Life is tuff. Five months ago, at 68 years old, my son called me and told me he was just diagnosed as autistic. And he said you are much worse than me. This is how I found out that I'm autistic. And I am not just a little bit autistic. I've had severe problems my entire life. When I would try to seek help, I was treated as a liar. I am a Vietnam veteran. Can you imagine the challenges I've faced. This new information was great news for me. Now I understand me better. That was the first day I started to like myself. My father never knew he was autistic, he told me something over 50 years ago that helps me to this day; "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". But what don't kill you will make you stronger. I am smarter than most, because my autistic brain is slow but strong. At work, I set the standard for most task because my skills far exceed what I have been taught. I am smart enough to fix or do anything I want to do, except keep friends. Every thing has its good points and bad points. In spite of life being difficult sometimes, I'm glad I'm autistic. ln this yin & yang world, every strength is accompanied by its own set of weaknesses, and vice versa. I hope that all of you can also make peace with your gift.

Thank you for making me feel less alone in the challenges the face us. After many years of of depression , GAD, SAD and agoraphobia finding out my kids are autistic and I'm autistic is just a relief. Knowing the reason why life is such a struggle at times is healing in a way. It opens the door to being able to take better care of each other with understanding and alleviate the mental health challenges in some measure. Thanks for all your hard work Orion.,

@turtleanton6539

5 ай бұрын

Yess indeed😊

@raygipson8896

5 ай бұрын

Very well said👍

@orionkelly

5 ай бұрын

I’m so grateful to hear that Deb. Thanks.

I called myself agoraphobic before covid. During lockdown it felt absurd to call myself agoraphobic when the whole world was leaving the house just as much as I do. Now I prefer to phrase it that I have a lovely house with everything I need in it and no desire to ever leave.

Got my diagnose at 43 years of age. I don't get how other people don't walk around and don't think as much as I do about things.

Thank you. ASD diagnosis at 40 (over 10 years ago) was a relief, as my family had convinced me I was mentally ill & not trying hard enough to fit in. I find it hard to believe anyone could be autistic without also experiencing mentall health problems. It's literally living in a culture you don't understand & that won't accommodate you. How could anyone not be driven to anxiety & distraction with thst in their life, diagnosed or not?

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

I agree. Orion has opened my eyes in understanding why I have experienced what I have from other people & family. But my own parents should not of been so hateful & judgemental towards me. This video has explained so much to me. Thank God for Orion, his intelligence & diligence, a great gift from his neurodiversity. He couldn't of done this intelligent work without it. Orion Kelly: Nobel Peace Prize 🏆🙌👏👏👏👏👏👏

@orionkelly

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experiences.

@tuvoca825

5 ай бұрын

Sometimes people mean well, but don't know their (neurotypical) limitations. They feel urgent but can sometimes push too much in directions that don't help. Go easy on them, and yourself.

I have ASD, ADHD & CPTSD. I didn't receive my diagnosis until I was 39 (I am now 45). I work in the disability sector though, so thankfully I believe I am surrounded by empathetic people.

@juco9620

5 ай бұрын

0:18

One of the most frustrating aspects is not being able to communicate and then later speaking too much.

@chrismaxwell1624

5 ай бұрын

Tell me about it. I always have the right thing to say hours or even days after I should said it. Then speaking too much. Don't think that works well for communication either.

Thanks for this. I have autism, ADHD, bipolar disorder and gender dysphoria. Life is unbearable at times and sometimes I think “What did I do to deserve this?”

@jenniferferris44

5 ай бұрын

Why are you blaming yourself, did you honestly do anything wrong? Or did they see someone they could take advantage of, someone they could get away with harming?😢 im sorry your in pain ❤ pls dont blame urself if you didnt do snything bad🏳️‍⚧️

@AutomaticDuck300

5 ай бұрын

@@jenniferferris44 well I have been bullied relentlessly and I can’t transition because of my religious family. They won’t understand that I was born like this. I can’t be my true self. It hurts.

@jenniferferris44

5 ай бұрын

​@@AutomaticDuck300 ya i know that place❤️❤️❤️ you aint the one in the wrong

@redflamearrow7113

5 ай бұрын

You did nothing to deserve this! It's a genetics issue and not your fault.

@AutomaticDuck300

5 ай бұрын

@@redflamearrow7113 yeah, I completely failed the genetic lottery sadly.

I'm a disabled autistic parent with 3 AuDHD kiddos and an ADHD partner. Thank you for addressing the challenge. It's so hard. I also struggle with anxiety and depression and chronically internalize struggles. I don't really comment on things here, but I feel very seen and not alone. Thank you for what you do.

@Truerealism747

3 ай бұрын

Check out rccx gene theory all makes sense do you have CFS fybromyalgia to

I watched this video and just started crying... especially the selective mutism...I'm a 45 yo female that has never understood why I can talk great one on one with people but put me in a group and I can't talk...or a new person...I'm so quiet until I get to know someone and know they are safe before I talk ...thank you for making these videos ❤

Since i got the dignosis my mental health has been way better. But growing up with an uniagnosed father and a mentally unwell mother was traumatic. I'm in my late 30s without kids.

I just turned 51. I've known for a long time that I'm not quite right (NQR). I finally did the ASPI assessment and am now in a state of jubilation at he same time, as being absolutely shattered that my entire life would have been so much different if IF. But more so than just if. So many bigarse MFing IFS No matter how many vids and articles I watch/read, I still have NFI as to where to go from here. I can't watch this video all in one go. It's too confronting for me, at present. It's all so much to deal with at a time where you know, I know I will never have what other people have been able to manage. 51/f/aus

@chrismaxwell1624

5 ай бұрын

52 here and I've know since I was in grade 3. Knowing wouldn't have helped you. They had no supports. Just threw me to wolves. I messed things up for decades. There is more support in groups online today like this one. So I'm hopeful for new generation. 52/m/Can

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Hang in here with Orion & look into your own supplemental vitamin & mineral needs with good nutrition+ exercise to reduce excess chemicals in your system. 🙌

@jimwilliams3816

5 ай бұрын

I’m 62. Can I borrow NQR? Though I fear I have progressed to SNR (So Not Right).

Thank you for what you do for the Autistic Community and I appreciate your work to educate and enlighten those whose voices are CONSTANTLY forced into silence by the neurotypical world. As an Autistic Afican American (Black) 38 year old male who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome since the age of 4, I always struggled to fit in with the neurotypcal world that I was born into. I've been misdiagnosed with Schizophrenia and put on medications that caused weight gain, drowsiness and, maybe, hormonal imbalance through the years. Then dealing with and abusive parents, siblings, family members, ignorance among teachers, counselors/ therapists/ case managers, and abusive behaviors wrought by so-called friends who used me and exploited me for their own gain really screwed me up!!! I talk to myself alot and always gotten judged, bullied and even harassed for it. I even committed an offense that's been haunting me for about 25 YEARS of my life and I FULLY regret it to this day! I have to tell myself that I'm a survivor and I'm resilient, even though I deal with suicidal ideations, I'm still alive. Again Orion, Thank You for giving me and many others a voice to speak out and education so we as a community can survive!!!

@AutisticAwakeActivist

5 ай бұрын

Similar but I’m white and was diagnosed at 52. I want to see support groups and something social aimed at adult diagnosed that is centrally based and aimed at autism and adhd and the rest we suffer. We get sent to recovery college but it’s more for neurotypical has six things going on at the same big room. And many have learning disability.

@AutisticAwakeActivist

5 ай бұрын

I didn’t commit serious offence it was a melt down after someone attempted to scam me online.

I understand that, I've still been rejected by the adult autism team in Scotland for a diagnosis just because I'm very observant. Like that doesn't stop me being autistic. I get so low on being forced to live a neuro typical life.

I can relate SO much to a lot you’ve said. I was diagnosed with Depression, GAD and SAD in my twenties. So, ok then. Therapy and medication will cure me right. Not yet…still waiting. Suicidal ideation and self-harm. This is the most distressing for me. I last harmed myself six months ago and I got so fed-up that I consulted a new Psychiatrist who diagnised me with ASD. I was so distressed but mostly relieved. I have an accurate diagnosis now! Lastly, and I’m being really vulnerable and honest, I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder in my twenties because certain symptoms overlap with Autism. It was pure hell because I thought, like so many people, that I was this scary unhinged person 🥺 My parner lived through this with me. Bless him. Depression and anxiety will probably be my horrible friends for the rest of my life. BUT at least I know this is part and parcel of my Autism. I understand why I have these co-occurring conditions. Thank you for this video. It was very important for me and resonated on so many levels.

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

I hope this psychiatrist is better FOR YOU. I am not fully diagnosed & may never be. I've lost everyone in my life, but that's okay. I have the quiet to sit& read a bit of the Bible ever day. I give a 1-3 word summary of what I got from just reading the paragraphs that fit together for one purpose. This has helped get me through suicidal thoughts & is giving me insight & understanding of the past, relating it to the present & future. I have a couple of faith based things I watch to help me understand what can affect life & how history is repeating itself in real time application. I read the hard hitting Revelation & then moved into the New Testament. I'm truly sorry I didn't keep with this 35+ years ago. My life would be far different now if I would of continued with the Bible & Orion's experiences & superior research he's sharing so well with us. Much love to you. 🫂💞

@PeterJoubert1972

5 ай бұрын

@@blueskyyy690 Thank you for your your kind words. I agree they can co-occur. This is probably the case for me too. My problem is I don’t know whether I’m acting or reacting as a result of ASD or BPD. Quite a dilemma. I’ll figure it out over time though.

@Catlily5

5 ай бұрын

I was misdiagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. It was horrible how prejudiced the mental health professionals were against that disorder. That was more than ten years ago. I hope they treat people better now.

Orion, thank you for going there and being real in so many ways. My father has autism and did suffer along the way while raising me along with four NT siblings. Now my dad and I are doing so much better and appreciate being with each other because we understand each other in that autistic way. Both of my now adult children have autism and they are also LGBTQ+ so the fact that they have both survived into adulthood is such a relief to me. It was difficult for me to parent. I needed to rely on many different resources and helps for my children. Both of them have PhD psychologists and psychiatrists helping them along the way. We are now enjoying the transition into more independence for them. And that is resulting in more opportunities for me to take care of myself and get to know myself better now that I'm an empty nester. I'm still parenting, but just in a different way. And both of my adult kiddos have still those professionals in mental health supporting them and prescribing appropriate medications.We appreciate your videos, Perspective, advocacy and outreach. Thank you so much.

@ritarevell7195

5 ай бұрын

When kids get the help they need, it really does a lot to calm our own anxiety. It really makes a big difference.

I have multiple disabilities. I’m blind, autistic, ADHD, anorexic, and a few other things. But the ADHD is the hardest for me, by far. I’m glad you talked about the link between autism and eating disorders.

@christinelamb1167

5 ай бұрын

I struggled with anorexia and compulsive exercise for over 20 years (with a few years of "recovery" in between). Also diagnosed with OCD, depression, anxiety, and panic disorder, alongside the eating disorder. The traditional approaches to eating disorders never really fit for me, and it would have been hugely helpful to have known a long time ago that I am autistic. I just got late diagnosed at 60, a few weeks ago. I am realizing now that my ED behaviors were likely a combination of stimming, and also desperately trying to get a handle on my anxiety and panic at trying to fit into a NT world.

@ALittleSnowFairySaga

5 ай бұрын

@@christinelamb1167 Good luck! Yeah, it’s a crappy thing to have to deal with. I’m almost in my mid-30’s and have been dealing with the stuff since late childhood. Hang in there.

@Truerealism747

3 ай бұрын

What is the ADHD part causing ime ADHD autism heds OCD fybromyalgia cfs

Thanks for mentioning the stress of parenting being autistic myself and my husband as well. When our son received his autism diagnose we were told that he could also have a problem with emotional bond to us parents. Daaah. When we mention that it is quite challenging to be an autistic parent it is rather used against us than offering support and help. It is very frustrating. Thanks for feeling understood by you.

Go, Orion, go!!!! Say it like it is! Autistic people can have very serious mental health challenges that can be life threatening and the mental health system and society at large do not understand how to help them.

I was diagnosed with GAD and lots of other anxiety disorders. Way before I was diagnosed with ASD. When I was at the place where I was diagnosed with ASD and they just looked at me and shook their heads - said that I definitely didn't have GAD, which I actually agree with. My anxieties were formed around me feeling "off", like something was "wrong" with me, but I had no idea why. I was 38 when I was diagnosed with ASD. After the diagnosis, my mental health has been a lot better. To me, my autism were, in a way, the cause for most of my problems. Didn't stop me from developing a lot of anxiety problems and clinical depression when younger, though. When I was younger, a certain person almost diagnosed me with borderline disorder. I am not borderline and have never been. It's quite typical for female autistic people, though - many of us has been or is diagnosed with borderline even if we're not. Sad but true.

My son was diagnosed with ADHD first then autism, social anxiety, general anxiety, and OCD.

I'm so glad you talked about "bombarding our brains with ideations" because that's exactly how it feels. It feels like compulsive thoughts to deal with how horrible the world is to us.

I have CPTSD from abuse by my adoptive mother. Diagnosed with PTSD at 17 but I had it since I was much, much younger. I suspected for years that I was autistic. But it wasn't until I met my autistic girlfriend (and her autistic twin) that they told me: YOU'RE AUTISTIC! Man, it explains so much, and while I'm still finding my way, it's so much better than just thinking I can't cope with life because ... I suck!

As far as the Autism/ADHD combo, as an educator who has worked with many autistic children, I’ve seen quite a few kids that have had co-occurring autism and ADHD. It’s extremely common. However, I believe the two diagnoses used to be considered opposites of each other, which is why it was thought if a person had one of the two, the other diagnosis was impossible.

I have ADHD and was diagnosed at a young age, im 26 now and have been suffering episodes of de realisation. It’s somewhat comforting to know that I’m not alone in that respect

SAD also stands for seasonal affect disorder. Places that are cloudy, stormy, and less sunshine develop this particularly in the winter months, which brings on horrible depression and anxiety. There is a light therapy for this. Some people have had excellent results for that.

40 years after having a young autistic child...both he and I self diagnosed NOW, and I look back and see times I definitely struggled to parent well. He understands this, and now I am learning to forgive myself for those parental meltdowns and shortcomings. My daughter hasn't forgiven...she's not spoken to me since 2006. All I can say is that I did my best. Now 40 years later I know that I was parenting while autistic AND ADHD and had no clue that I was. Yeah. Orion...it's tough being a parent. I'm so happy that you are parenting while KNOWING you are autistic. It's still a struggle, but at least you understand WHY it's tough and stressful, yet rewarding. I'm glad you have spousal support and that you know why you get overwhelmed at times. For me it was baffling and debilitating.

This is a great video, thank you! I'm a late diagnosed ADHd, autistic, with severe anxiety and cptsd. I also suffered from post pardum depression with each of my three children. It was so comforting to get my autism diagnosis because that helped me understand a lot of the struggles I have that feed into those other diagnosis. I was just finding out about my autism when I was pregnant with my third child who is currently 2.5 yrs old. It really helped me set up routines ahead of her birth to coinside with feeding schedules and to have patience with myself navigating sensory overwhelm during breastfeeding and crying. It also helped understanding that my other children were autistic and to help my newborn with any sensory issues she might be navigating.

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you got your diagnosis to help support & guide you through a major life experience & to move forward with knowledge that gives you the power you didn't have pre- diagnosis. Great going Mom. 🫂

@orionkelly

5 ай бұрын

Thanks so much. I appreciate you sharing your story Amber.

Thank you Orion. I was diagnosed when I was running my business and burned out to end up seeing a shrink. Doctor never looked at Autism. they put me on so many drugs. I was gone for years. I lost everything. Now I live an amazing life as I was diagnosed Autistic at 56. As an autistic adult after my non verbal autistic grandson was 3. Now I don’t mask unless I have to. All I take now is a Quetiapine to sleep. Now I look at my family, my past, and my life. It all makes sense now. Thanks buddy for being you

Thank you for your commitment to educating us all, autistic and neurotypical, and for the courage you demonstrate. Sending you best wishes.

My phobias: the ocean, deep water, dog poop (if it's in wet grass it adds another level of horror lol), and small holes in a rock face. Watching channels like The Trek Planner are risky. The holes are everywhere! To me, each little hole is a hissing cobra, set to strike. I have CPTSD and depression.

Thank you for this video. I have experienced anxiety and depression throughout my life and I believe I am undiagnosed autistic. I recently thought I was a highly sensitive person and had complex PTSD. This is all so complicated. I don’t deal with stress very well and I found parenting 3 children very challenging. Thankfully they are all adults now.😊 Thank you for helping us feel less alone.

Maybe those who are diagnosed with (co-occurring conditions such as) Generalized Anxiety Disorder or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, for example, should automatically be referred for an Autism diagnosis. I feel it (life itself) may be much more distressing when one is struggling with the challenges of these conditions without having the validating and confirming benefit of the knowledge that one is potentially actually autistic.

@Truerealism747

3 ай бұрын

So true took 43 diagnosis after illness fybromyalgia CFS years I have heds trifecta OCD from 3 now sins diagnosed and just list my mum to severe ms obvously autism heds

You have described my 20 year old son to a T. We have been in and out of treatment, evaluations, a long list of medications, we have another appointment coming up because he is spiraling since we moved to another state. A lot of these also describe me, the parent. I have sensory issues and slight OCD and suffered severe post partum depression with intrusive thoughts and panic attacks. My son’s mood swings are extreme. Neither of us have ever been diagnosed with autism. I also believe my son has an eating disorder on top of everything else. This is interesting as I remember my grandfather being severely withdrawn, never interacting with anyone, and he was almost a savant when it came to math. This makes a lot of sense and makes me sad at the same time now that I’m so much older and now just learning about all of this.

I love KZread because I have finally been finding answers to my difficult life and situations! I could never understand how to properly navigate and I am now understanding! Thank you for this information and name for what I deal with daily! Now I can move forward and maybe someday have a better relationship with someone! Love and light!❤

ASD, ADHD, and GAD here! Thanks for putting out videos like this to help inform everyone.

I friggin feel this so hard. Diagnosed autistic with ADHD at 46 and 100% sure I am dyslexic too. I just turned 47. Dyslexia is unconfirmed and I am done being tested. But based on my understanding of dyslexia and my understanding of myself, I got that too. Fuck!!!! Anyway, thanks for helping me understand myself a bit more and what I am going through. It’s nice to feel what I have always experienced, there are others out there going through it as well. That I am not alone in it. I am struggling at the moment, well in everything, but do hope to come out of it soon. Anyway, big hug. Knox

Needs not met in US by so-called professionals. But you've helped me tremendously. The only true help I'm receiving - thank you so very much!

Hahaha you said “hello, is this thing on!?” And my ADHD was like, “oops, what did I miss?”

Thank you for going over all of these. After learning I'm autistic, I suspect I also have ADHD and potentially some OCD characteristics. Also, someone once accused me of being bipolar before I knew any of this about myself, because I was having meltdowns and he also didn't recognize what they were. In addition, growing up Autistic may have helped make me the victim of childhood trauma and CPTSD. It's a lot to process within a year or so of learning about any of this, but they do seem to fit for my particular story. I recall some suicide ideation as an early teen as well. I am glad there is more awareness now than when I was growing up in the 80s, but we still have a long way to go. Thanks for doing what you do!

Chatgpt summary: “This video by Orion Kelly focuses on the complex relationship between autism and mental health, especially in late-diagnosed autistic individuals. Here's a point-by-point summary: 1. **Personal Mental Health Journey:** Kelly shares his struggles with depression and anxiety prior to his adult diagnosis of autism, highlighting the mental health challenges of living undiagnosed. 2. **Autism and Mental Health Connection:** Autistic people often face heightened mental health challenges due to navigating a world not built for them, leading to increased stress and anxiety. 3. **Research Findings:** Studies indicate autistic individuals are at a higher risk of developing mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, ADHD, and bipolar disorder compared to the general population. 4. **Increased Risk of Suicidal Ideation and Self-Harm:** Research shows autistic people have a higher likelihood of suicidal thoughts and self-harm. 5. **Difficulty Accessing Mental Health Services:** Despite the higher risk of mental health issues, autistic individuals often face barriers in accessing appropriate mental health care. 6. **Gender Differences in Mental Health:** Studies suggest gender differences in the presentation of mental health conditions among autistic individuals, with autistic girls more likely to internalize their struggles. 7. **Co-Occurring ADHD:** A significant portion of autistic individuals also meet the criteria for ADHD. 8. **Co-Occurring Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities:** Autistic individuals with additional disabilities face increased mental health challenges. 9. **Traumatic Experiences and PTSD:** Autistic people are more likely to experience traumatic events, leading to conditions like PTSD. 10. **Parental Stress and Mental Health:** The stress of parenting or caring for autistic individuals can lead to mental health issues for the caregivers. 11. **Common Mental Health Challenges for Autistic Adults:** These include generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), social anxiety disorder (SAD), OCD, depression, ADHD, PTSD, eating disorders, selective mutism, bipolar disorder, panic disorders, Tourette syndrome, phobias, social communication disorder, depersonalization or derealization disorder, body dysmorphic disorder, learning disorders, postpartum depression, body-focused repetitive behaviors, agoraphobia, substance use disorders, and potential co-occurrence with OCD. Kelly's video aims to provide insight into the intricacies of mental health in the context of autism, highlighting the need for appropriate support and understanding for autistic individuals.”

@gothboschincarnate3931

24 күн бұрын

What about Partial-OBE CPTSD?? is that on the books yet?

Love your videos especially their upbeat and non preachy nature. This one is spot on. A diagnosis at 50 has revealed complex PTSD, which Im successfully addressing with EMDR, and long term GAD which incuded agoraphobia. We all need a helping hand and videos like yours are part of that, thanks.

My struggle is this... Some autistic women learn how to be a certain face and therefor, mask incredibly well. But bipolar disorder, trauma disorders, anxiety disorders... Most can be attributed to autism experiences. I have severe ADHD according to my doc. But they won't give me an official diagnosis for autism because I shouldn't be everything at the same😅 time

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Yes. Not all doctors use their time wisely learning new, uncovered truths about every health issue that exists. Try a different doctor for a second opinion. You may or may not want to share the first doctor's conclusions. 🤔🧐🙌

So glad to hear what i've been throught. I'm still in it actually. I'm an autistic mother of an autistic daughter and I totally agree with you. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I know many have thanked you for this, but I wanted to add my thanks to the list as well (the laundry list of mental illnesses I suffer from includes CPTSD, Depression with psychotic elements (possibly misdiagnosed depressive schizoaffective disorder), OCD, very occasional mutism (whenever under extreme enough stress where to regulate my brain will simply shut down speech and/or control over part of my body), disassociation (likely a form of OSDD), and ADHD, with gender dysphoria thrown in as a treated source of disregulation. I have been hospitalised multiple times (psychosis and crippling depression tend to do that) on account of suicidality and psychotic episodes). It’s nice knowing that many of these conditions are not entirely my rotten hand that seems 1 card away from being able to shoot the moon.

I have those same diagnoses! All of them 🤜🤛🏼 Yet I, like you, have a social career and love it-with breaks, of course.

Thank you so much for making this video - both for autistic people to relate to and for neurotypical people to better understand what we go through. As someone who was only diagnosed with autism last year, at the age of 29, I’ve experienced a lot of what you spoke about in this video. I’ve been going through a particularly rough time with my mental health lately and this has made me feel heard and less alone.

One of the best things I've done yet to understand our child that is affected by this is photography. He'getting really into nature and came with me on a photo hike and asked for the video camera. He came up with his own studio name and watching his hike through his lens is like getting a glimpse into his mind. It is so different! And so exciting to learn about him this way. He narrates his videos and he adores nature so he's really passionate about it like you are of sharing these valuable insights and his personality comes out at the most relaxed, comfortable, and fun as I've ever seen it. He has an incredible level of creative imagination and I really have strong I inclination he will be a great storyteller through writing novels and film. I'm hoping if we encourage positive activities he lives that he'll find a foothold there with communities that can help sustain him as a grown up... Once he doesn't need his folks anymore. He's almost 7 and one of the smartest people I've ever met already.

Thank you for this video. I can relate so much. I wish I'd been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD decades sooner. I was diagnosed and treated for mental health issues at 20 yrs old and had no idea I was actually Autistic, too. I can relate to everything you've said here. I was just diagnosed last year with Autism and ADHD at 57 yrs old and everything makes sense now. I understand better why i struggle. Thank you for advocating and educating. I appreciate you, Orion. I am learning so much about myself through your videos. 💜

I'm Male 25 got Level 1 ASD, Bipolar, Anxiety, ADHD and Fibromyalgia it's hard work daily.

@turtleanton6539

5 ай бұрын

Indeed it is😊

@adelarsen9776

5 ай бұрын

Try Carnivore Diet.

I grow up having panic attacks and OCD since primary school age. Have had depression & anxiety since my mid 20’s. And as of late 2022 I have had social anxiety also.

Thank you for this excellent, clear explanation. I’m sorry for your suffering though. This came at the right time, because January in the UK is no joke for me, for all sorts of reasons.

This life is hell, but I’m still grateful to be here and part of this whole ridiculous s-show w the rest of you. I’ve looked into Sweden. But then I’m like f*ck it, I’ll miss all the hilarious things humans will do, and by hilarious, I don’t mean hilarious, I mean pathetic.

Thank you Orion, I can relate to this, but also combined with genetics, deseases, and my education. Aging, I can say that it s more and more difficult, while doctors totally don't care about near 60 y patients....women ? Yes I red about that also 😢

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Research valid info on vitamins & minerals & supplement what your diet may not be supplying your brain & body. 🫂💞🙌 If you got a doctor that has you on a ton of drugs coming back every month, you may not be under quality care. You just may be a means to pay his bills on his unnecessary luxuries. 🤔🧐 You take care of you. 💪

Your advocacy means so much. Thank you.

Currently awaiting my diagnosis/evaluation in a few months (scheduling challenges) as a mid-30s individual. I have PTSD from a car wreck when I was 18 (well under control now) and my family currently is trying to tell me I am not autistic but just side effects of the PTSD. They do not understand autism well but will not accept that I face these challenges daily. Thank you for posting this video as more education is really needed for the general population on how co-occuring can exist simultaneously. 27:18

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

I know from my education & experience with Asperger's that being thrown under the "Autism bus" can be a real slap in the face. To a great extent, I think the DSM has become political & lazy with what they agree to & publish. If I had been on the board, I really don't think I would of lumped Asperger's under autism. But that's just me. Hang in there. Orion is spreading truths helping us to absorb and understand far better than what I was little I was ever exposed to. 🙌👏👏

When you have ppl constantly trying to prey on your shortcomings, who wouldn't possibly develop mental disorder(s). Thank God I didn't. In spite of being targeted by the communities I've lived in. 😐✌🏾

@cybertrekker4274

5 ай бұрын

Those who prey on people's shortcomings, weaknesses and differences are mentally disturbed themselves.

@witnessofchrist2524

5 ай бұрын

​@@cybertrekker4274 Exactly.

This is rough. Ive been diagnosed with major depression and anxiety, and due to being female presenting at the time of going to the hospital, got a BPD (borderline personality disorder) because of my inability to manage changes and chronic innattention and mood swings. Like, of course im anxious and depressed. Youve told me my whole life that im not normal somehow and ive been anxiously trying to "fix it" in myself without success the entire time. Its stressful. Lol. Im trying to at least get the ADHD diagnosis so i can get some help with that. I know getting help for the other is currently impossible where i am, so ive gotta get creative.

I was feeling so down, but this video helped a lot. Non autistic people keep telling me to just toughen up and I'm sick and tired. TA Orion, you always help me so much ❤

As a 37 yr old autistic woman, I suffer from severe Adhd, General Anxiety Disorder, eating disorder and periodic depressive episodes on top of Cptsd.. Life isnt easy. And i feel like im getting more passive and exhausted from it all. Given up trying to fit in. Living in my room most of the time..Thank god for my parents and Ketogenic diet and fasting.

I'm autistic. I have some form of PTSD. I got my Autistic Dx in my adulthood. Also dx'd Bi-Polar. Repeated rejections by most other people, makes me question my worth and life. I was turned away from Mental Health services because they didnt have nough money to hire more people to work there, and they had to cancel services to "less severe", and I got let go. I need emotional help, but my trauma from mental health spaces make me too afraid to leave my house because too many people are cruel to me. Oh well. I cant stop other people, I can just try to avoid them. I desperately need some basic needs and I cant get them because American services arent enough and are sometimes abusive.

I have undiagnosed Autism and ADHD. I injured my neck and both shoulders at work. I worked in disability for 15 years and had to quit due to my injuries. I then had a breakdown and my parents sent me to hospital via police and ambulance.... twice. They diagnosed me with drug induced schizophrenia. It has traumatised me to the core and the mental health system needs to change. I am fighting each day to get my self back and the relationship I used to have with my parents 😢

I was never diagnosed with anything but I was in a class with different people on different levels that were

Treat my condition like it's autism and bipolar and that's the best way to make it manageable. I used to have really severe insomnia.

@errabbitc

5 ай бұрын

I know multiple people with borderline personality disorder.

Great how you can explain 'these things'. That is a real talent. I learn so much from you. Thank you so very much....🧡💚🖤

Very informative. Before my adult stepson was diagnosed with autism he was being treated for depression and anxiety and was on meds and doing well. Since his diagnosis he has stopped taking his meds and seeing his counselor and has really spiraled out of control. He is an adult so there is not much we can do.

Thank you Orion. Coming out as autistic people are still like and? How does that change anything? So I appreciate you!! Taylor, Meg, Thomas the gammit

I would argue this world is barely built for most neurotypicals, either. How many are mostly stressed, overworked, angry, and stuck in the ego as a result of all that? Just the thought of being stuck in that grind makes me anxious and so i avoid it. And then they're tied to whatever vice it happens to be, to attempt to let off some steam. But that costs money too so around the cycle goes.

@Truerealism747

3 ай бұрын

All designed by government s for control servents to to the realm though alot of neurotypicals never see until the grave

I was diagnosed with bipolar, major depressive disorder, COPTSD, Social Anxiety Disorder, all before I was diagnosed with Autism. At 40 they gave me TMS because I've been "medically resistant" to every drug they tried to cure me with. That means none of their drugs worked and believe me I tried too many of them, some with hilarious results. I often wonder if I had parents (I didn't) and support the road would have been easier, I'd been diagnosed before 48 and maybe squeaked together some kind of life that didn't constantly fall apart because I melt down or shut down at the most crucial moments. You said something though. I remember as a little kid maybe 7 or 8 sitting in school. I lived with my Grandfather, he died when I was 10 so I was really young when I'd do this. IT was right next to a freeway on ramp in Utah. In the winter when it snowed I'd stare out and watch the snow accumulate on the road. I would feel so anxious and so worried because I knew my Grandpa had to drive somewhere and I was so afraid of him slipping off the road and dying in the snow. I'd watch it and wait for a call from the office to tell me he died. Days full of this. I never told anyone then and I think I'd forgotten but you said about the anxiety at a young age and it triggered the memory. My anxiety is weird. If my husband is late home, or kids missed curfew they're automatically dead and I go into full panic mode along with the sudden grief. 4 of my 5 kids are NT. My husband was diagnosed with ADD. One after another diagnosed and I never went hmmm maybe I am too lol. We're also Shoshone (Native American) and I read some ideas that the spectrum is actually Hunter/Gatherer brain. My Ancestors just 200 years ago were active hunter and gatherers. So our brains not turning into farmer brains isn't really a mystery and explains more to me then any of their diagnosis and meds.

Thanks for tackling a tough topic! I can really relate. 💞

CptSD. I have it now after so much therapy as school and relationships that didn’t work…. So I’m compelled to try to get it right now.

TYSM, Mr. Kelly~ your channel is such a Blessing to me❤💚💜

As an early diagnosed autistic, this stands true for me as well. You would think that because I was early diagnosed I had the support I needed, but unfortunately, I am a unique case. Without all the details, I acquired C-PTSD because of the maltreatment, abuse, and neglect from others who knew I was Autistic. I have major trust issues when I am in a stressful situation. It's due to how many times I've been burned. This made me ponder that I may have selective mutism as well. I don't know but thanks for giving me some more perspective.

Thank you so much for bringing up the caregivers thing. I am autistic and I raise children with mental health conditions. I love them both but it is incredibly challenging. When I bring up my stress about it some people act as if I am being selfish because I should sacrifice everything for my kids without a thought of what it could do to me. If I am not well I cannot help them with their struggles.

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Bad stress is "distress". Hugging helps neurologically & biologically reduce distress levels in the human body. 🫂💞🙌

He was very low on the spectrum when he was little. Me and his siblings help him very much. And he is 16 and now higher on the spectrum. I am so happy that I found. You are very interesting and give a lot of good information. Thank you!

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

"He" is who? Your son? Hang in here with Orion. He's sharing amazing, real information with excellent references from his own experiences. (He's comfort eating & this can serve a neurological & body functioning need. He's responsible when he does this.) 🙌

Also not to mention being trans or nonbinary while being autistic also makes it harder with diagnosis and gender related issues

Excellent video. Again, I so greatly appreciate you mentioning the challenge of raising an autistic child as an autistic parent. My son's perseveration can bring me to the brink of meltdown, as an example. Yes, we understand each other, but we also drive each other nuts! My vocal stimming bothers the heck out of my son. Thank you, I feel so validated and seen. ❤

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Sit down & talk to your child & try to strike a balance with him/her. Maybe find something to let the other know your on the edge of "too much for me to handle". A hug might suffice.. That's safe & stimulates comfort chemicals in the brain affecting your mood & body's distress levels being reduced. 🫂💞🙌

@LunarWind99

2 ай бұрын

It is really difficult, not sure if my mum is nd like myself but she had quite a few vocal stims and it was quite tough sometimes bcuz so did I and we also often drove each other crazy. Sometimes just spending some time apart and thinking about ways to stim in other ways helped a lot ❤️

You may have forgotten to add Psychosis. This is what I experieced before being diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. First it was Mumps. Then it's Mumps Encephalitis. Then Psychosis. After all that they diagnose me with Autism. Great video. I hope you keep at it.👍

My daughter was diagnosed 15 years ago. I have to say that in the UK the Mental Health service has be totally useless. Her social workers have not been much better. None of the organisations involved communicate with each other. I naively believed that anyone has problems such as these in the UK that there was help. More fool me. The reality is there is very little and what there is is very speradic and discordinated. Ite a disgrace.

The first thing I was diagnosed with was GAD. I was diagnosed with 13 mental illnesses in 30 years (not all at one time). I got diagnosed with autism at age 47. I am also diagnosed with PTSD, ADHD and bipolar.

@Catlily5

5 ай бұрын

I have self harmed a lot and tried to stop living as well.

I have ARFID, Autism, ADHD, GAD, Bipolar ii, chronic fatigue, cptsd, delayed sleep phase, hypersomnia, and possible BPD and OCD… Hard to keep a job, hard to keep healthy relationships. More than enough to make one chronically suicidal… I hope future research finds a way to stop/prevent these conditions from getting more and more common.

@gothboschincarnate3931

24 күн бұрын

have you tried noise cancelling headphones to help you sleep?

Excellent info. Our son at 39, diagnosed by 5, has depression, OCD, social anxiety, and will not leave the house.

Thanks for this video… you have no idea how many life’s and impact you have 🙃

I'm an autistic woman and I don't find it offensive to acknowledge that NT parents of autistic children struggle with mental health too. It's just the reality of caring for a child with a disability in a world that doesn't want people with disabilities.

We really should have specially themed bingo cards before starting a video like this.

Thank you for all you do in raising awareness for Autism Orion. I was just diagnosed at the age of 37 back in August 2023. This video does describe a lot about my mental health struggles over the years. I was severely bullied throughout school and in a workplace that led to me losing my job due to reacting to it. It’s caused me PTSD and depression over the years which has my anxiety levels at a heightened state permanently. I’ve attempted to take my life on 3 separate occasions pre-diagnosis with my Autism. The first time being when I was a child. I’m also very fidgety and can pick skin too. I also have a habitual ritual that I need to pull at my trouser leg when I’m driving which is like a stimming type action to settle me down. I’ve asked my General Practitioner about my anxiety but I was told that it cannot be medicated due to it being part of my makeup. It’s really tough as it causes severe headaches due to my brain becoming exhausted between masking and navigating the severe anxiety. My wife is also neurotypical and is 28 but she doesn’t really understand my condition. I thought getting diagnosed would open up opportunities to address the way I was feeling but it’s really made me more aware of the lack of support out there for us at every angle. I’m in Scotland in the UK. I’m currently reading your book and have been following your videos in a bid to better understand myself as I don’t even know who I am? Keep doing what you’re doing as these videos have proven to be invaluable for me 💙🌈😊

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Have you researched the vitamins & minerals your body may need extra of to reduce some of the more "straining" chemicals released into your system like B6, vit. C, magnesium, etc?

@Scotsman-On-The-Spectrum

5 ай бұрын

@@JuliaJames-zx5xy I haven’t tried that. Do you think that could help if I’m possibly more balanced?

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

@@Scotsman-On-The-Spectrum Yes. Definitely. Please research vitamins & minerals for your physical & variety of other symptoms. It may not be magical overnight after taking something 1 time. But perseverence & attention to how what you are trying may or may not be what your body needs or responds to. I am also different. My son was diagnosed with Asperger's when he was little with question forms & blood testing. I have been to me: tortured physically, mentally & emotionally most of my life. They didn't do testing for Asperger's back then. My current doctor wouldn't consider getting me tested. He also gave me prescription medication for my leg & foot cramps when I only needed to add magnesium to my diet (different magnesiums do different things). I started back on magnesium taken at night for the cramps & also help with sleep problems. It does work. If I have foot cramps during the day I take far less magnesium. I also took vit. C for my immune system + it also helps boost other vitamins you can take with it. I take B-complex + B6 (for the stress) & have added B-12 for energy. I also found a protein powder that is short, mid & long term for the body. I get so much more my body needs to help with my overall physical health & it actually seems to boost my emotions a bit more. I drink lots of natural water out of a very deep well from glass & not plastic...big difference. What works best for you may not work best for me. But please, our bodies, the signals from the wiring & chemical actions & reactions to & from our brain come & go from all other areas of our body including our organs. They really need proper support to help us function & feel better. Please do your research wisely, take notes before buying/ordering to reduce waste of time & money. Walking or exercising in privacy is easy without the need for weights also. That will release some of the bad stress in your system. You are an unique & amazing human being. You did not ask for what you have, but can help it along with better supporting your body's nutritional needs (food, water, vitamins & minerals at the very least). I know in my heart you can help yourself with a little bit of diligence in educating yourself through research. (Ignore the commercials. They only want your money. They are paid salespeople like a bad used car salesman.) Start with a basic vit. C + B vitamins + B6 in the mornings with food. It's better absorbed then. A magnesium at night to aid your sleep & body's need for recovery from the bad stress your body's been through. See what vitamins your wife is taking & see what she has & is willing to share with you possibly. They may not be right for you but you will have a starting point. I have faith in you. You are a good person in a good place on earth. I could only dream of coming to see the beautiful Ireland. Godspeed to you and your wife. You are okay. People can be so cruel & you don't have to pay attention to their childish ways. You are an adult in your behaviors. Don't allow their hate to penetrate your space. You can deflect & ignore it. It takes work, but you can do it & do it better with a more nutrient strengthened supported body. It can be a part of your stronger & better armor from the inside to the outside. 🧍‍♂🛡⚔🤺⚖

I went through a really bad break up, blame myself for it. That’s been five years and has literally ruined my life. People don’t get how hard it is especially with someone has autism for mental health stuff. We can’t just get over it, especially in my case that like I love that person, it’s just I can’t get over her and it makes me mad and it causes issues with my parents I’m 22 I wanna have some point move out but honestly I’m getting to the point that I am really not looking forward to life

Hello I'm 63 I've been ill for years I went for a three hour initial assessment yesterday and they the UK NHS still don't seem to get it. It's ruined my life I have son with brain damaged hypoxia injuries another son with schizophrenia. I've shown your video links to various professionals over here and they still don't seem to get it. I've taken high level asd tests and I get 83% of the questions in line with asd. I've got gad, sad, PTSD the whole shebang. I'm not sure what's going on here in the UK with it. Thanks for the videos. Very best wishes Anthony.

Not yet half way through, and great video so far that nails it. I have two autistic teen sons, one had experienced a mental health break down two years ago, he is now getting better, thank goodness. I think I am autistic but find it hard to talk about as I am worried friends and family won't believe me. My children are both with NDIS. I live with support workers because of the violence in my home related to my son's mental breakdown. It is tough for me in the sense that I think I am autistic but cannot yet prove it so my needs for privacy, withdrawal, alone time are not often met. I would not even want an NDIS plan because I would find the whole set up very intrusive. I am grateful for the help I have gotten, but my situation is so complex. I think the lives of autistic people can become incredibly complex. Mine is.

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Hang in there with Orion and take better care of yourself with good nutrition, extra vitamins and minerals your condition exclusively needs. Eat & drink well, stay away from the junk & read something soothing like the New Testament after reading Revelations first. That tells you what is to come &:why Jesus was sent for us. 🫂

Wow! That was a tour de force. Thanks for you hard work.

I've only been diagnosed a few months and most of the things you mentioned here I can relate too. I just wish I was diagnosed at a younger age because I have gone through 57 years of hell having all these issues and society has just told me to "Pull myself together" or "Get a grip"!

Thanks for this video. I’m interested to know more about eating disorders and autism.

Really great video, very informative...thank you for creating such valuable content 🤗🫶

Thank you for the interesting video. It helps to remove the stigmata related to mental health. Also, best shirt award. I love patterns in fabric.

this is both very interesting and incredibly affirming. i worry sometimes that my autism just makes me more dramatic about some things, but all this research clearly shows that this isn't likely the case at all. i am actually autistic and actually depressed and actually have cptsd and ocd. and i'm in fact more likely to have these things because i'm autistic? it is definitely good to know.

What about trauna looping flashbacks trigger fixation on it.Happens and then it turns into meltdowns until shutdowns next day repeats and next day repeat untill burning out and months+ to recovery

I get overwhelmed so easily and I stay anxious because I also have narcolepsy and I can't process adrenaline out of my body. CHEMICALLY I don't make or have that ability. Orexin/hypocretin are severely deficit. This not only affects sleep and wake cycles. But also memory, apatite, libido, temperature regulation, and is essential for the chemicals norepinephrine, histamine, dopamine and serotonin. It also prevents the state of recovery rest induced by mindfulness practices it is this state that processes adrenaline to leave your body. I have super anxiety and it never goes away. I'm always on the edge of panic. That said I likely have williams syndrome genetic deletion that makes you EXTREAMLY ANXIOUS AND AFRAID OF EVERY THING! oooh I found out I have Passive suicide ideation. It's not being able to hurt yourself so you think of things happening to you. I have auditory processing disorder. So I hear all of the things and can't filter anything out . I have occasional selective mutisim ....I want to talk but I can't. Borderline is a common misdiagnosed and is used by most to identify a cluster of symptoms. The problem is this is almost never the cause of the symptoms and people stop looking for a cause. It's the first thing narcolepsy is typically labeled as. Dysgraphia and dyspraxia Social anxiety, treatment resistant severe depression and accute anxiety disorder. Agoraphobia yep. I'm a hair puller . I am just efed

@laurah2831

5 ай бұрын

How did you find out all those chemical imbalances?

@JuliaJames-zx5xy

5 ай бұрын

Do you take any form of magnesium or any other quality vitamins and minerals?

@CherrysJubileeJoyfully

5 ай бұрын

@laurah2831 reasurch and dedication no one in my life cared of I lived or died so I learned young to advocate for my own health and you can read a lot of studies in a couple of decades once you get the lingo down. I am a spacial thinker so I had it mapped out in My head a thread between comorbidities symptoms and side effects I call it my web of medical fuckery

@CherrysJubileeJoyfully

5 ай бұрын

@@JuliaJames-zx5xy quality vitamins minerals and a strict diet

Thank You I Needed This.

Oh yes. Two pregnancies, both with severe PPD and probably Psychosis. I would take Wellbutrin in order to feel myself. The suicide thoughts was enormous. Not because of the SSRI but because I was so severely depressed. I didn't kill myself thanks to God.

Thanks for helping me see connections with 2.of my children. Both are adults and were not diagnosed with autism but simply everything else. Not an easy road to be on, but I still help them with certain areas.