Timestamps: 00:00✅Introductory quote of Gautama Buddha 01:06✅[Number 1: The Martyr Syndrome] 03:01✅[Number 2: Dependency Issues] 05:08✅[Number 3: Emotional Drain] 07:21✅[Number 4: Enabling Destructive Behavior] 09:14✅[Number 5: Loss of Identity] 11:27✅[Number 6: Financial Strain] 13:33✅[Number 7: Neglecting Personal Needs] 15:47✅[Number 8: Resentment and Bitterness] 18:12✅[Number 9: Impact on Relationships] 20:39✅[Number 10: Compassion Fatigue] 23:12✅[Number 11: Unrealistic Expectations] 25:31✅[Number 12: Self-Neglect] 27:35✅[Number 13: Overlooking Red Flags] 30:15✅Conclusion

@DavidSaupe-tm4cf

26 күн бұрын

Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

@adoa77

25 күн бұрын

Lots of repetitive sequences and bizarre spellings. Why? The message is clear, good and pretty much needed, though. Thank you

@jimsullivanyoutube

25 күн бұрын

It appears to be A.I.​@@adoa77

@IAMTabitha.Monique-.

24 күн бұрын

It's called A.I ​@@adoa77

@tada2508

13 күн бұрын

Excellent message conveyed by the video, but the voice is equally jarring, like almost piercing the ears. Such moralistic videos should have a very calm and serene voice.

If you give a gift, don’t expect anything back, and that way you will never be disappointed

Do not ever help someone who is requesting your help for his or her own ends at your expense. I chose this path once to help someone who did not want help but rather wanted to use me and sidetrack my path. I deviated from my own path that it caused me years of disorientation, confusion, suffering, mental and physical health decline, strain on family relationships, and other problems. It was my worse mistake. Help someone in pain or an animal that is dying, but not a narcissist who has evil motives.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@user-mz2vo5cj6c

23 күн бұрын

Am suffering due to this , hope I will recover from this anxiety and confusion

@priv12ev4paulonly

12 күн бұрын

I am presently trying to heal from being used by such a vampire/friend for years.

@ashotgrigoryan2477

10 күн бұрын

Help someone in pain or an animal that is dying, BUT NOT A NARCISSIST who has evil motives.

@amandaa3713

8 күн бұрын

@@priv12ev4paulonly I am so sorry Better late than bever.

Never pour from an empty cup. Make sure your cup is full first, whatever overflows, that you can donate to others. Your life is precious. You were not born to sacrifice your life for another to thrive.

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@Subarna-pr9dh

27 күн бұрын

Well said.Reality should not be ignored

@lishamonique

26 күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@minimars3696

26 күн бұрын

I wrote these wise and beautiful words in my diary! Very grateful for this comment. I learned through my experience that helping others while you are also in need of help is a very bad idea.

@georgiafrancis9059

25 күн бұрын

it's the same principle as "put on you own oxygen mask first'.......you can't halp anyone if you don't .......think about it...

My husband was abused as a child, I am an empath therefore I did everything I could to help him, guide him, care for him and love him...I always put him before myself for decades. He, in turn, took everything out on me. He treated me badly knowing I would always be there for him. I became a shadow of myself, a total recluse, lost all my self confidence and attempted suicide. That was my rock bottom moment. I changed my attitude within a few months, it took time as I had never been a selfish person. But to this day I am stronger than ever, I say no to my mother (another drain in my life) and I do not take any s**t from my husband or anyone! He has treated me with respect and kindness ever since and I will never go back to being used again. Thank you for this video, there was a reason it popped up in my feed and it has justified exactly how I now only ever put myself first, but still manage to have time and care for others.

@ginafinch3307

10 күн бұрын

The truth is that it takes a lot of heartache for us to understand how important we're and how we should always love ourselves. One can never heal the other, unless they are open to it. To understand and know how much value we have is a great awakening and feeling. 🤗🥳Blessings

@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

Many so called abused children turn out to become narcissistic or even worster - my husband turned out to become an super empath himself - just like me. Fits perfect.

I found this channel a little late. 20yrs I have been working hard for my family and relatives.. Now every one is well settled and I am left out all alone with nothing. I am working on myself and my business. Thank you God for all the life lessons😌🙏🙏

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

Welcome aboard! ❤️🙏

@gracious8796

26 күн бұрын

Same here!😢

@leehartlee2970

26 күн бұрын

Ask for help from the people who you have helped! I know... crickets.

@violetaclaudiabratu4

26 күн бұрын

Yes is very common this ,same here ,but I forgive those family members,I pray for them one day realize what they done and become better persons for a future ❤

@arlenenavarro716

25 күн бұрын

Same here

I have spent the last ten years rescuing dogs, building my sanctuary. it has rendered me penniless. i just cant go by an injured or sick stray, and thejoy i get seeing them healing is priceless.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@irme8930

18 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@malenik15

16 күн бұрын

I would love to do that but I’m working 2 jobs to pay stuff.. may be someday

@littlegreycellsmine4291

15 күн бұрын

May I say God bless you for your kindness. Please do not give up on helping animals. Their love is unconditional unlike human beings. I have had an opportunity to help human beings each time I have only received heartache in return. Please continue to help animals they need help as cruelty continues to increase. God bless you for your kindness.

This is a very valuable advice. I wish I had heard this 50 years ago. I have sacrificed my own life and that of my family by overhelping others and neglecting my own family. I am going to change my way of thinking and acting. Thank you for opening my eyes and mind to the realities of life.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

🙏❤️

@thearcherofjustice1492

Ай бұрын

Me too 😓 and I only received trouble trouble trouble betrayal etc etc. We cannot go back in time to erase and correct our mistakes but from now on I can only help my own self and my adult Sons and grandchildren, to the extent of what is possible and coherent. Also stop feeling guilty and angry at myself (easier said than done), 30 - 40 years ago we couldn't know what we know today. We evolved and have so much more experience and a clearer vision.

@Ferrys1220

Ай бұрын

Story of my life 😢😊

@lanasurisuricorina2865

Ай бұрын

This is my life 50 years ago thank you for sharing this... God bless🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@annamarcelitashakil1738

Ай бұрын

Relate much❤

I had learned these lessons once I understood that I was brought up to be a people pleaser. Now I prioritize me. There’s no other way.

@BuddhismHub

29 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@sasachiminesh1204

26 күн бұрын

spoken like a true narcissist. good thing for you that your parents did not do that.

@brucecampbell6578

26 күн бұрын

@@sasachiminesh1204 Seems a bit extreme. We are in charge of our own minds and hearts. I surmise that our empathy is the source of all of our wisdom. But the path of our own heart is perilous in the face of our ignorance. I say charity starts at home. With ourself. So we may act with equanimity and kindness. Is Buddhism about selflessness or selfishness or is it about both? This presentation would show correlation between Buddhism and Stoicism. To become a trained people pleaser has an up side and down side and this information is very helpful. If we find ourselves begrudging our own kindness then it is a sign of our own disease. The answer is not in self flagellation.

@pure_2xhelix

26 күн бұрын

Haha stupid ignorant people

@charlesshidler7792

25 күн бұрын

Where is your Purpose now? Does selfishness bring Happiness? Truly?

Damn nothing but the honest truth I spent my entire life helping others,sending money to people, buying stuff including air tickets 🎫 to family members etc. Until one day,I realized that there was no water in my house and I can no longer use my bathroom and no body cared because all they needed is financial support. And when I decided to say enough is enough,I became the greatest enemy of the people including my own family members no one talks to me anymore and no one calls me or sends messages just to find out how I’m doing. Thank you for this information I rather stick to my grounds and say no.

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@tianikane3312

23 күн бұрын

Yes, it is very hurtful when they do this. They have used us while they could and then ditched us when we said "No." We feel your pain.. Stick to your new way of life.... We used to cook jam and everyone had their hands out for jam every year. This went on for years, until we were very ill. We rang them and asked them to do the jam that year, and no one showed up. The fruit went rotten on the ground. Only one person hung around when we were very ill, the rest didn't even show up. That one person wasn't a jam maker, but helpful in many other ways. When we recovered our health and made jam, they came around with their hands out. They were told to Foff.

@MaxineShaw-de7bh

23 күн бұрын

No is a complete sentence and my favorite word to use.

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@simplemeals1540

18 күн бұрын

Happened to me with my immediate family. All sweet and nice when they need money. I finally said no, radio silence for years 😂. That's okay

There is no greater joy than the feeling I get helping people in need without expecting any praise or anything in return. The more I have given, the more I have been blessed.

@BuddhismHub

29 күн бұрын

God Bless You

@alisasali3064

28 күн бұрын

True. Same thinking ❤

@mabletugume7471

27 күн бұрын

God bless you more. We blessed to bless others

@user-nt8ve3cy8d

26 күн бұрын

Same here, I can’t afford not to help if the person or people needs my help.

@ingegerdtheresesorrell338

26 күн бұрын

Of course if only yourself involved. But when you start having children, you have to put your husband/ wife and children first, never give on their expense, many times it is the ego giving and the ego does not have the wisdom from some who really needs help from someone greedy who only want to take take from an other without caring at all about the others loss.

went from helping my dad who passed last year from Parkinson’s/dementia for 7 years while working construction was A LOT. I am still tired .I had NO help from anybody. “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” more like “what doesn’t kill you depletes ur brain of every chemical it needs to function properly. God Bless anyone going through this I pray for you I really do and send nothing but positive vibes✌🏼✨✨✨🌍👁️🙏 LOVE

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@kimyoung3484

24 күн бұрын

❤️🙏♥️

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@Debra-oz4zs

17 күн бұрын

Peace and prosperity to you . Take care of yourself❤❤❤

@whalewhisperer5546

2 күн бұрын

Eat lots and lots of spinach Matty, lots of magnesium

I couldn't agree more. Never again will I put others ' needs before mine. I was drained financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. I can't rely on people whom I had helped. They never learned from our past, instead kept doing same thing over and over. 😢

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@gracious8796

26 күн бұрын

Same too😢

@starseed1014

25 күн бұрын

Right? I give and give and when I ask for one little thing...crickets

@Me-kq8uv

23 күн бұрын

OMG that part “they don’t learn and keep doing the same thing” . I have rescued myself from my own challenges no one rescued me and find that l have to rescue them too now that am stable😓

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

I wish I had learned these lessons a long time ago. I’m finally saving myself; at 49! There are people in this world whose sole objective is to be parasitic. They see others like myself as a host to prey on. I hope this video goes viral.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

Thank You ❤️🙏

@abentekelly9387

25 күн бұрын

Me too

@hanac5751

23 күн бұрын

True!

@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

Its never to late - you will be never to old - to learn your lessons in life.

I' ve learned over time helping some can lead to the one being helped never learning that actions have consequences.

We still need to help each other we just need to take care of yourself more

@BuddhismHub

29 күн бұрын

right

@sasachiminesh1204

26 күн бұрын

i see someone can think for themselves. good for you.

@nicolajackson1107

26 күн бұрын

Well said

@rdartsandcollections1021

25 күн бұрын

This is the right thing.

@starseed1014

25 күн бұрын

Have to learn to say no

Here in the west unfortunately people see kindness as weakness

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@renatewest6366

17 күн бұрын

They are not Christians.

@renatewest6366

17 күн бұрын

You must be American. Dog eat dog society .Ask overworked. No life balance.A society based on money.No national health.People relying on tips for a sub standard minimum wage.

@user-gs9tb4tl4d

15 күн бұрын

Everywhere so

@rainerschmid9965

15 күн бұрын

Yeah. There is one born everyday.

This is such important advice. I looked after my mother from the age of twelve, looked after brothers and sister, now have a husband to care for 24/7 and couldn't work out why I felt depressed. I felt lost and exhausted until I realised I needed to look after ME.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@africanprincessmaya

9 күн бұрын

Yes pls take care o yourself

Me landing on this page must have been absolute god send. Because I have been shouldering many of my family and peers needs above my own for the last 15 years.

@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

Just learn to help yourself first - never help a stupid narcopath person - they will make a fool out of you soon. It is just abuse what they want - no help from you.

I think the darkest side of helping others is when we do so in order to gain some kind of egoistic value for ourselves, especially when we don't realize we're doing it for that reason.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@buddhaexhumed9922

24 күн бұрын

If you are a Buddhist you might be interested with what I have to say. This is sort of out of topic here. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you.

@user-ci1eh3ip7s

24 күн бұрын

I disagree ...when I help someone...I feel happy .

@buddhaexhumed9922

24 күн бұрын

@@user-ci1eh3ip7s I agree with you

@PeachyKins

23 күн бұрын

​@@user-ci1eh3ip7syeah, that's the point of the post. It feeds your ego. You are using others to feel something instead of fostering happiness from within

I helped somebody few moths ago and this person is always around asking for my assistance. I'm feeling awful because I can't help everytime or I just don't want to. But after this video I feel better because I'm not obligated to help all the time. I really appreciate for posting it!

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a very funny Robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@TheRiverkayaker

9 күн бұрын

How true is this, sometimes(not all times) you come across people who genuinely appreciate your help. Sometimes we also come across that special someone and they think they’re entitled to your help, your time, your money, a ride somewhere if you own your own car etc, they just never give up. I notice that they will throw comments at you to make you feel guilty if you deny them help just that one time. I just went through that with someone, he got verbally abusive when I said I couldn’t help him so much this week. After his spewing speech of abuse I out right said to him, “ok, you can get out of my vehicle now and start walking for the rest of you life, I’m done with your bullcrap and all I have ever done is help you out, when the respect stops, so does my help, goodbye” and you know what he said..oh I was just kidding, can I just get a ride to. …nope, I said get out. Ya, it’s one thing to help out, but when they get abusive, time to leave, their party is over. The comments are right, these people they can literally drain the life out of you, but people, only if you let them, set your healthy boundaries right on the get go, especially before they get that entitlement thing going on. Once they get that feeling of entitlement, you lose, you lose and you lose, until you can some how break free of them. Good luck out there everyone, stay healthy stay safe.

@saivenkatesh7928

4 күн бұрын

Yes, you need to put your foot down and learn to say No. This is lesson no. 1

I'm living a simple life. I struggled with depression and lack of existential value for years. When Covid started i decided to make a small change in someones life and do something about my own situation as well. Now a small family of 3 on the other side of the world can live in a house with a proper roof and have a meal every day. I may not have a car or travel on wacations, but i have gotten a new family and a purpose in life. When i reflect on it, i'm not sure who is helping who.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@ranichalupsky2827

23 күн бұрын

Wonderful, helping makes so much difference in someone’s life, they are struggling, they have hope through you , if we keep all our money than it has no value it’s just paper, money comes and goes ♥️🌷♥️🌷♥️

Read many years ago to never interfere with another person´s karma, has not forgotten.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

🙏🙏❤️

@estherbaettig

Ай бұрын

Agree. Helping someone might interfere with their karma (what many might not understand).

@hasinahmasud3808

29 күн бұрын

@@BuddhismHub If the person doesn’t share your religious beliefs they don’t understand thats true. However Others have their own religious beliefs and they should be respected just as well as your own religious beliefs. I was renting an apartment from a Buddhist owner. I paid my rent on time. However my lease stipulated a screen for my upstairs balcony door. For 10 months every time I went in to pay the rent I asked and the manager always told me the same thing they had to order one. Fast forward people who moved into apartments that didn’t have screen on their balcony doors they were given one. However all they were doing from me was collecting money. The air conditioner was blowing in dust and had a moldy stinky odor. I went out myself and bought filters for the air conditioner yet it didn’t help much because the system needed professional cleaning. I ended up having to break the lease after 10 months there it was a 12 month lease because I was getting sick from breathing the stuff coming in I got so sick I couldn’t leave my apartment for two months. I live in a hot climate area. After I moved they accused me of breaking the lease. In the Buddhists belief because I moved out I should receive a bad karma?? Then what should the landlord and his rental off receive according to karma? I think they broke the lease by not giving me what I was paying for but collecting my money and jeopardizing my health. Mark you I had a small dog that was healthy and when I moved there he got sick and died he was only 5 years old. I think he died from breathing in the stuff that was coming out that made me sick also. Two of my neighbors in two separate apartments in the building we were in only 3 units someone died from each apartment causing their family members to move out. Also the first two months I was there I couldn’t cook because they had a horrible cock roach infestation I had to buy the stuff to kill the bugs before I could cook it was full of babies. Aren’t Buddhists taught to treat people right since they believe in karma?? Or do they believe it’s ok because karma will only go to the no. Buddhists. That was the worst place I ever lived. The owner was a greedy man who just wanted money.

@lishamonique

26 күн бұрын

Agree

@lokkich487

25 күн бұрын

Ture. I prayed sincerely for a child stricken with leukemia. She is my student. I prayed every day. A year later, she survived, and my daughter committed suicide. I saved a life by sacrificing my own.

This is exactly 💯 talking about my life journey. In the end "it was never appreciated". I am now learning, to pour the love into myself. And I am also, learning to say NO. .. at certain times. I still, help whenever I can. But, not as I use to in the past. Cos' it made me neglect my own personal needs, and goals for years. Unfortunately, growing up in the wrong religion made me believe I need to sacrifice my own happiness to make others happy.😢

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@immigrantsagainstimmigrati2557

24 күн бұрын

Islam isn’t it?? They want you scarify your life for them while they do nothing !

@misscoutts6193

19 күн бұрын

What religion was it?

@user-nh3rf2ff6c

19 күн бұрын

@@misscoutts6193 The religion, that believes a man sacrificed his life for all.

@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

@@misscoutts6193 : all religions are bs - just as George Charlin use to tell us.

Me too been helping others my whole life and putting them first. Got me surrounded and manipulated by narcissists for last 8 ish years. I’m learning my lesson.

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@shanelim19

24 күн бұрын

Same here, 38 years for me. Narcissist can act and cry very well, went all out to help to find out that it was a plot. Never took pity on anyone again.

@darrenfoster5341

23 күн бұрын

The thing I’ve learned to watch out for is mirroring me, if I see them doing that. Alarm bells go, but I’ve realised once I notice it, I can then Kew myself protected but get loads of info out of them, always find the good in all the bad. Take care people.

So valuable message that the sufferer only can understand. I did almost everything for my brothers and sisters for last more than 30 years , now they do all conspiracies against me as I am not able to support them anymore.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@rongair8699

26 күн бұрын

Yes only the sufferer can understand . But you are not the 1st nor the last. Always good to understand.

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

@anakebana166

16 күн бұрын

Same situation

The more I give, the more I receive. Thank you God for 😮your blessings on me.

@BuddhismHub

24 күн бұрын

Wonderful! ❤️🙏

@lisbetharellano5015

24 күн бұрын

God bless you 🙏🏼 Let's be GREATFUL, not SELFISH

@barbossajacksparrow9481

23 күн бұрын

Bullshit

@faridahmaghanga2070

23 күн бұрын

But me I never received

@lisbetharellano5015

23 күн бұрын

@@faridahmaghanga2070 Do you pray 🙏🏼 ? Do you feel a conecction with God ? Do you feel God in your ♥️ ? Pray 🙏🏼 Be thankful 🙏🏼 And you will see The angels are always watching us . They know everything 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

This is so true- if the help is successful, you are rarely thanked. If the help is not successful, you are blamed despite doing so for free. In fact, if the result is not successful, one is commonly scolded “ don't offer if you cannot do it properly, suggesting you are incompetent!

If u can, help others... hidden luck will come to u. U think nobody knows your kindness.. but the truth is the universe knows your kindness and give it back to u using the same ways that u expect or different ways that u never expect

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@kimyoung3484

24 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

Enjoy a funny robot cat @RobotAnalyzer3686

I'm not helping anyone anymore until I'm alright. That's it. 😊

@BuddhismHub

24 күн бұрын

Good 🙏❤️

Oops it's ME after I stopped nobody talking to me now but it's okay... thank you for this video.

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

@thelmaluna9981

25 күн бұрын

Exactly! It’s sad. It happened to me too.

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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So nice to hear about such deep human experiences from an AI Voice Robot !!

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

@@BuddhismHub : nice answer thank you AI

@angr3819

8 күн бұрын

Doesn't even read the comments, obviously.

@christineleboucher9313

5 күн бұрын

@@angr3819 why did you say that? 🤔

Let's be GRATEFUL 🙏🏼 not SELFISH 🤮 The BLESSINGS. Comes from HEAVEN 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@BuddhismHub

24 күн бұрын

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@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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I myself come from Tibetan Buddhist culture and there we say that helping other should come from your deepest hearth and dedication, without expectation and with a positive motivation and wath the result will be, is not in your hand. My personal meaning is, that In now time the peopel who asked allways something from others without respecting the Donners resource, should learn more them self to set the boundary , then the helpers, whos motivation is to help in “need”. I supported a medical project 15 years in Tibet and I do not regret one day of it to have done, even it was not always easy. I see it as my karmic diuty to help others. 🙏

@BuddhismHub

27 күн бұрын

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@user-gg2zw3mc2l

26 күн бұрын

Your way is THE way. Thank you.

@Awake-yn7er

23 күн бұрын

@@user-gg2zw3mc2l I don't think there's one way. There are many ways depending on the frequency you hold. There are many people who have not much insight and been conditioned to be like the martyr and they will be taken advantage of. They don't even know how to set boundaries. For them its a good teaching. For those who have done more spiritual work and hold a high frequency or at the least their energy chakras are more balanced, for them its a good thing to be altruistic.

@11220nan

13 күн бұрын

Well said ❤

Just two nights ago from me viewing this- I was at a gas station at night. Out of nowhere a woman called to me and asked for a ride downtown. Her friend abandoned her there. She was older, not very mobile. I was hesitant because what if she has bed bugs and so on, not to be mean but reality. I thought about Uber but ultimately took her. She was hungry, so we wnt to McDonald’s - that was $11. I thought alright, did a decent deed. Then she asks me to spare her $20 - CRIPES she has not problem asking for things does she? I don’t do cash and shut that down, ut told her were to get supplemental food for free and a free hot lunch everyday. So - yes SET BOUNDARIES because many don’t and have no problem moving your boundaries to their advantage. Don’t feel bad, you work hard for your money at least I do so don’t forget to be charitable to yourself.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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@hasinahmasud3808

29 күн бұрын

You did more than you should have. I help people but I don’t give rides to anyone it’s not safe. Because sometimes the bad people send other people to you. I am glad that was not this case.🙏❤️. What I found out too is use your intuition when you are helping someone if it doesn’t feel right don’t do it.

@ThiNguyen-ni7ye

29 күн бұрын

You will be rewarded as you did a good karma. Your good air is like a boomerang it will bounce back to you. I know even your family members try to exploit you too.

@Titian328

28 күн бұрын

Dangerous to let anyone in your car, give rides to someone you don’t know. They can accuse you of anything, then it’s their word against yours.

@hasinahmasud3808

28 күн бұрын

@@Titian328 That’s very true what you wrote. Even people can put their children up to lie on you. So I don’t give people rides and I don’t babysit peoples children. I see all the horror stories in the news one must protect themselves and that means setting boundaries.

Very right, by constantly helping others takes heavy toll of our personal care n health. By helping others we produce beggars who are always relying on other for their trivial needs.

High wisdom! As a former victim of extreme altruism, I know the pain of that path. Love yourself!

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller

26 күн бұрын

Exactly, love your neighbor as yourself, but you can't do that if you don't love you. Light and blessings.

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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This is Buddhism and psychology against Biblical principles. It is always good to know when to draw the line. Thanks

@BuddhismHub

24 күн бұрын

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@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

Why do so called christian religious people always thing, they do have the one and only right religion? That´s what makes most Christians so unbelievable. Real nasty.

Learned a lot from here. Now I need to take care of myself and recognize my limitations. Need to relax

@BuddhismHub

29 күн бұрын

yes, need to relax

I once gave a book to a little girl at a playground with the father present. People them made comments in social media. Can hear were used books I was trying to get rid of because of daughter read them all. No good deed goes in punished. People misconstrued things. I will never give again. Thank you for this video.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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Right first us after others !❤

Right on point! I needed to hear that: If I heard this many years ago I would have judged this content, but now I know it is true! I have always overextended myself to help others because it was in my motherly nature to want to help and “save” everyone I can, until I was burned out and had nothing to give any longer. After years of giving, I found out I was depleted and questioned why I became a hub for “users”.. it was my giving nature and “Savior” mentality that not only created bunch of users sucking the life out of me, but the inability to give anything any longer! So this video came right on time as a reminder for us to teach others to help themselves rather than teaching them dependency on is! Teach them how to find food instead of feeding them. ❤

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

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I wish 30 years ago, i heard this video, but its not too late i think to learned all what is being said in this contents, opened up my eyes, ohh well, i will love and care for myself FIRST before others...thank you CREATOR OF THIS VIDEO..MORE POWER TO THIS CHANNEL ❤❤❤❤

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

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@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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By helping others one may think himself or herself Savior, if we genuinely wanna help someone it's always better without disclosing identity, so the one who receive doesn't feel burden and the one who render help don't inflate Ego. Another -ve aspect I have learned myself is, though one helps hundreds of times if says NO once even for some valid reason, the one who expects help is likely to bad mouth or feel bitterness. So, it's always be prepared to face such -ve judgements.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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@hasinahmasud3808

29 күн бұрын

You said it right one may think that they are their savior. If someone is going to help someone they should not be thinking such things or expecting anything in return it should be done without any strings attached. Even if they don’t appreciate it the person should not feel bad because it was not done for a reaction from them it was done out of the goodness of their heart. Most people are unappreciative anyhow. So keep your giving coming from a pure heart expecting nothing from them in return.

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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"Dont help anyone!" I have never heard of such teaching in Buddhism. ✌🏻🧡

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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The best video I have seen in my life. Maybe I should have seen this 35 years ago. So much you can relate your life seeing this video about the lack of gratitude that people give after you serve them with so much love and devotion even without a kind word Thank you which hardly costs anything. People tend to use you to that extent.

@BuddhismHub

4 күн бұрын

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I also help others which is very rewarding, but I only do this with leftover time and leftover money. You can only help when your own life is stable and fulfilling. ✌🏻

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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I wish I had known this earlier I did a lot but got no gratitude 😢

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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@kimyoung3484

24 күн бұрын

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@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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We forget that we have a moral responsiblity to take care of ourself. If something would be bad to do on someone else. It is even worse to do to oneself.

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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You Learn me something! Love yourself always! Many. Thanks!🎈

@BuddhismHub

14 сағат бұрын

You are so welcome

💯 correct protect your own wellbeing

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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All of life is AN EXCHANGE. I cannot help anyone without expecting reciprocation. That's how I take care of myself. If there's no exchange, I send them on their way.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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Choose people to help. Know them and their story. Period

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19 күн бұрын

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---- Releasing the Need for the Label "THE GIVER "-------as "THE GIVER " will attract "THE TAKER " Been there /done that ------learned the lesson ! The INTENTION is a Factor ------------

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

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@stephenbowden3580

13 күн бұрын

Your explanation is simple and has helped me click the right button for self.

I have taken care of my family, that is mom and my brother with polar disorder for past 35yrs and I have been rescuing stray dogs for past thirteen years and adopted 18of them. Apart from this I fees 20more stray dogs on the way to my office and in office. Yes I have vanished allmy savings. Lost job during covid and doing a job doesn't pay me well. Buti still dont want to abandoned anyone or change me . I feel all these are designed by god .

Sometimes, the Person Your helping will resent You.

I go by the "good samaritan", meaning i help anyone who needs my help but i also go by "Give man a fish, but teach him how to fish." - this is what my family and teachers taught me growing up, in that way the one helping "his/her kindness" won't get abused by oppurtunist. ✌️

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

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In christianity it is said you should love others and youself too! Take care about yourself, love yourself and then help others. But don't use this video as an excuse to be selfish and not help anybody

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself- we all are responsible or our own happiness and well-being it can be co-dependent to overly help others at the expense of your own joy, well-being, personal goals ect...! Love yourself, people pleasing is a way to avoid self care and growing one's own self worth, while enables the other person to take responsibility for their own agency and growth.

correct. my boundaries are being violeted DAILY. its making me sad. they depend on me, yet i have no one to help me.

@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

Help yourself first and do thing about healthy boundries - not everybody who pretend needing your help is a true human being.

I've helped but also been helped by others❤

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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Waah always listen to the holy spirits guidance

Helping others constantly (specially economically) gets you their hatred because your help is telling them in a masked way “you can’t, you’re useless, you are hopeless”. Period.

@BuddhismHub

24 күн бұрын

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@henkholdingastate

23 күн бұрын

My wife has been watering plants at the neighbors for about 30 years when they were on vacation. She didn't want to do that anymore. The nearest neighbor got angry because she didn't want to do it anymore. Unbelievable, that's how people can be. Only one's own interest counts. Those who are too nice are taken advantage of and people only respect money..... not the person

@cccollarncuffs

23 күн бұрын

I discovered you can throw as much money as you want at the problem. It never works.

@dolittle6781

23 күн бұрын

Helped my two kids through prestigious colleges. Helped them get situated after graduation. They cursed me out and vowed never to speak to me again. So much for being a loving, caring, and supportive father…Still love them even though I’ll probably never see them again. I hope and pray I will though. In the end, I’ll always know I did the best I could for them and that’ll have to be satisfaction enough for me.

@OurWorldOfLove

14 күн бұрын

​@@dolittle6781the question is did you help them or yourself did you see them the way they wanne be behave express the life path they would love to go did you support all that probably not they would love to chat with you every day 💖

This can also happen in charities you have donated to. I feel really stressed by the pressure of continual letters asking for donations that often start at a 'suggested' sum of £19.00 and upwards of that amount. This makes me feel like anything less I donate is not enough, when I rarely get the chance to spend that amount on myself! We know the larger donation will enable them to do more. We don't need it spelt out to us. I often wonder if they sent fewer letters asking for donations ( and suggesting sums appropriate to their needs), they might get more, not less.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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@hasinahmasud3808

29 күн бұрын

You can always throw the letters away. That’s what I do because sometimes they are sending stuff out that you didn’t sign up for or promise to send them money.

@ms3707

24 күн бұрын

Charities are the biggest scan, just don’t open the letters. If you want to donate give tins of food, clothes towels or blankets. Don’t give money. The government takes your money in taxes therefore you have given enough of your money away.

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19 күн бұрын

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@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

All that kind of letters go straight into the paper garbage over here.

The advice is priceless. Thank you.

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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GRATEFUL For This Simple Reminder 😀💓💞🥰🙏

@BuddhismHub

8 күн бұрын

So glad!

@audreyshannon8709

4 күн бұрын

This is unchristian like. It goes against everything we've been taught.

I MET A LOT OF BUDDHIST PRIESTS WHO COUNTED ON OUR SUPPORT DAILY

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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@claudiaschneider5744

8 күн бұрын

@@BuddhismHub : AI can´t give you real human advice - I know that.

This message is definitely geared towards me, I always seem to be putting helping ppl over my self, but i just stop doing so, I'm doing me

@BuddhismHub

27 күн бұрын

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@missa1goins

23 күн бұрын

Me too! I'm done, me helping seems to bring negative energy and I'm a positive human.

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19 күн бұрын

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Thanks a million for showing the way to physical & mental liberation.....swamhiji

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

Good points well made. I think I went from being a bit of a self sacrificial child to a less gullible adult. Took a while.

Help yourself first and animals and follow your heart

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

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I realised froends ahd relatives was crossing the lines with not considering my time and valuing me, so i stopped being rhe kind person who they used to use. I wss a people pleaser but not anymore, i see the truth how selfish people can be demanding kind people to run thin for them with no compassion.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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I helped three persons. When you are too good, they sabotage you. I started helping one. Threw me unexpected attitude and even insulted my dignity and morality. But when another one cried and asked for help, I helped again. And that time broke my good relation with my employer. But I still naughty and help third person again. This one show me attitude of manipulation again. What I leared from here is when people needs help, they would be humble and even cry and speak very politely. But once you have helped, and they are okey, they would stab your back. Not that they always appreciate and recognize your help. I became totally different persons now cause of the past trauma. I hate people. I have zero friend, now. Trust no one. High empathy reaaly drained you down. When we help we dont look forward anything from them including insults, right?

That’s called selfishness 😊, Ifeel happy when I help others and prioritize others.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller

26 күн бұрын

Amen. In an attempt to balance the universe, some people close their abused hearts to ever caring. Love with an open, but guarded heart. Thanks for sharing!

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19 күн бұрын

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Glorify helping others( This is the Mother's Syndrom) is good. BUT YOU YOURSELF DESERVE YOUR LOVE AND COMFORT. AT THE LONG RUN DEPEDENCY LEADS TO INABILITY OF TAKING ON THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES. WHEN WE TAKE ON THE EMOTIONAL REQUIREMENTS OF OTHERS, WE BECOME THE SCAPE GOATS( VICTIMS)

Loss of identity is the unresolving and never ending issue

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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I am glad that I had to struggle and toil hard to reach at the place where I am today. All these lessons came automatically in the process.

I was raised to believe that being selfless is the way to go to be considered a a good person. However, note the word selfless it’s more like self less or less of self and over the yrs I’ve learned that many people will take advantage of you. Nowadays first hint I see of selfish or entitled behavior I don’t put any effort and keep far from such people especially family.

I thought i was a fool who went out of her way to help others. Glad to see that i was not the only one!!! Some consolation

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

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@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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Thank God I always put 10% of all my earnings into fix deposit before all else 😂...am the priority and I've never been disappointed ❤

@BuddhismHub

23 күн бұрын

So true! ❤️🙏

Amazing n very useful.🙏

I helped many. One example, a ...was in difficult situation I gave money to apply for a course, he didn't apply. Other person I said to joined a course and working in an institution but not responding to my calls. It makes to think about human beings

Synchronized thoughts what a confirmation. I’m a student of this behavior 62 years vested. A lesson, very valuable one. So happy it fell , crushed , cried out for help. Yes I granted it help 6 months In I’m thank you for some guidance while it’s still dark , healing .to be marginalized a senior and a melanin female is so challenging, rewarding . Thank you, Thank you and thank you.

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

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This is true, I have learnt not to be good to people, they end up using you.

@BuddhismHub

27 күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller

26 күн бұрын

Don't be afraid to reach out when you have the resources, and someone is truly in need. The reason people behave badly is because they themselves were treated badly. This starts a cycle of using. Break the cycle...give what you can afford to lose, but refuse to distrust everyone. Otherwise, you will become a dark, grasping selfish person who only looks out for themselves...and that's what was done to you. Jesus says that He will repay your good deeds, if you are in relationship with Him. But knowing that, it's not a good deed to enable users. So keep your heart guarded, but open. Look for true people, who truly need help. And believe their is still good in the world.

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So true!!! Very valuable messages. I wish i would know all this when i was younger

Big thank you ... Confirmed .

@BuddhismHub

13 күн бұрын

Welcome

If you dont help anyone in lufe when you are down no one will be there. When I help people it comes back. Every one needs someone.

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26 күн бұрын

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@SofieLove

26 күн бұрын

When I help people, more show up until I’m emotionally, financially, spiritually, energetically, and physically depleted. It’s not worth it. There is a reason why they say that no good dead goes unpunished.

@oklahomaisok

26 күн бұрын

Some people can be helped. Others become dependent with an entitled attitude not wanting to help themselves. We would do well to identify each person that we help and if they seem to want to become dependent it’s time to move on. Learned this after helping some family members for a long period of time. And it reflects what is happening in my city with an ever-growing number of transients and homeless. Some can be helped. Others want handouts without any obligation to take responsibility and help themselves. They are professional moochers who are leaching off of society.

@rosebronikowski2022

26 күн бұрын

Not necessarily true. Have had the opposite experience.

@angelmabudusha9034

26 күн бұрын

I think it depends on the situation, some people truly need help and they are really desperate. In such situations i will always help❤

Shalom, I SEND YOU LOVE, PEACE. JOY IN THE LORD, ABUNDANCE,& HAPPINESS ALWAYS🤎🤎🤎 This Message is SO POWERFUL & PURE TRUTH!!!! I LOVE IT! I THANK YOU with MY PURE LOVE! I WAS DOING this Foolishness with my kids,& frenemies & woke up to this by STOPPING PUTTING OTHERS BEFORE me. I have Truly Learned to SET Boundaries Now 4 all! I JUST KEEP FALLING IN LOVE WITH ME OVER & OVER AGAIN While LOVING others. Have a BLESSED & WONDERFUL Day🕊🕊🕊🕊

I completely agree !!! I love helping family members, friends and strangers but I ended up being hated by all of the ones I helped. I borrowed money to my family and friends, they never paid me back and they never call me either. Same with friends . Its even the same with my own kids.

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

Thank You ❤️

@user-ci1eh3ip7s

24 күн бұрын

I'm sorry to hear this...fortunately we don't have such people around us

@missa1goins

23 күн бұрын

People will "borrow" and never had the intention of paying back, which means they never cared about you to begin with and losing whatever relationship with you doesn't bother them one bit, until they need you again and you're not there.

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19 күн бұрын

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It's a pleasure to help, Untill deceived

Give help to another one day unexpected u receive help, it's nature. I always seek to that persons who is needy , after help to them I have feel joy.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller

26 күн бұрын

Yes! Give and it shall be given to you, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. Light and blessings!

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19 күн бұрын

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Yes I was negligent of my well being for 13 years rethinking of my brother and mother grow neglected my health and well being now I face health and mental depression why I was like that without 6th sense as they cheated me and did not let us develop financially. Now they forgot my sacrifice and mistreating.. if I had had good guru or any thingies this video I would have been good to me and my son .

@BuddhismHub

28 күн бұрын

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On my spiritual path I learnt the hard way I was totally immmobilised,overdependence, exploitation, loss of money, materials and so on! Well it was easy after that, setting the boundaries of taking responsibility for others within my physical mental money and other powers! Then it became total joy to go on the path and believe me the strength started increasing and also to tolerate the repercussions and let downs expected & unexpected! Thank you!

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

These lessons are a practical manual for life. Wise advice to practice daily and live better while helping others. Thank you!

@BuddhismHub

25 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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Only if the person we help is not a narcisist. No boundary is possible with tgem. The only solution is no contact.

@BuddhismHub

26 күн бұрын

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I help all my family I’m there every time I relly die coulent do nothing different I love them I no yur right about arexselfs we need time I get that it’s so sad when yur son needs yu in his mentel health it’s all I no relky. He’s getting better now. Hope it keeps up god gelid me get tree this I pray every day ❤

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

God Bless You ❤

@RobotAnalyzer3686

19 күн бұрын

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Every one is ANSWERED. EXCELLENT. THANK YOU SO MUCH, SIR.

@BuddhismHub

18 күн бұрын

Most welcome

Thank you

@BuddhismHub

11 күн бұрын

You're welcome

Execellent advice

@BuddhismHub

Ай бұрын

🙏❤️

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