attention to what people have to say about natural hair online. I came here to learn how to care for and style my hair that’s it! Period. All that other stuff is a bunch of random peoples opinions. People can do what they want. I decide on how I want my hair to look

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

👏🏾 I agree. There’s way too much noise about what people “should” be doing. Too much scrutiny! I say, live your life, do what makes you happy, and mind your own hair. ☺️

@zacharydrake156

Жыл бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair period 🥰

@belindasanders1719

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@emptynester547

Жыл бұрын

Yes, your so right ‼️. Be blessed ❤

@juliemayfield7598

Жыл бұрын

Yep

Yes I'm tired, but this journey has also been freeing for me. The other day I actually sat in the middle of my bed and put my hair in chunky twist while watching a movie...no mirror, no straight parts, no nothing. I pinned the twists down with some bobby pins and went out in public and...lo and behold...several people told me how cute my hair was. Like I actually got compliments on my 4c hair. I was like...seriously?? The one time I barely put in any effort and just let my hair be everybody likes it? So I feel free now because I finally learned that I can look my best just letting my hair be itself. I think it also makes a difference that I don't care what people think anymore so I'm comfortable going out with my 4c hair in a way I NEVER would have done before. Thank you for helping to "normalize" our 4c hair being worn in its natural state instead of always overmanipulating it!

@dineshakim6526

Жыл бұрын

This!!! It’s so freeing and amazing that My hair doesn’t have me trapped anymore!! Worse case scenario I put this 4c in a puff, put on earrings and go…and still look BEAUTIFUL!!

@yvonnemakori9869

Жыл бұрын

Me too ..I put 3 chunky twist pinned down and got too many compliments

For me the natural hair community gave me a place to learn about me when I decided to go natural...I did a big chop and started taking care of my hair...I learnt everything from youtube!!!!!To twist, braid, flat twist, natural hairstyles all of it.3 years later, I wear my natural hair everywhere, to special occasions, internships, workshops, meetings, family gatherings all of it. Going natural made me fall in love with me..embace all of me. The movement has impacted my friends my family in embacing their natural hair as well. The natural hair movement has had its failures( the texturism and definition pressure almost made me give up!!)..but I feel like it also had its impactful and positive moments as well.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I highlighted a lot of the negatives and pitfalls, but we as a people have done an incredible job so far. Ultimately, it’s up to each individual person to do the work themselves. Hair videos can only go so far. I love that you shared your positive experience. Thank you!!

@cheryls.booker3336

Жыл бұрын

My sentiments exactly.

@MatNch

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@simoneb208

Жыл бұрын

Amen

Can we say a thank you to the natural hair movement

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

This video was heavy on the negatives because it was a response to another KZreadrs video. This is a longer topic I’ve recorded multiple videos about. I’m happy to say I was one of the women who helped push the movement along on KZread in the early 2010s. I’m very proud of the work we’ve done in helping other naturals learn about their hair. I feel genuine joy when I see other women proudly showcasing their hair. So yes, we can definitely say thank you. ❤️

@victorybeginsinthegarden

Жыл бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair let get a video about the good things about the natural hair movement and how it has improved your life. The algorithm is built on outrage and negative thoughts but we have to fight harder to reverse it

I’m still trying to figure out where the “European Features” Latoya says she has…are. I think she has a “black nose”, “black lips.” I think she is underestimating how much her great, and bubbly personality played in people enjoying her natural hair channel. Also, all of the nice hairstyles that she showcased on her 4C hair. I think the video was well intentioned, just some leaps in logic IMO.

@MoniMeka

11 ай бұрын

Yeah, I was like 🤔 when she said that.

@laurendaley7981

9 ай бұрын

I was about to comment the same....like hunny you have a black woman's features, nothing wrong with that. The colorism/featurism argument does NOT apply to her.

Another thing, as a 4c hair I'm OVER the texturism talk. IDGAF this is not someone else's job to make BW with 4c hair love themselves. If 3 type hair girls get more views 99% of the time its black folks themselves who give them those views then boohoo about it. The majority of black people is 4c, if they wanted a viral 4c queen we would have had it a long time ago. Nobody could stop this in the age of social media. I was natural 95% of my life and wore dreads for years (recently straightened my hair cuz I wanted a change). That never stopped me from having friends, working for big companies, dating hot dudes at that. Yall need to stop playing, spending more time complaining about Zendaya getting a role because of her skin tone or bashing Blue Ivy's hair 10 years ago, than celebrating Solange's hair and Lupita's career. Exhausting.

@MissNolver

11 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

It's the idea that if you can't get super defined curls, grow hair to a certain length that you FAILED at being a natural that is troublesome. You said it right: max definition and length (which often appeals to Euro standards) should not be the goal.

I think what’s exhausting is that everything in our community has to be a movement. 🙄. Even when this was supposed to be positive and fun (because as women we love to change up our look) to learn how to care for your natural hair, people took all the fun out of it with rules, do’s and dont’s, etc. I went natural because my hair couldn’t take relaxers any longer and they weren’t safe. Luckily for me I have an aunt that’s a retired cosmologist and, after laughing at some of these videos on all these “rules” basically explained basic hair care; it wasn’t that deep. Now that I am older, that is my motto for a lot of stuff these days…it ain’t that deep. Just enjoy the journey!

@RJ-dd4lj

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, well said!!

@unitybull7985

Жыл бұрын

👌🏾

@kristin8270

Жыл бұрын

Love this!

@misstwists

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! I read the title and thought "is it really a movement wearing the hair that grows out of your head!" It really isn't that deep as you said.

@tiahnarodriguez3809

Жыл бұрын

@@misstwists On one hand it is because our ancestors had to hide their hair due to tignon law, and before the crown act it was legal for bosses to tell us our hair was unprofessional, but on the other hand we have come so far with our hair, and have access to more products and hair care knowledge than we ever had access to that “it really isn’t that deep” is something I think more of use need to embody because we live in a different era, and it’s time we move forward.

Also, what no one wants to admit is that texturism plays the MAIN protagonist in the natural hair community. Even “4c” girls that do braid outs and twist outs often times wish to achieve/imitate the “type 3” curl patterns. We have established longevity and foundation within our phenotype as BW; but we still have a long way to go in terms of really loving ourselves(inside and out.)

@maryclarke4208

Жыл бұрын

Preach!

@frankiedhampton6658

Жыл бұрын

That’s it right there! Absolutely right. So busy trying to achieve the 3b/c look instead of just working with what you have and being proud and happy.

@cherrydivine8003

Жыл бұрын

That may be true, but sometimes people do braid out and twist outs to stretch their hair. My hair is passed arm pit length approaching bra strap length and keeping my hair stretched was a game changer for me. 🤷🏿‍♀️

@tantig5923

Жыл бұрын

❤This is what I have always said was my revelation, During the Natural Hair Revolution, I didn’t mind having 4z hair. I just wanted it to have the “texture” of 3c with a defined curl pattern. It was Not happening. I learned to love my 4z, from edges, nape, to the top of my head. It’s me❤ I learn to “love” this black woman.

@Autumn938

11 ай бұрын

@@tantig5923Self-love; now that’s the true goal!

Context is key: I want to address when I said, “I have some features that some people would say are closer to European features.” What I meant is people would TELL ME THAT as a child because my nose is a little more narrow. I’m also one of the lightest in my family so that would get pointed out as well. It was incredibly annoying to me tbh. I personally am proud to be and look Black - PERIOD. WE ARE NOT A MONOLITH! Just look at Africa for Pete’s Sake! My point was to highlight colorism and featurism in the Black community using myself as an example. However, context is key and I didn’t provide that, so I guess that’s why some people were triggered? It’s becoming more and more difficult to have conversations online that aren’t all bubblegum and fluff. These are real issues and some of us focus on details that just…never mind. I’m tired. PART TWO: kzread.info/dash/bejne/aad1trOAh5mun9o.html

@natural7ly694

Жыл бұрын

It's alright Sis People feel the same way about their responses Each person has an opinion or view It's alright to express it Views will not always be sweet and rosy either Keep posting and sharing You are doing a great job, and I, for one, enjoyed hearing your perspective You will never be able to please everyone I once almost got my head bit off (figuritively speaking) for describing someone as dark skinned The other person did not consider that person to be dark skinned I simply said that I loved them person's beautiful, dark, chocolate skin! The girl was like, "WHAAAAT??!! That's not dark!" I was like, "Ok" I also have a friend who swears she is NOT light skinned She is about 2 shades lighter than you are People just view things differently I learned, a long time ago, to just respect people's opinions, and hope they respect mine If people respond rudely to your perspectives, keep moving forward! 🤸🏽‍♂️💃🏽💕

@Babyluv_

Жыл бұрын

No one need to explain. What you said in the video made sense.

@4cberry

Жыл бұрын

The context in which u said it made perfect sense to me. But I guess people will always take away what they wanna take away. Keep doing what u do,girl. Learning a lot from your channel😍😍

@whoknew1893

Жыл бұрын

You don't need to apologize.. you look arab.. you just have more melanin.... Semitic people means semi.. mixture ...

@neoagegirlthemaverick7468

Жыл бұрын

LaToya does it again! I love 💕 your perspectives and honesty when talking about not only your hair but the natural hair community. And in my opinion you are usually pointing out the obvious patterns and cultural doings that we all know is there and most have taken apart in if we just stopped for a genuine moment and reflected on. I don’t understand why people are so offended when others have the agency to critically think and analyze a situation or topic. What makes your take all the more creditable is that you also look at yourself and see how you are/can be seen and acknowledge that. Then talk about it’s advantages and disadvantage to you and in your videos which have logistics via social media. And with those logistics we can see overlapping patterns. You eloquently spoke, clearly addressed each talking point and gave examples, without directly attacking anyone or purposely trying to bring the community down. Your were just addressing a very important topic, that many agree with (myself included) need to be understood for the betterment of poc hair and mental health. I truly don’t understand how someone can be triggered or offended by this unless they are self projecting and don’t want to feel guilty about feeding into the more unsavory side of the natural hair community...but that is just my thoughts on the matter. Good work, love the vid, you looked dazzling and background wall color and art ✨ a vibe.

ma'am, you are in no way lighter skinned, mixed looking, nor do you have ANY European features. I am so genuinely perplexed as to why you would say that. You look like the average black woman in America and that's okay! Black is beautiful.

@kay-tee335

Жыл бұрын

I thought the same damn thing smh

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Oh I personally think I look a bit Ethiopian. I should have clarified that these are the things I’ve heard being said about and to me my whole life. I’m very happy to look like the “average” Black woman in America to some as well. I don’t really care lol!

@MzVagabond

Жыл бұрын

LMAO she's not saying she looks like Rose McGowan. You're being disingenuous if you want to act like there aren't women with very dark complexions in America that Latoya is clearly lighter than

@Chi_di

Жыл бұрын

@@MzVagabond Did I say that? Of course there are women that she's lighter than. But most black women in America are not much darker than she is. I would never see her in a group of black American woman and think to myself that she deviates in any significant way.

@Chi_di

Жыл бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair We went from Europe to East Africa. Which one? Ultimately I think the vast majority of people would categorize you as a normal black looking person. Lmao like this is such an awkward conversation to even have. I was listening to this video without looking at the screen only to see the person speaking and I just became so confused as I was expecting to see someone who looked completely different.

Great video sis. The natural hair definitely has not failed. It’s still going and growing 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Darn right, sis! 🙌🏾

I just wish everyone would just respect whatever decisions people make with their hair. If it’s not yours, stop worrying about it! 😅 geez! If someone wants to loc, do it. Straighten? Do it. Protective style? Do it. Wash n go? Do it. Do it and leave everyone else alone. Worry about your own hair! 🤷🏽‍♀️💕 Also, I definitely don’t think the natural hair movement has failed. Still thriving!

@DelightPaws

Жыл бұрын

Agree!

@dorothybarnes87

Жыл бұрын

This post is a waste of time, people just take care of your hair no matter the texture, length, color. This is something everyone in the world must do, as a black woman, I am so tired of the BS, just take care and do you.🤔🤔🙄🙄

@truthteller77

11 ай бұрын

@MaiaBrown: 💯 agreeing!

I completely agree, which is why I'm so adamant about the survival of this movement. We're not even a little done yet

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

We've definitely got a strong beginning, but there's a lot of healing that needs to be done. We're only scratching the surface!

@tiggerlover74

Жыл бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair the HEALING that needs to take place among us!! Chiiiiiile... I can't even. I've got tears in my eyes just thinking about the damage I've done to myself and allowed others to heap upon me. I stopped relaxing at about 26 years old. My fiance came with me to a braid appointment and corrected her when she called my hair "nappy". It took a 3b haired man telling my braider to stop calling me (4c) nappy-headed at the ripe old age of 30 to open my eyes. I'm still working on my self-image, but yes, I'm tired too! ✊🏽

I've never cared about definition 😂 i just wanted to wear my texture without constant breaking

I had no idea the natural hair community existed until I was in my 30s. I was relaxed from the age of 5. The movement transformed my entire self image and liberated every beauty standard I had for myself. I could care less about anyone's opinion about my gorgeous 4c hair. I absolutely love my crown and I thank God for this movement!!!!

I’m very happy that the natural hair movement is here because as a Caribbean girl and a mother of 3 girls I was able to take care of my girls hair, who are now 23, 18, 13 and we r all natural. I have been natural since 2006, my daughters have never really known me with relaxed hair because my oldest was too young to remember how my hair was when I went natural and I’m happy and grateful for the natural hair KZreadrs who helped me on how to care for our hair, because I never got help from anyone else. You see I’m the youngest of 3 boys and my mom had jerry curls for years and worked all the time so she didn’t have time to take care of my natural hair and I don’t blame her things were different back then, so I’m really appreciative of the internet/ natural hair KZreadrs 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾.

@JNante

Ай бұрын

Another 2006 natural convert 🙋🏾‍♀️.

So true about the wash and go right? What we have been doing has been more like a “wash & define”😅

I say wear your hair however makes you feel good! I don’t agree that WNGs with gel and other products that help define coils and curls are not allowing hair to be in its natural state. Even our Caucasian sisters don’t just wash their hair and go out without products. Products are used to arrange and manage hair in the way we like to see it.

That point you made about natural hair "being dull", the explanation just blew my mind. I had always thought that I'm not taking care of my hair correctly bc my coils don't shine anything like straighter hair when they are clumped together. Thank you for this whole video!

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

You are so very welcome, Rosa!

@HereDiianas

Жыл бұрын

But even this to me is not accurate. I have 4c hair and it's not dull looking it has shine it always has. And I am not the only one, there are several example on KZread. So every time I see people making that statement as a fact for all natural 4c hair I cringe. I have seen shiny and super dull straight hair as well. Same goes for curly hair.

@LaToya_Ebony

Жыл бұрын

@@HereDiianas True. I created a video about the LOIS hair typing system. Texture and pattern both go hand and hand to create variations of sheen and shine.

My thing is people make natural hair so hard when it really isn’t. It doesn’t need to take you all day to wash your hair. I don’t bother with baby hair/edges laid business as long as my hair is brushed, I’m good. I keep it simple and when I want to not be bothered with doing my hair, I find a protective style. When I take it out, I’m usually excited to have my hair back.

@JNante

Ай бұрын

Not necessarily true, if your hair (natural state) is both long and thick wash day in all it's glory was an all day affair. Nothing wrong with that, it is what it is. Did what had to be done and kept it moving. Of course I'm coming from the community back in 2008. Detangling, washing, deep conditioning, steaming, then styling that took hrs. Be blessed

Great topic LaToya! I went natural 10 years ago at 41 because I got tired of sweeping up broken relaxed hair off the bathroom floor (and yes I visited a stylist regularly whose only suggestion between appointments was olive oil). Didn’t know about any movement and didn’t know I was joining a “TEAM”, I just wanted a better alternative than stunted growth, scalp sores, and chemical burns. Learning to take care of my natural hair has not been easy, and reaching mid back length still alludes me, but I’m never going back. Plus, my heart swells every time I catch a glimpse of Karine Jean Pierre on that podium representing our beauty in more ways than one.

I went natural late in the game (2020) and just want to say THANK YOU to yourself and others who have taught me so much about how to care for my hair. I learned about porosity, protective styling and building a regimen. I applied certain information and left others. For example, "wash n go" which is a misnomer since they are quite labor intensive and do not have longevity, I stayed far away from. Two strand twists on the other hand are my best friend. I LOVE that black women are re-learning their hair and hope we can return to the 60s/70s where black people celebrated and were proud of their kinky hair without exclusively relying on extensions or straighteners :D. I'm positive that we'll get there. I think the rarity of kinky hair within the human race, should make it special, similar to blue eyes recessive trait.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

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When did our hair stop being personal and became communal? Everyone likes their hair a certain way, more volume, more definition, or whatever, we need to stop focusing on how people set their hair and assume they fail because its not how you like it set. Mind YOUR Hair! Learning to embrace that premise has been life changing for me, my boys, and my mom since now I can show them want loving your hair and what it can do is about. Embracing your who you are. I have been wearing my hair fully natural for 3year now, I haven't even straighten my hair during that time, and its not because I have some stigma toward it or anything, I just think I look SO much better as is that I don't even have a desire to do it, but again its ME.

I am a natural who has considered going back to relaxer and here's why. When the pandemic came in '2020 and shut everything down I decided to stop coloring my hair and so I transition to a beautiful salt and pepper gray. The problem was that there won't many KZreadr talking about how to care for natural hair once it turns gray. I began to realize that my whole regimen was going to have to change which meant starting all over again. Your texture changes, your curl pattern changes, your porosity may change and lastly due to some medication your density may change so it's a whole new ball game. Then you have all these rules in the Natural hair community about you can't do this or you can't do that till as a gray natural I was beginning to get aggravated and disgusted. I'm not a quitter so I decided to hang in there and struggle through it. It hasn't been easy and it's unfortunate that the gray natural is the forgotten on in this community and the sad part is EVERY AND I DO MEAN EVERY NATURAL IS GOING TO EVENTUALLY TURN GRAY AND HAVE TO EMBRACE THE STRUGGLE. I've enjoyed your videos and watched how people even questioned whether or not you were 4C but you hung in there and endured and I'm glad to see your channel continuing to grow.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Doretha, this is an EXCELLENT point! I’m beginning to grey on my hairline and I know what you mean. A few women in my family say the same things you’re saying. Grey hair is a whole other giant to tackle. I hope I’ll still be around when I fully turn grey, but maybe you should make a KZread channel 😉. It’s definitely a topic I plan to research. I love that you brought this up!

@dorethamcelliott4900

Жыл бұрын

Your family members are right gray hair is disrespectful hard to keep moisturized and has a mind of it's own and it has earned the right to act however it wants to. Again love❤ your channel.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

@@dorethamcelliott4900 I know that’s right! ❤️

@francinemartinez2842

Жыл бұрын

😊😊Dorethea I am in the same boat as you. As for me, at this point, I’m happy to have any kind of hair on my head. My salt and pepper, natural hair is fickle. One minute it loves one product. Then out of the blue it doesn’t respond to it the same way. (FYI my skin reacts the same way. Sometimes I must use only water on my hair and face to get them back to “normal”.

@patriciajamison3816

Жыл бұрын

I started adding rose water to my gray and it loves it, along with my shea butter mixture. 🙂

So true! And I hate to admit it but when I first saw you, I couldn't believe you had hair like mine. I'm older and colorism was such a heavy part of my childhood since I'm not light-skinned. I clicked on your "So I Don't have 4C Hair" video and have been hooked ever since! It felt good to lose some of the baggage I had been carrying around 😊

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

All I can say is that nobody likes dusty, dry, tangled hair. it simply is not healthy(OR healthy looking). My hair is fine, high porosity, AND low density. It really IS dry when I attempt to style and wear it. If I EVER washed, conditioned, then stepped out of the shower to "just go", I may as well say goodbye to my strands. I agree with some of what I just heard, but we each have our own reality to deal with. What I think looks good on me, has nothing to do with anyone else. Who doesn't want soft, moisturized hair? It doesn't matter what the texture is. My low density leaves spaces that show my scalp. I don't like that. If it's alright with someone else, then, go for it. It's not for me. I've seen white folks with dusty, dry, broken hair, and I've said to myself, "That looks awful" I'm not throwing shade at all. When our hair is wet, it's moist (of course). Most hair looks and feels good when it's moist. I think that's why people want the look. At least I hope that's why. This is just my humble opinion as one who has struggled with my natural hair for more than 10 years. I still will not give up. I'm just trying to find out what will leave this high porosity, dry hair, in a condition that I, and only I, am comfortable with.

@PeytonSlim

Жыл бұрын

I agree. My hair texture does not match my styling preferences meaning I would love to just wash my hair (which is the easiest step) to only need to scrunch in some leave in and maybe a bit of gel and call it a day, but oh no! it’s a whole season of Stranger Things just to do the most “basic” style because of dryness due to 80% shrinkage (basically to the scalp) from high density. It’s stressful (which causes hair loss) and time consuming especially now having a toddler and it sucks I constantly feel ashamed for feeling this way.

@tiahnarodriguez3809

Жыл бұрын

@@PeytonSlim You shouldn’t feel ashamed for feeling this way at all. After watching me go natural and be natural for years, my sister followed suite and loves her natural hair. However, her styling preference is long curled hair, so she wears weave. This is great because her natural hair is protected and she can style the weave however she wants. You have to do what’s best for your hair, and not worry about what anyone else says.

I’m honestly about to incorporate heat styling every month just for ease of styling. I grew my hair out right as the natural hair craze began and I’m proud of myself for doing it. 12 years later Though I’m older, time is even more valuable, and um I’m tired. I’m trying to adopt the mentality: it’s just hair! My hair defined me, even as a child. No matter what I did to my hair people would let me know if they approved or not and at this point of my life it’s more important to have my own approval and I’m ready to try new/old things.

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

And that’s your prerogative! 👏🏾

@lauren8152

Жыл бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair Im working on this as well. I have arthritis in my wrists and it has gotten worse from my office job. Combing and parting my hair is a two person job. Im blessed that my boyfriend has strong arms and helps me with whatever i need. But sometimes i get tired as hell of doing my hair for HOURS 😭

I personally consider myself as a lazy natural. I have never follow any hair trends. I do what work for me. Being a natural is just saying enjoying doing you when it comes to your hair. It doesn't make less natural if I like to wear my hair in 16 braids and I wear a wig. My hair length is close to should length. I have a disabled child. So throwing on a headband wig and I go about my business. Too many people bashing other black women or hair guru's because a hairstyle didn't work for them. Just remember that there is only one you on this planet. God made everyone different this includes hair. My daughter hair is almost tailbone length and I can't cornrow, I do box braids and beads that last a month. Moisturizing is key for growth. For whatever hair goals you want. I don't wash my daughter hair in kids products. I wash her hair in aveeno baby bath and shampoo wash. My daughter is 5yr.old.

I tried so hard to grow my natural hair, and it grew a lot! But the maintenance was just too much for me. I recently cut my hair short and it feels so good to not spend HOURS washing and styling.

Dang!! Girl, this video spoke deep to me. I just did a wash and go which came out a lot defined than previous ones and I described the previous one as a "failed wash and go" just because it didn’t have as much definition. Hmm,I need to unpack that. This natural hair journey is really a "journey". I need to unlearn so many things. Thanks for this video😍😍

Hi Latoya! I'm an older creator who has watched the evolution of the natural hair movement. There are many isms in the natural hair community. So, I just stay in my lane and do my thing. I've been natural for 20 years and when you mentioned the wash-and-go styling you did and how you got more engagement with that content, I can relate. I don't naturally gravitate to wash and go, but it seems like those are the videos that get more views and engagement no matter the hair type. Excellent message and topic! I'm so glad your video was recommended in my feed 😀 and that I clicked and watched it. Take care!👍

I remember when I friest went natural and the wash and go was.... slapping a whole bunch of products on your sopping wet hair. I was very confused lol

I was confused by the "million and one products" comment. Why the negativity surrounding wash and gos?

@leratomasoga1244

Жыл бұрын

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Video is pure example why I long stopped looking at natural hair videos. I got tired of the screams of length, define curls, gloss, softness, baby hair, etc, it became too much, so I stopped. I just do my hair, take care of it and feel less, less stressful from the KZread world of people making natural hair an overwhelming progress.

Great video! I have 4C hair which is why I was attracted to your videos. I try not to let people tell me about my hair. I know my hair is good enough and I had to learn that I had to love my hair FIRST. Going natural was the greatest gift to myself and I will never go back. But honestly I was done with "natural hair community" because it was becoming a little toxic. I'm slowly coming back because I do miss my natural hair warriors.

Been natural 12 years and while I learned a lot from YT I also know what works for me. I have had naturals in my family since the 70s when I was wearing Afro puffs. I think people put to much control into someone else’s hands without looking at and understanding their own hair. This is a personal journey and you have to get to know your hair for yourself. Stop looking for answers in what works for someone else and then getting upset when it doesn’t work for you. We have got to get to know our hair for ourselves and make better decisions. I’m glad I could see other women who look like me doing tutorials and inspiring me but I also know what my hair is capable of and my expectations are not based on someone else’s experience.

Hello I come from France, and when I finded your channel I was so happy to learn as an 4C hair how an other sister can talk so funny about what I was struggling. Your hair si beautiful and... mine too. I agree it is not about to define our naturals hairs, the point is about loving them anytime, in anyway, in any form they take.

👏🏾100% well said 😊 I love this video and this is what I was telling my mother and my friend the other day. My journey was very easy due to the amount of information that was on KZread. However, for me I’m just tired of long wash days and all the extra stuff that comes into doing my hair. So now I am heavy on protective styling like doing braids,flux locs, wigs, and etc.

This commentary was needed, on time and well said. Thank you so much for video❤

I’ll remain natural, relaxers thinned out my hair. Chemicals aren’t worth going bald, or facing potential health problems due to chemicals of relaxers.

Thanks for posting this video, LaToya!! You offered a lot of insight, and I wish more people could see this video and develop an understanding that your hair doesn't have to be weighed down by product or super defined to be beautiful.

You are spot on! Chile...the saga continues! The narrative is real! The kinks are tight...but I'm here for all of it!

My natural hair journey was great before 2009. My hair was long, thick, kinky, and gorgeous. When the natural hair community became a movement my journey became h-e-l-l. I allowed myself to be influenced by too many influencers. I’ve had so many set backs. Now I’m over it. I’ve Loc’d my hair and only listen to family and friends who’ve been Loc’d for decades. KZread can be very toxic because ppl are so dishonest. They upload completely false information for likes and subscriptions. It’s up to you to be wise and ignore the noise.

For the most part I agree, the natural hair community on youtube helped me many years ago when I was a loose natural -I have now been loc'd for 5 years. I also wish we would not give so much shine on colorism and etc. Not that you did that in this video and not that it does not exist but I caught that you said you have more "European" features, I don't see that at all and frankly that should be embraced. One mistake in the natural hair community was everyone wanting their coils to mimic those with looser curls. I love the diversity in our hair and sad that many black women feel compelled to hide under bonnets and weaves and not embrace our hair. No other ethnicity has hair like ours in all of its many facets.

I have micro locs and I love my hair. If other people tell you that your hair is unkept or unprofessional and a host of derogatory words you may not like your hair or yourself. It's easy to get caught up in being natural but you have no idea what it means to you and your confidence.

Just subscribed! This is the commentary we needed. After my big chop at the start of the pandemic and finally growing it out again, I’ve been looking for channels like yours 😁Thanks for your transparency and girl I’m looking forward to binge watching your videos ❤

This is was an appreciated word🙏 I'm a protective style natural. I have long 4c hair that is fine, and I hate dealing with it. If it ain't in braids, faux locs or under a wig my hair is in a puff.

It was the learning curve for me!. It took me years to figure out which products worked and which techniques to use. KZread really was a saving grace. The key is to find a youtuber with similar hair texture to yours.

I have loved it. It brought back knowledge and appreciation for curly/kinky hair that was likely lost in all our transitions. I've not seen one person who does everything the same but many are successful. Always felt like this is what you've been given and deal with it with usually perming or pressing your hair to societal expectations. But now you can use patience and products that are beneficial. That you don't necessarily have to go to a beautician. It has been freeing and a delight to me. You do have to take the time at some point to find your own way with the help of others who have struggled and found success. I believe it's a God send. 🤗

YOUR HONESTY!!!! WONDERFUL video as usual! That's why I have been subscribed for a while. I love the definition commentary. As a "4c" girl with at least 3 other textures mixed in...Amen to what you said. I'm 😫 tired of people saying I must have heat damage when they see a few of my low porosity type 3 strands mixed in the fro!😂 Like come on now...I'm an moisturize, style, and air dry chic!

This video content is so on point. I wish I could give it more than one thumbs up. I'm happy to say that I am at a good place with my hair after going through all of those struggles. I know what works and what doesn't work and no longer seek The Chase.

I did small traditional locs on my hair a little over 5 years ago. Best decision I ever made. No more confusion in my opinion. Love your videos!

Excellent video and all facts! It never failed which is what I said in my video on this topic and that comment was spot on but it will always be work and it never ends. My peace is doing me and minding my hair business and following those that are like minded, like yourself😘

I teared-up a little when you showed African Exports' picture

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

She comments on my videos from time to time. I miss her on KZread too. 😌

@Cee_huggs

Жыл бұрын

Right. I loved her videos

3 minutes in....am loving this discussion.....finally......honesty and bravery must be applauded

I always enjoy watching and listening to you.

I fell in to the trap of needing a whole lot of products for my hair, especially because like you my hair is dense. It refuses to curl in the front and has big clumpy curls in the back. The first time I was too busy to define my curls and just put it in a high puff with a little leave in conditioner and oil and it came out fine, I was like "Dang!! What have I been doing all this work for?" I grew up with a relaxer so part of me still craves hang time but as I'm aging it's becoming less important so I'm hoping that the natural hair community also moves in that direction.

I really love your jewelry sis! Tbh this my natural journey for the 3rd time around has had the most success because I’ve learned so much as to how to care for my hair. I’ve been natural for 3 years now. I’ve had some set backs due to rapid Weightloss and a pregnancy( hormones) but I’ve bounced back. However it can get tiresome and even hard because of how difficult it can be to style it. Such as Working on my thick strands for hours and not achieving the look I want😢 but I still have struggles in regards to shrinkage and just embracing it. But when I want a break from styling, I just wear protective styles like crochets and wigs. But wearing wigs too much isn’t good for my edges so I try to do crochets more. We do have work to do still to just be happy with embracing our strands without manipulation. Thx for sharing❤

I wasn't going to watch this video at first for the Natural Hair Community, in my opinion as thrived into making an impact of given BW the strength to showcase our God given hair! BTW- When I started on this journey, the followed a couple of tight curlie ladies you featured. The hard truth: Once it came it started to "trend", it came overly commercialized. It was bond to hit its peak and be scrutinized for the items mentioned(i.e. colorism, textures, etc.). However, I want this moment to continue for I don't want BW to go backwards (i.e. relaxed hair, weaves, wigs, etc.). Love your blackness today, tomorrow and forever! 💜

Congratulations! 💙 I did the same thing - kept secret that I was taking prereqs, quitting my job, and starting medical school. Sometimes you first have to protect your peace, your dreams, and fill the world in when _you're_ ready. Good for you! So proud of you! Keep killing it on those exams too!

@LaToyaEbonyHair

6 ай бұрын

Yeeeesssss. See you get it. I almost waited another year to mention it tbh. It’s been so peaceful 😌 Congratulations on med school!!! I love your username!

@Doc_McStuffins

6 ай бұрын

@@LaToyaEbonyHair just realized that my comments ended up under the wrong video (technical difficulties trying to catch up on vids and not wake the husband), an OLD video at that, and you still replied! You've always been a real one girl. Much love and best on your new, not-secret-anymore journey! :D

@LaToyaEbonyHair

6 ай бұрын

@@Doc_McStuffins Hehe 😉❤

Amen to all of that. I define when I want to. But I also don't mind ALL THE SHRINKAGE! I am bantu knotted right now. People can kick rocks barefooted as it relates to unneeded comments about MY hair.

I love this content. It's something that needs to be addressed. I was talking to my hairdresser yesterday and she was telling me that there are plenty of black women who are doing relaxers as a result of covid. Not being able to get their hair done, and now back to the creamy crack. There are so many reasons for us women to do the switch back, but I feel it's necessary to continue to have these discussions. It's so coincidental that your video popped up because I just told my hairdresser in response to what she said, that I would like to discuss this on my podcast. But now that I see you have a great perspective on this topic I would love it if you can emphasize it more on my podcast with me. If you are interested LaToya, let me know. This is a pressing subject for me as I don't want our black sistahs getting discouraged in their embracement if natural hair. Of course there will be something in it for you. if you're interested I would love to talk more offline. Be blessed!!

I love this! You mentioned everything that I always felt about these “new trends”. My journey has been trial and error as far as finding the right products goes. I experienced protein overload in the past 2 years by trying to only use natural products that were overpriced and broke my hair off luckily I stopped in time before major damage occurred, but girl I grew tired and went old school with my products stuff my parents grew up on--im using queen Helene cholesterol, soft sheen Carson care free curl daily spritzer, sta sof fro , grease, oil, and water --and my hair that was broken off (I trimmed the straggly pieces of my ends too when it first broke off) and my hair got restored and the length caught up with the rest of my long hair. And Im so glad I never got into curl defining my hair let me know from the beginning of my journey what I was not about to do- if my hair had eyes she would be dogging me for sure with any crazy ideas I come up with 😂

I truly appreciate this video. So glad you broke it down as you did. I WAS Natural for 5 years (short to long to short again). I personally became very tired of the Many many 🤣 products that I used in my natural hair. I just went back to my relaxed hair a couple of months ago and went super short again. That's the beauty of being Black! We can do soooo much! 😍

I’m 72 so I know what an Afro is. Why can’t Black women just do whatever she wants to do with her hair. Every other race does. Relax or don’t. We’re struggling because we still think that we’re less than other people.

@ellen9925

Жыл бұрын

Right

As a newer natural with 2 1/2 yrs in, there are times when I dred the tangles! But have embraced my wash n go... shrinkage and all!!

I did not find my groove within the "movement" so I ended up back to basics with shampooing, conditioning and using Blue Magic. I learned some stuff, but it really was about just getting to know my hair and making moves accordingly. (The GREAT COCONUT OIL does NADA for these coils!) I check for styles every now and then. You're the only one I view regularly and that's cause not only do I know and adore you, but also because you were pivotal in my decision to try a third time. Here I am 10 years later and never looked back.

Thank you for saying it out loud, sis!

I still love LaToya…after so many years of watching her (with some gaps in between) she is such an authentic person. I love how she’s able to voice her opinions gracefully yet without backing away from her stance. People pick apart everything you say so I’m sure at times it’s difficult to speak what you believe without the fear of it being taken out of context or not the way you intended it. Love and blessings to you LaToya if you happen to see this!!💜Ok now let me watch this video!😂

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

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LaToya I've been watching you for a long time like back when you permed your hair the first time back in the day, you was one of the first woman of color for me to see with 4c hair I've learned from watching you and others with 4c type hair how to care for my hair if there was a "movement"at all it was me just wanting my natural texture back and how can I achieve that and I have! It was never how to define my hair in a certain way I just enjoyed watching the content, all this other stuff these you tube people be on it's a bit much and unnecessary really!

I agree with you soo much finally someone is talking about this btw I love tee noir too

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

She’s dope!

First I want to say I really appreciate this video.. LaToya you were on POINT! 🥰💙.. luvin your hair! 💙

Loved that you explored this topic! Lately after I wash my hair I’ve been wanting to just put in a little leave in and nothing else…no defining…just let my girl do what she do 😊 there’s this stigma placed on natural hair being unclean, unkept and bushy/wild in my part of the county if not styled in a certain way. ALL natural hair is BEAUTIFUL regardless of how it’s styled!

I am very frustrated with my natural hair journey. I can’t seem to find the resources that I need in the small town where I live. I have tried almost everything that I have seen on you tube. My problems specifically are hydration, texture and color. I’m so close to going back to my curled hair. I’m going to try one last thing to see what my success will be. If it fails I am done. I don’t seem to have a curl pattern and I haven’t been able to determine my hair type. I’ve tried several products with no satisfaction. I think maybe that my hair is just not going to have a natural style or pattern. I feel what you said about the discouragement and wholeheartedly agree. Thanks for the advice, it was well taken.

Great video by the way!!!

I gave up and got a relaxer. Due to my work schedule, parenting and other obligations, I didn't have time or energy to spend 4 or 5 hours on my hair. I only get a relaxer once a year and it makes doing my hair easier for me.

My 4c hair can definitely be ultra defined. But at what cost?? Breakage? Constant manipulation? I am tired

Completely agree. The movement hasn’t failed, I have learned everything I know about my natural hair from KZreadrs over the years and I am very thankful for all of it. I have been natural for years, I got my first relaxer in high school and quickly learned that by hair couldn’t handle it. But even after all these years I still feel stuck with my hair…. I will admit that it is healthier and a little longer natural…. But I have been at the same length for years (I’m sure that is my fault, I don’t have the time or energy to give my hair to retain length, wash days are not something I look forward to) I’m sick of braids and twist and I don’t like wigs. Plenty of days I wish I had the face shape for short hair cause I would chop it all off, yet I continue to try and stay positive and work with what I have. Point is…..I am completely over my hair natural or relaxed. Though I am also aware that it’s more the mental hurdles of my upbringing and issues of letting other peoples opinions bother me that I need to get over more than my hair. I’m done venting now, thanks for listening (or should I say reading, lol).

Thanks for the video....my journey began in 2014 and stopped perming my hair....as a more mature woman I always mused about the multiple communities within natural hair and marveled that the views were like those of the perm community....too much attention of length and definition instead of just trying to grow and maintain HEALTHY HAIR😢😢 Well Sister you have indeed started a conversation out loud that many of us have been having in our own bathroom when we're messing with our hair.... BTW I am team wash and go....never had a protective style... it's so easy for me!!!!

I never understood a movement that is centered around something that grows out ones head.

I am a 4c girl as well, and opted to loc my hair. 2.5 years later and I’m happy because it allows me to save time and literally get up and go.

God don't makes mistakes this is what he gave us we need to embrace it.. I love my natral hair..!!

I gave up gels and mousses that dried my hair and damaged edges but locked in my 4a/b curl patterns for great definition for a wash n go. Now I use a leave in and a curl activator instead of gels and mousses. Less definition but hair is much thicker and edges are growing back. Hair starting to resemble Tabitha Brown's Donna hair. I'm so happy!!!!

I am so glad I did not subscribe to they hype. My mother taught me to love who I am ❤ and that was the best advice any young Black girl can get. Thank you for the content. SUPERB! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 well said sister 💜

You remind me so much of Essence Atkins, you sound like her and your speaking mannerism is ver similar. Great video @LaToyaEbonyHair🎉🎉🎉

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Haha! I get that a lot.

I was a loose natural from 2013 until August of this year. My hair was close to waist length and I became tired of dealing with it. I’m almost 3 months loc’d now and loving it.

I have been on my Natural hair journey for 11 years, having my last relaxed hair style in 2011. I love it. A friend of mine asked me about going to sister locs and if I would consider going to that protective hair style. I balked for a while, but since I do not have any plans to go back to relaxing, that bridge has come when I am saying "yes" to sister locs. Trust me, my eczema is thanking me for the natural hair journey because every time I would get my hair relaxed there would be a certain spot on the back of my scalp that would start burning. I have been wearing protective style in the form of twists and braids, will be switching the locs soon.

Yes, Yes and Yes…. I began my natural hair journey because, research not only the ingredients in Relaxers , but also the other products I was using. I am blessed to be in a Family with Women who have or have had long natural hair😮.. because of their beliefs I didn’t get my hair relaxed until the age of 18….off to College I went😂😂😂. Then other hair experience’s came…extensions and then my 1st 💇🏽‍♀️.Crazy I know 😂… I am a Woman of a particular age group (50 ) something and proud!! I began following you because of the “REALNESS… and Your knowledge and compassion for someone who decided 7 plus years ago ..what was I thinking when I put that “Relaxer in my hair that Women so desire now to achieve 😢😢😢…and yes I am what is considered to be Type 4 hair ….it does what it wants to😂😂😂and I am okay with that.. Why ? Because of your “Content and Creativity. I know this is long…😅 get exhausted at times with use this try this and, You my dear have simplified my life by just recommending… use what works for you😊 .. Do you and think more about Healthy hair versus texture. “THANK YOU…Beautiful Blessings 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏽💜💖💕💐BTW😂😂😂: I have worn my hair, Tapered, had shoulder length Loc’s and am currently a loose shoulder length Natural…considering returning to a Tapered style 😂😂😂😂😊❤

@LaToyaEbonyHair

Жыл бұрын

Zina! Thank you so much for sharing your story! Each one of us has a hair story and I absolutely enjoy when I hear from people like you. In reality I think many of us have done tons of things with and to our hair. Life is the longest thing we’ll ever do and I think it wonderful that you have and continue to be fluid with your hair choices. Keep on keepin on, Zina! 👏🏾❤️

I got so stuck on curl definition and the struggle of my hair being different patterns. When I say the top of my head looks like Lupita but the back of my head look like Shakira. It’s a struggle to accept my hair. At a point where I just let it be what it is. People can like it or not

Still on my natural hair journey. OG Natural Hair KZreadr Here! I had some damage to the ends of my hair from chlorine since I swim daily earlier on in the year. However, I've found a way to keep my natural hair dry when swimming. I've been cutting off those damaged ends gradually and wearing wigs on some days of the week and my natural hair in buns or puffs the other days of the week. I still love my natural hair!

I am a professional hairdresser and I absolutely loved watching this video ty 💞

I didn't pay attention to the natural hair movement at all until the pandemic when I had to deal with my own hair without my stylist for the first time in YEARS. As such, I missed a lot of the drama surrounding it and only followed a few people. Now that I know everything that I need to know to care for my hair, I only continue to follow a couple of people who tend to create natural hair content because I like *them*, not for hair tips. I do agree that texturism, colorism, and featurism (as well as density and/or length) play a large role in the popularity of natural hair content creators. It probably doesn't hurt that you bear a resemblance to a Black actress who was extremely popular when I was growing up LOL (you know who...I guarantee that you have heard it hundreds of times already).

@antoinettechevalier2453

Жыл бұрын

Please tell us who you think LaToya resembles! I’ve never thought she looked like any other actress on screen.

Great video and commentary. Side note did someone ever tell you you look like Tia and Tamara? There is a resemblance there.

My hair is medium density with super fine strands so I don't wear my hair in wash and gos except maybe once every few years so I can see what it looks like. I usually wear it in 2 strand twists. I did buy a used revair last year and have used it a few times. I'm getting the hang of it and really like how stretched my hair gets. I still end up with little waves because my hair is very coily and shrinks about 50%. It does help to prevent as many single strand knots I noticed. I do love my coils but I can just barely see the progress from comparing it to 5 years ago. When my hair makes it to my butt when stretched, I will be able to see a difference but it may be a tall coily afro or finally down to my shoulders when wet.😀

My journey has been all over the place. First I was in braids in middle school.. then did a perm in high school then end of high school did Wave Nouveau to get my curls back then freshman year of college I cut it all off and was short till senior year then was growing it out and wearing braids and weave. Then in 2019 my uncle passed and that messed me up mentally so then for the first time dyed it red and then was wearing braids or twist outs or afro then got tired of doing my hair every day so then before cutting went blue dye. I then cut it and once long enough dyed it red then cut again and then was doing short styles and now i am going to let it grow be dyed red and get braids and weaves when ready.

I'll speak for myself.. I went back to relaxers this year after 12 years natural because of detangling. I'd spend 4 hours detangling my fine 4c hair, enjoy wearing it out for one day (I loved my puffs) and it would be completely tangled again. To stop the tangles and fairy knots I became a slave to wearing my hair stretched and in protective styles and I just wanted to wear my own hair out without having to commit to hours of detangling. Relaxers aren't THE SOLUTION because once week 3 hits the regrowth has to be "MANAGED". The only style that has low maintenance for my hair type is a TWA which I will likely wear later in life.

I've been wearing my short 4C natural afro for months now. Washed it and added leave in conditioner and i go. That's it