Knowing who to help and who not to help is the advanced stoic approach

I grew up in a poor household with parents who married early and no knowledge whatsoever about raising a family. I grew up needing badly all kinds of support until I come of age. As a child, being left alone or with needs being ignored SUCKS a lot. This is why when I got older, I make sure I help my family or anyone when I see that they need it, unsolicited or otherwise. I wish I had someone like me when I was a kid. I think we should offer help and guidance to minors but only guidance to young adults..

@lindabalent2755

22 күн бұрын

God bless you,

@hema2078

15 күн бұрын

Same as my situation. I still nvr see my siblings taking responsibility

@annalewis3356

15 күн бұрын

You have a big heart showing compassion and helping your family and others, May the Lord bless your heart of charity.

@LindaDavis-iq9zj

13 күн бұрын

I find it lacking when someone feels the need to downgrade one's family in any circumstance. You are your family, unsolicited, or not.

@isartoraplatz

13 күн бұрын

You are a healthy person Anyone who doesn’t want To help the poor and needy Or family if they have the Means to do so and don’t This selfishness on a Narcissistic level…

This has helped me tremendously because I realized I am overly supportive and have lost my own way

@lebohangm.1835

Ай бұрын

Same here.😥

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience 🙏 It's a big step to recognize when to pull back and focus on your own path. Wishing you strength and clarity as you adjust your balance ♥

@markkelley2094

Ай бұрын

I know that feeling too, just getting back on my horse, I fell off it landed in shit was dragged around in the dust back then all in order to help, I need help now no one there lol 😂 made me stronger than any of them though, god helps them that help themselves, not to my money and time no more, I think people out there get it mixed up, be on your own and find work to fill your table not leaning on others to get by lol 😂 clowns 😂😂😂😂

@madelinebigio7565

Ай бұрын

Same here I can understand! I have been that way all my life ! It’s not healthy to always be there for someone!

@madelinebigio7565

Ай бұрын

@@markkelley2094same here that has been my weakness!

I helped my own family and in the End, they tried to get me down, jealous they were and badly behaved they have become.

@doriangray7723

13 күн бұрын

That's often the case. However, no need to harbor resentment or bitterness towards them. Hopefully, you have learned where to set boundaries with both family and others.

If you grew up with parents that suffered from NPD... this video is so important to us..

Gratitude is key to your life. When a person has gratitude they are on a path with God.

I’m currently learning this right now. You can help those who appreciate it, but some will still turn around and sabotage you. Be discerning and don’t lose yourself in the process.

I was giving too much of myself to others while leaving very little time for me.This was an eye opener

Helping others is a good thing, but it's not a great thing when one becomes entitled and ungrateful. Rude and uncouth behavior is not an acceptable method for cohabitation.

Absolutely!! You have to use knowledge instead of being an Emotional pin cushion! 💯

@user-kl9qn2iu1x

Ай бұрын

Facts

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." - Carl Jung

So true.!!! I love to work and when you work hard, resentment kicks in by those who like to sit around and do nothing. Working with these people I learned so much what not to be. These are all good words being said and acknowledge but I will always be a hard worker. It’s in my blood. My father worked hard and I learned from him. Plus my Good Father sees everything and He blesses me.💪🏽🤓

@BKLYNBOY38

Ай бұрын

That sounds like me.

I enjoy and feel fulfilled when i help others, it's who i am and feeds my soul, i pray that as i take care of others may God help me in Jesus mighty name

@allthingseducation

Ай бұрын

That is so self righteous and about you and not the person. You use your g-d as justification.

@amandakiernan3374

Ай бұрын

Godbless you x

@allthingseducation

Ай бұрын

@@amandakiernan3374 wow you are ignorant and I am blocking futher comments!!!!

@Joachim.Jacobs

Ай бұрын

You also need to help yourself. You can't really help others if you are dying inside or getting worse as you're helping them. First help yourself then you can rightfully help others.

@donatelogithinji8784

Ай бұрын

You never even listened to the video

Helping people is not a choice for me. I dnt even chose who I help I'm led by the holy spirit and my purpose is to share the love and mercy of my father. I fear no weapons formed against me. You have to get disappointed every now and than to be reminded of what and who you are. I WAS, I AM. GOD is my salvation with him, nothing is impossible, let go of your owen mind set and let God led you, he will never fail you

@amandakiernan3374

Ай бұрын

God bless you

I use to help everyone,now I come first

I agree with you one hundred percent.I experience what you are talking about from a lot I mean a lot of different people taking me for granted and the thing about it is they have not a kl ue what is actually happening between us Their attitude is Oh he don't mind he's a nice guy He loves helping people That what he was put on this earth to do He's such a nice guy That's how they think you can't over do they must pitch in and do a lot of it themselves Amen ❤😂 your shows are right on target God bless you all😂

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your experiences. It's important to find balance and recognize your own value. Blessings to you! ❤️

@donnetdukesamuels249

Ай бұрын

W u right

@donnetdukesamuels249

Ай бұрын

U right

Sometimes trying to help someone is going to backfire on you because they truly don’t want to be helped. This has happened to me recently. I have learnt an important lesson which has been spoken about in this video. ❤😊

Just excellent. Very true. Its that people understand this in life very early. Otherwise it will lead to resentment, frustration, mistrust, guilty. Finally to keep yourself happy, do not try to father, mother, husband or wife for anybody where its not required.

Not always. When my husband caught dementia and walked out on me taking our only money with him, I was mentally devistated and my mother helped me for around 6 months until I got back my mind to get on my feet with. Now I've repayed her over half the money in just one month and I'll give her the rest very soon.

I feel like a fool. Although my intentions were good. Thank you

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Your good intentions truly matter ♥ Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

@tracierondeau

18 күн бұрын

Been there

Some want help and are selfish. Thinking about it. Boundaries. ❤ Resources ro point. Bye.

I'm so glad my apprehensive friend helped with my mortgage last month...I got a new job finally making 6 figures. Both of us were Blessed when she decided to help me.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU...

I am the same give too much now I have diabetes, and vision impairment guess what my family hardly look after me

Thank you Sir very much for educational explanation regarding stoicism principles.

Yes excessive sacrifice is unsustainable in the long term.

Highly valuable and meaningful contenrs. Thanks.

Exactly what my parents did with my siblings and I.

Listing and learning to say no is key for growth in family and associate relationships a balance is key

Thanks for sharing this video.

Meaningful is the word

@Rexag

Ай бұрын

Yep, watch out for the narcissist that intends bad results and when you see it, call it out, then it becomes they did this out of love and caring for some lame reason, stay with intuition... you know their true intention and you caught them. It's not caring about you.

We must help each others , don't spend all your life helping others all the time , think about your life.

I love to help others idc what others say if in my heart I know they are needy I help with all my heart and children need help and guidence we help them by encouraging that we love them by providing things they need. I teach my children to have charity in their heart and care others.

TRUE !!!

Amen thank you as always brother Solus Christus

I found this to be very true! Thank you for the class.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH ! ❤ BRILLIANT ADVICE !? 📖👑🙏

Wonderful thank you very much ❤

This is so helpful.

Thank you this realy can help navigate through the minefield of life😊

Thank you 🙏

Help others without expecting something in return.,

I helped a friend pay her rent and never got anything back, but excuses and it put me in a bad financial situation.

@OSTARAEB4

21 күн бұрын

@MrSnow, I helped a female friend out financially and she went AWOL. I didn’t listen to my gut instinct and her mask fell and shattered. I’m angry at how I was used and believe she’s done this to many people. She’s a manipulative user and was never a friend. It’s exposed how ugly she truly is.

❤❤ informative video

A blessing that what my Dad did to myself n my siblings to I pray in Jesus name Amen❤️🙏🙌

🤔🤔🤔I understand... Very interesting.😏

great perspective to clear the confused mind

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad it could offer some clarity.

Thank U

But I am a person who will always help others

Thank you

No good deed goes unpunished.

Having compassion for others is a natural way but kindness is dangerous and patronising

Wowwww... Much needed

Thank you for your wisdom 😮

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

You’re very welcome! 😊

Very wise!

No good deed goes unpunished...

Very insightful👍👍👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thanks so much! Really glad you found it insightful😊

Thank you. I learn a Lot.

I tend to agree with you right now.

Facts 👌 ❤❤

Thanks

Do not help a child in school home work,obstacle in personal development,lack of confidence,if attached always corrects always a student mistakes,it will spoil his confidence,encourage people to develop their own personalities by their mistakes,learn by your own mistakes,freedom and respect of individuality,to face the consequences of one's actions,each individual has his own path,decisions,kindness for others,excessive sacrifice,negative consequences,self management,a healthy balance,mutual support,use of wisdom in excessive sacrifice,escape from personal problems,take care of your own life,healthy boundaries in relations,emotionally and physically,positive intentions do not always bring positive results,support and guidance are essential for growth but excess of everything is bad,learn from mistakes for conscious understanding of oneself.

Great video

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thank you :)

Yep, I circled the grammar mistakes without correcting, you want points, figure it out, correct it and you will have learned that mistake.

LOVE 🙏🙏🙏

I will always help😢

It's priceless wisdom ♥️

Facts

This all will be true if all the circumstances faced by people are natural. We can’t have powers that be /man made problems yet expecting everyone to be able to stand on their own. I understand since the issue already exists we should all strive to do and be better but in reality other people do not want to see other people doing well. Jealousy, hate, unfairness, pure evil, spiritual wickedness are all contributing factors….

Helping others can have unexpected drawbacks: "If it is not right, do not do it; if it is not true, do not say it."

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I helped alot but humans others are abusived n manipulator specially when they all gang up on you - you cannot help or give anyone you do'nt have... help self first - my opinion

I have been damaged and destroyed by some idiots painting a picture of helping me when they abuse their power to destroy my live and my child's live

Therefore we deny God in us- was time it was not business to helping eachothers but naturell and who not helped was criminal- today it is oposite, We got be more and more corrupt and not human. We are here for us!!!

❤amen❤

@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thanks for your kind words! I'm really glad you found it helpful😊

1 Peter 4:8 and 9 Above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without grumbling, (grumbling - complaining)

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Love This Wisdom ❤

I help others often I don’t ever ask for help though 🤣 I don’t need to.

God help us.

@lindabalent2755

22 күн бұрын

Their selfishness grows many excuses. Amen.

No kidding. If I had of known then what I know now

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@ModernStoic_YT

Ай бұрын

Thank you for the support 🙌 ♥

Many help.others for selfish gains.

This is not right. Everyone needs help, and selecting the right person to help is correct. What kind of a world would it be if no one cared about each other. Sometimes everyone needs help. The point is to be discerning about who you help.

You help people when they ask for help. You also help people to save their life. Helping is the same as teaching. This post is trying to separate the two.

Cringing as I listen to this. Guilty of over control. God forgive me.

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Being good person in this evil world will destroy you. Lil selfish / saves you

This is for anti-Humanitarians, anti-Jesus teaching (the real ones), the lack of people working together toward important goals. Most of this is for those already swinging toward their own anti=humanitarianism.

God Squad is pretty offended rage on martyrs why would they completely missed the point

I don't care to help others 1 because I don't know how and 2 I believe everyone is responsible for their own life the weak shall perish and the strong will survive, I will not intervene in the universes work

@lindabalent2755

22 күн бұрын

Noen survive this world.

Anti Christian post.

Do helping ppl is stupid. You don't get it back lol

@tracierondeau

18 күн бұрын

Maybe not from them but what goes around comes around

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.. I m your new friend.Let's grow together.